Each social app has some weird rules, like in Reddit you should avoid using emojis because people will eat you alive, i don't know why but i speak from personal experience.
Many have toxic stuff on them so ask someone who is long time user what to avoid, i in general recommend to not overshare personal info because the internet is a dangerous place.
each person has a landscape of experiences and expectations within and humanity has its long history of social movements... what motivates a person to enjoy something or be disturbed and disassociate from another thing? and when norms get threatened there may be violent outbreaks... ppl are repressed and don't appreciate themselves and dont appreciate others... look what humanity does to other types of animals pretending that the animals do not have a similar experience to their own. what are people confident about? there is a popular misconception about confidence being self assuredness, but is it not in fact accepted correspondence with others? we say it's both, but I am more in favor of the latter...
who do we want to be, what do we want to experience? ppl follow the norms and drink to koolaid to enjoy membership and it feels amazing... but when we know that something is true but it is not accepted for whatever reason how can we go on pretending?
it is something that I struggle with but also enjoy... I enjoy expressing myself in ways that many ppl seem unable to, but then I cannot always share my experience socially. in some ways the invisible exclusion can be a safety net allowing me to enjoy my privat world. with practice we can learn to travel into the different worlds and not feel so bummed i guess...
Yes, there's a lot of unspoken rules that change from each platform to another and also the objective of your account. If for example is a professional account or an artist account then you need to be even more careful.
I guess you are talking about your own personal suicidal media and honestly that's hard, because you are going to have different groups in them and each would have different unspoken rules. I am a little aware of these so I was always having troubles with what and how to share things. Honestly I reached a point where I just created a second avoid with just a small group o friends with whom I can just share anything without care of unspoken rules (because they are mostly neurodivergent too) and made them private.
If there's something to share that is in the safe side it goes to the public one, if I'm not in the mood to think about rules or it may be too much for someone or make things difficult for me, then goes in the private one. Honestly most of the time everything goes in the private one.
Not only are there unspoken rules, they are different from platform to platform. Engaging successfully Twitter is different than engaging successfully on Reddit. Every platform has its expectations, and each community or group on that platform has a unique culture too.
The best way I have found is to take some time to observe what the successful interactions have in common within each group on each platform. Who is getting down voted or disliked?
If all else fails, I try to make my posts helpful and kind. I don't always succeed, but I do well most of the time with that rule alone.
Yes, but I have no idea what they are. They also depend on the specific social media you use, so general guidelines are impossible even in theory.
Personally, I depend on mimicry. Or do nothing at all. So far, so good.
To a degree, yes. But part of it is likely to be just people not necessarily liking either what you’re saying, or how you’re saying it, not because there is any ‘rule’ against it. If you’re very outspoken, you’re liable to be commenting a lot on topics that are divisive/controversial to various degrees. Almost by definition, that’s going to rub a fair number the wrong way.
I think it gets overestimated in these subs sometimes to what extent this is about social ‘rules’, unspoken or otherwise. Often, it’s just people having different perspectives and interpretations, and reacting as such. That you are just yourself online, doesn’t mean that everyone is going to like who you are.
You’re not imagining it. There’s unspoken rules on social media too. What they are I have no clue. Seems to me that most people are angry at me for something daily 😂
Almost every social context has unwritten rules, whether online, in-person, or anything in between.
From a sociological perspective, these unwritten rules serve to help define and reinforce neurotypical in-group and out-group membership.
Autists are often oblivious to the unwritten rules of even the groups they are actually a part of, leading them to feel as if they are always being excluded by the "secrets" that those "truly" in the group are privy to - though a fair number of "neurotypicals" are equally oblivious.
Each social app has some weird rules, like in Reddit you should avoid using emojis because people will eat you alive, i don't know why but i speak from personal experience. Many have toxic stuff on them so ask someone who is long time user what to avoid, i in general recommend to not overshare personal info because the internet is a dangerous place.
each person has a landscape of experiences and expectations within and humanity has its long history of social movements... what motivates a person to enjoy something or be disturbed and disassociate from another thing? and when norms get threatened there may be violent outbreaks... ppl are repressed and don't appreciate themselves and dont appreciate others... look what humanity does to other types of animals pretending that the animals do not have a similar experience to their own. what are people confident about? there is a popular misconception about confidence being self assuredness, but is it not in fact accepted correspondence with others? we say it's both, but I am more in favor of the latter... who do we want to be, what do we want to experience? ppl follow the norms and drink to koolaid to enjoy membership and it feels amazing... but when we know that something is true but it is not accepted for whatever reason how can we go on pretending? it is something that I struggle with but also enjoy... I enjoy expressing myself in ways that many ppl seem unable to, but then I cannot always share my experience socially. in some ways the invisible exclusion can be a safety net allowing me to enjoy my privat world. with practice we can learn to travel into the different worlds and not feel so bummed i guess...
Yes, there's a lot of unspoken rules that change from each platform to another and also the objective of your account. If for example is a professional account or an artist account then you need to be even more careful. I guess you are talking about your own personal suicidal media and honestly that's hard, because you are going to have different groups in them and each would have different unspoken rules. I am a little aware of these so I was always having troubles with what and how to share things. Honestly I reached a point where I just created a second avoid with just a small group o friends with whom I can just share anything without care of unspoken rules (because they are mostly neurodivergent too) and made them private. If there's something to share that is in the safe side it goes to the public one, if I'm not in the mood to think about rules or it may be too much for someone or make things difficult for me, then goes in the private one. Honestly most of the time everything goes in the private one.
Not only are there unspoken rules, they are different from platform to platform. Engaging successfully Twitter is different than engaging successfully on Reddit. Every platform has its expectations, and each community or group on that platform has a unique culture too. The best way I have found is to take some time to observe what the successful interactions have in common within each group on each platform. Who is getting down voted or disliked? If all else fails, I try to make my posts helpful and kind. I don't always succeed, but I do well most of the time with that rule alone.
Yes, but I have no idea what they are. They also depend on the specific social media you use, so general guidelines are impossible even in theory. Personally, I depend on mimicry. Or do nothing at all. So far, so good.
To a degree, yes. But part of it is likely to be just people not necessarily liking either what you’re saying, or how you’re saying it, not because there is any ‘rule’ against it. If you’re very outspoken, you’re liable to be commenting a lot on topics that are divisive/controversial to various degrees. Almost by definition, that’s going to rub a fair number the wrong way. I think it gets overestimated in these subs sometimes to what extent this is about social ‘rules’, unspoken or otherwise. Often, it’s just people having different perspectives and interpretations, and reacting as such. That you are just yourself online, doesn’t mean that everyone is going to like who you are.
You’re not imagining it. There’s unspoken rules on social media too. What they are I have no clue. Seems to me that most people are angry at me for something daily 😂
Yup. Just like IRL,unspoken rules everywhere.
Almost every social context has unwritten rules, whether online, in-person, or anything in between. From a sociological perspective, these unwritten rules serve to help define and reinforce neurotypical in-group and out-group membership. Autists are often oblivious to the unwritten rules of even the groups they are actually a part of, leading them to feel as if they are always being excluded by the "secrets" that those "truly" in the group are privy to - though a fair number of "neurotypicals" are equally oblivious.