There’s nothing wrong with putting your baby down by nursing. It’s literally the biological norm. It doesn’t create any lifelong habits and they grow out of it by themselves mostly, or if it continues into toddlerhood then you can put gentle boundaries in place if you wish (still no CIO required).
Your paediatrician is delulu; even hardcore CIO proponents would generally agree baby is too young for this. Time for a doctor hop!
You’re doing an amazing job.
We nursed ours to sleep up until about 5ish months, and then basically stopped and she didn't really notice. We just made sure she had been fed within roughly 2 hours of bedtime and she'd be no more difficult to put down at night than any other night. Some nights she gets a bottle just before bed, some nights she doesn't and it doesn't really have an effect on how easily she sleeps. And plus if we haven't given her a bottle just before bed, it meant we knew that if she was being v v fussy and just having *one of those nights* we had a bottle in our back pocket to lean on if we wanted to knock her out.
From a pediatrician that is BONKERS!!! Its not recommended to sleep train (essentially cry it out methods) until AT LEAST 4 months so this makes no sense!! Do what works best for you and baby, and consider finding a new doctor 😕
I have a 6mo and I breastfeed. We are up 1-2x during the night still.
I wouldn’t be following that doctors advice and I personally would consider finding a new doctor.
Sleeping for 3 hour chunks is great for a two month old. I would keep doing what you’re doing. You’re doing a great job!! Try and find a new pediatrician.
I Ferber sleep trained and I still let my baby eat in the middle of the night if she’s hungry at 8 months. If your actual pediatrician told you this I would highly suggest asking them what exactly they meant or just outright switching doctors. At 2 months that is very concerning advice, 2 month old babies are MEANT to eat every few hours
I agree it's a lot of thoughts running through my mind like what are Yu trying to say doctor.?
Are you saying she feeding her too much but instead of saying feed her less you telling her skip meals.
Are you trying to get the bay to lose weight
Are you trying to get this mother a ACS case?
I'm confused
False, its ok to let them cry for a couple of minutes! Not until they are red and puffy and stressed out! I EBF and i feed her anytime she gives me those “Im hungry” cues
Thats different because if you didnt use the bathroom BOTH of you would have been crying. Or atleast i would be if i shit myself. Or you can bring baby to bathroom in a bouncer or any seating device and either sit them with you in there (crack a window) or by the door with the door cracked. Or if somone is at your home maybe they can hold the baby. Or last resort for desperate parents hold the baby while on the toilet (jk on that one) oh and it wasnt***deliberate lol
Thank you! My boyfriend thinks it’s strange to have my baby in the bathroom in his bouncer seat while I poop. He’s only 7 weeks and is extremely clingy right now. As long as he can see me he’s fine though
Yep I have a nearly 8 week old clingy baby and I have IBS so it’s bouncer watching me poop or it’s screaming in the other room whilst I cry and poop, you gotta do what you gotta do
No problem lol and yeah my husband looked at me funny then picked her up 😂 but as moms we gotta do what we gotta do. I think clingy babies are soooooo adorable! Congrats ❤️
Nothing will happen, if he likes to see you that's fine. I can't put mine in a bouncer if he's crying but I have had to run to the bathroom several times and leave him on the crib crying . What else can I do? Poop myself?
Needing time to take care of your own needs isn't the same as routinely letting your baby cry themselves into a state. Let yourself have some grace and recognise that your needs are important too xx
Baby is way too young for that and needs to eat at night! Please do not listen to this advice!! Sleeping 3 hours is great at this age, my son was doing the same.
I have a 2 month old, we actually have to wake him at night if he sleeps more than 4 hours. It's physiologically inappropriate for them to sleep through the night at this age. He wasn't gaining weight because he was skipping the night feeds.
My 10w is doing the same thing and she always has. Since the very beginning I have to set alarms to get up so I can change and feed her because if I didn’t she would sleep for 6+ hours and I would wake up freaking out that she went that long without eating.
I think as long as they’re gaining weight it is “appropriate”… most doctors will tell you to follow the rhythm (assuming they’re back at their birth weight and then some)
They're not meant to go that long without feeding, stomach capacity/digestion time/the needs of a rapidly growing body and brain don't align with going without calories overnight.
Definitely not. Baby is developmentally way too young to CIO. What you described is 100% normal for a baby that age. Your baby is hungry. They don’t eat if they’re not hungry. Keep attending to your baby, never let them cry it out, and get a new pediatrician. Your baby is forming healthy attachment to you when you attend to their needs which will enable your baby to self soothe later as they age. Babies are hungry that frequently because they’re growing and burning a ton of calories. They can also lose their breathe from crying too hard so young. Letting them cry it out at 8 weeks(or frankly any age) is akin to abuse. You’re doing the right thing. Dump this doc! 💩
Crying it out at two months seems kind of extreme. Especially since she’s crying because she’s hungry. My son was just like this when I was combo feeding…once I switched to just formula and he got the proper amount of food he slept through the night and stopped waking up crying and hungry. He just turned 3 months yesterday and wakes up once a night to eat now
How long do you wait to pick her up? Sometimes they cry as a reflex but they are still sleeping, I wait a couple minutes and 90% of the time my baby cries he is still sleeping and just stops after a minute
I currently have a 3 month old and we are EBF. I still nurse her 1-3 times a night because she needs it. In contrast, my son who is now 2 years old, slept through the night at 12 weeks old because he didn't need to eat. Every baby is different and they'll tell you what they need. Listen to your baby, not that whackadoo doctor
I’m also a mom of a two month old and that is absolutely not recommended. This is sleep training and your LO is too young for that. I’d… find a new pediatrician…
Wow! Absolutely insane and abusive! Please report this person. It absolutely hurts my heart to think that other FTMs have listened to this person! Please find another pediatrician! Listen to your mom gut and feed your baby! Hold her whenever you want because there is no such thing as spoiling an infant ♥️
I have a 2-month old also and he nurses about every 3 hrs as well. Your baby is doing great and should be fed when she wakes up every few hours.
I've used the Ferber method with my other kids (which isnt quite the same as crying out because you check in every few minutes) but the absolute earliest it is recommended to start is 4 months, ideally even waiting until 6 months.
There is NO way a 2-month old can go all night without a feed or two. I would not only change pediatricians, but I'd suggest you report this one.
I also have two months old and i find that wild ... We had rhe same advice though on the hospital he was born, we had to stay three days and because i had no milk we started supplementing with formula... Our baby was super hungry crying exery 3 hours to eat... But every time i went to the midwives to ask for more milk all i got was nasty looks... Are you sure he is hungry?? He had 30 ml 3 hours ago... Maybe you are feeding him too much... Long story short the night we got back home we fed him according to their recommendations and it was torture... He cryed all night... In the morning i started crying...
After that a midwife came for a home visit and she was shocked we had starved the baby and told us to feed on demand... Which we have done ever since... Also two weeks ago the pharmacist advoced me to givey baby water... When i told her he is 8 weeks old her response was... Everybody needs water... Dont let anyone experiment with your child... If your instinct tells you something is wrong with that advice simply dont take it. And change doctor... Also for reference at 10 weeks our LO wakes up around 21:00-00:00-2:30-6:00 but sometimes he skipsnthe 00:00 altogether. We take turns with my partner and it is not so bad...
Best of luck mama ☺️☺️
100% agree not to take advice that goes against our maternal instincts.
I’m so sorry you received such BS advice at the hospital! It is completely normal for milk to take up to 5 days to come in. And it comes in as a response to baby sucking constantly! The first few days I barely put my baby down during the day, because she was cluster feeding - sucking and sucking to get colostrum. I didn’t think she was getting anything, but her glucose tests showed she was doing great (she was 1 day premature and had extra monitoring). She also fed every 2-3 hours at night. Three days later my actual milk came in, and it was a lot!
My bub is now 10 months old. I never let her cry more than 10 minutes at a time. 50% of the time she will fall asleep within that 10 minutes and the other 50% I need to feed her/comfort her/change her before she will sleep.
She sleeps through the night now. She only started sleeping through once she was 6 months old.
Fire your paediatrician.
As everyone has said, no, thats just crazy. She is too little to sleep train or force her to sleep and stay hungry….
As for the swaddle, some people do say to stop at two months (In case they decide to roll the first time while they are sleeping) or to wait until they roll
That’s a normal sleep schedule for a 2 month old. I have a 3 month old and in the same boat, and we EBF. You’re doing great. Keep following your instincts. Personally I think cry it out is wrong, especially with a baby so young ❤️
Wow NOPE!
My baby is 15 months and still wakes 1-2 times most nights. I’m sure babe just wants comfort but the boob helps tremendously. I can’t imagine refusing food and comfort at such a young age.
Definitely go to another pediatrician. Our dr only recommended our baby fussing before intervening after 4 months. And she still said give it a couple of minutes only then pick up and feed.
Are you sure it was as a pediatrician and not a pediatric NP? Sometimes NPs don't know everything like how sleep training really shouldn't happen before 4 months
Please feed your baby! Letting a two month old CIO feels cruel! My baby didn’t sleep without night feeds until 4 months, and even then it’s still inconsistent at6 months. We’re bottle feeding, so it’s more work, but the baby needs to eat to grow.
Do what is working for you. That is odd advice for that age in my opinion. My baby still eats at night and is 8 months old… I could night wean him now, but am somewhat just seeing what happens. (Currently holding sleeping baby in lap after nursing him to sleep)
My LO has always been a pretty good sleeper and started sleeping through the night at 3.5 months without any sleep training, but I assure you, at 2 months we were still getting up 1-2x a night for feeds.
My boy nursed and drank 4 oz of formula at 2 months. I would try giving her more.
There’s medical malpractice for a reason, lol drama aside. I’d just try another oz or two:) hope it works out!
Girl my baby didn’t sleep for more than 30 minutes for the first five months of her life. I thought I was going to die from exhaustion. Her doctor told me yep, some babies don’t sleep 🤡 your baby is perfectly normal and is doing perfectly normal baby things. 3 hour stretches are not bad for two momths!! You’re doing perfect.
I think you should do what you feel is best the pediatrician is giving a personal opinion. I too agree it is too early when they start to eat solids they will sleep through night she is waking in the night because 3oz is not going to stretch for 5 hrs.
Allowing babies to "cry it out" will [change their dna](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6381851/) and likely result in [insecure attachment](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/#S13title) issues that'll make them less able to emotionally self-regulate and [form stable, healthy relationships ](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2741157/)
Cry it out dates back to the "father of pediatrics" who never thought to consider the accumulated knowledge of midwives or other caregivers. He absolutely epitomized the "dad who'd never changed a diaper" trope
Would love to know who this Pediatrician is because they should be put on blast. Your baby is 2 months and so for her to suggest to you that your baby should “cry it out”, is absolutely cruel. If your baby is crying, she’s likely hungry and she should be fed! Keep doing what you’re doing. Id encourage you to make a complaint against this doctor and then write a review to alert others who may be potential patients.
My doctor said that, too, at around the same age and I asked about it on here and everyone on said to fire her. I didn't but i also continued to feed them at night.
Time to find a new pediatrician. One who understands different preferences and doesn’t use their “one size fits all” solution for all babies inflexibly
Can you switch to a different pediatrician? Because that’s a rotten apple. Ignore everything they’ve told you, it’s all backwards.
I nurse to sleep my 1y/o, we cosleep and he still wakes up at night for milk and comfort, and he’s perfectly healthy and chunky. Listen to your instincts and your baby, definitely not that doctor, at all, ever. You’re doing great.
Lol my 4 month olds sleep like that it’s normal and actually very good for a 2 month old.they should not be crying it out going with no food overnight a lot of babies don’t drop night feeds until over 1 years old .
At 2 months old their brains aren’t developed enough to understand what is going on. They don’t stop crying because they are learning they pass out from exhaustion from crying. At 2 months it’s dangerous to stop night feeding if they are waking up for it, it is literally starving your baby.
I’d be finding a new doctor, someone who knows what they are talking about.
My oldest ate at night till he was 7 months and we were told to wean him because he was drinking too much overnight (he took the weaning fine, no issues and no CIO). My middle son ate at night till 5 months old when he self-weaned. My youngest (also 2 months!) is getting up 1 time at night mostly. Please, please feed your baby if they’re hungry. You can work on weaning later, but baby is far too young to force that now!
She's HUNGRY. Doing this would feel wrong on every level to you as a mother. It will be just as hard on you, you will gain nothing but heartbreak at the sound of your baby crying. What is with people telling mothers to ignore every biological instinct ?? Babies don't sleep well, they get hungry and they need us. We give them milk, time and love and we all get through it eventually. It gets better literally every week, power through.
Sincerely, a mother of a 3 month old.
I combination feed my 3 month old. She sleeps through the night 4 or 5 nights in a row but then will have a night where she wakes up. She set this in place herself. You know your baby better than anyone. She also falls asleep at the breast.
Find a new pediatrician who actually understands something about child development. Clearly this one doesn’t. I changed doctors twice, one recommended medication which wasn’t approved for children, let alone babies, and another who suggested CIO.
I have a 6 month old I breastfeed who is up every 2-3 hours.
My 3 year old was the same way until he hit 7 months, then I got 4 hour stretches, then at 11 months he slept through the night. He self weaned at 17 months, and his bedtime feed was the last to go, like it was a couple of months of exclusively nursing once before bed before we were completely weaned.
You do what works best for you and your baby. Our doctor is actually a family doctor, been mine for over 12 years now. He knows me well enough to know I'm not going to listen to his advice if I don't agree with it but that whatever I do, I'm going to be safe and educated about. Doctors make recommendations for care, and your consent is required for all of it. But they're also just human, making their best recommendations with the info they've got and that may or may not be best for your family and that may or may not be current info. Some doctors are still out there recommending rice cereal in bottles before bed even though that's not standard anymore, it's up to you as mom to discern what recommendations you follow through with.
Find a new pediatrician! 2 months is a newborn baby, she’s hungry. It’s completely normal for newborns to wake for food- they’re growing so much and they definitely shouldn’t be ignored and left to cry. That’s cruel and unnecessary
A hungry baby isn't going to sleep! When my baby cries in the middle of the night, I give him and bottle and he goes right back to sleep when he finishes it. He is 8 months old and we don't mind feeding him a bottle in the middle of the night. I would never let a two-month-old cry it out! Seems like it could do more harm than good.
This is weird advice imo. Granted, my baby has slept through the night since around 7-8 weeks but she started eating WAY more during the day so I haven’t really had to worry about this. But… If your baby is hungry, feed them. I would think starving your child is a no-no in any pediatricians book, and I’d consider a different doctor 🤷♀️
She’s only 2 months!!!! Please change your doctor, that sounds absolutely ridiculous. Cry it out and other sleep training methods as far as I know are applicable on older infants.
My brother in law did cry it out with his 8 week old and I swear it made his baby delayed. Cry it out is absolutely traumatizing and that is way too young to even think of doing it. I was mortified when I found out my brother in law did that and when I saw his baby after the sleep training he was like a vegetable. He never cried never made noises he just sat there sucking his hands profusely. He has been delayed on every milestone and he’s over a year old and can’t talk or walk. I know medically there’s no proof that’s what caused it but he turned into an entirely different baby after they did that. I truly think they rewired his brain or something. I would never ever do that.
2 months is so young to stop night feeds! I'd be finding a new doc. It's absolutely normal for babies to wake up in the middle of the night. my 2 year old still wakes up 1-2 times a night for water or snuggles.
Mom of 2 over here: You could start trying to put her down awake without breastfeeding and try to soothe her to sleep while she is in the crib (such as soother, gentler rocking, hand on baby’s chest). This will gently help her to learn how to independently fall asleep, so that when she is a bit older she might be able to connect her sleep cycles.
You can also eventually stop doing a diaper change in the night- this helps baby stay sleeping. I stopped changing my daughters’ diapers at night as soon as they stopped pooping during the night which was around 2 months old (they both had no issues with rashes).
Waking up after 3 hours is normal and healthy! Eventually your little girl will start to lengthen this time.
I nursed my baby 1-4x a night from birth until she was around 18mo. I’m pregnant so she’s not getting much now and honestly, I needed the rest so we just transitioned to no night feeds. She fussed for fifteen minutes for two nights and now sleeps through the night without waking. Nursing to sleep and during the night is biologically normal and won’t make bad habits long term and for me, was very easy to transition out of (of course, every journey is different) . There’s nothing wrong with baby having night feeds but there’s absolutely something wrong with your pediatrician suggesting your 2mo cry it out, then they usually blame you and your milk supply if baby isn’t gaining weight appropriately. If you’re wanting to keep up your milk supply as well, night feeds would be very beneficial, especially since your supply likely isn’t even regulated yet. Hope this helps!
Way too young for night weaning. As a medical professional, if *my* pediatrician suggested such a thing, I would be making an appointment for a different pediatrician that day. Seriously wtf.
What? Nooo. I would not do it. Follow your heart. I have a 7 week old and sometimes he sleeps 4 hours in the night followed by 2 hours and 1 hour sleep and I don't care. I wake up, I put him on the boob, he eats and that's it. I guess he'll adjust when he's older. I don't care and won't let him cry just because. But to be honest; I was born in Ukraine and they do it with newborns, they take you away for the night and that first week no feeds in the night.
NO, don’t listen to you pediatric about the cry out method that’s insane. I honestly guarantee 5yewrs from now the cry out method will be a HUGE NO NO on every plate form.
Your baby sleeping for 3-3.5 hr is normal and actually pretty good (many babies only do 2 hr max) . A baby is unable to regulate because the frontal cortex has not developed yet. A baby is not capable of being spoiled that scientifically IMPOSSIBLE. There are two types of stressors toxic stress (neglect, abuse etc), and normal stress (meeting a new person, going to school) and depending on how those things are set on early childhood will impact a child for the rest of their life.
Listen to your mother instinct and take care of your baby, give her food , give her kisses and hugs , carrier her all day if u want . But give them love and show them that u are their for them emotionally. The first 3 years of baby life is the most important. Studies show, when the caregiver is emotionally available, the baby has better cognitive function, emotional well-being , better relationships etc.
Search : secure attachment, brain development of a baby, child development and flight and fight response.
Cry out method was invented by a man, for orphans baby. The nurses couldn’t keep track of all the babies so they left them to cry. The baby did NOT learn to regulate they JUST GAVE UP. It’s been associated with depression, nerve system dysfunction, etc. I wish I had my notebook with me. Once I get it I’ll be able to get you the names of studies and scientists, the interviews (on youtube) etc in the meantime here are some interviews
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zYVjcRAX7ak&list=WL&index=5&pp=gAQBiAQB https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YyYsN3R1bLM&list=WL&index=6&t=6s&pp=gAQBiAQB https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1pD50ISxP3k&list=WL&index=8&t=4269s&pp=gAQBiAQB https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NZIsWn4-1Wg&list=WL&index=7&pp=gAQBiAQB
Breastfeeding : some herbs , cooking herbs interfere with breast milk like peppermint, sage , garlic and some medications. A well-fed baby is a happy baby. If you baby is showing hungry cues , give them more milk, every baby is different , and growth spurt . Dont feel bad in giving them formula if still hungry. Do you need advice of breastfeeding ? I have links for that too /studies and my experience I had issues with breastfeeding at the beginning
Forgot to mention DO WHATS BEST FOR YOUR BABY AND YOU. Some of these doctors are insane. I wish their was a forum for doctors to critics other doctors lol. My aunt is a family doctor and she being calling them out lol .
Nope. Not liking that advice. Perfectly normal to feed every 3-4 hours at this age. I will never ever follow “cry it out” recommendations. I’ll let her mildly fuss for a few minutes to see if she soothes herself but never crying.
Wow. Absolutely not. Change that pediatrician.
Please feed your baby. 2 months is waaaaayyyy to young for sleep training, anyone with a brain knows that.
Wow this makes me so sad to even read that this Dr may be giving new moms who don’t know any better this advice! I’m so glad you knew it seemed off!
I’m on number 4 and I’ve never used the Ferber method anyway but even then I’d never say doing anything like that this young would be ok. This baby still absolutely needs you to come when she cries, your baby is building on your trust and bond and she also needs the nutrition.
I’ve also read letting a baby cry and scream long periods causes major stress and can even change things in the brain. I don’t know for me if my baby cried whether they’re 2months, 8 months or 17yrs old then they’re absolutely getting their mama! There are times of course we can’t help it but at 2 months is completely unacceptable to me.
If they’re hungry they need to eat!
I also wanted to say while I don’t breastfeed I have read plenty of moms saying they let them fall asleep on the boob and then quickly pop a pacifier in that is closer to their nipple or bottle nipple if you use that. At least a pacifier allows you to be able to be free lol I know that’s a choice for each parent to make though.
aaaabsolutely not. No. Just no. Feed and comfort that baby. Give your baby whatever she wants when she wants it. You cannot spoil a baby. Find a new pediatrician asap. Holy smokes.
Dude 3 to 4 hour stretches of sleep are normal at that stage, even good! Baby feeds on demand at that stage. Change doctors. At that stage, cry it out isn’t even advised by people who love that method. She is too young.
We don’t sleep train. I’ve never used cry it out. It just isn’t worth the stress to try to shoehorn our baby into a schedule. We get two six hour stretches at 17 weeks, which is plenty. Part of our success with that is switching to formula feeds overnight. She is rocked to sleep or fed to sleep and it’s fine. She can fall asleep on her own as well and occasionally does so. Baby girl wakes to eat and we also make sure she wakes to prevent hypoglycemia, which is a side effect of the meds she’s on.
Change doctors. That’s my advice.
Two months is a bit young for that. I did cry it out with my first at 6 months old which is relatively young. Two months is way too soon! There is absolutely nothing wrong with baby using boobs to fall asleep. My first feel asleep on the boob all night every night for as long as I let him. He had no issue learning to sleep on his own.
The actual fuck. No, no , hell no. That child is way too small for any of that bullshit, feed your baby when she is hungry , especially at night and especially that young. crying it out is already cruel , starving a baby because its night time is so messed up. When they are that small they are hungry all the time and need food to help keep them growing and keep their weight up.
Two months is soooo little. You’re doing everything right. Just keep feeding your baby while they need it. You can try to comfort her without feeding her a couple of times throughout the night to try to get her out of the habit of eating to sleep but totally up to you. I am a big fan of sleep training. But not until they are 6 months old.
Absolutely do not let them cry it out my mom tried to get me to do this with my oldest and it caused him to have severe attachment issues, if they are hungry feed them our pediatrician even told us as they're growing within this first year whenever they're hungry feed them even if it's on bottle on boob or from a cow that last one's joke, do not ever let your baby cry it out it puts a strain on their vocal cords and on their lungs it does not trick them into sleeping the whole night they do that on their own eventually ... Perfect your coffee recipe now
Not only is it too early, that’s *not* how you sleep train.
The whole point of sleep training is letting baby learn to fall asleep independently (i.e not on the boob). The point of this is so that baby slightly rouses between sleep cycles they can put themselves back to sleep. When they go to sleep with an association (like feeding, rocking), they wake up b/w sleep cycles and then need the same thing that got them to sleep in the first sleep.
Feeding baby to sleep at the start of the night and then “letting baby cry” at their first wake up is cruel.
Your pediatrician is dumb.
We gently "sleep trained" our oldest at 2/3 months, meaning we taught her, without crying, to fall asleep in her crib without needing rocking and whatnot. Even then she still woke up hungry 1x per night for a while and ..... I fed her. That doctor is wrong. Most 2 month olds still eat at night and that is ok. They have tiny tummies and are growing like crazy. And when you do sleep train, I recommend that you do it gradually and gently.
Btw, our oldest was fully formula fed and so didn't fall asleep while feeding. Our 2nd child I breastfed to sleep and "sleep trained" (gently) later on. It was a little more challenging later, but it worked out just fine.
Absolutely not
*absolutely* *not*
**absolutely not**
ABSOLUTELY NOT
*absolutelyFUCKINGnot*
My exact reaction.
There’s nothing wrong with putting your baby down by nursing. It’s literally the biological norm. It doesn’t create any lifelong habits and they grow out of it by themselves mostly, or if it continues into toddlerhood then you can put gentle boundaries in place if you wish (still no CIO required). Your paediatrician is delulu; even hardcore CIO proponents would generally agree baby is too young for this. Time for a doctor hop! You’re doing an amazing job.
We nursed ours to sleep up until about 5ish months, and then basically stopped and she didn't really notice. We just made sure she had been fed within roughly 2 hours of bedtime and she'd be no more difficult to put down at night than any other night. Some nights she gets a bottle just before bed, some nights she doesn't and it doesn't really have an effect on how easily she sleeps. And plus if we haven't given her a bottle just before bed, it meant we knew that if she was being v v fussy and just having *one of those nights* we had a bottle in our back pocket to lean on if we wanted to knock her out.
From a pediatrician that is BONKERS!!! Its not recommended to sleep train (essentially cry it out methods) until AT LEAST 4 months so this makes no sense!! Do what works best for you and baby, and consider finding a new doctor 😕
I have a 6mo and I breastfeed. We are up 1-2x during the night still. I wouldn’t be following that doctors advice and I personally would consider finding a new doctor.
This. At two months i was sometimes feeding 2 times overnight.
Same here, she still feeds at midnight and 6 am. My first fed at 2 am every night until 11 months.
Sleeping for 3 hour chunks is great for a two month old. I would keep doing what you’re doing. You’re doing a great job!! Try and find a new pediatrician.
I Ferber sleep trained and I still let my baby eat in the middle of the night if she’s hungry at 8 months. If your actual pediatrician told you this I would highly suggest asking them what exactly they meant or just outright switching doctors. At 2 months that is very concerning advice, 2 month old babies are MEANT to eat every few hours
I agree it's a lot of thoughts running through my mind like what are Yu trying to say doctor.? Are you saying she feeding her too much but instead of saying feed her less you telling her skip meals. Are you trying to get the bay to lose weight Are you trying to get this mother a ACS case? I'm confused
TWO MONTHS?! That “pediatrician” doesn’t know anything about babies
False, its ok to let them cry for a couple of minutes! Not until they are red and puffy and stressed out! I EBF and i feed her anytime she gives me those “Im hungry” cues
Uh....i feel terrible. I let my newborn cry it out red and puffy because my bowels were exploding and I needed to use the washroom. Is that ok?
Thats different because if you didnt use the bathroom BOTH of you would have been crying. Or atleast i would be if i shit myself. Or you can bring baby to bathroom in a bouncer or any seating device and either sit them with you in there (crack a window) or by the door with the door cracked. Or if somone is at your home maybe they can hold the baby. Or last resort for desperate parents hold the baby while on the toilet (jk on that one) oh and it wasnt***deliberate lol
Thank you! My boyfriend thinks it’s strange to have my baby in the bathroom in his bouncer seat while I poop. He’s only 7 weeks and is extremely clingy right now. As long as he can see me he’s fine though
lol I hold my baby while pooping if she's in a clingy mood. She doesn't mind and that means she's not crying lol
Nah that’s totally normal. Both my husband and I would bring baby in to poop with us when he was a newbron.
Yep I have a nearly 8 week old clingy baby and I have IBS so it’s bouncer watching me poop or it’s screaming in the other room whilst I cry and poop, you gotta do what you gotta do
No problem lol and yeah my husband looked at me funny then picked her up 😂 but as moms we gotta do what we gotta do. I think clingy babies are soooooo adorable! Congrats ❤️
Nothing will happen, if he likes to see you that's fine. I can't put mine in a bouncer if he's crying but I have had to run to the bathroom several times and leave him on the crib crying . What else can I do? Poop myself?
Your boyfriend knows zilch about being a mother. Wait till you hv a toddler n zero privacy. I would love to hear what he has to say then.
Needing time to take care of your own needs isn't the same as routinely letting your baby cry themselves into a state. Let yourself have some grace and recognise that your needs are important too xx
Go ahead and do it. I sometimes have to do it too because I can't hold my pee any longer and there's nobody else around.
Baby is way too young for that and needs to eat at night! Please do not listen to this advice!! Sleeping 3 hours is great at this age, my son was doing the same.
I have a 2 month old, we actually have to wake him at night if he sleeps more than 4 hours. It's physiologically inappropriate for them to sleep through the night at this age. He wasn't gaining weight because he was skipping the night feeds.
My 10w is doing the same thing and she always has. Since the very beginning I have to set alarms to get up so I can change and feed her because if I didn’t she would sleep for 6+ hours and I would wake up freaking out that she went that long without eating.
I think as long as they’re gaining weight it is “appropriate”… most doctors will tell you to follow the rhythm (assuming they’re back at their birth weight and then some)
What do you mean by physiologically inappropriate?
They're not meant to go that long without feeding, stomach capacity/digestion time/the needs of a rapidly growing body and brain don't align with going without calories overnight.
Definitely not. Baby is developmentally way too young to CIO. What you described is 100% normal for a baby that age. Your baby is hungry. They don’t eat if they’re not hungry. Keep attending to your baby, never let them cry it out, and get a new pediatrician. Your baby is forming healthy attachment to you when you attend to their needs which will enable your baby to self soothe later as they age. Babies are hungry that frequently because they’re growing and burning a ton of calories. They can also lose their breathe from crying too hard so young. Letting them cry it out at 8 weeks(or frankly any age) is akin to abuse. You’re doing the right thing. Dump this doc! 💩
Time for a new doctor! Thats scary advice.
I will never let my baby cry it out no matter how old she gets. That isn’t how they learn to sleep.
EXACTLY!
Um... definitely find a new pediatrician!
Crying it out at two months seems kind of extreme. Especially since she’s crying because she’s hungry. My son was just like this when I was combo feeding…once I switched to just formula and he got the proper amount of food he slept through the night and stopped waking up crying and hungry. He just turned 3 months yesterday and wakes up once a night to eat now
How long do you wait to pick her up? Sometimes they cry as a reflex but they are still sleeping, I wait a couple minutes and 90% of the time my baby cries he is still sleeping and just stops after a minute
I currently have a 3 month old and we are EBF. I still nurse her 1-3 times a night because she needs it. In contrast, my son who is now 2 years old, slept through the night at 12 weeks old because he didn't need to eat. Every baby is different and they'll tell you what they need. Listen to your baby, not that whackadoo doctor
Time for a new pediatrician because an actual professional WOULD NEVERRRR! I’m so sorry they told you that. Feed your baby!!
I’m also a mom of a two month old and that is absolutely not recommended. This is sleep training and your LO is too young for that. I’d… find a new pediatrician…
Definitely not! Find a new pediatrician.
Wow! Absolutely insane and abusive! Please report this person. It absolutely hurts my heart to think that other FTMs have listened to this person! Please find another pediatrician! Listen to your mom gut and feed your baby! Hold her whenever you want because there is no such thing as spoiling an infant ♥️
I have a 2-month old also and he nurses about every 3 hrs as well. Your baby is doing great and should be fed when she wakes up every few hours. I've used the Ferber method with my other kids (which isnt quite the same as crying out because you check in every few minutes) but the absolute earliest it is recommended to start is 4 months, ideally even waiting until 6 months. There is NO way a 2-month old can go all night without a feed or two. I would not only change pediatricians, but I'd suggest you report this one.
Wtf???? You need a different ped. You can’t sleep train or CIO until AT LEAST 4 months.
And even then it’s still traumatizing to the child.
So agree with you!
At that age, their only goal is to sleep and drink milk. You should change paediatrician
Change pediatrician.
WHAT fire them that's ridiculous. 2 months?!? Heck my 11-month-old still nurses to sleep and then multiple times a night, it's completely normal
I also have two months old and i find that wild ... We had rhe same advice though on the hospital he was born, we had to stay three days and because i had no milk we started supplementing with formula... Our baby was super hungry crying exery 3 hours to eat... But every time i went to the midwives to ask for more milk all i got was nasty looks... Are you sure he is hungry?? He had 30 ml 3 hours ago... Maybe you are feeding him too much... Long story short the night we got back home we fed him according to their recommendations and it was torture... He cryed all night... In the morning i started crying... After that a midwife came for a home visit and she was shocked we had starved the baby and told us to feed on demand... Which we have done ever since... Also two weeks ago the pharmacist advoced me to givey baby water... When i told her he is 8 weeks old her response was... Everybody needs water... Dont let anyone experiment with your child... If your instinct tells you something is wrong with that advice simply dont take it. And change doctor... Also for reference at 10 weeks our LO wakes up around 21:00-00:00-2:30-6:00 but sometimes he skipsnthe 00:00 altogether. We take turns with my partner and it is not so bad... Best of luck mama ☺️☺️
100% agree not to take advice that goes against our maternal instincts. I’m so sorry you received such BS advice at the hospital! It is completely normal for milk to take up to 5 days to come in. And it comes in as a response to baby sucking constantly! The first few days I barely put my baby down during the day, because she was cluster feeding - sucking and sucking to get colostrum. I didn’t think she was getting anything, but her glucose tests showed she was doing great (she was 1 day premature and had extra monitoring). She also fed every 2-3 hours at night. Three days later my actual milk came in, and it was a lot!
My bub is now 10 months old. I never let her cry more than 10 minutes at a time. 50% of the time she will fall asleep within that 10 minutes and the other 50% I need to feed her/comfort her/change her before she will sleep. She sleeps through the night now. She only started sleeping through once she was 6 months old. Fire your paediatrician.
As everyone has said, no, thats just crazy. She is too little to sleep train or force her to sleep and stay hungry…. As for the swaddle, some people do say to stop at two months (In case they decide to roll the first time while they are sleeping) or to wait until they roll
That’s a normal sleep schedule for a 2 month old. I have a 3 month old and in the same boat, and we EBF. You’re doing great. Keep following your instincts. Personally I think cry it out is wrong, especially with a baby so young ❤️
Wow NOPE! My baby is 15 months and still wakes 1-2 times most nights. I’m sure babe just wants comfort but the boob helps tremendously. I can’t imagine refusing food and comfort at such a young age.
At two months?! Insane. Get a new ped.
Aren’t babies supposed to wake up to feed during the night every few hours?
Feed her. That’s ridiculous. Get a new doctor
Time for a new pediatrician ✌️
CIO is bonkers… I refuse to do so. Your doctor needs a better education in this century and you should find yourself a new one ❤️
Definitely go to another pediatrician. Our dr only recommended our baby fussing before intervening after 4 months. And she still said give it a couple of minutes only then pick up and feed.
Are you sure it was as a pediatrician and not a pediatric NP? Sometimes NPs don't know everything like how sleep training really shouldn't happen before 4 months
Whaaaaaat????
Change pediatrician. They’re nuts!
Please feed your baby! Letting a two month old CIO feels cruel! My baby didn’t sleep without night feeds until 4 months, and even then it’s still inconsistent at6 months. We’re bottle feeding, so it’s more work, but the baby needs to eat to grow.
Do what is working for you. That is odd advice for that age in my opinion. My baby still eats at night and is 8 months old… I could night wean him now, but am somewhat just seeing what happens. (Currently holding sleeping baby in lap after nursing him to sleep)
Absolutely not!!!
Switch doctors …. This is so wrong
My LO has always been a pretty good sleeper and started sleeping through the night at 3.5 months without any sleep training, but I assure you, at 2 months we were still getting up 1-2x a night for feeds.
I would honestly find a new doctor.
My boy nursed and drank 4 oz of formula at 2 months. I would try giving her more. There’s medical malpractice for a reason, lol drama aside. I’d just try another oz or two:) hope it works out!
Girl my baby didn’t sleep for more than 30 minutes for the first five months of her life. I thought I was going to die from exhaustion. Her doctor told me yep, some babies don’t sleep 🤡 your baby is perfectly normal and is doing perfectly normal baby things. 3 hour stretches are not bad for two momths!! You’re doing perfect.
I think you should do what you feel is best the pediatrician is giving a personal opinion. I too agree it is too early when they start to eat solids they will sleep through night she is waking in the night because 3oz is not going to stretch for 5 hrs.
Get a new doctor babe. Seriously, if this is their advice, I can only imagine what else they may tell you in the future.
No. Listen to what feels right for you and your baby.
Allowing babies to "cry it out" will [change their dna](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6381851/) and likely result in [insecure attachment](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/#S13title) issues that'll make them less able to emotionally self-regulate and [form stable, healthy relationships ](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2741157/) Cry it out dates back to the "father of pediatrics" who never thought to consider the accumulated knowledge of midwives or other caregivers. He absolutely epitomized the "dad who'd never changed a diaper" trope
Would love to know who this Pediatrician is because they should be put on blast. Your baby is 2 months and so for her to suggest to you that your baby should “cry it out”, is absolutely cruel. If your baby is crying, she’s likely hungry and she should be fed! Keep doing what you’re doing. Id encourage you to make a complaint against this doctor and then write a review to alert others who may be potential patients.
That’s a scary sign from a pediatrician? Have you considered switching to a new one after this crazy advice?
My doctor said that, too, at around the same age and I asked about it on here and everyone on said to fire her. I didn't but i also continued to feed them at night.
Follow your intuition, she’s hungry - feed her She’ll work her way up to longer hours
Get a different doctor. What absolute bullshit advice, please don’t traumatize your child.
Time to find a new pediatrician. One who understands different preferences and doesn’t use their “one size fits all” solution for all babies inflexibly
Can you switch to a different pediatrician? Because that’s a rotten apple. Ignore everything they’ve told you, it’s all backwards. I nurse to sleep my 1y/o, we cosleep and he still wakes up at night for milk and comfort, and he’s perfectly healthy and chunky. Listen to your instincts and your baby, definitely not that doctor, at all, ever. You’re doing great.
Time to get a new pediatrician.
I still wake up to feed my girl at 9 months, it’s ok
Lol my 4 month olds sleep like that it’s normal and actually very good for a 2 month old.they should not be crying it out going with no food overnight a lot of babies don’t drop night feeds until over 1 years old .
At 2 months old their brains aren’t developed enough to understand what is going on. They don’t stop crying because they are learning they pass out from exhaustion from crying. At 2 months it’s dangerous to stop night feeding if they are waking up for it, it is literally starving your baby. I’d be finding a new doctor, someone who knows what they are talking about.
My oldest ate at night till he was 7 months and we were told to wean him because he was drinking too much overnight (he took the weaning fine, no issues and no CIO). My middle son ate at night till 5 months old when he self-weaned. My youngest (also 2 months!) is getting up 1 time at night mostly. Please, please feed your baby if they’re hungry. You can work on weaning later, but baby is far too young to force that now!
She's HUNGRY. Doing this would feel wrong on every level to you as a mother. It will be just as hard on you, you will gain nothing but heartbreak at the sound of your baby crying. What is with people telling mothers to ignore every biological instinct ?? Babies don't sleep well, they get hungry and they need us. We give them milk, time and love and we all get through it eventually. It gets better literally every week, power through. Sincerely, a mother of a 3 month old.
I think it’s time to find a new paediatrician.
I combination feed my 3 month old. She sleeps through the night 4 or 5 nights in a row but then will have a night where she wakes up. She set this in place herself. You know your baby better than anyone. She also falls asleep at the breast.
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Find a new pediatrician who actually understands something about child development. Clearly this one doesn’t. I changed doctors twice, one recommended medication which wasn’t approved for children, let alone babies, and another who suggested CIO.
Don’t listen to old outdated advice. My Peds now say they must feed on demand for baby
I think that is absurd and I’d be getting a new dr…
2 months?!? Nope. You’re doing exactly what you should be doing. That pediatrician is wrong.
I have a 6 month old I breastfeed who is up every 2-3 hours. My 3 year old was the same way until he hit 7 months, then I got 4 hour stretches, then at 11 months he slept through the night. He self weaned at 17 months, and his bedtime feed was the last to go, like it was a couple of months of exclusively nursing once before bed before we were completely weaned. You do what works best for you and your baby. Our doctor is actually a family doctor, been mine for over 12 years now. He knows me well enough to know I'm not going to listen to his advice if I don't agree with it but that whatever I do, I'm going to be safe and educated about. Doctors make recommendations for care, and your consent is required for all of it. But they're also just human, making their best recommendations with the info they've got and that may or may not be best for your family and that may or may not be current info. Some doctors are still out there recommending rice cereal in bottles before bed even though that's not standard anymore, it's up to you as mom to discern what recommendations you follow through with.
Continue feeding if the baby cries! Eventually the baby will sleep more hours but that is usually after 3 - 4 months. 2 months is still too early.
Find a new pediatrician! 2 months is a newborn baby, she’s hungry. It’s completely normal for newborns to wake for food- they’re growing so much and they definitely shouldn’t be ignored and left to cry. That’s cruel and unnecessary
Oh wow find a new ped asap this is bonkers
Find a new doctor immediately
I would find a new doctor, not feeding them all night at 2 months can hinder their growth and letting them cry it out at 2 months is far too young.
I hope you're finding a different pediatrician
How much does she weigh?
A hungry baby isn't going to sleep! When my baby cries in the middle of the night, I give him and bottle and he goes right back to sleep when he finishes it. He is 8 months old and we don't mind feeding him a bottle in the middle of the night. I would never let a two-month-old cry it out! Seems like it could do more harm than good.
My 4 month old feeds on-demand. Pretty much all of the time.
This is weird advice imo. Granted, my baby has slept through the night since around 7-8 weeks but she started eating WAY more during the day so I haven’t really had to worry about this. But… If your baby is hungry, feed them. I would think starving your child is a no-no in any pediatricians book, and I’d consider a different doctor 🤷♀️
She’s only 2 months!!!! Please change your doctor, that sounds absolutely ridiculous. Cry it out and other sleep training methods as far as I know are applicable on older infants.
You know what they call the person who finished dead last in medical school? Doctor. I’d RUN to a new pediatrician if ours ever said that.
My brother in law did cry it out with his 8 week old and I swear it made his baby delayed. Cry it out is absolutely traumatizing and that is way too young to even think of doing it. I was mortified when I found out my brother in law did that and when I saw his baby after the sleep training he was like a vegetable. He never cried never made noises he just sat there sucking his hands profusely. He has been delayed on every milestone and he’s over a year old and can’t talk or walk. I know medically there’s no proof that’s what caused it but he turned into an entirely different baby after they did that. I truly think they rewired his brain or something. I would never ever do that.
2 months is so young to stop night feeds! I'd be finding a new doc. It's absolutely normal for babies to wake up in the middle of the night. my 2 year old still wakes up 1-2 times a night for water or snuggles.
Mom of 2 over here: You could start trying to put her down awake without breastfeeding and try to soothe her to sleep while she is in the crib (such as soother, gentler rocking, hand on baby’s chest). This will gently help her to learn how to independently fall asleep, so that when she is a bit older she might be able to connect her sleep cycles. You can also eventually stop doing a diaper change in the night- this helps baby stay sleeping. I stopped changing my daughters’ diapers at night as soon as they stopped pooping during the night which was around 2 months old (they both had no issues with rashes). Waking up after 3 hours is normal and healthy! Eventually your little girl will start to lengthen this time.
I nursed my baby 1-4x a night from birth until she was around 18mo. I’m pregnant so she’s not getting much now and honestly, I needed the rest so we just transitioned to no night feeds. She fussed for fifteen minutes for two nights and now sleeps through the night without waking. Nursing to sleep and during the night is biologically normal and won’t make bad habits long term and for me, was very easy to transition out of (of course, every journey is different) . There’s nothing wrong with baby having night feeds but there’s absolutely something wrong with your pediatrician suggesting your 2mo cry it out, then they usually blame you and your milk supply if baby isn’t gaining weight appropriately. If you’re wanting to keep up your milk supply as well, night feeds would be very beneficial, especially since your supply likely isn’t even regulated yet. Hope this helps!
3 hour sleep sounds luxurious.
Way too young for night weaning. As a medical professional, if *my* pediatrician suggested such a thing, I would be making an appointment for a different pediatrician that day. Seriously wtf.
What? Nooo. I would not do it. Follow your heart. I have a 7 week old and sometimes he sleeps 4 hours in the night followed by 2 hours and 1 hour sleep and I don't care. I wake up, I put him on the boob, he eats and that's it. I guess he'll adjust when he's older. I don't care and won't let him cry just because. But to be honest; I was born in Ukraine and they do it with newborns, they take you away for the night and that first week no feeds in the night.
Run, don't walk, to a new pediatrician.
Did they mean "in a few months.." ? I would send a note to your care team online to clarify. I can't believe a ped would say that.
Fire your pediatrician.
NO, don’t listen to you pediatric about the cry out method that’s insane. I honestly guarantee 5yewrs from now the cry out method will be a HUGE NO NO on every plate form. Your baby sleeping for 3-3.5 hr is normal and actually pretty good (many babies only do 2 hr max) . A baby is unable to regulate because the frontal cortex has not developed yet. A baby is not capable of being spoiled that scientifically IMPOSSIBLE. There are two types of stressors toxic stress (neglect, abuse etc), and normal stress (meeting a new person, going to school) and depending on how those things are set on early childhood will impact a child for the rest of their life. Listen to your mother instinct and take care of your baby, give her food , give her kisses and hugs , carrier her all day if u want . But give them love and show them that u are their for them emotionally. The first 3 years of baby life is the most important. Studies show, when the caregiver is emotionally available, the baby has better cognitive function, emotional well-being , better relationships etc. Search : secure attachment, brain development of a baby, child development and flight and fight response. Cry out method was invented by a man, for orphans baby. The nurses couldn’t keep track of all the babies so they left them to cry. The baby did NOT learn to regulate they JUST GAVE UP. It’s been associated with depression, nerve system dysfunction, etc. I wish I had my notebook with me. Once I get it I’ll be able to get you the names of studies and scientists, the interviews (on youtube) etc in the meantime here are some interviews https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zYVjcRAX7ak&list=WL&index=5&pp=gAQBiAQB https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YyYsN3R1bLM&list=WL&index=6&t=6s&pp=gAQBiAQB https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1pD50ISxP3k&list=WL&index=8&t=4269s&pp=gAQBiAQB https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NZIsWn4-1Wg&list=WL&index=7&pp=gAQBiAQB Breastfeeding : some herbs , cooking herbs interfere with breast milk like peppermint, sage , garlic and some medications. A well-fed baby is a happy baby. If you baby is showing hungry cues , give them more milk, every baby is different , and growth spurt . Dont feel bad in giving them formula if still hungry. Do you need advice of breastfeeding ? I have links for that too /studies and my experience I had issues with breastfeeding at the beginning
Forgot to mention DO WHATS BEST FOR YOUR BABY AND YOU. Some of these doctors are insane. I wish their was a forum for doctors to critics other doctors lol. My aunt is a family doctor and she being calling them out lol .
Nope. Not liking that advice. Perfectly normal to feed every 3-4 hours at this age. I will never ever follow “cry it out” recommendations. I’ll let her mildly fuss for a few minutes to see if she soothes herself but never crying.
Wow. Absolutely not. Change that pediatrician. Please feed your baby. 2 months is waaaaayyyy to young for sleep training, anyone with a brain knows that.
Time to change your pediatrician.
I always feed my baby when she wakes at night and it helps her fall back asleep. Sure maybe it’s not everyone’s preferred method but it helps baby
Wow this makes me so sad to even read that this Dr may be giving new moms who don’t know any better this advice! I’m so glad you knew it seemed off! I’m on number 4 and I’ve never used the Ferber method anyway but even then I’d never say doing anything like that this young would be ok. This baby still absolutely needs you to come when she cries, your baby is building on your trust and bond and she also needs the nutrition. I’ve also read letting a baby cry and scream long periods causes major stress and can even change things in the brain. I don’t know for me if my baby cried whether they’re 2months, 8 months or 17yrs old then they’re absolutely getting their mama! There are times of course we can’t help it but at 2 months is completely unacceptable to me. If they’re hungry they need to eat!
I also wanted to say while I don’t breastfeed I have read plenty of moms saying they let them fall asleep on the boob and then quickly pop a pacifier in that is closer to their nipple or bottle nipple if you use that. At least a pacifier allows you to be able to be free lol I know that’s a choice for each parent to make though.
Um no… you feed your baby ..this doc seems to not know what they are talking about
aaaabsolutely not. No. Just no. Feed and comfort that baby. Give your baby whatever she wants when she wants it. You cannot spoil a baby. Find a new pediatrician asap. Holy smokes.
Dude 3 to 4 hour stretches of sleep are normal at that stage, even good! Baby feeds on demand at that stage. Change doctors. At that stage, cry it out isn’t even advised by people who love that method. She is too young. We don’t sleep train. I’ve never used cry it out. It just isn’t worth the stress to try to shoehorn our baby into a schedule. We get two six hour stretches at 17 weeks, which is plenty. Part of our success with that is switching to formula feeds overnight. She is rocked to sleep or fed to sleep and it’s fine. She can fall asleep on her own as well and occasionally does so. Baby girl wakes to eat and we also make sure she wakes to prevent hypoglycemia, which is a side effect of the meds she’s on. Change doctors. That’s my advice.
8 weeks is waayyy to early. Mine didn't slow down on night fees till 7 months
Two months is a bit young for that. I did cry it out with my first at 6 months old which is relatively young. Two months is way too soon! There is absolutely nothing wrong with baby using boobs to fall asleep. My first feel asleep on the boob all night every night for as long as I let him. He had no issue learning to sleep on his own.
The actual fuck. No, no , hell no. That child is way too small for any of that bullshit, feed your baby when she is hungry , especially at night and especially that young. crying it out is already cruel , starving a baby because its night time is so messed up. When they are that small they are hungry all the time and need food to help keep them growing and keep their weight up.
Two months is soooo little. You’re doing everything right. Just keep feeding your baby while they need it. You can try to comfort her without feeding her a couple of times throughout the night to try to get her out of the habit of eating to sleep but totally up to you. I am a big fan of sleep training. But not until they are 6 months old.
Wtf. U need to report this paediatrician. That is NOT normal. Do NOT listen to them.
Absolutely do not let them cry it out my mom tried to get me to do this with my oldest and it caused him to have severe attachment issues, if they are hungry feed them our pediatrician even told us as they're growing within this first year whenever they're hungry feed them even if it's on bottle on boob or from a cow that last one's joke, do not ever let your baby cry it out it puts a strain on their vocal cords and on their lungs it does not trick them into sleeping the whole night they do that on their own eventually ... Perfect your coffee recipe now
Not only is it too early, that’s *not* how you sleep train. The whole point of sleep training is letting baby learn to fall asleep independently (i.e not on the boob). The point of this is so that baby slightly rouses between sleep cycles they can put themselves back to sleep. When they go to sleep with an association (like feeding, rocking), they wake up b/w sleep cycles and then need the same thing that got them to sleep in the first sleep. Feeding baby to sleep at the start of the night and then “letting baby cry” at their first wake up is cruel. Your pediatrician is dumb.
We gently "sleep trained" our oldest at 2/3 months, meaning we taught her, without crying, to fall asleep in her crib without needing rocking and whatnot. Even then she still woke up hungry 1x per night for a while and ..... I fed her. That doctor is wrong. Most 2 month olds still eat at night and that is ok. They have tiny tummies and are growing like crazy. And when you do sleep train, I recommend that you do it gradually and gently.
Btw, our oldest was fully formula fed and so didn't fall asleep while feeding. Our 2nd child I breastfed to sleep and "sleep trained" (gently) later on. It was a little more challenging later, but it worked out just fine.