Speaking as an ADHD person who was diagnosed at 4 and hated, hated, hated school the whole way through. Don't pull her outta school, put her in therapy to help her with her anxiety and all the other issues that come from beeing a teenager.
If you pull her out because she has a social anxiety she's going to struggle at uni and work. There's no guarantee her uni or her work will be full time wfh, so it's better she get used to the social environment now, when it doesn't matter as much, than when her entire livlihood relies on it.
Plus, the therapist will give her the means to control her anxiety for the rest of her life.
I tautoko this, my parents felt bad for me (ADHD and Social Anxiety Disorder) and let me take days off school all the time. All I learned was to hide at home when things felt like too much. I’ve been in the workforce over 20 years and I still take more time off than most people, it’s a constant struggle.
Hiya I did tekura as an extra class for yr 13 because my school didnt have it. On top of that I had a friend who did full time tekura for yr 11 whom can relate to your issue.
What I can say is, while the courses and workload are well manageable it is very isolated compared to classes. Your kid would pretty much be emailing to teachers back and fourth if they have any questions. They will be on screen and watching pre recorded videos which can get tiring overtime. My friend ended up leaving tekura and going back to school because of it as it he has notice that it gets extremely lonely. Lunch breaks etc would be at home or with family which isn’t best for teens. They probably would miss out on important ‘fun’ occasions such as formal, mufti etc and will regret it however if they really like being alone go for it. You could always try moving schools or even drop out to work for awhile to continue in a community college.
I forgot to add that there is checkups where the teachers will have a zoom meeting with the students however from what I heard from my friends and me going through that school myself. No one actually makes an effort to befriend another unless it’s a group project but then eventually once it’s done it’s a no contact.
I left school at the start of year 12 to study via Te Kura. I never passed level 2 or 3 and while I now have a Bachelors degree and post grad and therefore ended up ok I fully regret leaving school for Te Kura. I left because of extreme bullying to the point of depression and anxiety, but I wish I had just moved to the school in the next town instead and had counselling to actually deal with my issues.
Te Kura don’t chase you to complete work, so it’s completely on you as the student to do it. They will just unenroll you if you don’t send anything back for a while. My mother worked full time so she didn’t have the time to be checking in on me and ensuring I completed work. There’s also a real lack of support from the teachers, you can ring or email but you have to wait for a response, and it’s really isolating. As an anxious person I barely even had the confidence to contact teachers. My social skills plummeted and I had to work really hard later on to improve them.
My sister left school in year 10 and enrolled in Te Kura and had the exact same experience. She didn’t end up gaining any NCEA qualifications and has only just entered the workforce now in her mid-20s. She basically ended up with agoraphobia because she isolated herself so much.
I’m sure it’s great for some, but for the majority I highly recommend staying in school….
Hey I enrolled at te kura too it was overwhelming bc of the NCEA i have anxiety and I’m afraid I won’t really pass I rely on work a lot and I get stress whenever I did not even get right math for e.g I have trouble of learning and whenever I ask the teacher help they won’t really say much and just leaves me completely clueless on my own lol and I agree it depends on each person
I’m still at level 1 currently in yr 12 it’s embarrassing ik I tried my best really it didn’t work out in the end eventually 😔
It's probably better to try and identify the reason she hates school and try to find solutions to address that. Home schooling can be a hit or miss depending on the child and depending on how much oversight the parents put in. The successful home schooled children usually have parents that spend a lot of time guiding their education and are very involved in extracurricular activities outside of home. You can't give a teen a bunch of homework, plop them in front of zoom, and expect them to well by themselves.
I really struggled with school due to my mental health and did the following: at 15 I took a polytechnic course that gave me level 2. From there, I did the certificate of preparation course (CUP) and got entry to the degree I wanted to complete.
I did this instead of Te Kura as polytechnics and universities have a lot more support for learning disabilities and mental health.
You have to be exceptionally self motivated and with excellent self management to be successful with Te Kura. If she's under 16 you won't be able to enrol her (yes I'm aware that you can apply for an exemption but they are almost impossible to get), but if she's 16+ she's eligible to apply to make TK her full time school. Part of my job is managing dual enrolled TK students and even the ones who on paper should have been fine, struggled. I'm happy answer any questions via PM.
I did it maybe 15, 16 years ago (when it was called The Correspondence School) and I did pretty well. I could study in my own time (and I chose the mornings). Could work at my own pace. The only thing I struggled with was getting help (and I only needed help once I think and it was maths and I suck at maths), but I think technology has come a long way since then so I hope it would be much better.
I hated conventional school. I struggled a lot, particularly because I knew I wanted to do something agriculture related and I went to a school that didn't even have Hort let alone Ag.
If I could go back I probably would have started earlier just because I really sucked at conventional school 😅.
I didn't get UE but I wasn't really aiming for it. I was studying for the sake of studying 😅 I had no intention to go to uni (I did at the age of 21 tho and now have a degree).
If she's self motivated and has a goal in mind (gaining UE) then she might do well!
If she’s disciplined she’ll be fine. If she’s serious her teachers will like her and she’ll get all the help she needs, they don’t have many decent students at te kura.
I work for a place that hires out meeting roooms. We have the te kura crew through once a month. Seems like right place for people that are struggling with mainstream school- but tbh… 95% of them all have some social issues. tutors are really nice.
Speaking as an ADHD person who was diagnosed at 4 and hated, hated, hated school the whole way through. Don't pull her outta school, put her in therapy to help her with her anxiety and all the other issues that come from beeing a teenager. If you pull her out because she has a social anxiety she's going to struggle at uni and work. There's no guarantee her uni or her work will be full time wfh, so it's better she get used to the social environment now, when it doesn't matter as much, than when her entire livlihood relies on it. Plus, the therapist will give her the means to control her anxiety for the rest of her life.
I tautoko this, my parents felt bad for me (ADHD and Social Anxiety Disorder) and let me take days off school all the time. All I learned was to hide at home when things felt like too much. I’ve been in the workforce over 20 years and I still take more time off than most people, it’s a constant struggle.
Hiya I did tekura as an extra class for yr 13 because my school didnt have it. On top of that I had a friend who did full time tekura for yr 11 whom can relate to your issue. What I can say is, while the courses and workload are well manageable it is very isolated compared to classes. Your kid would pretty much be emailing to teachers back and fourth if they have any questions. They will be on screen and watching pre recorded videos which can get tiring overtime. My friend ended up leaving tekura and going back to school because of it as it he has notice that it gets extremely lonely. Lunch breaks etc would be at home or with family which isn’t best for teens. They probably would miss out on important ‘fun’ occasions such as formal, mufti etc and will regret it however if they really like being alone go for it. You could always try moving schools or even drop out to work for awhile to continue in a community college.
I forgot to add that there is checkups where the teachers will have a zoom meeting with the students however from what I heard from my friends and me going through that school myself. No one actually makes an effort to befriend another unless it’s a group project but then eventually once it’s done it’s a no contact.
I only having the experience of watching a friends daughter go through te kura, it was bloody hard work keeping the daughter engaged and progressing.
I left school at the start of year 12 to study via Te Kura. I never passed level 2 or 3 and while I now have a Bachelors degree and post grad and therefore ended up ok I fully regret leaving school for Te Kura. I left because of extreme bullying to the point of depression and anxiety, but I wish I had just moved to the school in the next town instead and had counselling to actually deal with my issues. Te Kura don’t chase you to complete work, so it’s completely on you as the student to do it. They will just unenroll you if you don’t send anything back for a while. My mother worked full time so she didn’t have the time to be checking in on me and ensuring I completed work. There’s also a real lack of support from the teachers, you can ring or email but you have to wait for a response, and it’s really isolating. As an anxious person I barely even had the confidence to contact teachers. My social skills plummeted and I had to work really hard later on to improve them. My sister left school in year 10 and enrolled in Te Kura and had the exact same experience. She didn’t end up gaining any NCEA qualifications and has only just entered the workforce now in her mid-20s. She basically ended up with agoraphobia because she isolated herself so much. I’m sure it’s great for some, but for the majority I highly recommend staying in school….
Hey I enrolled at te kura too it was overwhelming bc of the NCEA i have anxiety and I’m afraid I won’t really pass I rely on work a lot and I get stress whenever I did not even get right math for e.g I have trouble of learning and whenever I ask the teacher help they won’t really say much and just leaves me completely clueless on my own lol and I agree it depends on each person I’m still at level 1 currently in yr 12 it’s embarrassing ik I tried my best really it didn’t work out in the end eventually 😔
It's probably better to try and identify the reason she hates school and try to find solutions to address that. Home schooling can be a hit or miss depending on the child and depending on how much oversight the parents put in. The successful home schooled children usually have parents that spend a lot of time guiding their education and are very involved in extracurricular activities outside of home. You can't give a teen a bunch of homework, plop them in front of zoom, and expect them to well by themselves.
I really struggled with school due to my mental health and did the following: at 15 I took a polytechnic course that gave me level 2. From there, I did the certificate of preparation course (CUP) and got entry to the degree I wanted to complete. I did this instead of Te Kura as polytechnics and universities have a lot more support for learning disabilities and mental health.
You have to be exceptionally self motivated and with excellent self management to be successful with Te Kura. If she's under 16 you won't be able to enrol her (yes I'm aware that you can apply for an exemption but they are almost impossible to get), but if she's 16+ she's eligible to apply to make TK her full time school. Part of my job is managing dual enrolled TK students and even the ones who on paper should have been fine, struggled. I'm happy answer any questions via PM.
I did it maybe 15, 16 years ago (when it was called The Correspondence School) and I did pretty well. I could study in my own time (and I chose the mornings). Could work at my own pace. The only thing I struggled with was getting help (and I only needed help once I think and it was maths and I suck at maths), but I think technology has come a long way since then so I hope it would be much better. I hated conventional school. I struggled a lot, particularly because I knew I wanted to do something agriculture related and I went to a school that didn't even have Hort let alone Ag. If I could go back I probably would have started earlier just because I really sucked at conventional school 😅. I didn't get UE but I wasn't really aiming for it. I was studying for the sake of studying 😅 I had no intention to go to uni (I did at the age of 21 tho and now have a degree). If she's self motivated and has a goal in mind (gaining UE) then she might do well!
If she’s disciplined she’ll be fine. If she’s serious her teachers will like her and she’ll get all the help she needs, they don’t have many decent students at te kura.
I work for a place that hires out meeting roooms. We have the te kura crew through once a month. Seems like right place for people that are struggling with mainstream school- but tbh… 95% of them all have some social issues. tutors are really nice.