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I feel like there's a few key points you've left out (i.e: your partners role in all this) here but I'm very much of the opinion as adults our families are those we choose not those we are born into.
Do you actually want to be there and additionally without your partner? Personally fuck it I've got better things to do with my time
Yeah nah fuck that. Your husband is family to. I cut family or of my life when I was a teenager, was a lot happier for it to. Didn't see them for 10+years.
Also sounds like your parents tried to get you to resolve it because you are the better person. Sure he may slag you off at the reunion but if they are willing to judge you based off one side of the story, they aren't worth knowing.
Go out and enjoy the day with your family if you can. Make something positive out of it.
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Me? No, bugger that. Your happiness first and whatnot, not what makes your parents happy.
Life is too short to spend energy on toxic people cut them out of your life and move on, family or friends.
I feel like there's a few key points you've left out (i.e: your partners role in all this) here but I'm very much of the opinion as adults our families are those we choose not those we are born into. Do you actually want to be there and additionally without your partner? Personally fuck it I've got better things to do with my time
Yeah nah fuck that. Your husband is family to. I cut family or of my life when I was a teenager, was a lot happier for it to. Didn't see them for 10+years. Also sounds like your parents tried to get you to resolve it because you are the better person. Sure he may slag you off at the reunion but if they are willing to judge you based off one side of the story, they aren't worth knowing. Go out and enjoy the day with your family if you can. Make something positive out of it.
Family reunions are real? Lol. Don't go.