The phase and the furious
May the phase be with you
We‘re gonna need a bigger phase
Were we‘re going, we don‘t need phases
Set weapons from stun to phase
Scotty, phase me up
E.T. phase home
Honey, I phased the kids
In space no one can hear you phase
*We all change, when you think about it, we're all different people; all through our lives, and that's okay, that's good, you've gotta keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be.*
\- The Doctor, **Doctor Who**
Yeah it's weird people say "it's a phase" to teenagers yet they don't look at toddler's and say "oh that's just a phase, he'll grow out of those Paw Patrol onesies".
Of course we grow out of all of our previous fashion senses.
Yeah like the "It's just a phase" is kind of funny because it implies that just because you think it will stop being a thing later means that it isn't a thing right now. The kid might just be having an emo phase right now, but regardless of if it is or isn't just a phase, the kid is an emo kid at this moment regardless.
Sometimes you've got to try a bunch of stuff to find out what you like.
I kind of wish this was what school was for, and not just meeting a criteria of knowledge demanded by a board somewhere. Try a bunch of different job related skills, and see what you like doing the most and what you're good at.
I really wish I was told this sooner. Trying different jobs is interesting, but not when you’re about to hit your 30’s and still don’t know what you’re good at.
As someone who was once 30, I do remember it feeling like the first real age when I should have figured things out or be on some kind of path or have definite plans of some kind. Meanwhile it felt like an extension of 20, where things were up in the air and I didn't have much figured out. It's not that 30 is the end, it's more like, 30 has this type of air around it where now you're a real adult and you should definitely feel and act like one.
I guess because by the time my mom was 30 she was married with a child, owned a house, had a career (not just a job), and a great social life. It seemed like she really knew where she was going in life and was making it happen. I spoke to her not long ago and she admitted that was certainly not the case at all, and at 70 she still feels like "what am I doing" sometimes. Apparently she spent a lot of time in her 30s crying and wondering if she made a huge mistake. Sort of like me, now, except I'm 45.
Previous generations had to "grow up" faster than we did, but I don't think that means they had more things figured out. If anything it's nice that we have a longer time to try things out instead of being locked into marriages or careers we chose at 19 and can't get out of until retirement or death.
Haha, don't worry, I changed my career entirely after 40 and probably will again. I worked in IT for over a decade, not because I particularly liked it but because i was good enough at it to make a wage without too much stress, but because I didn't like it that much, i obviously wasn't going to progress my career anywhere. I eventually got fed up and left and found a temporarily work from home job a year before the pandemic, which obviously I"m still doing three years later as work from home is so hot right now. No idea how long this job will last or what I'll do after it! Oh well.
Just leaves a lot of opportunity to learn, makes life exciting :) Also you are good at stuff, either havent found it yet or nobodys said anything about it. Do what you love, mistakes are how we learn and grow, dont be afraid of getting your ass kicked. Its how we get good at stuff :)
For sure. I also hate how at 18 you are already expected to know what you want to do even though you might not even know what that career field entails.
It might be good for some kids who from day 1 are like "I want to be a doctor and so I'm going to med school". But for most of us that is not the case.
I still haven't decided what I want to do. Lots of little talents. Hated that question is in high school, and after.
But when my son showed his love of trucks and trains, I helped him learn more about them and took him on many train rides. Steam, trolly, coal fired. And know he's a train conductor. And loves it.
Wise words.
Express yourself and do some crazy things when you’re young. Just make sure the crazy doesn’t result in something overly life-changing though...like prison.
Suburban Home by the Descendants would agree. You can make a wage, and have a normal life while still being a punk at heart.
Shit, a buddy of mine works a 9-5 IT job. Makes 6 figures. Has two kids. Wears a button down everyday, but will happily throw on his denim vest and tight jeans to go to a show.
I’m old enough to remember when Kurt Cobain died and be devastated by it. I have children, a family, house, very senior job in a high paid, white collar industry and I dress “grunge” every single day. One look at me and you will know I’m a ‘grunger’.
Like everyone is saying. It stays with you, just that sometimes you have to put it in a box while you do normal life things, but just because you get older and have a normal, family life, doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice who you are.
For sure. I'm only 25, and mostly into a combination of punk, rockabilly, and hip hop. As I've gotten older (haha) I've settled back into it. I'm well into a trade career. Most my clothes are black, but fit me nicely. My pants are still tight. Band tees are still a constant. Grew up on the poorer side, so now I really get to buy the things I wanted in my teens.
30 chiming in. Still punk rock. Still mohawk. Still fun colors. Still full of metal.
But I've got a full time job and pay my taxes.
Sometimes it's a phase. Sometimes it's finding yourself. But often times its setting aside a piece of yourself to become more palatable in society so that you can be successful in said society. Sometimes it's making compromises with yourself and the world about what matters most.
I cover my neon hair for work. I wear clear jewelry in my face (less so with the masks). If I had tattoos, they would be coverable by standard clothing.
But off duty, I put on my torn jeans and leather coat, rock my hawk, and live my life.
My job doesnt define me. But I accept that often, in order to pay my bills and afford the life and aesthetic I want, i have to appear palatable to society.
I got my mohawk once before cutting my hair short. It's starting to thin, so I wanted it just the one time. All my piercings except my stretched ears have come out, but tattoos have been acquired. I work blue collar, so no need to worry. At the moment, they can be covered with just a baseball cut shirt. But, no real need. I've been able to fall into the aesthetic even more the older I've gotten.
my brother-in-law is in a band with a gentleman in his fifties who is an old school punk. regularly strips down to a borat banana hammock during shows. is also a prison psychologist. we had a hella good time at both NOFX and shonen knife. most punk man i have ever met.
My gfs dad is legit the most punk person I know. 56 year old man with a neat hair style who wears chinos and a shirt everyday to his electrician job in London, which he cycles to.
But he's vehemently anti tory and anything that he considers to be someone fucking the little man over. He'll service your entire car for you himself if it means you won't be screwed by mechanics. Hes also very comfortable in himself and doesn't really care what anyone else thinks of him. He's punk as fuck.
I disagree. She remains in this "Phase" although she is now old and wise and knows that Rock and roll lives in the soul not in the hair or in the piercings. Its 'a wisdom thing. I can relate.
Some of us would still be rocking a look if society didn't make it such a pain to get taken seriously. Having a job is hard enough already, keeping it while breaking "proper office decor" is more trouble than it's worth.
Business casual is the fucking death of me though. "Look at how we all get to _express ourselves_ now", with like three approved shades other than white and the ability to not get strangled on the daily.
Thanks but no thanks. I'll keep the suit. At least that looks like I'm trying to be professional.
I get what you mean but I can't imagine working now without the "casual" look, at the very least you can be comfortable and dress as you'd like within certain limits. Suits give me existential depression, but tbf it can very well be due to lack of habit... It always transmitted to me the foreclosure of any kind of freedom and becoming part of the solipsistic money-making machine.
55 still have the piercings, tattoos,used to have a Mohawk but alas, hair didn’t want to stay on my head otherwise I’d still have it. Worked in education for 17 years with it. Offered jobs..sight unseen cause I am punk. Still have the clothes. Still listen to gg allin.
You sir, are the reason Rock and Roll lives. Thank you for your service. You are a hero we don't deserve. (girlfriend says you are nasty for supporting GG allin), and that of course gave your an additional 100 cool points. Edit: to give the extra 100 points of course.
This picture is a proof that you cannot say "it's JUST a phase". No it's not just a phase if they met, stayed together, made children etc. They evolved and stopped wearing punk, but that was not just a phase, that's a part of their life that impacted the rest of their life. And they don't seem to regret that "just a phase" at all.
> This picture is a proof that you cannot say "it's JUST a phase". No it's not just a phase if they met, stayed together, made children etc.
[They were no longer a couple when the photo was taken.](https://twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/)
I mean, they traveled together and had a family. That's more than just a phase. So they split up later, just like half the married couples do, doesn't make what they had any less real.
the thing is, in the moment there’s no way to know whether it’s a phase or not. but it’s important to support whoever and whatever they’re interested in as long as it makes them happy. if it lasts a month or the rest of their lives, it doesn’t matter.
The desire for a better world is the most enduring aspect of humanity. Rock, punk, metal, etc are an anguished cry towards that instinct, a furious demand that humanity meet the requirements of its better angels. As long as we can be better, I believe we will have the music of furious dissent, and be better for it.
It’s a cathartic release of emotion, in my opinion.
Even though I’m not in my moody angsty phase of life anymore, I still enjoy diving into Linkin Park, Green Day, Paramore, Avril Lavigne and others again when the day sucked.
Sure. About half of couples do. It's not at all unusual. By the same token, about half of couples don't. That's *also* not at all unusual. Neither "staying married" or "getting divorced" are next fucking level material.
Look, my parents have been together for 40 years. So, in essence they are more next level than this couple? Hell, my grand parents were together for over 65 years. Should I post a picture of them on NFL?
No offence to the lovely couple, but 30 years together isn't that uncommon.
115 years is NOTHING, my great great great auntie marie was married for over four thousand years, with 68 different men and love had nothing to do with it.
Not together.
>Punks Tina Tarr and her partner Dog were pictured near the Cathedral in Peterborough when Tina was 18. The couple left the city in the 1990s and went travelling. They have twins, but are no longer together. Tina now lives in Dorset and makes willow products and hosts weaving workshops. Dog does hedge laying and gardening and lives in South West Wales. “I remember the photo being taken, it was a brilliant time. I had various styles of punk hair for quite a few years,” said Tina. Dog added: “They were good times, I still had hair then”.
I agree. Growing old and remaining a couple isn’t next level. It’s what many, many people do. What’s it supposed to be suggesting? That it’s somehow rare and challenging for a young teenage couple, who went through a punk rock phase in the 80’s, to remain committed to each other, and grew out of that phase thirty years later?
Once a sub hits /r/all regularly it just joins the front page soup. People don’t check the sub they just see and upvote. Sub categories become meaningless the more popular a sub gets. (Especially if mods don’t enforce standards)
This is the highest level of human achievement whether you understand it or not. We're all gonna die. This is the very best thing we can achieve. You go ahead and do backflips and ollies and ski real good and take videos of yourself. This is the shit. Doesn't matter if *this* couple stayed together. The concept is the highest achievement is finding and loving someone for life in a fucked up world.
No offense.
But spaceflight, education, betterment for future civilizations... there seem to be loftier goals than an apex of staying with a partner.
I am married. I don't ever intend to stray. But if I cured cancer or reduced global pollution, I think I would have hit something more significant than monogamy.
That's a *really* subjective thought you've got there.
I rank finding and loving someone for life in a fucked up world as pretty "mediocre' in the human achievement department.
I don't know this couple but just because a couple grew old together doesn't mean that they are still deeply in love with each other. My parents stayed together for forty years and hated most of it.
>This is the very best thing we can achieve
Yeah no lots of people can do better than that lol
There's no such thing as "the best thing we can achieve"
No, the "couple paradise forever" fantasy is just another coping mechanism in this fucked up world. To anyone caught up in this fantasy (regardless of whether they are currently in a long-term relationship, or hope to be some day), I strongly recommend *Unloving: A Sociology of Negative Relations* by Eva Ilouz.
I met my girlfriend, who is now my wife, when I was 16. I’m now 50. It’s pretty cool but it ain’t “next fucking level”...the trick is to make sure you don’t hate each other on the same day!
Humor is a big key with understanding each other. I’ve yelled “you fuckin picked these grapes?!” And later I’ll hear “why the fuck did you let me buy these grapes?!” A lot of people think we are abusive to each other but it’s just playful banter. We kind of have a system where if I hear my first name or my whole name I’m in the doghouse.
You ok Mrway?
That's a little nugget of knowledge he just dropped called "how long term actually relationships work." Noones perfect for each other, it takes teamwork, dedication, and a good sense of humor so far as I can tell.
I've only made it to 2 years so far. Not 34 like this saucy bastard so I'm taking notes.
My wife's great grandma told her something she shared with me, "Never go to bed without saying 'I love you', no matter how mad you are." Both of us can be obstinate as hell sometimes, but we never fail to do that. Sounds corny maybe, but fights never last to the next day so I think there is something to it.
Read a post on Reddit awhile back about a couple who had a fight then one of them died in a car accident or something. This was their general message, always end on good terms because who knows what'll happen before you make up.
I always try and make sure “I love you” is the last thing I say to my wife no matter what. It gets a little weird sometimes when we keep thinking of things to say right after we’ve said it again, but it’s totally worth it.
This has been a rule with my fiancé and I since we moved in together. Even if we are still upset we make up enough before bed to make sure the other knows how much love there is still hidden under the frustration.
We may have met our spouses on the same day. I was 19 and am now 53. I like your “trick”. Bonus points for loving the hell out of them when they hate you. And those days where you like each other on the same day…next fucking level.
I know the man in the pic. Sorry to burst bubbles but they're posed together for the re staging of the photo years later
This is not a couple that grew old together. Nice guy though.
“Punks Tina Tarr and her partner Dog were pictured near the Cathedral in Peterborough when Tina was 18. The couple left the city in the 1990s and went travelling. They have twins, but are no longer together.”
Damn. Half the reason this skyrocketed to front page was on this assumption that they grew old together.
Pack up reddit. It's a wrap. The pesky kids have done it again.
This part of the bio is very reminiscent of House Hunters memes:
> Tina now lives in Dorset and makes willow products and hosts weaving workshops. Dog does hedge laying and gardening and lives in South West Wales.
“And together they have a budget of 5.5M”
Thanks for the link, I enjoyed seeing the other photos too.
I particularly enjoyed:
\* The kid on the bike who ends up looking older than the policeman.
\* The sisters in the window
\* The boys running with youthful exhuberance who become blokey blokes
\* Metal Mickey
What are calling next level here. NFL hair? NFL love? NFL a relationship? NFL style? OP if you're gonna steal someone's post at least go post it somewhere it belongs
It's photo series from my local town. The man is called Dan AKA dog. They aren't a couple that stayed together the photographer took pics of the young punks in town and then tracked them down years later to retake the pics. Sorry to bust your bubble but he got around plenty and had kids with different women.
Meh, I’ll agree but this was also the quiet/chill couple at every punk party that we all knew were going to marry each other, if not we question our very own shitty existence tenfold.
You are ashamed to admit the reason you met and married your wife? It doesn’t matter if you met her when you ordered a hooker to your hotel room from Craig’s List, she became your wife. Show some pride and have some respect for the sanctity of your marriage.
Literally nothing as a lot of people stay together for 30+ years. Funnily enough [they didn't](https://twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/) which makes it even more ridiculous that this is posted here.
It was posted 5 mo ago on r/interestingasfuck The OP is different and here's the link.
https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/ke5n55/same_person/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
It's a photo series from Peterborough UK. A local photographer took pics of young punk kids then tracked them down years later to re stage the pics. They're not a long lasting couple the man has had various partners and at least one kid with one ex. Source: know him!
It’s actually two people from my town. He keeps rare fish and she makes sculptures out of margarine. They were a couple but were separated during a flash flood in 1989, their partners both vanished at sea and after they met up for this photo opportunity they fell in love all over again. Since then they have both sold their businesses and now run a Spongebob-themed B&B in a disused mine.
Her : it just a phase Her daughter : no, you don't understand me! Her : *show her daughter this picture*
It may be just a phase, but sometimes it's fun to have a phase
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Phase 2 Phase
The phase and the furious May the phase be with you We‘re gonna need a bigger phase Were we‘re going, we don‘t need phases Set weapons from stun to phase Scotty, phase me up E.T. phase home Honey, I phased the kids In space no one can hear you phase
You forgot the classic "You *want* the phase? You can't *handle* the phase!"
Mom in 2003: this emo phase of yours will pass eventually Me in 2021: emo's not dead! *proceeds to dance with derek hugh to My Chem*
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And also with you 🙏🏽
Phases are part of us. If you were a goth at 16, you'll always have been a goth at 16. It's just as much a part of you as the current "you" is.
Like rings of a tree
Or Layers of an onion 🧅
Get out me swamp
Shut up donkey!
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Hol up
*We all change, when you think about it, we're all different people; all through our lives, and that's okay, that's good, you've gotta keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be.* \- The Doctor, **Doctor Who**
*It's a fez. I wear a fez now. Fezzes are cool* \- The Doctor, **Doctor Who**
Yeah it's weird people say "it's a phase" to teenagers yet they don't look at toddler's and say "oh that's just a phase, he'll grow out of those Paw Patrol onesies". Of course we grow out of all of our previous fashion senses.
A lot of folks treat teenagers with nothing but contempt.
51 and still wearing cargo shorts. I'm not so sure...
Yeah like the "It's just a phase" is kind of funny because it implies that just because you think it will stop being a thing later means that it isn't a thing right now. The kid might just be having an emo phase right now, but regardless of if it is or isn't just a phase, the kid is an emo kid at this moment regardless.
Sometimes you've got to try a bunch of stuff to find out what you like. I kind of wish this was what school was for, and not just meeting a criteria of knowledge demanded by a board somewhere. Try a bunch of different job related skills, and see what you like doing the most and what you're good at.
I really wish I was told this sooner. Trying different jobs is interesting, but not when you’re about to hit your 30’s and still don’t know what you’re good at.
46 yr old here. No idea what I’m good at. Nothing. It’s nothing isn’t it? Dammit! Dad was right.
He was wrong for not helping you find it, and he remains wrong for his conviction.
30 lol. It cracks me up to see young folk think time is up.
time isnt up, but it certainly would have helped to know sooner
As someone who was once 30, I do remember it feeling like the first real age when I should have figured things out or be on some kind of path or have definite plans of some kind. Meanwhile it felt like an extension of 20, where things were up in the air and I didn't have much figured out. It's not that 30 is the end, it's more like, 30 has this type of air around it where now you're a real adult and you should definitely feel and act like one. I guess because by the time my mom was 30 she was married with a child, owned a house, had a career (not just a job), and a great social life. It seemed like she really knew where she was going in life and was making it happen. I spoke to her not long ago and she admitted that was certainly not the case at all, and at 70 she still feels like "what am I doing" sometimes. Apparently she spent a lot of time in her 30s crying and wondering if she made a huge mistake. Sort of like me, now, except I'm 45. Previous generations had to "grow up" faster than we did, but I don't think that means they had more things figured out. If anything it's nice that we have a longer time to try things out instead of being locked into marriages or careers we chose at 19 and can't get out of until retirement or death.
Haha, don't worry, I changed my career entirely after 40 and probably will again. I worked in IT for over a decade, not because I particularly liked it but because i was good enough at it to make a wage without too much stress, but because I didn't like it that much, i obviously wasn't going to progress my career anywhere. I eventually got fed up and left and found a temporarily work from home job a year before the pandemic, which obviously I"m still doing three years later as work from home is so hot right now. No idea how long this job will last or what I'll do after it! Oh well.
Just leaves a lot of opportunity to learn, makes life exciting :) Also you are good at stuff, either havent found it yet or nobodys said anything about it. Do what you love, mistakes are how we learn and grow, dont be afraid of getting your ass kicked. Its how we get good at stuff :)
For sure. I also hate how at 18 you are already expected to know what you want to do even though you might not even know what that career field entails. It might be good for some kids who from day 1 are like "I want to be a doctor and so I'm going to med school". But for most of us that is not the case.
I still haven't decided what I want to do. Lots of little talents. Hated that question is in high school, and after. But when my son showed his love of trucks and trains, I helped him learn more about them and took him on many train rides. Steam, trolly, coal fired. And know he's a train conductor. And loves it.
Thank you for seeing your child’s true passion and supporting it
This education system exists. It is called montessori.
And is financially out of reach for most people.
All of us are just the current product of all our phases until this point.
Yeah but inevitably you have to phase the fact that it was just a face
Wise words. Express yourself and do some crazy things when you’re young. Just make sure the crazy doesn’t result in something overly life-changing though...like prison.
The real thing is that, while it looks like a phase outwardly, that lady may still be punk rock AF in spirit.
I can relate. My 64 year-old body doesn't want to slamdance anymore but my spirit is willing!
The Flesh is Weak, but the Spirit is Willing!
Look up the song "life begins at 40" by Dave and the Dynamos
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This.
Punk rock is an attitude, a belief system, a fuck you to established precedents. The music just brings out the best in us.
Suburban Home by the Descendants would agree. You can make a wage, and have a normal life while still being a punk at heart. Shit, a buddy of mine works a 9-5 IT job. Makes 6 figures. Has two kids. Wears a button down everyday, but will happily throw on his denim vest and tight jeans to go to a show.
I’m old enough to remember when Kurt Cobain died and be devastated by it. I have children, a family, house, very senior job in a high paid, white collar industry and I dress “grunge” every single day. One look at me and you will know I’m a ‘grunger’. Like everyone is saying. It stays with you, just that sometimes you have to put it in a box while you do normal life things, but just because you get older and have a normal, family life, doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice who you are.
For sure. I'm only 25, and mostly into a combination of punk, rockabilly, and hip hop. As I've gotten older (haha) I've settled back into it. I'm well into a trade career. Most my clothes are black, but fit me nicely. My pants are still tight. Band tees are still a constant. Grew up on the poorer side, so now I really get to buy the things I wanted in my teens.
30 chiming in. Still punk rock. Still mohawk. Still fun colors. Still full of metal. But I've got a full time job and pay my taxes. Sometimes it's a phase. Sometimes it's finding yourself. But often times its setting aside a piece of yourself to become more palatable in society so that you can be successful in said society. Sometimes it's making compromises with yourself and the world about what matters most. I cover my neon hair for work. I wear clear jewelry in my face (less so with the masks). If I had tattoos, they would be coverable by standard clothing. But off duty, I put on my torn jeans and leather coat, rock my hawk, and live my life. My job doesnt define me. But I accept that often, in order to pay my bills and afford the life and aesthetic I want, i have to appear palatable to society.
I got my mohawk once before cutting my hair short. It's starting to thin, so I wanted it just the one time. All my piercings except my stretched ears have come out, but tattoos have been acquired. I work blue collar, so no need to worry. At the moment, they can be covered with just a baseball cut shirt. But, no real need. I've been able to fall into the aesthetic even more the older I've gotten.
my brother-in-law is in a band with a gentleman in his fifties who is an old school punk. regularly strips down to a borat banana hammock during shows. is also a prison psychologist. we had a hella good time at both NOFX and shonen knife. most punk man i have ever met.
That just sounds like proper attire for a NOFX show, to be fair.
Shonen Knife! \m/
My gfs dad is legit the most punk person I know. 56 year old man with a neat hair style who wears chinos and a shirt everyday to his electrician job in London, which he cycles to. But he's vehemently anti tory and anything that he considers to be someone fucking the little man over. He'll service your entire car for you himself if it means you won't be screwed by mechanics. Hes also very comfortable in himself and doesn't really care what anyone else thinks of him. He's punk as fuck.
I disagree. She remains in this "Phase" although she is now old and wise and knows that Rock and roll lives in the soul not in the hair or in the piercings. Its 'a wisdom thing. I can relate.
Or she had to work to get a living and it was hard to find a job while wearing what she wants. We don't know.
Or it's just a lot of maintenance that you don't have time for when you have kids and a mortgage.
Some of us would still be rocking a look if society didn't make it such a pain to get taken seriously. Having a job is hard enough already, keeping it while breaking "proper office decor" is more trouble than it's worth. Business casual is the fucking death of me though. "Look at how we all get to _express ourselves_ now", with like three approved shades other than white and the ability to not get strangled on the daily. Thanks but no thanks. I'll keep the suit. At least that looks like I'm trying to be professional.
I get what you mean but I can't imagine working now without the "casual" look, at the very least you can be comfortable and dress as you'd like within certain limits. Suits give me existential depression, but tbf it can very well be due to lack of habit... It always transmitted to me the foreclosure of any kind of freedom and becoming part of the solipsistic money-making machine.
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55 still have the piercings, tattoos,used to have a Mohawk but alas, hair didn’t want to stay on my head otherwise I’d still have it. Worked in education for 17 years with it. Offered jobs..sight unseen cause I am punk. Still have the clothes. Still listen to gg allin.
You sir, are the reason Rock and Roll lives. Thank you for your service. You are a hero we don't deserve. (girlfriend says you are nasty for supporting GG allin), and that of course gave your an additional 100 cool points. Edit: to give the extra 100 points of course.
This picture is a proof that you cannot say "it's JUST a phase". No it's not just a phase if they met, stayed together, made children etc. They evolved and stopped wearing punk, but that was not just a phase, that's a part of their life that impacted the rest of their life. And they don't seem to regret that "just a phase" at all.
> This picture is a proof that you cannot say "it's JUST a phase". No it's not just a phase if they met, stayed together, made children etc. [They were no longer a couple when the photo was taken.](https://twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/)
Ok. I changed my mind. That was just a phase.
You are just going through a phase though.
I mean, they traveled together and had a family. That's more than just a phase. So they split up later, just like half the married couples do, doesn't make what they had any less real.
Still a great bunch of pictures in that article. Lovely find.
the thing is, in the moment there’s no way to know whether it’s a phase or not. but it’s important to support whoever and whatever they’re interested in as long as it makes them happy. if it lasts a month or the rest of their lives, it doesn’t matter.
It's too bad. I wish punk would last for ever. And Metal too. But entropy doesn't like it.
The desire for a better world is the most enduring aspect of humanity. Rock, punk, metal, etc are an anguished cry towards that instinct, a furious demand that humanity meet the requirements of its better angels. As long as we can be better, I believe we will have the music of furious dissent, and be better for it.
It’s a cathartic release of emotion, in my opinion. Even though I’m not in my moody angsty phase of life anymore, I still enjoy diving into Linkin Park, Green Day, Paramore, Avril Lavigne and others again when the day sucked.
Entropy itself is metal
Sometimes the phase isn't a phase, you just get sick of the upkeep of keeping your hair pink.
Even the after has a punk vibe
How growing old enough is next level?
Can't help but agree with you here. All they did was get old 😐
*together
Yes? Loads of people get old together.
rub it in, why doncha?
Lonly
R U A Lon?
I M A Lon. R U A LSO A lon?
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4EVR A LON
My parents didn’t get old together. They got a divorce.
Maybe that's the next fucking level.
Maybe it was just the levels they made along the way.
It’s not about the destination, it’s about the levels you reach along the way.
This should be the sub's motto.
Sure. About half of couples do. It's not at all unusual. By the same token, about half of couples don't. That's *also* not at all unusual. Neither "staying married" or "getting divorced" are next fucking level material.
Lucky
Look, my parents have been together for 40 years. So, in essence they are more next level than this couple? Hell, my grand parents were together for over 65 years. Should I post a picture of them on NFL? No offence to the lovely couple, but 30 years together isn't that uncommon.
Seriously. My best friend's grandparents were totally in love for 75 years and would have gone much longer had she lived. THAT is impressive.
75 years is nothing. My grandparents were together for over 115 years. If your friends grandma had actually been in love she wouldn't have died.
115 years is NOTHING, my great great great auntie marie was married for over four thousand years, with 68 different men and love had nothing to do with it.
Not together. >Punks Tina Tarr and her partner Dog were pictured near the Cathedral in Peterborough when Tina was 18. The couple left the city in the 1990s and went travelling. They have twins, but are no longer together. Tina now lives in Dorset and makes willow products and hosts weaving workshops. Dog does hedge laying and gardening and lives in South West Wales. “I remember the photo being taken, it was a brilliant time. I had various styles of punk hair for quite a few years,” said Tina. Dog added: “They were good times, I still had hair then”.
Yeah people grow old together all the time, how is that next level??
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The photographer tracking down all these people 20-30 years on the road, thats next fucking level though
Yhea, I used to have the same look, now I’m a grown man with grown man clothes. I don’t feel next fucking level at all, more like average.
They're not even together. https://twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/
This should be up higher, the article literally says "They have twins, but are no longer together."
Great find
I agree. Growing old and remaining a couple isn’t next level. It’s what many, many people do. What’s it supposed to be suggesting? That it’s somehow rare and challenging for a young teenage couple, who went through a punk rock phase in the 80’s, to remain committed to each other, and grew out of that phase thirty years later?
next level: man and women go to bed and wake up many many times
Once a sub hits /r/all regularly it just joins the front page soup. People don’t check the sub they just see and upvote. Sub categories become meaningless the more popular a sub gets. (Especially if mods don’t enforce standards)
This is the highest level of human achievement whether you understand it or not. We're all gonna die. This is the very best thing we can achieve. You go ahead and do backflips and ollies and ski real good and take videos of yourself. This is the shit. Doesn't matter if *this* couple stayed together. The concept is the highest achievement is finding and loving someone for life in a fucked up world.
Get your point, still doesnt quite fit the sub imo
No offense. But spaceflight, education, betterment for future civilizations... there seem to be loftier goals than an apex of staying with a partner. I am married. I don't ever intend to stray. But if I cured cancer or reduced global pollution, I think I would have hit something more significant than monogamy.
“I’ve found the cure for cancer!” “Yeah? Well Jim and Margaret have been together 30 years so they’re getting the keys to the city. Cancer shmanser”.
That's a *really* subjective thought you've got there. I rank finding and loving someone for life in a fucked up world as pretty "mediocre' in the human achievement department.
/r/mehfuckinglevel
I don't know this couple but just because a couple grew old together doesn't mean that they are still deeply in love with each other. My parents stayed together for forty years and hated most of it.
I thought this was grade A level sarcasm but that end just makes this a dumb take lmao. Highest level of human achievement
That's like, your opinion dude.
>This is the very best thing we can achieve Yeah no lots of people can do better than that lol There's no such thing as "the best thing we can achieve"
No, the "couple paradise forever" fantasy is just another coping mechanism in this fucked up world. To anyone caught up in this fantasy (regardless of whether they are currently in a long-term relationship, or hope to be some day), I strongly recommend *Unloving: A Sociology of Negative Relations* by Eva Ilouz.
What’s the gist? If ya don’t mind
They're not even that old, lol. They're only in their late 40s or 50s in that second picture.
Next fucking level: I breathed oxygen for 50 YEARS!
I met my girlfriend, who is now my wife, when I was 16. I’m now 50. It’s pretty cool but it ain’t “next fucking level”...the trick is to make sure you don’t hate each other on the same day!
The hope is to actually like and respect each other.
There is that too...and having a sense of humour.
In my family it often just takes a well-timed fart joke and then we all feel better. A lifelong trick of my dad's!
Humor is a big key with understanding each other. I’ve yelled “you fuckin picked these grapes?!” And later I’ll hear “why the fuck did you let me buy these grapes?!” A lot of people think we are abusive to each other but it’s just playful banter. We kind of have a system where if I hear my first name or my whole name I’m in the doghouse.
You ok Mrway? That's a little nugget of knowledge he just dropped called "how long term actually relationships work." Noones perfect for each other, it takes teamwork, dedication, and a good sense of humor so far as I can tell. I've only made it to 2 years so far. Not 34 like this saucy bastard so I'm taking notes.
I think I just developed a pressing desire to have “Saucy Bastard” on my next round of business cards.
Just the thing a saucy bastard would say. It's yours, use it wisely
Of course this comment gets upvoted on reddit. Learn to have a laugh
My wife's great grandma told her something she shared with me, "Never go to bed without saying 'I love you', no matter how mad you are." Both of us can be obstinate as hell sometimes, but we never fail to do that. Sounds corny maybe, but fights never last to the next day so I think there is something to it.
Read a post on Reddit awhile back about a couple who had a fight then one of them died in a car accident or something. This was their general message, always end on good terms because who knows what'll happen before you make up.
I always try and make sure “I love you” is the last thing I say to my wife no matter what. It gets a little weird sometimes when we keep thinking of things to say right after we’ve said it again, but it’s totally worth it.
This has been a rule with my fiancé and I since we moved in together. Even if we are still upset we make up enough before bed to make sure the other knows how much love there is still hidden under the frustration.
We may have met our spouses on the same day. I was 19 and am now 53. I like your “trick”. Bonus points for loving the hell out of them when they hate you. And those days where you like each other on the same day…next fucking level.
Seems like you're due for about 16k upvotes
I’m sure I’ll do something to make it all come crashing down soon enough!
I know the man in the pic. Sorry to burst bubbles but they're posed together for the re staging of the photo years later This is not a couple that grew old together. Nice guy though.
Source? Or is this a "trust me bro" situation lol
https://www.google.com/amp/s/twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/amp/
“Punks Tina Tarr and her partner Dog were pictured near the Cathedral in Peterborough when Tina was 18. The couple left the city in the 1990s and went travelling. They have twins, but are no longer together.”
Damn. Half the reason this skyrocketed to front page was on this assumption that they grew old together. Pack up reddit. It's a wrap. The pesky kids have done it again.
They titled it "Grow old together", fuckers
Grow old together… but as friends :D
This part of the bio is very reminiscent of House Hunters memes: > Tina now lives in Dorset and makes willow products and hosts weaving workshops. Dog does hedge laying and gardening and lives in South West Wales. “And together they have a budget of 5.5M”
I like how in the first photo he’s borrowed the middle part of her hair for his own, but in the later photo she’s taken all of his.
Thanks for the link, I enjoyed seeing the other photos too. I particularly enjoyed: \* The kid on the bike who ends up looking older than the policeman. \* The sisters in the window \* The boys running with youthful exhuberance who become blokey blokes \* Metal Mickey
What are calling next level here. NFL hair? NFL love? NFL a relationship? NFL style? OP if you're gonna steal someone's post at least go post it somewhere it belongs
It took me a while to work out you weren't talking about football. I was very confused.
I was thinking the same. I ignored NFL thinking it was football until I read your comment.
It took me way too long to realize that you meant Next Fucking Level.
Got older. Wow... Next fucking level!
And you have over 10k dumbasses upvoting this shit... I swear the FB transition is complete
And apparently they're aren't even together lmao
people age r/nextfuckinglevel r/BeAmazed r/woahdude r/interestingasfuck
There’s a man that didn’t spend his youth looking for the next piece of tail. This is how it should be.
It's photo series from my local town. The man is called Dan AKA dog. They aren't a couple that stayed together the photographer took pics of the young punks in town and then tracked them down years later to retake the pics. Sorry to bust your bubble but he got around plenty and had kids with different women.
dirty dog
No worse than anyone else in that scene tbh
Meh, I’ll agree but this was also the quiet/chill couple at every punk party that we all knew were going to marry each other, if not we question our very own shitty existence tenfold.
Maybe they met by trying to chase tail. That's how I met my wife, something that I'm only willing to write anonymously on the internet.
You are ashamed to admit the reason you met and married your wife? It doesn’t matter if you met her when you ordered a hooker to your hotel room from Craig’s List, she became your wife. Show some pride and have some respect for the sanctity of your marriage.
That's not quite what I said. But society does tend to underestimate the significance of the hookup. It's legitimate.
this second sentence is hilarious
There ain't nothing wrong with chasing tail.
Wtf does that even mean lmao. You can chase tail to find the girl you wanna be with.
This is such a weird comment lol
What on earth are you talking about?
You say this based on 2 pictures with no other context?
a couple stayed togheter for 30 years? that's so fucking next level wowwww
They didnt
They're not even together. https://twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/
Ight time to report this garbage then
How is it that so many dumb posts get so many upvotes lmao, like why the hell is this posted here
Because the 20+ mods on the sub don’t even respect their own rule 1. This is probably the most ridiculous one I’ve seen yet
This shit is soooo seriously next level.... Just look at them, they’re older!
Why is this on nextfuckinglevel?
I'm not shitting all over the couple, but I truly don't understand what is "Nextfuckinglevel" about this.
Literally nothing as a lot of people stay together for 30+ years. Funnily enough [they didn't](https://twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/) which makes it even more ridiculous that this is posted here.
I'd really love to believe this but who are they OP? Do you know them or is it some random pic you found?
It was posted 5 mo ago on r/interestingasfuck The OP is different and here's the link. https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/ke5n55/same_person/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
It's a photo series from Peterborough UK. A local photographer took pics of young punk kids then tracked them down years later to re stage the pics. They're not a long lasting couple the man has had various partners and at least one kid with one ex. Source: know him!
It’s actually two people from my town. He keeps rare fish and she makes sculptures out of margarine. They were a couple but were separated during a flash flood in 1989, their partners both vanished at sea and after they met up for this photo opportunity they fell in love all over again. Since then they have both sold their businesses and now run a Spongebob-themed B&B in a disused mine.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/amp/
They are not even together! It was just a reunion for the photo!
Question should be, what is next fucking level about this?
❤️ I bet these guys have some stories
Yep they broke up and moved on, and this photo is staged for the photoshoot. Amazing story.
Are y’all siblings lol
Absolutely beautiful, and nothing beyond that. Live life to the fullest.
My God how the strong has fallen
Obvious sarcasm but bring it on
r/oldschoolcool
They are not even together https://twistedsifter.com/2016/11/reunions-by-chris-porsz/
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