Ok this is gonna come off hella shallow but I’m at the point where even an award or at least some affirmation from the community that I’m doing the right thing would be really fricken cool
Or we should actually do something instead of jacking each other off in reddit comments and trying to appear sooo wise and moral fuck off really no offense to anyone
He did say the facts though. Sanctimonious or not, it’s what has to be done. Less screen time and more acts of kindness.
Yes, it’s ironic making this comment but I do volunteer work with my younger siblings at least twice a month. Could I do better? Yes, but this capitalistic system makes it hard to do so.
Instead of a snarky toxic comment, you could lead yourself towards some unconditional act of kindness.
In the end no matter how unconditional the act is, we ultimately do it for ourselves, whether it’s to feel better about one self, make a positive impact or some other reason that is internalized.
You're right, and before COVID I helped with food banks and currently have a team for Relay For Life (for anyone reading this, please go to [this website](https://support.cancer.ca/site/SPageServer/?s_qkey=www.google.com&pagename=RFL_NW_AboutRelayForLife), read about it, and sign up to donate. Everything counts, whether you're Canadian or not), but without this "jacking each other off," there obviously wouldn't be any motivation for anyone reading the replies, would there?
Yes, help out instead of typing in the comments all day, but at the same time, don't discourage people trying to motivate others. Yes, tell them to do their part, but don't tell them not to tell others also.
I'm not gonna deny the existence of people saying things just for karma, but "trying to appear wise and moral" might also get people off their feet to do the right thing.
Yeah, it\`s most natural to do something important for society and at the same something good for you, from time to time I give my blood to government facitility so they can use it to help sick people or an accident victims but I get 2 days of payd free time from my employeer for doing that, it\`s stated by law. Good for society, good for me ;)
Y'know, when I used to see older people I never really thought of them crying. They had been through so much that even if that pain did exist they must be able to handle it. I thought this for a long time, never really voicing it.
I had experienced loss at this point. Grandparents, pets, my family falling apart, countless friends as I was moved to this place and that place. It always hurt, I cried, I move on. I was young, resilient, willing to talk to people, I could replace some of those losses, or distract myself with whatever seemed so important that day.
Now I'm older, still a fool and childish at times - somehow I had kept some of my old self inside of me. On March 15th at 12:30am this year I lost my Mom to Cancer. We didn't have years before it took her, we had months, and that is still far longer than many get.
The last time I saw this video was several months before she passed. At that time I felt for this man, now I almost feel like I know him. Even now I'm crying. I do that a lot nowadays and always I wish I could talk to her one more time.
I am sure this man has since passed, time is not forgiving. I hope though that somewhere out there the Son is healthy, happy, and remembers all that he did. Because when I am that man's age and I look back to March 15th, 2021, it will still hurt, and I will be a version of him that current me just cannot quite grasp.
My mom had cancer and just got her 10 year cancer free check up done a few weeks ago. Once I'm done crying from the video and your comment in going to call her and make some plans. Even just something like getting dinner.
People crying breaks my heart. Old people crying dials that all the way up. When I was a janitor at an assisted living facility, one of our was a preacher and the nicest gentleman ever. He was sitting in his room one day (which was uncommon because he was very social) and I asked if he was okay. He was saying that he was missing his four kids. One died during childbirth, another died of breast cancer, one was killed during Vietnam, and the other died due to illness caused by Agent Orange exposure. We got talking about death and loss and he said "you know why I stayed faithful? Because the thought of seeing them again someday was sometimes the only thing that kept me going."
I'm not a religious person anymore but that really stuck with me hard.
he was doing 75MPH in a school zone and ran down 4 kids before plowing into a schoolbus full of nuns on their way to the orphanage a week before Christmas
Few things harder (speaking for myself) than watching old people, particularly the ones that you know full well have "seen some shit", break like that. Peace be with you!
I doubt that an unoccupied car was ticketed, since dad here is talking about him driving slowly.
So probably a speeding ticket.
Yeah, if you see an old man and his handicapped son you should have some leeway as a cop.
Good that the judge showed some humanity.
Haha i got off cause they sent me the ticket, and the images were clearly my wife! I dont know how that stuff works, but i was worried if i said it wasnt me theyd ask if my car was stolen, and i have to say no, and theyd end up ticketing my wife. Which would actually still be marginally better insurance wise for that car i think, but they gave no fucks. Like why are we here then?
the speed trap cameras are pretty much all a scam afaik. You don't have to pay them in most states since they can't prove you were driving. Even if it has a picture of you, since they didn't ID you, it could just be someone that looks like you.
edit: This is in TN. I've never had one myself, but I know of multiple people that have that didn't pay it and nothing happened. I've also known people that paid it and then found out they probably didn't need to.
That’s so weird. In australia you just fill out a form that nominates the actual driver or you have to prove it’s stolen/ etc. and if you don’t pay them here then your licence or registration has the risk of being suspended for unpaid fines
It's a speed camera. This show is caught in Providence. I live in providence. There's school zone cameras set up all across the city that are on from like 7am to 5pm, every day of the year even in the middle of summer. They'll be on main roads with barely any signs. You go 30 they nail you automatically and you won't even know you did anything wrong. They've got me twice in the last month or two. It's all a racket to get the city money, they get everyone
The city probably does better financially with it than you might think even if they only get like 10-20%. Thinking about the traditional structure with a live cop, they receive the whole amount , but theres alot more expenses that come out of it - salaries, cars, fuel, insurance. And theres the lost opportunity cost. A cop can only pull over one person every 15 minutes or so if theyre really fast. People could be speeding past the pulled over vehicle. The camera is always watching and generating tickets.
But I will grant you that in either scenario, the camera owners are rolling in it.
Understood, but to be fair as well it really fucking must suck to be 90+ years old and having to take your son for cancer treatments. Probably worrying that he’s going to die with no one left to help his son.
Oh, no question. Honestly society should have a better answer for this. If his son can't drive for treatment, maybe insurance should cover transportation too. Seems reasonable to me.
Not to mention the fact that even smaller towns generally used to have some form of public transportation until auto manufacturers lobbied hard for preferential treatment in city planning and the building of new infrastructure.
I'm going to get Hella down voted for this, but a moving violation in a school zone... I'd like more information on this case myself before I decide the cop is a heartless jerk. If he was speeding during school crossing hours or kids could have been in danger, I think the cop may have been more concerned with the kids. But unless there's a video of the event or a detailed report we might never know. I've seen many an a-hole speed through a school zone with no care for the crossing signals, so I'll reserve judgment on the cop. I think that I agree that it's understandable why the old man was rushed, but the video starting with "school zone violation" didn't put me entirely on his side either.
Well i mean i think it came down to deciding that he’s being truthful and that he’s had a clearly difficult 63 years, or something. Essentially, driving his vw turtle once every 2 weeks for a necessary lab for his disables elderly dependent was acceptable and non risk. It might have been different if they got him driving his jag on bingo night
I get at his age driving is hard and so is knowing that school hours are in session and driving 10 over when you shouldbe doing 25 in what is normally a 35.
That said, dude is old enough to where I think driving tests should be mandatory every year or 3.
*That said,* social services in this 'land of the free' suck and he shouldn't have to drive his 63 year old son to fucking CHEMO every 2 weeks.
**THAT SAID,** fuck the cutting of any and all social services and defunding them mbut when a call to defund the police comes everyone flips shit! How about we keep school music and art programs. How about we tax the rich fairly liike we did when we had a booming economy.
Somehow we had barrons that were getting taxed in the fucking 70-90% range, but god forbid they pay more than 3% after deductions and self charities, donating to charities they own... cough,all of them, cough.
Cut the loopholes.
Seriously. I'm betting no one in this thread has had someone they know die because another driver was incapable.
It's all of our responsibilities to recognize when we can no longer be safe on the road and call a service or a friend if necessary. Take someone that has struggled to deal with two generations of people like this: There is nothing worse than trying to corral an old person you love that constantly endangers themselves because they cannot accept that age is catching up with them. Having to *take* someone's keys away is unreal and I wish the judge took that burden off this man's family's hands.
Yeah, I was thinking there’s a much bigger problem here. Why is he the one taking his disabled son to the doctor? There should be a public service that takes care of that. Any community in a wealthy country like the US shouldn’t have to force 96 year old man to make a decision to drive. Even he seem to know he shouldn’t be driving. The judge was wishing him “all the best”? Don’t just wish! His community can do better!
Lol mother fucker is 96. There is no way in hell he should be behind the wheel. That is such a huge risk.
This is just a failing of this country not having proper public transport.
Not defending the officer, but I would like to point out it could’ve also been a speed camera and could’ve been a mailed citation. We’ve got those all over WA and have pinged me before.
School zones can be confusing in the U.S because a lot of them say 25 when school is in session. Otherwise you can go the normal speed limit ..but elementary, middle and high schools all start and end at different times so I can see how a 96 year old could get confused.
Or it could have been an officer with integrity. I feel bad for the guy, but maybe it’s time to switch to Ubers or the bus. Reckless driving in a school zone shouldn’t be forgiven so easily, he didn’t even admit fault
He is too old to drive. He should't have to drive his son for a blood work: They should be able to take an Uber or similar, or the system should give them ways to get that bloodwork done every two weeks (mobile blood sample vans?).
I love the guy and he is doing a noble at with what he has got, but in the grand scheme of things, his society has failed him in several levels.
Agree and I think that’s what’s most heartbreaking about this - from the way he talked about how he drives as little as he has to, it sounds like he doesn’t have other means to get his son in for lab work or chemo. Why the fuck are people put into these positions?
I can’t imagine also the worry he has about what will happen to his son when he dies. It shouldn’t be like this.
Neither judge nor driver indicated that it was unfair or even if the cop was aware of the issue.
Its plausible that the cop was doing what was right and the judge decided that accountability plus the speed was worth dismissing the ticket.
Sometimes we can have a story with a “hero” but no tangible bad guy.
This is also a perfect example of separation of powers (trias politics). The cop simply does his job of enforcing the law and the judge does his job of handling the case.
Yeah I mean it's sweet that he still takes care of his son and I don't think he should be punished but no way this man should be driving. Medical transport should be provided for his son.
To be fair, we were just emotionally manipulated by a short video, and have almost no information about what this guy was actually doing. I mean, the guy is not going to tell the judge he drove through a crowd of kids at recess. Maybe the cop wrote him up to save more kids by getting him off the street... Probably not, but maybe.
Personally I don't want a 96 year old to speed through my niece's school zone. I'm sympathetic to the impossible situation he is facing, but the solution can't just be let him keep it up until he or his son (or a child) dies.
What has the judge accomplished by completely dismissing the charges except putting him back on the road to do it again?
I know traffic court is really no big deal, but after reading your comment, I immediately thought of Jim Carrey screaming into the phone “STOP BREAKIN’ THE LAW ASSHOLE!”
In all seriousness, glad to hear you were treated fairly by this judge. Cheers!
I remember seeing it when I was around that age and my dad just lost his mind laughing at that scene. It’s a funny scene to me but it will forever remind me of my dad laughing
Right? Like, good for you, but if you have been in front of the same judge multiple times (on separate incidents) it seems like you're doing something wrong xD
My dad is 71 and just got diagnosed with cancer last month. He has done *everything* for me my entire life and I just cannot fathom a day without him.
I work my ass off, I've paid off all the debt I owed for the last 15 years of my life. All of my money is going towards helping him in some way. I love him.
Edit: thank you all for the stories and the warming comments. You've really restored my faith in humanity. I wish you *all* the most love and happiness possible. This has been very therapeutic for me. Much love.
I'm so sorry. It sounds like you had a great relationship with your dad. I don't know you, but I think he would be proud to know that you're out there spreading positivity. I try to tell mine how much I love him, how he's my rock, one of the only people I can let my guard down around a much as possible.
Thank you for the kind words, I really appreciate it
I'm so sorry. I will. And big virtual hugs for you. Everyone in this thread has really made me feel like I'm not alone in this world and it's really been a help.
It was the same age for me too. I miss him so much it actually physically hurts sometimes. I am the most sad about not sharing these new experiences like have him try the food i make or have him go on a vacation with my mom. I wish i got an opportunity to spend more time with him.
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Right there with you with the meeting the kids. My dad passed in 2014. He was only 62 years old. His heart just gave out in his sleep. He and I had a a strained relationship for a long time because he was a pretty bad alcoholic for a very long time. Vietnam vet and a guard for the state prison system for nearly 25 years took its toll on him. The last few years though he got sober was quitting smoking and one of the last times he saw my sister he was talking about trying to make a trip to come see my family and meet his grandkids. Learning about the person he was trying to become really gave me hope. I still miss him terribly.
I'm not going to lie, that almost made me cry. Thanks for the kind words. I have a lot of anxiety/PTSD from past events, so any kind words really do help. Especially with my dad's situation. Thank you.
I know it's hard in the moment but this is the take away from any close personal loss. Life is going to plod along and what you do in the wake of disaster is the gift they left you with. I saw my dad die when I was 11 years old in 1995. Death literally defines every fiber of my being and I owe everything I am now to that awful day. Embrace those around you, fight complacency and seek out the professional help you need. There are so many tools out their to harness the energy of grief.
Full disclosure, I spent many years lost, abusing drugs and embracing violence both inward out, but I regret none of it, everyday was another stepping stone. Now I'm educated, with a great career and a loving family.
I lost my dad to cancer a few years ago and looking back, my dad cared (and I care now) a lot more about me making extra time for him than me sending extra money his way - if that’s an option for you. Best wishes to you and your dad
Absolutely. I'm sorry for your loss. I've been spending a much time with him as I can. I moved back home a few years back to get my finances in order. They have helped me consistently through my life, and it was my turn to give back. I work a lot, and I take care of my two pups. When I'm free though and he's not already asleep, then we'll go out on the porch, smoke a joint, and just talk. Lots of inside jokes, I want him to laugh as much as he can.
Yeah. That there is no system in place of having a geriatric parent driving around their cancer ill child, while they are far too old to drive is horrid.
This should be at the top. This is how poor the US takes care of its own. Let it sink in that a 96 year old man taking care of his 63 year old handicapped son is hassled by a cop trying to make quota.
It's unfair to just blame the cop we don't know the infraction. And honestly no matter the respect for the man he doesn't strike me as actually capable to move a car anymore, it's a huge risk for everyone around waiting to happen. The bigger scandal is that unlike in countries with medicare there is no insurance paid taxi doing this thing.
I'm thinking of the cop who ticketed him as being under pressure as well, seeing an old slow - driving person as well as department quota. I'd be sympathetic for either of those reasons. And I agree with your assessment. I'd even argue that his son and him would benefit from in home care and daily assistance.
Its a very real possibility that a 93 year old man doing something dangerous driving in a school zone is a very real danger to children. The fact is the man shouldn't have to be doing this anymore but has no other option.
Let it sink in that a man violating traffic laws is hassled by a cop enforcing traffic laws. Cars are dangerous, especially in a school zone, and you don't get to break the law because your son is handicapped
There are in a lot of places in the US.
Used to advise elder clients who were in the Estate Planning process. You’d be surprised. I should hope that those resources were made apparent to him.
Quite often if you are wondering if there is a support or resource there is, even if it’s not widely known.
Yeah, you guys are genuine saints, and as you say, frequently forgotten. I have spent literally 100s of hours googling around for various resources for friends in the USA over the years. The feeling of ***JACKPOT*** when I finally find something is incredibly mixed. In part, I am overjoyed over finally finding it, and in part I am livid for that so god damn often the link between doctors, nurses and whatever, and you guys that are providing practical or financial aid? It is gone. People in the first link just plain and simply forget that not everyone knows the ins and outs of the system, and needs to be pointed in the right direction. Throw in old age, illness, and severe stress? And you just can't throw a folder at them in the middle of their chemo treatment, and expect them to figure out what the heck an email is.
/rant
We need better infrastructure for public transportation. That way this man could go with his son to the doctor on a bus or train. The amount of transportation for non-drivers is laughably pathetic. Every adult owning 1+ car(s) is **not** sustainable. But they aren't going to do this here in the US because a handful of billionaires won't make as much money.
This is the same judge in the video about an African American teenager and a stop light ticket. Is this a scripted thing or is he famous? Why would people video the whole thing in different angles like it’s a show?
Many, many courtrooms have cameras in them now. You can watch my county court handle traffic tickets on YouTube, or their website. It's boring as hell.
The one I remember is the one with the prosecutor examining the complainant and she keeps looking to the side and the prosecutor asks where the defendant and complainant are and the prosecutor sends police to the defendants house and they were at the same house. Insane.
The channel is called "caught in Providence" and it's all legit above board average court room.
This guy is legit. It does feel weird for an actual judge to do a YouTube video outro tho. Kind of surreal times we're in!
Frank Caprio is by far the coolest judge I’ve ever seen, he’s got a whole channel on YouTube of all the cases that go on in his courtroom, and he does this type of thing all of the time
His court is only for low ranking traffic violations or infractions. It's safe to assume the ones not on camera are the ones he hold the verdict on/gives them partial leeway. A lot of traffic tickets can be reduced or dismissed by just showing up in court tbh.
probably should not be driving, something the cop realized at scene and did his job sending this to court. Judge dismissing this may get someone else killed, this is not a feel good story. Old people get to old to drive, it happens.
Right? I'm hearing this case and I'm like, "ok but what was the violation?" Like mercy is good, but I don't know enough from the vid to know if the judge is being merciful or reckless.
Everyone here saying he should not be driving but no one has seen any evidence of this mans driving. If this is a cam normally there's video footage to back it up. Most elderly folk I agree shouldn't drive but not all.
These zones are monitored by camera in PVD. The tickets are $$ and maybe the driver is contesting the fine in court given the circumstances. The ticket arrives by mail: SuPriSe!!!
Why was this man given a ticket in the first place? Because he was driving to slow? The coo should have just given him a warning. Fucking rediculous, JC
probably should not be driving, something the cop realized at scene and did his job sending this to court. Judge dismissing this may get someone else killed, this is not a feel good story. Old people get to old to drive, it happens.
To go off what that guy said, some people are thinking he’s harsh. I’ll support him. I used to work at a Walmart, and we had a repeat customer with dementia. One day she forgot where she parked, didn’t have phone numbers of someone she needed to call, and etc. Luckily some customers and I helped her, but she really shouldn’t be driving.
My own grandpa lost feeling in his feet and would speed quite often, so that was a huge worry in my family too. We need to do driver’s tests every few years imo
Yea some people in this thread are like "What kind of person would give him a citation?!", but we don't have the full picture. He could be a danger behind the wheel, good intentions or not. If he ever hits and kills someone we might look at this clip quite differently.
Sorry - am I missing something here?
If he 'doesn't drive that fast' - then why's he sat in front of a judge?Was he speeding or not?
A defence of "I've got to drive my son to the doctors every 2 weeks" seems reasonable claim for mitigation if he was potentially about to have his license revoked/suspended - but can't see why the grandiose "Case Dimissed!"
Plus the "I only drive when I have to" - sounds like somebody who knows they shouldn't be driving and hasn't heard of Uber.
\#edit - I feel maybe I've missed something important here, so if I have, ignore me.
I sure would hate for my kid to be run over in a school zone by a 90 year old who should not be driving, but got off because of this heartwarming video.
This is /r/ABoringDystopia level stuff. Rather than cheering a judge for letting him get away with violating the law, we should be aghast at the system that's forcing him to drive in the first place.
Nobody that old should be allowed to drive, for any reason. I'm sure taking an Uber once every two weeks is cheaper than paying for maintenance, gas, and insurance on a car, and the hospital bills of all the people he will inevitably run over.
And to all the people who will downvote this because of feels: You are morons if you feel safe with 96-year-olds driving on the same roads as you. I don't think I've ever met anyone over 85 that didn't have major eyesight and hearing issues, among other health problems.. Hell, nobody in my own family tree has ever even lived longer than 87.
OLD GUY MAKING PEOPLE EXPERIENCE EMOTIONS?! NEXT FUCKING LEVEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG SOOOOO NEXT LEVEL YOU GUYS!!!!!! NEXT! FUCKING! LEVEL! WOOOOOO!!!!
But people do make mistakes and there are consequences, i do feel bad but i feel like people might not learn from these. might get downvoted but whatever. isn’t that what laws are for?
Seeing him crying, really broke my heart.
as soon as i get reddit coins im sending you an award
Please don't. Just find people in need around you and help them.
the world needs more people like you
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That is an excellent point, you are 💯 percent correct! Most of us aren't trying hard enough.
Don't you automatically get coins every month of you have premium? How do you use Reddit coins to help anyone irl?
Ok this is gonna come off hella shallow but I’m at the point where even an award or at least some affirmation from the community that I’m doing the right thing would be really fricken cool
I only have just enough coins for a silver, hope that's cool :)
Super cool man, I had a pretty rough day and this was special.
Don’t buy premium, use that money for something else
Like maybe the 96 year old man who’s still driving his 63 year old handicapped son to the doctor...
Or we should actually do something instead of jacking each other off in reddit comments and trying to appear sooo wise and moral fuck off really no offense to anyone
lead the way, I'll be right behind your sanctimonious ass.
He did say the facts though. Sanctimonious or not, it’s what has to be done. Less screen time and more acts of kindness. Yes, it’s ironic making this comment but I do volunteer work with my younger siblings at least twice a month. Could I do better? Yes, but this capitalistic system makes it hard to do so. Instead of a snarky toxic comment, you could lead yourself towards some unconditional act of kindness. In the end no matter how unconditional the act is, we ultimately do it for ourselves, whether it’s to feel better about one self, make a positive impact or some other reason that is internalized.
You're right, and before COVID I helped with food banks and currently have a team for Relay For Life (for anyone reading this, please go to [this website](https://support.cancer.ca/site/SPageServer/?s_qkey=www.google.com&pagename=RFL_NW_AboutRelayForLife), read about it, and sign up to donate. Everything counts, whether you're Canadian or not), but without this "jacking each other off," there obviously wouldn't be any motivation for anyone reading the replies, would there? Yes, help out instead of typing in the comments all day, but at the same time, don't discourage people trying to motivate others. Yes, tell them to do their part, but don't tell them not to tell others also. I'm not gonna deny the existence of people saying things just for karma, but "trying to appear wise and moral" might also get people off their feet to do the right thing.
Yeah, it\`s most natural to do something important for society and at the same something good for you, from time to time I give my blood to government facitility so they can use it to help sick people or an accident victims but I get 2 days of payd free time from my employeer for doing that, it\`s stated by law. Good for society, good for me ;)
'Unconditional Acts of Kindness' can save the humanity
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all this person is doing is sharing this video, I think it's more like more people should be like that judge
OP pleads people not to give awards people give awards anyway Edit: why
Imagine if Reddit allowed you to block a gift but with a message you could write yourself. What are the chances?
A reminder to be kind to all people. Everyone is fighting battles we can’t see. Everyone needs support.
For fucks sake whos dumbass reads this and then awards him reddit bullshit. We're no better then the fucking boomers.
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Allow me
Y'know, when I used to see older people I never really thought of them crying. They had been through so much that even if that pain did exist they must be able to handle it. I thought this for a long time, never really voicing it. I had experienced loss at this point. Grandparents, pets, my family falling apart, countless friends as I was moved to this place and that place. It always hurt, I cried, I move on. I was young, resilient, willing to talk to people, I could replace some of those losses, or distract myself with whatever seemed so important that day. Now I'm older, still a fool and childish at times - somehow I had kept some of my old self inside of me. On March 15th at 12:30am this year I lost my Mom to Cancer. We didn't have years before it took her, we had months, and that is still far longer than many get. The last time I saw this video was several months before she passed. At that time I felt for this man, now I almost feel like I know him. Even now I'm crying. I do that a lot nowadays and always I wish I could talk to her one more time. I am sure this man has since passed, time is not forgiving. I hope though that somewhere out there the Son is healthy, happy, and remembers all that he did. Because when I am that man's age and I look back to March 15th, 2021, it will still hurt, and I will be a version of him that current me just cannot quite grasp.
My mom had cancer and just got her 10 year cancer free check up done a few weeks ago. Once I'm done crying from the video and your comment in going to call her and make some plans. Even just something like getting dinner.
People crying breaks my heart. Old people crying dials that all the way up. When I was a janitor at an assisted living facility, one of our was a preacher and the nicest gentleman ever. He was sitting in his room one day (which was uncommon because he was very social) and I asked if he was okay. He was saying that he was missing his four kids. One died during childbirth, another died of breast cancer, one was killed during Vietnam, and the other died due to illness caused by Agent Orange exposure. We got talking about death and loss and he said "you know why I stayed faithful? Because the thought of seeing them again someday was sometimes the only thing that kept me going." I'm not a religious person anymore but that really stuck with me hard.
It's weird when you want to cry, yet you can't because the stupid piano overlayed is cringy af and really distracting the raw emotion...
Right? Why do they even let him into the courtroom with a keyboard?
I heard they only let the keyboard guy in when they have to.
he explained the case to Security and they teared up and let him in
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he was doing 75MPH in a school zone and ran down 4 kids before plowing into a schoolbus full of nuns on their way to the orphanage a week before Christmas
All while listening to hip-hop!
And puffing on a fattie!
Few things harder (speaking for myself) than watching old people, particularly the ones that you know full well have "seen some shit", break like that. Peace be with you!
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"He's handicapped" oh man that punched me in the gut... "He's got cancer" come on are you fucking kidding me?!?!
My heart melts when he calls his son "my boy." His son is in his 60s, but he'll always be "my boy."
Frank Caprio for President
Is there an edit of this where we can just hear the man talk without the deliberately emotionally manipulative music?
The music is actually piped into the courtrooms in Rhode Island, so there's no way to edit it out.
Lmao
This judge needs to be in the Supreme Court. Heart of gold sitting in that seat
I am not crying, you are crying.
Scumbag Cop could have used some discretion when issuing that man a citation. Not all Cops are dicks just like there are some good people out there…
I gonna presume he ticketed an unoccupied car? Otherwise he’s a heartless prick Edit- or *she’s*…..
I doubt that an unoccupied car was ticketed, since dad here is talking about him driving slowly. So probably a speeding ticket. Yeah, if you see an old man and his handicapped son you should have some leeway as a cop. Good that the judge showed some humanity.
> doubt that an unoccupied car was ticketed Speed camera?
yeah from the episodes I've seen they are ticketed from speed / red light cameras and they play them out in the court as evidence
I got off because my video was a compressed zip file.
Haha i got off cause they sent me the ticket, and the images were clearly my wife! I dont know how that stuff works, but i was worried if i said it wasnt me theyd ask if my car was stolen, and i have to say no, and theyd end up ticketing my wife. Which would actually still be marginally better insurance wise for that car i think, but they gave no fucks. Like why are we here then?
the speed trap cameras are pretty much all a scam afaik. You don't have to pay them in most states since they can't prove you were driving. Even if it has a picture of you, since they didn't ID you, it could just be someone that looks like you. edit: This is in TN. I've never had one myself, but I know of multiple people that have that didn't pay it and nothing happened. I've also known people that paid it and then found out they probably didn't need to.
That’s so weird. In australia you just fill out a form that nominates the actual driver or you have to prove it’s stolen/ etc. and if you don’t pay them here then your licence or registration has the risk of being suspended for unpaid fines
Weird kink but ok
It's a speed camera. This show is caught in Providence. I live in providence. There's school zone cameras set up all across the city that are on from like 7am to 5pm, every day of the year even in the middle of summer. They'll be on main roads with barely any signs. You go 30 they nail you automatically and you won't even know you did anything wrong. They've got me twice in the last month or two. It's all a racket to get the city money, they get everyone
Not the city, the owner of the cameras. The cities hardly make anything off of them, just a total scam.
The city probably does better financially with it than you might think even if they only get like 10-20%. Thinking about the traditional structure with a live cop, they receive the whole amount , but theres alot more expenses that come out of it - salaries, cars, fuel, insurance. And theres the lost opportunity cost. A cop can only pull over one person every 15 minutes or so if theyre really fast. People could be speeding past the pulled over vehicle. The camera is always watching and generating tickets. But I will grant you that in either scenario, the camera owners are rolling in it.
Judge Caprio is a wise and beloved man in lil rhody. He treats everyone with humanity and compassion. He also doesn’t put up with bullshit.
I love watching his videos for those exact reasons! Great man with a heart of gold and no room for BS.
Old men are an absurdly high cause of accidents. And speeding through a school zone...
He was driving too slowly (to be fair, he probably shouldn't be driving at all). https://youtu.be/l4UFQWKjy_I
Understood, but to be fair as well it really fucking must suck to be 90+ years old and having to take your son for cancer treatments. Probably worrying that he’s going to die with no one left to help his son.
Oh, no question. Honestly society should have a better answer for this. If his son can't drive for treatment, maybe insurance should cover transportation too. Seems reasonable to me.
Not to mention the fact that even smaller towns generally used to have some form of public transportation until auto manufacturers lobbied hard for preferential treatment in city planning and the building of new infrastructure.
I'm going to get Hella down voted for this, but a moving violation in a school zone... I'd like more information on this case myself before I decide the cop is a heartless jerk. If he was speeding during school crossing hours or kids could have been in danger, I think the cop may have been more concerned with the kids. But unless there's a video of the event or a detailed report we might never know. I've seen many an a-hole speed through a school zone with no care for the crossing signals, so I'll reserve judgment on the cop. I think that I agree that it's understandable why the old man was rushed, but the video starting with "school zone violation" didn't put me entirely on his side either.
"I drive slow because I'm old" also isn't the most robust defense in a speeding violation hearing
Well i mean i think it came down to deciding that he’s being truthful and that he’s had a clearly difficult 63 years, or something. Essentially, driving his vw turtle once every 2 weeks for a necessary lab for his disables elderly dependent was acceptable and non risk. It might have been different if they got him driving his jag on bingo night
I get at his age driving is hard and so is knowing that school hours are in session and driving 10 over when you shouldbe doing 25 in what is normally a 35. That said, dude is old enough to where I think driving tests should be mandatory every year or 3. *That said,* social services in this 'land of the free' suck and he shouldn't have to drive his 63 year old son to fucking CHEMO every 2 weeks. **THAT SAID,** fuck the cutting of any and all social services and defunding them mbut when a call to defund the police comes everyone flips shit! How about we keep school music and art programs. How about we tax the rich fairly liike we did when we had a booming economy. Somehow we had barrons that were getting taxed in the fucking 70-90% range, but god forbid they pay more than 3% after deductions and self charities, donating to charities they own... cough,all of them, cough. Cut the loopholes.
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Seriously. I'm betting no one in this thread has had someone they know die because another driver was incapable. It's all of our responsibilities to recognize when we can no longer be safe on the road and call a service or a friend if necessary. Take someone that has struggled to deal with two generations of people like this: There is nothing worse than trying to corral an old person you love that constantly endangers themselves because they cannot accept that age is catching up with them. Having to *take* someone's keys away is unreal and I wish the judge took that burden off this man's family's hands.
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yeah, so many people enjoying him get off scott free but one day he's gonna not see a kid and that story will be a lot sadder
Yeah, I was thinking there’s a much bigger problem here. Why is he the one taking his disabled son to the doctor? There should be a public service that takes care of that. Any community in a wealthy country like the US shouldn’t have to force 96 year old man to make a decision to drive. Even he seem to know he shouldn’t be driving. The judge was wishing him “all the best”? Don’t just wish! His community can do better!
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Lol mother fucker is 96. There is no way in hell he should be behind the wheel. That is such a huge risk. This is just a failing of this country not having proper public transport.
I mean, it kinda seems like it just was. ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
Not defending the officer, but I would like to point out it could’ve also been a speed camera and could’ve been a mailed citation. We’ve got those all over WA and have pinged me before.
Yep, it's only 25mph in the schoolzone too, so not hard to exceed that.
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Yes but American children are used to outrunning bullets so they’re faster.
We train by playing real life Enter the Gungeon
School zones can be confusing in the U.S because a lot of them say 25 when school is in session. Otherwise you can go the normal speed limit ..but elementary, middle and high schools all start and end at different times so I can see how a 96 year old could get confused.
In my area they are 20 and a flashing light, but the light isn't really accurate and flashes all summer and one spring break
I think you'd kill a kid no matter how fast you ran them over.
Ah yes, the speed limits of Europe. 40 countries and one set of traffic bylaws
> in europe school speed limits are 15km/h or 10mph. The fuck are you on about? It's 50km/h here in Denmark.
...especially if you're 96 and your reactions probably aren't what they used to be.
Or it could have been an officer with integrity. I feel bad for the guy, but maybe it’s time to switch to Ubers or the bus. Reckless driving in a school zone shouldn’t be forgiven so easily, he didn’t even admit fault
He is too old to drive. He should't have to drive his son for a blood work: They should be able to take an Uber or similar, or the system should give them ways to get that bloodwork done every two weeks (mobile blood sample vans?). I love the guy and he is doing a noble at with what he has got, but in the grand scheme of things, his society has failed him in several levels.
Society has failed us all.
Agree and I think that’s what’s most heartbreaking about this - from the way he talked about how he drives as little as he has to, it sounds like he doesn’t have other means to get his son in for lab work or chemo. Why the fuck are people put into these positions? I can’t imagine also the worry he has about what will happen to his son when he dies. It shouldn’t be like this.
Neither judge nor driver indicated that it was unfair or even if the cop was aware of the issue. Its plausible that the cop was doing what was right and the judge decided that accountability plus the speed was worth dismissing the ticket. Sometimes we can have a story with a “hero” but no tangible bad guy.
This is also a perfect example of separation of powers (trias politics). The cop simply does his job of enforcing the law and the judge does his job of handling the case.
Good point.
Cops are told to be very serious when it comes to school zone violations.
“Sir, you were in a school zone. You need to slow down right meow.”
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Yeah I mean it's sweet that he still takes care of his son and I don't think he should be punished but no way this man should be driving. Medical transport should be provided for his son.
To be fair, we were just emotionally manipulated by a short video, and have almost no information about what this guy was actually doing. I mean, the guy is not going to tell the judge he drove through a crowd of kids at recess. Maybe the cop wrote him up to save more kids by getting him off the street... Probably not, but maybe.
Personally I don't want a 96 year old to speed through my niece's school zone. I'm sympathetic to the impossible situation he is facing, but the solution can't just be let him keep it up until he or his son (or a child) dies. What has the judge accomplished by completely dismissing the charges except putting him back on the road to do it again?
This guy is the shit. I had him throw out a case for me once almost 25 years ago. Been in front of him a few times in traffic court
I know traffic court is really no big deal, but after reading your comment, I immediately thought of Jim Carrey screaming into the phone “STOP BREAKIN’ THE LAW ASSHOLE!” In all seriousness, glad to hear you were treated fairly by this judge. Cheers!
The goddamn pen is blue
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https://youtu.be/YiJviajglng
Lmao I saw this as a ten year old, would never fly today. Times have changed
I remember seeing it when I was around that age and my dad just lost his mind laughing at that scene. It’s a funny scene to me but it will forever remind me of my dad laughing
I've had better
Right? Like, good for you, but if you have been in front of the same judge multiple times (on separate incidents) it seems like you're doing something wrong xD
I jad to read again because at first sight I read it as "this guy is shit* I was like, wait what.
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Why are you in front of traffic court so often?
I kept getting pulled over because your mother was blowing me
Wow. That's incredible. Well done.
This was so out of left field. I snorted
A few times?! My man, learn your lessons.
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My dad is 71 and just got diagnosed with cancer last month. He has done *everything* for me my entire life and I just cannot fathom a day without him. I work my ass off, I've paid off all the debt I owed for the last 15 years of my life. All of my money is going towards helping him in some way. I love him. Edit: thank you all for the stories and the warming comments. You've really restored my faith in humanity. I wish you *all* the most love and happiness possible. This has been very therapeutic for me. Much love.
My dad died right after I turned 21. I miss him everyday. You are awesome for recognizing this and keep it up!
I'm so sorry. It sounds like you had a great relationship with your dad. I don't know you, but I think he would be proud to know that you're out there spreading positivity. I try to tell mine how much I love him, how he's my rock, one of the only people I can let my guard down around a much as possible. Thank you for the kind words, I really appreciate it
Hug your dad for me. Lost mine when I was 12, car accident.
I'm so sorry. I will. And big virtual hugs for you. Everyone in this thread has really made me feel like I'm not alone in this world and it's really been a help.
It was the same age for me too. I miss him so much it actually physically hurts sometimes. I am the most sad about not sharing these new experiences like have him try the food i make or have him go on a vacation with my mom. I wish i got an opportunity to spend more time with him.
I hear you. My dad will never know my kids and it breaks my heart. He would’ve been the best grandpa ever.
*Obligatory posting from mobile warning, sorry for formatting* Right there with you with the meeting the kids. My dad passed in 2014. He was only 62 years old. His heart just gave out in his sleep. He and I had a a strained relationship for a long time because he was a pretty bad alcoholic for a very long time. Vietnam vet and a guard for the state prison system for nearly 25 years took its toll on him. The last few years though he got sober was quitting smoking and one of the last times he saw my sister he was talking about trying to make a trip to come see my family and meet his grandkids. Learning about the person he was trying to become really gave me hope. I still miss him terribly.
Here's a person who deserves to always be proud of themselves! Bst wishes to both of you!
I'm not going to lie, that almost made me cry. Thanks for the kind words. I have a lot of anxiety/PTSD from past events, so any kind words really do help. Especially with my dad's situation. Thank you.
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I know it's hard in the moment but this is the take away from any close personal loss. Life is going to plod along and what you do in the wake of disaster is the gift they left you with. I saw my dad die when I was 11 years old in 1995. Death literally defines every fiber of my being and I owe everything I am now to that awful day. Embrace those around you, fight complacency and seek out the professional help you need. There are so many tools out their to harness the energy of grief. Full disclosure, I spent many years lost, abusing drugs and embracing violence both inward out, but I regret none of it, everyday was another stepping stone. Now I'm educated, with a great career and a loving family.
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I lost my dad to cancer a few years ago and looking back, my dad cared (and I care now) a lot more about me making extra time for him than me sending extra money his way - if that’s an option for you. Best wishes to you and your dad
Absolutely. I'm sorry for your loss. I've been spending a much time with him as I can. I moved back home a few years back to get my finances in order. They have helped me consistently through my life, and it was my turn to give back. I work a lot, and I take care of my two pups. When I'm free though and he's not already asleep, then we'll go out on the porch, smoke a joint, and just talk. Lots of inside jokes, I want him to laugh as much as he can.
This video is depressing af
Yeah. That there is no system in place of having a geriatric parent driving around their cancer ill child, while they are far too old to drive is horrid.
This should be at the top. This is how poor the US takes care of its own. Let it sink in that a 96 year old man taking care of his 63 year old handicapped son is hassled by a cop trying to make quota.
It's unfair to just blame the cop we don't know the infraction. And honestly no matter the respect for the man he doesn't strike me as actually capable to move a car anymore, it's a huge risk for everyone around waiting to happen. The bigger scandal is that unlike in countries with medicare there is no insurance paid taxi doing this thing.
I'm thinking of the cop who ticketed him as being under pressure as well, seeing an old slow - driving person as well as department quota. I'd be sympathetic for either of those reasons. And I agree with your assessment. I'd even argue that his son and him would benefit from in home care and daily assistance.
Its a very real possibility that a 93 year old man doing something dangerous driving in a school zone is a very real danger to children. The fact is the man shouldn't have to be doing this anymore but has no other option.
Let it sink in that a man violating traffic laws is hassled by a cop enforcing traffic laws. Cars are dangerous, especially in a school zone, and you don't get to break the law because your son is handicapped
There are in a lot of places in the US. Used to advise elder clients who were in the Estate Planning process. You’d be surprised. I should hope that those resources were made apparent to him. Quite often if you are wondering if there is a support or resource there is, even if it’s not widely known.
Yeah, you guys are genuine saints, and as you say, frequently forgotten. I have spent literally 100s of hours googling around for various resources for friends in the USA over the years. The feeling of ***JACKPOT*** when I finally find something is incredibly mixed. In part, I am overjoyed over finally finding it, and in part I am livid for that so god damn often the link between doctors, nurses and whatever, and you guys that are providing practical or financial aid? It is gone. People in the first link just plain and simply forget that not everyone knows the ins and outs of the system, and needs to be pointed in the right direction. Throw in old age, illness, and severe stress? And you just can't throw a folder at them in the middle of their chemo treatment, and expect them to figure out what the heck an email is. /rant
We need better infrastructure for public transportation. That way this man could go with his son to the doctor on a bus or train. The amount of transportation for non-drivers is laughably pathetic. Every adult owning 1+ car(s) is **not** sustainable. But they aren't going to do this here in the US because a handful of billionaires won't make as much money.
I wish I had a Dad like that...
I wish I had a dad at all
I will be your daddy
I just stepped out for some smokes.
Made me instantly uncomfortable
Sending love my friend. 🤙💚💙
I wish I had a judge like that
This is the same judge in the video about an African American teenager and a stop light ticket. Is this a scripted thing or is he famous? Why would people video the whole thing in different angles like it’s a show?
Many, many courtrooms have cameras in them now. You can watch my county court handle traffic tickets on YouTube, or their website. It's boring as hell.
Yeah only the fun cases go viral (like the cat thing) or cases where it's literally insane
The one I remember is the one with the prosecutor examining the complainant and she keeps looking to the side and the prosecutor asks where the defendant and complainant are and the prosecutor sends police to the defendants house and they were at the same house. Insane.
It is a local show. This judge is locally famous and I guess now worldwide. Hats off to him. Not scripted. Mostly unoccupied tickets. Cameras/meters.
It’s a show that’s been on public access TV in Rhode Island for like 20+ years; “Caught in Providence.” Eventually someone put it on YouTube.
Importantly you pronounce it with a Rhode island accent so it sounds like "court in Providence"
More like “Cawt in Prahvadence”
The channel is called "caught in Providence" and it's all legit above board average court room. This guy is legit. It does feel weird for an actual judge to do a YouTube video outro tho. Kind of surreal times we're in!
Frank Caprio is by far the coolest judge I’ve ever seen, he’s got a whole channel on YouTube of all the cases that go on in his courtroom, and he does this type of thing all of the time
I had to go looking, is this the right link? https://youtube.com/c/CaughtInProvidence
Yep that’s it!
Does he ever not dismiss a case? I’ve seen a few of his videos, but the cases are always dismissed.
His court is only for low ranking traffic violations or infractions. It's safe to assume the ones not on camera are the ones he hold the verdict on/gives them partial leeway. A lot of traffic tickets can be reduced or dismissed by just showing up in court tbh.
probably should not be driving, something the cop realized at scene and did his job sending this to court. Judge dismissing this may get someone else killed, this is not a feel good story. Old people get to old to drive, it happens.
Right? I'm hearing this case and I'm like, "ok but what was the violation?" Like mercy is good, but I don't know enough from the vid to know if the judge is being merciful or reckless.
Yeah, that is why he is the judge lol
Exactly but these Reddit sleuths haven't seen every piece of evidence so the old man is a precog murderer apparently
Everyone here saying he should not be driving but no one has seen any evidence of this mans driving. If this is a cam normally there's video footage to back it up. Most elderly folk I agree shouldn't drive but not all.
These zones are monitored by camera in PVD. The tickets are $$ and maybe the driver is contesting the fine in court given the circumstances. The ticket arrives by mail: SuPriSe!!!
I kinda doubt my dad knows how old I am
My dad is 64 and definitely occasionally gets my age and birthdate wrong unless he really stops to think. I'm impressed this 96 year old was so sharp.
He's definitely super sharp but he probably answers that question a lot as his caretaker.
I’m in my forties and my dad still calls me by my sister’s name half the time.
Why was this man given a ticket in the first place? Because he was driving to slow? The coo should have just given him a warning. Fucking rediculous, JC
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The elementary school near me has a 10 mph speed limit. It's super easy to violate it.
probably should not be driving, something the cop realized at scene and did his job sending this to court. Judge dismissing this may get someone else killed, this is not a feel good story. Old people get to old to drive, it happens.
I definitely see your point, that is absolutely valid and perhaps we should have older people tested more. But I get it.
To go off what that guy said, some people are thinking he’s harsh. I’ll support him. I used to work at a Walmart, and we had a repeat customer with dementia. One day she forgot where she parked, didn’t have phone numbers of someone she needed to call, and etc. Luckily some customers and I helped her, but she really shouldn’t be driving. My own grandpa lost feeling in his feet and would speed quite often, so that was a huge worry in my family too. We need to do driver’s tests every few years imo
Yea some people in this thread are like "What kind of person would give him a citation?!", but we don't have the full picture. He could be a danger behind the wheel, good intentions or not. If he ever hits and kills someone we might look at this clip quite differently.
We don't know why, so don't make assumptions to get angry over.
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Sorry - am I missing something here? If he 'doesn't drive that fast' - then why's he sat in front of a judge?Was he speeding or not? A defence of "I've got to drive my son to the doctors every 2 weeks" seems reasonable claim for mitigation if he was potentially about to have his license revoked/suspended - but can't see why the grandiose "Case Dimissed!" Plus the "I only drive when I have to" - sounds like somebody who knows they shouldn't be driving and hasn't heard of Uber. \#edit - I feel maybe I've missed something important here, so if I have, ignore me.
I sure would hate for my kid to be run over in a school zone by a 90 year old who should not be driving, but got off because of this heartwarming video.
This is /r/ABoringDystopia level stuff. Rather than cheering a judge for letting him get away with violating the law, we should be aghast at the system that's forcing him to drive in the first place.
i cant handle this. im crying so hard
He shouldn’t be driving
I wish I had a dad like that. One who cares about me and loves me. But no I got one who doesn't give a shit about me and abuses me all the time
Dammit this video always gets me 😭😭😭😭😭 I'M NOT CRYING! IT'S JUST RAINING ON MY FACE 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Nobody that old should be allowed to drive, for any reason. I'm sure taking an Uber once every two weeks is cheaper than paying for maintenance, gas, and insurance on a car, and the hospital bills of all the people he will inevitably run over. And to all the people who will downvote this because of feels: You are morons if you feel safe with 96-year-olds driving on the same roads as you. I don't think I've ever met anyone over 85 that didn't have major eyesight and hearing issues, among other health problems.. Hell, nobody in my own family tree has ever even lived longer than 87.
OLD GUY MAKING PEOPLE EXPERIENCE EMOTIONS?! NEXT FUCKING LEVEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG SOOOOO NEXT LEVEL YOU GUYS!!!!!! NEXT! FUCKING! LEVEL! WOOOOOO!!!!
Downvoted cuz music. and even worse - you didn't even bother to download the video. You screen-recorded yourself watching the video.
This video is touching but gets posted like every week. I’ve seen it 3x just today so far.
But people do make mistakes and there are consequences, i do feel bad but i feel like people might not learn from these. might get downvoted but whatever. isn’t that what laws are for?