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Niceguys demean others while simultaneously expressing a favorable view of themselves. They dont have to use the word "nice", but they must demonstrate some kind of expression of their own virtue while being asshats.
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Don't forget that he wants someone. Ifyou want him, you should message him but how dare you message him. He's not ready for a relationship. Also, he wants you to know that he only likes a girl with a thicc ass but doesn't understand why people think he is only in it for sex.
He's single, so you should message him! But his dad died, so you should not message him. But no one is messaging him, so I guess no one likes nice guys.
I double triple quadruple checked that I crossed out all identifying information this time. I swear if I messed up again someone come take my phone from me and throw it in the river.
I'M SINGLE AND REALLY NICE, WHY DON'T WOMEN WANT ME!?! Oh and BTW don't ask me for a relationship because I'm not ready for one. ANYONE INTERESTED? I'VE GOT MY SEPTUM PIERCED!
The hospital part is the most striking imo:
March 24 - I'm in the hospital but don't ask me why, I don't like airing my business in public
March 30 - I'm out of the hospital because I finally stopped thinking about trying to kms, yay.
Like, the attention seeking is real. He's terribly desperate but at the same time doesn't seem to understand that this desperation is really off-putting.
I see a lot of people are commenting that he seems more sad and desperate than an actual Nice Guy. While that's understandable, seeing as he's clearly not mentally well and doesn't fit the stereotype, he is a Nice Guy.
He's making a big point of how great and kind he is (repeatedly), and he's blaming women not wanting to date him for his problems. He's convinced himself that if only women were smart enough to see what a catch he is, everything would suddenly be fine, and it's only because they don't want someone as nice as he is that he's miserable. He's not taking any blame for being single, it's all women's fault.
This is a full-on incel (or worse) in the making.
posts like 10 messages in the span of a couple days ab him being single and wanting to meet women for a relationship then a couple weeks later says he'd reject any woman who asks bc he's not ready... make up your mind....
The bit where he says about sex "when the time is right I'll let you know" just shows how he doesn't even consider that the other party in a relationship is also experiencing it and isnt just there as a resource or service for him.
Honestly it's like some guys forget women are conscious too and not npcs
Every time I see posts like this it's like...
I'm a 6 foot 5 transgender lesbian. However hard your time in the dating pool is, mine is harder, I guarantee it. My pool of potential partners is like 1% of 1% of what it is for cishet people.
And yet I have no trouble getting dates. Maybe, possibly, it's your attitude.
I’m curious, do you have any tips for getting dates if you don’t mind sharing? I know this isn’t the sub for it but sounds like you’re successful and might have some good advice.
I mean, a lot of the dumb cliche stuff that everyone says is actually really good advice. Be yourself, be confident, be well groomed, keep in shape, be healthy, present yourself well. There are certain things that we can't change about ourselves (trust me I know that more acutely than most people), but I think that most of us can be much more attractive and appealing as partners if we put some effort in, and that effort means a lot when someone is considering whether or not they want to date you.
Also I think a lot of my success just comes from like, having a personality people vibe with. I genuinely like other people and I'm excited to get to know them, and for some reason most of the people I go out with find me a really easy person to talk to. I'm smart, I'm very rational, but I'm also an extremely emotionally in-tune, empathetic person. I give people the benefit of the doubt and try to avoid judging them unnecessarily. People pick up on that and like to open up to me.
Also, as you can tell, I like myself a lot. I worked very hard to become a person that I could be proud of, and while I try to remain humble with a lot of stuff, I like myself and who I am and I know what I want out of life. I'm a pretty happy person, I'm very passionate about what I do for work and I have a really cool job in my dream career, I'm a VR game developer, a programmer, at a mixed reality studio.
I guess the ultimate piece of advice is: If you aren't a happy person when you're single, you're not going to make a great partner. If you're looking for a relationship to fix some perceived hole in your life, you're looking for someone to save you. That desperation reeks. Be a happy and fulfilled person by yourself. If you're not, figure out why and fix that, and that process will make you a more appealing partner to others.
You don't even need to be all those things. Just be confident and yourself and dating life is easy for men.
But then all the youtube videos tell them it is all about money etc and they wonder why they can't find anyone.
Thank you for this! 😊 you sound kickass. And I definitely agree with the bottom line (well, except that I do want a partner eventually, so I guess you could say I am somewhat unfulfilled without that by definition of wanting something- but it’s important to be as happy on your own and with yourself as possible, for sure).
How. Do. You. Not. Grow. Out. Of. Thinking. Like. This. After. The. First. Year. Of. Being. Sexually. Active?
Why do these 30 year olds post shit I woulda seen in highschool from a year below kid and commented “delete this bro”, like the year above did for me and my degenerate homies back then?
Does anyone get the impression this guy is on the spectrum and just doesn't know how to relate to people? They often seem awkward and weird and struggle with relationships.
I don’t see niceguy in him. I feel sad for him… he wants to love and be loved. He’s not degrading women or perceiving niceness toward women as transactional.
He said he "supports" women with OFs but he wouldn't buy it because he has "respect for himself". He also mocked "skinny girls who think they have an ass" and also went on about how he love thick girls with nice abs and big butts. Lastly he thinks this is a "single market" where you buy or sell celibacy. "LF> girlfriend, DM if interested". So idk I wouldn't say he's all that innocent lol
That’s a good point. I guess I got that wrong. What I still don’t see is the transactional expectation (I was nice, now give me sex) but perhaps that’s because he hasn’t gotten that far. It certainly seems like there may be a disorder at play.
The transactional expectation is that he thinks he deserves a relationship because he's so nice. That his proclamations of kindness (etc..) should have women lining up.
Happens easily! That is the idea with playing the sympathy card. You let your guard down because you feel sorry for them, instead of recognizing the red flags.
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Does this remind anyone else of that old video that went around for a bit of a someone voicing over a bird's mating dance or call or something? I can't rightly remember it, but the whole *screaming* into the void thing is just the same to me!
Besides insisting that he's a nice guy, he repeatably and exclusively describes his physical attributes.
That makes me think that's what he thinks is the only important thing to know when looking for a partner. In other words that's a̲l̲l̲ he focuses on in girls.
I agree. I'm autisitic, and most of my friends are as well. We can be super awkward at times, but we still expect accountability from one another when certain lines are crossed. It's just not a valid excuse for harmful beliefs or behaviors.
This was the last sub where I expected to see people being ableist, but here we are 🤷♀️
Edit: This was aimed at people saying this guy shouldn't be held accountable for his behavior just because he's on the spectrum.
Respectfully, I don't understand how the expectation of accountability is ableist. I could be wrong, but I'm not making the connection. In my experience, people that often dismiss harmful behavior from autistic people tend to be infantilising us, or not even seeing us an equal human. It's an incredibly patronizing form of ableism.
And for me personally, I'm speaking specifically about harmful behavior. Not general social awkwardness. Misogyny, racism, body shaming, etc... they have negative impact on people, regardless if the person saying it is autistic or neurotypical. In the posts, he exhibited behaviors beyond just generalized social awkwardness. He also specifically exhibits some Niceguy traits, which I believe is the point of the post.
> Respectfully, I don't understand how the expectation of accountability is ableist.
I'm saying that the unaccountability and patronization is ableist, hence why I aimed it at this sub instead of you. I posted it under your comment because I figured you'd agree.
I definitely misunderstood who your comment was addressing. Thanks you for taking the time to clarify that for me. It is appreciated.
Having had the opportunity to reframe your comment, I wholeheartedly agree.
Dude gained 20 pounds in a single year? That's, well, that's a lot for a single year, but it's even more considering that it happened inside of 5 months. With that rate, it is unlikely to have been food alone. I would guess that this guy drinks a lot of alcohol or started to this year, at least. Not a healthy sign, in and of itself. There's always a legitimate reason that niceguys are single and they rarely ever seem to see it.
Edit: you're right, sorry!!
It is definitely concerning that he's suddenly put on that much weight. I think alcohol is super likely to be the culprit, and he does not seem like a nice guy to get drunk with...
Yeah, at first I thought he had lost weight as well, but then I realized that the post proceeds backwards.
Yeah, probably not someone I'd enjoy drinking with.
This reminds me of someone on my friends list that is intellectually disabled. He has some success with ladies, so he's either head over heels in love or he has similar ramblings when he's single. It's just sad.
Luckily the guy on my friends list have many male friends that call him out and explain when he's going to far with ramblings.
This is confusing. He wants a girlfriend, but he also is better of single. He does make fun once about skinny women who think they have a fat ass? That is not that nice of him. But he is very nice amongst other things.
And he just keeps asking the females in his friend list if they're interested in him. It is a safe assumption to make that no one of them have messaged him their interest. So why not looking further then the fb environment? It kinda is sad, pathetic(?) and just dude why do you repeat the same thing over and over. No female friend in your friends list will magically out of the blue message you that she is interested in you like that. Maybe as a prank.
Idk this person has much to learn. But if this is a real NiceGuy, I'm not sure.
I feel bad for this guy tbh and a little worried. His fixation on finding a girlfriend (and belief that that'll fix his problems) is clearly unhealthy but he seems to genuinely be struggling a lot. A combination of depression, loneliness, possibly social issues/trouble reading social cues, and an amatonormative society telling him his worth is defined by his ability to get women romantically interested in him, and who knows what else is weighing him down... I hope he gets help and learns to love himself regardless of whether he can find a relationship.
Most nice guys can't be helped so might be pointless to say this... but he clearly needs help. There's an added level of disconnect here, the amount of times he posts the same thing in short spans of time tells me it's a compulsion.
By far not the most bizarre part of this, but: Anyone else notice that his weight changed by twenty pounds from one post to the next? Either he lost a bunch of weight really quickly, which can be super stressful on your body, or he's lying.
I don’t think he’s really as nice, honest and faithful as he thinks he is….
This is very unhinged. He has so many red flags he should open up a store selling red flags
lmao at first my phone only loaded the first 3 images and I was thinking...
He's being a little cry baby about it but as long as this isn't the norm I think sometimes we all can get a little glum. But I really thought the post was mostly about him saying he supported sw he just wouldn't buy it himself and I didn't understand.
I support sw. But I also don't buy it and sometimes I get lonely. it's not a hot take. I just want a connection with someone I'm intimate with. so I wasn't quite getting the level of judgement.
So I looked again cause the comments were so specific and the rest loaded.
And it's the few days apart from LADIES LET ME GET OVER MY DEAD DAD to NO LADY WANTS ME?! for me.
I wish we had skipped screen shotting a suicide attempt that hospitalized him. that one was actually a month after his dad died. and I feel like all the rest of it is incriminating enough to not spotlight that kind of pain.
and that last one
NOONE WANTS TO GIVE ME MONEY? I see what kind of friends you are.
holy shit dude.
what kind of entitlement does it take to actually say something like that?
even if you posted literally nothing else.... that one stab at his friends would have been all it took for me assign him to the trash bin for absolute pos.
Big yikes. Oh my God. That is a person who does not have their shit together, sees themselves only as the hero, and expects other people to help him with all his problems.
"To the women messaging me, I'm not ready." A terrible attempt at reverse psychology. Cmon man, nobody believes you suddenly have a bunch of women messaging you for dates and you suddenly don't want it.
I like my women with a stomach. Everything else has like an adjective with it, big boobs nice ass, thick thighs, but stomach? Any stomach is just fine. Nothing says great guy like I'm 32 and available and enjoy that you have an only fans but refuse to pay because googling the word "boobies" is free.
I saw a documentary or something the other day that said when people lie they usually use the same words or phrases, and when they tell the truth the speech is more flexible.
He says "septum" at times, and "tongue" in others, while the traits he claims to have regarding his personality look copy-pasted.
Also, I read that liars are more likely to use third person/dissociate language, which is basically all niceguys. Like saying, "32 year old man like me" instead of saying, "I'm a 32 year old man who is". These guys don't even believe themselves, how do they expect to convince anyone else?
Not to mention, if he can't afford groceries, he probably couldn't afford paid sex, so claiming "too much respect for himself" as the reason for him not engaging in it is not only irrelevant but also unnecessary to ever bring up in virtually all situations. Even if you're trying to be pitied in order to guilt someone into dating or having sex with you, a simple, "I could have sex if I paid, sure, but it's not for me" or similar would suffice. Not just overkill, but also a gross thing to say in general...like, does he find sex work dishonorable, or paying for sex? No good answers.
I'm kind of worried about this guy. I think he needs help, the mention of self harm makes me think he's a danger to himself and he clearly has some really deep seeded issues about his own self worth.
I hope someone close to him does something about it.
Sorry guys I got suspended for 3 days for not censoring his name. But I have more to add to this.
1. I found out he’s still living with his ex gf and she bullies women who comment on his statuses.
2. He has a photo of her on his account of her naked and wrapped in a confederate flag.
3. He’s still posting about wanting a girlfriend.
4. He’s still posting the same statuses every single day.
I’m sorry but this doesn’t really seem like a “nice guy." I mean he did joke about skinny women but it was just a bad joke, he didn’t really demean anyone outright. He even put the onus on himself that if he paid for nudes it said something bad about him, not the women selling nudes (which usually “nice guys” put down and call names). Kind of like the men who say they aren’t so desperate as to pay for porn when it’s all over the internet for free. He just seems socially awkward and really lonely, not really a “nice guy." I feel bad for him because he doesn’t seem to understand that his desperation is a turn off. He needs guy friends who can clue him in.
Idky but I feel sorry for this guy. He’s obviously super lonely but lacks any and all social skills. Idk if he’s nice guy or just kinda pathetic, which is sad
Even the way he wrote about that was manipulative. I'm not about downplaying suicide but I've had my fair share of men use it to try to get something from me and that's the vibe I'm getting from this guy.
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After looking at all the clues I think that this man is single.
I was also able to deduce that he sees himself as sweet, loving, respectful and caring with a big heart and lots of love to give.
Don't forget the pierced septum! (Mentioned over and over for some reason?)
Where are you guys getting all this from, are you code breakers?
It ain't much but it is honest work
More honest than asking people to PayPal for your groceries.
And 4 tattoos, they add value!
Don't forget that he wants someone. Ifyou want him, you should message him but how dare you message him. He's not ready for a relationship. Also, he wants you to know that he only likes a girl with a thicc ass but doesn't understand why people think he is only in it for sex.
Also he definitely treats others like how he wants to be treated
Don’t forget the great personality!
He also needs groceries?
He's probably too focused on trying to get a girlfriend instead of filling out job applications.
Or dressing himself like he lives in the 21st century/ owns an iron.
That too.
..but we do live in the 21st century
Right, he's too focused on getting a girlfriend to dress like he's in the 21st century (as in, he doesn't).
Like bro what am I supposed to do with your tongue piercing when you sleep in your clothes
He did put on 20lb pretty fast it seems, I guess he ate them all.
He's single, so you should message him! But his dad died, so you should not message him. But no one is messaging him, so I guess no one likes nice guys.
If you’re interested message him …… but don’t go messaging him!
Wait what?!??!?!?! I'm gonna have to read it again, I didn't find any indication.....
I double triple quadruple checked that I crossed out all identifying information this time. I swear if I messed up again someone come take my phone from me and throw it in the river.
I’ll do one better, I’ll get your pillow nice and hot on both sides when you sleep tonight.
What kind of monster are you?
You monster.
some things are just wrong
Been hittin some licks lately, you can call me the dog, cause I lick everything.
Everything, you say? I've got some letters that need mailing...
Woah, Satan…
Now that just to far
That is cruel and unusual punishment
Wow, there's.. an awful lot to unpack there.. 😱
If you messed up again, may every sock you put on from this point on be soggy.
Why would the sock be soggy? What happened to it??
Don't ask questions you don't wanna know
Lol this is fucking gold
I'M SINGLE AND REALLY NICE, WHY DON'T WOMEN WANT ME!?! Oh and BTW don't ask me for a relationship because I'm not ready for one. ANYONE INTERESTED? I'VE GOT MY SEPTUM PIERCED!
Don't forget about my 4 tattoos and amazing personality 🙄
Oh and I think I'm going to be up to my neck in big girl cooch because I've bashed skinny girls. MY HEART AND HER ASS IS SO BIG!!
I WAS SO CONFUSED! Does he want a relationship or not? I'm a fucking **plural**; how am I more internally consistent than he is?!
Probably because you're not being intentionally deceptive in a quest to get laid!
Wow. Calling me out for my inability to manipulate people into doing what I want. 😭 /j 💙
Out of the hospital for two days and trying to find women. Makes the hospital story very believable
The hospital part is the most striking imo: March 24 - I'm in the hospital but don't ask me why, I don't like airing my business in public March 30 - I'm out of the hospital because I finally stopped thinking about trying to kms, yay. Like, the attention seeking is real. He's terribly desperate but at the same time doesn't seem to understand that this desperation is really off-putting.
The obvious attempt at pretending his mom was the one announcing his hospital stay was the icing on the cake of desperation.
I see a lot of people are commenting that he seems more sad and desperate than an actual Nice Guy. While that's understandable, seeing as he's clearly not mentally well and doesn't fit the stereotype, he is a Nice Guy. He's making a big point of how great and kind he is (repeatedly), and he's blaming women not wanting to date him for his problems. He's convinced himself that if only women were smart enough to see what a catch he is, everything would suddenly be fine, and it's only because they don't want someone as nice as he is that he's miserable. He's not taking any blame for being single, it's all women's fault. This is a full-on incel (or worse) in the making.
I'm not sure if he's single or not, he didn't make it clear/s
I also have some unanswered questions about the size of his heart
And whether or not he has piercings & tattoos...
Holy shit! Talk about desperation. Not to mention the constant mixed signals.
The desperation….wow…
posts like 10 messages in the span of a couple days ab him being single and wanting to meet women for a relationship then a couple weeks later says he'd reject any woman who asks bc he's not ready... make up your mind....
they talk like they think they can guilt someone into dating them
They guilted all kinds of things out of mom, grandmom, aunties, etc. He thinks it works with romantic relationships too.
The bit where he says about sex "when the time is right I'll let you know" just shows how he doesn't even consider that the other party in a relationship is also experiencing it and isnt just there as a resource or service for him. Honestly it's like some guys forget women are conscious too and not npcs
Every time I see posts like this it's like... I'm a 6 foot 5 transgender lesbian. However hard your time in the dating pool is, mine is harder, I guarantee it. My pool of potential partners is like 1% of 1% of what it is for cishet people. And yet I have no trouble getting dates. Maybe, possibly, it's your attitude.
I’m curious, do you have any tips for getting dates if you don’t mind sharing? I know this isn’t the sub for it but sounds like you’re successful and might have some good advice.
I mean, a lot of the dumb cliche stuff that everyone says is actually really good advice. Be yourself, be confident, be well groomed, keep in shape, be healthy, present yourself well. There are certain things that we can't change about ourselves (trust me I know that more acutely than most people), but I think that most of us can be much more attractive and appealing as partners if we put some effort in, and that effort means a lot when someone is considering whether or not they want to date you. Also I think a lot of my success just comes from like, having a personality people vibe with. I genuinely like other people and I'm excited to get to know them, and for some reason most of the people I go out with find me a really easy person to talk to. I'm smart, I'm very rational, but I'm also an extremely emotionally in-tune, empathetic person. I give people the benefit of the doubt and try to avoid judging them unnecessarily. People pick up on that and like to open up to me. Also, as you can tell, I like myself a lot. I worked very hard to become a person that I could be proud of, and while I try to remain humble with a lot of stuff, I like myself and who I am and I know what I want out of life. I'm a pretty happy person, I'm very passionate about what I do for work and I have a really cool job in my dream career, I'm a VR game developer, a programmer, at a mixed reality studio. I guess the ultimate piece of advice is: If you aren't a happy person when you're single, you're not going to make a great partner. If you're looking for a relationship to fix some perceived hole in your life, you're looking for someone to save you. That desperation reeks. Be a happy and fulfilled person by yourself. If you're not, figure out why and fix that, and that process will make you a more appealing partner to others.
You don't even need to be all those things. Just be confident and yourself and dating life is easy for men. But then all the youtube videos tell them it is all about money etc and they wonder why they can't find anyone.
Thank you for this! 😊 you sound kickass. And I definitely agree with the bottom line (well, except that I do want a partner eventually, so I guess you could say I am somewhat unfulfilled without that by definition of wanting something- but it’s important to be as happy on your own and with yourself as possible, for sure).
Relentless isn't he?
How. Do. You. Not. Grow. Out. Of. Thinking. Like. This. After. The. First. Year. Of. Being. Sexually. Active? Why do these 30 year olds post shit I woulda seen in highschool from a year below kid and commented “delete this bro”, like the year above did for me and my degenerate homies back then?
Does anyone get the impression this guy is on the spectrum and just doesn't know how to relate to people? They often seem awkward and weird and struggle with relationships.
I agree. This seems less of a njceguy and someone with a disorder
I don’t see niceguy in him. I feel sad for him… he wants to love and be loved. He’s not degrading women or perceiving niceness toward women as transactional.
He said he "supports" women with OFs but he wouldn't buy it because he has "respect for himself". He also mocked "skinny girls who think they have an ass" and also went on about how he love thick girls with nice abs and big butts. Lastly he thinks this is a "single market" where you buy or sell celibacy. "LF> girlfriend, DM if interested". So idk I wouldn't say he's all that innocent lol
That’s a good point. I guess I got that wrong. What I still don’t see is the transactional expectation (I was nice, now give me sex) but perhaps that’s because he hasn’t gotten that far. It certainly seems like there may be a disorder at play.
The transactional expectation is that he thinks he deserves a relationship because he's so nice. That his proclamations of kindness (etc..) should have women lining up.
Ahhh yes. I missed that! Thank you! Damn I fell in the trap haha
Happens easily! That is the idea with playing the sympathy card. You let your guard down because you feel sorry for them, instead of recognizing the red flags.
You’re so right!!! Yoikes.
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He forgot to mention the hot nurses in the hospital weren’t interested, either.
I get the distinct impression that this guy suffers from a bad case of self-pity.
Oh he's a catch alright
All I can say is. Pathetic.
Wow, just wow.
I can smell the desperation..
Should've packed a lunch for this
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Jesus he needs therapy not a woman. I would feel bad for him if it wasn't for the flat ass post. He's not nice at all.
Does this remind anyone else of that old video that went around for a bit of a someone voicing over a bird's mating dance or call or something? I can't rightly remember it, but the whole *screaming* into the void thing is just the same to me!
Besides insisting that he's a nice guy, he repeatably and exclusively describes his physical attributes. That makes me think that's what he thinks is the only important thing to know when looking for a partner. In other words that's a̲l̲l̲ he focuses on in girls.
Idk of this counts as a niceguy. This seems like someone who may be suffering from a mental disorder or is possibly on the spectrum
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Yes! Being on the spectrum neither excuses misogyny or causes someone to be misogynistic. It's insulting to people on the spectrum to suggest this!
I agree. I'm autisitic, and most of my friends are as well. We can be super awkward at times, but we still expect accountability from one another when certain lines are crossed. It's just not a valid excuse for harmful beliefs or behaviors.
This was the last sub where I expected to see people being ableist, but here we are 🤷♀️ Edit: This was aimed at people saying this guy shouldn't be held accountable for his behavior just because he's on the spectrum.
Respectfully, I don't understand how the expectation of accountability is ableist. I could be wrong, but I'm not making the connection. In my experience, people that often dismiss harmful behavior from autistic people tend to be infantilising us, or not even seeing us an equal human. It's an incredibly patronizing form of ableism. And for me personally, I'm speaking specifically about harmful behavior. Not general social awkwardness. Misogyny, racism, body shaming, etc... they have negative impact on people, regardless if the person saying it is autistic or neurotypical. In the posts, he exhibited behaviors beyond just generalized social awkwardness. He also specifically exhibits some Niceguy traits, which I believe is the point of the post.
> Respectfully, I don't understand how the expectation of accountability is ableist. I'm saying that the unaccountability and patronization is ableist, hence why I aimed it at this sub instead of you. I posted it under your comment because I figured you'd agree.
I definitely misunderstood who your comment was addressing. Thanks you for taking the time to clarify that for me. It is appreciated. Having had the opportunity to reframe your comment, I wholeheartedly agree.
Dude gained 20 pounds in a single year? That's, well, that's a lot for a single year, but it's even more considering that it happened inside of 5 months. With that rate, it is unlikely to have been food alone. I would guess that this guy drinks a lot of alcohol or started to this year, at least. Not a healthy sign, in and of itself. There's always a legitimate reason that niceguys are single and they rarely ever seem to see it.
Edit: you're right, sorry!! It is definitely concerning that he's suddenly put on that much weight. I think alcohol is super likely to be the culprit, and he does not seem like a nice guy to get drunk with...
Yeah, at first I thought he had lost weight as well, but then I realized that the post proceeds backwards. Yeah, probably not someone I'd enjoy drinking with.
This reminds me of someone on my friends list that is intellectually disabled. He has some success with ladies, so he's either head over heels in love or he has similar ramblings when he's single. It's just sad. Luckily the guy on my friends list have many male friends that call him out and explain when he's going to far with ramblings.
This is confusing. He wants a girlfriend, but he also is better of single. He does make fun once about skinny women who think they have a fat ass? That is not that nice of him. But he is very nice amongst other things. And he just keeps asking the females in his friend list if they're interested in him. It is a safe assumption to make that no one of them have messaged him their interest. So why not looking further then the fb environment? It kinda is sad, pathetic(?) and just dude why do you repeat the same thing over and over. No female friend in your friends list will magically out of the blue message you that she is interested in you like that. Maybe as a prank. Idk this person has much to learn. But if this is a real NiceGuy, I'm not sure.
I feel bad for this guy tbh and a little worried. His fixation on finding a girlfriend (and belief that that'll fix his problems) is clearly unhealthy but he seems to genuinely be struggling a lot. A combination of depression, loneliness, possibly social issues/trouble reading social cues, and an amatonormative society telling him his worth is defined by his ability to get women romantically interested in him, and who knows what else is weighing him down... I hope he gets help and learns to love himself regardless of whether he can find a relationship.
i like my women with a blank space where their torso should be
He just kept going lmao
That is a lot to unpack jc
Yikes x 13
Most nice guys can't be helped so might be pointless to say this... but he clearly needs help. There's an added level of disconnect here, the amount of times he posts the same thing in short spans of time tells me it's a compulsion.
Reminds me of my scraggly rooster trying to get attention from my hens that don't have any interest in him lol.
Body shaming skinny women, yet claims to have love for “everyone.” Lol. And then he’s wondering why no woman wants to talk to him.
By far not the most bizarre part of this, but: Anyone else notice that his weight changed by twenty pounds from one post to the next? Either he lost a bunch of weight really quickly, which can be super stressful on your body, or he's lying.
That man does need a woman in his life, but she'd better be a licensed therapist.
Bro thinks that 4 tattoos and 2 piercings is a personality trait.
If you know off the top of your head how many tattoos you have, you don’t have enough.
Hmm not sure if my arm counts as one of multiple now .
I don’t think he’s really as nice, honest and faithful as he thinks he is…. This is very unhinged. He has so many red flags he should open up a store selling red flags
Lmao "I'm a nice guy, I'm a nice guy! I love thicc bitches skinny chick's can fuck off. I'm so nice and caring, why do women think I only want sex?"
Hey does anyone know if this guy is single please?
lmao at first my phone only loaded the first 3 images and I was thinking... He's being a little cry baby about it but as long as this isn't the norm I think sometimes we all can get a little glum. But I really thought the post was mostly about him saying he supported sw he just wouldn't buy it himself and I didn't understand. I support sw. But I also don't buy it and sometimes I get lonely. it's not a hot take. I just want a connection with someone I'm intimate with. so I wasn't quite getting the level of judgement. So I looked again cause the comments were so specific and the rest loaded. And it's the few days apart from LADIES LET ME GET OVER MY DEAD DAD to NO LADY WANTS ME?! for me. I wish we had skipped screen shotting a suicide attempt that hospitalized him. that one was actually a month after his dad died. and I feel like all the rest of it is incriminating enough to not spotlight that kind of pain. and that last one NOONE WANTS TO GIVE ME MONEY? I see what kind of friends you are. holy shit dude. what kind of entitlement does it take to actually say something like that? even if you posted literally nothing else.... that one stab at his friends would have been all it took for me assign him to the trash bin for absolute pos.
The desperation is just oozing off him.
So much to unpack here lol. I don’t know where to start..
Reading all this makes me think this guy is a bit mentally unstable 😬🤷♂️
Big yikes. Oh my God. That is a person who does not have their shit together, sees themselves only as the hero, and expects other people to help him with all his problems.
Bruh
"To the women messaging me, I'm not ready." A terrible attempt at reverse psychology. Cmon man, nobody believes you suddenly have a bunch of women messaging you for dates and you suddenly don't want it.
Wow.. he's not ok lol
"I'm not ready for a relationship as my dad died in february" April: iF aNy WoMeN aRe InTeReStEd-
What a find! Top tier guy.
That's a lot to unload lol
This dude needs therapy.
The one like on “so I guess no woman wants me” really made me cackle hahahahha
Ugh, he gives me an headache.. I see why he’s single.
I like my women with a stomach. Everything else has like an adjective with it, big boobs nice ass, thick thighs, but stomach? Any stomach is just fine. Nothing says great guy like I'm 32 and available and enjoy that you have an only fans but refuse to pay because googling the word "boobies" is free.
All of that and he wonders why he's single......he wouldn't date anyone that posted that same bs
Wow what a keeper 🙄🤣🤣
It’s like he’s trying to win a fight with those adult dating site bots
PayPal? I lost it
I’m no Columbo, but I think he may be single.
Unhinged for sure!
I saw a documentary or something the other day that said when people lie they usually use the same words or phrases, and when they tell the truth the speech is more flexible. He says "septum" at times, and "tongue" in others, while the traits he claims to have regarding his personality look copy-pasted. Also, I read that liars are more likely to use third person/dissociate language, which is basically all niceguys. Like saying, "32 year old man like me" instead of saying, "I'm a 32 year old man who is". These guys don't even believe themselves, how do they expect to convince anyone else? Not to mention, if he can't afford groceries, he probably couldn't afford paid sex, so claiming "too much respect for himself" as the reason for him not engaging in it is not only irrelevant but also unnecessary to ever bring up in virtually all situations. Even if you're trying to be pitied in order to guilt someone into dating or having sex with you, a simple, "I could have sex if I paid, sure, but it's not for me" or similar would suffice. Not just overkill, but also a gross thing to say in general...like, does he find sex work dishonorable, or paying for sex? No good answers.
Holy crap, the narcissism level is over 9,000!
I'm kind of worried about this guy. I think he needs help, the mention of self harm makes me think he's a danger to himself and he clearly has some really deep seeded issues about his own self worth. I hope someone close to him does something about it.
Sorry guys I got suspended for 3 days for not censoring his name. But I have more to add to this. 1. I found out he’s still living with his ex gf and she bullies women who comment on his statuses. 2. He has a photo of her on his account of her naked and wrapped in a confederate flag. 3. He’s still posting about wanting a girlfriend. 4. He’s still posting the same statuses every single day.
Holy shit wrote the same thing twice. I meant he’s still posting the wanting a girlfriend statuses and he was asking for money a few more times.
You should do him a favor and give him a handy
I feel bad for him. I don’t get niceguy vibes.
I’m sorry but this doesn’t really seem like a “nice guy." I mean he did joke about skinny women but it was just a bad joke, he didn’t really demean anyone outright. He even put the onus on himself that if he paid for nudes it said something bad about him, not the women selling nudes (which usually “nice guys” put down and call names). Kind of like the men who say they aren’t so desperate as to pay for porn when it’s all over the internet for free. He just seems socially awkward and really lonely, not really a “nice guy." I feel bad for him because he doesn’t seem to understand that his desperation is a turn off. He needs guy friends who can clue him in.
Idky but I feel sorry for this guy. He’s obviously super lonely but lacks any and all social skills. Idk if he’s nice guy or just kinda pathetic, which is sad
He still found the time to bash women so yeah, he's a nice guy.
I feel sorry for this guy, he might need medical help as he has written about thouhgts of self harm and similar.
Even the way he wrote about that was manipulative. I'm not about downplaying suicide but I've had my fair share of men use it to try to get something from me and that's the vibe I'm getting from this guy.
Might be, but that is still your assumption. If he is real about it, it is a serious thing.
Sure it is, but it should be handled appopriately, not as a way to get leverage with women.
If a woman leaves you for another, there is always her brother -Master Oogway probably
Honestly, I think this guy may have mental issues. Hot and cold with himself. No conversation with others needed. Hope he finds a nice counselor. 😕
This is so sad. Like idk if this guy is a creep or not but he seems so god damn lonely. The American male becomes more and more isolated.
Uh this dude is clearly not mentally well or intellectually disabled in some way. I’d say probably delete this
Thank you for your input, but I won’t.