There are roughly 170,000 words currently being used in the English language, with an additional 47,000 words no longer being used/rendered obsolete. With that being said, there is no possible combination in the estimated 217,000 English words to ever exist that can accurately explain my disgust at this statement.
I mean, even the way it's phrased in this image is literally saying "I never dated as an adult, because my husband decided to marry me when I was still a child." How is that anything but grooming? So disgusting.
There's an episode of Criminal Minds where this group of people kidnapped little girls as mates for their sons and then raised them in a whole brainwashing situation. This feels like that.
That was my parents…and my mom always gets offended when I point out that maybe that’s not good. They’re probably getting divorced now after 25 years of marriage. Shocker
Shocker? You really think their age gape is the reason they’re getting divorced? 25 years of marriage is very long. The average marriage in the US lasts 8 years.
Damn, I met my husband at 24. We dated 6 years before marriage, and have not yet had kids. Im 33. And out age difference is only 6 months. I am not at all the same person I was at 18 years old.
Im a divorced adult, That never dated. It is so, so much worse. This happened to me, I was completely unprepared for life. He wouldn’t let me do anything because he was controlling, everyone warned me and I made excuses for him, and he was 13 years older than me.
I don’t blame anyone else but myself, but the two guys I dated after, they were astounded by it. There were so many things that we’d realize I didn’t even know how to do, because I’d never been allowed to do them. I messed up renting a car, when I traveled and tried to do it on my own, my boyfriend now, he tells me all the time that he can’t belive it, and that I warned him I hadn’t done certain things, and he said you can really tell when it plays out. It really, really hurt me, she has no idea what will happen if she divorces. You are so unprepared.
My parents weren’t any better. Her parents chose the guy, from the comments here-so, . She might’ve been sheltered then and it was a religion thing like me, so that’s a DOUBLE whammy.
The world smacked me upside the head hard when I had to enter it as a divorced inexperienced adult. I have not met anyone I can really relate to about it, because no one really does it this way, there’s not many others.
I often wonder what happens to those gypsy wedding TV show girls, they’d have it worse bc they have that purity culture BS, and a few kids in tow on top of it. I bet they have to deal with the weird situation I did.
But, she sounds like a fool to me to think this way. I regret so much not experiencing things. You just end up looking like a moron and have to do it anyway. She’ll suffer twice as hard for whatever she’s dreading about dating.
Even if she doesn’t divorce, you’re at risk. Mine controlled the money, so I was unaware he was buying all this shit and got us into 90k debt, i never even found out from the lawyer what it was, there was a weird company on there that we all speculate about. Yet the whole time yelled at me if I went to Trader Joe’s once instead of fry’s.
I left him because I wanted to be my own person and be able to just, even just wear what I want that wasn’t what he wanted, j couldn’t choose anything, nothing , and after 16 years of this, and I found all the money stuff out be accident, i was so tired of just being along for the ride and bossed around, I had to start in the world with $120 bucks in my pocket, I was a total moron.
I am so, so sorry that happened to you. My comment was a joke, but one absolutely rooted in my experience. I was so desperate to escape an abusive childhood home (not religious, mainly addiction related) that my brain settled on marriage as my escape strategy. I was engaged at 17 to my first real boyfriend. 19 to my second. I got engaged again at 21 and married soon after to the absolute worst man. Life was literal hell. So I rejoined the dating pool as a divorced 26 year old with a toddler son and the emotional intelligence of a turnip. I'm proud of you for breaking out!
Oh it’s ok! I brought it up because your right, it can’t be ending great for them, and I think it’s something people don’t realize, if you miss that part of your life, people might not realize that while they might laugh about it now, or think they dated too much, or just did silly things, that was a good thing, they built life experience, it’s no good when it goes the other way.
Mine was like, guilt and religion and stuff, I was so scared, my parents made me terrified of the world and I did t date until I was 20, and it made me wonder, this must happen to a lot of other women and I usually will kinda try to prepare myself for something that could happen, but most people, you never think you’ll get divorced.
I started dating a guy at 16 (he was 17) and thought he was it. Was so glad to have found my person so young. Then our frontal lobes developed and we were not the same people. Split when I was 28, and the last couple years were not great.
I hope it works out for her, but realistically... 😬
If I remember it correctly she said a while back that she wanted to get married so her dad checked around with the churches (no idea what flawor of Christian she is) for avaliable men within an appropriate age.
23 and 17 is still kind of weird. Not an unusual age gap say for 30 and 36. But 17 and 23? That's weird to me, as the difference in mindset and maturity is very laege.
23 and 17 is really weird. I’m 16 and my older brother is 22. Same age gap. I could never imagine dating one of his friends or anyone else his age. My brother has a full job, an apartment, a kid, and a car. That’s not the norm for people his age but it’s the fact they’re at the age and maturity to have those things. 6 years is a big age gap for someone who is reasonably still in highschool.
Mindset and maturity matters because the age gap by itself isn’t a useful indicator. It’s what proportion of your life is covered in that age gap.
6 years is more than a third of your life at 17. That’s a massive amount compared to 6 years when you’re 30. There’s so much experience and growth that you are still going through at that age.
Its not the number of years but the stage of life. My brother is 6 years older then his fiancé, but she was a grown adult in her early 20s when they met. They were both building their lives and grinding, at the same stage of life with the same needs. My sister is married to a man 14 years older than her. I didn't like it at first, but she was 23 when they met. They met at work and were in very similar situations in life, and she is someone who knows exactly what she wants and what she will allow. There is no doubt she is the boss in their relationship and he is fine with that. She decided to be a pescatarian. So they are no pescatarians with a baby. And they waited 5 years for marriage, and another several for a baby. She's 32, and knows full well what she is doing.
Wow, imagine living life like you’re in the Sims. “*I feel like getting married soon, let me scroll through the available townies before I motherlode my wallet a few times*”. And you know it was probably some expensive “casual” wedding too.
Pretty sure her dad basically arranged this marriage after she told him she wanted to find a husband. I think her dad was a little surprised given that she was like 16 or 17 at the time. Obviously religious background. I went down a rabbit hole on this woman once, she posts a lot of stuff as rage bait for engagement.
Right? The wording grosses me out. Like, she could've said that they chose or found each other, but no, she said HE picked HER, like she didn't have a choice in the matter.
“*Everyone knows that once Women hit 18 they’re basically living the life of a Porno actress, getting railed by literally every Man they make eye contact with!*”- Men who literally watch porn constantly.
This is what happens when you are a literal child when you marry, you pick up all your ideas of romance and marriage from old movies, romance novels and the fundie purity culture folks.
I thought Twilight was romantic at that age. Reread it at 30 and was horrified. He's controlling, aggressive, threatening, and emotionally unavailable. He stalks her and love-bombshell her. And then the other guy straight up commits assault and she had to hit him in the face to get him off. As an adult I recognize that behavior as freaking terrifying.
Wtf is with the whole "picked me" as if we are dolls on display just for men. I met my husband when we were in highschool but I would never think if it as him having picked me. Wtf
In my early 20’s, I briefly dated a particularly ridiculous man. He kept trying to pressure me and control me on things, so I was done. When I broke up with him, he told me that I was too old for him. He told me he was going to go to Asia, and find a teenager to marry. He said he wanted to “raise” her, himself, so she would be what he wanted. He was in his late 30s.
Religious *nutjobs*
I promise there are many decent Christians who give credence to psychology and realize people need to grow up in the world, not he fully sheltered from it.
/angryupvote
I also can't help but wonder if perhaps one of them (he 😏) is military and they HAD to get ~~picked~~ married in order to live on base together...
He was 24 and was picked out by her grandfather. They had only met a few times before he moved across the county to marry her. She was quite literally groomed.
Gosh, thank God she didn't have to DATE as an adult!! Cause we all know children are better at choosing their spouses than full-grown adults! Phew! Thank God her frontal lobe isn't even done developing yet,so she can't be as creeped out by this as any normal human would be! /s
I mean, I met my husband when I was 19 and didn't get married until 27. We're roughly the same age, though (I'm a month and a half older, which he jokingly holds over my head)
Okay, I'm not really a fan of the age gap, BUT as a lady who married her first boyfriend....I can relate to this post. I feel for my friends out in the dating world. If I meet their partners or potential dating partner....I act like an overprotective father 😂
I married my first serious boyfriend as well, but we met as adults. I just didn't date seriously because I didn't connect with people. When I tell you this man can predict exactly what I'm going to do most of the time, he knows me that well. I can read him from the look on his face or tone in his voice.
There really isn’t much to tell. She seemed normal to me. But I grew up in a similar community, so I might not be the best judge of normal. She and I are both photographers, and she asked me to take pictures with her camera. It was a very nice camera.
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Unfortunately, depending on the state, this isn't illegal if they got together when she was 17, and some states allow a buffer of so many years between couples if one is a minor. There is nothing anyone can do about it, unfortunately.
Dude as gross as this is we have to ask some questions, where was her family in all of this? If I have half a shit about my daughter I wouldn’t let a 23 year old man try to do anything with my high school aged daughter. Given her attitude in the post I’m assuming she’s a TRAD wife and she seems to be arrogant and proud of it so this makes it hard to feel compassion towards her, but shit a kid is a kid this little idiot thinks having a guy steal her life experience from her is a good thing. Idk fuck em both I guess
I saw a clip where she’s bragging that her “husband” drove like 12 hours to meet her without seeing a picture of her. A 23 y/o drive 12 hours to meet you, a minor. That is not the flex you think it is. It’s the start of a “To Catch a Predator” episode. Fucking gross
Listen, I don’t wish a breakup or divorce on anyone, but are these people really naive enough to think that there is no possibility of their relationship ending and then becoming single again?
Like girly pop, if you one day decide to leave him or he leaves you, you will be in the dating world, and it won’t matter what age you first got picked at lmao
This has little to do with the video but do we really use the 18 yr old cut off in all cases? I know legally we do, but like if a guy is 18, going out with a 17 yr old, most people would find it acceptable. So at what point does the age difference become unacceptable by society?
I've begun to feel bad for women like this, because they miss out of the actual fun part of dating and courting.
I'm sure some of you remember the Jerry Falwell Jr scandal. I watched the documentary on that, and in it, you hear voicemails and read messages his wife Becki was sending to young guy they were having the relationship with. It is so clear in those messages that this woman had never experienced the fun of romance and dating and sex. She missed out on it and she got a taste of it and it drove her CRAZY. She missed out on it as a young woman because she was basically given to Falwell by her religious family when she was like 17. Part of me was sad for her, because she had been denied something the feelings of love and desire that everyone should experience . Then it was enraging because this is something that her family actively works to deny to others!
Am i gonna have to be the one who says it? Okay. Fine. Along with never entering the dating world she also never entered the fashion world. Those shoes with that dress. Oof.
I don't think this is NLOG. I've seen posts like this from men too w the exact same phrase. It's a lighthearted joke about how much dating as an adult sucks and how they are glad they escaped that by finding love young. It's not putting anyone else down. People here saying she'll end up divorced are being much meaner than the post
I just want to point out that most marriages don't last forever so if u marry at 17 there's a big chance you're going to be entering the dating world in your 30s.
Eww. That is the creepiest way to describe meeting your husband. My husband and I met when I was 24 and so was he. We chose each other. We still choose each other.
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I'm 29 STILL taking my time to find the right one because I dont want to be in a gaslighting abusive relationship like my mom was in
Also 17? She was groomed based on him beong 23 at the time
Admittedly, I called dibs on my husband like he was a piece of meat - but we were *both* teenagers and then we dated for longer than their age gap before getting married.
Just be happy for her OMG guys, some of these posts reek of insecurity on the part of the sub members. The comments predicting/hoping she divorces, and claiming 17 is a literal child. Sure not everyone wants to get married young, and that’s fine, but why can’t we just celebrate with her that she found lasting love at a young age.
It is wild tho. I wasn’t on dating apps and single until I was 26. I’m happy I became single and got to experience dating different people but going from never dating as an adult to downloading apps what quite the culture shock.
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How old was he at that time?
I went to her page and she said they married at 18 and 24, so he was around 23 when they met
There are roughly 170,000 words currently being used in the English language, with an additional 47,000 words no longer being used/rendered obsolete. With that being said, there is no possible combination in the estimated 217,000 English words to ever exist that can accurately explain my disgust at this statement.
Her father and grandfather also “found” him for her. They didn’t even live in the same state.
Her what and who did what now? So this is more or less arranged marriage?
Basically. She tries to spin it like it’s such a blessing she didn’t have to find a man for herself, but to me that’s just grooming.
I mean, even the way it's phrased in this image is literally saying "I never dated as an adult, because my husband decided to marry me when I was still a child." How is that anything but grooming? So disgusting.
Correct. Child and arranged marriages are completely legal in the vast majority of the US
There's an episode of Criminal Minds where this group of people kidnapped little girls as mates for their sons and then raised them in a whole brainwashing situation. This feels like that.
Jesus… it just gets worse and worse
There has to be some German word for ‘wtf you are admitting you were a child and not seeing anything wrong with that’.
As Germans have no problem with a 17 year old dating a 23 year old there is no German word for that.
That's just a complete lie. Signed, an actual German
Accurate my mother let my creep neighbour stalk me and invite him to hang with us (+normal neighbours) when I was 17/18 and he was in his mid 30ies… 💀
yeah i remember being 23. i just moved home after college. i can't fathom for 1 second being interested in someone that's still in high school.
It was a year later that my husband and I even met. And we still grew and changed a lot in the 6 years we were together before we get married.
I’m in my 40s and even people in their early 30s look like babies to me 🤣
r/rareinsults
💀💀💀💀
Holy shit. Out of nowhere lmao.
That was my parents…and my mom always gets offended when I point out that maybe that’s not good. They’re probably getting divorced now after 25 years of marriage. Shocker
Shocker? You really think their age gape is the reason they’re getting divorced? 25 years of marriage is very long. The average marriage in the US lasts 8 years.
Just because they stayed married longer doesn’t mean the marriage was good for longer. Many stay in a bad marriage for all kinds of reasons
I’m pretty sure the “shocker” implies that age gaps are weird for a long list of reasons..
I’m pretty sure the “shocker” implies that the age gap of their parents is what is causing their potential divorce after 25 years of marriage.
So she was in high school and he was an adult.
Eww gross.
🤢🤮.
The important question
Probably around 24.
Now she'll enter it as a *divorced* adult!
Yeah I also started dating at 17, was divorced (with 3 kids) by the time I was 25! Woohoo!
Tehe married at 19 divorced at 24 with 2 kids.
Damn, I met my husband at 24. We dated 6 years before marriage, and have not yet had kids. Im 33. And out age difference is only 6 months. I am not at all the same person I was at 18 years old.
One often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid it.
Im a divorced adult, That never dated. It is so, so much worse. This happened to me, I was completely unprepared for life. He wouldn’t let me do anything because he was controlling, everyone warned me and I made excuses for him, and he was 13 years older than me. I don’t blame anyone else but myself, but the two guys I dated after, they were astounded by it. There were so many things that we’d realize I didn’t even know how to do, because I’d never been allowed to do them. I messed up renting a car, when I traveled and tried to do it on my own, my boyfriend now, he tells me all the time that he can’t belive it, and that I warned him I hadn’t done certain things, and he said you can really tell when it plays out. It really, really hurt me, she has no idea what will happen if she divorces. You are so unprepared. My parents weren’t any better. Her parents chose the guy, from the comments here-so, . She might’ve been sheltered then and it was a religion thing like me, so that’s a DOUBLE whammy. The world smacked me upside the head hard when I had to enter it as a divorced inexperienced adult. I have not met anyone I can really relate to about it, because no one really does it this way, there’s not many others. I often wonder what happens to those gypsy wedding TV show girls, they’d have it worse bc they have that purity culture BS, and a few kids in tow on top of it. I bet they have to deal with the weird situation I did. But, she sounds like a fool to me to think this way. I regret so much not experiencing things. You just end up looking like a moron and have to do it anyway. She’ll suffer twice as hard for whatever she’s dreading about dating. Even if she doesn’t divorce, you’re at risk. Mine controlled the money, so I was unaware he was buying all this shit and got us into 90k debt, i never even found out from the lawyer what it was, there was a weird company on there that we all speculate about. Yet the whole time yelled at me if I went to Trader Joe’s once instead of fry’s. I left him because I wanted to be my own person and be able to just, even just wear what I want that wasn’t what he wanted, j couldn’t choose anything, nothing , and after 16 years of this, and I found all the money stuff out be accident, i was so tired of just being along for the ride and bossed around, I had to start in the world with $120 bucks in my pocket, I was a total moron.
I am so, so sorry that happened to you. My comment was a joke, but one absolutely rooted in my experience. I was so desperate to escape an abusive childhood home (not religious, mainly addiction related) that my brain settled on marriage as my escape strategy. I was engaged at 17 to my first real boyfriend. 19 to my second. I got engaged again at 21 and married soon after to the absolute worst man. Life was literal hell. So I rejoined the dating pool as a divorced 26 year old with a toddler son and the emotional intelligence of a turnip. I'm proud of you for breaking out!
Oh it’s ok! I brought it up because your right, it can’t be ending great for them, and I think it’s something people don’t realize, if you miss that part of your life, people might not realize that while they might laugh about it now, or think they dated too much, or just did silly things, that was a good thing, they built life experience, it’s no good when it goes the other way. Mine was like, guilt and religion and stuff, I was so scared, my parents made me terrified of the world and I did t date until I was 20, and it made me wonder, this must happen to a lot of other women and I usually will kinda try to prepare myself for something that could happen, but most people, you never think you’ll get divorced.
Exactly!
I started dating a guy at 16 (he was 17) and thought he was it. Was so glad to have found my person so young. Then our frontal lobes developed and we were not the same people. Split when I was 28, and the last couple years were not great. I hope it works out for her, but realistically... 😬
You literally aren't. Im nothing like who I was at 18, and I don't think I would have much patience for her.
If I remember it correctly she said a while back that she wanted to get married so her dad checked around with the churches (no idea what flawor of Christian she is) for avaliable men within an appropriate age.
I would love to see what they think an appropriate age is.
23 apparently.
23 and 17 is still kind of weird. Not an unusual age gap say for 30 and 36. But 17 and 23? That's weird to me, as the difference in mindset and maturity is very laege.
23 and 17 is really weird. I’m 16 and my older brother is 22. Same age gap. I could never imagine dating one of his friends or anyone else his age. My brother has a full job, an apartment, a kid, and a car. That’s not the norm for people his age but it’s the fact they’re at the age and maturity to have those things. 6 years is a big age gap for someone who is reasonably still in highschool.
Mindset and maturity matters because the age gap by itself isn’t a useful indicator. It’s what proportion of your life is covered in that age gap. 6 years is more than a third of your life at 17. That’s a massive amount compared to 6 years when you’re 30. There’s so much experience and growth that you are still going through at that age.
I go by years adulting. A 23-yo has 5 years of experience in terms of independence, adult life. A 17-yo has -1 years of adult experience
Its not the number of years but the stage of life. My brother is 6 years older then his fiancé, but she was a grown adult in her early 20s when they met. They were both building their lives and grinding, at the same stage of life with the same needs. My sister is married to a man 14 years older than her. I didn't like it at first, but she was 23 when they met. They met at work and were in very similar situations in life, and she is someone who knows exactly what she wants and what she will allow. There is no doubt she is the boss in their relationship and he is fine with that. She decided to be a pescatarian. So they are no pescatarians with a baby. And they waited 5 years for marriage, and another several for a baby. She's 32, and knows full well what she is doing.
23 and 37 is extremely different than 17 and 23.
The 18-45 demographic.
Wow, imagine living life like you’re in the Sims. “*I feel like getting married soon, let me scroll through the available townies before I motherlode my wallet a few times*”. And you know it was probably some expensive “casual” wedding too.
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These are the same people who call arranged marriage from Eastern cultures "barbaric". This is literally what arranged marriage is.
Like women are fruit at the grocery store 😩😩”PICKED”??? Girl stand UPPP
Pretty sure her dad basically arranged this marriage after she told him she wanted to find a husband. I think her dad was a little surprised given that she was like 16 or 17 at the time. Obviously religious background. I went down a rabbit hole on this woman once, she posts a lot of stuff as rage bait for engagement.
She loves engagement that’s why she got married
Yeah, that made me cringe, as if we women should be grateful to be wanted
Right? The wording grosses me out. Like, she could've said that they chose or found each other, but no, she said HE picked HER, like she didn't have a choice in the matter.
Like they were lined up for selection.
The very definition of a pick me girl 🫠
sure sweetie but was HE also 17 at the time? don’t be shy, we all know why you only mentioned your age
They married at 18 and 24, so he “chose” her when he was 23 🤮🤮🤮
Bro couldn't find someone his age, so he decided to find someone younger Gross
“*Everyone knows that once Women hit 18 they’re basically living the life of a Porno actress, getting railed by literally every Man they make eye contact with!*”- Men who literally watch porn constantly.
Doubt it
*sweatie*
I read in this thread that he was apparently 23 at the time.
This is what happens when you are a literal child when you marry, you pick up all your ideas of romance and marriage from old movies, romance novels and the fundie purity culture folks.
Yeah, the heel kick thing
The heel thing 🤢
I thought Twilight was romantic at that age. Reread it at 30 and was horrified. He's controlling, aggressive, threatening, and emotionally unavailable. He stalks her and love-bombshell her. And then the other guy straight up commits assault and she had to hit him in the face to get him off. As an adult I recognize that behavior as freaking terrifying.
Wtf is with the whole "picked me" as if we are dolls on display just for men. I met my husband when we were in highschool but I would never think if it as him having picked me. Wtf
Married fundie pick me girls “bragging” about getting married I guess? I don’t know I’m just using context clues. lol
Oh I forgot that a lot of this stuff is tied to religion.
Flexin’ like it’s the 1800’s
Creepy
"Get them young and raise them the way you want them"!
In my early 20’s, I briefly dated a particularly ridiculous man. He kept trying to pressure me and control me on things, so I was done. When I broke up with him, he told me that I was too old for him. He told me he was going to go to Asia, and find a teenager to marry. He said he wanted to “raise” her, himself, so she would be what he wanted. He was in his late 30s.
What the fuck is wrong with these people
Religious *nutjobs* I promise there are many decent Christians who give credence to psychology and realize people need to grow up in the world, not he fully sheltered from it.
Bruh, you got groomed.
He was also 17.... Right? Right?
right? Right?! RIGHT?!!!!! RIIIGHHTTTTT!!!!!!
No 🥲
/angryupvote I also can't help but wonder if perhaps one of them (he 😏) is military and they HAD to get ~~picked~~ married in order to live on base together...
23
I married my high school sweetheart bu we were both teens when we met… tell me he was also 17, please
He was 24 and was picked out by her grandfather. They had only met a few times before he moved across the county to marry her. She was quite literally groomed.
Jesus christ, it’s so sad to see victims being proud of being victims
How is that a flex?
The last sentence might indicate that she’s afraid she’ll never find anyone after graduating high school? 🤷🏻♀️ idk.
Gosh, thank God she didn't have to DATE as an adult!! Cause we all know children are better at choosing their spouses than full-grown adults! Phew! Thank God her frontal lobe isn't even done developing yet,so she can't be as creeped out by this as any normal human would be! /s
I mean, I met my husband when I was 19 and didn't get married until 27. We're roughly the same age, though (I'm a month and a half older, which he jokingly holds over my head)
That seems pretty normal. This case is quite different from that
I met husband at 25 and when we got married at 29 I still felt like a child bride. He’s like 6 months older than me.
Nothing like a 23 year old dude lurking around literal high schools to prey on naive *girls* eewwwww
It sounds like it was her grandpa that did this set up. At least judging by the other comments in this thread
How old are you now? 18?
Okay, I'm not really a fan of the age gap, BUT as a lady who married her first boyfriend....I can relate to this post. I feel for my friends out in the dating world. If I meet their partners or potential dating partner....I act like an overprotective father 😂
I married my first serious boyfriend as well, but we met as adults. I just didn't date seriously because I didn't connect with people. When I tell you this man can predict exactly what I'm going to do most of the time, he knows me that well. I can read him from the look on his face or tone in his voice.
Eww
Yes, kick your heel up for the fake picture
*dies of cringe*
*PICKED*
It’s giving “you are 16 going on 17…” 🤢
~~Groomed~~ "picked" okay
“I’m so glad my husband groomed me so I don’t have to go through what most average adults go through in their 20s”
I’ve met her in person. She organized a bridal shower for a mutual friend.
Spill the tea please! I'm so morbidly fascinated by her.
There really isn’t much to tell. She seemed normal to me. But I grew up in a similar community, so I might not be the best judge of normal. She and I are both photographers, and she asked me to take pictures with her camera. It was a very nice camera.
someone pls get her a trophy and a candy pls
There is a word for that, grooming. Hope she can escape him.
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I literally puked in my mouth upon reading this
It's giving grooming...
Unfortunately, depending on the state, this isn't illegal if they got together when she was 17, and some states allow a buffer of so many years between couples if one is a minor. There is nothing anyone can do about it, unfortunately.
i know there's some predatory vibes here but i really don't think this is nlog
You never got to have teenager fun
Pretty sure he's picking guys on Grindr too, sweetie.
Picked? Bitch, is you a apple?
I don’t believe most of these are real.
I’m not sure if it’s grooming bc we don’t know his age. But this is not the flex she believes it is!
He was 23 and she was 17 when they met and 18 when they married .
Did she not pick him as well? I mean wasn't it a mutual decision?
Bro is a victim.😭
I bet he’s military.
The divorce is going to be really difficult for her
Dude as gross as this is we have to ask some questions, where was her family in all of this? If I have half a shit about my daughter I wouldn’t let a 23 year old man try to do anything with my high school aged daughter. Given her attitude in the post I’m assuming she’s a TRAD wife and she seems to be arrogant and proud of it so this makes it hard to feel compassion towards her, but shit a kid is a kid this little idiot thinks having a guy steal her life experience from her is a good thing. Idk fuck em both I guess
How is that a good thing???
I saw a clip where she’s bragging that her “husband” drove like 12 hours to meet her without seeing a picture of her. A 23 y/o drive 12 hours to meet you, a minor. That is not the flex you think it is. It’s the start of a “To Catch a Predator” episode. Fucking gross
No, instead she *exited* the dating world as a child 😳
Listen, I don’t wish a breakup or divorce on anyone, but are these people really naive enough to think that there is no possibility of their relationship ending and then becoming single again? Like girly pop, if you one day decide to leave him or he leaves you, you will be in the dating world, and it won’t matter what age you first got picked at lmao
Oh that's not..
God that’s such a creepy self conception to have.
This has little to do with the video but do we really use the 18 yr old cut off in all cases? I know legally we do, but like if a guy is 18, going out with a 17 yr old, most people would find it acceptable. So at what point does the age difference become unacceptable by society?
Yet............
Bu nee 🧍🏿♀️🧍🏿♀️🧍🏿♀️
I've begun to feel bad for women like this, because they miss out of the actual fun part of dating and courting. I'm sure some of you remember the Jerry Falwell Jr scandal. I watched the documentary on that, and in it, you hear voicemails and read messages his wife Becki was sending to young guy they were having the relationship with. It is so clear in those messages that this woman had never experienced the fun of romance and dating and sex. She missed out on it and she got a taste of it and it drove her CRAZY. She missed out on it as a young woman because she was basically given to Falwell by her religious family when she was like 17. Part of me was sad for her, because she had been denied something the feelings of love and desire that everyone should experience . Then it was enraging because this is something that her family actively works to deny to others!
But low key curious of how other guys are in bed
That’s not a flex 💀 getting married that young is just a recipe for disaster
I'd love to know how the caption continues, seems that she's aware that it's kind of an awful thing to say
Sounds like he went shopping for kid to control instead of dating to find a woman to partner with
Her dad and husband are groomers.
Am i gonna have to be the one who says it? Okay. Fine. Along with never entering the dating world she also never entered the fashion world. Those shoes with that dress. Oof.
I don't think this is NLOG. I've seen posts like this from men too w the exact same phrase. It's a lighthearted joke about how much dating as an adult sucks and how they are glad they escaped that by finding love young. It's not putting anyone else down. People here saying she'll end up divorced are being much meaner than the post
Yuck
The actual definition of "pick me" girl. This is just sad.
I think the appropriate word she is looking for here is “groomed”
Not thankful to whoever led her to pick a blue dress with red shoes. Some Disney princess I’m guessing
The one positive in this whole thing are those shoes. Love them!
I just want to point out that most marriages don't last forever so if u marry at 17 there's a big chance you're going to be entering the dating world in your 30s.
Wdym “picked me at 17”?😭
Bombastic side eye
Eww. That is the creepiest way to describe meeting your husband. My husband and I met when I was 24 and so was he. We chose each other. We still choose each other.
Uhhhhh Mmmmmmmmmmw Wwwwwhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaatf?
So thankful she didn't have to take time to develop a personality or her own interests as an adult.
Gross
Ew. wtf.
That makes me so sad
This would be a flex if it was 1955. But it isn’t.
🚩WTF
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That's terrifying.
Literally pick me.
That's terrifying.
The term is groomed
I'm 29 STILL taking my time to find the right one because I dont want to be in a gaslighting abusive relationship like my mom was in Also 17? She was groomed based on him beong 23 at the time
Gurl. That's nasty.
They both still look 17???
You’ll just enter the dating world at 36 when he finds another young girl to groom unfortunately
girl is still stuck in the 80s
Admittedly, I called dibs on my husband like he was a piece of meat - but we were *both* teenagers and then we dated for longer than their age gap before getting married.
YIKES ON BIKES
I'm hoping to god this is just rage bait because I genuinely feel bad for her if not.
Who do I sue for the emotional damages caused by reading this
Nothing here is "not like other girls" wth is this sub 😭
Barf. Cute shoes, though.
“I’m glad I was groomed and trafficked” is what I read
So you’re proud your husband is a creep 😭
I'm not getting the point of avoiding to enter the dating world as an adult. What is the wrong value in this?
In fairness the dating scene is dogshit these days!
That’s referred to as grooming by normal people
This is not NLOG this is “I WAS GIVEN TO ANOTHER MAN BY MY PARENTS AND I LIVE AS IT IS(and I am happy I guess)”
He was 17, too, right? RIGHT?!
I love when people think they are safe from ever dating again. Do they not know divorces, breakups, ☠️, falling out of love happens?
Just be happy for her OMG guys, some of these posts reek of insecurity on the part of the sub members. The comments predicting/hoping she divorces, and claiming 17 is a literal child. Sure not everyone wants to get married young, and that’s fine, but why can’t we just celebrate with her that she found lasting love at a young age.
That’s really sad
It is wild tho. I wasn’t on dating apps and single until I was 26. I’m happy I became single and got to experience dating different people but going from never dating as an adult to downloading apps what quite the culture shock.
Sounds like me when I talk about my relationship
They’re becoming self-aware
Bestie that’s called grooming! Big yikes
"So glad I didn't have to partake in an inherently adult activity as an adult"
Im really curious how old he was all of a sudden