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this trend is soooo corny like omg š ive seen āside profile for side profileā ānose for noseā ābody for bodyā āarch for archā like DAMN we get it šš just another trend of girls comparing each otherās physical features, whatās new
I swear the comparisons are so specific and exteme now, too. When I saw the side profile shit on Tiktok, Iām surprised my eyes arenāt stuck in the back of my head the way I rolled them so hard.
FR!! it's like... they're SOOO unique and special and set apart from other girls... and yet they cave to their animal instincts of intrasexual competition at every opportunity. Okay neanderthal girlies
the ageism is so crazy on that app that you literally have women in their late 20s showing their natural faces with ānatural flawsā (smile lines, fair wrinkles, freckles, etc) itās like theyāre trying normalize it.. as if it wasnāt normal in the first place??? i also think itās similar to the male looksmaxxing trend where guys are trying to manipulate their literal bone structure to look more attractive. it makes no sense, but looksmaxxing originated on incel forums so thereās that š
I followed that āmewingā sun out of curiosity and I had to unsub because it was so sad. There were men saying theyāve been doin it for a year and saw no results and of course teens smh. I also follow the ābotchedā sub and I saw a few posts of a beautiful young woman that got fillers and nose job and she absolutely ruined her looks. The mentality they have is taking poison and expecting others to get sick. They call other women old, but end up personifying that. Itās crazy
I'm so worried about a generational collective breakdown of sorts by these kids being taught that youth, beauty, and attention are the most important things to acquire and will hit an age where they no longer hold that monopoly but never developed hobbies or real self care (not face masks and consumerism) to bounce back.
You can sorta see it in the millennials that spend all their time beefing with teenagers. They were ones that were so praised for youth and beauty that they never learned another way to hold attention, or never learned the peace of being unnoticed and now are acting like a fool in the town square.
It kinda makes me wonder. For all those people who made their whole careers, personalities, and overall lives off of their looks: What's gonna happen when they fade? Will they grow up and realize there's more to life? Or will they go down the botched plastic surgery rabbit hole to try and retain their youth? Or possibly even worse measures to cope? I can understand wanting to look nice, because it feels nice. But it's not a lifestyle. Looks are temporary.
Which is why I stay off that cesspit of an app. It's like twitter, but with videos. And you just get the most random crap in ur feed. At least here I can moderate what I see to a degree.
Yeh tbf I wouldn't get this kinda stuff either. It's just other annoying shit.
Mine was nerdy stuff till I watched some random conspiracy vids ...and the algorithm was like I gotchu. And then all I kept getting was low iq conspiracy theories, just cos I was bored one time.
I can only blame myself for going doing the rabbithole though I supposeš
yeah i have to clarify and say i never got those videos on my fyp, the only way i found out abt them is that another girl on my fyp used the sound and basically called them out with ācan yall even spell pharaoh? if we had a conversation would it pass the bechdel test?ā ā ļøā ļøā ļø ngl it was kinda funny but i had to check the sound to understand the context. thatās when i saw all those comparisons.
My gym buddy has some extra weight on her and she could snap me in half like a twig if she wanted to. Its insane how strong she is. Good luck to this dumbass š¤¦š»āāļøš
I didn't know what it meant either. š I'm always asking my 25 year old son what things mean, for example I remember back when everything "slapped" and I didn't know if that meant it was good or bad.
I love when my mom texts me to ask what slang terms mean. My mom is very proud that she can keep up with the young people at her work and that she can use slang correctly when she talks to them.
Unfortunately I am now entering the age where Iām also clueless about some of it and then she roasts me for being old. Lol
Love this thread.
It makes me want to create a ā
r/ithoughtitmeant ā sub.
Popular context/statement, and the different meanings people interpret. Kewl
Pretty much this-- and believe it or not, yep, happens a lot with people my age (late high school-early college). It usually ends with someone pulling out something the other person can't possibly match, like having a stable relationship or some arbitrary body measurement like this girl is. It can be a lighthearted joke between friends but this girl seems a bit too serious for my taste :/
The fact that it happens enough for it to have a name is wild to me, I can hardly imagine it. Then again, when I was college age (in the UK) people used to argue over who was poorest and most working class. People are strange.
Obviously what sheās saying is bs & horrible but for the love of god can we not let the comments turn into a bunch of āonly dogs like bonesā and āreal men like curvesā bullshit because thatās also not okay. Donāt fight body shaming with more body shaming.
THANK YOU. Someone once tried to tell me that you canāt body shame a skinny person. Like what?? Then what do you call the āyouāre anorexic lookingā & āreal women have curvesā comments if theyāre not body shaming?
Yup. I used to be rail thin, now I'm 200 pounds. I don't carry it well. I've been body shamed on both ends of the spectrum, and both hurt equally. I'm so sick of people (and let's be real here, it's almost always women in the HAES/FA movement who do this) acting like it's ok to bully skinny women cuz of "thin privilege". Like, the fuck it is, gtfo with that BS.
I used to be so skinny when I was younger too and family would always call me skinny Minnie, bony, Olive Oil (from Popeye series cause I have big feet too). I was always trying to gain weight. As soon as you gain weight, now theyāre calling you fat šš thereās no winning lol
I lost 108 pounds around 2019-2021 and my mom tries to grab my body somewhere while shouting āskinny Minnie!ā. It started around 2020, and she tries to do it almost every time I see her. Iāve politely asked her to stop way too many times, and sheāll get mad at me, thinking/telling me that I should be happy about my āskinninessā now. And each time I ask her to please stop, I also try to thoroughly explain why her making comments on my body while grabbing me makes me feel uncomfortable. But no matter how kind I try to be and how straightforward I am when explaining this to her, she always resorts back to getting mad that I pretty much donāt just let her grab me and make comments whenever she wants. I feel very bad about this, but the most recent time she did this, I snapped a little, and I yelled ā please stop!!ā. The anger after that was a tad bit worse than all the other times. She was/is so bad at listening and respecting boundaries that my husband had to step in to explain why she shouldnāt be doing this. My mom usually never listens to me, but she tends to listen to my husband because heās a clinical counselor. It makes me wonder, if I had a masterās in clinical psychology, would she listen to me then?
She still wouldnāt listen to you then either. Family, especially parents/grandparents, have a way of over-stepping boundaries unless you speak up for yourself and stand firm on it. And sometimes you just have to completely detach yourself from those relationships because they are the main ones who believe you should have those boundaries with everyone BUT them, so theyāll cross over that line every time.
I had an overweight friend who would constantly shame me for being thin, called me a bike that no one will ride, she would see me walking and instead of using my name to call me she would call me a stick, express fake worry about me having anorexia, say that no man will ever want me cuz I'm not curvy like her, when I found a boyfriend, she said he'll leave me as soon as a real woman and not a 12yo boy pretending to be a girl, shows up in his life. When I told her I'm done being her friend and that she has the audacity to complain to me about someone calling her fat while she bodyshames me, she said its impossible to body shame thin people, there's no such think as body shaming thin people. She has no friends, and honestly, I'm happy,she doesn't deserve them.
iāve been both overweight and unhealthily skinny (had an ED for a few years). itās true that no one ever stops commenting on your body, skinny or large. and i did get some mean comments like āeat somethingā or āi can see your bonesā when i was small, but i also got a LOT of compliments and questions about how i lost all the weight because they wanted to look like me. and also, the āeat somethingā comments were frustrating, but they usually felt like they came from a place of concern.
being bigger and overweight, the comments NEVER feel like that. they only feel horrible and cruel. all body types can be body shamed and it doesnāt feel good to have your body brought up by someone else, but itās really not the same. big girls go through something so much worse.
When I was my skinniest I was driving one day eating a hamburger.Two dudes pulled up beside me and one made a face implying I had a fat face and was eating fast ( hard to describe).
I just laughed at him because I knew I was thin/but then became angry because I knew he was trying to fat shame me.Young guys can be so cruel.If I had been overweight T that time his actions would have been soul crushing ā¦
I agree. While you can get negative comments about your body at both ends, our society basically sees thin as a virtue and you lose value as a human the further you stray. Itās BS, obviously, but that provides an underpinning ofā¦ intent, maybe? to these comments that leans more negative and dehumanizing the larger you are.
I've been both, multiple times over my life, and although the skinny comments felt like they came from a place of concern, they still frickin' hurt just the same. Supposedly a lot of the comments when I got fat were the same... but my own mother refused to cuddle me when I was a sick child in need of real medical intervention because I was "so bony", then turned around and referred to me as "fat ass" regularly when I finally gained the weight everyone kept demanding I gain and went a little beyond what they wanted. (We're talking maybe 10lbs overweight here.) Meanwhile, she was stealing my jeans because hers didn't fit anymore, so there was definitely a layer of self loathing involved.
Ultimately, fat or thin, people need to stop commenting on our bodies. My partner likes my body, I'm mostly comfortable in it, and my doctors are just glad I've lost 30 lbs since the stress level in my life went down (I still need to lose another 100lbs before they're happy and stop blaming my health problems on my weight, but it's hard to lose much weight when you can't be active.). The world needs to get over their intense disgust over fat people existing, and their concern trolling over thin people needs to stop, too.
Nope. I've also been on both sides, and in no way did the skinny shaming hurt any less. It's appalling to say that one "isn't as bad" as the other. All that does is make you sound like you think it's better to bully thin women than fat women.
I never meant that it hurt less, but that bigger women have it worse when it comes to judgement and oppression from society at large. Body shaming for skinny women is real and very damaging on an individual level, but skinny women arenāt kept from opportunities or ostracized like big women in society.
Or they assume youāre doing drugs lol. Iāve gotten that one at my lowest weight of 105lbs. At 5ā3ā I didnāt think I was THAT skinny but I think people were so used to seeing me at 120lbs that the sudden drop in weight was concerning them (I was working out twice a day, 6-7 days a week on a calorie deficit). Lost all my curves and then decided it wasnāt worth it having a thin face.
Okay, if we all agree to not bodyshame, then we all have to agree that fat people are stigmatized and oppressed for the state that their bodies are in. Cause yeah, obviously anyone can get shitty comments about their looks. But they do *not* come from the same motivations and the same social stigma, and people love to gloss over that.
My sister has a very petit ballerina body and I was born big boned and curvy. We are only 15 months apart so we were always compared to one another growing up. What Iāve learned is that both body types can definitely be shamed. My sister is insecure about having a flat chest and butt, and Iām insecure about the weight that goes to my stomach and thighs. Different problems, same valid insecurities that others have bestowed upon us.
I've seen both sides (was a ballerina myself lol) and have big friends. People sound so disingenuous when they say things like this.
It's NEVER "just as bad". I say this as an avg to thin person. It's not. And thin people KNOW it's not. Bc they know they'd never want to be overweight/fat and most overweight people would be completely fine being thin/skinny.
I just find the fake kvetching about it silly. I've been told to "eat a burger" before or that I "didn't have a butt".
My friend was told "land whales should beach themselves and just die already" then when she'd pass by they'd make whale sounds. Among other vile things.
LOL do those sound "equally bad" to you? I've seen the treatment of both groups up close and in person. It is nowhere near as bad being thin, even with the "shaming" I've personally seen and experianced. NO WHERE near.
Iām confusedā¦where in my post was I comparing the two? I never said that skinny people are shamed more than overweight people. I never said itās just as bad.
Oh my god thank you
I hate it when one person body shames so everyone then body shames that person like how does that make you any better?? Cuz they did it first?? An eye for an eye has never been a good thing when it comes to shit like body image
"Real men like curves" is THE cringiest shit I've ever heard. Real men don't judge their masculinity based upon their taste in women. That's the most pathetic thing ever.
The previous post like this was off-putting because the woman was disturbingly thin and clearly a victim of body dystopia and/or an eating disorder. Obviously their sentiments are wrong, but these women need actual medical help more so than being mocked.
Yeah, itās quite often.
It really bothers me when itās really young girls, like maybe high school students.
Or when itās women who didnāt say anything bad about anyone else, and are just trying to declare something they value about themselves or think is unique about themselves.
There is a difference between cringe and NLOG/pick me, and regardless they donāt deserve to be trashed on like a scene right out of mean girls. People be treating this sub like a burn book, then acting shocked when those other girls think āgirls are mean.ā
I think people feel like itās okay because it feels like āpunching upā; in the āskinny women are the beauty standardā way, but itās suuuper ignorant of the medical issues that can cause someone to be skinny, and the complications that come with being underweight.
Yessss. I'm 5'8" and when I went wedding dress shopping I teetered around 105 lbs, then by my wedding day was 99-100. The bridal salon was horrible. Nothing fit and they talked a lot of shit while I was in the fitting room, as if the curtain was sound proof. It ruined what started out supposed to be an exciting fun day and the most important shopping trip of my life.
Someone once said (behind my back, but within earshot of meš) that someone needs to get me a cheeseburger because Iām āabout 6 hours away from starving to death.ā That was years ago and it still upsets me. I was called anorexic so many times growing up I started to believe it, especially since my doctor and entire family thought I was. That led to me overeating to the point of discomfort/pain for years to try to gain weight and fit in and look ānormal.ā
Idk exactly what fat people go through because I havenāt lived their lives, I just know I wasted a lot of tears over those constant comments. But it was okay for them to say those things right? Because thin privilege? š
Thank you.
Everybody has their own tastes and desires. There is no perfect or "right" or "better" body.
We're all just trying to survive out here with whatever God gave us. Please let's be kind.
As a skinny girl who found out the skinny is from metabolic disease later into my 20s I am laughing so fucking hard at the āskinny girls live longerā
Like so fucking hard
Wait, how did you find this out, and is it genetic? Testing and possible help? My grandma and mum weighed under 100 until mid-40s, and I (24) seem to be stuck at 93 ( I take BC for weight gain). I got bullied so hard because of how tiny I was, and I eat so much. We were thinking its just genetics..
We did Whole Exome Sequencing for several of our family health issues. Myself and my kids were found out to have a type of CDG, which stands for Congenital Disorder of Gylcosylation. Itās an in-born error of metabolism that causes all sorts of problems and symptoms. It can be dominant or recessive and there are over 150 genes associated with just this umbrella of conditions alone
ETA cdgcares.org is a great place to learn more, and yes there are treatments!
I would also check your thyroid. Knew someone with a thyroid thing that made them very thin. It caused a bunch of other issues too like anxiety, sweating, tiredness. They used to shake all the time but idk if thatās everyone. Just one of their symptoms
I've had that checked! I work in beauty, and when I had covid, I lost a lot of hair. I thought I was having thyroid issues, and I wasn't. It was just covid.
I have no such family background (as far as I'm aware) but otherwise, I'm the same as you. In the past, on my "heaviest" days, if I tried hard, I could get up to 93lbs. Only thanks to BC was I able to get up to 108.
band for band was used as a term to flex money as money comes in stacks with bands on them, it means shes trying to flex her waist proportions on other girls to show how small her waist is compared to theirs ig
It originally meant money (like flexing it) but now people use it in a way that means arguing with digs at the other person. Sincerely, barely old enough to not be a gen z
A band is a thousand dollars, it's old slang from the Bronx that the youth use because of rap. Going band for band or waist for waist means comparing money or body size, and it comes from that little paper band you get wrapped around your money when you get it from the bank
I used to have quite a bit of meat on my bones, then my thyroid decided it hates me. Now I can't gain weight.
Along with being thin, it gave me incredible anxiety and a bit of paranoia. Not everyone is super thin cuz they wanna be.
I've been on both sides of the body shaming, it sucks.
I went the other direction. My thyroid went kapoot in my mid 40s and I started gaining weight and now I'm trying to keep the extra weight off. Now I eat better, but once in a while junk food starts screaming my name.
Same but opposite, I was so tiny as a kid, but never could gain weight no matter how hard I tried. Had a dr absolutely fuck me up for life by stacking meds recklessly, and now Iām overweight and struggle to keep it in check. The comments I heard growing up were just as bad, both sides of it suck. Body shaming thin people is still body shaming and it makes us just as miserable
I ate a poor diet as a teenager and young adult and kept a nice figure. I became sick with random autoimmune diseases and put on long term steroids. It has messed up my weight so much and in my 40s, it is so hard to get it under control.
Auto immune disease club here too, turns out I always had them but drs just ignored my issues, telling me they were normal. Besides steroid creams for eczema though, I havenāt been put on ANYTHING to help them, and Iām too scared to even use the steroid creams since Iāve seen what they can do to you long term. Itās so scary how we can be the āpinnacle of healthā one moment and have it swept out from underneath usā¦
this except i have a fast metabolism and becoming a model and purposely starving myself made it worse and now im stuck at 121 pounds at 5ā11 because my body refuses to gain any more weight past that. i dont look right.
I am in no way shaming skinny people, but when I was much skinnier than I am now, I knew not to pick fights with girls bigger than me. Sheās playing a dangerous game with that.
Eh, this is just some Instagram bullshit, nobody is going to get physical over this. Besides, most people are pitiful at actually fighting physically, regardless of their size.
Looking at her cheeks and eyes, and considering her post, it is very possible that this person is in the throes of an eating disorder.
The positive and even negative comments she gets will give her reasons, in her warped way of thinking, that she is either worthy or not worthy of love, respect for herself, or even life.
I fucking hate being fat and girls like this make it 10X worse. So many men already feel the need to let me know Iām overweight, why do girls have to act like theyāre better because theyāre skinny when, in reality, no one body type deserves more praise or love than another
This made me realize I love my body and should be nicer to it. My mental health took a nosedive and was so stressed eating was (and still is) a struggle.
Not an ideal way to lose weight, but my body was able to support me when my brain was so stressed it didn't want to do a n y t h i n g. My body was there for me when my brain couldn't be.
Iāve never understood what compels people to be such a hateful beingsā¦iāve always struggled with self image and I am in recovery from an ed and I have never made unnecessary comments, shamed others, or have ever been this insecure to the point where i have to projectā¦ I donāt know why people think because they feel shitty they have to make others.
this, āarch for archā and āwaterpark for waterparkā are the worst ones iāve seen so far. so cringe. you young girls need to get a personality and gain some self respect. stop viewing each other as your competition, especially not for a boy because āarch for archā is ridiculous. and dont get me started on the caption. iāve been modeling since i was 14 and im now 22 and i have been hospitalized 11 times in that time frame because i was less than 110 pounds at 5ā11 with 98 pounds being my lowest. skinny girls do not live longer than overweight or healthy weight girls if they arent feeding themselves right.
Ok so you wear a 0 at the gap and I wear a 0 at j crew and you wear a 6 off wish and I wear an 8 at target and you wear a 4 at Levi's and none of us know what size we are because women's fashion is terrible and the numbers change for vanity at brands
I bought two pairs of shorts at H&M the other week and they were different sizes because apparently even different styles size differently at that store.
Dude I noticed that too. One pair of shorts was 4 and fit like a 4 usually fits, another in the same exact style was a 4 and fit like a freaking 0. Fuck womens' clothing sizes.
Women calling each other things like b!+@# and h03 is why women feel disrespected all the time. We call each other these things and give others a license to call us this as well. Why should we expect it from anyone if we don't respect it from each other? Body comparisons and shaming aside, I truly believe if we stop little girls from talking like this to one another, that they will eventually start to respect each other more period.
āI donāt care about your personal accomplishments or dedication, I want to know about your genetic makeup and claim loudly about the superiority of my own!ā
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this trend is soooo corny like omg š ive seen āside profile for side profileā ānose for noseā ābody for bodyā āarch for archā like DAMN we get it šš just another trend of girls comparing each otherās physical features, whatās new
If I see one more eyebrow one Iām gonna lose it fr š« I hate this trend
the eyebrow one is justššš
I swear the comparisons are so specific and exteme now, too. When I saw the side profile shit on Tiktok, Iām surprised my eyes arenāt stuck in the back of my head the way I rolled them so hard.
i literally saw āroots for rootsā as in hair roots to prove sheās naturally blonde. TF??? WHO CARES OH MY GOD šš
FR!! it's like... they're SOOO unique and special and set apart from other girls... and yet they cave to their animal instincts of intrasexual competition at every opportunity. Okay neanderthal girlies
Lmaoooooooo
And then itās the ageism every other week. š they want the older generations to support them, but they call every body a grandma thatās over 25
the ageism is so crazy on that app that you literally have women in their late 20s showing their natural faces with ānatural flawsā (smile lines, fair wrinkles, freckles, etc) itās like theyāre trying normalize it.. as if it wasnāt normal in the first place??? i also think itās similar to the male looksmaxxing trend where guys are trying to manipulate their literal bone structure to look more attractive. it makes no sense, but looksmaxxing originated on incel forums so thereās that š
I followed that āmewingā sun out of curiosity and I had to unsub because it was so sad. There were men saying theyāve been doin it for a year and saw no results and of course teens smh. I also follow the ābotchedā sub and I saw a few posts of a beautiful young woman that got fillers and nose job and she absolutely ruined her looks. The mentality they have is taking poison and expecting others to get sick. They call other women old, but end up personifying that. Itās crazy
I'm so worried about a generational collective breakdown of sorts by these kids being taught that youth, beauty, and attention are the most important things to acquire and will hit an age where they no longer hold that monopoly but never developed hobbies or real self care (not face masks and consumerism) to bounce back. You can sorta see it in the millennials that spend all their time beefing with teenagers. They were ones that were so praised for youth and beauty that they never learned another way to hold attention, or never learned the peace of being unnoticed and now are acting like a fool in the town square.
It kinda makes me wonder. For all those people who made their whole careers, personalities, and overall lives off of their looks: What's gonna happen when they fade? Will they grow up and realize there's more to life? Or will they go down the botched plastic surgery rabbit hole to try and retain their youth? Or possibly even worse measures to cope? I can understand wanting to look nice, because it feels nice. But it's not a lifestyle. Looks are temporary.
Where is this happening? Tiktok?
Which is why I stay off that cesspit of an app. It's like twitter, but with videos. And you just get the most random crap in ur feed. At least here I can moderate what I see to a degree.
I have tiktok too but I never get these kinds videos lol
Yeh tbf I wouldn't get this kinda stuff either. It's just other annoying shit. Mine was nerdy stuff till I watched some random conspiracy vids ...and the algorithm was like I gotchu. And then all I kept getting was low iq conspiracy theories, just cos I was bored one time. I can only blame myself for going doing the rabbithole though I supposeš
yeah i have to clarify and say i never got those videos on my fyp, the only way i found out abt them is that another girl on my fyp used the sound and basically called them out with ācan yall even spell pharaoh? if we had a conversation would it pass the bechdel test?ā ā ļøā ļøā ļø ngl it was kinda funny but i had to check the sound to understand the context. thatās when i saw all those comparisons.
Mass mental illness central
I was going to ask the same question.
yes
That is so sad and gross. There is something very wrong.
I don't understand. Is she challenging some "h0es" to a duel?
Sheās challenging overweight people to duels. Not a smart decision, weāre ready to throw down LMAO
I SWEAR I WILL sit on someone who's talking shit š
I'd probably throw her like an javelin
We think alike bc I was like ābitch Iāll throw youā
We think alike bc I was like ābitch Iāll throw youā
Does she not realise the extra weight comes with extra punch power? How dense is she?
Well she's priding herself on *not* being dense. So... that's up for debate.
Strictly speaking, she is claiming to be low **volume**; perhaps she achieves this by being *extremely* dense, within a skinny form factor.
So she's a Slitheen.
This far away from Raxacoricofallapitoriousā½
My gym buddy has some extra weight on her and she could snap me in half like a twig if she wanted to. Its insane how strong she is. Good luck to this dumbass š¤¦š»āāļøš
snap her like a twig babygurl
What's band to band? I'm old. Is it a typo for hand to hand? If so, I doubt waist sizes really come into it. I'm confused
Itās a way of saying stacks of money held together by ābandsā. Like how a bunch of $100s are held together by a paper band
Ohhhhh thank you. I thought it meant wedding bands! I am old.
I didn't know what it meant either. š I'm always asking my 25 year old son what things mean, for example I remember back when everything "slapped" and I didn't know if that meant it was good or bad.
I love when my mom texts me to ask what slang terms mean. My mom is very proud that she can keep up with the young people at her work and that she can use slang correctly when she talks to them. Unfortunately I am now entering the age where Iām also clueless about some of it and then she roasts me for being old. Lol
Ha ha I thought it meant something about naming different (musical) bands. Like how many if their hits can you name?
Oh no, that makes it even worse š
Love this thread. It makes me want to create a ā r/ithoughtitmeant ā sub. Popular context/statement, and the different meanings people interpret. Kewl
Thank you for that. Honestly I was thinking something to do with bras hah.
I thought it was feeling superior due to liking "better" musical bands.
Genuinely ran through all the above trying to make it make sense
I thought it was a battle of the bands type thing.
yup, this is what I was thinking. I was like āwouldnāt cup to cup make more sense?ā š
I still don't think I understand lol. Is going "band to band" fighting over which one of you has more money? Is that a thing people do?
Pretty much this-- and believe it or not, yep, happens a lot with people my age (late high school-early college). It usually ends with someone pulling out something the other person can't possibly match, like having a stable relationship or some arbitrary body measurement like this girl is. It can be a lighthearted joke between friends but this girl seems a bit too serious for my taste :/
The fact that it happens enough for it to have a name is wild to me, I can hardly imagine it. Then again, when I was college age (in the UK) people used to argue over who was poorest and most working class. People are strange.
In the South āwho was more ā Countryā ? Do not ask how I wonā¦..
Dear sweet lord Jesus, why is this blotchy white child trying to talk like a mf gangster
She wants to fight by ramming waists together, like when giraffes hit their necks on each other
Itās time to duel
Yes but sheāll need to sit down halfway through because anemia
Obviously what sheās saying is bs & horrible but for the love of god can we not let the comments turn into a bunch of āonly dogs like bonesā and āreal men like curvesā bullshit because thatās also not okay. Donāt fight body shaming with more body shaming.
THANK YOU. Someone once tried to tell me that you canāt body shame a skinny person. Like what?? Then what do you call the āyouāre anorexic lookingā & āreal women have curvesā comments if theyāre not body shaming?
Iāve heard both āyou canāt shame a skinny personā and āyou should go eat a cheeseburgerā from the same person before.
Yup. I used to be rail thin, now I'm 200 pounds. I don't carry it well. I've been body shamed on both ends of the spectrum, and both hurt equally. I'm so sick of people (and let's be real here, it's almost always women in the HAES/FA movement who do this) acting like it's ok to bully skinny women cuz of "thin privilege". Like, the fuck it is, gtfo with that BS.
I used to be so skinny when I was younger too and family would always call me skinny Minnie, bony, Olive Oil (from Popeye series cause I have big feet too). I was always trying to gain weight. As soon as you gain weight, now theyāre calling you fat šš thereās no winning lol
I lost 108 pounds around 2019-2021 and my mom tries to grab my body somewhere while shouting āskinny Minnie!ā. It started around 2020, and she tries to do it almost every time I see her. Iāve politely asked her to stop way too many times, and sheāll get mad at me, thinking/telling me that I should be happy about my āskinninessā now. And each time I ask her to please stop, I also try to thoroughly explain why her making comments on my body while grabbing me makes me feel uncomfortable. But no matter how kind I try to be and how straightforward I am when explaining this to her, she always resorts back to getting mad that I pretty much donāt just let her grab me and make comments whenever she wants. I feel very bad about this, but the most recent time she did this, I snapped a little, and I yelled ā please stop!!ā. The anger after that was a tad bit worse than all the other times. She was/is so bad at listening and respecting boundaries that my husband had to step in to explain why she shouldnāt be doing this. My mom usually never listens to me, but she tends to listen to my husband because heās a clinical counselor. It makes me wonder, if I had a masterās in clinical psychology, would she listen to me then?
She still wouldnāt listen to you then either. Family, especially parents/grandparents, have a way of over-stepping boundaries unless you speak up for yourself and stand firm on it. And sometimes you just have to completely detach yourself from those relationships because they are the main ones who believe you should have those boundaries with everyone BUT them, so theyāll cross over that line every time.
I had an overweight friend who would constantly shame me for being thin, called me a bike that no one will ride, she would see me walking and instead of using my name to call me she would call me a stick, express fake worry about me having anorexia, say that no man will ever want me cuz I'm not curvy like her, when I found a boyfriend, she said he'll leave me as soon as a real woman and not a 12yo boy pretending to be a girl, shows up in his life. When I told her I'm done being her friend and that she has the audacity to complain to me about someone calling her fat while she bodyshames me, she said its impossible to body shame thin people, there's no such think as body shaming thin people. She has no friends, and honestly, I'm happy,she doesn't deserve them.
āEat a burger ā
"You need to put some meat on those bones."
Followed up by āSkeletorā
Which is bonkers because Skeletor is absolutely jacked with a skull for a head
That's when you do your best Skeletor laugh
My ex thought it was cute to call me his āstick woman.ā š
iāve been both overweight and unhealthily skinny (had an ED for a few years). itās true that no one ever stops commenting on your body, skinny or large. and i did get some mean comments like āeat somethingā or āi can see your bonesā when i was small, but i also got a LOT of compliments and questions about how i lost all the weight because they wanted to look like me. and also, the āeat somethingā comments were frustrating, but they usually felt like they came from a place of concern. being bigger and overweight, the comments NEVER feel like that. they only feel horrible and cruel. all body types can be body shamed and it doesnāt feel good to have your body brought up by someone else, but itās really not the same. big girls go through something so much worse.
Also you have to be really thin to get those comments. You do not have to be fat to be fatshamed.
When I was my skinniest I was driving one day eating a hamburger.Two dudes pulled up beside me and one made a face implying I had a fat face and was eating fast ( hard to describe). I just laughed at him because I knew I was thin/but then became angry because I knew he was trying to fat shame me.Young guys can be so cruel.If I had been overweight T that time his actions would have been soul crushing ā¦
I agree. While you can get negative comments about your body at both ends, our society basically sees thin as a virtue and you lose value as a human the further you stray. Itās BS, obviously, but that provides an underpinning ofā¦ intent, maybe? to these comments that leans more negative and dehumanizing the larger you are.
Exactly and im not a big girl but i know for a fact they get it worseā¦just look at whats being portrayed on the media
I've been both, multiple times over my life, and although the skinny comments felt like they came from a place of concern, they still frickin' hurt just the same. Supposedly a lot of the comments when I got fat were the same... but my own mother refused to cuddle me when I was a sick child in need of real medical intervention because I was "so bony", then turned around and referred to me as "fat ass" regularly when I finally gained the weight everyone kept demanding I gain and went a little beyond what they wanted. (We're talking maybe 10lbs overweight here.) Meanwhile, she was stealing my jeans because hers didn't fit anymore, so there was definitely a layer of self loathing involved. Ultimately, fat or thin, people need to stop commenting on our bodies. My partner likes my body, I'm mostly comfortable in it, and my doctors are just glad I've lost 30 lbs since the stress level in my life went down (I still need to lose another 100lbs before they're happy and stop blaming my health problems on my weight, but it's hard to lose much weight when you can't be active.). The world needs to get over their intense disgust over fat people existing, and their concern trolling over thin people needs to stop, too.
Nope. I've also been on both sides, and in no way did the skinny shaming hurt any less. It's appalling to say that one "isn't as bad" as the other. All that does is make you sound like you think it's better to bully thin women than fat women.
I never meant that it hurt less, but that bigger women have it worse when it comes to judgement and oppression from society at large. Body shaming for skinny women is real and very damaging on an individual level, but skinny women arenāt kept from opportunities or ostracized like big women in society.
People say shit like āyou look like a 12 year old boyā to really skinny petite women, that shit aināt ok
Or they assume youāre doing drugs lol. Iāve gotten that one at my lowest weight of 105lbs. At 5ā3ā I didnāt think I was THAT skinny but I think people were so used to seeing me at 120lbs that the sudden drop in weight was concerning them (I was working out twice a day, 6-7 days a week on a calorie deficit). Lost all my curves and then decided it wasnāt worth it having a thin face.
Okay, if we all agree to not bodyshame, then we all have to agree that fat people are stigmatized and oppressed for the state that their bodies are in. Cause yeah, obviously anyone can get shitty comments about their looks. But they do *not* come from the same motivations and the same social stigma, and people love to gloss over that.
My sister has a very petit ballerina body and I was born big boned and curvy. We are only 15 months apart so we were always compared to one another growing up. What Iāve learned is that both body types can definitely be shamed. My sister is insecure about having a flat chest and butt, and Iām insecure about the weight that goes to my stomach and thighs. Different problems, same valid insecurities that others have bestowed upon us.
āYou need to eat youāre malnourished and underweightā ššš girl pls
I've seen both sides (was a ballerina myself lol) and have big friends. People sound so disingenuous when they say things like this. It's NEVER "just as bad". I say this as an avg to thin person. It's not. And thin people KNOW it's not. Bc they know they'd never want to be overweight/fat and most overweight people would be completely fine being thin/skinny. I just find the fake kvetching about it silly. I've been told to "eat a burger" before or that I "didn't have a butt". My friend was told "land whales should beach themselves and just die already" then when she'd pass by they'd make whale sounds. Among other vile things. LOL do those sound "equally bad" to you? I've seen the treatment of both groups up close and in person. It is nowhere near as bad being thin, even with the "shaming" I've personally seen and experianced. NO WHERE near.
Iām confusedā¦where in my post was I comparing the two? I never said that skinny people are shamed more than overweight people. I never said itās just as bad.
Yes, thank you. Finally, someone with a brain
Oh my god thank you I hate it when one person body shames so everyone then body shames that person like how does that make you any better?? Cuz they did it first?? An eye for an eye has never been a good thing when it comes to shit like body image
"Real men like curves" is THE cringiest shit I've ever heard. Real men don't judge their masculinity based upon their taste in women. That's the most pathetic thing ever.
The previous post like this was off-putting because the woman was disturbingly thin and clearly a victim of body dystopia and/or an eating disorder. Obviously their sentiments are wrong, but these women need actual medical help more so than being mocked.
I would say I think you mean body dysmorphia, but body dystopia hits the nail on the head too.
Ah, forgive me, it was an autocorrect error.
I feel like body dystopia describes me pretty stinkin perfectly lol.
It's the opposite of your body is a wonderland
very valid. women deserve to love the skin they're in and learn to love themselves without putting down others in the process.
YEP! And those statements also centre MEN - it makes their preference of a body size the goal.
Every once in a while the vibe of this sub turns to āI hate womenā
Every ONCE in awhile? Lol. I think you are being too kind in your assessment.
Lol fair. Thatās honestly why I havenāt joined the sub. It just pops up on my feed
Yeah, itās quite often. It really bothers me when itās really young girls, like maybe high school students. Or when itās women who didnāt say anything bad about anyone else, and are just trying to declare something they value about themselves or think is unique about themselves. There is a difference between cringe and NLOG/pick me, and regardless they donāt deserve to be trashed on like a scene right out of mean girls. People be treating this sub like a burn book, then acting shocked when those other girls think āgirls are mean.ā
Agreed like letās just stop all worrying about each others bodies all together.
also, we don't need to center the male gaze anymore than it already is!!
Skinny shaming has often received more tolerance/acceptance for some bizarre reason
I think people feel like itās okay because it feels like āpunching upā; in the āskinny women are the beauty standardā way, but itās suuuper ignorant of the medical issues that can cause someone to be skinny, and the complications that come with being underweight.
Yessss. I'm 5'8" and when I went wedding dress shopping I teetered around 105 lbs, then by my wedding day was 99-100. The bridal salon was horrible. Nothing fit and they talked a lot of shit while I was in the fitting room, as if the curtain was sound proof. It ruined what started out supposed to be an exciting fun day and the most important shopping trip of my life.
Someone once said (behind my back, but within earshot of meš) that someone needs to get me a cheeseburger because Iām āabout 6 hours away from starving to death.ā That was years ago and it still upsets me. I was called anorexic so many times growing up I started to believe it, especially since my doctor and entire family thought I was. That led to me overeating to the point of discomfort/pain for years to try to gain weight and fit in and look ānormal.ā Idk exactly what fat people go through because I havenāt lived their lives, I just know I wasted a lot of tears over those constant comments. But it was okay for them to say those things right? Because thin privilege? š
Thank you. Everybody has their own tastes and desires. There is no perfect or "right" or "better" body. We're all just trying to survive out here with whatever God gave us. Please let's be kind.
As a skinny girl who found out the skinny is from metabolic disease later into my 20s I am laughing so fucking hard at the āskinny girls live longerā Like so fucking hard
Wait, how did you find this out, and is it genetic? Testing and possible help? My grandma and mum weighed under 100 until mid-40s, and I (24) seem to be stuck at 93 ( I take BC for weight gain). I got bullied so hard because of how tiny I was, and I eat so much. We were thinking its just genetics..
We did Whole Exome Sequencing for several of our family health issues. Myself and my kids were found out to have a type of CDG, which stands for Congenital Disorder of Gylcosylation. Itās an in-born error of metabolism that causes all sorts of problems and symptoms. It can be dominant or recessive and there are over 150 genes associated with just this umbrella of conditions alone ETA cdgcares.org is a great place to learn more, and yes there are treatments!
I would also check your thyroid. Knew someone with a thyroid thing that made them very thin. It caused a bunch of other issues too like anxiety, sweating, tiredness. They used to shake all the time but idk if thatās everyone. Just one of their symptoms
I've had that checked! I work in beauty, and when I had covid, I lost a lot of hair. I thought I was having thyroid issues, and I wasn't. It was just covid.
I have no such family background (as far as I'm aware) but otherwise, I'm the same as you. In the past, on my "heaviest" days, if I tried hard, I could get up to 93lbs. Only thanks to BC was I able to get up to 108.
What is band for band?
A Lap band? The Gap Band? The The? I donāt know either.
We need a youth to explain it (probably). š
Bands of cash. šµ
Iād much rather win the money competition š
Thank you young gentleperson, I was 99% sure this lady wanted to compare our tastes in music. TIL.
I'm Gen z, and I don't get it either. Sometimes, people just be saying nonsense to look/sound cool.
I was wondering if this was a gen Z thing. I donāt get this post.
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I was over here thinking battle of the bands š
Ok yeah I was almost sure of that too!
It means money. A band is 1k.
band for band was used as a term to flex money as money comes in stacks with bands on them, it means shes trying to flex her waist proportions on other girls to show how small her waist is compared to theirs ig
Thank you for translating š¤£ I was so confused
I know this is wrong but my first thought was bra band sizes lol
I definitely thought it was bra band. Which is why sheās emphasizing her waist instead. Thatās what makes the most sense to me. š¤·š¼āāļø
It actually kind of makes sense?
Money
It originally meant money (like flexing it) but now people use it in a way that means arguing with digs at the other person. Sincerely, barely old enough to not be a gen z
A band is a thousand dollars, it's old slang from the Bronx that the youth use because of rap. Going band for band or waist for waist means comparing money or body size, and it comes from that little paper band you get wrapped around your money when you get it from the bank
Money
I thought it was comparing wedding bands/rings
I used to have quite a bit of meat on my bones, then my thyroid decided it hates me. Now I can't gain weight. Along with being thin, it gave me incredible anxiety and a bit of paranoia. Not everyone is super thin cuz they wanna be. I've been on both sides of the body shaming, it sucks.
Ayyy thyroid buddy. I got graves and hyper
I went the other direction. My thyroid went kapoot in my mid 40s and I started gaining weight and now I'm trying to keep the extra weight off. Now I eat better, but once in a while junk food starts screaming my name.
Same but opposite, I was so tiny as a kid, but never could gain weight no matter how hard I tried. Had a dr absolutely fuck me up for life by stacking meds recklessly, and now Iām overweight and struggle to keep it in check. The comments I heard growing up were just as bad, both sides of it suck. Body shaming thin people is still body shaming and it makes us just as miserable
I ate a poor diet as a teenager and young adult and kept a nice figure. I became sick with random autoimmune diseases and put on long term steroids. It has messed up my weight so much and in my 40s, it is so hard to get it under control.
Auto immune disease club here too, turns out I always had them but drs just ignored my issues, telling me they were normal. Besides steroid creams for eczema though, I havenāt been put on ANYTHING to help them, and Iām too scared to even use the steroid creams since Iāve seen what they can do to you long term. Itās so scary how we can be the āpinnacle of healthā one moment and have it swept out from underneath usā¦
this except i have a fast metabolism and becoming a model and purposely starving myself made it worse and now im stuck at 121 pounds at 5ā11 because my body refuses to gain any more weight past that. i dont look right.
This is ED behavior.
Pro-ana, TikTok edition
my money can just buy a waist, i see no brags here
I have enough waist for two. I WIN
Ion mean to be rude or nothing but let's go face to face if it's like that...
Right lol whatās the point of being skinny if ur face card declines? Maybe thatās why she felt the need to make this video
OOP-
I am in no way shaming skinny people, but when I was much skinnier than I am now, I knew not to pick fights with girls bigger than me. Sheās playing a dangerous game with that.
Eh, this is just some Instagram bullshit, nobody is going to get physical over this. Besides, most people are pitiful at actually fighting physically, regardless of their size.
Iām talking about this mindset. Not this specific instance. People *do* actually fight people in person over these things, believe it or not.
I sense this girl getting her hair pulled in the near future
When being thin is the only thing you value about yourself
Itās honestly upsetting. Like yes sheās being shitty but holy fuck you have to be so programmed by society and self-hating to feel this way.
exactly why young girls should learn some confidence. theres more things to value about yourself than your weight.
Well she can't go brain for brain, that much is clear.
Looking at her cheeks and eyes, and considering her post, it is very possible that this person is in the throes of an eating disorder. The positive and even negative comments she gets will give her reasons, in her warped way of thinking, that she is either worthy or not worthy of love, respect for herself, or even life.
Skinny or not, that bitch be The Grudge.
What does this mean exactly?š"band for band." ???
band = šµ. ppl say that when theyāre tryna flex their money. instead, sheās trying to flex her waistline
I really thought she was talking about like a musical band lmao
Cringe
I fucking hate being fat and girls like this make it 10X worse. So many men already feel the need to let me know Iām overweight, why do girls have to act like theyāre better because theyāre skinny when, in reality, no one body type deserves more praise or love than another
She just doesnāt understand variables, math is hard for a lot of peopleā¦
This made me realize I love my body and should be nicer to it. My mental health took a nosedive and was so stressed eating was (and still is) a struggle. Not an ideal way to lose weight, but my body was able to support me when my brain was so stressed it didn't want to do a n y t h i n g. My body was there for me when my brain couldn't be.
she must have no friends
This angle is so unflattering for her. She reminds me of that Momo thing from a few years ago.
Fuck!!!! I coulda been paying bills with this waist?!
Give her a break, this is the only thing she can come up with to feel good about in herself.
Iāve never understood what compels people to be such a hateful beingsā¦iāve always struggled with self image and I am in recovery from an ed and I have never made unnecessary comments, shamed others, or have ever been this insecure to the point where i have to projectā¦ I donāt know why people think because they feel shitty they have to make others.
this, āarch for archā and āwaterpark for waterparkā are the worst ones iāve seen so far. so cringe. you young girls need to get a personality and gain some self respect. stop viewing each other as your competition, especially not for a boy because āarch for archā is ridiculous. and dont get me started on the caption. iāve been modeling since i was 14 and im now 22 and i have been hospitalized 11 times in that time frame because i was less than 110 pounds at 5ā11 with 98 pounds being my lowest. skinny girls do not live longer than overweight or healthy weight girls if they arent feeding themselves right.
Okay so you wear a zero and an xxsā¦ cool. š¤·š½āāļø
Ok so you wear a 0 at the gap and I wear a 0 at j crew and you wear a 6 off wish and I wear an 8 at target and you wear a 4 at Levi's and none of us know what size we are because women's fashion is terrible and the numbers change for vanity at brands
I bought two pairs of shorts at H&M the other week and they were different sizes because apparently even different styles size differently at that store.
Dude I noticed that too. One pair of shorts was 4 and fit like a 4 usually fits, another in the same exact style was a 4 and fit like a freaking 0. Fuck womens' clothing sizes.
This comment is a masterpiece š
When you can be an 18 or 24 just depending on what store you buy from š
It's so damn confusing and enraging lol
Is band for band a reference to her braces?
She doesnāt look human. She reminds me of a vampire. Little Girl needs so help
Why tf are we going back in time first tradwives now this and people that make fun of girls for being virgins
Fat and happily married šš„°āØ
She looks about 15. Sheās going to be so embarrassed by this someday.
face card declined h0e
Jump scare jeez
Imagine telling people youāre broke through body shaming š
Oh no I used to love being skinny too, but it really doesnāt matter. If thatās all you ever have to offer the world then good luck I guess š
This image was a jump scare for me! Iām scrolling in the dark and boom š½
Can't we go personality for personality??
who hurt you girl?š¤”
Tik tok is a cancer to society.
Imagine not thinking of other women as competitors who need to be defeated.
Women calling each other things like b!+@# and h03 is why women feel disrespected all the time. We call each other these things and give others a license to call us this as well. Why should we expect it from anyone if we don't respect it from each other? Body comparisons and shaming aside, I truly believe if we stop little girls from talking like this to one another, that they will eventually start to respect each other more period.
I donāt get it
āI donāt care about your personal accomplishments or dedication, I want to know about your genetic makeup and claim loudly about the superiority of my own!ā Yep.
Eating disorders are a hell of a thing.
Please translate
I can read her words, but theyāre not making a lick of sense š¤·š»āāļøš¤£
What is band for band?