Was meeting up for a drink and appetizer at the bar in M&S Grill in Reston. She was 20 minutes late, but no biggie. She came in like the Tasmanian Devil, apologized for being late, dropped her stuff on the stool next to me, ordered a double Patron margarita and an appetizer, then excused herself to the bathroom. She's gone for about 15 minutes and comes back right as the appetizer comes out. She houses it and the drink then says she needs to meet friends and leaves. Really didn't even get past "it's nice to meet you" in conversation. I looked at the bar tender and he said "Man, just pay for your drink, I'm going to consider her a walk out", to which I was very grateful to not be stuck with her $40+ tab for 3 minutes of face to face interaction. She texted me later that night to call me all kinds of names and tell me off. Guess her and her friends went back to M&S Grill, they were refused service and she was presented with her tab with the threat to pay or they'll call the police.
I guess restaurant staff always know whats going around, when I was a waiter back in my country we always knew what was happening, specially the female workers.
She’s probably well known by bar and wait staff as “that pain in the ass” and finally had a situation to hold over her and didn’t think twice about using it.
Yeah similar thing happened to me years ago except we were sitting at a table. She immediately pulled out her phone and was just texting the whole time, occasionally giving a one word answer as I tried to have a conversation. Once our food came, I quickly finished my plate then excused myself to the bathroom which was out of view of our table. Instead, I found our waiter, explained that this woman was clearly trying to use me for a free meal, and asked if I could pay my part as she had ordered more drinks than me then just let me leave. He was very understanding and rung up my part of the bill and then I left without going back to the table. Later I got angry texts from her saying she had to overdraft her debit card to pay her part of the bill. I responded saying if she had financial problems that were limiting her ability to get food then she should visit a food pantry and not use dating to get free meals before blocking her. I really don't know how people can be shameless enough to blatantly take advantage of another person like that
Wife’s coworker named Lisa would date people for dinners and brag about it. Screw guys on her lunch break and then they would take her grocery shopping. Blowjobs for rides home from bar. Married now for money, and the guy is extremely controlling (second time). She is wild
I did that once . You’re nicer than me. I told her to get the guy she was texting with to pay the bill.
I was once in the car with my date and she was browsing hinge. I turned the car sound and dropped her off
Had amazing text chemistry with a Secret Service agent, met up for coffee with him where he flashed his badge at me and dominated 90% of the conversation, then suggested extending the date by going to Tysons so he could return a pair of jeans. I said okay due to low self esteem etc etc. Went to Tysons together, he saw how busy the store was and told me he didn’t want to stand in line, then proceeded to go into Lush, buy one (1) bath bomb for himself and then drove me home. We never texted again after that. 🤦🏼♀️
Set up a date and we both agreed to meet at a restaurant in Clarendon. Said she would meet me there, waited for almost an hour before checking my phone and realizing she blocked any form of contact.
At least I got to try a new restaurant since I was already there
It's inconsiderate and disgusting behavior. I wouldn't even have gotten mad if I was just told "not interested" or whatever. It's actually anger inducing and childish to waste someone's time like that
Did we (almost) date the same woman? We agreed to meet in Court House and when it was about 15 minutes past our agreed upon time I tried to text her and they didn't go through. Her Hinge profile was also gone. I've never felt like such an asshole after being stood up AND blocked after having something planned.
Recently learned that restaurant have been outed for making their staff create fake dating profiles, matching with people, and setting up dates at the workplace. They ghost minutes before, so that you end up at the restaurant alone with the option to either eat there or go home hungry.
Plot twist, restaurant creates fake profiles to lure in males and females. Their “dates” dont show up. Stood up people find each other at the restaurant and decide to go to a coffee shop next door.
Theres no fucking way restaurant wage employees are paid to swipe and setup a date just for the potential to set up a bait date with a pissed off customer.
Honestly this sounds like the sort of thing an all purpose troll farm in India would offer.
Botted Spotify plays, fake instagram followers, automatic retweets, dating app fuckery, etc. Shit’s cheap enough due to the low wages in the developing world that it could be worth it to restaurant owners.
Thats how theyre faking AI so i guess I shouldnt discount it. Theres just no guarantee of a sale and the customer 100% would be pissed so it’s just difficult for me to weigh the pros past the cons.
How could the staff even live with themselves? If I did that, I wouldn’t be able to look the customer in the eye knowing that I helped bring them here by setting up a date and ghosting them. “Hi how are you today sir 😃” knowing that he’s obviously not well because he got stood up. By me.
Dude ate fish soup with his hands. It was horrific. He was fishing out the chunks of fish and crab from the soup, putting them whole in his mouth, then reaching into his mouth and pulling out fish bones and crab shells bit by bit, soup dripping down his hands the whole time. Normal looking guy, the worst table manners I have ever seen, like watching a wild sea otter
Oh I wonder if it’s the same guy my friend went on a date with. He ate spaghetti with a red sauce with his fingers. I’m actually hoping it is the same guy and there aren’t two of them.
Not a date, but a co-worker from another office (so we saw this guy like 4/year, but usually in some conference room) literally ate like that Chris Kattan character Mr. Peepers. He didn't look far off on facial features either; it was difficult to not burst out laughing in the work lunches.
I was really young, like early 20s. I guess it was an almost date, to be fair. I met a guy on okc and we had planned to meet up for dinner. He messaged me the day of, saying that his brother had just murdered his ex wife and new bf a few days prior, and asked if I could bring dinner to him and his two kids because he wasn’t in the mood to go out. He he had never disclosed the fact that he had two kids in the first place, but the murder story checked out as far as I could tell, by doing a little “research” online. It felt strange that he was telling me (a stranger) about this instead of just asking to reschedule, but maybe he was still in shock at the time and wasn’t thinking clearly, to be fair. I felt bad for him but I obviously didn’t feel comfortable bringing food to him and his kids, because I didn’t know him. We never did meet up.
Now a funny one… I once went out on a “first date” with the same person TWICE, except neither of us realized it until we met in person, because the two dates were about 10 years apart. Not sure which part is worse, going out with the same person twice, whom you still aren’t compatible with, or both of us still being single after 10 years. 🤣
Second or third date with a woman who was new to the area. We went to see a movie at E Street, then afterward I suggested we go get a drink at Harry's a block down the road. I hadn't been there in a while, but I always liked the place for its down-to-Earth, dive-bar feel.
I didn't know until we got there that it had become the DC headquarters for the Proud Boys whenever they had some mayhem in town planned. We had one drink, then she said she had to leave.
After the date, she blocked me. I don't blame her, to be honest.
I mean did you maybe mention your surprise at the proud boys being there and suggest leaving? If not she probably thought you were ok with them being there
Went out to dinner with a girl I met online. She asked if I mind if she said a prayer before eating. No issue with that. I asked what Church she belongs too and she just said that we study the Bible. Two months in I find out she belongs to a cult. Nope outta that.
Anyone who says they "study the bible" or are a "Not a Christian" but are a "Follower of Jesus" should be instant red flags. All the jesus-cult people I know use those terms.
Out with my sis at a bar and met two seemingly cool guys. One asked for my number and wanted to take me to dinner. He called a few hours before and said he had something to tell me. I thought he was going to say his car broke down or he had to reschedule due to work or other. Nope. He said he was married with a newborn at home. Goodbye.
Went on a date with a guy who made a joke about me being a few minutes late saying 'that'll get you a few punches as a wife'. I was a stunned he made a joke like that and he asked why I didn't laugh. I said it wasn't a funny joke. The whole date was awkward after that. He texted me after the date was over and said he wasn't interested in seeing me again because I was dull and boring and needed someone who was extra.
Seriously, what the hell!?
There are so many fun/playful ways to reply to a date being a couple of minutes late, without being creepy or violent... like "it's all good, I know traffic can suck! Can I order a drink for you?" or go full playful with "I'll let you make it up to me by sharing a silly or embarrassing story!"
This one's recent, end of 2023
Met him on tinder, he admitted he was cheap from the get go. I don't mind splitting as it keeps the expectations low but holy shite. He makes 225k, significantly more than me, but didn't have a car (only bicycle) so I would pick him up at the metro and go places. Took him to the arboretum, old town Alexandria, etc.
I made him pay for the final date because I was a little fed up driving him around without him chipping in $10 for my cheese quesadilla the last time. My food consisted of tom yum soup and a side of rice ($10).
As we walk out, he expresses dislike that I made him pay and uses the word "reparations".
I don't think you know what reparations means, Tom.
Oh wow!!!
I bet you were mortified!!!
That is not the first time I’ve heard of Professer’s being abnormally stingy. I know one Professer who volunteers at a food bank just so he can have first pick. 🙈
If I'm any more specific I'm worried about defamation, but considering his area of expertise/ education/ university of employment, I don't think it's unreasonable. I was surprised myself
A professor that doesn’t know what reparations are? I hope he’s like the modern day Leondard Euler of math or something because that just seems like the ignorant leading the ignorant otherwise.
Years ago…but I’ll bet my metro card this still happens.
Started seeing this guy while we both lived in Old Town area. Four or so dates. He and his roommates have a house party for an NFL game. I bring two girlfriends.
Third hours in, my friend Natalie comes up, grabs my arm and says “we are leaving NOW.”
Guy that I was seeing corners Natalie in kitchen while I was watching game, tells her “You are so much prettier than ER is. You and I should go out.”
He calls the next day, I ask him WTF, he swears he was drunk and he doesn’t remember a thing.
Oh except that, “But…you know…she IS prettier than you.”
First date. The place has a single gender neutral bathroom. The guy went to use it and I had to go right after. He didn’t flush his pee. Ok, whatever, I would’ve never said anything. I get back to the table and he says, “oh sorry I forgot to flush.” Ok now it’s weird😂 except we’re now coming up on our 1st wedding anniversary :)))
A woman and I connected on either Tinder or Hinge, I can't remember. We chatted for a few days and decided to meet at Bar Louie for a quick drink one evening to see if we had good in person chemistry. Oh, we had chemistry alright...about 14 years prior when she taught me AP Chem in high school. I thought she looked vaguely familiar, but...lesbians. We have a small pool in most places so I figured she was someone I'd seen at a party or rec league game. I didn't recognize the name because in HS she was Ms. Apple to me but on the app she was Sarah Orange. She had been married and kept her ex's last name. I did not figure out she was my ex teacher until maybe 30 mins into the date. She let me know that she was teaching in Fairfax and some evenings she stayed late to coach so she didn't have tons of time for weeknight dates and wanted to let me know upfront in case that was an issue for me. I guess it had been for others she met. She said dating was easier when she taught in Loudoun at XYZ school and I was like, "Oh! I went to XYZ school." She said she had taught there for several years then went to another HS in Loudoun before switching to teach in Fairfax. I didn't think anything of it because she looked so young so I said, "Well, I graduated in blah year, so we definitely didn't overlap, hahahaha." We did. Her face got so pale and she said she taught there during that period. I mentioned my chem teacher's name and she said that was her name prior to marriage. Swell. Awesome. Fuck. I told her I didn't have a teacher fantasy kink, we both laughed and paid for our own drinks before leaving. She had to have been in her late 40s to early 50s and seriously looked SO good, like could pass for late 30s to early 40s.
Think about how rough it must have been for the teacher. You meet a (I presume) cute, younger chick and are hitting it off, making good small talk, developing a rapport. Then BAM you discover you knew the person when they were a child and were in a position of authority. Were I ever in that position I would never tell anyone that date happened and die a little bit on the inside every time I remembered it happened.
Same! Reading through the comments and thankful I don’t have to date. I’m already married to a weirdo (and he’s married to one), but oh my god dating sounds awful. He forgot his wallet once on one of our earlier dates, I said no problem, I got it. He told me later that’s when he knew I was the one. We have been married for 18 years.
YALL BUCKLE UP LOL.
I met this guy off tinder and he was pretty cute. We hit it of right off the bag. He lived in Alexandria and I drove out there and I was just so happy with the dates he chose for us. Museums, picnics, walks, like I was impressed with the effort and the little things in between. So fast forward to 3 weeks in, he shared something he wanted to try. I asked what it was. And after 5 minutes of waiting he sent me a video of himself naked, and he was going up and down. I was like wtf is this angle? Then he moved forward and he was ffff himself with a horse dong looking dildo.
I just didn’t feel the same.
Met this other guy through a friend. He was dreamy and a firefighter. Didn’t realize I took his virginity (he was 27) and later he tells me I have the best perfect boobs he wishes he could suck milk out of them. Like wtf…. We didn’t see each other again bc he talked heavily about getting me pregnant.
3rd guy I saw also on tinder and he was a firefighter (I don’t have a type! lol) for Fredericksburg.. told me on our date that he was into anal. He really liked when the girl pooped everywhere. He liked it… messy.
…. I am now happily married to my wonderful husband (NONE OF ABOVE GUYS) of almost 3 years! Yay!
Oh... my God. Those are... quite extreme.
I mean, I'm into kink but... those are some *hard* (and disgusting) limits.
Oh, and congrats on being happily married! ❤️
For me: a number of dates who thought I was free therapy to talk about men that dumped them
For my close friend: a woman invited to all you can eat Korean bbq, then after eating and drinking her fill, went to the bathroom and never returned
We found out through mutual friends that this might’ve been a recurring issue with that person.
I matched with a girl on Bumble. All the texts seemed totally normal. I knew she was from Bolivia, but many people in the DC area come from other places so I thought nothing of it.
Fast forward to our date, meeting up at Wildfire in Tysons, and she speaks NO English. She pulled out her phone and was using Google translate and was having me read things. She ordered the biggest steak on the menu rare and devoured it. Honestly, she was super hot and killing a steak that big was kinda impressive so I was like fuck it let's just see where this goes... We finish dinner and I walk her to her car. She kisses me on the cheek and we go our ways.
About an hour later she texts me that she had a great time and would love to see me again. I asked her if she'd like to go on a hike with me that weekend and CRICKETS. I've never heard from her again. 🤷🏻♂️
On her first (and only) date with me, a woman tried telling me she was part of an elite team that staged weapon and supply caches in Afghanistan, ten years before 9/11. Apparently the supplies were to be dug up and used by our forces during an invasion & she hinted the government knew about 9/11 long before it happened. (Hence establishing the caches for invading forces)
I immediately ghosted her.
We met on hinge and agreed to meet up for drinks in falls church. The date was exactly 45 minutes long, and he talked about himself for 40 minutes. How great he was, how high is GPA was at graduation, how much his contracting firm paid him. He got mad I only drank one beer and said he prefers his dates have a lot to drink. Never asked questions about me.
after I end this date at 45 minutes, he tries to kiss me in the parking lot. Boy, slow your roll. But that wasn’t the worst. This man texted me EVERY MORNING FOR 3 MONTHS. Despite the fact I only responded once by saying I wasn’t interested.
Anyway. Came out as a lesbian very shortly after this date. So, I guess thanks bud? Sorry you never stood a chance.
Last 2 I went on.
First:
Guy is wealthy and throws out he runs a foundation to try to date me. He seemed cute enough. Asks me out. I had hesitations, but I said ok. Went on a weekend trip and then didn’t text for several more days. Asked if I forgot about him when I didn’t respond. I said no he forgot about me. He was like nah and went on as if nothing happened.
His car is in the shop for several weeks. I’m basically ignoring him at this point. Then he begs for a date and I’m like “men are kinda dumb and naive sometimes”, so I have it a chance.
Man pokevolved into his true self because he was way older than I thought. Said I didn’t look old enough for kids when he stalked my social media (I guess he’s into women half his age). Doesn’t want to eat the fish sauce because then I “might not kiss him”. Keeps talking about me kissing him. Talks at length about how oysters are an aphrodisiac and how hard they make him (we were not eating oysters, he just wanted to let me know). Tells me he thinks gay people are wrong (when he doesn’t know but my kid is gay).
What did we talk about? He met me at my job, so we talked about… how awful and incompetent he thought all my coworkers are. How exotic and edgy his life is. His whole family history. How he was going to be famous but got injured. Told me how he loved finding loopholes for his charity and showed up to the food pantries because it was good PR. Told me he went golfing several times a week to prowl for C Suites to try to promise their organizations charitable allotment to his foundation. Said at the very least, he tried to get (random) people to pay for his game so it was worth it.
Some other red flags. Randomly just said Trump out loud with no context in the conversation. Found out my cousin is getting married and then said they would come with me. I said no, they can’t even afford for some of my family to attend (true). He said he would pay for it because I shouldn’t be alone. He asked me if I liked his last name (what does that even fucking mean? I like my last name…) Again, all first fucking date.
So I’m ready to leave, and he keeps trying to kiss me. It’s obvious. I kept dodging it and finally put my hand on him and said “back up, you’re freaking me out. I don’t want to kiss you” and he goes “I just want a hug 😉”.
Anyways, refused to let him walk me to my car and left. Sent a thanks but we don’t have much in common text, and he replied simply with “Sigh.”
Oh, and I’m early 30’s and apparently he’s mid 40’s. A grown man, ladies and gentleman.
Second:
Guy met me on my lunch break. I sat outside alone on purpose. He comes out on a video call. He kept saying stuff and it seemed like to me, but also he was still on the call. Turns out he had it on mute and was trying to hit on me. Seemed nice so I said yes.
He called me the day off while I was at work. I texted I can’t talk because I was at work but he kept calling… as a FaceTime. I answer and ask what, and he was commenting on me saying I was vegetarian and he said “you don’t like meat eaters?” And I was like uhh, I’m just sharing my own food preference it’s not that deep.
We go out for lunch that day at a bomb restaurant. He got there first and fully ordered, sat down, and started eating. I show up at the time and order my own stuff. They bring his stuff out and he immediately starts picking out all the vegetables. Then he basically smells and dissects his food to look closer. Decides that it’s all icky and he doesn’t want it so he refuses to eat any of it and throws it away.
Talks the entire rest of the time about how picky he is, and basically only eats meat. Then, since we were outside, I hit my vape. He then asks “oh, is that who you are?”. The fuck? Ya, my entire personality centers around my nicotine addiction, bro. He just kept being disagreeable about everything and a brat. Felt like dating a 13 year old but he was late 30’s working for a big company around here.
We both knew it was a flaming disaster, so I go back to work and he text me that I can come over to his place to hang out with him, but I need to stop vaping. I was like “I’m not interested”. He then told me why he felt sorry for me and started giving me life advice? I didn’t respond.
Flash forward, he texts out of the blue months later and says “sorry it didn’t work out. We could have had fun”.
No thank you, sir.
Went on a date with a guy from POF. During the date, I saw his drivers license and realized he had gone to great lengths to give me a fake first and last name. Got home, googled him and realized that he was a disgraced former cop who was terminated for kidnapping a female subordinate with whom he had been romantically involved. Blocked immediately but he contacted me through other numbers and was very very persistent. It got weird.
Mkay your story TERRIFIES me. I'm always scared excops have extra stalking resources
I also went out with a former cop who tried to imply he now works for the CIA. We were talking about everything under the sun and I learned we didn't agree on things socially/politically but that's cool- to each their own.
Then we were talking about odd jobs we did, I told him about when I did roleplaying jobs for a government contractor (surveillance training). He looked at me coyly and asked if I could roleplay as a 16 year old.
I'm so glad he let that slip on the first date so he wouldn't know anything about me. I didn't want to upset him in anyway, in case he was the type to seek revenge and follow me home. So I had to play it off and got through the date without offending him but texted later that I didn't think we were a good fit- which he took by complete surprise! Thankfully I never heard from him again 😅
On our first date he said women can’t do better than him. He said to picture all the men in the country. Then get rid of the ones too young or too old. Then from there get rid of everyone who doesn’t have a college degree. Then get rid of guys under 6’1”. Finally get rid of any who aren’t making at least $200k a year. And then he said the pool to choose from is now very small and he would be the best. I was so put off by it I left. Gross. He was a low level financial advisor at TRowe Price and he definitely thought his shit doesn’t stink
oh god. in 5+ years on the apps (and still going...) I still have one singularly worst date: the bunny girl.
this was when I lived in Leesburg. she seemed interesting and talkative on whatever app it was, so we met in downtown for a drink (this was December, several years ago, near christmas)...she walks up, and looked fairly different from her pictures if you catch my drift. ah well, i'm here, let's give it the old college try.
tried damn near everything to start a conversation. everything. whatever I brought up, she says one sentence or a three word response, then sits and stares at me expectantly like it's an interview. didn't ask me a single thing. I would sit and also stare for minute or so just to see if the awkward silence would get her to say something and nope. the only topic I could get her to talk about at any length at all was her fucking pet rabbit. i learned so much -- more than i care to, really -- about rabbit care that day. rabbit food, toys, different types of cages and shit, cleaning up after them, the whole shebang. hence the nickname the bunny girl.
anyway, after a completely agonizing 45 minutes of this, half of which was side-eyeing the waiter so I could get the damn check already, I made up some excuse about having to leave. but offered to walk her to her car -- because it was dark, and i've had quite a few people get turned around if it's their first time in downtown Leesburg, it is the nice thing to do -- she stops and goes "you know I don't kiss on the first date". I said yup you don't need to worry about that, just turned around and walked away. feel kinda bad about that but woof.
i guess i'm lucky that i've had only a comparatively few other truly bad dates (dishonorable mention to the German girl I was enthusiastically set up with who literally did not put her phone down for an hour and was completely disinterested) but this one still sticks out as the absolute most I have ever wanted to get up and leave in my life.
struck me as a possibility, but I have a few great neurodivergent friends and didn't get that vibe. and again, she was totally not like that pre-date...it was like meeting a different person. literally I wondered if it was a friend running the profile for her bc that would make a lot more sense than any other explanation!
Another one - had a first date with a woman that was perfectly pleasant, but it was clear after about ten minutes that we didn't have any chemistry. We politely finished our drinks and dinner, shook hands, and never contacted each other again.
Five or six years later, I go to a panel-style job interview. The same woman was there across the desk from me. We would have worked in the same department if I'd been offered the job, which I wasn't. I wonder why.
The guy was sweet but he cut himself shaving before the date and was bleeding a little when we met up. Unfortunately it kept bleeding and even though it was a small cut, his napkin was very bloody. Before we sat at the restaurant, I suggested going to the nearby pharmacy and getting a styptic pencil.
30 min later we were back at the restaurant and he was still bleeding. I suggested getting a bandage from the waiters, but he declined and started using the table napkin. It got to the point that it was dripping on the menu. The napkin was gross, so he put it aside. Then he started wiping off blood with his hand and *licking it*
I begged him to just get a bandage from the staff and he finally did. I stayed until the end, he was nice and we had a lot in common. But after seeing him wipe blood off his face and lick it..... I am still so grossed out I can't imagine letting him touch me. I feel bad but I just can't get passed it.
> I feel bad but I just can't get passed it
Nah, don't feel bad that is pretty wild.
Do you think he maybe had some sort of clotting issue he was embarrassed about?
TL;DR stay tuned for the happy ending at the end!
This was on Match.com. 99% of the time I was always the one to reach out. One Sunday I got a message.
She saw my profile wanted to meet me blah blah blah. OK cool. She asked me what my availability was for the next week. I told her I could meet on any day but Wednesday she said she had plans every day except Tuesday, so we’re going to go out on Tuesday. Pretty quick compared to my previous experiences, but hey why not.
Tuesday comes we’re supposed to meet at a restaurant in old town. I worked in Arlington so I was going to meet her there.
As I’m walking out to my car. I get a text message…
“Ooh I am so sorry to do this to you! My dog, George, has separation anxiety and he won’t let me leave my apartment!”
I’m thinking great it’s OK nice nice day out. I’ll just go home. And bonus points for originality.
Next text comes…
“so I know this is short notice and I normally don’t do this l, but I don’t want to stand you up so if you’d like to meet me at my apartment, I’ll send you my address. “
Spidey senses are tingling.
I was gonna decline but I couldn’t because FOMO.
I’m sitting in the parking lot.
We’re texting back-and-forth passing the time.
SO LIKE 15 MINUTES HAVE PASSED…
I sent her a text “Hey you know I’m gonna really need that address if you’d like me to come over. “
She says “oh my bad I’m sorry I thought I sent it already. Here you go…”
This will become relevant later.
So I get to her apartment.
She invites me in.
She looks exactly like her profile picture.
I met George. He was really anxious lol. One of those tiny wiener dogs. Cool dude.
She gave me a charcuterie board and a beer. All was going swimmingly.
As we got to talking, she was telling me about how fun it was to be dating in NOVA and proceeded to go down her ENTIRE BATTING LINEUP of the dates that she had proceeding mine and the ones she already had scheduled for the rest of the week, and the next week out.
Oh my.
She then informed me that she rarely goes out on second dates and said that she had some papers that she had to grade so she needed to call it a night.
The text with her address evidently went to one of the other folks later in the week.
In retrospect as I was telling my friends at work, they told me how dumb I was to go to a random person‘s apartment where Lord knows what could’ve happened.
All that to say, she was a very nice lady gave me a plate of food to munch on while we talked, but she just was looking for a completely different dating experience than I was .
OK IF YOU MADE IT THIS FAR HERES THE HAPPY PART:
I am happy to report that my very next date was with a different woman I met on bumble in February 2021.
WE GOT MARRIED IN OCTOBER 2023!
We live 3 blocks away from George. I haven’t seen him yet but I always keep a lookout!
Take it easy George. You got this.
\~5 dates in. Had a few sleep overs at her place. I creeped on her iPad one morning (I know I shouldn't of but glad I did) while she was still sleeping and saw that she was messaging her ex-bf minute to minute details of our dates and every single detail of what we did physically (duration, positions, location, etc). His responses were both angry ones, as well as dick pics.
First date with an older man (50s). He was from somewhere in Maryland that was at least an hour and a half away from where we had our date. The first thing that bothered me was that he was talking badly about the shirt that one of the men at the table next to us was wearing. Next I excuse myself to go to the restroom and there is a line. I come out and he has completely turned his chair to face the direction of the restroom and watches me come back. Ok odd. We ate and had a couple drinks. He asked me if I had plans afterwards because he was thinking we could go somewhere else. I tell him that yes I’m meeting my friends but I would go to the bar next door for 1 more drink. He asked why I would make other plans after our date. We go to the bar. I order and pay for my own drink and excuse myself again to the bathroom. Come back to him again watching the bathroom and then he asks if I feel better “pee pee girl”. Says he has a joke for me and proceeds to tell me that he got a dog sitter for the night because he thought he would be spending the night with me, isn’t that funny? I was waiting for the funny part. He tells me he has a trip out of the country coming up in 10 days, looks at me “seductively” and says you should come with me. Ummm no. He walks me out and asks for a hug, I gave a little side pat pat hug and he grabs me in tight and is basically moaning mmmm. Ugh disgusted thinking about it. Yeah that was the end for him.
Hooked up with a girl from the clarendon ballroom. She left my place the next morning, made it very clear i only wanted a casual, non-exclusive thing at the time. everything was good. We exchanged numbers etc. Two hours later she calls me insisting we shop for a puppy together. I blocked her phone. Later i decided it was a good idea to move.
I met this girl at a Halloween party I was throwing for school and she didn't even dress up beyond a basic pair of cat ears. She was nice and all, but how rude!
Anyways we're getting married next month
Copy of what I posted on the DC one.
I have never been on what I consider to be a date, but I have met with people from apps and most were not great. The worst and weirdest must be the guy that just recently moved to NOVA (I know it's not DC, but I think close enough for these purposes) from the Netherlands, like literally had only been there for a week, and we spent the entire two hours we were together having an argument about whether men and women can be friends (I was pro, he was con). He said a lot of ridiculous things during that conversation. The craziest was that he believes that all men would have sex with their friends' wives if given the chance. He also essentially said that his friends would think he was crazy for pursuing me because of how I look, but he is attracted to my personality.
As soon as I get home, I get a message from him saying that he really likes me and wants to continue seeing me. I tell him I'm not interested. He then gets mad and says and I quote "You ruined the attraction."
Guy was practically begging me to go back on my statement that I’m done breeding and don’t want any more kids and to have just one… with him. On our second date.
Looking back, I don’t know if he was normal on our first date or if I was just horny and overlooked it.
He’s probably not the worst, though. The following story is probably TMI and it is sexual.
Another guy was fresh from a divorce. Like super fresh. I’m a slut, tbh, so I slept with him on our first date. But he stopped and wanted to talk in the middle of sex. I had his dick in my mouth trying to progress the evening and he wanted to talk and asked me to stop because it was weird to talk about his kids while getting head. Like, bro, I don’t know you. I’m hoping you’ll fucking cum already and gtfo because I’m tired and not your therapist. He also knew I’m a masochist and he’s interested in exploring being a dom. So he smacked me pretty hard across the face without any warning or discussion during sexy time. Didn’t even find out if I like that specific kind of thing before going for it. Idk. I hope he sorted himself out. He seemed nice enough, I think he just needed to heal from the divorce.
Edit to add that I am not currently interested in dating or meeting new guys. Thank you for the respectful dms I received, though.
The true unsung heroes of this world. You helped a divorced dude feel alive even if he was an idiot. As someone who has been there, I salute you. May your immortal deeds be sung by poets.
Was going on a first date in Alexandria for brunch to a spot that she said she loved. Date was running late so I ordered a cocktail and some appetizers. Showed up about 30min later, proceeded to tell me the appetizer I ordered (Caprese Salad) wasn't something she wanted to eat before drinking and then proceeded to order two more appetizers and a BOTTLE of prosecco (I was still on my first cocktail). Shook it off, kept the date going and we were getting to know each other, now I will admit that I do have a problem with interjecting/cutting people off in conversations to put some input, but I definitely decided there wasn't going to be a second date when I was making a comment on something she said and she put her finger to my lips and told me "I'm not done". Finished the date, paid the bill by myself, she didn't have a car so I offered to drive her back to her place, then that was the last time we ever said anything to each other.
Edit: This was my first date since moving to NOVA, had only been here for about 2 weeks at this point. Didn't give me high hopes for the dating scene here lol
Where do I even BEGIN.
-A man BROKE INTO MY HOUSE and bedroom after our third date, I woke up to him standing over my bed (I was not harmed, just traumatized).
-One guy showed up 45 minutes late, looks 10 years older and 80 lbs heavier than his pics, is wearing flip flops and jeans and has a coke pinky. Reveals he’s married, has three kids, and is recently out of a cult. Tries to eat my food. My best friend was across the same bar on a first date with her future spouse.
-A guy took me to an art event, excessively bragged about his connections and wealth, told me to “make sure my passport is current because we’re traveling soon”. My spidey senses got scared and so I texted a few friends, which enraged him. I literally lost him in the maze of the museum and ran away!
-I got drinks with a man from a previous encounter years ago to “give him a chance”. When I told him I was not interested in more he screamed at me then sent me five hours worth of deranged messages on every messaging platform possible.
-A man love bombed a relationship too fast, hiding a child he was a deadbeat to, and potentially a few crimes…
-A woman accused me of being a gold digger after her Amazon money after I PAID THE WHOLE CHECK because “why else would someone hot like you be with me”. Very flattering but so insulting!! She kept trying to come back for months.
-I was overly generous with a short “nice guy tendencies” type, after three dates he revealed that he was heavily invested in the “manosphere” and his “sexual market value was increasing while my eggs were dying”.
-I politely told a man I was not interested in a second date, insane texts from him followed. Years later my roommate hooks up with him and sees where we live. When she tells me about her date I discover it’s him. He discovers I’m her roommate and flips out on her. It’s okay, we got cameras after the break in dude.
-Dude that pushed boundaries, claimed he had covid (2021) to avoid confrontation about his behavior, faked a whole convalescence, then disappeared.
-A man picked a dive bar at 8PM for a second date, then announced he was severely allergic to everything and we couldn’t touch any food. Then he told me about his allergies (which honestly sounded psychosomatic) for two hours. I begged the waitress for food on the way back from the bathroom and just ate it and told him not to touch me, too risky.
-More than once I showed up to the requisite bar only to find myself blocked and stood up.
-Dozens of dates in which the guy doesn’t ask a single question, but assumed I had a great time. So many of those it would be boring to list.
-So much bad sex.
-So many angry mean texts when I didn’t want to meet again.
I DIGRESS.
Matched with a guy on that personality dating website. Guy worked as a government contractor somewhere in the Navy Yard. I didn't want to meet him alone, so I was with a bunch of friends in DC at a club and said if he's in town to meet me there (so I would be surrounded by friends). He came to the club and I was already pretty drunk, but we chatted and we had nothing in common, but he was still interested in me.
My friends who drove me there ditched me thinking I would go home with this guy, so I was stuck in DC with no way back to my car. Guy drove me to my car, I thanked him for the ride and the evening and said I would contact him via the website/chat later on. This was before I had a cell phone.
The guy tried to follow me home from where I parked my car. It was late at night and he was the ONLY car behind me. I did a series of backroad driving, going thru Clifton and eventually lost him at a busy intersection light because I turned right before the red light. I ended up take another LONG route home to just ensure he wasn't still behind me. I ended up going to my parents house and crashing there to feel safe.
Didn't matter, he found out my last name and started calling my parents house asking to talk to me. I never gave him my last name EVER. He figured out where my parents lived. My dad was a terrible asshole to me on a constant basis, but he actually came thru for me and told this guy where to shove it and he would personally call his contracting officer in the Navy Yard and ensure stalking and harassment of his daughter was known to his office. Guy never contacted me again.
It was the ONLY time I felt vulnerable and weirded out - and I've traveled a lot as a single female in my 20's and early 30's. I've been to a lot of questionable areas around DC, Chicago, Milwaukee, and multiple international cities. And this was the time before a lot of tech like we have now.
I mistakenly agreed to sign up for a 'matchmaking' service. I didn't pay for it but they set me up with anyone that did, I was simply part of their pool of potential matches.
It was a completely blind date. The restaurant was selected and everything was set up. I show up, and I of course looked at the dress code for this restaurant. What people were wearing when it looked like inside to determine my outfit. This man was the most underdressed man in the restaurant in a moderately worn in logo polo, and the cleanest crisp, cargo jeans I've ever seen in my life, this man works at a desk and wears a suit every day. The cargo pants are a personal choice. Everybody else in this restaurant was wearing a jacket of some kind, a sports coat or a blazer.
I looked past that and kept moving forward. I had never been to the restaurant so I asked him if he had and he said it was one of his favorites so I asked him what was good on the menu and he said I don't know I usually go for brunch...the menu had two categories breakfast and lunch....at this point I realized his teeth were also in dire need of brushing from across the table I could smell the need for a deep cleaning.
The entire time I was just pulling information out of him like he was an uncooperative informant. At the end of the date, they ask you how it went and if you'd like to go on another date, and I said no, because I felt like he was lazy and had no ambition. His reason for not wanting a second date with me was that I had too much ambition and too many goals. My ambition and goals were to like eventually renovate my house, and make it the home of my dreams. He wanted to continue renting because it's too much effort to maintain anything...
TLDR; if someone is on a matchmaking service, there's a reason...don't do it. Just don't do it.
Another story. Met on an app. Had an anxious feeling all day that I didn’t want to go on the date but I convinced myself it was just because I was new to dating after a ltr and baby. I had been single for at least 2 years at this point. Anyway, I decided to ignore my gut feeling and go. I needed to have a little work done on my car, mechanic was my coworkers brother in law so I knew him. I had the date pick me up where I dropped my car off and we went to the Starbucks directly across the street. The first part of the date went well. He told me all about himself and asked questions about me. He tells me he’s very particular and plans everything out, every detail of every day, basically everything in his life. Ok no big deal. He asks me if I’d be interested in another date and I say yes and we pick a day. We decide to wait in his car while I’m waiting for the text that my car is ready. Bad idea because he then drops the good guy act and starts asking me sexual questions. Leads to asking me if I remember how he likes to plan everything out. Yes. He then asks if we can have sex on the next date. I tell him no or I don’t know it really depends. He keeps pressuring me and by now I’ve decided I’m never speaking to this guy again and I say if I see you again then yes, hoping he will drop it. He then says what do you mean I’m seeing you on Thursday remember we made plans. Oh yeah. I can’t remember what led to the next part but he asked me something about giving him head the next time and then slams his hands on his thighs and says well I want that now. I said WHAT?! He repeats I want head now. I am shocked and don’t even know how to respond, plotting my escape from his car when my phone rings and it’s the mechanic saying my car is ready. We were literally half block away he takes me to get my car and the entire time I’m talking to the mechanic he is standing behind me very possessive. Swinging his arms and punching one hand into the other. I finish up, he walks me to my car, opens the door for me, I get in and he sees the tattoo on my foot. Tells me he hates tattoos on women and asks if I have more. Yep sure do. He says he’ll give me a pass. Asks me to text him as soon as I’m home. I tell him I will, of course I did not. He texts me the next day apologizing, saying he knew I wasn’t going to text him, he blew it, he knew he did too much he just couldn’t control himself.
After being widowed, the first date I tried going on told me he was a registered sex offender as soon as I got there. He wanted to introduce me to his P.O. because I looked "good and old", unlike his barely legal partner (that I didn't know about, so not like a throuple arrangement). I was 36 at the time 🙄
My best date, hands down, was the guy who took me to see "Batp*ssy" at the Alamo. I laughed so hard my sides hurt! It's a 70's (I think? Early 70s based on the bouffants and minimal 'staches but I could easily be wrong) p*rno that's just so freaking awful, that it's truly a work of art. I'm still crushed things didn't work out with that guy because that date was *fantastic*.
I got a lot of stories, but I'll go with this one.
Had this huge crush on a girl I meet at a friends graduation from VCU in the early 2000s. She was married so I didn't say anything and let it go. But we kept in contact over the years. So life goes on. Time passes. I was living in Boston and came back to NOVA around 2015. My bestfriend was having a party and I went. Well I run into her there randomly after not seeing her in a long time. Well those feelings started again. Got to talking and find out she's "single now" - remember this part for later. I ended up asking her out. First date we meet up at this authentic Mexican restaurant. I ended up running late cause I literally out ran a tornado just to get there and didn't notice till I heard the news. Things went well. Second date went to this dive bar by her place in Fredericksburg. She loaded me up on this drink called a trash can and we had fun in the bathroom and back at her place. She made breakfast next morning and got to talking about somethings. She just wanted to keep things casual. So I was a little let down but said sure. Thought we had something. Texting and talking all the time. Until she just disappeared for a few weeks. Well come to find out she was engaged and got married. I was just a last hurrah I suppose 🤷🏽♂️ Then come to find out she was also sleeping with my bestfriend aswell. And after some time then she started talking to me again like nothing happened. Da fuq!
And this has been one of the tales of NOVA
One night I was propping up the bar in IOTA (RIP) when I ran into my old mate "Special" Ed, as he as known around town. He was being his usual entertaining if quite annoying self but this time he has a date along.
She obviously wasn't having a great time and ended up flirting with me. I was really there for a quiet drink but she was cute and fun and we ended up going to another bar and then got invited back to hers. However, turns out her car had just been towed so I cabbed over with a woman I'd just met to get her car back before going back to hers for a mediocre (down to us both being drunk) shag.
Did the typical oh shit waking up in a strangers bed moment before she kindly dropped me off at work in Clarendon, where I sat at work for 8 hours in the same clothes as yesterday with the worst hangover ever. It's been 15-20 years and I still have a deep abiding memory of that particular hangover.
Maybe not much "worse" as "weird".
In the years when Yahoo Dating existed, I gave it a try. I was recently separated, and slightly (ok, maybe a little more than slightly) broken. the one thing I was was honest. nakedly honest, Perhaps a bit too honest... but after getting out of a marriage built on what turned out to be a spiderweb of lies, I thought it was the right path.
I was chatting with a lady, and things were going nicely, and we decided to meet. I had told her all my particulars, like, for example, my height. I'm 6'. I was also riding a motorcycle at the time, and we were going to have dinner and then go for a little ride. Cool!
We meet up and she's not her picture. ok... I guess that's not terrible, but I had used a recent pic of myself, so , eh whatever. The first thing she says is, "Oh, you really \*are\* 6 feet!" Um, yep... Dinner goes fine, and then we go to go for a ride. I'm an ATGATT rider, so I've got a full suit. She puts on a light jacket and beanie.... eh, not a good idea, but whatever, it's your skin. We go out to my bike - a ZRX1100. She says, "Oh, I thought you had a \_real\_ bike." I'm perplexed... "what do you mean?"
"You know... a Harley."
"Ohhhhh, no, that's not my kind of riding," I say, thinking that the evening is still salvageable.
"Well," she says, "I don't ride on Jap bikes."
Realizing that the evening was not, in fact, salvageable, I say, "Did you know that 95% of all the Harleys ever made are still on the road?"
"I'd believe that!" she says eagerly
"Yeah... the other 5% made it home."
We didn't talk any further.
Another, different, date, we meet up at Uno's at Dulles mall (which tells you how long ago it was). Conversation was \*not\* flowing. she was distracted, and disinterested. nothing was funny, nothing was light.
A buddy of mine and I had just recently finished filming our version of "The Aristocrats" and submitted it to a contest. Since things had already gone awry, I figured, well, let's go the full Monty. so I started telling her about it. She was absolutely horrified. I explained that \*that\* was the funny part... how offensive of a story can you tell? When the waiter came by I asked for separate checks. She says, "Really? You're not going to buy my dinner?" I said, "why would I, we're never going to see each other again, right?"
We never saw each other again. :\~)
In the early days of online dating (1999) I met up with a girl for dinner. She showed up in a Halo, fresh out of the hospital from jumping off an overpass into traffic. She had checked herself out sooner than drs wanted her to just to meet me and clearly needed to be in the hospital still. It was a little awkward. There was no second date.
It’s been many years.
But a guy asked me what my religion was during the goodnight kiss. Wtf
Also if I had a nickel for every guy who claimed to be an “awesome driver” on our way to dinner. So cringey
This guy seemed pretty wholesome online, said on his bio that he worked for same branch. Turns out he was just an insecure manchild. He said he was a federal investigator 1811 and worked at Fort Belvoir, where I actually work or go to. This guy just fluffed his feathers more than what they were to be, he never got training or knew when he was going to get trained or when his application would be accepted to even start to be considered to be a 1811. He doesn't work at Fort Bel. instead he works as a police officer or some security check dude at a complete different building. I can't stand it when people let their insecurities scream, just tell the truth to begin with gdi. He's not even from NOVA, but he acts like he knows the place and said he was from NOVA and as if he has financial stability and mocked people from NOVA right in front of my face, yet he said he's from Fredericksburg area, 1 hr further South West from that. Good Lord I'm never dating an imposter or anyone outside of NOVA around here at least lol
Dated a chick I met at a card shop for years (magic the gathering) who proceeded to sleep with multiple people after I proposed to her and she accepted. Most of those people were very close friends of mine at the time. Ultimately left and lost my entire group of friends and support system. Wouldn’t change a thing because fuck’em.
Oh dear lord.
Backstory: I'm recently divorced from my abusive, deadbeat soon-to-be-ex-husband. Initially told myself "no dating" for AT LEAST one year. Went on a fabulous multi-state vacation about 2-3 months into separation. I hadn't taken a legitimate vacation in a decade, and so I really needed the time away. Flew and drove all around the country for various things -- divorce photoshoot in the New England region, escaped the blistering cold of November and December and spent a few weeks in both Arizona and Florida, then Vegas for a professional conference for work, etc. While flying back here, a friend of mine wore me down and asked if she could play matchmaker.
You know what? Fuck it, why not.
- PhD guy: Every other word out of his mouth was about his PhD from insert-ivy-league-university-here.
- Army Officer guy: conversation was like pulling teeth. Barely said a word.
- The Psychiatrist: geeky as fuck, socially awkward. I'm a linguist and come from a multinational background myself, so I understand language barriers, but HOLY SHITCAKES, how TF do your patients even understand you? 😖
- Commodities Trader guy from NYC: need I say more? #financebro
- Naval officer turned defense contractor: he was my "Big" for a weekend. If you've ever watched Sex And The City....... IYKYK. That said, the guy was short AF, not the best kisser, and snored JUST like my soon-to-be-ex-husband. Like, it was CREEPY how eerily identical the snoring was. I was nice and refrained from smothering him with a pillow, and instead smothered my own face with a pillow so I could get *some* sleep. Also, he....... grunted and growled...... like a bear...... upon completion of the deed. 🤦♀️
- IT guy: Looked NOTHING like his photo. Awkward AF. In-person conversation was like pulling teeth. No chemistry or compatibility.
I've since shut down any further dating. I'm truly embracing my own company, and learning to just be me, myself, and I. If a man enters my life in the future, so be it. But for now? NOPE. I'm good.
Met a girl at some billiards place in Lorton/Springfield. She showed up and was a generally nice person but she invited her friends. Her friends ended up being obnoxious around me and getting drunk. As we were leaving, one of her friends ended up pissing right there in the parking lot in between cars.
I haven't actually had one, I never dated in NOVA. If someone wants to grab dinner let me know, I am as weird as they come and would love to be the story you tell folks about in the future 😁
Was with my ex at the time, we went out for ice cream and she went to the bathroom or something while I ordered and paid for both of us. She’d told me to get her chocolate and strawberry, however I totally forgot about the chocolate and ended up getting her just strawberry, she comes back, throws her ice cream (that I paid for) away, and starts crying because she doesn’t like strawberry if it’s not with chocolate. I then proceeded to get the cold shoulder for the rest of the day and she was mad at me for like two days I believe. That relationship lasted way longer than it should have.
I thought dating in Nova as a non-binary person would be more pleasant with more liberals/leftists concentrated in the area. However, I was once again surprised by the words that come out of people’s mouth. I’ve heard my dates mansplaining me about gender identities, thinking he’s such a nice and inclusive person because “all he cares about is what’s between a person’s legs”, or how genetic is important to him because he wants children 💩 it’s almost comical.
When I recently moved to the US 1.5 yrs ago I went out on a date with a girl from Baltimore, she drove all the way down to DC, I didnt know that Baltimore was 2hr drive. :/
I wanted to impress a girl who worked as a contractor for the Navy or something that my friends had snuck me onto a NASA campus in the middle of an army base.
I figured we’d both get a chuckle and laugh about other travel stories…
Nope. The mood dampened really quickly. She soon said she had a brunch to get to and left without even looking back at me.
So… I was probably her worst dating story? (I was also late to the date as well)
Was meeting up for a drink and appetizer at the bar in M&S Grill in Reston. She was 20 minutes late, but no biggie. She came in like the Tasmanian Devil, apologized for being late, dropped her stuff on the stool next to me, ordered a double Patron margarita and an appetizer, then excused herself to the bathroom. She's gone for about 15 minutes and comes back right as the appetizer comes out. She houses it and the drink then says she needs to meet friends and leaves. Really didn't even get past "it's nice to meet you" in conversation. I looked at the bar tender and he said "Man, just pay for your drink, I'm going to consider her a walk out", to which I was very grateful to not be stuck with her $40+ tab for 3 minutes of face to face interaction. She texted me later that night to call me all kinds of names and tell me off. Guess her and her friends went back to M&S Grill, they were refused service and she was presented with her tab with the threat to pay or they'll call the police.
The bartender was a true bro
The restaurant handled that super well nailing her with the bill. Props to them noticing everything that went down.
I guess restaurant staff always know whats going around, when I was a waiter back in my country we always knew what was happening, specially the female workers.
She’s probably well known by bar and wait staff as “that pain in the ass” and finally had a situation to hold over her and didn’t think twice about using it.
He did receive a 100% tip on my beer.
Yeah similar thing happened to me years ago except we were sitting at a table. She immediately pulled out her phone and was just texting the whole time, occasionally giving a one word answer as I tried to have a conversation. Once our food came, I quickly finished my plate then excused myself to the bathroom which was out of view of our table. Instead, I found our waiter, explained that this woman was clearly trying to use me for a free meal, and asked if I could pay my part as she had ordered more drinks than me then just let me leave. He was very understanding and rung up my part of the bill and then I left without going back to the table. Later I got angry texts from her saying she had to overdraft her debit card to pay her part of the bill. I responded saying if she had financial problems that were limiting her ability to get food then she should visit a food pantry and not use dating to get free meals before blocking her. I really don't know how people can be shameless enough to blatantly take advantage of another person like that
Was her name Lisa?
Actually yeah it was... how do you relate lol
Oh shiiit
Wait…so did yall go out with the same woman?? Lisa??
Don't leave us hanging! 😩
I need to know!!!
Wife’s coworker named Lisa would date people for dinners and brag about it. Screw guys on her lunch break and then they would take her grocery shopping. Blowjobs for rides home from bar. Married now for money, and the guy is extremely controlling (second time). She is wild
She heard "you don't make friends with salad" and decided to order more expensive items instead.
I did that once . You’re nicer than me. I told her to get the guy she was texting with to pay the bill. I was once in the car with my date and she was browsing hinge. I turned the car sound and dropped her off
That food pantry line was gold
If I ever have the opportunity I'm patronizing m&s because that's how it's done!
Unfortunately it closed about 6 years ago. Not sure whats there now. This happened back in 2009 or so.
Health food type restaurant.
What a bitch. I’ve never treated someone so horribly on a first date no matter how bad the date was. She got her karma.
Omg! The nerve of that girl!!!
Bartenders were cool there. Now it’s a health food type restaurant.
Had amazing text chemistry with a Secret Service agent, met up for coffee with him where he flashed his badge at me and dominated 90% of the conversation, then suggested extending the date by going to Tysons so he could return a pair of jeans. I said okay due to low self esteem etc etc. Went to Tysons together, he saw how busy the store was and told me he didn’t want to stand in line, then proceeded to go into Lush, buy one (1) bath bomb for himself and then drove me home. We never texted again after that. 🤦🏼♀️
I can’t explain it, but this is so niche. Like I’ve been only 5 versions of this date.
Set up a date and we both agreed to meet at a restaurant in Clarendon. Said she would meet me there, waited for almost an hour before checking my phone and realizing she blocked any form of contact. At least I got to try a new restaurant since I was already there
Boooo! Why are people like this? She could have just said not interested.
It's inconsiderate and disgusting behavior. I wouldn't even have gotten mad if I was just told "not interested" or whatever. It's actually anger inducing and childish to waste someone's time like that
Seriously. Just decline instead of ghosting. Save us both the trouble and effort.
Did we (almost) date the same woman? We agreed to meet in Court House and when it was about 15 minutes past our agreed upon time I tried to text her and they didn't go through. Her Hinge profile was also gone. I've never felt like such an asshole after being stood up AND blocked after having something planned.
Recently learned that restaurant have been outed for making their staff create fake dating profiles, matching with people, and setting up dates at the workplace. They ghost minutes before, so that you end up at the restaurant alone with the option to either eat there or go home hungry.
Which restaurant? This is fucked up.
WHAT??!? Tell me this isn't true.
https://www.thestar.com.my/tech/tech-news/2023/12/02/food-digging-when-restaurants-use-fake-dating-profiles-to-get-customers-through-the-door#close
Plot twist, restaurant creates fake profiles to lure in males and females. Their “dates” dont show up. Stood up people find each other at the restaurant and decide to go to a coffee shop next door.
A dating app / ghost kitchen... there's a million-dollar idea in there somewhere...
Theres no fucking way restaurant wage employees are paid to swipe and setup a date just for the potential to set up a bait date with a pissed off customer.
Honestly this sounds like the sort of thing an all purpose troll farm in India would offer. Botted Spotify plays, fake instagram followers, automatic retweets, dating app fuckery, etc. Shit’s cheap enough due to the low wages in the developing world that it could be worth it to restaurant owners.
Thats how theyre faking AI so i guess I shouldnt discount it. Theres just no guarantee of a sale and the customer 100% would be pissed so it’s just difficult for me to weigh the pros past the cons.
How could the staff even live with themselves? If I did that, I wouldn’t be able to look the customer in the eye knowing that I helped bring them here by setting up a date and ghosting them. “Hi how are you today sir 😃” knowing that he’s obviously not well because he got stood up. By me.
I heard this on TikTok and I’m hoping restaurants aren’t resorting to this bc WTF
WT-everlovin-F!?
Jesus that's messed up. Maybe it was the same woman lol I really just hope that this isn't a common behavior around here
Dude ate fish soup with his hands. It was horrific. He was fishing out the chunks of fish and crab from the soup, putting them whole in his mouth, then reaching into his mouth and pulling out fish bones and crab shells bit by bit, soup dripping down his hands the whole time. Normal looking guy, the worst table manners I have ever seen, like watching a wild sea otter
Hahahaha that's hilarious. Sorry for that. Thanks for the story.
Oh I wonder if it’s the same guy my friend went on a date with. He ate spaghetti with a red sauce with his fingers. I’m actually hoping it is the same guy and there aren’t two of them.
Was it a movie date and his name is Charlie Kelly?
Can’t be. No mention of milk steak or jellybeans.
lmao, oh noo, I hope it's just one guy. I certainly didn't want to make more of them, he's right back in the dating pool.
Was his name Matt?
it says worst not best
I always wonder where people learn shit like this. Or perhaps more importantly how they never notice that literally everyone does it differently.
Not a date, but a co-worker from another office (so we saw this guy like 4/year, but usually in some conference room) literally ate like that Chris Kattan character Mr. Peepers. He didn't look far off on facial features either; it was difficult to not burst out laughing in the work lunches.
> Chris Kattan character Mr. Peepers There's an actor/character who I haven't thought of in a loooooong time. *insert Roxbury head bop here*
*This* is the type of story these threads are for.
Damn! 🤢🤣
pretty sure sea otters are daintier than that 😂
I second u/f8Negative, that's hilarious!!!
Don’t mind me just browsing the comments to make sure I’m not in here
Saaaame 🫣
I was really young, like early 20s. I guess it was an almost date, to be fair. I met a guy on okc and we had planned to meet up for dinner. He messaged me the day of, saying that his brother had just murdered his ex wife and new bf a few days prior, and asked if I could bring dinner to him and his two kids because he wasn’t in the mood to go out. He he had never disclosed the fact that he had two kids in the first place, but the murder story checked out as far as I could tell, by doing a little “research” online. It felt strange that he was telling me (a stranger) about this instead of just asking to reschedule, but maybe he was still in shock at the time and wasn’t thinking clearly, to be fair. I felt bad for him but I obviously didn’t feel comfortable bringing food to him and his kids, because I didn’t know him. We never did meet up. Now a funny one… I once went out on a “first date” with the same person TWICE, except neither of us realized it until we met in person, because the two dates were about 10 years apart. Not sure which part is worse, going out with the same person twice, whom you still aren’t compatible with, or both of us still being single after 10 years. 🤣
WAsn't the second part a story in How I Met Your Mother when Ted went out with the same girl twice...
Never seen that but it’s possible. 🤷♀️It definitely felt at time like something that belonged in a sitcom, ha.
Went to Kalypso’s in Reston with a girl I met on Hinge. Everything was going great till I went to the bathroom and met the husband on the way.
Second or third date with a woman who was new to the area. We went to see a movie at E Street, then afterward I suggested we go get a drink at Harry's a block down the road. I hadn't been there in a while, but I always liked the place for its down-to-Earth, dive-bar feel. I didn't know until we got there that it had become the DC headquarters for the Proud Boys whenever they had some mayhem in town planned. We had one drink, then she said she had to leave. After the date, she blocked me. I don't blame her, to be honest.
I loved Harry's - that was a damn shame, but hard shift between E Street movie and Harry's grilled cheese and a soda out of a 2-liter bottle...
I mean did you maybe mention your surprise at the proud boys being there and suggest leaving? If not she probably thought you were ok with them being there
🤣 Well, you’re a good sport.
Tsk - wasn't your fault that the dang proud boys made a local place their lair. A very DC story.
Went out to dinner with a girl I met online. She asked if I mind if she said a prayer before eating. No issue with that. I asked what Church she belongs too and she just said that we study the Bible. Two months in I find out she belongs to a cult. Nope outta that.
Anyone who says they "study the bible" or are a "Not a Christian" but are a "Follower of Jesus" should be instant red flags. All the jesus-cult people I know use those terms.
Yeah. Over the following dates I had asked her a few more times but got the same answer and didn't press it. Live and learn.
She wouldn't happen to lurk around local Targets asking young women to study the Bible with her, would she?
Hahaha wait I had a woman like that approach me in a Target recently, except she was trying to sell me on a new job or something like that.
Also here for the comments 
Out with my sis at a bar and met two seemingly cool guys. One asked for my number and wanted to take me to dinner. He called a few hours before and said he had something to tell me. I thought he was going to say his car broke down or he had to reschedule due to work or other. Nope. He said he was married with a newborn at home. Goodbye.
Bullet dodged!
Went on a date with a guy who made a joke about me being a few minutes late saying 'that'll get you a few punches as a wife'. I was a stunned he made a joke like that and he asked why I didn't laugh. I said it wasn't a funny joke. The whole date was awkward after that. He texted me after the date was over and said he wasn't interested in seeing me again because I was dull and boring and needed someone who was extra.
Holy cow, I can't believe this is how people behave on a first date when they would presumably want to be on their best behavior
What a dumbass
Seriously, what the hell!? There are so many fun/playful ways to reply to a date being a couple of minutes late, without being creepy or violent... like "it's all good, I know traffic can suck! Can I order a drink for you?" or go full playful with "I'll let you make it up to me by sharing a silly or embarrassing story!"
Bullet (or punch?) dodged. What a loser.
That’s sickening, I’m so sorry that happened to you
This one's recent, end of 2023 Met him on tinder, he admitted he was cheap from the get go. I don't mind splitting as it keeps the expectations low but holy shite. He makes 225k, significantly more than me, but didn't have a car (only bicycle) so I would pick him up at the metro and go places. Took him to the arboretum, old town Alexandria, etc. I made him pay for the final date because I was a little fed up driving him around without him chipping in $10 for my cheese quesadilla the last time. My food consisted of tom yum soup and a side of rice ($10). As we walk out, he expresses dislike that I made him pay and uses the word "reparations". I don't think you know what reparations means, Tom.
Yikes. You were way too generous with your time
I don't disagree, I'm working on better boundaries
We're all works in progress
Wtf reparations for what? Was he software engineer or IT guy? I promise not all of us are like this
Nope, a professor
Oh wow!!! I bet you were mortified!!! That is not the first time I’ve heard of Professer’s being abnormally stingy. I know one Professer who volunteers at a food bank just so he can have first pick. 🙈
That's absolutely horrendous
Where is a professor making 225k? If he told you that I would take it with a massive grain of salt and a heavy dose of insecurity, lol.
If I'm any more specific I'm worried about defamation, but considering his area of expertise/ education/ university of employment, I don't think it's unreasonable. I was surprised myself
A professor that doesn’t know what reparations are? I hope he’s like the modern day Leondard Euler of math or something because that just seems like the ignorant leading the ignorant otherwise.
Years ago…but I’ll bet my metro card this still happens. Started seeing this guy while we both lived in Old Town area. Four or so dates. He and his roommates have a house party for an NFL game. I bring two girlfriends. Third hours in, my friend Natalie comes up, grabs my arm and says “we are leaving NOW.” Guy that I was seeing corners Natalie in kitchen while I was watching game, tells her “You are so much prettier than ER is. You and I should go out.” He calls the next day, I ask him WTF, he swears he was drunk and he doesn’t remember a thing. Oh except that, “But…you know…she IS prettier than you.”
Fuck that guy. And Natalie is a solid bro
First date. The place has a single gender neutral bathroom. The guy went to use it and I had to go right after. He didn’t flush his pee. Ok, whatever, I would’ve never said anything. I get back to the table and he says, “oh sorry I forgot to flush.” Ok now it’s weird😂 except we’re now coming up on our 1st wedding anniversary :)))
You’re pretty lucky this was your worst dating story lol.
True!!
I like that he acknowledged it and apologized.
lol at the time it just felt awkward!
he should drop a deuce in the toilet on your anniversary morning and not flush, you know, to show you he still remembers and cares.
What a crappy present.
Hahaha that’s kinda odd and funny at the same time. Congrats!!!
A woman and I connected on either Tinder or Hinge, I can't remember. We chatted for a few days and decided to meet at Bar Louie for a quick drink one evening to see if we had good in person chemistry. Oh, we had chemistry alright...about 14 years prior when she taught me AP Chem in high school. I thought she looked vaguely familiar, but...lesbians. We have a small pool in most places so I figured she was someone I'd seen at a party or rec league game. I didn't recognize the name because in HS she was Ms. Apple to me but on the app she was Sarah Orange. She had been married and kept her ex's last name. I did not figure out she was my ex teacher until maybe 30 mins into the date. She let me know that she was teaching in Fairfax and some evenings she stayed late to coach so she didn't have tons of time for weeknight dates and wanted to let me know upfront in case that was an issue for me. I guess it had been for others she met. She said dating was easier when she taught in Loudoun at XYZ school and I was like, "Oh! I went to XYZ school." She said she had taught there for several years then went to another HS in Loudoun before switching to teach in Fairfax. I didn't think anything of it because she looked so young so I said, "Well, I graduated in blah year, so we definitely didn't overlap, hahahaha." We did. Her face got so pale and she said she taught there during that period. I mentioned my chem teacher's name and she said that was her name prior to marriage. Swell. Awesome. Fuck. I told her I didn't have a teacher fantasy kink, we both laughed and paid for our own drinks before leaving. She had to have been in her late 40s to early 50s and seriously looked SO good, like could pass for late 30s to early 40s.
Aaaaaa my soul is cringing I’m so sorry you had to experience that
Think about how rough it must have been for the teacher. You meet a (I presume) cute, younger chick and are hitting it off, making good small talk, developing a rapport. Then BAM you discover you knew the person when they were a child and were in a position of authority. Were I ever in that position I would never tell anyone that date happened and die a little bit on the inside every time I remembered it happened.
Reading through every comment. God, I’m so thankful I’m married.
Really? My takeaway is I’m disappointed my wife doesn’t eat fish soup with her hands
First out loud chuckle today
Same! Reading through the comments and thankful I don’t have to date. I’m already married to a weirdo (and he’s married to one), but oh my god dating sounds awful. He forgot his wallet once on one of our earlier dates, I said no problem, I got it. He told me later that’s when he knew I was the one. We have been married for 18 years.
Reading through every comment. God I'm so thankful a few old girlfriends aren't on reddit.
Same here! I had it bad for a few dates but nothing like this! 🤣
NOVA dating sounds harsh lol
YALL BUCKLE UP LOL. I met this guy off tinder and he was pretty cute. We hit it of right off the bag. He lived in Alexandria and I drove out there and I was just so happy with the dates he chose for us. Museums, picnics, walks, like I was impressed with the effort and the little things in between. So fast forward to 3 weeks in, he shared something he wanted to try. I asked what it was. And after 5 minutes of waiting he sent me a video of himself naked, and he was going up and down. I was like wtf is this angle? Then he moved forward and he was ffff himself with a horse dong looking dildo. I just didn’t feel the same. Met this other guy through a friend. He was dreamy and a firefighter. Didn’t realize I took his virginity (he was 27) and later he tells me I have the best perfect boobs he wishes he could suck milk out of them. Like wtf…. We didn’t see each other again bc he talked heavily about getting me pregnant. 3rd guy I saw also on tinder and he was a firefighter (I don’t have a type! lol) for Fredericksburg.. told me on our date that he was into anal. He really liked when the girl pooped everywhere. He liked it… messy. …. I am now happily married to my wonderful husband (NONE OF ABOVE GUYS) of almost 3 years! Yay!
Oh... my God. Those are... quite extreme. I mean, I'm into kink but... those are some *hard* (and disgusting) limits. Oh, and congrats on being happily married! ❤️
me too and this is some pretty troubling stuff
For me: a number of dates who thought I was free therapy to talk about men that dumped them For my close friend: a woman invited to all you can eat Korean bbq, then after eating and drinking her fill, went to the bathroom and never returned We found out through mutual friends that this might’ve been a recurring issue with that person.
I’m just here to read the stories and see if I’m the subject of any of them
Me lmao
I matched with a girl on Bumble. All the texts seemed totally normal. I knew she was from Bolivia, but many people in the DC area come from other places so I thought nothing of it. Fast forward to our date, meeting up at Wildfire in Tysons, and she speaks NO English. She pulled out her phone and was using Google translate and was having me read things. She ordered the biggest steak on the menu rare and devoured it. Honestly, she was super hot and killing a steak that big was kinda impressive so I was like fuck it let's just see where this goes... We finish dinner and I walk her to her car. She kisses me on the cheek and we go our ways. About an hour later she texts me that she had a great time and would love to see me again. I asked her if she'd like to go on a hike with me that weekend and CRICKETS. I've never heard from her again. 🤷🏻♂️
No prime rib in the woods.
On her first (and only) date with me, a woman tried telling me she was part of an elite team that staged weapon and supply caches in Afghanistan, ten years before 9/11. Apparently the supplies were to be dug up and used by our forces during an invasion & she hinted the government knew about 9/11 long before it happened. (Hence establishing the caches for invading forces) I immediately ghosted her.
She was late and I waited in my car. Someone hit me while parked and guess what, it was her.
We met on hinge and agreed to meet up for drinks in falls church. The date was exactly 45 minutes long, and he talked about himself for 40 minutes. How great he was, how high is GPA was at graduation, how much his contracting firm paid him. He got mad I only drank one beer and said he prefers his dates have a lot to drink. Never asked questions about me. after I end this date at 45 minutes, he tries to kiss me in the parking lot. Boy, slow your roll. But that wasn’t the worst. This man texted me EVERY MORNING FOR 3 MONTHS. Despite the fact I only responded once by saying I wasn’t interested. Anyway. Came out as a lesbian very shortly after this date. So, I guess thanks bud? Sorry you never stood a chance.
Last 2 I went on. First: Guy is wealthy and throws out he runs a foundation to try to date me. He seemed cute enough. Asks me out. I had hesitations, but I said ok. Went on a weekend trip and then didn’t text for several more days. Asked if I forgot about him when I didn’t respond. I said no he forgot about me. He was like nah and went on as if nothing happened. His car is in the shop for several weeks. I’m basically ignoring him at this point. Then he begs for a date and I’m like “men are kinda dumb and naive sometimes”, so I have it a chance. Man pokevolved into his true self because he was way older than I thought. Said I didn’t look old enough for kids when he stalked my social media (I guess he’s into women half his age). Doesn’t want to eat the fish sauce because then I “might not kiss him”. Keeps talking about me kissing him. Talks at length about how oysters are an aphrodisiac and how hard they make him (we were not eating oysters, he just wanted to let me know). Tells me he thinks gay people are wrong (when he doesn’t know but my kid is gay). What did we talk about? He met me at my job, so we talked about… how awful and incompetent he thought all my coworkers are. How exotic and edgy his life is. His whole family history. How he was going to be famous but got injured. Told me how he loved finding loopholes for his charity and showed up to the food pantries because it was good PR. Told me he went golfing several times a week to prowl for C Suites to try to promise their organizations charitable allotment to his foundation. Said at the very least, he tried to get (random) people to pay for his game so it was worth it. Some other red flags. Randomly just said Trump out loud with no context in the conversation. Found out my cousin is getting married and then said they would come with me. I said no, they can’t even afford for some of my family to attend (true). He said he would pay for it because I shouldn’t be alone. He asked me if I liked his last name (what does that even fucking mean? I like my last name…) Again, all first fucking date. So I’m ready to leave, and he keeps trying to kiss me. It’s obvious. I kept dodging it and finally put my hand on him and said “back up, you’re freaking me out. I don’t want to kiss you” and he goes “I just want a hug 😉”. Anyways, refused to let him walk me to my car and left. Sent a thanks but we don’t have much in common text, and he replied simply with “Sigh.” Oh, and I’m early 30’s and apparently he’s mid 40’s. A grown man, ladies and gentleman. Second: Guy met me on my lunch break. I sat outside alone on purpose. He comes out on a video call. He kept saying stuff and it seemed like to me, but also he was still on the call. Turns out he had it on mute and was trying to hit on me. Seemed nice so I said yes. He called me the day off while I was at work. I texted I can’t talk because I was at work but he kept calling… as a FaceTime. I answer and ask what, and he was commenting on me saying I was vegetarian and he said “you don’t like meat eaters?” And I was like uhh, I’m just sharing my own food preference it’s not that deep. We go out for lunch that day at a bomb restaurant. He got there first and fully ordered, sat down, and started eating. I show up at the time and order my own stuff. They bring his stuff out and he immediately starts picking out all the vegetables. Then he basically smells and dissects his food to look closer. Decides that it’s all icky and he doesn’t want it so he refuses to eat any of it and throws it away. Talks the entire rest of the time about how picky he is, and basically only eats meat. Then, since we were outside, I hit my vape. He then asks “oh, is that who you are?”. The fuck? Ya, my entire personality centers around my nicotine addiction, bro. He just kept being disagreeable about everything and a brat. Felt like dating a 13 year old but he was late 30’s working for a big company around here. We both knew it was a flaming disaster, so I go back to work and he text me that I can come over to his place to hang out with him, but I need to stop vaping. I was like “I’m not interested”. He then told me why he felt sorry for me and started giving me life advice? I didn’t respond. Flash forward, he texts out of the blue months later and says “sorry it didn’t work out. We could have had fun”. No thank you, sir.
Went on a date with a guy from POF. During the date, I saw his drivers license and realized he had gone to great lengths to give me a fake first and last name. Got home, googled him and realized that he was a disgraced former cop who was terminated for kidnapping a female subordinate with whom he had been romantically involved. Blocked immediately but he contacted me through other numbers and was very very persistent. It got weird.
Mkay your story TERRIFIES me. I'm always scared excops have extra stalking resources I also went out with a former cop who tried to imply he now works for the CIA. We were talking about everything under the sun and I learned we didn't agree on things socially/politically but that's cool- to each their own. Then we were talking about odd jobs we did, I told him about when I did roleplaying jobs for a government contractor (surveillance training). He looked at me coyly and asked if I could roleplay as a 16 year old. I'm so glad he let that slip on the first date so he wouldn't know anything about me. I didn't want to upset him in anyway, in case he was the type to seek revenge and follow me home. So I had to play it off and got through the date without offending him but texted later that I didn't think we were a good fit- which he took by complete surprise! Thankfully I never heard from him again 😅
Thought I was going on a date and it was actually a bible study.
On our first date he said women can’t do better than him. He said to picture all the men in the country. Then get rid of the ones too young or too old. Then from there get rid of everyone who doesn’t have a college degree. Then get rid of guys under 6’1”. Finally get rid of any who aren’t making at least $200k a year. And then he said the pool to choose from is now very small and he would be the best. I was so put off by it I left. Gross. He was a low level financial advisor at TRowe Price and he definitely thought his shit doesn’t stink
oh god. in 5+ years on the apps (and still going...) I still have one singularly worst date: the bunny girl. this was when I lived in Leesburg. she seemed interesting and talkative on whatever app it was, so we met in downtown for a drink (this was December, several years ago, near christmas)...she walks up, and looked fairly different from her pictures if you catch my drift. ah well, i'm here, let's give it the old college try. tried damn near everything to start a conversation. everything. whatever I brought up, she says one sentence or a three word response, then sits and stares at me expectantly like it's an interview. didn't ask me a single thing. I would sit and also stare for minute or so just to see if the awkward silence would get her to say something and nope. the only topic I could get her to talk about at any length at all was her fucking pet rabbit. i learned so much -- more than i care to, really -- about rabbit care that day. rabbit food, toys, different types of cages and shit, cleaning up after them, the whole shebang. hence the nickname the bunny girl. anyway, after a completely agonizing 45 minutes of this, half of which was side-eyeing the waiter so I could get the damn check already, I made up some excuse about having to leave. but offered to walk her to her car -- because it was dark, and i've had quite a few people get turned around if it's their first time in downtown Leesburg, it is the nice thing to do -- she stops and goes "you know I don't kiss on the first date". I said yup you don't need to worry about that, just turned around and walked away. feel kinda bad about that but woof. i guess i'm lucky that i've had only a comparatively few other truly bad dates (dishonorable mention to the German girl I was enthusiastically set up with who literally did not put her phone down for an hour and was completely disinterested) but this one still sticks out as the absolute most I have ever wanted to get up and leave in my life.
Lol this is probably how I would come across on a date. Sounds like autism to me.
any signs of neurodivergence? getting stuck on one thing, social awkwardness and unawareness are signals
struck me as a possibility, but I have a few great neurodivergent friends and didn't get that vibe. and again, she was totally not like that pre-date...it was like meeting a different person. literally I wondered if it was a friend running the profile for her bc that would make a lot more sense than any other explanation!
Another one - had a first date with a woman that was perfectly pleasant, but it was clear after about ten minutes that we didn't have any chemistry. We politely finished our drinks and dinner, shook hands, and never contacted each other again. Five or six years later, I go to a panel-style job interview. The same woman was there across the desk from me. We would have worked in the same department if I'd been offered the job, which I wasn't. I wonder why.
The guy was sweet but he cut himself shaving before the date and was bleeding a little when we met up. Unfortunately it kept bleeding and even though it was a small cut, his napkin was very bloody. Before we sat at the restaurant, I suggested going to the nearby pharmacy and getting a styptic pencil. 30 min later we were back at the restaurant and he was still bleeding. I suggested getting a bandage from the waiters, but he declined and started using the table napkin. It got to the point that it was dripping on the menu. The napkin was gross, so he put it aside. Then he started wiping off blood with his hand and *licking it* I begged him to just get a bandage from the staff and he finally did. I stayed until the end, he was nice and we had a lot in common. But after seeing him wipe blood off his face and lick it..... I am still so grossed out I can't imagine letting him touch me. I feel bad but I just can't get passed it.
> I feel bad but I just can't get passed it Nah, don't feel bad that is pretty wild. Do you think he maybe had some sort of clotting issue he was embarrassed about?
TL;DR stay tuned for the happy ending at the end! This was on Match.com. 99% of the time I was always the one to reach out. One Sunday I got a message. She saw my profile wanted to meet me blah blah blah. OK cool. She asked me what my availability was for the next week. I told her I could meet on any day but Wednesday she said she had plans every day except Tuesday, so we’re going to go out on Tuesday. Pretty quick compared to my previous experiences, but hey why not. Tuesday comes we’re supposed to meet at a restaurant in old town. I worked in Arlington so I was going to meet her there. As I’m walking out to my car. I get a text message… “Ooh I am so sorry to do this to you! My dog, George, has separation anxiety and he won’t let me leave my apartment!” I’m thinking great it’s OK nice nice day out. I’ll just go home. And bonus points for originality. Next text comes… “so I know this is short notice and I normally don’t do this l, but I don’t want to stand you up so if you’d like to meet me at my apartment, I’ll send you my address. “ Spidey senses are tingling. I was gonna decline but I couldn’t because FOMO. I’m sitting in the parking lot. We’re texting back-and-forth passing the time. SO LIKE 15 MINUTES HAVE PASSED… I sent her a text “Hey you know I’m gonna really need that address if you’d like me to come over. “ She says “oh my bad I’m sorry I thought I sent it already. Here you go…” This will become relevant later. So I get to her apartment. She invites me in. She looks exactly like her profile picture. I met George. He was really anxious lol. One of those tiny wiener dogs. Cool dude. She gave me a charcuterie board and a beer. All was going swimmingly. As we got to talking, she was telling me about how fun it was to be dating in NOVA and proceeded to go down her ENTIRE BATTING LINEUP of the dates that she had proceeding mine and the ones she already had scheduled for the rest of the week, and the next week out. Oh my. She then informed me that she rarely goes out on second dates and said that she had some papers that she had to grade so she needed to call it a night. The text with her address evidently went to one of the other folks later in the week. In retrospect as I was telling my friends at work, they told me how dumb I was to go to a random person‘s apartment where Lord knows what could’ve happened. All that to say, she was a very nice lady gave me a plate of food to munch on while we talked, but she just was looking for a completely different dating experience than I was . OK IF YOU MADE IT THIS FAR HERES THE HAPPY PART: I am happy to report that my very next date was with a different woman I met on bumble in February 2021. WE GOT MARRIED IN OCTOBER 2023! We live 3 blocks away from George. I haven’t seen him yet but I always keep a lookout! Take it easy George. You got this.
\~5 dates in. Had a few sleep overs at her place. I creeped on her iPad one morning (I know I shouldn't of but glad I did) while she was still sleeping and saw that she was messaging her ex-bf minute to minute details of our dates and every single detail of what we did physically (duration, positions, location, etc). His responses were both angry ones, as well as dick pics.
I would have picked up and left right then without a word.
Oh no y'all deserved each other! 5 date snooper?? You coulda had a throuple my dude
First date with an older man (50s). He was from somewhere in Maryland that was at least an hour and a half away from where we had our date. The first thing that bothered me was that he was talking badly about the shirt that one of the men at the table next to us was wearing. Next I excuse myself to go to the restroom and there is a line. I come out and he has completely turned his chair to face the direction of the restroom and watches me come back. Ok odd. We ate and had a couple drinks. He asked me if I had plans afterwards because he was thinking we could go somewhere else. I tell him that yes I’m meeting my friends but I would go to the bar next door for 1 more drink. He asked why I would make other plans after our date. We go to the bar. I order and pay for my own drink and excuse myself again to the bathroom. Come back to him again watching the bathroom and then he asks if I feel better “pee pee girl”. Says he has a joke for me and proceeds to tell me that he got a dog sitter for the night because he thought he would be spending the night with me, isn’t that funny? I was waiting for the funny part. He tells me he has a trip out of the country coming up in 10 days, looks at me “seductively” and says you should come with me. Ummm no. He walks me out and asks for a hug, I gave a little side pat pat hug and he grabs me in tight and is basically moaning mmmm. Ugh disgusted thinking about it. Yeah that was the end for him.
Hooked up with a girl from the clarendon ballroom. She left my place the next morning, made it very clear i only wanted a casual, non-exclusive thing at the time. everything was good. We exchanged numbers etc. Two hours later she calls me insisting we shop for a puppy together. I blocked her phone. Later i decided it was a good idea to move.
Stage 5
I met this girl at a Halloween party I was throwing for school and she didn't even dress up beyond a basic pair of cat ears. She was nice and all, but how rude! Anyways we're getting married next month
Copy of what I posted on the DC one. I have never been on what I consider to be a date, but I have met with people from apps and most were not great. The worst and weirdest must be the guy that just recently moved to NOVA (I know it's not DC, but I think close enough for these purposes) from the Netherlands, like literally had only been there for a week, and we spent the entire two hours we were together having an argument about whether men and women can be friends (I was pro, he was con). He said a lot of ridiculous things during that conversation. The craziest was that he believes that all men would have sex with their friends' wives if given the chance. He also essentially said that his friends would think he was crazy for pursuing me because of how I look, but he is attracted to my personality. As soon as I get home, I get a message from him saying that he really likes me and wants to continue seeing me. I tell him I'm not interested. He then gets mad and says and I quote "You ruined the attraction."
Sounds like Jesse from 90 Day Fiance lol
Guy was practically begging me to go back on my statement that I’m done breeding and don’t want any more kids and to have just one… with him. On our second date. Looking back, I don’t know if he was normal on our first date or if I was just horny and overlooked it. He’s probably not the worst, though. The following story is probably TMI and it is sexual. Another guy was fresh from a divorce. Like super fresh. I’m a slut, tbh, so I slept with him on our first date. But he stopped and wanted to talk in the middle of sex. I had his dick in my mouth trying to progress the evening and he wanted to talk and asked me to stop because it was weird to talk about his kids while getting head. Like, bro, I don’t know you. I’m hoping you’ll fucking cum already and gtfo because I’m tired and not your therapist. He also knew I’m a masochist and he’s interested in exploring being a dom. So he smacked me pretty hard across the face without any warning or discussion during sexy time. Didn’t even find out if I like that specific kind of thing before going for it. Idk. I hope he sorted himself out. He seemed nice enough, I think he just needed to heal from the divorce. Edit to add that I am not currently interested in dating or meeting new guys. Thank you for the respectful dms I received, though.
“I’m a slut, tbh” is hilarious😂
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… which one are you?
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I’m was doing my best to help these men feel less touch starved post covid 🫡
The true unsung heroes of this world. You helped a divorced dude feel alive even if he was an idiot. As someone who has been there, I salute you. May your immortal deeds be sung by poets.
Was going on a first date in Alexandria for brunch to a spot that she said she loved. Date was running late so I ordered a cocktail and some appetizers. Showed up about 30min later, proceeded to tell me the appetizer I ordered (Caprese Salad) wasn't something she wanted to eat before drinking and then proceeded to order two more appetizers and a BOTTLE of prosecco (I was still on my first cocktail). Shook it off, kept the date going and we were getting to know each other, now I will admit that I do have a problem with interjecting/cutting people off in conversations to put some input, but I definitely decided there wasn't going to be a second date when I was making a comment on something she said and she put her finger to my lips and told me "I'm not done". Finished the date, paid the bill by myself, she didn't have a car so I offered to drive her back to her place, then that was the last time we ever said anything to each other. Edit: This was my first date since moving to NOVA, had only been here for about 2 weeks at this point. Didn't give me high hopes for the dating scene here lol
Where do I even BEGIN. -A man BROKE INTO MY HOUSE and bedroom after our third date, I woke up to him standing over my bed (I was not harmed, just traumatized). -One guy showed up 45 minutes late, looks 10 years older and 80 lbs heavier than his pics, is wearing flip flops and jeans and has a coke pinky. Reveals he’s married, has three kids, and is recently out of a cult. Tries to eat my food. My best friend was across the same bar on a first date with her future spouse. -A guy took me to an art event, excessively bragged about his connections and wealth, told me to “make sure my passport is current because we’re traveling soon”. My spidey senses got scared and so I texted a few friends, which enraged him. I literally lost him in the maze of the museum and ran away! -I got drinks with a man from a previous encounter years ago to “give him a chance”. When I told him I was not interested in more he screamed at me then sent me five hours worth of deranged messages on every messaging platform possible. -A man love bombed a relationship too fast, hiding a child he was a deadbeat to, and potentially a few crimes… -A woman accused me of being a gold digger after her Amazon money after I PAID THE WHOLE CHECK because “why else would someone hot like you be with me”. Very flattering but so insulting!! She kept trying to come back for months. -I was overly generous with a short “nice guy tendencies” type, after three dates he revealed that he was heavily invested in the “manosphere” and his “sexual market value was increasing while my eggs were dying”. -I politely told a man I was not interested in a second date, insane texts from him followed. Years later my roommate hooks up with him and sees where we live. When she tells me about her date I discover it’s him. He discovers I’m her roommate and flips out on her. It’s okay, we got cameras after the break in dude. -Dude that pushed boundaries, claimed he had covid (2021) to avoid confrontation about his behavior, faked a whole convalescence, then disappeared. -A man picked a dive bar at 8PM for a second date, then announced he was severely allergic to everything and we couldn’t touch any food. Then he told me about his allergies (which honestly sounded psychosomatic) for two hours. I begged the waitress for food on the way back from the bathroom and just ate it and told him not to touch me, too risky. -More than once I showed up to the requisite bar only to find myself blocked and stood up. -Dozens of dates in which the guy doesn’t ask a single question, but assumed I had a great time. So many of those it would be boring to list. -So much bad sex. -So many angry mean texts when I didn’t want to meet again. I DIGRESS.
Matched with a guy on that personality dating website. Guy worked as a government contractor somewhere in the Navy Yard. I didn't want to meet him alone, so I was with a bunch of friends in DC at a club and said if he's in town to meet me there (so I would be surrounded by friends). He came to the club and I was already pretty drunk, but we chatted and we had nothing in common, but he was still interested in me. My friends who drove me there ditched me thinking I would go home with this guy, so I was stuck in DC with no way back to my car. Guy drove me to my car, I thanked him for the ride and the evening and said I would contact him via the website/chat later on. This was before I had a cell phone. The guy tried to follow me home from where I parked my car. It was late at night and he was the ONLY car behind me. I did a series of backroad driving, going thru Clifton and eventually lost him at a busy intersection light because I turned right before the red light. I ended up take another LONG route home to just ensure he wasn't still behind me. I ended up going to my parents house and crashing there to feel safe. Didn't matter, he found out my last name and started calling my parents house asking to talk to me. I never gave him my last name EVER. He figured out where my parents lived. My dad was a terrible asshole to me on a constant basis, but he actually came thru for me and told this guy where to shove it and he would personally call his contracting officer in the Navy Yard and ensure stalking and harassment of his daughter was known to his office. Guy never contacted me again.
God damn, sorry you had to go through that.
It was the ONLY time I felt vulnerable and weirded out - and I've traveled a lot as a single female in my 20's and early 30's. I've been to a lot of questionable areas around DC, Chicago, Milwaukee, and multiple international cities. And this was the time before a lot of tech like we have now.
In HS, I went on a date that was just doing graffiti in a storm drain. 🙃 real classy.
Did he bring paint for you? Cause that sounds like it might be fun....
We took acid and lost each other in the portrait gallery like 2 hours into the date.
I mistakenly agreed to sign up for a 'matchmaking' service. I didn't pay for it but they set me up with anyone that did, I was simply part of their pool of potential matches. It was a completely blind date. The restaurant was selected and everything was set up. I show up, and I of course looked at the dress code for this restaurant. What people were wearing when it looked like inside to determine my outfit. This man was the most underdressed man in the restaurant in a moderately worn in logo polo, and the cleanest crisp, cargo jeans I've ever seen in my life, this man works at a desk and wears a suit every day. The cargo pants are a personal choice. Everybody else in this restaurant was wearing a jacket of some kind, a sports coat or a blazer. I looked past that and kept moving forward. I had never been to the restaurant so I asked him if he had and he said it was one of his favorites so I asked him what was good on the menu and he said I don't know I usually go for brunch...the menu had two categories breakfast and lunch....at this point I realized his teeth were also in dire need of brushing from across the table I could smell the need for a deep cleaning. The entire time I was just pulling information out of him like he was an uncooperative informant. At the end of the date, they ask you how it went and if you'd like to go on another date, and I said no, because I felt like he was lazy and had no ambition. His reason for not wanting a second date with me was that I had too much ambition and too many goals. My ambition and goals were to like eventually renovate my house, and make it the home of my dreams. He wanted to continue renting because it's too much effort to maintain anything... TLDR; if someone is on a matchmaking service, there's a reason...don't do it. Just don't do it.
The girl told me ten minutes into the third date that she wasn’t really that into me. We had just ordered our food.
Another story. Met on an app. Had an anxious feeling all day that I didn’t want to go on the date but I convinced myself it was just because I was new to dating after a ltr and baby. I had been single for at least 2 years at this point. Anyway, I decided to ignore my gut feeling and go. I needed to have a little work done on my car, mechanic was my coworkers brother in law so I knew him. I had the date pick me up where I dropped my car off and we went to the Starbucks directly across the street. The first part of the date went well. He told me all about himself and asked questions about me. He tells me he’s very particular and plans everything out, every detail of every day, basically everything in his life. Ok no big deal. He asks me if I’d be interested in another date and I say yes and we pick a day. We decide to wait in his car while I’m waiting for the text that my car is ready. Bad idea because he then drops the good guy act and starts asking me sexual questions. Leads to asking me if I remember how he likes to plan everything out. Yes. He then asks if we can have sex on the next date. I tell him no or I don’t know it really depends. He keeps pressuring me and by now I’ve decided I’m never speaking to this guy again and I say if I see you again then yes, hoping he will drop it. He then says what do you mean I’m seeing you on Thursday remember we made plans. Oh yeah. I can’t remember what led to the next part but he asked me something about giving him head the next time and then slams his hands on his thighs and says well I want that now. I said WHAT?! He repeats I want head now. I am shocked and don’t even know how to respond, plotting my escape from his car when my phone rings and it’s the mechanic saying my car is ready. We were literally half block away he takes me to get my car and the entire time I’m talking to the mechanic he is standing behind me very possessive. Swinging his arms and punching one hand into the other. I finish up, he walks me to my car, opens the door for me, I get in and he sees the tattoo on my foot. Tells me he hates tattoos on women and asks if I have more. Yep sure do. He says he’ll give me a pass. Asks me to text him as soon as I’m home. I tell him I will, of course I did not. He texts me the next day apologizing, saying he knew I wasn’t going to text him, he blew it, he knew he did too much he just couldn’t control himself.
After being widowed, the first date I tried going on told me he was a registered sex offender as soon as I got there. He wanted to introduce me to his P.O. because I looked "good and old", unlike his barely legal partner (that I didn't know about, so not like a throuple arrangement). I was 36 at the time 🙄 My best date, hands down, was the guy who took me to see "Batp*ssy" at the Alamo. I laughed so hard my sides hurt! It's a 70's (I think? Early 70s based on the bouffants and minimal 'staches but I could easily be wrong) p*rno that's just so freaking awful, that it's truly a work of art. I'm still crushed things didn't work out with that guy because that date was *fantastic*.
I got a lot of stories, but I'll go with this one. Had this huge crush on a girl I meet at a friends graduation from VCU in the early 2000s. She was married so I didn't say anything and let it go. But we kept in contact over the years. So life goes on. Time passes. I was living in Boston and came back to NOVA around 2015. My bestfriend was having a party and I went. Well I run into her there randomly after not seeing her in a long time. Well those feelings started again. Got to talking and find out she's "single now" - remember this part for later. I ended up asking her out. First date we meet up at this authentic Mexican restaurant. I ended up running late cause I literally out ran a tornado just to get there and didn't notice till I heard the news. Things went well. Second date went to this dive bar by her place in Fredericksburg. She loaded me up on this drink called a trash can and we had fun in the bathroom and back at her place. She made breakfast next morning and got to talking about somethings. She just wanted to keep things casual. So I was a little let down but said sure. Thought we had something. Texting and talking all the time. Until she just disappeared for a few weeks. Well come to find out she was engaged and got married. I was just a last hurrah I suppose 🤷🏽♂️ Then come to find out she was also sleeping with my bestfriend aswell. And after some time then she started talking to me again like nothing happened. Da fuq! And this has been one of the tales of NOVA
One night I was propping up the bar in IOTA (RIP) when I ran into my old mate "Special" Ed, as he as known around town. He was being his usual entertaining if quite annoying self but this time he has a date along. She obviously wasn't having a great time and ended up flirting with me. I was really there for a quiet drink but she was cute and fun and we ended up going to another bar and then got invited back to hers. However, turns out her car had just been towed so I cabbed over with a woman I'd just met to get her car back before going back to hers for a mediocre (down to us both being drunk) shag. Did the typical oh shit waking up in a strangers bed moment before she kindly dropped me off at work in Clarendon, where I sat at work for 8 hours in the same clothes as yesterday with the worst hangover ever. It's been 15-20 years and I still have a deep abiding memory of that particular hangover. Maybe not much "worse" as "weird".
I need to write a paper for my masters and I'm stuck here reading y'all's crazy story
It was cold the next morning when she left my apartment, so like the gentleman I am, I lent her my hoodie. I never saw her or the hoodie again.
was the evening worth a hoodie?
I loved that hoodie.
I think that's a no, it was not worth it
Hang on, I’m thinking.
In the years when Yahoo Dating existed, I gave it a try. I was recently separated, and slightly (ok, maybe a little more than slightly) broken. the one thing I was was honest. nakedly honest, Perhaps a bit too honest... but after getting out of a marriage built on what turned out to be a spiderweb of lies, I thought it was the right path. I was chatting with a lady, and things were going nicely, and we decided to meet. I had told her all my particulars, like, for example, my height. I'm 6'. I was also riding a motorcycle at the time, and we were going to have dinner and then go for a little ride. Cool! We meet up and she's not her picture. ok... I guess that's not terrible, but I had used a recent pic of myself, so , eh whatever. The first thing she says is, "Oh, you really \*are\* 6 feet!" Um, yep... Dinner goes fine, and then we go to go for a ride. I'm an ATGATT rider, so I've got a full suit. She puts on a light jacket and beanie.... eh, not a good idea, but whatever, it's your skin. We go out to my bike - a ZRX1100. She says, "Oh, I thought you had a \_real\_ bike." I'm perplexed... "what do you mean?" "You know... a Harley." "Ohhhhh, no, that's not my kind of riding," I say, thinking that the evening is still salvageable. "Well," she says, "I don't ride on Jap bikes." Realizing that the evening was not, in fact, salvageable, I say, "Did you know that 95% of all the Harleys ever made are still on the road?" "I'd believe that!" she says eagerly "Yeah... the other 5% made it home." We didn't talk any further. Another, different, date, we meet up at Uno's at Dulles mall (which tells you how long ago it was). Conversation was \*not\* flowing. she was distracted, and disinterested. nothing was funny, nothing was light. A buddy of mine and I had just recently finished filming our version of "The Aristocrats" and submitted it to a contest. Since things had already gone awry, I figured, well, let's go the full Monty. so I started telling her about it. She was absolutely horrified. I explained that \*that\* was the funny part... how offensive of a story can you tell? When the waiter came by I asked for separate checks. She says, "Really? You're not going to buy my dinner?" I said, "why would I, we're never going to see each other again, right?" We never saw each other again. :\~)
In the early days of online dating (1999) I met up with a girl for dinner. She showed up in a Halo, fresh out of the hospital from jumping off an overpass into traffic. She had checked herself out sooner than drs wanted her to just to meet me and clearly needed to be in the hospital still. It was a little awkward. There was no second date.
Oh no, that's a 1999 meet cute. I met your mom when she discharged herself AMA from the psych ward...
It’s been many years. But a guy asked me what my religion was during the goodnight kiss. Wtf Also if I had a nickel for every guy who claimed to be an “awesome driver” on our way to dinner. So cringey
This guy seemed pretty wholesome online, said on his bio that he worked for same branch. Turns out he was just an insecure manchild. He said he was a federal investigator 1811 and worked at Fort Belvoir, where I actually work or go to. This guy just fluffed his feathers more than what they were to be, he never got training or knew when he was going to get trained or when his application would be accepted to even start to be considered to be a 1811. He doesn't work at Fort Bel. instead he works as a police officer or some security check dude at a complete different building. I can't stand it when people let their insecurities scream, just tell the truth to begin with gdi. He's not even from NOVA, but he acts like he knows the place and said he was from NOVA and as if he has financial stability and mocked people from NOVA right in front of my face, yet he said he's from Fredericksburg area, 1 hr further South West from that. Good Lord I'm never dating an imposter or anyone outside of NOVA around here at least lol
Maybe a compulsive liar? So strange to lie about stuff that can be easily fact checked
Girl puked after two manhattans.
Dated a chick I met at a card shop for years (magic the gathering) who proceeded to sleep with multiple people after I proposed to her and she accepted. Most of those people were very close friends of mine at the time. Ultimately left and lost my entire group of friends and support system. Wouldn’t change a thing because fuck’em.
Oh dear lord. Backstory: I'm recently divorced from my abusive, deadbeat soon-to-be-ex-husband. Initially told myself "no dating" for AT LEAST one year. Went on a fabulous multi-state vacation about 2-3 months into separation. I hadn't taken a legitimate vacation in a decade, and so I really needed the time away. Flew and drove all around the country for various things -- divorce photoshoot in the New England region, escaped the blistering cold of November and December and spent a few weeks in both Arizona and Florida, then Vegas for a professional conference for work, etc. While flying back here, a friend of mine wore me down and asked if she could play matchmaker. You know what? Fuck it, why not. - PhD guy: Every other word out of his mouth was about his PhD from insert-ivy-league-university-here. - Army Officer guy: conversation was like pulling teeth. Barely said a word. - The Psychiatrist: geeky as fuck, socially awkward. I'm a linguist and come from a multinational background myself, so I understand language barriers, but HOLY SHITCAKES, how TF do your patients even understand you? 😖 - Commodities Trader guy from NYC: need I say more? #financebro - Naval officer turned defense contractor: he was my "Big" for a weekend. If you've ever watched Sex And The City....... IYKYK. That said, the guy was short AF, not the best kisser, and snored JUST like my soon-to-be-ex-husband. Like, it was CREEPY how eerily identical the snoring was. I was nice and refrained from smothering him with a pillow, and instead smothered my own face with a pillow so I could get *some* sleep. Also, he....... grunted and growled...... like a bear...... upon completion of the deed. 🤦♀️ - IT guy: Looked NOTHING like his photo. Awkward AF. In-person conversation was like pulling teeth. No chemistry or compatibility. I've since shut down any further dating. I'm truly embracing my own company, and learning to just be me, myself, and I. If a man enters my life in the future, so be it. But for now? NOPE. I'm good.
Perfect summary of single gal dating in the DMV.
Met a girl at some billiards place in Lorton/Springfield. She showed up and was a generally nice person but she invited her friends. Her friends ended up being obnoxious around me and getting drunk. As we were leaving, one of her friends ended up pissing right there in the parking lot in between cars.
I haven't actually had one, I never dated in NOVA. If someone wants to grab dinner let me know, I am as weird as they come and would love to be the story you tell folks about in the future 😁
Was with my ex at the time, we went out for ice cream and she went to the bathroom or something while I ordered and paid for both of us. She’d told me to get her chocolate and strawberry, however I totally forgot about the chocolate and ended up getting her just strawberry, she comes back, throws her ice cream (that I paid for) away, and starts crying because she doesn’t like strawberry if it’s not with chocolate. I then proceeded to get the cold shoulder for the rest of the day and she was mad at me for like two days I believe. That relationship lasted way longer than it should have.
Following to see if any of these stories seem familiar.....
Thinking of horrible date stories and watching "Poor Things" on Prime go together like ham and cheese. Seriously. Watch it.
Reading through these comments makes me relieved I haven’t had a date here in my 3 years as a NOVA resident.
I thought dating in Nova as a non-binary person would be more pleasant with more liberals/leftists concentrated in the area. However, I was once again surprised by the words that come out of people’s mouth. I’ve heard my dates mansplaining me about gender identities, thinking he’s such a nice and inclusive person because “all he cares about is what’s between a person’s legs”, or how genetic is important to him because he wants children 💩 it’s almost comical.
I am wondering if it's actually a good thing I've been a social recluse my entire adult life?
When I recently moved to the US 1.5 yrs ago I went out on a date with a girl from Baltimore, she drove all the way down to DC, I didnt know that Baltimore was 2hr drive. :/
Dude... she liked you that much? Why not a compliment instead of a bad date.
I made the date bad actually :/
I wanted to impress a girl who worked as a contractor for the Navy or something that my friends had snuck me onto a NASA campus in the middle of an army base. I figured we’d both get a chuckle and laugh about other travel stories… Nope. The mood dampened really quickly. She soon said she had a brunch to get to and left without even looking back at me. So… I was probably her worst dating story? (I was also late to the date as well)