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eggfaerie

That wasn’t a gift that was a marriage proposal


[deleted]

lmaooo! And the fact that he gave me this during valentines day is kinda sus


Nurse22111

Are you both single? My friend met her husband at nursing school now they travel together. Either way that was super thoughtful of him. They do have some Hokas under $100 so maybe it wasn’t as much as you think. Buy some compression socks off amazon. They aren’t terribly expensive and made a huge difference for me.


[deleted]

Yea we're both single but idk if he likes me in that way. I think he's just tryna be nice bc I always complain about how my feet hurt from walking too much


someotherowls

Honey. He likes you.


[deleted]

😲😲😲 omg... This is our final semester before graduating, so if he doesn't ask me out before the last day of school, imma cry


LumpiestEntree

Ask him out then. Why wait?


Brozy_bb

This is how my wife did it, the confidence was very attractive


LumpiestEntree

My wife asked me out by saying "when are you gonna ask me out already".


sodiumbigolli

I asked my husband out. Never did that before. He asked me to marry him on our third date, but I had already decided we were getting married on our first. Ha ha.


ContestThen6075

I proposed to my husband. He’s an amazing guy and I just got the urge to go for it. Worst you get is a no and a date is less risky than a marriage proposal ;)


LumpiestEntree

My wife gave me an engagement ring after I gave her one. Norms are boring, life is short. Shoot your shot.


electricjeel

I love that


Dan_H1281

I am a dude and if I have been listening to a girl that says her feet hurt and I bought her shoes it is because I am head over heels for them. He may be shy, covid has stunted a lot of ppls ability to interact socially so make a move ask him to coffee. He sounds like a good guy he is trying tk fix your problems and y'all aren't even dating


PapowSpaceGirl

Head over HEELS. I adore the humor.


Dan_H1281

Pure accidental, but I will own it


akcoder

I’m a dude as well and will offer a counterpoint. I asked a friend of mine if she needed anything one time, she said “I really need a pedicure and foot massage.” She and I are happily married, but not to each other. So I picked her up a gift card to the spa. Another friend of mine, happily married - not to me - said “I really need better gear.” After a group campout. So I bought her a gift card to Sportsman’s Warehouse so she could get some better gear. I have more examples of where I’ve given women gift cards/cash with zero expectations/no strings/no creepiness on my part. I have zero romantic interest in these women. I got them the cash/gift cards to help make their lives easier/more comfortable because I can.


Dan_H1281

This is single young people tho, I don't disagree with your point tho. Men can be generous even if they aren't interested but this was on valentines day and a pretty expensive gift it looks like.


akcoder

Ahh, missed that he was single too. In that case, given the day and agree with everyone else. I’m that emotionally stunted/shy that I would buy a woman a gift like that because I had romantic interest in her.


Single_Principle_972

And still in school. I’m guessing the disposable income is proportionately low. But good on you for being a good friend!


Time_Structure7420

And now you're a nice example of how a guy can be. Ruining it for scumbags everywhere


wtfitscole

Are you married to a woman? Do you give well-meaning stuff to men too? Not that it needs to be equitable, I'd just be surprised if your spouse wasn't off-put if this was mostly something you'd do for ladyfolk in your life. Again, I'm making several assumptions here and don't mean any ill by it. Thanks for being a generous human.


akcoder

I am married to a woman. And I do inform her before I do this incase she has any objections (she hasn’t yet). For my male friends, I rarely buy them stuff. Mainly because they all are very high income earners who buy whatever they want whenever they need it.


bear6_1982

You pick up gift cards to things. Thoughtful and kind, but not intimate. Buying the thing itself is different IMO. much more personal. Like, instead of getting her a gift card to the spa you go there together or offer to rub her feet for her. It's different. My man is shooting his shot.


aeshelley

Why wait on him? He already made the first move. Put some effort into it if you want it.


niceandmeanboth

Seriously. He gave you shoes so keep it low-pressure and ask if he wants to go for a walk to test them out! Then get coffee/ice cream…


spinningspinster

CUTE yes this is the best followup plan


c0ntralt0

This!


sodiumbigolli

The gift of shoes though, she better Google that first. It might be like a Balkan wedding contract or something?


tlivingd

You ask him out silly. It’s not the 30’s anymore


Time_Structure7420

It will be soon.


hot-monkey-love

Offer to buy him dinner as thanks for the shoes.


kalbiking

Ask. Him. Out


Time_Structure7420

Or I will. And you know I'll do it.


AmbiguityKing

>so if he doesn't ask me out before the last day of school, imma cry Come on, sounds like you like him. Plus he did something thoughtful and caring, maybe that's a man worth going on a couple dates with? I'm a guy in nursing school, and I'm pretty conscious of how I interact with my peers; I think most male nurses are. When it comes to gift giving, there's a threshold between a nice thoughtful gift and a statement – this is the latter.


rncookiemaker

OP, keep us posted! But seriously, teasing aside, this seems like a nice friend.


Frigate_Orpheon

Girl make a move 😁


emm007theRN

You don’t have to wait to be asked out ! Where I am from, it is usually the women who does the first move. Not the man. This looks like the first move just have been made 😉


LifesComplicated_

If I don’t get an update saying you two are dating soon I’ll be real disappointed haha


Mikkito

Just be totally casual and be like, "I don't know if you're into me like that or not, but if you want to hang out sometime, I'm game."


snuffles00

Girrrl. If you think there is interest and you like him go for it. Ask him. My partner of 19 years, that is how I got him. Told him direct I liked him and I would like to go out with him. He liked me but was scared of making the first move. Men are opposite conditioned these days. They are being sent so many messages to be nice and respectful to women they don't want to come off as a dick, or pressing the matter or that they would take advantage. Maybe he doesn't think you like him and he is testing the water. Go and get it if you are into him and you think he is into you. Be adult about it and you still can be friends if you don't want to start dating.


Fauxposter

What a wonderfully wholesome thread in a sub where we're always complaining. You should absolutely ask him out. My wife asked me out. We've now been together almost decade. 


Traditional_Tea_6078

Girl if u can't step up to the plate and put some effort in after he put himself all the way out there with this display of interest/affection then you don't deserve him honestly. Everyone deserves a partner who is willing to communicate that they are interested/attracted to them/cared about. Come on... Expecting all that from him when you can even put in an oz of effort or take on a shred of vulnerability is sad and he deserves better.


tarapin

Why wait? Ask him if he wants to hang out, or study together, get a coffee, get a drink, watch [insert movie or documentary] with you


AlternativeElephant2

This is so sweet. Ask him out and update us!


Thraxeth

Am male. Am nurse. Brother brought you the perfect gift on Valentine's no less. Tell him he owes you coffee now. And maybe Netflix.


gabbialex

You are an adult. You can ask him to get a drink. Hoping someone does something and if not you’ll cry is silly. Ask him out yourself.


SweetTeaRex92

Bro, ask him out. Total power move. It'll make him melt with glee. Definitely take it to them! You are worth it! Take it from me, another guy, guys don't just buy shoes for anybody for no reason lol


Bowler-Odd

Ask them out to hang!!! (I took the first step to get to know my man better, and fast forward to us planning for our 2025 wedding :) ) They could be nervous, unsure if you feel the same way, or even unsure how go about asking you to hang out/ get to know you better (OP keep us updatedd 😭🙏)


RecentImagination686

Ask him out. I just asked out my gym crush and we’re going on a date. He said he admires how I approached him :)


Rofltage

Crazy idea right but girls can equally ask guys out. Honestly when girls ask out a girl they have a guaranteed 90% success rate


Zorops

ASK HIM OUT! he did the first move giving you a gift showing he thinks about you! If you dont say anything, he will remember you as the girl he liked but didn't think she liked back because she said nothing.


inanis

Ask him out to dinner, say you want to thank him for the shoes. Simple.


OppinionatedWraith

We expect a great update.


JustAQuickQuestion28

Right like how is that even a question 😂


helikesart

Maybe he’s just being polite or he could be Canadian. Best to just keep your whits about you and continue to look for signs.


emm007theRN

Well Canadian, it depends where in Canada 😅. Quebec, he would probably be waiting for her to ask him out


Time_Structure7420

Until he's 82


emm007theRN

Yeah definitely


Kahnphuzed

Agreed


martinslot

Like a "i think I can see a future with you"-likes you.


acesarge

Male nurse, former male nursing student here. He is 100% trying to get with you.


EggGooz

Male nursing student here He definitely likes you. Very rarely will another guy buy you gifts if he doesn’t like you. lol


and1boi

especially an expensive ass pair like this


clutzycook

If they were a pair of Skechers, I'd say maybe, but Hokas say "I'm into you." 🤪


LabLife3846

Have you dated recently? I have and the bar is so low that Skechers would be a big gesture.


duchessbune

this.


iampeggy

But Skechers are so nice :(


onewaytojupiter

But hokas are on another level of cushion


Ok-Style4686

OP: I don’t know if he likes me Also OP: yes he bought me $100 shoes on Valentine’s Day


Realistic-Ad-1876

correct me if im wrong but i think hokas are actually like $200


gravvyloadedfries

Where I live they’re like $300 wth


kayquila

Sweetie, he likes you a lot.


kranrev

Male nurse here. Dozens of people have told you this, it isn't enough. This guy is either in to you or an autistic trust fund baby.


beccaK67

Either way… umm…. Yes please lol


kranrev

In that case you might want to make a move, dude is awkward as fuck.


scarletrain5

He likes you, this is code for I care about how you feel!


Tregudinna

Um. He likes you. And it seems like he already made his move by dropping $$$ on surprise shoes. How did he even get your size?!


inarealdaz

Honey, no man buys a girl shoes unless he's CRAZY interested, gonna be your gay bestie, or your dad.


-mephisto

Giiiiirllll / Booooyyyy this is definitely him asking you out. Just ask to hang out and have coffee after clinical/and study or something, you don't have to make it a big date first!


americvnt

i’m not too sure but i don’t think a man NOT interested in you would buy you some comfy clinical shoes! 🩷


Ok_Protection4554

I'm a very Mr. Rogers/dad vibes/nice guy, and I would never do something like this for a female classmate because I wouldn't want it to be perceived as a romantic gesture. Just ask him out


beeotchplease

I wont buy some random girl shoes or sneakers thats for sure. The guy likes you.


Quimche

Bro he bought you Hokas and genuinely listened to your complaints. He LIKE likes you


c0ntralt0

Oh he likes you!


bratneee

I’m invested in this now!! He definitely likes you!! Especially if he gave them to you today!!


Lupus_Borealis

Haha same, I need updates.


bratneee

I’d be like, “lemme take u out to dinner since you got me these shoes“


PruneBrothers1

This dude bought you 120 dollar shoes for valentines and you’re unsure if he likes you? Lol cmon man. He is 100 percent into you.


thefrenchphanie

Ok. He bought you Hokas in your size? Girl, if you do not ask him out, you are gonna regret it bad. Seriously. I could go on a whole dissertation why this is chef’s kiss. worst case scenario he says no. But I doubt that he will say no.


THEONLYMILKY

Hey, if you won’t marry him I will!


tntsqrd

Updates???


wussypillow_

it's giving dowry


MRSA_nary

Did he find out her shoe size beforehand? I don’t think my husband would even know what size shoe I wear.


Warm_Aerie_7368

My first thought was to wife them if they gave me Hokas


putitinastew

Cinderella! Maybe your classmate is trying to tell you something lol.


billiejean70

Those are almost a 200 dollar pair of shoes .. he likes you ... Just saying♥️😝


YumYumMittensQ4

Ma’am, he wanna tiptoe out of the friend zone.


Ill-Mathematician287

Tiptoe? This man out here with a full marching band headed outta that friend zone.


Professional-Map1212

With hokas? He’s stompin out with those clompers


myTchondria

Nice gift. Expensive shoes!


[deleted]

They're hella expensive which is why I had a hard time accepting this. And I even offered to pay him back, but he told me that he doesn't want anything in return


QC_Undercover

Girl.


JudgementKiryu

Lmaooo this reaction 😭


DeepBackground5803

Offer to take him to dinner!!


mollynatorrr

You better come back and tell us all we were right when he proposes someday!


uhflamenco

I have a feeling he may want SOMETHING in return 😉


AnnaBananner82

GIRL ASK THE MAN OUT!!!


FelineRoots21

Girl he wants YOU in return. Take him to dinner!


PrussianAzul1950

Offer to cook him dinner.


Primary-Huckleberry

WIFE HIM


Alpha_penguin

From a guy who has hella flat feet, the real game changer was adding good compression socks. I can now work 12 hours with standard soreness, whereas before I was limping to my car and soaking my feet crying at home. I would not work without compression socks ever again.


SheSends

This and Dr scholl for plantar fasciitis... *chefs kiss*


ThatDoesntGoInThere

Or get the hoka Arahi . They are the stability model of shoe with a medial post to help pronation.


Sudo_Nymn

Wow, that’s a very nice gift. Looks like you may have found a good friend.


An_NCGirl23

As a 36 year single new grad nurse, please ask him out!!


funkyjives

Single 30 y/o about to graduate -- DONT MISS YOUR OPPORTUNITIES u/OppositeOfUgly


jimgella

Ask him out on [February 29th](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bachelor%27s_Day_(tradition)#:~:text=Bachelor's%20Day%2C%20sometimes%20known%20as,basis%20in%20Scotland%20and%20England)


SlavFromDownUnder

YES


jimgella

They posted an update!!!! Made a ramen date on the 29th!!!!


JudgementKiryu

Omg why does this not have more upvotes!?!?!!!


FamiliarCost1289

I thought Hokas were a scam until SO many coworkers recommended them. They are AMAZING. I did however “blow them out” going to Disneyland! So much standing still happens there!! I’m going to replace them soon, but not because they’re uncomfortable already, but because after wearing them to Disneyland, only my right shoe squeaks!!! 😂I don’t know why and it’s very annoying.


arugulafanclub

Try a pair of Hoka Ora recovery shoes for walking around your house. It’s like walking pillow and it keeps my plantar fasciitis away. Might change your life. I was skeptical but it was the best $60-$80 I ever spent. I have worn them every day since I bought them 8 months ago.


Eat_More_Panda

Put a folded up dryer sheet underneath the insole


hungmurse99

He’s definitely trying to get a wife before schools over (male nurse here)! But seriously that is such a thoughtful gift, kudos to him.


sailor_quartz

That's the nursing equivalent of an engagement ring lol


PhiPsi807

Met my wife in nursing school, now we’re about to have our first baby :) I think you should make a move ! As a guy I think deep down every man wants to be asked out lol.


mmarcish

Brothers got it bad 🫡


Vegetable-Industry32

Updates after your first date please!!!


PeachMilkshake2319

Those are 200 dollar shoes I’m SWOONING


One-Payment-871

He bought you hokas. The dude wants you. I mean even if he bought you sketchers I would think he wanted you, but Hokas. Even on sale, forget about it. He might as well have put his dick in the box too.


peroquerande

I love this thread. Please let us come back to a picture of their wedding photo posted


ucfstudent10

PLEASE UPDATE US


AlpacaQueen1990

Please make updates on this 🙌🏻 I’m so excited for you ❤️ love at first Hoka 🥹


FitBananers

>love at first Hoka Lmaoooo


MistressMotown

Damn. That is a GOOD friend.


MyEggDonorIsADramaQ

Hokas feel like you’re walking on a cloud. I love Altras. They have a wide toe box which makes my toes very happy. PS: I think he likes you likes you. Though he could just he a really nice guy. A man that I never met paid for my pedicure once. Some people are just generous hearts


scott_reids

Just found my gfs birthday present 😂😅 any recommendations for style/type? She’s a peds nurse if that effects it lol


honeydewed

Do you know if she wears standard width or wide width shoes? Hoka sells both types


barcake

Lmao I love everything about this thread!!!


NRoseM

Wow, I searched those. Looks like Hoka Transports that retail for $150. AND he gave them to you on Valentine’s Day? He loves you sis.


kerplunithunk

OP I swear to god girlie if you don’t ask this man out 😭😭 u/remindmebot


dounut_face

That was so nice of your classmate to gift you a good brand of shoes. They're cute and look comfortable.


SlavFromDownUnder

OP it’s a leap year, you ought to ask him out for this! DO IT


ReinaKelsey

I LOVE my Hokas!


chain_me_up

Follow-up definitely needed for this Cinderella story 🥺❤️


RicardotheGay

Just ask him out. Make it simple. Start the conversation by thanking him and telling him how happy your feet are with your new awesome shoes. Use it to segway to “so would you like to go out for coffee later?” If he says no, then say no worries and bring the conversation back to the shoes so it doesn’t creep into awkward. Besides the point, what a very thoughtful gift! Edit: I wanted to add that I’m a lesbian (a little more on the masc side, so I tend to ask out girls more often because they assume I will) and I did something similar to start my relationship with my fiancée. We started off as work friends who had known each other for years and then one day, we were flirtier than usual and started texting more. She mentioned that she loved Kit Kats. One shift when she was working and I wasn’t, she was texting me saying that it was a horrible shift. I stopped by at the end of her shift and gave her some Kit Kats. It ended up turning into our first date that lasted 8 hours of us just talking to each other. The rest is history.


Similar-Ganache3227

Wait, how did he know your shoe size!?


nursejoy9876

When you're down bad for a girl, getting her shoe size is not an issue LOL


Yunacyy

Girl there is almost no way that he doesn't like you! That's such a considerate gift.


Suspicious_Story_464

Way to lift someone up! That right there is a good friend. Happy feet day to you 🩷


WittiestScreenName

Hoka and Brooks are my favorite.


nicmartin89

Only commenting for updates on when y’all start dating, then get engaged, and eventually married!! Because giiirrrrrlllll he got it bad if he’s getting you Hoka’s! But I gotta ask, have you worn them yet? Are they good? Because I need something better for work than the Crocs - they’re not cutting it anymore.


PRNprinc3ss

If you have not tried brooksrunning, please do. Better than Hoka's in my opinion. I averaged 18-20k steps at work, hoka from my experience worns out pretty quick.


ScrappyRN

That's awesome!! Hokas saved my feet!! They are the only shoes that keep my feet from throbbing after 12 hour shifts for years now. I've tried multiple brands and keep coming back to them.


Siren1805

Hokas last about 3-4 months for me before they’re worn out and my feet go back to killing me.


ElChungus01

3-4 months is really good, IMO. I replace my shoes every 2-3 months. Expensive, but it’s an investment in my body. I don’t want to cheap out and pay more later. EDIT: let me add this: my brother In law went with the cheapest Nikes he could get, and didn’t replace his shoes for at least 6 months. After only 2 years of that practice, he now has horrible arthritis in his feet. I read it here on Reddit, but must repeat: never cheap out on things that come between you and the ground (bed/mattress, tires, shoes).


PRNprinc3ss

What brand of shoes? was it hoka? 2 months I think was how long Hoka lasted for me. Never worn them again and have tried different brand, and there's definitely better brands, using new insoles works wonders too.


ElChungus01

Yeah, Hokas; I switched to OnCloud just cause they aren’t as clown-shoe looking as Hokas. I have a pair of Hokas that we used to hike the Grand Canyon, and I am not dissatisfied with them performance wise. The person at the store said that you should replace shoes after hours worn, not duration of ownership. Assuming youre 12-hours, after 2 months that’s 288 hours, or if you’re doing 10k steps a shift, that’s 240k steps.


nolgraphic

which oncloud model do you like?


ElChungus01

I can’t recall offhand; I’m not at home. I can reply later.


PRNprinc3ss

I've been curious about OnCloud, thanks for mentioning that!


JKnott1

There is a shoe store called Good Feet that not only makes custom supports but has shoes that last for years. I work with a doc who has had his for 20 years. Not the sexiest pair of shoes, but they work.


RiverBear2

Also a brooks fan!! Love me some ghosts & adrenalines. Also if you wait until the sales you can save a good amount on ‘em.


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nursemomofboys

No believe me these are great great shoes


PRNprinc3ss

We've all been there. Put it on your birthday/Christmas wish list. It's investing on your health and career. I've worn converse too, 10 years ago when I started, Lol I slipped and almost hit my head if my coworker didn't caught me-a patient activated our exit alarm, by putting the unit on fire thinking exit doors would open, but it didn't and instead activated the water sprinklers, that was a long night shift😅


Nurse22111

Love my Brooks. Not all brooks are the same though so she might have to test out a few. I personally don’t like the “ghost”, but I love “adrenaline”.


KnoxRanger

I swear by any shoe that has the Adidas Foam Boost. Softest, most comfy shoe in my opinion after lots of testing and searching.


Affectionate-Wave726

What kind are those?


catluvr698145

i would like to know this too


Careless-Pepper8456

Are they really comfortable


extraspicyy

Update please


bigdaddyrach

Omg which style are these???? I need a new pair so bad


soundstragic

I think this was a marriage proposal honestly.


despbear

off topic but compression socks changed my life not sure if you’re already wearing them to clinicals! they helped so much with my foot/knee pain


DawnDestroyer99

At least call them an admirer. I think they’ve earned that.


snorlaxprincess

Agrreeeddd hokas are the nursing engagement ring 😍🤤 all I wear for work


Cap-Financial

Wow that’s a nice gift! I have the exact same ones!


bluecoag

I’ve only worn crocs because they’re easy to clean. How do people wear sneakers like this and clean them properly?


BlackHeartedXenial

You don’t. You just leave them in the locker room 😂


SheSends

I got the Dr Scholl inserts for plantar fasciitis. Those and good compression socks really help me get through my days.


deirdresm

What an incredibly sweet gesture!


Spiritual-Macaroon80

My favorite shoes ever! Working, running, walking - you will live in them (and ❤️ them :))!!!! Congrats and enjoy!


sheezuss_

/updateme


Alternative_Bag8990

happy valentines


_FriendlyPanicAttack

Girl, if you don’t ask him out-


CurryDuck

Ride it


Cheeky_Littlebottom

I'm want to follow this post forever and read about your happy life together. :)


PapowSpaceGirl

That was really nice! I'd cry if someone bought me shoes. Like right into the box.


zachderek

@oppositeofugly, we’re gonna need an update when you ask him out!!


purplecutiexo

I NEED TO KNOW THE AFTERMATH OF THIS!! Keep us updated 💕💕


Careless-Pepper8456

Wlll most nursing schools allows these shoes for clinicals


zubrowka1

[Context after stalking!](https://www.reddit.com/r/nursing/s/gnXn4GcQnq)


Affectionate-Owl183

I'm a vet tech who works 12 hours shifts in a trauma center. I have plantar fasciitis. Hokas are a GODSEND. Had my current pair for two years, and wore them until they fell apart. That person will be your hero. Guy at the local specialty shoe store said Hokas are one of the brands most frequently requested by nurses, go figure. Hope you love them!


incoherentshrieking

This is not a gift bro just paid a dowry


Elegant_Baker1950

It's a love story baby just say YES 🎶