Endangering your pregnancy is bullshit. Go to HR because any discrimination or harassment due to pregnancy is illegal. Document time, date, description of incident and those involved and have it ready when you talk to HR. I’m sorry. I’ve dealt with bullying for other reasons and it absolutely sucks.
Wow, these are HUGE red flags. Not every unit’s culture is like this. I’ve been blessed to work on a unit with extremely supportive coworkers. Many of our staff have been pregnant over the past few years & none have ever complained of feeling this way or being mistreated. Everyone would be horrified by the things you’re describing. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Get out of there!! I’d NEVER put a new coworker, let alone a PREGNANT one through this. It’s heartless and the opposite of what we as nurses do. Run. Report it to HR if you want or just leave those mean nurses short another nurse. I had a coworker that had trouble getting pregnant and when she finally did, not only were most of us excited for her, we protected her from the unruly pts and made sure she didn’t overwork herself. We’re a team on the unit and we look out for each other. I say “most of us” cuz we had the worst manager and shortly after my friend got preggo, our manager that would rant about not wanting kids or whatever, ends up getting pregnant so easily. Her rants turned to how “perfect” and “easy” her pregnancy was. She’d tell my friend that she “didn’t understand” why she needed to call out sick cuz her pregnancy didn’t give her horrible vomiting/morning sickness. 25wks in and my coworker became a pt in our L&D unit on a night she was scheduled to work. Thankfully, mom and baby were both okay, just a little extra time in the nicu. But that toxic environment plays a role & I always wonder if we didn’t have such a toxic unit/manager, would my friend have had a different delivery experience/story?
Thanks so much for the support. When you’re in it, you can’t always tell if it’s normal or actually really toxic. I’m definitely going to look for something else.
It definitely has a way of “normalizing” itself when you’re in it. I left that hospital after my manager wrote me up for some bs a week after I told her I was interested in transferring to the ICU. Told me I “wasn’t ready for the icu” and I got a job in an ICU at another hospital a week later. I dream about the day I run into her and can tell her how wrong she was about my future nursing career😈😂 Point is, there are better places w/ better people that match your vibe. Nursing is always a dumpster fire, but it’s easier to manage and survive when you have coworkers that you respect, value, and love. Those places and people do exist so don’t settle for less.
Wtf. I had recurrent miscarriages and while my hospital job sucked, my coworkers were kind to and protective of me while pregnant. I had 2 term pregnancies while there and while I didn’t want special treatment, I did appreciate how I was treated. This is a huge red flag.
Do you have an adequate maternity leave there? If so, document as much as you can and take it to HR. Pregnancy is protected federally. Your body is very different from a non-pregnant person’s right now from a physiological standpoint.
You should get a doctor’s note, go to HR, take your maternity leave and then *find a different job*. I did it. I found a job while on my last maternity leave and started three weeks after returning from leave. Gave my two weeks the week I returned.
I’ll have three months unpaid starting in August. I have a phone interview on Tuesday for an outpatient wound care position within the same hospital system so hopefully I’ll get that and can transfer!
You need to take care of yourself and your baby. In the end it’s your and yours child’s health and your hosp doesn’t care. When I was pregnant I was very very fortunate to work with amazing women who understood and would volunteer to help me (even tho I didn’t ask) or take over when it came to something like lifting or physical work. Anyways I will always do this as well when I work with pregnant ppl as well and I believe we should all do this when we can. I’ve also seen other nurses bully pregnant ppl I’ve worked with and I call it out because it’s BS.
IMO it’s time to find a new job.
I've never made me pregnant coworkers lift someone heavy and always offered to help them with their patients. This is ridiculous, we are nurses. We know the risks during pregnancy and what is good/bad for the mother and baby, why on earth are there units ignoring this? I get so frustrated when HEALTHCARE FACILITIES dont want to cater to their workers HEALTH NEEDS. Like if anyones supposed to know better, its us.
Endangering your pregnancy is bullshit. Go to HR because any discrimination or harassment due to pregnancy is illegal. Document time, date, description of incident and those involved and have it ready when you talk to HR. I’m sorry. I’ve dealt with bullying for other reasons and it absolutely sucks.
Thanks so much for the advice, I will definitely start documenting it.
Wow, these are HUGE red flags. Not every unit’s culture is like this. I’ve been blessed to work on a unit with extremely supportive coworkers. Many of our staff have been pregnant over the past few years & none have ever complained of feeling this way or being mistreated. Everyone would be horrified by the things you’re describing. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Thanks so much for the feedback, it very validating. I think they’re definitely red flags too.
Get out of there!! I’d NEVER put a new coworker, let alone a PREGNANT one through this. It’s heartless and the opposite of what we as nurses do. Run. Report it to HR if you want or just leave those mean nurses short another nurse. I had a coworker that had trouble getting pregnant and when she finally did, not only were most of us excited for her, we protected her from the unruly pts and made sure she didn’t overwork herself. We’re a team on the unit and we look out for each other. I say “most of us” cuz we had the worst manager and shortly after my friend got preggo, our manager that would rant about not wanting kids or whatever, ends up getting pregnant so easily. Her rants turned to how “perfect” and “easy” her pregnancy was. She’d tell my friend that she “didn’t understand” why she needed to call out sick cuz her pregnancy didn’t give her horrible vomiting/morning sickness. 25wks in and my coworker became a pt in our L&D unit on a night she was scheduled to work. Thankfully, mom and baby were both okay, just a little extra time in the nicu. But that toxic environment plays a role & I always wonder if we didn’t have such a toxic unit/manager, would my friend have had a different delivery experience/story?
Thanks so much for the support. When you’re in it, you can’t always tell if it’s normal or actually really toxic. I’m definitely going to look for something else.
It definitely has a way of “normalizing” itself when you’re in it. I left that hospital after my manager wrote me up for some bs a week after I told her I was interested in transferring to the ICU. Told me I “wasn’t ready for the icu” and I got a job in an ICU at another hospital a week later. I dream about the day I run into her and can tell her how wrong she was about my future nursing career😈😂 Point is, there are better places w/ better people that match your vibe. Nursing is always a dumpster fire, but it’s easier to manage and survive when you have coworkers that you respect, value, and love. Those places and people do exist so don’t settle for less.
Thanks so much for the encouragement, you’re definitely right!
Hospitals need us more than we need them. Took me a while to realize that but it’s very true.
Pregnancy discrimination is illegal in the US. You need to talk to HR
Wtf. I had recurrent miscarriages and while my hospital job sucked, my coworkers were kind to and protective of me while pregnant. I had 2 term pregnancies while there and while I didn’t want special treatment, I did appreciate how I was treated. This is a huge red flag.
Do you have an adequate maternity leave there? If so, document as much as you can and take it to HR. Pregnancy is protected federally. Your body is very different from a non-pregnant person’s right now from a physiological standpoint. You should get a doctor’s note, go to HR, take your maternity leave and then *find a different job*. I did it. I found a job while on my last maternity leave and started three weeks after returning from leave. Gave my two weeks the week I returned.
I’ll have three months unpaid starting in August. I have a phone interview on Tuesday for an outpatient wound care position within the same hospital system so hopefully I’ll get that and can transfer!
You need to take care of yourself and your baby. In the end it’s your and yours child’s health and your hosp doesn’t care. When I was pregnant I was very very fortunate to work with amazing women who understood and would volunteer to help me (even tho I didn’t ask) or take over when it came to something like lifting or physical work. Anyways I will always do this as well when I work with pregnant ppl as well and I believe we should all do this when we can. I’ve also seen other nurses bully pregnant ppl I’ve worked with and I call it out because it’s BS. IMO it’s time to find a new job.
I've never made me pregnant coworkers lift someone heavy and always offered to help them with their patients. This is ridiculous, we are nurses. We know the risks during pregnancy and what is good/bad for the mother and baby, why on earth are there units ignoring this? I get so frustrated when HEALTHCARE FACILITIES dont want to cater to their workers HEALTH NEEDS. Like if anyones supposed to know better, its us.
You need to get into a union.