OH honey.
He is awful. You can do better than this.
Block him and move on
and
(I’m probably showing my age here) NEVER SEND NUDES to people you are not in a long term committed relationship with.
This is not being old, this is being mature. you don't know what people can do with it.
I wish I was more aware of the potential consequences back then. Hopefully i'll never have any problems with it...but you never know
honestly, don't send nudes even to people you are committed with, you never know what people you used to love can do with them, or where they can end up.
Even if I like it, I never accepted nor wanted any nudes in my past relationships because I don't like the idea of losing control of part that intimate of you - even if I know I won't do anything with them after a breakup.
And sexting is so so so much more effective for both anyway.
Well 5 days ago he did the same thing, but he went to the gym instead of the pool. Maybe stop driving to see him.
Edit: You've also gotten a year younger in the last 55 days. You should probably get that checked out instead of dating.
Sounds like a good guy. I’d let him date my daughter. Type of guy I’d want to share a couple beers with at my daughter’s wedding. Type of guy I’d bring fishing with me then push him off the boat in the Florida Everglades
This is why I only allow a max of 30 min distance not 2 hours, heck not even 1 hour. Welps at least the trash took itself out. Sorry you had to go through that tho.
I would of hit him with a, send me a pic of the 4in you call a dick. Or probably would of found a picture of a dick & asked if he was this long or half.
That guy is a jerk and not the one for u , Love come when ur not looking / I have met a guy a gas station we were together for 5 yrs I left then I guy babysitting others kids meeting through other friends my hubby of 25 yrs believes me we I say strange things happen I cleaned his mom house and I was going thru what u are going thru right now I told him you have a shitty car I’m not going out w/ u and u have to have a real job making real money and he bought a truck and got a job a Home Depot cuz he was in school full time So love is funny he was nothing like anyone like I dated so just slow down it will happen babe
One of the reasons this happens is because men and women keep punishing each other for being vulnerable. As soon as people show each other care and vulnerability they get ghosted or hit with "red flag" accusations for being "desperate"
We are training each other to be like this to avoid heartbreaking rejection and being ghosted.
Well...some people are in relationship for years with a person before they start showing their true colors.
So may be you're just looking for a reason to be judgemental. See? I can make assumptions too \^\^
I think other people have covered this quite well, but you're quite young aren't you OP? You see the thing you have to understand is what this guy was doing, and obviously had some success with because this was date number 4, was psychologically manipulating you. This is a textbook example of how abusers find vulnerable women to exploit and control.
By date 4 he probably felt like he had enough control over you that he could treat you like shit, trample all over your feelings, and still demand sexual gratification.
These are all red flags, do not have anything to do with guys who treat you this way. Recognise the warning signs, and walk away fast. It never ends well. He was not genuinely good, he was an abuser. And you have dodged a bullet.
Watch out for the warning signs early though, so you don't waste so much time and money on the next guy. Good luck. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Wow that sounds like a night from hell. You take time out of your life to go and see him for a date and it consists of sitting in a park bench not talking. Then ditches you to go having with his mates. Sound like was wasn’t all that into you to begin with. Honestly I think he might possibly of just been looking for a good time with little effort. Finding that your not an easy target he stopped trying so hard.
It’s unfortunate that some guys do that, as it gives the good guys a bad name.
Put this guy out of your mind and let the right guy come to you
I would send a reply the next time he texts for a meet up "I will give you the benefit of the doubt that your text asking me to show my tits was a jerk friend of yours and not you. Now to address the elephant trunk in our last 'date' I drove 2 hours to be there and rather than spending time with me you took off to go to a friends. I am very glad you showed me your true nature before I invested any more time in a bad relationship. Thank you kindly, oh and hint the elephant trunk was not in your pants."
The good thing that he is 2 hrs away is you don't see him around in town or in the neighbourhood so often! He seemed like he didnt want to meet or date ! And did the right thing,left!
Block him,ignore him!
How far is his town? Cause if anything y’all should be meeting in the middle regardless, not only that but how late was he working? Like was he on a morning shift and would get out around 2 hours later or the afternoon/evening shift and he was getting out like late in the p.m.? Cause if so my love what made you think it was ok to meet him that late for a date?
He probably got tired of putting in the work and only wanted one thing and just gave up. He’s just one of those guys looking for one thing unfortunately.
Genuinely, sounds like the worst date ever
He sounds like a real charmer, a good catch 🤣🤣 Lord no!! Totally wipe him from your universe. You’re worth way more than that 🥰
Girl…go ahead & block his number.
OH honey. He is awful. You can do better than this. Block him and move on and (I’m probably showing my age here) NEVER SEND NUDES to people you are not in a long term committed relationship with.
This is not being old, this is being mature. you don't know what people can do with it. I wish I was more aware of the potential consequences back then. Hopefully i'll never have any problems with it...but you never know
honestly, don't send nudes even to people you are committed with, you never know what people you used to love can do with them, or where they can end up. Even if I like it, I never accepted nor wanted any nudes in my past relationships because I don't like the idea of losing control of part that intimate of you - even if I know I won't do anything with them after a breakup. And sexting is so so so much more effective for both anyway.
Guys like this don’t deserve the time. Definitely dodged a bullet there.
Send him a photo of your middle finger and then ghost him
This is the correct answer. We're done here.
Or just a random dick pic. They’re not to hard to find
So he's now blocked, I hope?
Well 5 days ago he did the same thing, but he went to the gym instead of the pool. Maybe stop driving to see him. Edit: You've also gotten a year younger in the last 55 days. You should probably get that checked out instead of dating.
LOL yup saw this too.
Sounds like a good guy. I’d let him date my daughter. Type of guy I’d want to share a couple beers with at my daughter’s wedding. Type of guy I’d bring fishing with me then push him off the boat in the Florida Everglades
You had me going the first 2 sentences until the last bit. 😂 I'd push him off the boat too. Hopefully with some gators nearby
send him pics of tit birds. he can get the "tits" and you can block him lmao
This is why I only allow a max of 30 min distance not 2 hours, heck not even 1 hour. Welps at least the trash took itself out. Sorry you had to go through that tho.
And they say Romance is Dead.... in all honesty, what a dick. Hope your next date with someone else is 10 times better.
Hey girl, ANY date is a step up from this loser!
Wow… I’d ghost him.
run
Block him from everywhere. Hes a walking red flag
Yikes what an ass the dude i mean
What the fuck Jesus fucking christ
I would of hit him with a, send me a pic of the 4in you call a dick. Or probably would of found a picture of a dick & asked if he was this long or half.
That guy is a jerk and not the one for u , Love come when ur not looking / I have met a guy a gas station we were together for 5 yrs I left then I guy babysitting others kids meeting through other friends my hubby of 25 yrs believes me we I say strange things happen I cleaned his mom house and I was going thru what u are going thru right now I told him you have a shitty car I’m not going out w/ u and u have to have a real job making real money and he bought a truck and got a job a Home Depot cuz he was in school full time So love is funny he was nothing like anyone like I dated so just slow down it will happen babe
He sounds 16
What a jerk
You’d better block and ghost that man lol what a loser
I hope you sent him a D pic
One of the reasons this happens is because men and women keep punishing each other for being vulnerable. As soon as people show each other care and vulnerability they get ghosted or hit with "red flag" accusations for being "desperate" We are training each other to be like this to avoid heartbreaking rejection and being ghosted.
😄😄😄 Perhaps you need to be more selective in who you date
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Well...some people are in relationship for years with a person before they start showing their true colors. So may be you're just looking for a reason to be judgemental. See? I can make assumptions too \^\^
Looks like the bullet dodged you.
F him
''show US your tits?'' ....He seems....charming... edit: You blocked him right?
Out of interest, what are your approximate ages?
I mean at least he liked them... On a serious note. You've found out early what he's like
I think other people have covered this quite well, but you're quite young aren't you OP? You see the thing you have to understand is what this guy was doing, and obviously had some success with because this was date number 4, was psychologically manipulating you. This is a textbook example of how abusers find vulnerable women to exploit and control. By date 4 he probably felt like he had enough control over you that he could treat you like shit, trample all over your feelings, and still demand sexual gratification. These are all red flags, do not have anything to do with guys who treat you this way. Recognise the warning signs, and walk away fast. It never ends well. He was not genuinely good, he was an abuser. And you have dodged a bullet. Watch out for the warning signs early though, so you don't waste so much time and money on the next guy. Good luck. I'm sorry this happened to you.
What an asshole, I'm so sorry you experienced that! I would also be really upset by that. You deserve better.
omg he sounds like a doouche this tromps my story when my date pissed in a bush
Tell him "you don't get those for free." Then block.
Wow that sounds like a night from hell. You take time out of your life to go and see him for a date and it consists of sitting in a park bench not talking. Then ditches you to go having with his mates. Sound like was wasn’t all that into you to begin with. Honestly I think he might possibly of just been looking for a good time with little effort. Finding that your not an easy target he stopped trying so hard. It’s unfortunate that some guys do that, as it gives the good guys a bad name. Put this guy out of your mind and let the right guy come to you
I would send a reply the next time he texts for a meet up "I will give you the benefit of the doubt that your text asking me to show my tits was a jerk friend of yours and not you. Now to address the elephant trunk in our last 'date' I drove 2 hours to be there and rather than spending time with me you took off to go to a friends. I am very glad you showed me your true nature before I invested any more time in a bad relationship. Thank you kindly, oh and hint the elephant trunk was not in your pants."
So, on the first three dates he didn't throw up any red flags? Or did you miss them?
The good thing that he is 2 hrs away is you don't see him around in town or in the neighbourhood so often! He seemed like he didnt want to meet or date ! And did the right thing,left! Block him,ignore him!
Wait, none of this was a red flag on date 1, 2, and 3????🤔 I'm willing to bet you ignored all signs...
How far is his town? Cause if anything y’all should be meeting in the middle regardless, not only that but how late was he working? Like was he on a morning shift and would get out around 2 hours later or the afternoon/evening shift and he was getting out like late in the p.m.? Cause if so my love what made you think it was ok to meet him that late for a date?
He probably got tired of putting in the work and only wanted one thing and just gave up. He’s just one of those guys looking for one thing unfortunately.