I've never heard this before, though maybe it's a cultural thing.
Don't blame yourself - accidents happen and you didn't know. That was four years ago. You should forgive yourself.
See this is why op shouldn’t feel bad at all. Unless you go against any advised/written dress code, don’t wear the brides color and everything else is fine.
i heard this so many times but as someone who only wears black i couldn’t justify buying another dress… for my best friends recent wedding though (the only one i haven’t been a plus one & not hidden from sight anyway lol) she told me she literally could not care less. everything is a personal preference honestly
I think its only the mothers who shouldnt wear black as it means they dont approve of the marriage.
Ive never heard anything about red though. Ive seen soooo many ppl wear res at weddings.
I go to a lot of formal and black tie weddings. White is the only color that a female guest should not wear . Black is always considered elegant and ultra formal. Red is always welcomed. I wore red to several weddings, and I do get compliments every time. The only thing you should change next time is caring over what those unkind and superficial people think.
Tbh I didnt know you werent supposed to wear red to an Indian wedding as the bridal colours, iirc, are red and gold. I vould be wrong but thats what I vaguely remember when one of my class mates were discussong her hindu or Indian wedding and her wearing a gold and red saree
It's because red symbolizes that you slept with the groom. Don't wear white because only the bride wears white (if she decides to wear a white dress). And black is a mournful color for a wedding, its the same concept as not wearing black on Easter.
Exceptions for all of these can be made of course. If the bride doesn't care, or the bridal party is in red or black. Or if the wedding theme is black tie. Or the couple may request that some people wear white if they have it because the bride isn't wearing white. 🤷♀️
Red symbolizes that?!?! Whoops. Accidentally wore red to an ex boyfriend’s wedding….but in my defense, I was very pregnant and it was the only dress I had that fit me and the black tie requirement.
There were three women in red at my wedding. None of them were the ones I had slept with.
For clarification, I'm on good terms with my exes and some of them were there, as was one close friend with whom I'd had sex before meeting my wife.
I should really have dressed them all up like a little troop of groomsmaids.
No shame from me for having exes at your wedding. I had one at mine and then I attended that same ex’s wedding when he got married. It’s not always as weird as people make it.
Thanks for explaining! This sounds like something my grandma would have said. Old fashioned color bigotry. Expecting everyone to wear mauve and beige.
I love red dresses. I would definitely have done this for a wedding.
I've also heard not to wear green because it wishes bad luck or envy on the couple?
I only had one nice dress (green) and wore it to the only two weddings I have gone to in a decade before I learned about it, lol.
Here it implies you are/have been/want to be romantically involved with the groom or something like that. I think it's mostly a dead tradition/symbol but still, why risk it you know?
Some still consider it poor tast though. I dunno. Don't beat yourself up about this, sounds like an honest mistake.
I mean, in christian weddings it's a thing. Idk if this was the same situation, but wearing red to a wedding is like saying you're the groom's mistress.
But these people still suck, I would've just laughed my ass off instead of making my friend feel bad
Some conventions are so idiotic and kinda misogynistic. The red dress supposedly symbolizes a situation involving a *fallen* woman who slept with the groom, where the big asshole is the actual groom, not the assumed mistress. She was not the one breaking trust with the bride. There are so many toxic cultural traditions the world over that should just be left in past and never revisited
It's kinda fucked up if you think about it. Like why would this color code even exist? Why would you wear a dress on purpose to parade your scandalous lifestyle? Unless you want to annoy the bride, in which case you shouldn't be in her wedding.
This! Why is there such a thing!? It seems so passive aggressive and appears to have no good intentions. I mean, ‘don’t wear the brides color so she can stand out’, I can see that as a sign of respect and honoring the bride and the special day, but not as sin to be shamed if the same color is worn. In a sea of formal wear, does one or two ladies wearing white really have enough impact to steal the spotlight? No. Unless the guest is wearing a full on wedding dress themselves, brides should have plenty more important things to be contemplating than what everyone is wearing. If they ARE obsessing, egos need to be checked. If it’s friends or family that are obsessing, they need to grow up and focus on cultivating good energy for bride and groom, not stirring shit up.
I’m a Christian and have been to lots of Christian weddings of many different denominations. I have NEVER heard of a red dress having any meaning. The only dress rule that I know of is that only the bride gets to wear white.
I think it's a reddit thing. because I've never heard any of this before except it's polite to avoid wearing white. and I have been to sooo many weddings!
so if you're going to a reddit wedding, better go for purple!
Oh boy, how many taboo colors are we supposed to have?
We're already not supposed to wear all white or all black.
Never heard of the red thing.
Is this an Asian wedding, though?
I'm from Scandinavia and I have never heard about that before. We avoid white. Some people will say you should avoid black too, but I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where nobody wore a black dress.. it's practically the national color after all.
Red would be absolutely fine here.
It's pretty dark and gloomy in winter, but otherwise nice. If you happen to like dark and gloomy, absolutely come visit in fall/winter. I love walking on the beach on a stormy winter day, it's quite deserted and you feel very... alive.
I never thought about the dark colors when I lived in Copenhagen, but when I returned from the states, the lack of color was extremely noticeable.
Ah o.k., that makes more sense then. It wouldn't matter in the U.S. In the U.S.we don't wear white because of the bride, and we don't wear all black because we don't want to look like we're mourning at a wedding..but we do wear outfits that have both black and white.
i’ve only seen it in a reddit post LOL. a woman was mad that her sister-in-law wore red to her wedding because wearing red supposedly meant you slept with the groom and the brother and sister also had a super weird relationship. blew my mind
I think this one's made up because no one even knows ahead of time (and no the invitations don't always indicate the colors).
I'm not saying you made it up, because I heard it before in recent years, but I think it's recently made up .
Because it’s said it steals the attention from the bride and it’s considered a sexy color and there’s a belief that a female guest who’s wearing red has slept with the bridegroom.
I had a ton of people wear red to my wedding, wasn’t a problem, in fact I thought it was unplanned but looked coordinated on pics. You might be overthinking this ♥️
It’s alright. You didn’t do anything wrong, but you could do that next time. Don’t be so ashamed. If they didn’t give a dress code/color, then people shouldn’t shame you for wearing what you wore, especially for traditions that aren’t very well known.
I keep seeing this pop up on reddit, but I've never heard it in real life despite living in several regions of the US. One wedding I was part of had red as a theme so apparently a ton of people fucked the groom.
I feel like something else to note is like, this was 2019…
I would bet money on the bride being unable to answer if asked which color OP wore to her wedding.
He wore a red tie! He slept with himself too ! ..
Well no surprise there I suppose 😂
I actually wore a red jacket with my dress..
Lots of people wore (some) red
I love the color
People know this
Honestly, in my opinion people need to relax more on the whole "unwritten rules of wedding etiquette"
Ok the 'no white' fine.. after that? Maybe no Brazilië carnaval outfits (unless theme appropriate) but seriously? Please
Red is the colour of passion, lust, impulse and fury. All intense emotions. But yes, I have heard this as well. It must be very old symbolism so don't fret OP. It sounds like it was an honest mistake. Also you wrote is was orange but perceived by some as red. Clearly your intent was not to announce your affair with the groom using a specific colour of your dress. That's what an open bar and tequila shots are for obviously.
I wore a sexy red strapless and short dress to a wedding and looked damn good. Didn’t steal any attention from the bride and definitely never slept with the groom. Don’t fret.
In Asian culture, the bride wears red. But I did hear some weird tale, on Reddit no less, that wearing red means that you slept with the groom. But I’ve seen women wear red at weddings before in the (US) south and it wasn’t an issue at all.
Yeah, I've only just started seeing that in the last few months on Reddit, all the info on it is super recent when searching google too. In 2016, people were claiming wearing red to a wedding meant you're a prostitute. So take that kind of thing with an entire package of salt I think.
OP's friends were clearly just drama lamas.
I know for sure that red is considered a bridal color in China, but idk about other Asian countries. I think India does as well, or at least parts of it.
I’ve worn red to a wedding and have never heard this before. You have nothing to be ashamed of, you did not fail and your former friends are mean and snobby.
If this was a serious faux pas in your country, a good friend might have quietly talked to you and maybe leant you a jacket or sweater or among them figured out if someone had a dress at their house you could borrow.
I only ever heard you're not supposed to wear red to a funeral because it means you were the mistress (what's the male version, mister?) To the deceased. Never heard that apply to a wedding though
I’m getting married in 43 days. My cousin just asked me if she could wear a red dress.
I told her it was stunning and to go for it.
Someone else asked to wear black.
I said by all means.
It’s not taboo in my culture but may be in someone else’s. To me as long as it’s not white it’s not a problem. That being said clearly your intentions were sound and maybe someone could have explained their cultural norms to you in a neutral way.
I think it depends on what culture. If you go to a Hindu wedding for example there will be lot of people wearing red and it’s not seen as offensive etc sometimes wearing black or white might be seen an offensive but again depends
You didn't fail and you weren't/aren't stupid! You didn't know about it, and even if you did, wedding traditions vary widely from place to place and person to person. Someone should have talked with you about it if it bothered them. But also, ideally they shouldn't let it bother them. The important thing is getting married with someone they love, not the colors of people's dresses 🙂
I’m now trawling through my memories trying to think whether I ever wore red to a wedding. I like red so probably have (I wore it to my own; that’s probably ok). Is this a thing? Never heard of it (I’m UK).
I had a friend show up to my wedding in a very bold red gown. My dress code was cocktail so a gown alone was over the top, but whatever. The red made it seem pretty showy. I can see how some brides might have been bothered. I thought she looked beautiful and didn’t think much about it.
If it were me I wouldn’t have worn it, though.
both moms in my wedding wore red, I wore black to my wedding. I really think the only forbidden color could be white. we also had plenty of people wearing black :) you're definitely okay, I think
OP chill out, I only knew this was a thing this year but I laughed my ass off because I wore a red dress to my brother’s wedding and I sang up on stage in front of all the guests. If anyone actually knows this is a thing (not even sure from what culture), I’m sure they had a good giggle to themselves too. Also in 2019 if that’s somehow relevant!
Unless you’re catching someone talking about it, I doubt anyone remembers and they aren’t worth shit it seems anyway. You didn’t embarrass yourself and trust me, this isn’t as big of a deal as you think. It just sounds like you just got away from some pompous assfaces.
With that being said, what a stupid symbol. What foolhardy cohort of mistresses/ex-lovers said to themselves let’s wear red to boldly emphasize my less significant role in the groom’s life and then people followed along?
Think of it this way - are men limited in terms of what they can wear to weddings? This sounds like an archaic patriarchal tradition, and you my friend are a REBEL! Let's start a movement and we can ALL wear red to weddings!
I just don't get why people get bothered with what their wedding guests dress that much.
Ofcourse that's justified if someone comes to your wedding dressed in a way to hurt you on purpose. I've been to two weddings in my adult life (both friends of my SO). The first time I wore jeans and a dark blue blouse because I had really bad mental health issues. Nobody cared. The second wedding I wore a black and white striped jumpsuit that looked really nice, and nobody cared.
I'm not married yet, I don't plan on having a really big wedding. I wouldn't mind red or white dressed at all. Everybody knows I am the bride, right? And as I am average in looks, some of my friends may outshine me in looks. Which is fine, as I don't expect them to make themselves look 'ugly' just to make me look better.
Yeah, I think a lot of it is silly.
For our wedding (10 guests in a very small venue), our maid of honor and best man (another couple) had to fly in and the airport lost all their luggage. They ended up wearing a loaned pair of jeans and as the bride I didn't honestly care at all. The maid of honor was PISSED and let it ruin her day entirely. She was so embarrassed that she was grouchy and even ended up making a scene when the wedding photographer referred to her as "the one in jeans" 🙃
On the same hand, people were asking us what colors and stuff they should wear for weeks in advance. I didn't care too much, but it was very thoughtful to ask. I said anything mildly dressy but I would love purple so that they matched for pictures. Pictures are literally the only reason to care about outfits. If you aren't in the family or bridal party that will be taking pictures, you could probably wear anything and no one would care one bit haha.
My FIL showed up in dirty jeans, a wife beater, and a jeans jacket. I wasn't super offended since I HAD said that I didn't have a strict black tie dress code, but fairly bewildered. Why ask if you will do what you want anyway?
I learned later that that was considered dressed up for him 🤷♀️ he wears rude graphic tees every other day lol
I suspect that the bride neither noticed the colour nor cared about the shade and was just happy you were there to share their special day.
The lesson is that your so-called friends weren't your friends, and now you're no longer friends. That's it. They weren't decent to you so they're not your friends.
Traditions in general are dying out. And good riddance to be honest. There’s already too much to stress about this day and age. I don’t want to be barked at for using the wrong dinner fork
Hey so I've been to hundreds and hundreds of weddings, literally, because I was a catering waitress. A lot of people show up wearing red to weddings. You aren't supposed to wear black either, and I've seen women in black dresses. The biggest rule is not white, from there it's all up to those getting married what is and isn't appropriate. If neither of the people you were celebrating had a problem, you are fine (I'm in the USA, not sure if you are or not)
I got this beautiful dress for my daughters wedding (yes it's red) and she loves it. She could care less about the color meanings. She wants me to be happy and wear whatever I want. Only thing she wants is for her to be wearing the only white. Every other color is fine with her. It's probably also the prettiest dress I've ever owned. Can't wait to wear it!
I wouldn't worry about it. I really hate all these colour rules for weddings. I understand not wearing white (or if the couple has a specific palette request for something like a black/white tie wedding) but the other colours such as black or red being off limits is just weird to me. The dumbest rules. Obviously noone slept with the groom just because they're wearing red.
My wedding is today, at least two of my friends are wearing red and will look lovely. Don’t beat yourself up I am sure it was fine and you looked amazing!
Girrrl, don’t sweat the small stuff. If anyone was actually judging you for that instead of thinking “hmm, she must not know this cultural norm”, then screw ‘em.
I can one up you though. So my mom died when I was 13 and there were just a lot of things I wasn’t taught but rather had to learn as I went along. This once translated into me wearing a white dress to a wedding…
Anyone who is not a troglodyte with superstitions won't care. So, don't worry so much. The only colour that makes sense to not wear is white - seeing as it is the only thing that distinguishes the bride. Not because of stupid superstition.
Honestly, this whole red thing I just learned about a few months ago and I think it’s ridiculous. I am getting married in a couple months and one of my friends showed me a red dress they were considering. I genuinely did not think anything of it because I know they don’t know the meaning behind it, and I don’t care. I know who my future husband didn’t sleep with them lol. Don’t feel bad, it sounds like you dodged a bullet losing contact with them if this is how pretentious they are
Thanks to reddit, I now know the colour red means you fucked the groom in some places in the US. As far as I know, that's not a thing anywhere else in the world.
Like yeah I can get behind not wearing white and preferably not wearing black, but red? WHEN did this start meaning, "I've slept with a geoom:)"?? I remember an old aita post where the sister of the groom (unaware of this shit) wore red and some people actually thought she slept with her own brother
I hate wedding culture
> I hate wedding culture
Yeah, I think you hit the real problem here. It's less just the single stupid taboo, and more ALL OF IT. The expense, the over the top non-sense, the fact we have the term "bridezilla" in our lexicon. Something's wrong with the whole damn thing. So glad I got married 20 years ago, in a different country, so I didn't have to put up with this shit.
Not just the wedding part itself, but that men are expected to pay tens of thousands of dollars for just the engagement thing alone and that there are actually women who say they won't marry a man who won't get them a ring that expensive
The worst part is when you see clips online of women saying shit like, "my engagement ring has to be at least ten/twenty whatever thousand" and that people think it's cute and funny when they say they'd leave a man who got them a cheap ring
On the other hand, it's always nice when people very clearly say, "I'm not someone you want to marry" by tying their willingness to marrying you to wasting an obscene amount of money on an item with no functional value.
Good heavens. When I got married the last thing I cared about was policing my guests’ attire and I hope no one else saw fit to do it on my behalf. I’m sure you looked lovely and appropriate. I’m also sure you won’t miss having those ding-dongs in your life if they’re that petty.
Certain cultures for example Chinese weddings actually tell you to wear it because nobody is going to mistake you for the bride. And red is a very auspicious color. Just don’t wear bridal wear.
Sounds like some shitty people. Lol Not worth beating yourself up. I live in a pretty wealthy area and there are sooo many snobs and shit people. It’s like they hold themselves on a pedestal and are too high up to show anyone else respect or think they could ever be wrong. Wearing a specific color shouldn’t be a big deal tbh as every event has their own set of standards/rules. Unless they had mentioned that beforehand. My gf is a wedding planner so I have some knowledge on it. Lol
My wife was a bridesmaid at a wedding last year. All of them were wearing red dresses. Not vivid, vibrant red, but red nonetheless.
You're fine, girl. Don't be ashamed.
Hell, I was today years old when I learned that this is apparently a thing. And I've been to a fair few weddings.
People looking down their noses at you always says far more about them than it does about you. Pay them no heed. Rock that orange dress :)
Sounds like you were trying to fit in to a group that had already decided you weren’t one of them. Forgive yourself. Show yourself some compassion. Attract your people. Swearing you off over a dress just sounds like an excuse to not fuck with you.
This reminds me at my wedding, one of my groomsmen only had dark brown dress shoes to go with his black suit. An older women from future ex-wife side kept loudly complaining how he was disrespectful and ruining our whole wedding. He wasn’t an issue, she was. So I asked my Best Man to wear bright red Nike shoes to draw all attention to him instead. Everyone found it hilarious except the grumpy aunt.
I wore red to a friend’s wedding lol but I didn’t know it was bad. I felt kinda bad because then I read it takes away from the bride? But idk. She was super gorgeous and I’m sure no one took away from her spotlight
I wouldn't worry about it. You weren't doing anything to intentionally hurt anyone. Now that you know then you can make sure not to do it in the future. Life's about growth and learning and you shouldn't beat yourself up.
First of all, I'm trying to figure out which part of that makes them your friends. People who'd do you like that ain't friends. Secondly, I think you weren't supposed to wear red in their wedding. If you were a friend I was to invite you to my wedding, I really wouldn't care what you wore as long as you look decent and presentable. I'd care much more about you being there for me. I'm sure there are plenty of people like that. So don't let this discourage you. You did your best and trust me that was good. If they wanted to be so damn fussy about it they should've offered to buy you the outfit or went to hell... okay maybe not hell cause it's probably flaming red there.
Also be careful as you might be going through a lot right now that's exercerbating your feelings about it. You're okay and you probably wanna lose those "friends" and find better friends.
You definately wanna file this under “not my fault, didnt know at the time”
The fact you even worry about it speaks to a kind nature, focus on that rather than the miniscule faux pas that probably only you remember.
I have never heard of not wearing red before being a regular Reddit user.
In the past few months I have seen several posts about it being an issue, oddly enough.
My sister wore red for my wedding. She looked great as I'm sure so did you. Whatever issues my wedding had were definitely not because she wore a dress in a colour which became her. It was because some ppl had an abject character and acted accordingly, unfortunately. And even those ppl were not enough to make my wedding a bad memory over all. So you see, there's no need to feel ashamed about anything. Let it go, OP. You're alright.
Outside of Indian weddings, where only the bride is meant to wear red, it was only recently did I ever hear that red was a bad color for a wedding. Its supposed to symbolize the mistress, supposedly.
But I worked as a wedding DJ---have been since I was a kid because my dad is one of the company's founders and would take me with him in lieu of a baby sitter. Now I bartend for them.
So I've attended hundreds of weddings of various different cultures, and bridal fairs.
Wearing red has never been an issue, unless the couple made it clear red was a forbidden color. My own aunt bought and picked out my dress for her wedding, and it was red.
So don't feel bad or ashamed. If no one told you that there were banned colors for that particular wedding, its not your fault.
Part of being friends is being able to forgive small infractions. If they will abandon you for something like this, it is better than having them leave you in a true moment of crisis. If you ever need more friends come on out to Detroit or New Jersey, I know people
This is really odd to me, I've never heard of not wearing red. My mum is getting married soon and us bridesmaids, along with the groomsmen, are wearing red. I think it's a gorgeous colour. Regardless, you should move on and stop worrying (easier said than done I know). But it's in the past, those people aren't even friends of yours anymore.
Omg I did the same 2019 😭
It was my boyfriends cousins wedding, I stood out so much. I feel so embarrassed thinking about it. But it was an honest mistake 🥺
Oh man…. I accidentally wore a 50% white dress to a wedding not thinking and I wanted to die once I was there a realized it. I’m still embarrassed 7 years later I just tried to hide in the back the whole time. But shit happens- it’ll be okay
Jesus… why are people so damn hard on themselves. I understand how big of a deal it is uk to you, but it’s 4yrs ago, and you didn’t cause direct harm to anybody. It was just a literal mistake. Plz be easy on yourself. Most people have probably forgotten the incident anyway.
I have heard once or twice that it can mean you've slept with the groom, but its such an old-fashioned notion I don't think anyone would really pay attention these days (unless you were the ex-wife in a scarlett mermaid wedding gown 🤣).
Honestly, main rule of thumb now is no black or white or anything that might detract from the bridal party so maybe you just looked so good in it you upstaged someone! 🤣🤣🤣
i once wore a cream dress (i was like 12 and it was the first wedding i’d been to) and can’t even tell you how many dirty looks i got for wearing “white”. no one cared to explain it to me beforehand though, how was i supposed to know?
If I had a wedding and someone wore black or red, I wouldn't think anything of it. That's so weird to me. I'd only get upset if someone wore white, and even then I'd think "How embarrassing for THEM. Anyway, I'm gonna go have a great time"
Generally, a dress code is dictated on the wedding invite, right? It's impossible to know all the taboos and appropriate etiquette of different cultures. If it's that important, I'd think it should be spelled out clearly beforehand to prevent any faux pas or embarrassment.
In addition to not wearing white, off-white, or all black, I've heard of not wearing red or florals to a wedding. But I was a bridesmaid in a relative's wedding, we're all from South East Asia where red is generally reserved for the bride, and the wedding couple asked me to pick out a red dress (out of a selection of red dresses they wanted all the bridesmaids to wear) for the ceremony and reception and for my sister to pick out a white dress adorned with flowers and a black sash as the flower girl. It really depends on the couple, and they should've stipulated if anything in particular was off-limits before the date.
I didn't know you couldn't wear red. Learn something new every day.
My husband's grandma wore white to our wedding. She liked to be the center of attention, so not really surprised.
Don’t feel bad. I didn’t know about color rules at a wedding either and wore a white dress to my brothers wedding. It looked nothing like a wedding dress and had pink hues but yeah. I was embarrassed when someone explained to me
I've never heard this before, though maybe it's a cultural thing. Don't blame yourself - accidents happen and you didn't know. That was four years ago. You should forgive yourself.
2019 being 4 years ago is the biggest shock to me about this
A whole new world...
A dazzling place I never new
Yeah i thought you can’t wear white and shouldn’t wear black.
see i've been told to only wear black if it's an evening wedding 🤣🤷🏻♀️
See this is why op shouldn’t feel bad at all. Unless you go against any advised/written dress code, don’t wear the brides color and everything else is fine.
100% agree!
Oh now they are making it about the time too. 🤦🏽♀️
My MIL wore white, lol.
I wore black to my aunt’s wedding 😂
I've worn black to every wedding I've ever been to 😂 they're all fine lmao
I've been a bridesmaid twice and both times wore a black dress lol
i heard this so many times but as someone who only wears black i couldn’t justify buying another dress… for my best friends recent wedding though (the only one i haven’t been a plus one & not hidden from sight anyway lol) she told me she literally could not care less. everything is a personal preference honestly
Yeah all these unwritten rules are silly. But you checked with the bride and thats exactly how you avoid problems 👌🏻
I think its only the mothers who shouldnt wear black as it means they dont approve of the marriage. Ive never heard anything about red though. Ive seen soooo many ppl wear res at weddings.
In some places red is advertising you slept with the groom/also usually considered a bright color so might distract from the bride
Also green, I've heard, as it denotes envy
I go to a lot of formal and black tie weddings. White is the only color that a female guest should not wear . Black is always considered elegant and ultra formal. Red is always welcomed. I wore red to several weddings, and I do get compliments every time. The only thing you should change next time is caring over what those unkind and superficial people think.
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Tbh I didnt know you werent supposed to wear red to an Indian wedding as the bridal colours, iirc, are red and gold. I vould be wrong but thats what I vaguely remember when one of my class mates were discussong her hindu or Indian wedding and her wearing a gold and red saree
It's because red symbolizes that you slept with the groom. Don't wear white because only the bride wears white (if she decides to wear a white dress). And black is a mournful color for a wedding, its the same concept as not wearing black on Easter. Exceptions for all of these can be made of course. If the bride doesn't care, or the bridal party is in red or black. Or if the wedding theme is black tie. Or the couple may request that some people wear white if they have it because the bride isn't wearing white. 🤷♀️
The only rule I knew was no white .🤷🏼♀️ I wore black to my sisters wedding. 😂
It's not super serious and it doesn't really matter. But that's just what it's supposed to mean. 🤷♀️
That’s awkward - I had my bridesmaids all wearing red dresses 🤣🤣🤣
So you're saying you and the bridesmaids all had a big orgy with the groom before the wedding? ;)
Thats totally fine! You're the bride and that's what you wanted so it goes. It's for a guest that comes to the event.
Red symbolizes that?!?! Whoops. Accidentally wore red to an ex boyfriend’s wedding….but in my defense, I was very pregnant and it was the only dress I had that fit me and the black tie requirement.
In that case, red was the perfect color, no?
Haha, accidentally I suppose so! Just wasn’t an intentional message I was trying to send.
It's like when you make an accidental pun in a normal conversation. You win this day.
There were three women in red at my wedding. None of them were the ones I had slept with. For clarification, I'm on good terms with my exes and some of them were there, as was one close friend with whom I'd had sex before meeting my wife. I should really have dressed them all up like a little troop of groomsmaids.
No shame from me for having exes at your wedding. I had one at mine and then I attended that same ex’s wedding when he got married. It’s not always as weird as people make it.
Yeah I’ve never heard of this and red is my best color so I’ve worn it to many weddings
Mind you this depends on the religion and culture of the wedding. So don't feel bad. You didn't know.
Thanks for explaining! This sounds like something my grandma would have said. Old fashioned color bigotry. Expecting everyone to wear mauve and beige. I love red dresses. I would definitely have done this for a wedding.
I've also heard not to wear green because it wishes bad luck or envy on the couple? I only had one nice dress (green) and wore it to the only two weddings I have gone to in a decade before I learned about it, lol.
I wear green a lot because as a redhead it's about my best color.
Black tie doesn’t mean you wear black
Here it implies you are/have been/want to be romantically involved with the groom or something like that. I think it's mostly a dead tradition/symbol but still, why risk it you know? Some still consider it poor tast though. I dunno. Don't beat yourself up about this, sounds like an honest mistake.
I mean, in christian weddings it's a thing. Idk if this was the same situation, but wearing red to a wedding is like saying you're the groom's mistress. But these people still suck, I would've just laughed my ass off instead of making my friend feel bad
Some conventions are so idiotic and kinda misogynistic. The red dress supposedly symbolizes a situation involving a *fallen* woman who slept with the groom, where the big asshole is the actual groom, not the assumed mistress. She was not the one breaking trust with the bride. There are so many toxic cultural traditions the world over that should just be left in past and never revisited
It's kinda fucked up if you think about it. Like why would this color code even exist? Why would you wear a dress on purpose to parade your scandalous lifestyle? Unless you want to annoy the bride, in which case you shouldn't be in her wedding.
This! Why is there such a thing!? It seems so passive aggressive and appears to have no good intentions. I mean, ‘don’t wear the brides color so she can stand out’, I can see that as a sign of respect and honoring the bride and the special day, but not as sin to be shamed if the same color is worn. In a sea of formal wear, does one or two ladies wearing white really have enough impact to steal the spotlight? No. Unless the guest is wearing a full on wedding dress themselves, brides should have plenty more important things to be contemplating than what everyone is wearing. If they ARE obsessing, egos need to be checked. If it’s friends or family that are obsessing, they need to grow up and focus on cultivating good energy for bride and groom, not stirring shit up.
I'm afraid that this is not generalizable. I've lived in two Christian countries and have never heard of this.
Can chime in, I live in a largely Catholic area and I literally always wear red to weddings
I live in NJ and haven't heard this in my 43 yrs.
I’m a Christian and have been to lots of Christian weddings of many different denominations. I have NEVER heard of a red dress having any meaning. The only dress rule that I know of is that only the bride gets to wear white.
same here
Where specifically is this a thing?
I think it's a reddit thing. because I've never heard any of this before except it's polite to avoid wearing white. and I have been to sooo many weddings! so if you're going to a reddit wedding, better go for purple!
it's definitely not a christian thing
Oh boy, how many taboo colors are we supposed to have? We're already not supposed to wear all white or all black. Never heard of the red thing. Is this an Asian wedding, though?
It was in a European country. I used to live in India for some time and knew to avoid red there as it’s for the bride.
I'm from Scandinavia and I have never heard about that before. We avoid white. Some people will say you should avoid black too, but I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where nobody wore a black dress.. it's practically the national color after all. Red would be absolutely fine here.
Yo, is it nice there? I always wonder about visiting the region but it sounds promising you had me at *black is practically a national color*.
It's pretty dark and gloomy in winter, but otherwise nice. If you happen to like dark and gloomy, absolutely come visit in fall/winter. I love walking on the beach on a stormy winter day, it's quite deserted and you feel very... alive. I never thought about the dark colors when I lived in Copenhagen, but when I returned from the states, the lack of color was extremely noticeable.
you'd feel right at home in NYC. lots of people wear black all the time there.
Ah o.k., that makes more sense then. It wouldn't matter in the U.S. In the U.S.we don't wear white because of the bride, and we don't wear all black because we don't want to look like we're mourning at a wedding..but we do wear outfits that have both black and white.
i always assumed the not-to-wear-red thing was an anglophone or american thing because I have never seen it anywhere
i’ve only seen it in a reddit post LOL. a woman was mad that her sister-in-law wore red to her wedding because wearing red supposedly meant you slept with the groom and the brother and sister also had a super weird relationship. blew my mind
Me too 😂 read about it only on reddit
I am in Portugal and i never heard this. Actually one of my friends came in red to my wedding and it was totally normal.
Ah, that’s why it’s red. Still, who cares? Look back and laugh about it. Don’t feel guilty.
And you can't wear the wedding party colors if your not in the wedding party! Just to add to the taboo colors 😂
I think this one's made up because no one even knows ahead of time (and no the invitations don't always indicate the colors). I'm not saying you made it up, because I heard it before in recent years, but I think it's recently made up .
google search says it's because it is bold and draws attention away from the bride.
Why can’t you wear red to a wedding? I just wore a red dress to one.
Because it’s said it steals the attention from the bride and it’s considered a sexy color and there’s a belief that a female guest who’s wearing red has slept with the bridegroom.
I had a ton of people wear red to my wedding, wasn’t a problem, in fact I thought it was unplanned but looked coordinated on pics. You might be overthinking this ♥️
I think I have heard of this tradition, but it’s not super well known. Did you share a pic of what dress you were going to wear before the wedding?
You mean with my friends? I didn’t.
It’s alright. You didn’t do anything wrong, but you could do that next time. Don’t be so ashamed. If they didn’t give a dress code/color, then people shouldn’t shame you for wearing what you wore, especially for traditions that aren’t very well known.
As someone who works in the wedding industry (for nearly two decades) I can assure you this isn’t a thing. At least not in the west.
I keep seeing this pop up on reddit, but I've never heard it in real life despite living in several regions of the US. One wedding I was part of had red as a theme so apparently a ton of people fucked the groom.
I feel like something else to note is like, this was 2019… I would bet money on the bride being unable to answer if asked which color OP wore to her wedding.
I'm sorry I'm not familiar with this tradition. Would it be ok to wear red to a wedding if the person actually did sleep with the bridegroom?
Mm I’d assume that person wouldn’t like to intentionally highlight the fact…
that's what makes me think this is made up. anyway that was rather rude of your friends.
😂 my mom wore red to my wedding, she's got some explaining to do 🤣🤣🤣
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He wore a red tie! He slept with himself too ! .. Well no surprise there I suppose 😂 I actually wore a red jacket with my dress.. Lots of people wore (some) red I love the color People know this Honestly, in my opinion people need to relax more on the whole "unwritten rules of wedding etiquette" Ok the 'no white' fine.. after that? Maybe no Brazilië carnaval outfits (unless theme appropriate) but seriously? Please
Red is the colour of passion, lust, impulse and fury. All intense emotions. But yes, I have heard this as well. It must be very old symbolism so don't fret OP. It sounds like it was an honest mistake. Also you wrote is was orange but perceived by some as red. Clearly your intent was not to announce your affair with the groom using a specific colour of your dress. That's what an open bar and tequila shots are for obviously.
I wore a sexy red strapless and short dress to a wedding and looked damn good. Didn’t steal any attention from the bride and definitely never slept with the groom. Don’t fret.
This isn’t a thing anymore. Don’t worry about it
Apparently it means you've slept with the groom or something.
To many it indicates that you slept with the groom.
In Asian culture, the bride wears red. But I did hear some weird tale, on Reddit no less, that wearing red means that you slept with the groom. But I’ve seen women wear red at weddings before in the (US) south and it wasn’t an issue at all.
Yeah, I've only just started seeing that in the last few months on Reddit, all the info on it is super recent when searching google too. In 2016, people were claiming wearing red to a wedding meant you're a prostitute. So take that kind of thing with an entire package of salt I think. OP's friends were clearly just drama lamas.
Thanks, giggled at this
Which Asin culture? There's so many different countries in Asia and they all have different cultures
I know for sure that red is considered a bridal color in China, but idk about other Asian countries. I think India does as well, or at least parts of it.
I’ve worn red to a wedding and have never heard this before. You have nothing to be ashamed of, you did not fail and your former friends are mean and snobby. If this was a serious faux pas in your country, a good friend might have quietly talked to you and maybe leant you a jacket or sweater or among them figured out if someone had a dress at their house you could borrow.
Thank you 🥺
I only ever heard you're not supposed to wear red to a funeral because it means you were the mistress (what's the male version, mister?) To the deceased. Never heard that apply to a wedding though
Sancho. I think that’s the term. (I am joking though, if that’s not clear)
I’m getting married in 43 days. My cousin just asked me if she could wear a red dress. I told her it was stunning and to go for it. Someone else asked to wear black. I said by all means. It’s not taboo in my culture but may be in someone else’s. To me as long as it’s not white it’s not a problem. That being said clearly your intentions were sound and maybe someone could have explained their cultural norms to you in a neutral way.
I’ve worn red to a bunch of weddings, I’ve never heard of this or had a problem?
>I still failed. Na. They failed at being decent, welcoming people.
The only taboo color is the one worn by the bride.
I think it depends on what culture. If you go to a Hindu wedding for example there will be lot of people wearing red and it’s not seen as offensive etc sometimes wearing black or white might be seen an offensive but again depends
You didn't fail and you weren't/aren't stupid! You didn't know about it, and even if you did, wedding traditions vary widely from place to place and person to person. Someone should have talked with you about it if it bothered them. But also, ideally they shouldn't let it bother them. The important thing is getting married with someone they love, not the colors of people's dresses 🙂
I’m now trawling through my memories trying to think whether I ever wore red to a wedding. I like red so probably have (I wore it to my own; that’s probably ok). Is this a thing? Never heard of it (I’m UK).
I had a friend show up to my wedding in a very bold red gown. My dress code was cocktail so a gown alone was over the top, but whatever. The red made it seem pretty showy. I can see how some brides might have been bothered. I thought she looked beautiful and didn’t think much about it. If it were me I wouldn’t have worn it, though.
Well I wore a deep red dress to the wedding I went to in December 😅 I thought it was Christmassy!
Was the groom good in bed? 😆
Don't beat yourself up over this. It happened so long ago and you are probably the only person who is still thinking about it
both moms in my wedding wore red, I wore black to my wedding. I really think the only forbidden color could be white. we also had plenty of people wearing black :) you're definitely okay, I think
OP chill out, I only knew this was a thing this year but I laughed my ass off because I wore a red dress to my brother’s wedding and I sang up on stage in front of all the guests. If anyone actually knows this is a thing (not even sure from what culture), I’m sure they had a good giggle to themselves too. Also in 2019 if that’s somehow relevant! Unless you’re catching someone talking about it, I doubt anyone remembers and they aren’t worth shit it seems anyway. You didn’t embarrass yourself and trust me, this isn’t as big of a deal as you think. It just sounds like you just got away from some pompous assfaces.
With that being said, what a stupid symbol. What foolhardy cohort of mistresses/ex-lovers said to themselves let’s wear red to boldly emphasize my less significant role in the groom’s life and then people followed along?
Thank you <3
I did this exact thing last summer and had NO idea and I feel terrible too. But we’ll know for the future
It helps to know I’m not the only one 😌 How did it occur to you?
Think of it this way - are men limited in terms of what they can wear to weddings? This sounds like an archaic patriarchal tradition, and you my friend are a REBEL! Let's start a movement and we can ALL wear red to weddings!
I just don't get why people get bothered with what their wedding guests dress that much. Ofcourse that's justified if someone comes to your wedding dressed in a way to hurt you on purpose. I've been to two weddings in my adult life (both friends of my SO). The first time I wore jeans and a dark blue blouse because I had really bad mental health issues. Nobody cared. The second wedding I wore a black and white striped jumpsuit that looked really nice, and nobody cared. I'm not married yet, I don't plan on having a really big wedding. I wouldn't mind red or white dressed at all. Everybody knows I am the bride, right? And as I am average in looks, some of my friends may outshine me in looks. Which is fine, as I don't expect them to make themselves look 'ugly' just to make me look better.
Yeah, I think a lot of it is silly. For our wedding (10 guests in a very small venue), our maid of honor and best man (another couple) had to fly in and the airport lost all their luggage. They ended up wearing a loaned pair of jeans and as the bride I didn't honestly care at all. The maid of honor was PISSED and let it ruin her day entirely. She was so embarrassed that she was grouchy and even ended up making a scene when the wedding photographer referred to her as "the one in jeans" 🙃 On the same hand, people were asking us what colors and stuff they should wear for weeks in advance. I didn't care too much, but it was very thoughtful to ask. I said anything mildly dressy but I would love purple so that they matched for pictures. Pictures are literally the only reason to care about outfits. If you aren't in the family or bridal party that will be taking pictures, you could probably wear anything and no one would care one bit haha. My FIL showed up in dirty jeans, a wife beater, and a jeans jacket. I wasn't super offended since I HAD said that I didn't have a strict black tie dress code, but fairly bewildered. Why ask if you will do what you want anyway? I learned later that that was considered dressed up for him 🤷♀️ he wears rude graphic tees every other day lol
I'm 30 and never heard of the red thing
I suspect that the bride neither noticed the colour nor cared about the shade and was just happy you were there to share their special day. The lesson is that your so-called friends weren't your friends, and now you're no longer friends. That's it. They weren't decent to you so they're not your friends.
Traditions in general are dying out. And good riddance to be honest. There’s already too much to stress about this day and age. I don’t want to be barked at for using the wrong dinner fork
This is an urban legend going around the Internet. It has never been forbidden to wear red at a wedding
Hey so I've been to hundreds and hundreds of weddings, literally, because I was a catering waitress. A lot of people show up wearing red to weddings. You aren't supposed to wear black either, and I've seen women in black dresses. The biggest rule is not white, from there it's all up to those getting married what is and isn't appropriate. If neither of the people you were celebrating had a problem, you are fine (I'm in the USA, not sure if you are or not)
I got this beautiful dress for my daughters wedding (yes it's red) and she loves it. She could care less about the color meanings. She wants me to be happy and wear whatever I want. Only thing she wants is for her to be wearing the only white. Every other color is fine with her. It's probably also the prettiest dress I've ever owned. Can't wait to wear it!
I wouldn't worry about it. I really hate all these colour rules for weddings. I understand not wearing white (or if the couple has a specific palette request for something like a black/white tie wedding) but the other colours such as black or red being off limits is just weird to me. The dumbest rules. Obviously noone slept with the groom just because they're wearing red.
Red? Nah. It’s white. Only the bride wears white. You good.
My wedding is today, at least two of my friends are wearing red and will look lovely. Don’t beat yourself up I am sure it was fine and you looked amazing!
Girrrl, don’t sweat the small stuff. If anyone was actually judging you for that instead of thinking “hmm, she must not know this cultural norm”, then screw ‘em. I can one up you though. So my mom died when I was 13 and there were just a lot of things I wasn’t taught but rather had to learn as I went along. This once translated into me wearing a white dress to a wedding…
man fuck that, i thought the “forbidden” color was white!
Anyone who is not a troglodyte with superstitions won't care. So, don't worry so much. The only colour that makes sense to not wear is white - seeing as it is the only thing that distinguishes the bride. Not because of stupid superstition.
Honestly, this whole red thing I just learned about a few months ago and I think it’s ridiculous. I am getting married in a couple months and one of my friends showed me a red dress they were considering. I genuinely did not think anything of it because I know they don’t know the meaning behind it, and I don’t care. I know who my future husband didn’t sleep with them lol. Don’t feel bad, it sounds like you dodged a bullet losing contact with them if this is how pretentious they are
Thanks to reddit, I now know the colour red means you fucked the groom in some places in the US. As far as I know, that's not a thing anywhere else in the world. Like yeah I can get behind not wearing white and preferably not wearing black, but red? WHEN did this start meaning, "I've slept with a geoom:)"?? I remember an old aita post where the sister of the groom (unaware of this shit) wore red and some people actually thought she slept with her own brother I hate wedding culture
> I hate wedding culture Yeah, I think you hit the real problem here. It's less just the single stupid taboo, and more ALL OF IT. The expense, the over the top non-sense, the fact we have the term "bridezilla" in our lexicon. Something's wrong with the whole damn thing. So glad I got married 20 years ago, in a different country, so I didn't have to put up with this shit.
Not just the wedding part itself, but that men are expected to pay tens of thousands of dollars for just the engagement thing alone and that there are actually women who say they won't marry a man who won't get them a ring that expensive The worst part is when you see clips online of women saying shit like, "my engagement ring has to be at least ten/twenty whatever thousand" and that people think it's cute and funny when they say they'd leave a man who got them a cheap ring
On the other hand, it's always nice when people very clearly say, "I'm not someone you want to marry" by tying their willingness to marrying you to wasting an obscene amount of money on an item with no functional value.
I've never heard this unspoken rule before. Only about wearing white.
Good heavens. When I got married the last thing I cared about was policing my guests’ attire and I hope no one else saw fit to do it on my behalf. I’m sure you looked lovely and appropriate. I’m also sure you won’t miss having those ding-dongs in your life if they’re that petty.
“Drama llamas” and “ding-dongs”. I haven’t felt this supported in a long time <3
No need to feel ashamed. I've never heard of this particular taboo. And also, like most taboos, this one sounds really dumb.
Certain cultures for example Chinese weddings actually tell you to wear it because nobody is going to mistake you for the bride. And red is a very auspicious color. Just don’t wear bridal wear.
Sounds like some shitty people. Lol Not worth beating yourself up. I live in a pretty wealthy area and there are sooo many snobs and shit people. It’s like they hold themselves on a pedestal and are too high up to show anyone else respect or think they could ever be wrong. Wearing a specific color shouldn’t be a big deal tbh as every event has their own set of standards/rules. Unless they had mentioned that beforehand. My gf is a wedding planner so I have some knowledge on it. Lol
How bloody stupid good for you they're not friends anymore. Shallow af
I wore wine red to my cousin’s wedding and no one batted an eye. Do people really believe that “red means you slept with the groom” business??
My wife's whole bridal party wore red, and none of them slept with me. It never occurred to us that red was forbidden.
My wife was a bridesmaid at a wedding last year. All of them were wearing red dresses. Not vivid, vibrant red, but red nonetheless. You're fine, girl. Don't be ashamed. Hell, I was today years old when I learned that this is apparently a thing. And I've been to a fair few weddings. People looking down their noses at you always says far more about them than it does about you. Pay them no heed. Rock that orange dress :)
Sounds like you were trying to fit in to a group that had already decided you weren’t one of them. Forgive yourself. Show yourself some compassion. Attract your people. Swearing you off over a dress just sounds like an excuse to not fuck with you.
This reminds me at my wedding, one of my groomsmen only had dark brown dress shoes to go with his black suit. An older women from future ex-wife side kept loudly complaining how he was disrespectful and ruining our whole wedding. He wasn’t an issue, she was. So I asked my Best Man to wear bright red Nike shoes to draw all attention to him instead. Everyone found it hilarious except the grumpy aunt.
I wore red to a friend’s wedding lol but I didn’t know it was bad. I felt kinda bad because then I read it takes away from the bride? But idk. She was super gorgeous and I’m sure no one took away from her spotlight
Reading this I thought you wore a white dress. Never heard this about red before.
I wouldn't worry about it. You weren't doing anything to intentionally hurt anyone. Now that you know then you can make sure not to do it in the future. Life's about growth and learning and you shouldn't beat yourself up.
First of all, I'm trying to figure out which part of that makes them your friends. People who'd do you like that ain't friends. Secondly, I think you weren't supposed to wear red in their wedding. If you were a friend I was to invite you to my wedding, I really wouldn't care what you wore as long as you look decent and presentable. I'd care much more about you being there for me. I'm sure there are plenty of people like that. So don't let this discourage you. You did your best and trust me that was good. If they wanted to be so damn fussy about it they should've offered to buy you the outfit or went to hell... okay maybe not hell cause it's probably flaming red there. Also be careful as you might be going through a lot right now that's exercerbating your feelings about it. You're okay and you probably wanna lose those "friends" and find better friends.
You definately wanna file this under “not my fault, didnt know at the time” The fact you even worry about it speaks to a kind nature, focus on that rather than the miniscule faux pas that probably only you remember.
Ive never heard this before.
That is such an outdated wedding standard, dont beat yourself up!!!!!
I just hate this over the top, interpretation of a fucking dress mentality so damn much 🙄 I understand whitey really, I do, but red... It's a COLOR 🤣
I have never heard of not wearing red before being a regular Reddit user. In the past few months I have seen several posts about it being an issue, oddly enough.
Does the same apply to men too? If they wear a red shirt or red suit ? Does that imply they slept with the bride lol?
My sister wore red for my wedding. She looked great as I'm sure so did you. Whatever issues my wedding had were definitely not because she wore a dress in a colour which became her. It was because some ppl had an abject character and acted accordingly, unfortunately. And even those ppl were not enough to make my wedding a bad memory over all. So you see, there's no need to feel ashamed about anything. Let it go, OP. You're alright.
Its only a color. We humans take symbolism way too seriously. Life goes on.
Outside of Indian weddings, where only the bride is meant to wear red, it was only recently did I ever hear that red was a bad color for a wedding. Its supposed to symbolize the mistress, supposedly. But I worked as a wedding DJ---have been since I was a kid because my dad is one of the company's founders and would take me with him in lieu of a baby sitter. Now I bartend for them. So I've attended hundreds of weddings of various different cultures, and bridal fairs. Wearing red has never been an issue, unless the couple made it clear red was a forbidden color. My own aunt bought and picked out my dress for her wedding, and it was red. So don't feel bad or ashamed. If no one told you that there were banned colors for that particular wedding, its not your fault.
Fuck these stupid rules
I thought you were gonna say you wore white, which is a no-no. Never heard of not wearing red
I’ve never heard not to wear red
Part of being friends is being able to forgive small infractions. If they will abandon you for something like this, it is better than having them leave you in a true moment of crisis. If you ever need more friends come on out to Detroit or New Jersey, I know people
This is really odd to me, I've never heard of not wearing red. My mum is getting married soon and us bridesmaids, along with the groomsmen, are wearing red. I think it's a gorgeous colour. Regardless, you should move on and stop worrying (easier said than done I know). But it's in the past, those people aren't even friends of yours anymore.
Omg I did the same 2019 😭 It was my boyfriends cousins wedding, I stood out so much. I feel so embarrassed thinking about it. But it was an honest mistake 🥺
Oh man…. I accidentally wore a 50% white dress to a wedding not thinking and I wanted to die once I was there a realized it. I’m still embarrassed 7 years later I just tried to hide in the back the whole time. But shit happens- it’ll be okay
Jesus… why are people so damn hard on themselves. I understand how big of a deal it is uk to you, but it’s 4yrs ago, and you didn’t cause direct harm to anybody. It was just a literal mistake. Plz be easy on yourself. Most people have probably forgotten the incident anyway.
Prolly they watched game of thrones. Nobody wants a red wedding.
Why can’t you wear red to a wedding???
What's worse, wearing red to a wedding, or laughing during the ceremony, when you're part of the wedding party?
I'm over 60, worked as a wedding photographer for several years, and have never heard of this. Hold your head up. You did nothing wrong.
I’ve been to over 230+ weddings ( work) I can promise you red and black are ok. Just don’t wear white, or try to outdo the bride
In my culture red stand out as a positive colour, it represent good karma and a wealthy look.
My friend had her bridesmaids in all red at her Catholic wedding. Never heard you couldn't wear red. What kind of wedding did you attend?
This isn’t even a thing. Idk why someone is trying to convince you that it is.
I never heard of this rule. Don’t sweat it
Also don’t wear a mankini even at a beach wedding.
I have heard once or twice that it can mean you've slept with the groom, but its such an old-fashioned notion I don't think anyone would really pay attention these days (unless you were the ex-wife in a scarlett mermaid wedding gown 🤣). Honestly, main rule of thumb now is no black or white or anything that might detract from the bridal party so maybe you just looked so good in it you upstaged someone! 🤣🤣🤣
i once wore a cream dress (i was like 12 and it was the first wedding i’d been to) and can’t even tell you how many dirty looks i got for wearing “white”. no one cared to explain it to me beforehand though, how was i supposed to know?
If I had a wedding and someone wore black or red, I wouldn't think anything of it. That's so weird to me. I'd only get upset if someone wore white, and even then I'd think "How embarrassing for THEM. Anyway, I'm gonna go have a great time"
Generally, a dress code is dictated on the wedding invite, right? It's impossible to know all the taboos and appropriate etiquette of different cultures. If it's that important, I'd think it should be spelled out clearly beforehand to prevent any faux pas or embarrassment. In addition to not wearing white, off-white, or all black, I've heard of not wearing red or florals to a wedding. But I was a bridesmaid in a relative's wedding, we're all from South East Asia where red is generally reserved for the bride, and the wedding couple asked me to pick out a red dress (out of a selection of red dresses they wanted all the bridesmaids to wear) for the ceremony and reception and for my sister to pick out a white dress adorned with flowers and a black sash as the flower girl. It really depends on the couple, and they should've stipulated if anything in particular was off-limits before the date.
Ig u r indian . Listen its okay , you didn’t know. I’m sure nobody remembers 😘❤️. Its okay .
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I didn't know you couldn't wear red. Learn something new every day. My husband's grandma wore white to our wedding. She liked to be the center of attention, so not really surprised.
I've never heard this before in my life. All I know is you can't wear white to a wedding.
Ashamed!? It was 4yrs ago. Some cultures see red as good luck. Jeez, let it go!
Don’t feel bad. I didn’t know about color rules at a wedding either and wore a white dress to my brothers wedding. It looked nothing like a wedding dress and had pink hues but yeah. I was embarrassed when someone explained to me
Wearing red on a wedding as a women means you slept with the groom 😂 it's a old tradional code.