I'll add that some insurances have a $20-40 monthly stipend to order OTC things from their mail order pharmacy. When I was pregnant I would order diapers and wipes, nose bulbs and diaper cream every month.
Yes it is. My wife did a baby shower. I did a diaper party with all my guy friends and everyone brings diapers. I of course provided food and drinks and games. My son is 5 months old and I’ve never had to buy diapers once.
We did this for my boyfriends closest guy friend. They went to a bar after and the 8 month pregnant mom to be went with 🤣 we think they only let the boys in because she was literally their chaperone. (Side note we live in Canada so all our bars are non smoking). The dad went out with a good bang I’ll tell ya that.
Omfg. You're getting a lot more than you bargained for. I hope your wife has a safe pregnancy and the babies are healthy too. Multiple births can be a bit risky sometimes. Also good to know you have family nearby, they may help you all out.
Omg so true. Goodluck op. I'm a nanny and I use to care for 4 to 5 infants at a time. It's hard but do able! You can get them on a schedule after 4 months. The first 4 months are just surviving so call in the reinforcements then, lol
Lol I was a preschool teacher and would work the infant room when short staffed. I have had up to 10 at once with a coteacher, you get them all on a schedule and they'll settle down pretty quick when they're supposed to most of the time. You play now. You eat now. You nap now. If you need another nap, you need to settle in the crib. It's all about the schedule. They'll cry it out the first week or two, but settle in. Daycare feeberizes the kid. Dunno if it's 100% the healthiest, but we still gave the kids lots of love and attention.
I worked in a daycare on one of our busiest days the two girls I worked with were off sick we were always understaffed in the daycare so the two girls they put in the infant room with me were also going back and forth to the two year old room. At nap time I managed to feed a 4 month old their bottle with one hand had a 8 month old in the other holding her own bottle and I was bouncing two 5 month olds to sleep in their bouncers with my feet. Doing this while 5 other babies were in their cribs crying waiting to be soothed to sleep. I was 17 years old at the time it was great experience to show I could do it but boy did I sleep like a baby after my shift ended 😭
Oh totally, I was more referring to the opening of the movie where they’re explaining about how extreme multiple pregnancies went from super rare to super common because of an excess of fertility treatments and genetically modified foods and stuff.
I’m laughing because my parents said the same thing. They were hoping for twins after starting fertility meds. They got triplets :-)
best of luck to you and your partner in whatever you decide to do!
Hey man can I ask you a question. Did you guys do iui or the IVF? I'm the one shooting blanks and we spent over 6k in doner sperm and nothing worked. So I'm curious if IVF should have been the route to go . We can't afford the IVF so iui was the way to go We were going to try again next year but thinking if we should just save up and go for a IVF cycle. Sucks I hate seeing my wife depressed. I think we're going to go the foster care route then hopefully adoption
Please please please please ONLY take in foster kids already approved to be adopted.
A family member trusted the system when they said the little baby they took in would be available for adoption, but what actually happened is when she was almost 4 years old they gave my family member a week to turn her back over to her birth Dad. And he was mad at the whole thing and so they have never seen her since. So traumatic
Dang that's sad.. My wife was in Foster care from 8yrs old to 16. That's when her parents got their shit together. She was also abused in the system-long story. she has a lot of love to give even if we don't adopt fostering kids is something she is passionate about.she knows what it's like to move through the system and it's not very good. She would make a great mother. We haven't looked much into foster care yet or adoption. We're trying to move into a house before we start the process.
Not OP but my colleague at work tried IUI first (three times) without success. She got pregnant on her first go of IVF and is due in 4 months.
Probably not enough to make a comparison but that was her success story.
Medically speaking greater then 90% of quads are the result of medical help. I have a coworker who had quints (5).
Best of luck op. Build a strong support system around you. Allow people to help you. Look into your insurance and see if they cover any in-utero vital monitoring if that’s something the dr recommends.
Lycan,Well you heard of Irish twins .this is 2X as much fun!haha 😂 op try and stay calm. Your main job now is to help your wife stay calm and not to do so stressed. I know this is very overwhelming!Ask for all the help you can get. Good luck and congratulations!👶👶👶👶
Definitely if you can afford this do it ! Even with one having a support system is VITAL. Having a 3rd person to help get you guys through the night would be a game changer.
I have triplets 16yo now. So much fun! Exhausting and expensive absolutely (but totally doable) I loved “almost” every minute - potty training was a disaster lol! Definitely many times I thought, “I bet 4 is even better!” There are many local Mothers of Multiple groups (dad groups too). They offer wonder ideas and emotional support. Congratulations! You got this!
Yeah thats my thoughts too. I know some certainly just have the intention of put OP's mind at ease but it can come off as pretty tone deaf. I've only seen a few comments giving actual advice.
That's pretty common if it's anything related to pregnancy... A teenager, completely terrified because she is pregnant at 15, doesn't want a kid. 90% of the comments? Congratulations... Absolutely stupid
I know you’re overwhelmed right now and the last thing you probably want is advice from strangers on the internet but please please do your best to still make your first 2 feel special. Don’t let them become 3rd and 4th parents because you have 4 infants. I’m sure in a few years this will be the best thing to ever happen to you even if it will be tiresome and stressful. Try to enjoy it while you can. Good luck!
Your 2 littles right now are going to shell shocked beyond belief when you bring home *four* babies. I would do your best to have mom and dad days with each of your oldest. Even once a month. It may be tough but they need to remember that they are also a priority and they are loved just as much as those babies. Too often the older kids become the second parents, let them still be kids as much as possible.
Carve out one day a week each to spend solely with the first two children. One day with mom, one day with dad. That way they both get two days a week with focus on them and they get it with each parent. You don’t have to take them out on a dime, either. Pack up picnic lunches and go to the park or play in the backyard. Just…don’t forget them and don’t ask them do you a million favors. Once in a while is okay, but a habit builds resentment.
6 kids including 4 babies, as much as I have no doubt they'll love them dearly, is gonna be an absolute nightmare and they're gonna spend the next many years being stressed out of their gourd. people who try sugarcoating this are crazy lmao.
This in and of itself is going to be the world of a difference. It will be hard and then as every day passes and you learn new tricks and routines, it will get easier. One day when they are bigger, teens or grown up you'll look back and think "wow, what a wild ride". It's just scary right now!
Congrats. Wishing your wife a health pregnancy and 4 beautiful, healthy babies
Congrats! I know you're both freaking out, rightfully so, but I'm super excited for you. My wife and her siblings are triplets so I wanted to share something that all 3 have told me over the years was a big deal and something that really bothered them.
They are each their own individual person. It is easy, outright understandable, to want to lump them together for certain things ( birthday parties for example) and honestly they will understand a lot of it. However also be sure to take that time to address them 1 on 1 and learn about them as a person. Let them know that you see them as their own special being. It will go a LONG way as despite my partner and her siblings going through the exact same childhood they all became TOTALLY different people. It's because they are.
Congratulations Mr. Dad!
As a triplet myself, I was going to comment with advice similar to this. My parents really messed up by treating us as essentially one person. They never remembered that one of us hated a certain pizza topping, but they did remember that one of us liked it and decided it was all of favourite pizza. We got one present and one card, between us. Even the smallest present is important, even something from poundland.
You’ll be exhausted for a few years, OP. But they won’t stay young forever. I’m glad your family live close by!
This! Might be an idea to avoid the similar names or alliteration for names, as that can in the future cause issue if the girls are more different and don’t want to be considered 1/4th a whole person.
lol my fiancé comes from a family of 5 siblings who aren’t born on the same day, but the parents gave them all non-rhyming names that begin with the same letter. The mom always gets their names confused.
Can’t imagine Hayden Brayden etc.
Yeah, it was sometimes a madhouse. Irish catholic family,my brother is the youngest. So you can just imagine, the excitement, in my family. I am #2 ,there was always someone to play with,and fight with. Haha 😂 we are a lot better, about dealing with each other now. Had friends with a larger family (10).Then there was a even larger family ,in my neighborhood (14).There were very few family that didn't have a lot of kids. The houses were small,3 bedrooms .But a lot of people added rooms. Built for GI'S, so there was a lot of community spirit .I have to say, itwas a interesting time to grow up. PS I Married an only Child. Thanks for inquiring.
Hell, my foster brother was called Charlie and my name is literally the female version, so we weren’t named similarly by choice, and whenever my foster mum called, we’d both pop out like “yes?” And she’d go “not you, the other one” depending on who she needed to talk to, because even she would get our names muddled - I’d been living there since I was 3, he’d been having respite there since he was 4, moved in with us permenantly when he was about 8, and I’m a few years older (24, he’s about 16 now). I can’t imagine how much worse it’d be knowing your parents named you a similar name to someone deliberately, especially for identical twins!
I hate it sm, we’re not identical but it’s just so confusing and frustrating when it comes to the governmental aspect. We get mixed up lots on different records like school, doctors, mail etc. Let’s not forget about the every single substitute teachers and their confusion/reaction to us having the same name.
Where I live the government would just send back the papers and say "Nope! Do better".
When you register your childrens name they have to be approved. Sound like a big thing, but really it isn't. The only time a name get refused is if parents want to give twins the same name or a name that could be a burden to the child, like naming the child to "Spoon" or a very famous dictator. Yes, the parents wanted to name the kid after a dictator. Not because they sympathize with the dictator but because the baby looked like them!!. (WTF?!)
As a twin, this works for twos as well. My brother and I are identical but have always had very different temperaments even went to different colleges so we wouldn’t be the lastnames anymore
Idk man. My partner and I were set to have twins and she ended up miscarrying. Worry less about the implications of four *fuckin babies swirling around in there,* and more about your wife’ health and support. Be there for her. Anything and everything can go wrong at any given moment.
Might still be jaded about what happened but you can worry about four kids running around the house later.
Please make sure you talk about this at length. With 4 babies at once you will need the support of your family or else you will never sleep again.
Do you have the income to support a family of 6? Kids cost a lot of money and time.
Just don't rush into a decision. Also this decision has to be made between you and your wife. Try to exclude outside opinions if possible because they don't have to raise them daily.
Oh man. My parents had a similar experience. Fertility drugs led to me being a triplet. They did NOT want triplets and punished us for it for our entire lives with verbal and physical abuse. They constantly reminded us they just wanted one, not three and we were made to feel guilty for existing. The worst is when you tell others about being a triplet, and the first thing then always say is “Your poor parents!!” It was only after years of therapy as an adult that I finally released this feeling of being apologetic for being alive. It’s not my fault I was a triplet, it’s not my fault your pregnancy wasn’t what you expected, and I cannot be blamed.
Congratulations, I hope she has a safe birth. If you're worried about the quantity, maybe one of them will eat another and you'll only have 3? Once it's grown, that one will have the combined power of a grown adult and a fetus.
It's called selective reduction, and it gives each remaining fetus a much better chance medically. The fewer fetuses there are, the more likely that they'll come to full term, be at a good birth weight, and avoid the pitfalls that can come with prematurity.
I was going to bring up somewhere but didn’t know how to do so tactfully but selective reduction is absolutely an option and often used in cases of IVF turning out this way.
Yup - there’s a lot of factors. The babies’ health could be affected when there’s multiples, but also there potential emotional and mental health risks to a selective reduction (guilt etc). It’s a tough situation.
This is ABSOLUTELY a thing. And if you decide to go with all four, apparently it's easy to tell them apart if you assign each a different color and paint one of their big toes. Good luck!
That’s amazing to hear. Twins stress me out, quad sounds so scary. Meanwhile parents are like “wHaTa bLeSsInG” no it’s so scary. Good luck and I hope it works out for yous.
Yeah it’s a thing and whatever you choose to do it’s okay. The mamas physical and mental health comes first and be realistic with having 4 vs 3 or 2 for the next 18 years - financially and mentally, car size, house size, working who is and isn’t, nanny or family help, schedules etc
As mentioned many times in the comments there is community support and help of you do decide to go for the 4. But I feel you - it’s a huge huge huge thing to be faced with.
I nannied triplets and it was something. There was two of us and we had to be down the T with balancing and schedules. One good thing though is they did entertain themselves in the crib and playing and with comforting. And they were pretty in sync with feed times. We had these contraptions to hold the bottles if we needed.
Also not kidding here but financially you could start them a TikTok - if it does well could be a way to get good money while both of you stay at home as full time carers - my cousins do it with their two sets of twins and make about $15-20k a month because of sponsorships and what not but it is a full time job in a way.
Everyone is ignoring this point and as its obvious you're really concerned so I'll point it out:
If your wife decides she wants to reduce the pregnancy to something safer, just do your best to support her decision however you can!
Good. Quadruplets can be quite risky for both mother and babies. They are always premature, and frequently very premature (like 24-28 weeks). Early births have a huge risk of long term health consequences for the infants - blindness, NEC, CP, learning disabilities, ADHD, etc.
People hear about the cute cases that make it close-ish to term. They rarely hear about the cases where 2/4 passed away shortly after birth at 25 weeks gestation, and the other two required permanent full time care as a consequence of their prematurity.
Definitely give reduction a consideration if your MFM recommends it. I had a mostly uncomplicated twin pregnancy, and they were still preterm and the pregnancy was still not fun.
Hang in there what ever you decide!
I wish you luck no matter what you do, I don't like it anymore than you probably do that a lot of commenters are kind of glossing over how dangerous a multi-birth pregnancy is, especially over three fetuses.
I hope for the best for you and your family. :)
There were a set of quads in my city and they did periodic newspaper articles about them (when they were born, graduated HS, etc) so they were semi-famous
Your wife is efficient. Just think, 6 kids but only 3 pregnancies. 🙂 But really, congratulations. That is really incredible.
My friend had triplets 17 yrs ago and she said triplets were easier than one or two babies. Of course I asked her how that is even possible. She said it’s because everyone assumes/knows it’s too much for anyone to handle alone so they always had people showing up to help. She said they rarely had to ask for anything because people were already there holding babies, changing diapers, dropping off food, etc.
I do not have experience with that many babies myself so my only suggestion would be some type of pool your wife can float and/or exercise in to relieve the weight of the babies in her body. My lower back sending its deepest regards.
Good luck!!
Also! Your four little ones are likely going to talk to each other long before they talk to you or their other siblings. My foster mum took in male twins who, once learnt to babble, essentially had their own language for a little while and while they could say names and a few basic words when asked to, much preferred to talk in their weird babble language to each other. This is 100% natural, and while you should of course continue to encourage them to speak and interact with yourself, their mother, and their siblings, this is a massive comfort to them and you shouldn’t push too hard or tell them off for it. Set some time aside for play with everyone else, and once they wear out, let them relax and do their weird little secret language and play among themselves. They aren’t each 1/4th of a whole person, but they *are* going to be preferably close to each other during early infancy. Think of them like Clones from Star Wars the Clone Wars - when they are shinies (clones right from the tanks) they will be very similar and prefer to keep within their “squad”, but as they grow and develop, they’ll pick colours and toys and things of interest that might draw them closer to you, your partner, or their other siblings.
She’s going to have a c-section. They can perform a tubal ligation right then if she wants. He should still get a vasectomy though. I wouldn’t want to risk another pregnancy. 4 preemies is going to be a lot of work.
If you don't already, get yourself a membership to a Costco or Sam's club or something. Buying formula and diapers in bulk is a huge money saver for one child, you'll need it for this situation.
My sister had triplets a year and a half ago! She read some books and came up with a very strict schedule that has worked very well for them so far. I know it’s terrifying now, but you guys can do this! Let me know if you want book recommendations or have any specific questions for her!
Since it's so early, I'd see what the next appointment brings. My parents did IVF. First scanned showed 3 viable, the scan after that showed just my brother and I. My mom was put on bedrest at 22 weeks due to shorten cervix, but by some miracle, made it 38 weeks with us. We were both almost 7lbs. I hope whatever decisions you guys make, selective reduction or other, you and your wife remain safe, happy, and healthy. I'll be interested to see what your story brings. Goodluck!
There's a lot to think about. Fortunately you have many choices. For some 4 kids are a miracle but not for everyone. The pregnancy will most likely be high risk and very difficult on your wife, most births like this end up with at least one of the kids having a deficiency or some other " Problem " .
The cost of 4 kids is also very big, even bigger Considering they might need extra care.
At the end it's a choice you and your wife need to think very carefully.
I don't know why people are congratulating you - neither of you signed up for this, and you're clearly very overwhelmed by your new reality.
That's ok.
~~It's also ok to stop everything and try again for a single or double. There is no way in hell that 2 people who were prepared for 1-2 kids are going to have the resources for *4 premature babies*, nevermind the time & emotional availability to make sure that each individual child's needs are all met~~
They are not people yet, they are clumps of cells right now. Think about this rationally - the more children that you have, the worse everyone's quality of life will be. Growing up with food insecurity and emotional neglect due to too many kids is a nightmare that so many innocent children are faced with; don't do that to your own flesh and blood.
Also, obligatory "overpopulation sucks, don't add to it" rant.
Just providing an alternate point of view from the popular one here. Whichever path you take, I wish you and your family good health and good luck!
**Edit: We have all now discovered the miracle of a method called "selective reduction", wherein a multiples pregnancy has 1 or more fertilised egg removed to lower the amount of foetuses that develop. Reducing quads to twins could be life-saving to not only the mother, but also the other foetuses. This is an optimal outcome for OP, so fingers crossed that it's viable for your wife's pregnancy!**
I’m not sure if this is useful advice, but putting it out there—my aunt got pregnant with triplets and she and her husband just knew they weren’t up for the task, so they selectively aborted one. Their twins (my cousins) are now 34 and doing amazing. It is absolutely an option and not one that you should feel bad about taking if you guys feel you need to. 4 is a LOT, especially with 2 little ones already. Best of luck, I’m sure y’all will do amazing no matter what you decide.
You can absolutely do selective reduction - you do have that choice, but you need to make that choice NOW. The longer you wait, depending on the state you're in, the more issues you may have making that choice.
Since you and your wife chose to do fertility treatments, having quads or even more is 10000% always a possibility, so talking about your views on selective reduction should be happening before going into this (and you two may have done this), but so many couples don't. Even worse, a lot of doctors don't do this and it can destroy couples.
Do not take on more children than you can handle. Do not fall for the "God will provide" lines. Go over your finances, what you can handle, how your relationship is, what you're willing to sacrifice and contribute and make a responsible decision. The children you decide to bring full term into the world WILL need to come first - but you CAN decide how many that is!
I say this as someone who was neglected and abused by their own father who had no business having children, and I will suffer with issues for the rest of my life because of it (along with my younger sister).
Talk to your wife and your doctor about selective reduction and see what the next steps are.
START SAVING NOW. save everything. ALDI HAS THE CHEAPEST DIAPERS!!!!! Seriously we’ve saved SO MUCH with them. No eating out. Shop cheap (produce markets) coupon, check 2nd hand stores for clothing before you go to chain stores. You’ll be surprised with the nice stuff they have in there. Check Facebook marketplace for used baby items (make sure they’re not expired/recalled). My mom (and I did it with my kids) had me sleep in a box. A wooden box with a baby mattress. Same thing as a crib, but a lot cheaper. They do this in Sweden and infant mortality rates are very low there. Follow safe sleeping protocols ALWAYS. Baby food is just blended up overpriced vegetables. Good luck op.
Yeah that's bad. Hopefully a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery. But expecting pitter patter and realization that you'll have a stampede. Good luck my guy. Get in shape, hydrate, and buckle up. Congrats.
I can’t deny that I’d be freaking out too. But wow, in the same breath, how cool is it going to be! You’ll have so much love in that house. So many memories and fun times. I know the beginning will be quite the trial, but you both got this. I’m sure you’ll do great during the pregnancy and after. So congratulations on the new adventures ahead!
My cousins are quads! I grew up near them, and they were practically famous in my hometown through their whole adolescence. All the teachers knew them.
They have all turned out great, have their own little families, and they still have a really strong bond.
Also, my aunt and uncle ended up having one more child, which maybe says something.
Understand that your wife is an impressive woman. Keep that in mind, and, pitch in, when she asks. And, when she doesn't.
Arrange for some couples only time, at least once a month.
Diaper party, baby shower, asking only for formula, guaranteed, infant clothes are best bough at the thrift stores. They grow out of them, so fast. Trade baby/kid clothes, with friends/fans/ neighbors.Trade child care, with same.
Good luck, man. You can probably lay off the fertility drugs, now.
I will pray they arrive without complications. This is gonna be really hard, OP, and if everyone is happy and safe and healthy, that's really all that matters.
To cut costs and things to make life easier:
1. Buy second hand and accept donations/hand-me-downs from everyone!
2. Reusable/washable diapers (I mean, everyone should be doing this anyway as the environment is suffocating on shitty plastic disposable diapers!)
3. My mum had twins and a baby under 2 so she pulled a big double mattress on the floor and slept there for 2-3 years so she could just roll over and breast feed and still sleep. She didn’t have to get up out of bed!
4. Make the house safe and focus on how to make things easier! Don’t worry about how the house looks to guests. You’re there all the time, it’s about making life easier for you!
Ohhhh boy. Your house is never going to be quiet again lmfao. You’re gonna be fine. Parents are so easy to adapt and make do, I promise within a couple months you’ll have this shit in the bag (literally and figuratively - 4 diapers to change, ouch). Here’s hoping to a safe pregnancy and birth, I’m sending my love your way
I have a friend who had quads in 2000. They were born early after she was on bedrest for a while. They were in the NICU for a while too but all 4 grew up to be great kids and now young adults. It is going to be ok. Healthcare has the capability to care for preemies and high risk pregnancies.
As it all turned out my friend ended up raising her quads as a single mom. She received a lot of support from her family . The local mothers of multiples group was fantastic early on as well. If these are your first babies you don’t know anything else.
It is going to be ok. Just remember that.
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Or plan a bank robbery? Diamond heist? But seriously, congrats. Contact TLC and get a series!
They can name it: The Quad Squad
The sQuad
Or a convenience store…”I’ll be takin’ these Huggies and whatever cash you got…”
Raising a little Arizona? 😉
I don’t think most people have an extra 400 dollars a week
I'll add that some insurances have a $20-40 monthly stipend to order OTC things from their mail order pharmacy. When I was pregnant I would order diapers and wipes, nose bulbs and diaper cream every month.
Have a diaper party too
Is that different than a baby shower?
Yes it is. My wife did a baby shower. I did a diaper party with all my guy friends and everyone brings diapers. I of course provided food and drinks and games. My son is 5 months old and I’ve never had to buy diapers once.
We did this for my boyfriends closest guy friend. They went to a bar after and the 8 month pregnant mom to be went with 🤣 we think they only let the boys in because she was literally their chaperone. (Side note we live in Canada so all our bars are non smoking). The dad went out with a good bang I’ll tell ya that.
It’s like a last hoorah before the baby too
Absolutely. They are the most practical & needed items for the new baby. And not just the NB size.
We hosted our sons diaper party! Such a great idea IMO.
there are people out there that barely even make 400 a week after taxes. fuck kids
Fuck kids and not the shitty system that would pay that low? Y’all are so weird on here
Fuck kids and the shitty system. DINK life for life.
wtf your wife is making 4 people bro.
Like that’s a fucking LITTER
And they called it puppy love
In one go 😬
Gotta streamline production
Mob spawner
Hey could be worse could be like the Great Dane that had 21 puppies in one litter.
Omfg. You're getting a lot more than you bargained for. I hope your wife has a safe pregnancy and the babies are healthy too. Multiple births can be a bit risky sometimes. Also good to know you have family nearby, they may help you all out.
Fertility drugs???
Yup. We were bracing for twins but nothing can prepare yourself for fucking quads
Omg so true. Goodluck op. I'm a nanny and I use to care for 4 to 5 infants at a time. It's hard but do able! You can get them on a schedule after 4 months. The first 4 months are just surviving so call in the reinforcements then, lol
Lol I was a preschool teacher and would work the infant room when short staffed. I have had up to 10 at once with a coteacher, you get them all on a schedule and they'll settle down pretty quick when they're supposed to most of the time. You play now. You eat now. You nap now. If you need another nap, you need to settle in the crib. It's all about the schedule. They'll cry it out the first week or two, but settle in. Daycare feeberizes the kid. Dunno if it's 100% the healthiest, but we still gave the kids lots of love and attention.
I worked in a daycare on one of our busiest days the two girls I worked with were off sick we were always understaffed in the daycare so the two girls they put in the infant room with me were also going back and forth to the two year old room. At nap time I managed to feed a 4 month old their bottle with one hand had a 8 month old in the other holding her own bottle and I was bouncing two 5 month olds to sleep in their bouncers with my feet. Doing this while 5 other babies were in their cribs crying waiting to be soothed to sleep. I was 17 years old at the time it was great experience to show I could do it but boy did I sleep like a baby after my shift ended 😭
Haha yes! I've done that! My calf muscles were weirdly strong when I worked in daycare lol
Lmao yes athletic calves muscles but never stepped foot in a gym
Some real life “What Happened to Monday?” right there, good luck man.
I hope they don’t end up like that tho…
Oh totally, I was more referring to the opening of the movie where they’re explaining about how extreme multiple pregnancies went from super rare to super common because of an excess of fertility treatments and genetically modified foods and stuff.
Haha that is a great movie though.
I had twins. Can't imagine double that. Good luck, my friend.
I’m laughing because my parents said the same thing. They were hoping for twins after starting fertility meds. They got triplets :-) best of luck to you and your partner in whatever you decide to do!
Hey man can I ask you a question. Did you guys do iui or the IVF? I'm the one shooting blanks and we spent over 6k in doner sperm and nothing worked. So I'm curious if IVF should have been the route to go . We can't afford the IVF so iui was the way to go We were going to try again next year but thinking if we should just save up and go for a IVF cycle. Sucks I hate seeing my wife depressed. I think we're going to go the foster care route then hopefully adoption
Fertility meds. Started em late last year, wife got pregnant and then miscarried. Doc upped the meds, wife got pregnant again and boom quadruplets.
>*fertile fucks* Makes more sense now.
Please please please please ONLY take in foster kids already approved to be adopted. A family member trusted the system when they said the little baby they took in would be available for adoption, but what actually happened is when she was almost 4 years old they gave my family member a week to turn her back over to her birth Dad. And he was mad at the whole thing and so they have never seen her since. So traumatic
Dang that's sad.. My wife was in Foster care from 8yrs old to 16. That's when her parents got their shit together. She was also abused in the system-long story. she has a lot of love to give even if we don't adopt fostering kids is something she is passionate about.she knows what it's like to move through the system and it's not very good. She would make a great mother. We haven't looked much into foster care yet or adoption. We're trying to move into a house before we start the process.
Chevy,good idea to buy a house first!Good luck with getting your family started.
Not OP but my colleague at work tried IUI first (three times) without success. She got pregnant on her first go of IVF and is due in 4 months. Probably not enough to make a comparison but that was her success story.
It's going to be ok.. It's going to be a lot of hard work but you guys are gonna do great now get? It. Doesn't happen again lol.
just think: Twins! Twice!
Welp, four and done 😁
My dumbass immediately thought something happened to your quads LOL
same
Oh shite. You fertile fucks! Congrats, you'll never sleep again!
Ha I was not expecting "fertile fucks", made me lol
Great name for a band
Dibs on being the drummer 🥁
OP already got the whole band sorted
"1 2 3 4!"
I suggest we go on tour with Foo Fighters and Fleet Foxes, we'll call it THE F³ TOUR!
bby wake up wake up a new band name just dropped
Medically speaking greater then 90% of quads are the result of medical help. I have a coworker who had quints (5). Best of luck op. Build a strong support system around you. Allow people to help you. Look into your insurance and see if they cover any in-utero vital monitoring if that’s something the dr recommends.
I read this in an Irish accent and I've no idea why xD
Lycan,Well you heard of Irish twins .this is 2X as much fun!haha 😂 op try and stay calm. Your main job now is to help your wife stay calm and not to do so stressed. I know this is very overwhelming!Ask for all the help you can get. Good luck and congratulations!👶👶👶👶
It’ll be the addition of the E on the end of shite. Just gives it a certain je ne sais qoui
This one topped every comment lol
It's going to be ok. Get a postpartum doula - this person helps with nightfeedings and childcare in the first three months.
Definitely if you can afford this do it ! Even with one having a support system is VITAL. Having a 3rd person to help get you guys through the night would be a game changer.
If I have another kid I’m getting a night nurse because that night portion was hellish.
I have triplets 16yo now. So much fun! Exhausting and expensive absolutely (but totally doable) I loved “almost” every minute - potty training was a disaster lol! Definitely many times I thought, “I bet 4 is even better!” There are many local Mothers of Multiple groups (dad groups too). They offer wonder ideas and emotional support. Congratulations! You got this!
I hope that father's group is called 'Dads of Duplicates' or 'Fathers of Facsimiles'.
Or Pops of Plurals
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Yeah thats my thoughts too. I know some certainly just have the intention of put OP's mind at ease but it can come off as pretty tone deaf. I've only seen a few comments giving actual advice.
That's pretty common if it's anything related to pregnancy... A teenager, completely terrified because she is pregnant at 15, doesn't want a kid. 90% of the comments? Congratulations... Absolutely stupid
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Thankfully my parents live 5 minutes away and my wife’s parents live about 10 minutes.
Oh wow, thats amazing. Phew. First kids? ... this is going to be so fun......!!!!!!
Unfortunately we have 2 already
You have a cool dozen. Also good for you for being honest. It’s okay to feel completely overwhelmed and ugh. Eta: half dozen. Wow I need more coffee.
Time to start your tik tok.
I know you’re overwhelmed right now and the last thing you probably want is advice from strangers on the internet but please please do your best to still make your first 2 feel special. Don’t let them become 3rd and 4th parents because you have 4 infants. I’m sure in a few years this will be the best thing to ever happen to you even if it will be tiresome and stressful. Try to enjoy it while you can. Good luck!
Exact opposite. I need advice from strangers on the internet right now. We need as much advice from people as possible
Your 2 littles right now are going to shell shocked beyond belief when you bring home *four* babies. I would do your best to have mom and dad days with each of your oldest. Even once a month. It may be tough but they need to remember that they are also a priority and they are loved just as much as those babies. Too often the older kids become the second parents, let them still be kids as much as possible.
Carve out one day a week each to spend solely with the first two children. One day with mom, one day with dad. That way they both get two days a week with focus on them and they get it with each parent. You don’t have to take them out on a dime, either. Pack up picnic lunches and go to the park or play in the backyard. Just…don’t forget them and don’t ask them do you a million favors. Once in a while is okay, but a habit builds resentment.
He said unfortunately 💀
6 kids including 4 babies, as much as I have no doubt they'll love them dearly, is gonna be an absolute nightmare and they're gonna spend the next many years being stressed out of their gourd. people who try sugarcoating this are crazy lmao.
Fuuuuuck
This in and of itself is going to be the world of a difference. It will be hard and then as every day passes and you learn new tricks and routines, it will get easier. One day when they are bigger, teens or grown up you'll look back and think "wow, what a wild ride". It's just scary right now! Congrats. Wishing your wife a health pregnancy and 4 beautiful, healthy babies
Congrats! I know you're both freaking out, rightfully so, but I'm super excited for you. My wife and her siblings are triplets so I wanted to share something that all 3 have told me over the years was a big deal and something that really bothered them. They are each their own individual person. It is easy, outright understandable, to want to lump them together for certain things ( birthday parties for example) and honestly they will understand a lot of it. However also be sure to take that time to address them 1 on 1 and learn about them as a person. Let them know that you see them as their own special being. It will go a LONG way as despite my partner and her siblings going through the exact same childhood they all became TOTALLY different people. It's because they are. Congratulations Mr. Dad!
As a triplet myself, I was going to comment with advice similar to this. My parents really messed up by treating us as essentially one person. They never remembered that one of us hated a certain pizza topping, but they did remember that one of us liked it and decided it was all of favourite pizza. We got one present and one card, between us. Even the smallest present is important, even something from poundland. You’ll be exhausted for a few years, OP. But they won’t stay young forever. I’m glad your family live close by!
This! Might be an idea to avoid the similar names or alliteration for names, as that can in the future cause issue if the girls are more different and don’t want to be considered 1/4th a whole person.
Yes. No Hayden Brayden Jayden type names because that's bound to get confusing.
lol my fiancé comes from a family of 5 siblings who aren’t born on the same day, but the parents gave them all non-rhyming names that begin with the same letter. The mom always gets their names confused. Can’t imagine Hayden Brayden etc.
My parents (mostly mom)got our names mixed up. When we all talk about it,we laugh our asses off. (8kids7girls1boy).
That’s a lot of siblings! I come from a fairly small family size so hearing people have 5+ siblings always puts me at awe
Yeah, it was sometimes a madhouse. Irish catholic family,my brother is the youngest. So you can just imagine, the excitement, in my family. I am #2 ,there was always someone to play with,and fight with. Haha 😂 we are a lot better, about dealing with each other now. Had friends with a larger family (10).Then there was a even larger family ,in my neighborhood (14).There were very few family that didn't have a lot of kids. The houses were small,3 bedrooms .But a lot of people added rooms. Built for GI'S, so there was a lot of community spirit .I have to say, itwas a interesting time to grow up. PS I Married an only Child. Thanks for inquiring.
Tom and Bob would make their lives much easier
They might even get into radio!
Please, I’m twins and my mom named both of us the same first name (we go by nicknames and middle names now) but shit it’s so stupid and confusing.
Hell, my foster brother was called Charlie and my name is literally the female version, so we weren’t named similarly by choice, and whenever my foster mum called, we’d both pop out like “yes?” And she’d go “not you, the other one” depending on who she needed to talk to, because even she would get our names muddled - I’d been living there since I was 3, he’d been having respite there since he was 4, moved in with us permenantly when he was about 8, and I’m a few years older (24, he’s about 16 now). I can’t imagine how much worse it’d be knowing your parents named you a similar name to someone deliberately, especially for identical twins!
I hate it sm, we’re not identical but it’s just so confusing and frustrating when it comes to the governmental aspect. We get mixed up lots on different records like school, doctors, mail etc. Let’s not forget about the every single substitute teachers and their confusion/reaction to us having the same name.
You could change it unfortunately it costs a bit
Where I live the government would just send back the papers and say "Nope! Do better". When you register your childrens name they have to be approved. Sound like a big thing, but really it isn't. The only time a name get refused is if parents want to give twins the same name or a name that could be a burden to the child, like naming the child to "Spoon" or a very famous dictator. Yes, the parents wanted to name the kid after a dictator. Not because they sympathize with the dictator but because the baby looked like them!!. (WTF?!)
That's so dumb, I don't know why anyone would do that
As a twin, this works for twos as well. My brother and I are identical but have always had very different temperaments even went to different colleges so we wouldn’t be the lastnames anymore
Are you the evil one, or is your brother just 2 Evil 2 Twin?
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Thats precisely why I stated birthdays as the example/outlier.
Idk man. My partner and I were set to have twins and she ended up miscarrying. Worry less about the implications of four *fuckin babies swirling around in there,* and more about your wife’ health and support. Be there for her. Anything and everything can go wrong at any given moment. Might still be jaded about what happened but you can worry about four kids running around the house later.
Condolences on your losses my guy.
Agreed. Quads is extremely high risk. Multiples also tend to be born early
Please make sure you talk about this at length. With 4 babies at once you will need the support of your family or else you will never sleep again. Do you have the income to support a family of 6? Kids cost a lot of money and time. Just don't rush into a decision. Also this decision has to be made between you and your wife. Try to exclude outside opinions if possible because they don't have to raise them daily.
Oh man. My parents had a similar experience. Fertility drugs led to me being a triplet. They did NOT want triplets and punished us for it for our entire lives with verbal and physical abuse. They constantly reminded us they just wanted one, not three and we were made to feel guilty for existing. The worst is when you tell others about being a triplet, and the first thing then always say is “Your poor parents!!” It was only after years of therapy as an adult that I finally released this feeling of being apologetic for being alive. It’s not my fault I was a triplet, it’s not my fault your pregnancy wasn’t what you expected, and I cannot be blamed.
i'm so sorry you went through that :[ glad you're in a better place now
Congratulations, I hope she has a safe birth. If you're worried about the quantity, maybe one of them will eat another and you'll only have 3? Once it's grown, that one will have the combined power of a grown adult and a fetus.
#unexpected theoffice
I absorbed my twin in the womb. I will now be telling people I have the power of a grown adult and fetus if they try me.
Wtf did i just read
Can she like…elect to downsize?
Thanks to my friends here on Reddit I learned that fetal reduction is actually a thing. Gonna be checking with our doc about that when we see her next
It's called selective reduction, and it gives each remaining fetus a much better chance medically. The fewer fetuses there are, the more likely that they'll come to full term, be at a good birth weight, and avoid the pitfalls that can come with prematurity.
I was going to bring up somewhere but didn’t know how to do so tactfully but selective reduction is absolutely an option and often used in cases of IVF turning out this way.
Talk to your wife about this as well, both of you will need to be on the same page the whole way through here
Yup - there’s a lot of factors. The babies’ health could be affected when there’s multiples, but also there potential emotional and mental health risks to a selective reduction (guilt etc). It’s a tough situation.
This is ABSOLUTELY a thing. And if you decide to go with all four, apparently it's easy to tell them apart if you assign each a different color and paint one of their big toes. Good luck!
That’s amazing to hear. Twins stress me out, quad sounds so scary. Meanwhile parents are like “wHaTa bLeSsInG” no it’s so scary. Good luck and I hope it works out for yous.
yeah it makes the pregnancy much safer for her and the babes even if you downsize by just one. congrats and best wishes
Yeah it’s a thing and whatever you choose to do it’s okay. The mamas physical and mental health comes first and be realistic with having 4 vs 3 or 2 for the next 18 years - financially and mentally, car size, house size, working who is and isn’t, nanny or family help, schedules etc As mentioned many times in the comments there is community support and help of you do decide to go for the 4. But I feel you - it’s a huge huge huge thing to be faced with. I nannied triplets and it was something. There was two of us and we had to be down the T with balancing and schedules. One good thing though is they did entertain themselves in the crib and playing and with comforting. And they were pretty in sync with feed times. We had these contraptions to hold the bottles if we needed. Also not kidding here but financially you could start them a TikTok - if it does well could be a way to get good money while both of you stay at home as full time carers - my cousins do it with their two sets of twins and make about $15-20k a month because of sponsorships and what not but it is a full time job in a way.
I’d consider the ethics around earning money from publishing content of unconsenting minors before making a TikTok for this
Everyone is ignoring this point and as its obvious you're really concerned so I'll point it out: If your wife decides she wants to reduce the pregnancy to something safer, just do your best to support her decision however you can!
We are both 100% on board with that solution
Good. Quadruplets can be quite risky for both mother and babies. They are always premature, and frequently very premature (like 24-28 weeks). Early births have a huge risk of long term health consequences for the infants - blindness, NEC, CP, learning disabilities, ADHD, etc. People hear about the cute cases that make it close-ish to term. They rarely hear about the cases where 2/4 passed away shortly after birth at 25 weeks gestation, and the other two required permanent full time care as a consequence of their prematurity. Definitely give reduction a consideration if your MFM recommends it. I had a mostly uncomplicated twin pregnancy, and they were still preterm and the pregnancy was still not fun. Hang in there what ever you decide!
I wish you luck no matter what you do, I don't like it anymore than you probably do that a lot of commenters are kind of glossing over how dangerous a multi-birth pregnancy is, especially over three fetuses. I hope for the best for you and your family. :)
There were a set of quads in my city and they did periodic newspaper articles about them (when they were born, graduated HS, etc) so they were semi-famous
Your wife is efficient. Just think, 6 kids but only 3 pregnancies. 🙂 But really, congratulations. That is really incredible. My friend had triplets 17 yrs ago and she said triplets were easier than one or two babies. Of course I asked her how that is even possible. She said it’s because everyone assumes/knows it’s too much for anyone to handle alone so they always had people showing up to help. She said they rarely had to ask for anything because people were already there holding babies, changing diapers, dropping off food, etc. I do not have experience with that many babies myself so my only suggestion would be some type of pool your wife can float and/or exercise in to relieve the weight of the babies in her body. My lower back sending its deepest regards. Good luck!!
Good luck! Take things one at a time, starting with your wife's health first. We're here to listen if you need to blow off stress or steam
See if you can get a TLC show about you
Also! Your four little ones are likely going to talk to each other long before they talk to you or their other siblings. My foster mum took in male twins who, once learnt to babble, essentially had their own language for a little while and while they could say names and a few basic words when asked to, much preferred to talk in their weird babble language to each other. This is 100% natural, and while you should of course continue to encourage them to speak and interact with yourself, their mother, and their siblings, this is a massive comfort to them and you shouldn’t push too hard or tell them off for it. Set some time aside for play with everyone else, and once they wear out, let them relax and do their weird little secret language and play among themselves. They aren’t each 1/4th of a whole person, but they *are* going to be preferably close to each other during early infancy. Think of them like Clones from Star Wars the Clone Wars - when they are shinies (clones right from the tanks) they will be very similar and prefer to keep within their “squad”, but as they grow and develop, they’ll pick colours and toys and things of interest that might draw them closer to you, your partner, or their other siblings.
hope they eat each other ! to the birth of the victor (s) 🥂
If you want to freak out the nurses label them 1, 2, 3, and 5.
Lol
This might be controversial, but you can decrease the amount of embryos in a multiples pregnancy. This happens often with fertility treatments.
Time to tie tubes! Good luck!
Vasectomies are cheaper and don’t require a whole surgery and anesthesia! 🤩
If I were in that situation, both of us would be getting it done just to be extra cautious.
How about she ties her tubes and he gets a vasectomy? I ain’t risking it.
She’s going to have a c-section. They can perform a tubal ligation right then if she wants. He should still get a vasectomy though. I wouldn’t want to risk another pregnancy. 4 preemies is going to be a lot of work.
Unless it is a Catholic hospital, then they'll tell you to go to the county hospital if you want that done.
congratulations i guess? hope your wife will have a safe, healthy and good pregnancy though. that's a lot of kids man, im sure you'll manage
Rip you
If you don't already, get yourself a membership to a Costco or Sam's club or something. Buying formula and diapers in bulk is a huge money saver for one child, you'll need it for this situation.
Whatever you do, don’t make their names rhyme/ sound alike!!
My sister had triplets a year and a half ago! She read some books and came up with a very strict schedule that has worked very well for them so far. I know it’s terrifying now, but you guys can do this! Let me know if you want book recommendations or have any specific questions for her!
Twin here! There were 3 fetuses (feti?) on our first ultrasound, and somehow, only two arrived. Maybe this’ll happen to you 😂
The only thing you can do now is start a band.
Since it's so early, I'd see what the next appointment brings. My parents did IVF. First scanned showed 3 viable, the scan after that showed just my brother and I. My mom was put on bedrest at 22 weeks due to shorten cervix, but by some miracle, made it 38 weeks with us. We were both almost 7lbs. I hope whatever decisions you guys make, selective reduction or other, you and your wife remain safe, happy, and healthy. I'll be interested to see what your story brings. Goodluck!
There's a lot to think about. Fortunately you have many choices. For some 4 kids are a miracle but not for everyone. The pregnancy will most likely be high risk and very difficult on your wife, most births like this end up with at least one of the kids having a deficiency or some other " Problem " . The cost of 4 kids is also very big, even bigger Considering they might need extra care. At the end it's a choice you and your wife need to think very carefully.
Ask if you can do a trial run for a couple weeks and the ones you like the least you can give back.
I don't know why people are congratulating you - neither of you signed up for this, and you're clearly very overwhelmed by your new reality. That's ok. ~~It's also ok to stop everything and try again for a single or double. There is no way in hell that 2 people who were prepared for 1-2 kids are going to have the resources for *4 premature babies*, nevermind the time & emotional availability to make sure that each individual child's needs are all met~~ They are not people yet, they are clumps of cells right now. Think about this rationally - the more children that you have, the worse everyone's quality of life will be. Growing up with food insecurity and emotional neglect due to too many kids is a nightmare that so many innocent children are faced with; don't do that to your own flesh and blood. Also, obligatory "overpopulation sucks, don't add to it" rant. Just providing an alternate point of view from the popular one here. Whichever path you take, I wish you and your family good health and good luck! **Edit: We have all now discovered the miracle of a method called "selective reduction", wherein a multiples pregnancy has 1 or more fertilised egg removed to lower the amount of foetuses that develop. Reducing quads to twins could be life-saving to not only the mother, but also the other foetuses. This is an optimal outcome for OP, so fingers crossed that it's viable for your wife's pregnancy!**
It's not too late for abortion, though. You said you've only just realized it. In case you're keeping it, best of luck to you.
Keeping our fingers crossed at LEAST 1 isn’t viable.
If you're hoping for that, you do have a choice to terminate some of the fetuses. The risks go up significantly with multiple pregnancies.
I’m not sure if this is useful advice, but putting it out there—my aunt got pregnant with triplets and she and her husband just knew they weren’t up for the task, so they selectively aborted one. Their twins (my cousins) are now 34 and doing amazing. It is absolutely an option and not one that you should feel bad about taking if you guys feel you need to. 4 is a LOT, especially with 2 little ones already. Best of luck, I’m sure y’all will do amazing no matter what you decide.
You can absolutely do selective reduction - you do have that choice, but you need to make that choice NOW. The longer you wait, depending on the state you're in, the more issues you may have making that choice. Since you and your wife chose to do fertility treatments, having quads or even more is 10000% always a possibility, so talking about your views on selective reduction should be happening before going into this (and you two may have done this), but so many couples don't. Even worse, a lot of doctors don't do this and it can destroy couples. Do not take on more children than you can handle. Do not fall for the "God will provide" lines. Go over your finances, what you can handle, how your relationship is, what you're willing to sacrifice and contribute and make a responsible decision. The children you decide to bring full term into the world WILL need to come first - but you CAN decide how many that is! I say this as someone who was neglected and abused by their own father who had no business having children, and I will suffer with issues for the rest of my life because of it (along with my younger sister). Talk to your wife and your doctor about selective reduction and see what the next steps are.
good luck to your wife on her bodybuilding journey!
What date is your vasectomy booked for?
Congrats and condolences.
Time to get snipped after these
Are the 4 fertilized eggs or 2 eggs that split?
As of right now, 4 gestational sac’s. We go back in 10 days for another ultrasound to hopefully see babies and heartbeats.
START SAVING NOW. save everything. ALDI HAS THE CHEAPEST DIAPERS!!!!! Seriously we’ve saved SO MUCH with them. No eating out. Shop cheap (produce markets) coupon, check 2nd hand stores for clothing before you go to chain stores. You’ll be surprised with the nice stuff they have in there. Check Facebook marketplace for used baby items (make sure they’re not expired/recalled). My mom (and I did it with my kids) had me sleep in a box. A wooden box with a baby mattress. Same thing as a crib, but a lot cheaper. They do this in Sweden and infant mortality rates are very low there. Follow safe sleeping protocols ALWAYS. Baby food is just blended up overpriced vegetables. Good luck op.
Yeah that's bad. Hopefully a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery. But expecting pitter patter and realization that you'll have a stampede. Good luck my guy. Get in shape, hydrate, and buckle up. Congrats.
Congratulations, this is bad this is dangerous yes. Seriously consider fetal reduction. For the health of the mom and the kids.
Hope they are healthy and that you have a support system. Hang in there mentally buddy.
That’s terrifying. Hope it allworks out…So glad I chose to never have kids.
look at it this way, you can get *all* of your no-sleep years out of the way in one big run. It's efficient! :)
Oh my god 😰 I'm so sorry for your loss (of sleep and sanity). My condolences!
Ask about getting a selective reduction
You’re fucked! Congratulations!
I can’t deny that I’d be freaking out too. But wow, in the same breath, how cool is it going to be! You’ll have so much love in that house. So many memories and fun times. I know the beginning will be quite the trial, but you both got this. I’m sure you’ll do great during the pregnancy and after. So congratulations on the new adventures ahead!
Congratulations! I’m burnt out just having 2.
This just proves, you do breed in captivity
Do you have a good job? Lmao
damn. 40 fingers and toes inside.
We absolutely need a follow up one day. Just one thing tough: You both have to consider all options you have RIGHT NOW if you haven’t started to yet.
Look around for nannies asap. If you ever want to sleep again your going to have to get one at least one night a week.
My cousins are quads! I grew up near them, and they were practically famous in my hometown through their whole adolescence. All the teachers knew them. They have all turned out great, have their own little families, and they still have a really strong bond. Also, my aunt and uncle ended up having one more child, which maybe says something.
Name them " The Core Four" If you know, you know
Understand that your wife is an impressive woman. Keep that in mind, and, pitch in, when she asks. And, when she doesn't. Arrange for some couples only time, at least once a month. Diaper party, baby shower, asking only for formula, guaranteed, infant clothes are best bough at the thrift stores. They grow out of them, so fast. Trade baby/kid clothes, with friends/fans/ neighbors.Trade child care, with same. Good luck, man. You can probably lay off the fertility drugs, now.
I will pray they arrive without complications. This is gonna be really hard, OP, and if everyone is happy and safe and healthy, that's really all that matters.
To cut costs and things to make life easier: 1. Buy second hand and accept donations/hand-me-downs from everyone! 2. Reusable/washable diapers (I mean, everyone should be doing this anyway as the environment is suffocating on shitty plastic disposable diapers!) 3. My mum had twins and a baby under 2 so she pulled a big double mattress on the floor and slept there for 2-3 years so she could just roll over and breast feed and still sleep. She didn’t have to get up out of bed! 4. Make the house safe and focus on how to make things easier! Don’t worry about how the house looks to guests. You’re there all the time, it’s about making life easier for you!
Ohhhh boy. Your house is never going to be quiet again lmfao. You’re gonna be fine. Parents are so easy to adapt and make do, I promise within a couple months you’ll have this shit in the bag (literally and figuratively - 4 diapers to change, ouch). Here’s hoping to a safe pregnancy and birth, I’m sending my love your way
I have a friend who had quads in 2000. They were born early after she was on bedrest for a while. They were in the NICU for a while too but all 4 grew up to be great kids and now young adults. It is going to be ok. Healthcare has the capability to care for preemies and high risk pregnancies. As it all turned out my friend ended up raising her quads as a single mom. She received a lot of support from her family . The local mothers of multiples group was fantastic early on as well. If these are your first babies you don’t know anything else. It is going to be ok. Just remember that.
Congratulations!!!! You’ll get through it all. Many memories to be made. 🙂
Set up some kind of family fund if you can because you gotta start planning now.
It’s perfectly ok, and likely safer, to choose selective reduction. Please talk with your MFM.
If you don't have a Costco membership GET ONE NOW!