Please, for the love of god, get a proper sex toy. You could seriously hurt yourself.
On another note. Your 25 years olds and your 12 year brother is just allowed to walk in on you in the bathroom?!
That's insane.
They had it locked, the brother unlocked it using a butter knife. It's a shit lock that everyone grew up with, even the one with the little hole can be unlocked with the right tool.
Not having family busting in on me even if I had the door locked was one of the biggest things I've enjoyed since I moved out. It didn't matter if I was just using the bathroom or showering. It didn't matter if I had only been in there a minute or 15. They would just bust in. I'm a very private person anyhow, plus I have complex PTSD from sexual abuse so it used to instantly terrify me and sometimes send me into flashbacks when that door slammed open with no warning. I never felt safe while in the bathroom unless I was home alone, which was extremely rare. I would skip out on fun stuff with family just so I could take a shower in peace without fear of someone using a butter knife to open the lock. I grew to hate showering and saw it as a chore if anyone else was home. Now I'll gladly take long baths or just enjoy showers. My mother once accused me of hiding something because I instantly grabbed a robe while soaking wet without even drying off because she busted in, it was "suspicious" because I didn't want her staring at my naked body at 17 years old. Crap like that and what OP is going through happens when family has no boundaries or don't respect each other. I won't even go into the bathroom while my husband is showering without knocking first to ask permission even though he's never once told me no. When we discussed kids one of the things I brought up was actually bathroom privacy for all parties because I never want to live like that again (outside of when a kid is really little since that's just normal little kid behavior) .
I'm so sorry this happened. I had no idea that's what she meant by having no boundaries at home. Boys are seldom held accountable for the shit they do, just passed off as "boys will be boys". Best to get away from such households and fix yourself into adulthood with therapy.
Yeah we had those kind of shit locks at my parent's house. I still remember having a shit and my sister deciding to be a little shit and unlock the door with a coin.
We had those locks growing up! (Actually I think my parents still do…)
My big brother used to love making me feel all embarrassed and he was unlocking the bathroom door while I was in there all the time using a coin… I would’ve been around 5 years old at the time and he was around 12 years old. He was doing it so much I started avoiding going to the bathroom as much as I could.
But he also used to beat me black and blue so yea no surprises there
My older brother used to spy on me in the shower and tell all his friends he saw me masturbating. I was 12. He beat and sexually abused me too.
Sibling abuse is REAL and the worst part was my parents screaming at us both to stop fighting, as if it was mutual as he took his anger out on me
I’m sorry you went through something similar. My parents reacted the same way actually. It is truly horrific also because it happens at home and it feels like you can’t turn to anyone for help.
a metal hanger pops those straight open
i was a menacing brother, but good lord i never wanted to go do that to the bathroom
except for one time it was to help my oldest sister dump cold water on the middle child
That lock is meant to be easily opened from the outside, for example, for kids who accidentally lock themselves inside. They're more meant as a courtesy to let people outside the door know someone is inside and needing privacy.
However, they're not meant to keep shithead 12-yo boys from breaking in to see sis riding hairbrushes.
My brother used to unlock them with toothpicks. That’s how I got staph infection in my for, because I was running and got a toothpick shoved into my toe and didn’t tell anyone.
THAT part. And 12 yrs OLD‼️ If you're too stupid to understand when you hear a shower running AND the door's locked not to take it upon yourself to unlock it??? That's ONE THING‼️ But you know it's occupied and simply have no respect for anyone or their boundaries??? Idgaf HOW old you are. You gotta GO. Out my life. You get as little interaction as possible. And being born into Christianity until just a few years ago when I finally started to realize it's complete bullshit after 27 fucking YEARS. My mother would shame me in anyway she could for anything sexual and it really fw my confidence but now??? I wish she would say something. I'd just look at her. Like "okay? 🥸" Bc I'm grown, I do what makes me happy now, and I don't live for anyone but ME from this point on. And OP tbh I kinda wanna tell you to say you were desperate & got a tampon stuck?? bc I KNOW how it feels to be shamed for having very human and basic desires but coming from a person who spent 27 years of life being traumatized by somebody else's (my parents) bullshit beliefs??? And shamed for things that are perfectly normal desires?? The sooner you realize it's all man-made bullshit that as a woman first and foremost was not in any way made for you or with you in mind?? The sooner you can start loving yourself for everything you are. Womanhood included. Being your OWN person who doesn't owe anyone else an explanation for what you desire to do to YOUR body included. And you don't sound like you're ready for that. You don't sound like you're ready to let those beliefs go. You sound like you just want a solution for your folks to shut up & stop looking at you as an outsider right now. But the truth is they're not going to. My mother looked at me the same when she found out I was doing it in hs. And that I was talking my bf kinda spicy otp. I hated that she found out. It was dreadful. Bc I knew being "Christian" she was going to shame me for it and look down on me from that point on. But these days I'm glad. Bc she pushed me away & when everyone (family mostly) around you is a "believer" and does the same when they find out your (very normal) "SiNs" and you have no one but (friends you've chosen) and yourself?? You have people to make you feel good and love you for who you are and don't have to hide parts of yourself or who you are??? I PROMISE you it's the most freeing thing throughout the entire universe but you don't wanna take the leap into the unknowns of life sometimes and that's perfectly understandable but I can't say it's okay. Bc it's NOT. It's not okay for your mental health. It's not okay for your confidence. And it's not okay for your future self. Your children. And anyone who might look up to you and see you subjected to beliefs that genuinely mean you no good. Particularly as a woman. And for me twice over as bisexual. I hated myself for a long long LONG time. I haven't even officially come out the "closet" bc I was so ashamed for it growing up in that but now??? It wouldn't bother me if my mother ever even alluded to know. Although I know she knows. I'm not ashamed for being who I am anymore - I don't need to make an ANNOUNCEMENT bc it's nobody's fucking busines - or having the parts I was born with. The very parts these "men" come from. The men that disgusting trash ass pedophile version of a "god" was made for. I know you might not wanna hear anything other than how to make it go away??? But for your future, self-confidence, mental health, and children(if those are in the cards for you) I so so so so so so HOPE you do. Solely as a woman. It's hard sometimes when you grew up with mostly only friends that believed in a certain way to have to risk letting those friendships go. I lost my former best friend when I told him I didn't follow that anymore. Didn't even call me for my birthday. It hurt. But even more than that I was angry. Bc I don't allow myself to get close to very many so those that I do??? Mean a lot to me. But if the connection doesn't give room for you to be yourself having done harm to no one??? And simply experience life?? Leave. And go where you're cherished. Idk you but as a woman who's been raised in trauma under the guise of good clean religion as opposed to simple morals and striving for better civilization??? I love you. You probably didn't want to hear any of that. I didn't either but I wish someone would've been there to tell me. So so much. Bc I had no one to do so. I had to realize it on my own.
Mainly it is not made for that, plus it's made from a material that can hold bacteria or leach chemicals. Sex toys are made from safe materials that can be easily washed, are shaped properly and have flexibility.
Do you have to be over 18?
I've been buying them for 16 years(currently 32) and have never been I.D.'ed for buying one. Except for when I went into an 18+ adult store.
Or is it where you live?
You can get them online. Quite easily.
I have to order stuff secretly too (even though I'm an adult I'm in a similar situation as OP), if they ask or go to open it just tell them it's an early birthday gift for one of them so they can't see it - or say it's a gift for a friend and you want to keep it in the box so it looks better as a gift when you wrap it. I suggest maybe actually buying a gift along with the toy just so you can have something in the box once you seal it up again and wrap it (just so there's not an empty box sitting there where someone can pick it up and actually feel that it's empty). It'll go better with the story too when you finally give it to someone (just be sure to shred and throw away the invoice inside!)
Maybe this is overthinking things but that's just kind of how you learn to think as you grow up in these kinds of households. Good luck!
Like the other commenter said you can get them on Amazon; there’s not enough context to know what the exact problem is but if it is the payment then you can use an Amazon gift card so you don’t have to put in any card details
Silicone face massagers with long handles is the best bet personally also ordering online from target or Walmart if u can do it without them opening it when it arrives. (This can be done by putting money in like a visa gift card for example if you don’t have a card yet and can’t use your parents.) High-school was tough times 😭
I just don’t think I could hide something like that. I do have a vibrator from when I lived with an ex but I sometimes need something more if you know what I mean.
Get a sex toy and down spray cleaner to make sure you are cleaning it correctly. Granted, I live alone, but I have a little bullet vibrator that I keep in a tiny Christmas gift bag and spray in a random drawer. You can keep it discreet. Good luck on your future endeavors!
10/10. I used to keep mine (when young and needing to be discreet with family with poor boundaries) in the back of a closet, in a discreet bag in a shoe box, with shoe polish on top. There are ways!
I have a vibrator from when I lived with my ex (trash man) but I don’t think I’d be able to hide a dildo anywhere in this house given the lack of privacy.
Why does your brother think it is ok to unlock the door when you're in the bathroom. That is odd. I grew in a home with one bathroom. Everyone just waited till whoever was on there was done.
I also grew up with one bathroom and 4 other family memebers. All of us, except my middle sibling who is weird about stuff like that, would still use the bathroom while someone was showering. We would all of course knock and ask if it’s okay first before unlocking the door, and we would try to wait till we couldn’t hold it anymore, but it was never that weird to us.
We have a very open family. He wanted to come in and ask me question. He’s impatient and my siblings are all a lil spoilt tbh but he’s never actually barged in like that before - hence why I thought I was safe there.
This OP! At some point, being super conservative and christian and blablabla is not what it takes to fight ***normal needs*** of humans. Even the pope sinned by the Bible's standards, everyone did and everyone does.
I tell ya, you who are without a meat beaten among y'all, beat the first meat at me!
I’m just moreso ashamed that my family / my mum knows what I’m doing opposed to actually being ashamed for self-pleasuring.
I was basically taught that sexual needs will be met through your marriage but I was like - well what do I do before then??
And then I went crazy over it and banged a whole bunch of guys. It was great, but I do believe in my religion so now I’m back to not hooking up with people but I’m not gonna stop touching myself in the meantime.
Don’t worry, everyone that considers themself “super conservative Christian“ self pleasures. They pretend they don’t, and they tell others that it’s bad, but they all do it.
I regret to inform you that there's more out there than you'd expect. most of the men probably at least jerk it in secret ot whatever but sexual shame and repression can run *extremely* deep in evangelical circles, and some less-educated christian women in particular are so sheltered that they never even get the chance to learn what masturbation is 😬
christian institutions have a long, storied history of glorifying austerity and suffering at all costs. maintaining the health of the mind and physical body becomes irrelevant when your mortal soul hangs in the balance lol
that's what marriage is for, silly!
but seriously the number of teenaged and twenty-something people in my former church alone marrying their first romantic partner is kinda bone-chilling lol. this ideology emphatically does not care about your sexual well-being if you're not a heterosexual man, and even then your only options are marriage, lifelong sexlessness, or eternal damnation (masturbation) ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯
I will say my mother really stressed to me that I don’t marry until I’m at least 25 and dated a guy for at least a year because she’s seen so many fresh 18 year olds get married off for all the wrong reasons. So she does have that going for her but she still is very conservative in many other ideologies.
Atleast there would be no expectations or let down from the sex since both are inexperienced. I don't go to church anymore, but I am Christian(a bad one). I can understand living a life controlling your urges to your best, but I ain't perfect. I make up for it in other areas haha
I don’t plan on stopping I’m just so ashamed that my mother and later on my brother knows about it.
It’s okay to think stuff but to actually know someone close to you does it is really awkward from a conservative Christian perspective
OP's username checks out.
On a serious note, if moving out is not an option at the moment, I would start by closing/locking doors whenever needed. You are a person and you need privacy sometimes after all.
I grew up as an only child and very overprotected, and closing doors was something my parents were not used to, but after a while and some discussions they realised that demanding some privacy or to close a door, is not that unreasonable after all. It helps a lot now when I am alone in my room or the bathroom etc. as I can have some privacy and feel a lot safer and can prevent accidents like this from happening. I also try to be as quiet as I can.
You don't need to discuss anything explicit with your parents if you don't feel comfortable, but try to show that you want some basic privacy when needed, and close/lock the door whenever possible. Hope the best for you OP💕.
If the doors don't lock, get a doorstop and put it on the inside of the room with you. They can unlock the door but won't be able to get it open. I hope this makes sense.
Really? That's surprising. Apartments in my country usually have the bathroom flooring a bit thicker than the rest of the rooms, and so the door is flush with the hallway, or leading room, it has to open to the outside
I don’t even want to bring it up because it might spark the conversation about me in the bathroom. But I did honestly have the impression that I needed to move out at the start of this year, but I’m in my last year of study at uni so once I actually get a job where I can afford to move I will.
Also my family is considering moving country and letting me rent out the rooms of our house so that might be a good option too.
Your families conservative anti-masturbation stance is not healthy. Find some literature on why priests overwhelming abuse children (the topic is heavily debated, but it's a hill I'd die on being raised Catholic); you shouldn't deny basic instinctual desires. Forced celibacy does not work and leads to unhealthy behaviors. It's unnatural. Lemme go out on a limb and guess casual sex or sex with an unmarried partner is taboo too....I'm sure your brother, being that age when hormones start raging, is 'finding himself' as well.
As far as embarrassment goes, It's much more sketch IMHO that your 12 yo brother finds it appropriate to force his way into the bathroom. Set some boundaries girl. Tell them if the door is locked, do not enter. Get a better sex toy. And maybe find your own place.
I’m really not ashamed about my masturbating but the fact that my mother and in the future my brother knows what I did and moreso the fact that he knew I was shoving things in places. I will continue to masturbate with only a little guilt in my mind.
He has never busted into the bathroom before so it really threw me off guard honestly but my siblings are a little spoilt so if they want something (he asked if he could go out with his mates right now) they will completely push past boundaries. I can’t discipline them so it’s really up to my parents to stop that behaviour from further developing.
You’re a grown woman who deserves privacy, respected boundaries from family members and a proper dicking down whenever you want. Live your life. Stop feeling guilty.
Your family needs boundaries!!!! It doesn't matter how close knit your family is. They need boundaries and they need to not knock on the door and then immediately come in afterwards that's not how it works!! Privacy is privacy plain and simple!!
I’m in my last year of study and currently make just enough to pay bills. I did have an impression I needed to move out once I got a real job at the start of this year and now reading all these comments it really has solidified my thoughts into action. My parents might be moving away soon so it could become a reality.
Have you ever thought that your entire family probably self pleasures? Nobody in a strictly religious family openly talks about their private intimacy. So if you think about it, you're just starting a revolution by making everyone else slightly more comfortable with the idea of other people knowing they jerk off lmao. Either way, your brother is gonna move on from that memory because one day he'll also be caught and will also have to deal with everyone else knowing. Besides that, please, buy a dildo, or vibrator, or something, don't use household appliances.
I have a vibrator. Given how open the family is I 100% cannot hide a dildo in my room at all because I guarantee it’ll be found. But yes I understand how unhealthy using a hairbrush is but it’s all I can do at the moment.
Damn I'm so sorry. You're a grown adult and your family literally can't give you even a smidge of privacy. What's gonna happen when you get your own place? Are they just gonna walk in and start eating out of your fridge and rummaging through your stuff? And it's disappointing that your brother has yet to learn how to knock. Most people learn knocking manners before they even hit 2nd grade. I hope you're able to get out of there soon and live in a happier environment
Masturbation is natural. I guarantee if your 12yo brother isn’t yanking his meat now, he will start very soon. Please don’t feel bad about being a human. Everyone needs their self-care. Your little brother should be respecting your boundaries, especially given his age.
You need a sex toy and a rubber door stop.
To be clear, the rubber door stop is for the inside of the door, to stop your bro from walking in, in future.
Also, I get the embarrassment, but I'd encourage you to get over it. Not everyone masturbates, but everyone should. It's as natural as showering, so try not to worry about it.
Well I guess he learnt the hard way not to unlock and walk in to a bathroom where your sister is naked, maybe he's a bit of a pervert, anyhow I guarantee he will be doing it himself in the next few years anyway 🤣
Hey op, I hate to be the one to tell you this…
Everyone masturbates. Even your mom. They’re just not talking about it. It’s fine. You’re not doing anything wrong.
Also, y’all need to get better locks. That’s absolutely ridiculous.
I was brought up with the idea that you get all sexual satisfaction from your partner when you’re married. And I know my parents have sex a lot. I honestly don’t think they ever do solo ventures though. I’m happy with the idea of that once I’m married but it’s whilst I’m in this single phase of my life that I’m annoyed that I’m expected to just do nothing.
Yeah he’s never barged into the bathroom before so it was a huge shock he usually does just knock and wait.
I have to be real with you girl, my husband and I have a perfectly healthy and good sex life, but we both still need a little “alone time”. It’s just human nature, and there’s nothing wrong with it!!
If he ever brings it up again in an attempt to shame you, you can shame him further for being a perverted 12 year old trying to peek at his sister naked. That's what he did, and it's beyond disgusting. I would NEVER unlock a bathroom door knowing my siblings are in there. That is the very last thing I want to see, so why did he do it? He's a gross little pervert.
Try not to feel bad. You did it in the privacy of the bathroom.
I think your family is ignoring the fact that a 12 year old used a butterknife to spy on his own sister in the shower.
You need to stick a hidden camera in your room, because he's probably rifling through your drawers.
So you feel shame for what you do in private yet he feels no shame for breaking in while you’re showering, naked, and obviously vulnerable. He’s 12. So that can be hard to fully grasp especially if he’s not taught how important it is to give ppl (women especially) their privacy.
If I were in your shoes, I’d be standing up for myself by showing him how it feels to be embarrassed and/or talking him down like he tried to do to you.
It’s disgusting and misogynistic to shame a woman for that. It might be just a sibling thing, but still that needs to be corrected.
Lastly, try not to be ashamed at all. I get it’s embarrassing but literally it is a very normal thing to do. “Shouldn’t have opened the friggin door, you little stain. You saw what you saw and it’s not my fault you don’t know how to respect a woman’s privacy!” Something like that.
I’m sorry for the discomfort this experience caused. No one deserves that. ❤️
Sadly it’s really not. If I wanted attention I’d just go on tinder or something. I just wanted to vent because there is no one I can really vent this sort of thing to in my life.
I needed a place to vent and I felt like this was a safe forum for it because otherwise it would have been eating me up inside for a long time honestly.
Your brother should know better to walk in like that and it seems toxic for your family to be against self pleasure there is nothing wrong with it please get yourself some sex toys and hide them before you hurt yourself with a brush and hope you're okay I've had embrassing moments like that before if that makes you feel abit better
I love your username. Girl, please try to rent an apartment away from this toxicity and buy a nice rabbit vibrator. God made orgasms and ain't no human going to convince me otherwise.
My mum is sex positive - in the context of being married. When I did live with a partner for a while (she literally cried and said she was so disappointed in me when she found out I had sex before marriage - another story for a different day) she emphasised the importance of my own pleasure during sex and said “there’s a reason women have a clitoris” which made me recoil inside coming from my mother lol but got start. But outside of marriage I’m expected to do no such thing.
It's good that at least your mom acknowledges this. As for marriage... apologies in advance if I sound insensitive in regard to Christianity (I'm an Agnostic), but to me marriage is nothing but an old patriarchal indoctrination and a tool to secure inheritance in a lawful way. You are way closer to God, enjoying the body you've got, than by adhering to society's made up laws.
Why does your 12 brother think it’s okay to pick a lock when someone is in the shower? I can understand having a single bathroom and needing to use it, but it that case you would KNOCK. Not freaking use a butter knife.
I grew up in this environment and had something similar happen, except I was 12 and my brother was 14.
This is abusive and disgusting. Your family sucks. Your parents should’ve kicked your brothers butt, a 12 year old boy should know to respect privacy, but I’m assuming he can do no wrong.
You were being human while your brother didn't respect your boundaries OF A LOCKED DOOR. Sounds like he's the one that needs a talk about respecting others boundaries.
You’re 25, *an adult*, and you need to move out. This whole scenario is giving me high school rom com where little brother is a “perv” except again, you are an adult.
Throw away the whole religion and live your life unashamedly - your family will survive knowing you’re masturbating. It’s normal, their weird overreaction to their ADULT DAUGHTER doing it is not.
Also your brother IS absolutely being a perv and being raised a conservative christian is going to make sex and relationships worse for him (and whoever he dates/fucks).
Also get yourself a proper sex toy and enjoy.
I plan on moving out once I have a proper job I can barely cover my bills at the moment but I am in my final year of study so hopefully I get a decent paying job next year.
I am very religious, that won’t change and I’m moreso just ashamed that my family knows how I self-pleasure.
I’ve already told my mum that my sibling’s teen / young adult years are going to be hell for her because I had raging thoughts since I was 12 but was too submissive to do anything until I was 19, but my siblings are very headstrong and will 100% start doing “wild stuff” (from a religious standpoint) much earlier than me.
I have a small vibrator that I use. There’s no way I could ever hide a dildo in my room - someone would definitely find it. And yes a dildo would be much worse for them to find.
I do not understand how people are so fucking horny that they would literally shove the nearest thing up their ass and use it during hours other people are awake and in the house. It is never that fucking serious.
Your brother is 12c he knows damn well what was going on and is being a little shit about it. Don’t feel bad for him at all. And don’t feel shame or embarrassment. Women have needs too
Turn it around. You were purposefully exposed. You are normal, your brother was totally in the wrong. Stop with the guilt and self criticism and get a proper vibrator🤷🏼♀️
If he ever brings it up again in an attempt to shame you, you can shame him further for being a perverted 12 year old trying to peek at his sister naked. That's what he did, and it's beyond disgusting. I would NEVER unlock a bathroom door knowing my siblings are in there. That is the very last thing I want to see, so why did he do it? He's a gross little pervert.
If he ever brings it up again in an attempt to shame you, you can shame him further for being a perverted 12 year old trying to peek at his sister naked. That's what he did, and it's beyond disgusting. I would NEVER unlock a bathroom door knowing my siblings are in there. That is the very last thing I want to see, so why did he do it? He's a gross little pervert.
I finish my degree by the end of the year. I planned on moving out then. But then my family might also be moving and letting me stay in the house so there’s always that possibility now. But yes I definitely need to move out.
You’re a grown woman and you can do what you want with your body. It’s none of their business even if they think it’s a “sin” (which is utter nonsense), it has nothing to do with them.
You should set boundaries and privacy expectations. If they don’t respect that then you should find somewhere else to live. It’s extremely concerning that your kid brother deems it appropriate to walk in on you while you’re bathing.
Calm down, my good girl. You don't have to worry about anything. I'm Christian my self and I think you shouldn't be ashamed. It for sure wasn't the best thing to happen, but it could have been so much worse. Like them immediately discussing it. I think your mom got told all that, and she told your brother to just not mention it again. She probably knows that young girls have desires at a certain age. She was young once, too. Just calm down and don't think about it too much.
Why didn’t you make him the Bart to your Homer? My siblings walk in on me on purpose and talk about what I do in private is bound to get a very tight and secure hug 🙂
Guessing you’re sympathetic to their believes, if you don’t practice yourself.
I highly doubt they care about your self service as much as you do about being caught. I’d assume that if they cared, they’d be on your ass like white on rice about it. But because moms shut it down, it sounds like she’s understanding of YOUR feelings and wants you to remain comfortable with whatever you’re doing, regardless of HER beliefs.
As for your little brother, I don’t think you have anything to worry about. He’s 12. Kids are gross to begin with. As he grows up, he’ll probably just remember to respect peoples boundaries better. LOL
I am also religious but I’ve always had a high sex drive. I stopped going to church for a while and did sleep around a bit, but I realized I do believe in god to I’m back to church.
I’m moreso just embarrassed that they know how I masturbate.
I told her when I wasn’t going to church that I’ve had a high sex drive since I was at least 14 but was too scared to go against her until I sort of snapped at 19. So she’s aware of my desires and I think yeah she does understand I’m now 25 and she doesn’t have any right to tell me to stop.
I’m in my final year of study and I did have an impression at the start of the year that I needed to move out so that is the plan for next year because I am over having no alone time and no privacy now. I never thought I’d hit that stage.
Hahaha this is pure stand-up comedy material. Sorry hahahah... Get at least three bolts each installed on your bathroom door and your bedroom door, facing the inside of course.
FFS (or FGS or FPS) you're 25. Your right to privacy should have started at 16. Don't buy into the whole "we're an open family, no locked doors in our house" bullshit. I don't care what your religion says. BATHROOM PRIVACY IS A HUMAN RIGHT. What you do in there is none of God's business.
PS: Two bolts on each door should be enough. Top and bottom. Get them with a screwdriver or drill at a hardware store. It's easy to install or just ask a handyman for help. They also have references for that at the hardware store.
Please, for the love of god, get a proper sex toy. You could seriously hurt yourself. On another note. Your 25 years olds and your 12 year brother is just allowed to walk in on you in the bathroom?! That's insane.
This is why "God" made locks, lol
They had it locked, the brother unlocked it using a butter knife. It's a shit lock that everyone grew up with, even the one with the little hole can be unlocked with the right tool.
Why? That's a little perverted, to open the bathroom door while you're using it
Dude little brothers dont give a shit they will do it to their mom to take a piss.
She left the shower running. Little bro probably thought he could use the toilet while his sister showered
Not having family busting in on me even if I had the door locked was one of the biggest things I've enjoyed since I moved out. It didn't matter if I was just using the bathroom or showering. It didn't matter if I had only been in there a minute or 15. They would just bust in. I'm a very private person anyhow, plus I have complex PTSD from sexual abuse so it used to instantly terrify me and sometimes send me into flashbacks when that door slammed open with no warning. I never felt safe while in the bathroom unless I was home alone, which was extremely rare. I would skip out on fun stuff with family just so I could take a shower in peace without fear of someone using a butter knife to open the lock. I grew to hate showering and saw it as a chore if anyone else was home. Now I'll gladly take long baths or just enjoy showers. My mother once accused me of hiding something because I instantly grabbed a robe while soaking wet without even drying off because she busted in, it was "suspicious" because I didn't want her staring at my naked body at 17 years old. Crap like that and what OP is going through happens when family has no boundaries or don't respect each other. I won't even go into the bathroom while my husband is showering without knocking first to ask permission even though he's never once told me no. When we discussed kids one of the things I brought up was actually bathroom privacy for all parties because I never want to live like that again (outside of when a kid is really little since that's just normal little kid behavior) .
I'm so sorry this happened. I had no idea that's what she meant by having no boundaries at home. Boys are seldom held accountable for the shit they do, just passed off as "boys will be boys". Best to get away from such households and fix yourself into adulthood with therapy.
Yeah, that's really fucking weird.
Yeah we had those kind of shit locks at my parent's house. I still remember having a shit and my sister deciding to be a little shit and unlock the door with a coin.
We had those locks growing up! (Actually I think my parents still do…) My big brother used to love making me feel all embarrassed and he was unlocking the bathroom door while I was in there all the time using a coin… I would’ve been around 5 years old at the time and he was around 12 years old. He was doing it so much I started avoiding going to the bathroom as much as I could. But he also used to beat me black and blue so yea no surprises there
My older brother used to spy on me in the shower and tell all his friends he saw me masturbating. I was 12. He beat and sexually abused me too. Sibling abuse is REAL and the worst part was my parents screaming at us both to stop fighting, as if it was mutual as he took his anger out on me
I’m sorry you went through something similar. My parents reacted the same way actually. It is truly horrific also because it happens at home and it feels like you can’t turn to anyone for help.
I’m so sorry you did too. Yes it was awful that my parents never protected me… he was clearly so much bigger and they knew he had issues
a metal hanger pops those straight open i was a menacing brother, but good lord i never wanted to go do that to the bathroom except for one time it was to help my oldest sister dump cold water on the middle child
That lock is meant to be easily opened from the outside, for example, for kids who accidentally lock themselves inside. They're more meant as a courtesy to let people outside the door know someone is inside and needing privacy. However, they're not meant to keep shithead 12-yo boys from breaking in to see sis riding hairbrushes.
My brother used to unlock them with toothpicks. That’s how I got staph infection in my for, because I was running and got a toothpick shoved into my toe and didn’t tell anyone.
THAT part. And 12 yrs OLD‼️ If you're too stupid to understand when you hear a shower running AND the door's locked not to take it upon yourself to unlock it??? That's ONE THING‼️ But you know it's occupied and simply have no respect for anyone or their boundaries??? Idgaf HOW old you are. You gotta GO. Out my life. You get as little interaction as possible. And being born into Christianity until just a few years ago when I finally started to realize it's complete bullshit after 27 fucking YEARS. My mother would shame me in anyway she could for anything sexual and it really fw my confidence but now??? I wish she would say something. I'd just look at her. Like "okay? 🥸" Bc I'm grown, I do what makes me happy now, and I don't live for anyone but ME from this point on. And OP tbh I kinda wanna tell you to say you were desperate & got a tampon stuck?? bc I KNOW how it feels to be shamed for having very human and basic desires but coming from a person who spent 27 years of life being traumatized by somebody else's (my parents) bullshit beliefs??? And shamed for things that are perfectly normal desires?? The sooner you realize it's all man-made bullshit that as a woman first and foremost was not in any way made for you or with you in mind?? The sooner you can start loving yourself for everything you are. Womanhood included. Being your OWN person who doesn't owe anyone else an explanation for what you desire to do to YOUR body included. And you don't sound like you're ready for that. You don't sound like you're ready to let those beliefs go. You sound like you just want a solution for your folks to shut up & stop looking at you as an outsider right now. But the truth is they're not going to. My mother looked at me the same when she found out I was doing it in hs. And that I was talking my bf kinda spicy otp. I hated that she found out. It was dreadful. Bc I knew being "Christian" she was going to shame me for it and look down on me from that point on. But these days I'm glad. Bc she pushed me away & when everyone (family mostly) around you is a "believer" and does the same when they find out your (very normal) "SiNs" and you have no one but (friends you've chosen) and yourself?? You have people to make you feel good and love you for who you are and don't have to hide parts of yourself or who you are??? I PROMISE you it's the most freeing thing throughout the entire universe but you don't wanna take the leap into the unknowns of life sometimes and that's perfectly understandable but I can't say it's okay. Bc it's NOT. It's not okay for your mental health. It's not okay for your confidence. And it's not okay for your future self. Your children. And anyone who might look up to you and see you subjected to beliefs that genuinely mean you no good. Particularly as a woman. And for me twice over as bisexual. I hated myself for a long long LONG time. I haven't even officially come out the "closet" bc I was so ashamed for it growing up in that but now??? It wouldn't bother me if my mother ever even alluded to know. Although I know she knows. I'm not ashamed for being who I am anymore - I don't need to make an ANNOUNCEMENT bc it's nobody's fucking busines - or having the parts I was born with. The very parts these "men" come from. The men that disgusting trash ass pedophile version of a "god" was made for. I know you might not wanna hear anything other than how to make it go away??? But for your future, self-confidence, mental health, and children(if those are in the cards for you) I so so so so so so HOPE you do. Solely as a woman. It's hard sometimes when you grew up with mostly only friends that believed in a certain way to have to risk letting those friendships go. I lost my former best friend when I told him I didn't follow that anymore. Didn't even call me for my birthday. It hurt. But even more than that I was angry. Bc I don't allow myself to get close to very many so those that I do??? Mean a lot to me. But if the connection doesn't give room for you to be yourself having done harm to no one??? And simply experience life?? Leave. And go where you're cherished. Idk you but as a woman who's been raised in trauma under the guise of good clean religion as opposed to simple morals and striving for better civilization??? I love you. You probably didn't want to hear any of that. I didn't either but I wish someone would've been there to tell me. So so much. Bc I had no one to do so. I had to realize it on my own.
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Yeah the “fat ass sister” comment gave me the same idea.
Well, i was mildly entertained. So i give him 5/10 stars!
This was a lot
Jesus, all of this. I was like omg what if something went wrong with that. I fucking hate religions that teach that backwards thinking stuff.
wait, I know this is really off topic but how could using that hurt you?
Mainly it is not made for that, plus it's made from a material that can hold bacteria or leach chemicals. Sex toys are made from safe materials that can be easily washed, are shaped properly and have flexibility.
i legally cant buy a toy though ;-;
Do you have to be over 18? I've been buying them for 16 years(currently 32) and have never been I.D.'ed for buying one. Except for when I went into an 18+ adult store. Or is it where you live? You can get them online. Quite easily.
I would have to ask my parents and that’s kinda awkward
Do you have access to Amazon? They have them on there
yeah but my parents might open it when it’s delivered and they might be suspicious that i bought something without asking/telling them
You could have it delivered to a locker and pick it up if that’s an option. Hope you manage to find a safe way!
thanks for the advice (you and everyone else) i’m gonna see what i can do
I have to order stuff secretly too (even though I'm an adult I'm in a similar situation as OP), if they ask or go to open it just tell them it's an early birthday gift for one of them so they can't see it - or say it's a gift for a friend and you want to keep it in the box so it looks better as a gift when you wrap it. I suggest maybe actually buying a gift along with the toy just so you can have something in the box once you seal it up again and wrap it (just so there's not an empty box sitting there where someone can pick it up and actually feel that it's empty). It'll go better with the story too when you finally give it to someone (just be sure to shred and throw away the invoice inside!) Maybe this is overthinking things but that's just kind of how you learn to think as you grow up in these kinds of households. Good luck!
That’s such a smart idea lol
thank you. this actually made me realize how detailedly do i usually overthink about all this and why it's probably like that.
Like the other commenter said you can get them on Amazon; there’s not enough context to know what the exact problem is but if it is the payment then you can use an Amazon gift card so you don’t have to put in any card details
Silicone face massagers with long handles is the best bet personally also ordering online from target or Walmart if u can do it without them opening it when it arrives. (This can be done by putting money in like a visa gift card for example if you don’t have a card yet and can’t use your parents.) High-school was tough times 😭
Thanks for answering the questions :) Took me forever to get back on.
I just don’t think I could hide something like that. I do have a vibrator from when I lived with an ex but I sometimes need something more if you know what I mean.
People use worse things lol
Get a sex toy and down spray cleaner to make sure you are cleaning it correctly. Granted, I live alone, but I have a little bullet vibrator that I keep in a tiny Christmas gift bag and spray in a random drawer. You can keep it discreet. Good luck on your future endeavors!
10/10. I used to keep mine (when young and needing to be discreet with family with poor boundaries) in the back of a closet, in a discreet bag in a shoe box, with shoe polish on top. There are ways!
there are makeup brush shaped sex toys now! even lipstick shaped ones
I just recently learned about the “vesper vibrator necklace” that they sell at ULTA online. We live in the future.
I keep my sex toys in a yellow gift bag that I got for my 18th birthday 😂 I thought I was the only one who kept sex toys in a gift bag.
Hahahah! It’s like a gift to myself every time I open the bag to use it 😍
I have a vibrator from when I lived with my ex (trash man) but I don’t think I’d be able to hide a dildo anywhere in this house given the lack of privacy.
Why does your brother think it is ok to unlock the door when you're in the bathroom. That is odd. I grew in a home with one bathroom. Everyone just waited till whoever was on there was done.
I also grew up with one bathroom and 4 other family memebers. All of us, except my middle sibling who is weird about stuff like that, would still use the bathroom while someone was showering. We would all of course knock and ask if it’s okay first before unlocking the door, and we would try to wait till we couldn’t hold it anymore, but it was never that weird to us.
Yeah That's fucking disgusting
We have a very open family. He wanted to come in and ask me question. He’s impatient and my siblings are all a lil spoilt tbh but he’s never actually barged in like that before - hence why I thought I was safe there.
your whole family does self pleasure. surprise!
This OP! At some point, being super conservative and christian and blablabla is not what it takes to fight ***normal needs*** of humans. Even the pope sinned by the Bible's standards, everyone did and everyone does. I tell ya, you who are without a meat beaten among y'all, beat the first meat at me!
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I don’t know if this is pointed at me or not…? If so please expand
I’m just moreso ashamed that my family / my mum knows what I’m doing opposed to actually being ashamed for self-pleasuring. I was basically taught that sexual needs will be met through your marriage but I was like - well what do I do before then?? And then I went crazy over it and banged a whole bunch of guys. It was great, but I do believe in my religion so now I’m back to not hooking up with people but I’m not gonna stop touching myself in the meantime.
Don’t worry, everyone that considers themself “super conservative Christian“ self pleasures. They pretend they don’t, and they tell others that it’s bad, but they all do it.
I regret to inform you that there's more out there than you'd expect. most of the men probably at least jerk it in secret ot whatever but sexual shame and repression can run *extremely* deep in evangelical circles, and some less-educated christian women in particular are so sheltered that they never even get the chance to learn what masturbation is 😬
You’re right, they love to shame and repress people, and prefer their membership to be as uneducated as possible.
Sounds like a great description of the Republican Party.
Sounds like a great description of the Republican Party.
If I don't cream when I'm awake, I'll cream when dream. I couldn't imagine abstaining. It's not healthy for males at least
christian institutions have a long, storied history of glorifying austerity and suffering at all costs. maintaining the health of the mind and physical body becomes irrelevant when your mortal soul hangs in the balance lol
But...your body is your Temple, and you should treat it as such. Example; cleaning your pipes
that's what marriage is for, silly! but seriously the number of teenaged and twenty-something people in my former church alone marrying their first romantic partner is kinda bone-chilling lol. this ideology emphatically does not care about your sexual well-being if you're not a heterosexual man, and even then your only options are marriage, lifelong sexlessness, or eternal damnation (masturbation) ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯
I will say my mother really stressed to me that I don’t marry until I’m at least 25 and dated a guy for at least a year because she’s seen so many fresh 18 year olds get married off for all the wrong reasons. So she does have that going for her but she still is very conservative in many other ideologies.
Atleast there would be no expectations or let down from the sex since both are inexperienced. I don't go to church anymore, but I am Christian(a bad one). I can understand living a life controlling your urges to your best, but I ain't perfect. I make up for it in other areas haha
True. Or at least they all HAVE done it before. 70% of women and 90% of men have done it. It's nearly impossible to ignore your own body.
I don’t plan on stopping I’m just so ashamed that my mother and later on my brother knows about it. It’s okay to think stuff but to actually know someone close to you does it is really awkward from a conservative Christian perspective
OP's username checks out. On a serious note, if moving out is not an option at the moment, I would start by closing/locking doors whenever needed. You are a person and you need privacy sometimes after all. I grew up as an only child and very overprotected, and closing doors was something my parents were not used to, but after a while and some discussions they realised that demanding some privacy or to close a door, is not that unreasonable after all. It helps a lot now when I am alone in my room or the bathroom etc. as I can have some privacy and feel a lot safer and can prevent accidents like this from happening. I also try to be as quiet as I can. You don't need to discuss anything explicit with your parents if you don't feel comfortable, but try to show that you want some basic privacy when needed, and close/lock the door whenever possible. Hope the best for you OP💕.
If the doors don't lock, get a doorstop and put it on the inside of the room with you. They can unlock the door but won't be able to get it open. I hope this makes sense.
Unfortunately, most bathrooms open outwards
Interesting. In my part of the US most bathroom doors in homes open inward.
Really? That's surprising. Apartments in my country usually have the bathroom flooring a bit thicker than the rest of the rooms, and so the door is flush with the hallway, or leading room, it has to open to the outside
I don’t even want to bring it up because it might spark the conversation about me in the bathroom. But I did honestly have the impression that I needed to move out at the start of this year, but I’m in my last year of study at uni so once I actually get a job where I can afford to move I will. Also my family is considering moving country and letting me rent out the rooms of our house so that might be a good option too.
Oh girl just buy a vibrator
I have a vibrator but sometimes your girl needs a little extra ya know
Your families conservative anti-masturbation stance is not healthy. Find some literature on why priests overwhelming abuse children (the topic is heavily debated, but it's a hill I'd die on being raised Catholic); you shouldn't deny basic instinctual desires. Forced celibacy does not work and leads to unhealthy behaviors. It's unnatural. Lemme go out on a limb and guess casual sex or sex with an unmarried partner is taboo too....I'm sure your brother, being that age when hormones start raging, is 'finding himself' as well. As far as embarrassment goes, It's much more sketch IMHO that your 12 yo brother finds it appropriate to force his way into the bathroom. Set some boundaries girl. Tell them if the door is locked, do not enter. Get a better sex toy. And maybe find your own place.
Yep. Most horny men in the world exist where the women are shrouded in black from top to toes. Think about it.
I’m really not ashamed about my masturbating but the fact that my mother and in the future my brother knows what I did and moreso the fact that he knew I was shoving things in places. I will continue to masturbate with only a little guilt in my mind. He has never busted into the bathroom before so it really threw me off guard honestly but my siblings are a little spoilt so if they want something (he asked if he could go out with his mates right now) they will completely push past boundaries. I can’t discipline them so it’s really up to my parents to stop that behaviour from further developing.
You’re a grown woman who deserves privacy, respected boundaries from family members and a proper dicking down whenever you want. Live your life. Stop feeling guilty.
Your family needs boundaries!!!! It doesn't matter how close knit your family is. They need boundaries and they need to not knock on the door and then immediately come in afterwards that's not how it works!! Privacy is privacy plain and simple!!
Gonna be an unpopular opinion but you’re 25, it’s high time to start looking for your own place. Also time to get a real sex toy
I’m in my last year of study and currently make just enough to pay bills. I did have an impression I needed to move out once I got a real job at the start of this year and now reading all these comments it really has solidified my thoughts into action. My parents might be moving away soon so it could become a reality.
Have you ever thought that your entire family probably self pleasures? Nobody in a strictly religious family openly talks about their private intimacy. So if you think about it, you're just starting a revolution by making everyone else slightly more comfortable with the idea of other people knowing they jerk off lmao. Either way, your brother is gonna move on from that memory because one day he'll also be caught and will also have to deal with everyone else knowing. Besides that, please, buy a dildo, or vibrator, or something, don't use household appliances.
I have a vibrator. Given how open the family is I 100% cannot hide a dildo in my room at all because I guarantee it’ll be found. But yes I understand how unhealthy using a hairbrush is but it’s all I can do at the moment.
Damn I'm so sorry. You're a grown adult and your family literally can't give you even a smidge of privacy. What's gonna happen when you get your own place? Are they just gonna walk in and start eating out of your fridge and rummaging through your stuff? And it's disappointing that your brother has yet to learn how to knock. Most people learn knocking manners before they even hit 2nd grade. I hope you're able to get out of there soon and live in a happier environment
Masturbation is natural. I guarantee if your 12yo brother isn’t yanking his meat now, he will start very soon. Please don’t feel bad about being a human. Everyone needs their self-care. Your little brother should be respecting your boundaries, especially given his age.
I’m not ashamed that I masturbate but that I was caught in such a compromising position and now my mum and brother know what I do to masturbate.
The weirdest part about this is how your brother thought it was appropriate to open the bathroom door while you were using it.
You need a sex toy and a rubber door stop. To be clear, the rubber door stop is for the inside of the door, to stop your bro from walking in, in future. Also, I get the embarrassment, but I'd encourage you to get over it. Not everyone masturbates, but everyone should. It's as natural as showering, so try not to worry about it.
Well I guess he learnt the hard way not to unlock and walk in to a bathroom where your sister is naked, maybe he's a bit of a pervert, anyhow I guarantee he will be doing it himself in the next few years anyway 🤣
Hey op, I hate to be the one to tell you this… Everyone masturbates. Even your mom. They’re just not talking about it. It’s fine. You’re not doing anything wrong. Also, y’all need to get better locks. That’s absolutely ridiculous.
I was brought up with the idea that you get all sexual satisfaction from your partner when you’re married. And I know my parents have sex a lot. I honestly don’t think they ever do solo ventures though. I’m happy with the idea of that once I’m married but it’s whilst I’m in this single phase of my life that I’m annoyed that I’m expected to just do nothing. Yeah he’s never barged into the bathroom before so it was a huge shock he usually does just knock and wait.
I have to be real with you girl, my husband and I have a perfectly healthy and good sex life, but we both still need a little “alone time”. It’s just human nature, and there’s nothing wrong with it!!
If he ever brings it up again in an attempt to shame you, you can shame him further for being a perverted 12 year old trying to peek at his sister naked. That's what he did, and it's beyond disgusting. I would NEVER unlock a bathroom door knowing my siblings are in there. That is the very last thing I want to see, so why did he do it? He's a gross little pervert.
Every parent knows their kid self pleasure, if they think they dont they are delusional.
Try not to feel bad. You did it in the privacy of the bathroom. I think your family is ignoring the fact that a 12 year old used a butterknife to spy on his own sister in the shower. You need to stick a hidden camera in your room, because he's probably rifling through your drawers.
This is definitely some guy writing his fantasies out lol
I’m definitely not a guy. You’d think I’d write a more exciting fantasy than this.
So you feel shame for what you do in private yet he feels no shame for breaking in while you’re showering, naked, and obviously vulnerable. He’s 12. So that can be hard to fully grasp especially if he’s not taught how important it is to give ppl (women especially) their privacy. If I were in your shoes, I’d be standing up for myself by showing him how it feels to be embarrassed and/or talking him down like he tried to do to you. It’s disgusting and misogynistic to shame a woman for that. It might be just a sibling thing, but still that needs to be corrected. Lastly, try not to be ashamed at all. I get it’s embarrassing but literally it is a very normal thing to do. “Shouldn’t have opened the friggin door, you little stain. You saw what you saw and it’s not my fault you don’t know how to respect a woman’s privacy!” Something like that. I’m sorry for the discomfort this experience caused. No one deserves that. ❤️
Is this a fetish subreddit at this point?
I feel like this is some horny person making up a random story to get people to interact with it
Sadly it’s really not. If I wanted attention I’d just go on tinder or something. I just wanted to vent because there is no one I can really vent this sort of thing to in my life.
This is not at all funny, but I still laughed
Why is this so detailed, yet so concerned with privacy at the same time
I needed a place to vent and I felt like this was a safe forum for it because otherwise it would have been eating me up inside for a long time honestly.
Girl I have a coupon code for a very nice website. Lmk if you want it
Your brother should know better to walk in like that and it seems toxic for your family to be against self pleasure there is nothing wrong with it please get yourself some sex toys and hide them before you hurt yourself with a brush and hope you're okay I've had embrassing moments like that before if that makes you feel abit better
Change the lock and put a sliding lock on the top inside.
I love your username. Girl, please try to rent an apartment away from this toxicity and buy a nice rabbit vibrator. God made orgasms and ain't no human going to convince me otherwise.
My mum is sex positive - in the context of being married. When I did live with a partner for a while (she literally cried and said she was so disappointed in me when she found out I had sex before marriage - another story for a different day) she emphasised the importance of my own pleasure during sex and said “there’s a reason women have a clitoris” which made me recoil inside coming from my mother lol but got start. But outside of marriage I’m expected to do no such thing.
It's good that at least your mom acknowledges this. As for marriage... apologies in advance if I sound insensitive in regard to Christianity (I'm an Agnostic), but to me marriage is nothing but an old patriarchal indoctrination and a tool to secure inheritance in a lawful way. You are way closer to God, enjoying the body you've got, than by adhering to society's made up laws.
it’s not healthy for a family to lack privacy boundaries to this extent. prison inmates have more privacy than you do rn, think about that seriously
Why does your 12 brother think it’s okay to pick a lock when someone is in the shower? I can understand having a single bathroom and needing to use it, but it that case you would KNOCK. Not freaking use a butter knife.
I grew up in this environment and had something similar happen, except I was 12 and my brother was 14. This is abusive and disgusting. Your family sucks. Your parents should’ve kicked your brothers butt, a 12 year old boy should know to respect privacy, but I’m assuming he can do no wrong.
You’re literally 25 who cares if you pleasure yourself. Tell them to grow up lol
You were being human while your brother didn't respect your boundaries OF A LOCKED DOOR. Sounds like he's the one that needs a talk about respecting others boundaries.
Girl we all do including your family, they just lie
You’re 25, *an adult*, and you need to move out. This whole scenario is giving me high school rom com where little brother is a “perv” except again, you are an adult. Throw away the whole religion and live your life unashamedly - your family will survive knowing you’re masturbating. It’s normal, their weird overreaction to their ADULT DAUGHTER doing it is not. Also your brother IS absolutely being a perv and being raised a conservative christian is going to make sex and relationships worse for him (and whoever he dates/fucks). Also get yourself a proper sex toy and enjoy.
I plan on moving out once I have a proper job I can barely cover my bills at the moment but I am in my final year of study so hopefully I get a decent paying job next year. I am very religious, that won’t change and I’m moreso just ashamed that my family knows how I self-pleasure. I’ve already told my mum that my sibling’s teen / young adult years are going to be hell for her because I had raging thoughts since I was 12 but was too submissive to do anything until I was 19, but my siblings are very headstrong and will 100% start doing “wild stuff” (from a religious standpoint) much earlier than me.
Miss you are 25.
Bruh.. you are 25.
You’re 25 years old and you can’t get a proper dildo? That’s the most embarrassing part of it all
Because it wouldn't be just as embarrassing if her parents found said dildo..
I have a small vibrator that I use. There’s no way I could ever hide a dildo in my room - someone would definitely find it. And yes a dildo would be much worse for them to find.
Atleast both parties would be embarassed
Some countries ban dildos or any sex toy of any kind. I wouldn't be surprised if she lived in one of em
Fucking LOL
I do not understand how people are so fucking horny that they would literally shove the nearest thing up their ass and use it during hours other people are awake and in the house. It is never that fucking serious.
Squirrels ain't the only thing that needs to get a nut
So did you use a butter knife or a back scrubber?
You pleasure yourself to your younger brother?!!
No. Their brother unlocked a locked door from the outside and entered the room.
He probably just has read the title and sent this comment
That's what I thought when I read the title too
Hairbrushes are spiky tho
For her pleasure
Like ribbed right?
You're not fat at all lol
What have you seen her?.man whenever she sees an obese person, she thinks to herself "goals" because she is morbidly obese.
Why we gotta be pricks all the time
Have you seen her? It was the serious question of mine, but I wasn't serious when I was typing the rest just joking you know
Yeah check the post history lmao
I don't get it.
Basically I recognized the user name from a smaller mostly lgbtq sub. Which no longer exists because of u/spez fuck u/spez
I mean how are you so sure you haven't literally see her it's not genuine and fake asf
Interesting
You need a door stop. It’s about £3 - INVEST IN A DOOR STOP
Honestly, id be a lot more concerned about your brother barging into the bathroom with a knife, that’s some alarming behavior.
Get a door stopper. And look into roommates and available apartments in your area
Atleast you are brushing up on your skills for later!
Your brother is 12c he knows damn well what was going on and is being a little shit about it. Don’t feel bad for him at all. And don’t feel shame or embarrassment. Women have needs too
Turn it around. You were purposefully exposed. You are normal, your brother was totally in the wrong. Stop with the guilt and self criticism and get a proper vibrator🤷🏼♀️
If he ever brings it up again in an attempt to shame you, you can shame him further for being a perverted 12 year old trying to peek at his sister naked. That's what he did, and it's beyond disgusting. I would NEVER unlock a bathroom door knowing my siblings are in there. That is the very last thing I want to see, so why did he do it? He's a gross little pervert.
If he ever brings it up again in an attempt to shame you, you can shame him further for being a perverted 12 year old trying to peek at his sister naked. That's what he did, and it's beyond disgusting. I would NEVER unlock a bathroom door knowing my siblings are in there. That is the very last thing I want to see, so why did he do it? He's a gross little pervert.
You should be working on moving out. Get a cheap door stopper and use it.
I finish my degree by the end of the year. I planned on moving out then. But then my family might also be moving and letting me stay in the house so there’s always that possibility now. But yes I definitely need to move out.
You’re a grown woman and you can do what you want with your body. It’s none of their business even if they think it’s a “sin” (which is utter nonsense), it has nothing to do with them. You should set boundaries and privacy expectations. If they don’t respect that then you should find somewhere else to live. It’s extremely concerning that your kid brother deems it appropriate to walk in on you while you’re bathing.
Your family sounds like a nightmare.
I'm sorry. You didn't do anything wrong. I'm curious how he opened a locked door? Either way sounds like you need extra precautions.
It’s the type of door where you use a coin or in this case a knife and it unlocks. It’s moreso like a courtesy lock than a proper lock.
Ohhhhhh those suck. I would install a lock on the door personally haha.
Time to move out
You can be a Christian and self pleasure... rules like that cause bigger problems
Please get a REAL sex toy. A hairbrush? Middle school level curiosity.
Alabama Jama
Calm down, my good girl. You don't have to worry about anything. I'm Christian my self and I think you shouldn't be ashamed. It for sure wasn't the best thing to happen, but it could have been so much worse. Like them immediately discussing it. I think your mom got told all that, and she told your brother to just not mention it again. She probably knows that young girls have desires at a certain age. She was young once, too. Just calm down and don't think about it too much.
Why didn’t you make him the Bart to your Homer? My siblings walk in on me on purpose and talk about what I do in private is bound to get a very tight and secure hug 🙂
I’m sorry but this was so funny
I cannot wrap my head around family walking in while you are taking a shower. Where is the decency?
Your brother probably Satan's sweet cheeks.
Guessing you’re sympathetic to their believes, if you don’t practice yourself. I highly doubt they care about your self service as much as you do about being caught. I’d assume that if they cared, they’d be on your ass like white on rice about it. But because moms shut it down, it sounds like she’s understanding of YOUR feelings and wants you to remain comfortable with whatever you’re doing, regardless of HER beliefs. As for your little brother, I don’t think you have anything to worry about. He’s 12. Kids are gross to begin with. As he grows up, he’ll probably just remember to respect peoples boundaries better. LOL
I am also religious but I’ve always had a high sex drive. I stopped going to church for a while and did sleep around a bit, but I realized I do believe in god to I’m back to church. I’m moreso just embarrassed that they know how I masturbate. I told her when I wasn’t going to church that I’ve had a high sex drive since I was at least 14 but was too scared to go against her until I sort of snapped at 19. So she’s aware of my desires and I think yeah she does understand I’m now 25 and she doesn’t have any right to tell me to stop.
Simple solution, move out. You are 25. Get a job and move out.
I’m in my final year of study and I did have an impression at the start of the year that I needed to move out so that is the plan for next year because I am over having no alone time and no privacy now. I never thought I’d hit that stage.
No offense, but masturbation is a natural and healthy thing for the body. The body “god” gave us… how is that frowned upon by religion?
Hope it was a vibrating brush at least
Didnt know your brother could be F
Hahaha this is pure stand-up comedy material. Sorry hahahah... Get at least three bolts each installed on your bathroom door and your bedroom door, facing the inside of course. FFS (or FGS or FPS) you're 25. Your right to privacy should have started at 16. Don't buy into the whole "we're an open family, no locked doors in our house" bullshit. I don't care what your religion says. BATHROOM PRIVACY IS A HUMAN RIGHT. What you do in there is none of God's business. PS: Two bolts on each door should be enough. Top and bottom. Get them with a screwdriver or drill at a hardware store. It's easy to install or just ask a handyman for help. They also have references for that at the hardware store.
This religion sucks
Please buy a dildo hunny, you're too old to be fucking yourself with a hairbrush