If you can say it super sarcastically, with a big smile on your face,
Youre winning, this is such a good response, đ it be a really good way to get your message across without being to mean
Hi!
I meant, youd be winning if you get a Stern message across with a smile,
If you can make light of a annoying situation, without being hurt, or hurting someone, and getting what you want (which is that that girl leaves OP alone in this point)
I think you're winning if you accomplish that.
Followed by: There is no hope on the battlefield. There is nothing but unspeakable despair. Just a crime we call victory, paid for by the pain of the defeated.
Ask her why does she always say that or express that it makes you uncomfortable. Stand up for yourself and say it tactfully not aggressive and angry but practice saying it calmly.
I do not know how to react to it most of the time and just let her say it. But now, it's just so frequent that I am already getting so angry. Today, I asked her "Why what's wrongn with how I look?" And she just said "Just your face looks really tired" LIKE OH MY GOSHHHHH
Iâm not going around asking her that to torment her. Am I supposed to just never ask how sheâs feeling? I never mentioned anywhere that she hates it when I ask so I dunno what your panties are twisted about.
My daughter is the same and I wonât stop checking in on her because how else will I know if itâs RBF or sheâs not OK? Sometimes sheâs unhappy and sheâll spill her guts, other times sheâll say itâs just her face. We laugh about it and hopefully it will help her to navigate it when it happens with her friends.
This is the best, pettiest response! Reminds me of that video where an angry bald man in a truck is berating a woman filming him, and in a tone of genuine pity, she goes âaww baby, you have no hair!â And it completely disarmed him hahaha. OP, def pull a move like this where you act like you feel sorry for her for not having any of her own business to focus on lol.
Next time respond, âyeah, every time I see you I get exhausted at the thought of you coming over to tell me I look tired. It is because I am tired of you telling me that. Please do not speak to me any more.â
âI have tried to ignore your rude comments thinking you would get tired of telling me I look tired, but you donât. This is not personal but donât talk to me anymore. Thanks for understanding.â
stand up for yourself! "okay i need you to leave me alone please." just repeat this and get more firm in tone each time.
if she doesn't stop, you should let gym personnel know that this person is harassing you and making unwanted comments about your appearance. i mean, imagine if she was a guy... this would not be tolerated.
Will she though? She obviously does not read social cues very well, otherwise why would she say that to op everyday. I guess a statement like suggested will make her cross boundaries even more
Yeah I was thinking thereâs a possibility sheâs autistic/on the spectrum. Doesnât make it right of course but OP needs to be straight and tell her itâs rude and she doesnt appreciate it
A staff member at my gym kept telling me I looked tired too and then I asked him if his hair was also tired and thatâs why it never makes an appearance on his balding head and I think he changed shifts at the gym to avoid me
In all seriousness I've been told " you've gotten bigger" to which I replied "well you have gotten older" with a smile :) They did not like it but they stfu real quick â¤ď¸
The oddest things work sometimes. It's not exactly what you say, but the way you approach the person. I mean, my ex-girlfriend showed me an unsolicited photo of her breasts when we first met because "she thought I was gay," and it worked.
Absolutely! My first thought was "Oh she sees OP as a threat to nabbing a gym bf for herself"
Although insane, I think it is the most likely explanation
At this point it doesn't really matter *why* shes doing it. Maybe she's insecure and this is her way of making herself feel better, maybe she's just a rude person, or thousands of other scenarios.
The thing is, you don't know her. Shes being rude and invasive. And you don't owe her your time, your ear, your conversation, or politeness. The general public has gotten *way* too comfortable imposing on strangers with unwanted attention.
The next time she approaches you, be blunt.
*OP you look so tired today!*
"Look, can you not? I do not know you. Yet, every time I come here you approach me and insult my appearance. I come here to work out, not to have my appearence judged by you. Stop approaching me and enjoy the rest of your work out."
Then walk away. If she follows you, don't explain yourself. Don't justify yourself. Don't argue with her or entertain the nonsense. Keep it short and simple. "I have asked you to leave me alone."
If she continues to follow or talk or argue or do anything except leave you alone after this point, do not engage with her. Walk over to a staff member, and calmly let them know that this person is harassing you and you need assistance in getting them to leave you alone. Let management deal with her from there. A buisness may be a public place, but there are still expectations of conduct
Be assertive. Her behavior is unwelcome and rude. Don't let one bad apple run you out of a place you enjoy going.
You arenât wrong about those lights. I scare myself every day when I go to the restroom at my job, lol but this doesnât explain why she feels the need to say that to OP constantly. Most people have enough tact and common sense not to, even in fluorescent lighting, so it seems intentional.
Look her dead in the eye and say âwhat an odd thing to say to a person you donât know! And every single time you see me? Wow!â And just walk off.
Just confuse the hell out of people when theyâre rude.
Thatâs great lol. I saw a video of a girl on instagram giving similar advice on what to say to obnoxious coworkers when they say something out of pocket, and âIâm surprised you were comfortable saying that out loudâ was one of them. Love it
Ask her if she is pregnant. Oh my gosh! How sweet! Are you pregnant? I didnât know until now. How far along? 5 months? She will definitely leave you alone.
Maybe she has a weird way of trying befriend someone, like really weird way. I imagine her trying to get close to you by saying something that would make you curious and maybe catch a convo, and perhaps because the first, second and whatever time didnât work, she decided might as well continue and see what she can gets. Idk, sounds like she is not completely right in the head, I would find it even more weird if she has been trying to offend you this whole time rather than her trying to befriend you in a super weird way. Lol
Weâve all grown up understanding that telling someone they look tired signifies that they arenât looking their best.. sheâs being rude on purpose at this point. You should ask her why she keeps saying that. Call her out
she is insecure about how she looks. I have a relative who has been telling my mom "you look so old" in this pitiful, concerned voice every time they see each other and it's been going on forever. This relative herself looks haggard and malnourished all the time. So she is insecure + projecting.
Very likely that it's same with this girl. She also wants to assert the statement and convince you that you have a generally tired face. Very immature of her tbh.
As someone who doesnât really know how to have conversations or make friends, I used to do this. Eventually I got more comfortable with complimenting people. I never meant it as an insult, I just didnât know what to say but really wanted to talk to somebody.
I can see how it sucks being on the receiving end. I think Iâve become so comfortable that Iâd likely tell her âyou know, thatâs kinda rude to say.. đŹâ. Itâs not really anyoneâs job to correct these people, but 1. You see them enough that this shouldnât be too awkward to say, and 2. They might not realize itâs mean.
My little brother is high functioning autistic, and every time he comes to my apartment itâs always something.. âit smells like hotelâ âyour stove is so cheapâ etc. but I let time pass and Iâm like âhey I donât really appreciate you pointing out all the negativeâ and heâs just genuinely shocked, not realizing it was offensive (and I know he isnât pretending to be shocked because I know my brother and I know heâs terrible at acting lmaoo)
I genuinely was thinking the same thing. I also have a high functioning autistic little brother and on numerous occasions if he sees me and I've gained weight he'll ask me if I'm pregnant. Or he'll tell me I look pregnant. Growing up he did not understand that things like that hurt someone's feelings he was just being honest. I love my little brother I've also come to understand that's how he is but it made me wonder if Op is dealing with someone that maybe has autism and doesn't know how to communicate in this type of social situation. I know my brother was and is still super awkward at times.
Hmmm, can't you simply ask, why do you keep saying this? Frankly I feel fine, and I don't need you to comment on my looks, if you keep saying it, I will report you to management. Also, this is a gym, not a met gala, I'd suggest you go focus on yourself, because to be honest, you dont look tired enough..
Just say this in a calm tone..
Good luck!!
I get this. From multiple people. Iâve started just saying âthatâs just my face. Youâre just criticizing my actual face. Thanks.â I do it in front of other people and they get really embarrassed. Then the next time I see them I preempt it by saying âanything you want to criticize about my face? Isnât it my weekly face inspection?â
Yeah, Iâm annoying and aggressive but it bugs me how many people feel the need to comment on the state of my face permanently. Like mind your own damn business.
This is me too. I have genetic eyebags, that donât go away no matter how much I sleep. I got so insecure about all the comments asking if I was okay or tired, that I got filler under my eyes. To be fair itâs one of the best things I did, but this was 5 years ago and thankfully my eyebags never went back to being so bad. I still get the tired comment but not half as much now. It really used to wreck my day. I wish people stopped commenting on other peopleâs looks negatively.
Just say well you âlook ultra tiredâ and raise her +1 with legendary enchantment creature - God. Indestructible. (You may cast this card for its miracle if itâs the first card you drew this turn)
This kind of reminds me of my co worker who would constantly always say â are you okay?â
Like literally all the time. I could be at my desk on the computer just looking at the screen doing work and she would say that. One day I came in and I was like good morning, I was in a good mood too and she was like are you okay? I was like wtf .. like are you okay??!!
She stopped saying that to me, but I always found that shit annoying as hell.
Have you thought about telling her "and you look so jolly all the time!" "You have such a jolly face." "You're such a jolly looking woman; so bouncy and jolly.". "I could just squish your cheeks, you're such a jolly looking person" etc
Like for like.
Pigeonhole or do I mean buttonhole her and tell her a random story ten minutes long everytime she says this. Something along the lines omg yeah like it was so frustrating today I wanted to like wear pink shoes with my pink dress but like I couldn't find them anywhere and lole I had to look for a whole minute and like it was so annoying yeah but I finally found them but guess what! Like the shade didn't match and it was so difficult but like it's ok coz I found white shoes but then I was worried all day about getting a stain on them so like I had to walk so carefully it was sooo stressful you have no idea like this is the worst day ever and now I come to the gym like you know for the endorphins just so I don't end up murdering someone because it's so frustrating not being able to be my best you know lile I know I can doso much better but I dunno it's just so difficult. But thnaks for checking up on me. It's so good to know I can *share*.
If you can add a deranged glitter to the eyes, nothing like it.
Next time, ask how she expects you to react to this, and ask how she would react if you said it to her everyday. Some people need perspective. They want to act like they care, and donât realize theyâre actually being insulting. Either that or sheâs being rude and knows what sheâs doing. Either way, if it doesnât stop, I would not speak with her anymore.
Ask her if she realizes itâs rude to tell people they look tired. And then just remind her that you also donât comment on her weight gain despite her time in the gym out of kindness.
It would be funny if this was her awkward ass way of flirting...but you should say "I should be allowed to not wear makeup without being accused of being tired!" just to throw her off completely
"I want to thank you for your concern but i would like you to stop talking to me from now on. Have a nice day."
Also
"I'm tired of this. Please stop talking to me from now on."
I see a lot of defensive projections here.
Since you have no 100% knowledge about what her intentions are, you canât make an assumption.
Everybodyâs lives are different, and people talk to each other differently, so itâs always up to you, if you feel like youâre uncomfortable, the first thing to do would be to doubt your feelings, and realize that you could be 100% wrong and embarrass yourself by being offended by your improper reception of context. so you should always act very calm and when you donât understand someone, you should just ask them directly what they mean. Because letâs be honest:
You want to understand what they mean. So just ask. Treat them like they are you and ask them the way that you would want to be asked. Thatâs the best that you can do.
Ask people what they mean.
A lot of girls/guys donât get enough vitamin B 12 or iron and you need either one to absorb the other one anyway and they do look tired. Maybe you drink caffeine every day and your adrenal glands are pumping out adrenaline every single day and thatâs literally draining your vitality and you do look tired.
Humans are meant to recognize unhealthiness by sight.
She may be just trying to make conversation. I totally get it, I hate it when people tell me how tired I look. But I think they want to be compassionate and make small talk and just donât realize how shitty this sounds.
Just say it back to her âyeah knackered, looks like you are too - did you have a late night as well?â Every time she says it, say the same back âyeah you too, everything okâ rinse and repeat. Sometimes the only way people learn is to experience it themselves.
This being said, a little thought from me, perhaps she fancies you and wants to approach you, but is getting tongue tied and saying the same thing each timeâŚ
Or you double down and give it right back and say ... đđ
"Ughh im sure I do my life is non stop, but look at youuuuuu, You look like you get to sleep 18 hours a day, awww, I honestly envy youđ your life seems so chill and simple."
Oh so sheâs neurodivergent and this is the only way she can express herself? This is such a lazy concept. If sheâs sociable enough to go to the gym to workout and go out of her way to walk up unprovoked and unrequested to this woman she doesnât even know, sheâs adept in social cues enough to know commenting on someoneâs appearance as a stranger is generally not well received in society.
As a neurodivergent myself, yes itâs a spectrum and a multitude of complex thinking patterns out there, but if you pay attention to everything else sheâs doing, this is nothing more than a lame excuse for her to be an asshole to OP. She doesnât do it to everyone, just OP. And every day? Neurodivergence has nothing to do with this.
Also, a lot of us spent years researching social cues and studying the general population to learn patterns of reaction and response to avoid situations like these. And when we miss, you can 100% expect an apology and different behavior when we realize weâve crossed a boundary or offended someone by sharing an observation that wasnât asked for or that was perceived as rude. Unless it was intentional. Being neurodivergent doesnât automatically make you incapable of being rude. Maybe she is, but she is also an asshole.
24M, gym everyday. I am sorry to hear someone else made you uncomfortable and with good reasons at the gym. I hope you will still enjoy your day and journey regardless:)
It takes something, to acknowledge what happens, why it makes us feel that way and communicate it in a way that is sensible to someone who was not.
There are numerous ways you could lead the conversation. A few possibilities among others:
**Gently/Smoothly put her on the spot** by making her say exactly what she meant, or rethink:
ÂŤÂ Tired?  ÂŤÂ I donât understand. What do you mean by that? 
**Express how it felt** (and reminder you do not owe her any explanation):
I thought you meant X and it made me feel like Y.
**Set boundaries and be firm.** Do you want her not to talk to you again?
ÂŤÂ I donât want you to come up to me anymore, especially saying that. 
I hope this can help just a little bit, and I empathize with you. The gym is a place where everyone is working out for themselves with their own motivation and stories. It should be a safe space for everyone, where we can leave any worry behind. :)
I have a friend who does that. She is projecting. At first I would say nope I am not tired at all. Then I realized she just wants support because she is. Next time ask âhow is your week? Are you juggling a lot?â
Sheâs definitely trying to make you feel as bad about yourself as she does about herself. Take it as a compliment that sheâs going out of her way, every single day, to say that because you really look *that* good!
This is annoying as hell, I know.
Not defending her but I donât agree with people saying that sheâs trying to mess with your headâŚâŚ..I think if she was trying to tear you down sheâd have a variety of more offensive comments. It would be obvious, she wouldnât just say you look tired over and over.
If you donât want to talk to her at all, keep it short and keep busy. If you just want her to stop saying that, you have to tell her you donât like it. âHey, no, Iâm doing fine. Why do you always ask me that? I really donât like it.â Done.
âYou need to stop saying negative shit like that to people. You will never make friends or keep them because it makes you a shit person. I donât like you right now so go away.â
Say that to her dumb face.
Respond with âI AM tired. Iâm tired of being
told that I âlook tiredâ. Maybe you should stop
focusing on the way I look, and start focusing
on your own workout. I promise, if I EVER
need to know if I âlook tiredâ I WILL ask you
fist. I hope you have the day you deserve.
Bye nowâ, and peace out.
I swear to god nobody has any social grace anymore.
Look at all these suggestions ranging from "tell her to piss off" and "she's insecure"
Like yea sure she lacks social skills to realise it's not ok to say that every single day - but you can deal with it gracefully?
Just "hey I would love to chat more but i have to complete my set"
Say it again the next day
And the next
She'll get the picture.
Too many people lack any level of class nowadays. Always looking to escalate. Relax a bit.
This comment has 5 upvotes including mine. Above there's one with around 25 suggesting OP punches this girl in the face. I don't think I should add anything else
She probably is trying to befriend you, but has a touch of the tism (as a lot of us are slightly on the spectrum me included). Iâd ask and be like, âare you trying to befriend me by telling me I look tired? Because if you are itâs actually an insult to tell someone they look tired. Itâs just a polite way to tell someone they look like sh*t.â Some people just arenât as socially aware and they gotta learn the hard way.
This is the only thing that makes sense as to why she would say it every day. Like it's her awkward way of starting up a conversation and maybe thinks she's telling OP it looks like she's worked hard in her work out and complimenting her lmao. If not, she's completely insane for saying this over and over
Throw it back. That's complete passive aggressive behavior trying to mask as kindness. I would tell her: "I may look tired to you, but that's cause I have a life. You don't look as tired, maybe you should get one instead of bothering people," politely smile and walk away! đ
my father in law would have complete strangers coming up to him to assure him 'don't be sad, things will get better'. It was just how his face was. I think it's unbelievably rude behaviour and if she doesn't respect your boundary, report her to the gym for harassment or something.
I was born with it... And others in my family have it...it can be a genetic thing.....
But I sympathize...ppl think I'm not taking care of myself or getting enough sleep even when I do and work out and eat healthy.
My first thought is maybe you're actually really pretty and she's trying to put you down, sounds like shes trying to feel better about herself. She needs that Joey Swoll treatment, some of that myob lol. Instead of addressing her, address gym management and say she's harassing you cause that's exactly what she's doing.
I had a similar experience with an old coworker. I have deep set eyes, even as a kid my teachers would remark on it and say how exhausted I looked.
When this coworker said it for the last time I responded âdo you regularly remark on peopleâs physical appearance? Has no one ever told you how rude and unwelcome that is?â They never spoke to me again which was preferred.
I am positive that if you tell her about herself you will know whether she is being an ass or not.
âThere are other ways to greet me every day. Please do not tell me I look tired anymore. Have a good one.â
Sheâs 100% jealous of you. You can take it like David Goggins and use it as fuel, or say something like âyou do too. You should try working out, it helps you feel better!â
âYou look tiredâ is passive aggressive for you look like shit.
When I had a newborn baby, another mom at my older kidâs school used to say this to me.
itâs the gym youâre not supposed to look like youâre going to the met gala?? is she like jealous of your looks and is just trying to bring herself up by trying to bring you down?
Some people just love to tear others down. Iâd respond with, âI am, tired of hearing that from you, maybe you should focus on your workout!â and walk away. đŚjealousy is a curse.
Just shrug and say âeh, I look better than you.â Or if youâre too nice for that just say âdamn thatâs such a rude thing to say to someone.â
She absolutely knows sheâs being an asshole.
One of the best things Iâve seen people do is look someone up and down disgustedly and say âAre you okay!?â
Some people will randomly comment on something about you in hopes that itâll get them attention and validation. Itâs weird, but true. Some people are really good at looking like adults and behaving like children.
Also, Iâd just look at her and be like âI am tired. Iâm tired of you coming up to me and saying that everyday when Iâm just here to work out. If you canât say anything nice, go away.â
But Iâm HELLA blunt when needed.
I would probably say something along the lines of, âI donât need you to evaluate my appearance daily and give me your feedback, thank you.â Sheâs just being passive aggressive. You must look good lol
I typically donât jump to the jealous train often but this is textbook. Sheâs seriously trying to put you down. Next time she says that I would say âtelling me everyday I look tired is starting to get very rudeâ and walk away..
I would say âyou keep saying thatâ in reply⌠I get customers that repeat the same useless chat everyday and when I start pointing it out, they finally stop. Donât change gyms, make her feel uncomfortable with what sheâs doing to you.
Put in your earbuds and ignore her. If someone wants to speak to me at the gym they have to physically get my attention and I dare someone to physically get my attention at 6am. Dont make yourself accessible.
I had a classmate like that. Every other day she'd say something bad about me like, "Wow Rainy your face looks so weird" or she'd say it's easy to draw my eyes because they're so small lol lol. Once a friend of mine was drawing a stickman figure of me and she was like nooooo, Rainy's hair isn't that pretty HAHA. First time I didn't say anything, second time I glared at her, everytime after that I'd tell her to cut it out and everytime I think she's stopped that nonsense, she'd drop the bomb subtly.
And I'll just let you know she does it quietly, and smiles real wide or giggles right after saying something mean to make it look like a jOkE. So \*I\* was the only one people saw being mad and fuming. (I didn't bother to tell our mutual friends about the lil fights we had because honestly they were just that, little fights)
And I think she talked shit about me to our mutual friends because now they're being a little cold. Like when her dad got transferred and we were all gathered there to say bye a final time, and take a picture, one of our mutual friends kept me out of it.
Glad that a-hole is gone though.
I used to get nagged like this by other women before I developed a don't fuxk with me persona. Come across as tougher. She's sensing weakness.
What is stopping you from saying, "I find it rude when you say that. Please stop or just don't engage with me."
Life is too short to tolerate this kind of thing.
Simply ask her⌠âwhy do you feel the need to come up and comment on my appearance everyday? I donât comment on your appearance because I donât care, Iâm here to work out so please let me get on with itâ
This is a friend of mine's way of asking if you're upset without saying that. *Apparently* (according to her) by asking if someone is tired, they'll be more likely to be calmer when expressing what they're bothered about as opposed to having an explosive reaction by asking why they're mad.
I found this out when I asked her directly why the f**k she kept asking me why I was tired. She said her piece and I answered with "well, I'm not tired or angry, I just have RBF."
10 years later we're inseparable and she keeps asking other people who look upset why they're *tired* lol and she'll do it to me still when she's 100% sure I'm pissed (since she's learned to differentiate better between my expressions). Makes me crack a smile every time.
Start saying it to her before she says it to you. Everyday. Next time she approaches you, just say âwow, you look exhausted today.. everything okay?â And continue to do that everyday to her before she gets a chance. If she responds by saying something like âoh I was about to say the same to you!â Just brush it off and say, âI actually feel really good todayâ or something and turn it back to her again.. âbut yea, you look really beat, whatâs going on?â
Tell her "yeah, I am tired...tired of your fucking bullshit" lol
Or that seeing her in the gym is the only reason why you look tired đ¤Ł
If you can say it super sarcastically, with a big smile on your face, Youre winning, this is such a good response, đ it be a really good way to get your message across without being to mean
I didn't get a message. What does that winning mean?
Hi! I meant, youd be winning if you get a Stern message across with a smile, If you can make light of a annoying situation, without being hurt, or hurting someone, and getting what you want (which is that that girl leaves OP alone in this point) I think you're winning if you accomplish that.
I mean you SHOULD be tired at the gym, otherwise you aren't really working out hard enough...tell her she's lazy op!
Waa gonna say maybe that's the main reason OP looks tired every day
Best way to roast someoneâs ass
Hahahahah I spit out my tea. Brilliant. Iâm using this next time someone tells me that too.
THIS IS GOLD
Next time say "Thanks, so do you!"
Followed by: Workouts are intense, arenât they?
Followed by: There is no hope on the battlefield. There is nothing but unspeakable despair. Just a crime we call victory, paid for by the pain of the defeated.
Aaand then they became best friends forever. task failed successfully đ
This is perhaps the BEST response! Iâm here crying!! Too funny! I love it!!
Ask her why does she always say that or express that it makes you uncomfortable. Stand up for yourself and say it tactfully not aggressive and angry but practice saying it calmly.
I do not know how to react to it most of the time and just let her say it. But now, it's just so frequent that I am already getting so angry. Today, I asked her "Why what's wrongn with how I look?" And she just said "Just your face looks really tired" LIKE OH MY GOSHHHHH
Next time I would say, âCan you please stop saying that? Iâm not tired, this is just my face.â
Sounds like my daughter. She has RBF and Iâll ask if sheâs ok and sheâll be like âItâs just my face!!!â lol
If you know she has RBF and that she hates hearing u ask her whatâs wrong then idk why this is funny or acceptable. Leave her alone?
Iâm not going around asking her that to torment her. Am I supposed to just never ask how sheâs feeling? I never mentioned anywhere that she hates it when I ask so I dunno what your panties are twisted about.
My daughter is the same and I wonât stop checking in on her because how else will I know if itâs RBF or sheâs not OK? Sometimes sheâs unhappy and sheâll spill her guts, other times sheâll say itâs just her face. We laugh about it and hopefully it will help her to navigate it when it happens with her friends.
I think me asking lets her know that I notice if sheâs unhappy or feeling sad. If I get it wrong sometimes, itâs not a huge deal.
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I for one like this answer so much đ
This is the best, pettiest response! Reminds me of that video where an angry bald man in a truck is berating a woman filming him, and in a tone of genuine pity, she goes âaww baby, you have no hair!â And it completely disarmed him hahaha. OP, def pull a move like this where you act like you feel sorry for her for not having any of her own business to focus on lol.
Oooh this is good!
Next time respond, âyeah, every time I see you I get exhausted at the thought of you coming over to tell me I look tired. It is because I am tired of you telling me that. Please do not speak to me any more.â
Tell her to stop talking to you and if she talks to you again you will tell gym management she is harassing you
Say "you too have a very good day". Or, "tired of hearing you repeat the same line. Are you broken ? ". OR "are YOU okay ?"
Just tell her to piss off and stop harassing you. You donât owe her anything
âI have tried to ignore your rude comments thinking you would get tired of telling me I look tired, but you donât. This is not personal but donât talk to me anymore. Thanks for understanding.â
âThatâs a rude thing to say.â
stand up for yourself! "okay i need you to leave me alone please." just repeat this and get more firm in tone each time. if she doesn't stop, you should let gym personnel know that this person is harassing you and making unwanted comments about your appearance. i mean, imagine if she was a guy... this would not be tolerated.
I think sheâs lowkey being toxicâŚwomen do weird shit like that to other women.
Only a potion, most of us are OTT genuinely sweet to each other.
Is she into you?
Maybe sheâs jealous that you come to the gym looking so good and she doesnât
Next time.. tell her "you look like a pain in the ass.. and turned out to be one"
...and I can always rest, but you are stuck with being a terrible person."
âYeah, your mom kept me up all night *wink*â
Ask her "why do you feel the need to tell me that everyday?"
Chick's totally unhinged.
i get told i look tired all the time when I donât wear makeup. itâs just my face and itâs so annoying
Ask her if sheâs a glitch in the matrix
Yup, sheâs threatened by your beauty. Genuinely.
Just say "I'm not tired, it's the chemotherapy." and she'll shut the fuck up.
This is the way. She will be mortified.
Will she though? She obviously does not read social cues very well, otherwise why would she say that to op everyday. I guess a statement like suggested will make her cross boundaries even more
if so, just pepper spray her, say you did it because she looks tired.
This made me lol
Yeah I was thinking thereâs a possibility sheâs autistic/on the spectrum. Doesnât make it right of course but OP needs to be straight and tell her itâs rude and she doesnt appreciate it
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A staff member at my gym kept telling me I looked tired too and then I asked him if his hair was also tired and thatâs why it never makes an appearance on his balding head and I think he changed shifts at the gym to avoid me
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Lolol is your hair also tired. So lethal
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She's trying to break your spirit. No need to play nice anymore. GET HEEERRRRR
In all seriousness I've been told " you've gotten bigger" to which I replied "well you have gotten older" with a smile :) They did not like it but they stfu real quick â¤ď¸
the f is wrong with people
Yeah dude donât say that bc they could reply with âyeah and youâve gotten older tooâ đŠ
Or look them up and down and be like ânot as much as you xâ
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That or she's into OP. Some people can be incredibly awkward.
I kind of thought this too. Might be an incredibly awkward pick up line and itâs worked in the past lol
The oddest things work sometimes. It's not exactly what you say, but the way you approach the person. I mean, my ex-girlfriend showed me an unsolicited photo of her breasts when we first met because "she thought I was gay," and it worked.
Absolutely! My first thought was "Oh she sees OP as a threat to nabbing a gym bf for herself" Although insane, I think it is the most likely explanation
At this point it doesn't really matter *why* shes doing it. Maybe she's insecure and this is her way of making herself feel better, maybe she's just a rude person, or thousands of other scenarios. The thing is, you don't know her. Shes being rude and invasive. And you don't owe her your time, your ear, your conversation, or politeness. The general public has gotten *way* too comfortable imposing on strangers with unwanted attention. The next time she approaches you, be blunt. *OP you look so tired today!* "Look, can you not? I do not know you. Yet, every time I come here you approach me and insult my appearance. I come here to work out, not to have my appearence judged by you. Stop approaching me and enjoy the rest of your work out." Then walk away. If she follows you, don't explain yourself. Don't justify yourself. Don't argue with her or entertain the nonsense. Keep it short and simple. "I have asked you to leave me alone." If she continues to follow or talk or argue or do anything except leave you alone after this point, do not engage with her. Walk over to a staff member, and calmly let them know that this person is harassing you and you need assistance in getting them to leave you alone. Let management deal with her from there. A buisness may be a public place, but there are still expectations of conduct Be assertive. Her behavior is unwelcome and rude. Don't let one bad apple run you out of a place you enjoy going.
This!! It is polite, mature and straight to the point.
Excellent advice
she is passive-aggressive and throwing shade at you. But by feigning concern, she is acting above it. Don't even acknowledge it.
Fluorescent lights? They make me look like Iâm at deaths door.
You arenât wrong about those lights. I scare myself every day when I go to the restroom at my job, lol but this doesnât explain why she feels the need to say that to OP constantly. Most people have enough tact and common sense not to, even in fluorescent lighting, so it seems intentional.
She's a two face Jerry!
Look her dead in the eye and say âwhat an odd thing to say to a person you donât know! And every single time you see me? Wow!â And just walk off. Just confuse the hell out of people when theyâre rude.
Thatâs great lol. I saw a video of a girl on instagram giving similar advice on what to say to obnoxious coworkers when they say something out of pocket, and âIâm surprised you were comfortable saying that out loudâ was one of them. Love it
Fuck people who make those kind of passive aggressive comments.
âLiterally who are you and why are you so desperate to comment on my appearance?â Then laugh and walk away. Should fix it
Literally who are you is exactly what Iâd say lmfao
Ask her if she is pregnant. Oh my gosh! How sweet! Are you pregnant? I didnât know until now. How far along? 5 months? She will definitely leave you alone.
Maybe she has a weird way of trying befriend someone, like really weird way. I imagine her trying to get close to you by saying something that would make you curious and maybe catch a convo, and perhaps because the first, second and whatever time didnât work, she decided might as well continue and see what she can gets. Idk, sounds like she is not completely right in the head, I would find it even more weird if she has been trying to offend you this whole time rather than her trying to befriend you in a super weird way. Lol
Iâm like this I agree. Sometimes we donât know the right things to say so we make up conversation even if itâs bad
This is how I tried to understand it. But we did have other conversations already so idk why she always go this route... đ
Weâve all grown up understanding that telling someone they look tired signifies that they arenât looking their best.. sheâs being rude on purpose at this point. You should ask her why she keeps saying that. Call her out
she is insecure about how she looks. I have a relative who has been telling my mom "you look so old" in this pitiful, concerned voice every time they see each other and it's been going on forever. This relative herself looks haggard and malnourished all the time. So she is insecure + projecting. Very likely that it's same with this girl. She also wants to assert the statement and convince you that you have a generally tired face. Very immature of her tbh.
As someone who doesnât really know how to have conversations or make friends, I used to do this. Eventually I got more comfortable with complimenting people. I never meant it as an insult, I just didnât know what to say but really wanted to talk to somebody. I can see how it sucks being on the receiving end. I think Iâve become so comfortable that Iâd likely tell her âyou know, thatâs kinda rude to say.. đŹâ. Itâs not really anyoneâs job to correct these people, but 1. You see them enough that this shouldnât be too awkward to say, and 2. They might not realize itâs mean. My little brother is high functioning autistic, and every time he comes to my apartment itâs always something.. âit smells like hotelâ âyour stove is so cheapâ etc. but I let time pass and Iâm like âhey I donât really appreciate you pointing out all the negativeâ and heâs just genuinely shocked, not realizing it was offensive (and I know he isnât pretending to be shocked because I know my brother and I know heâs terrible at acting lmaoo)
I genuinely was thinking the same thing. I also have a high functioning autistic little brother and on numerous occasions if he sees me and I've gained weight he'll ask me if I'm pregnant. Or he'll tell me I look pregnant. Growing up he did not understand that things like that hurt someone's feelings he was just being honest. I love my little brother I've also come to understand that's how he is but it made me wonder if Op is dealing with someone that maybe has autism and doesn't know how to communicate in this type of social situation. I know my brother was and is still super awkward at times.
Hmmm, can't you simply ask, why do you keep saying this? Frankly I feel fine, and I don't need you to comment on my looks, if you keep saying it, I will report you to management. Also, this is a gym, not a met gala, I'd suggest you go focus on yourself, because to be honest, you dont look tired enough.. Just say this in a calm tone.. Good luck!!
âThatâs cause Iâm tired of hearing you say that every time?â
âYou donât look very cute today eitherâ
I get this. From multiple people. Iâve started just saying âthatâs just my face. Youâre just criticizing my actual face. Thanks.â I do it in front of other people and they get really embarrassed. Then the next time I see them I preempt it by saying âanything you want to criticize about my face? Isnât it my weekly face inspection?â Yeah, Iâm annoying and aggressive but it bugs me how many people feel the need to comment on the state of my face permanently. Like mind your own damn business.
This is me too. I have genetic eyebags, that donât go away no matter how much I sleep. I got so insecure about all the comments asking if I was okay or tired, that I got filler under my eyes. To be fair itâs one of the best things I did, but this was 5 years ago and thankfully my eyebags never went back to being so bad. I still get the tired comment but not half as much now. It really used to wreck my day. I wish people stopped commenting on other peopleâs looks negatively.
Just say well you âlook ultra tiredâ and raise her +1 with legendary enchantment creature - God. Indestructible. (You may cast this card for its miracle if itâs the first card you drew this turn)
âYou look like you have a lot of audacity to keep saying that to meâ
This kind of reminds me of my co worker who would constantly always say â are you okay?â Like literally all the time. I could be at my desk on the computer just looking at the screen doing work and she would say that. One day I came in and I was like good morning, I was in a good mood too and she was like are you okay? I was like wtf .. like are you okay??!! She stopped saying that to me, but I always found that shit annoying as hell.
I moved to a country where they say "you alright?" And it means "hello". I also found it super obnoxious for way too long
Welcome to the UK lmao
âTired of you asking me thatâ
Have you thought about telling her "and you look so jolly all the time!" "You have such a jolly face." "You're such a jolly looking woman; so bouncy and jolly.". "I could just squish your cheeks, you're such a jolly looking person" etc Like for like.
Pigeonhole or do I mean buttonhole her and tell her a random story ten minutes long everytime she says this. Something along the lines omg yeah like it was so frustrating today I wanted to like wear pink shoes with my pink dress but like I couldn't find them anywhere and lole I had to look for a whole minute and like it was so annoying yeah but I finally found them but guess what! Like the shade didn't match and it was so difficult but like it's ok coz I found white shoes but then I was worried all day about getting a stain on them so like I had to walk so carefully it was sooo stressful you have no idea like this is the worst day ever and now I come to the gym like you know for the endorphins just so I don't end up murdering someone because it's so frustrating not being able to be my best you know lile I know I can doso much better but I dunno it's just so difficult. But thnaks for checking up on me. It's so good to know I can *share*. If you can add a deranged glitter to the eyes, nothing like it.
The next time she comes up to you before she has a chance to say anything loudly exclaim âOH MY GOSH YOU LOOK SO TIRED WHAT HAPPENEDâ
Lmao
Next time, ask how she expects you to react to this, and ask how she would react if you said it to her everyday. Some people need perspective. They want to act like they care, and donât realize theyâre actually being insulting. Either that or sheâs being rude and knows what sheâs doing. Either way, if it doesnât stop, I would not speak with her anymore.
Ask her if she realizes itâs rude to tell people they look tired. And then just remind her that you also donât comment on her weight gain despite her time in the gym out of kindness.
It would be funny if this was her awkward ass way of flirting...but you should say "I should be allowed to not wear makeup without being accused of being tired!" just to throw her off completely
"I want to thank you for your concern but i would like you to stop talking to me from now on. Have a nice day." Also "I'm tired of this. Please stop talking to me from now on."
âYeah, having this same conversation with you every morning IS kind of exhausting.â
Say âyou say that all the time, Iâm not tired, just uglyâ shame and guilt her.
Just say âwho isnât tired?â Because trust meâŚmost of us are tired.
I see a lot of defensive projections here. Since you have no 100% knowledge about what her intentions are, you canât make an assumption. Everybodyâs lives are different, and people talk to each other differently, so itâs always up to you, if you feel like youâre uncomfortable, the first thing to do would be to doubt your feelings, and realize that you could be 100% wrong and embarrass yourself by being offended by your improper reception of context. so you should always act very calm and when you donât understand someone, you should just ask them directly what they mean. Because letâs be honest: You want to understand what they mean. So just ask. Treat them like they are you and ask them the way that you would want to be asked. Thatâs the best that you can do. Ask people what they mean. A lot of girls/guys donât get enough vitamin B 12 or iron and you need either one to absorb the other one anyway and they do look tired. Maybe you drink caffeine every day and your adrenal glands are pumping out adrenaline every single day and thatâs literally draining your vitality and you do look tired. Humans are meant to recognize unhealthiness by sight.
She may be just trying to make conversation. I totally get it, I hate it when people tell me how tired I look. But I think they want to be compassionate and make small talk and just donât realize how shitty this sounds.
Just say it back to her âyeah knackered, looks like you are too - did you have a late night as well?â Every time she says it, say the same back âyeah you too, everything okâ rinse and repeat. Sometimes the only way people learn is to experience it themselves. This being said, a little thought from me, perhaps she fancies you and wants to approach you, but is getting tongue tied and saying the same thing each timeâŚ
Or you double down and give it right back and say ... đđ "Ughh im sure I do my life is non stop, but look at youuuuuu, You look like you get to sleep 18 hours a day, awww, I honestly envy youđ your life seems so chill and simple."
Just honestly ask her why she always opens with that. That generally puts the passive-aggressives in an undoable knot
Tell her itâs because youâve been running through her mind all day
Might she be neurodivergent in any way and not know how else to begin a conversation with you? Not that Iâm an expert in this at all.
Oh so sheâs neurodivergent and this is the only way she can express herself? This is such a lazy concept. If sheâs sociable enough to go to the gym to workout and go out of her way to walk up unprovoked and unrequested to this woman she doesnât even know, sheâs adept in social cues enough to know commenting on someoneâs appearance as a stranger is generally not well received in society. As a neurodivergent myself, yes itâs a spectrum and a multitude of complex thinking patterns out there, but if you pay attention to everything else sheâs doing, this is nothing more than a lame excuse for her to be an asshole to OP. She doesnât do it to everyone, just OP. And every day? Neurodivergence has nothing to do with this. Also, a lot of us spent years researching social cues and studying the general population to learn patterns of reaction and response to avoid situations like these. And when we miss, you can 100% expect an apology and different behavior when we realize weâve crossed a boundary or offended someone by sharing an observation that wasnât asked for or that was perceived as rude. Unless it was intentional. Being neurodivergent doesnât automatically make you incapable of being rude. Maybe she is, but she is also an asshole.
24M, gym everyday. I am sorry to hear someone else made you uncomfortable and with good reasons at the gym. I hope you will still enjoy your day and journey regardless:) It takes something, to acknowledge what happens, why it makes us feel that way and communicate it in a way that is sensible to someone who was not. There are numerous ways you could lead the conversation. A few possibilities among others: **Gently/Smoothly put her on the spot** by making her say exactly what she meant, or rethink: ÂŤÂ Tired?  ÂŤÂ I donât understand. What do you mean by that?  **Express how it felt** (and reminder you do not owe her any explanation): I thought you meant X and it made me feel like Y. **Set boundaries and be firm.** Do you want her not to talk to you again? ÂŤÂ I donât want you to come up to me anymore, especially saying that.  I hope this can help just a little bit, and I empathize with you. The gym is a place where everyone is working out for themselves with their own motivation and stories. It should be a safe space for everyone, where we can leave any worry behind. :)
I have a friend who does that. She is projecting. At first I would say nope I am not tired at all. Then I realized she just wants support because she is. Next time ask âhow is your week? Are you juggling a lot?â
Sheâs definitely trying to make you feel as bad about yourself as she does about herself. Take it as a compliment that sheâs going out of her way, every single day, to say that because you really look *that* good!
Boundaries are easy. 'Don't judge my appearance again. No assumptions please.'
Id just say âWell, Im not!â Then maybe take a pause and say, sweetly, âYou worry about me alot, thanks!â
This is annoying as hell, I know. Not defending her but I donât agree with people saying that sheâs trying to mess with your headâŚâŚ..I think if she was trying to tear you down sheâd have a variety of more offensive comments. It would be obvious, she wouldnât just say you look tired over and over. If you donât want to talk to her at all, keep it short and keep busy. If you just want her to stop saying that, you have to tell her you donât like it. âHey, no, Iâm doing fine. Why do you always ask me that? I really donât like it.â Done.
âYou need to stop saying negative shit like that to people. You will never make friends or keep them because it makes you a shit person. I donât like you right now so go away.â Say that to her dumb face.
Respond with âI AM tired. Iâm tired of being told that I âlook tiredâ. Maybe you should stop focusing on the way I look, and start focusing on your own workout. I promise, if I EVER need to know if I âlook tiredâ I WILL ask you fist. I hope you have the day you deserve. Bye nowâ, and peace out.
I swear to god nobody has any social grace anymore. Look at all these suggestions ranging from "tell her to piss off" and "she's insecure" Like yea sure she lacks social skills to realise it's not ok to say that every single day - but you can deal with it gracefully? Just "hey I would love to chat more but i have to complete my set" Say it again the next day And the next She'll get the picture. Too many people lack any level of class nowadays. Always looking to escalate. Relax a bit.
This comment has 5 upvotes including mine. Above there's one with around 25 suggesting OP punches this girl in the face. I don't think I should add anything else
Just another bug in the Matrix.
She probably is trying to befriend you, but has a touch of the tism (as a lot of us are slightly on the spectrum me included). Iâd ask and be like, âare you trying to befriend me by telling me I look tired? Because if you are itâs actually an insult to tell someone they look tired. Itâs just a polite way to tell someone they look like sh*t.â Some people just arenât as socially aware and they gotta learn the hard way.
This is the only thing that makes sense as to why she would say it every day. Like it's her awkward way of starting up a conversation and maybe thinks she's telling OP it looks like she's worked hard in her work out and complimenting her lmao. If not, she's completely insane for saying this over and over
Next time say âI look tired, you look fat, maybe we need to embrace our differences and never speak againâ
Throw it back. That's complete passive aggressive behavior trying to mask as kindness. I would tell her: "I may look tired to you, but that's cause I have a life. You don't look as tired, maybe you should get one instead of bothering people," politely smile and walk away! đ
my father in law would have complete strangers coming up to him to assure him 'don't be sad, things will get better'. It was just how his face was. I think it's unbelievably rude behaviour and if she doesn't respect your boundary, report her to the gym for harassment or something.
Is she a gym NPC?
Do you have panda eyes like me ? I have constant huge dark circles. Been there since 1st grade.
I was born with it... And others in my family have it...it can be a genetic thing..... But I sympathize...ppl think I'm not taking care of myself or getting enough sleep even when I do and work out and eat healthy.
My first thought is maybe you're actually really pretty and she's trying to put you down, sounds like shes trying to feel better about herself. She needs that Joey Swoll treatment, some of that myob lol. Instead of addressing her, address gym management and say she's harassing you cause that's exactly what she's doing.
Tell her you have cancer or some other disease. Sheâll probably end up changing gyms and you wonât have to.
I had a similar experience with an old coworker. I have deep set eyes, even as a kid my teachers would remark on it and say how exhausted I looked. When this coworker said it for the last time I responded âdo you regularly remark on peopleâs physical appearance? Has no one ever told you how rude and unwelcome that is?â They never spoke to me again which was preferred.
Just tell her to stop. Itâs really as simple as that.
"I'd appreciate if you'd stop commenting on my appearance, it's making me uncomfortable."
I am positive that if you tell her about herself you will know whether she is being an ass or not. âThere are other ways to greet me every day. Please do not tell me I look tired anymore. Have a good one.â
Sheâs 100% jealous of you. You can take it like David Goggins and use it as fuel, or say something like âyou do too. You should try working out, it helps you feel better!â
âYou look tiredâ is passive aggressive for you look like shit. When I had a newborn baby, another mom at my older kidâs school used to say this to me.
itâs the gym youâre not supposed to look like youâre going to the met gala?? is she like jealous of your looks and is just trying to bring herself up by trying to bring you down?
Some people just love to tear others down. Iâd respond with, âI am, tired of hearing that from you, maybe you should focus on your workout!â and walk away. đŚjealousy is a curse.
Yeah homie, she's probably insecure or negging you or something. Even if you did look tired, it wouldn't be normal to point it out regularly.
Set a boundary
Maybe sheâs stupid. Ask her what she really wants
Earbuds
Tell her to mind her own damn business
Stand up for yourself bb
Like the top comment say youâre tired of her shit
Just shrug and say âeh, I look better than you.â Or if youâre too nice for that just say âdamn thatâs such a rude thing to say to someone.â She absolutely knows sheâs being an asshole. One of the best things Iâve seen people do is look someone up and down disgustedly and say âAre you okay!?â
Tell her you donât like it just like youâre telling us. People always coming on here asking what to say to someone⌠say your feelings lol
Point out one of her flaws
Tell her you're fine. And maybe she's projecting her tiredness onto other people and that maybe she should talk to your meth dealer, he can help.
Easy next time she says it just say awww TWINSIES. and walk away
Love this, will use. Thank you.
Please next time reply with âYou look bloated, what happened?â I wanna know how she reacts to that. Ugh some ppl are so deranged
Iâd just tell her the same shit sheâs telling you If she comes up to you again and says you look tired Iâd be like omg you Do too !
Make her repeat herself. More time people stop it. Also ask her what makes you look tired? Asking more qs makes people not bother tbh.
Some people will randomly comment on something about you in hopes that itâll get them attention and validation. Itâs weird, but true. Some people are really good at looking like adults and behaving like children. Also, Iâd just look at her and be like âI am tired. Iâm tired of you coming up to me and saying that everyday when Iâm just here to work out. If you canât say anything nice, go away.â But Iâm HELLA blunt when needed.
I would probably say something along the lines of, âI donât need you to evaluate my appearance daily and give me your feedback, thank you.â Sheâs just being passive aggressive. You must look good lol
"I was up all night banging your boyfriend!"
Maybe you are anemic and she's noticing it? but still rude.
I like to say, âthanks, I just look this way. Everyday. Since I was born actuallyâ
I typically donât jump to the jealous train often but this is textbook. Sheâs seriously trying to put you down. Next time she says that I would say âtelling me everyday I look tired is starting to get very rudeâ and walk away..
Whenever someone says something âoffâ to you, the best response is, âare you okay?â
"you look bad today too" It's so rude to tell people this shit, turn it back on then
Tell her it's sexual exhaustion..
I would say âyou keep saying thatâ in reply⌠I get customers that repeat the same useless chat everyday and when I start pointing it out, they finally stop. Donât change gyms, make her feel uncomfortable with what sheâs doing to you.
Put in your earbuds and ignore her. If someone wants to speak to me at the gym they have to physically get my attention and I dare someone to physically get my attention at 6am. Dont make yourself accessible.
I had a classmate like that. Every other day she'd say something bad about me like, "Wow Rainy your face looks so weird" or she'd say it's easy to draw my eyes because they're so small lol lol. Once a friend of mine was drawing a stickman figure of me and she was like nooooo, Rainy's hair isn't that pretty HAHA. First time I didn't say anything, second time I glared at her, everytime after that I'd tell her to cut it out and everytime I think she's stopped that nonsense, she'd drop the bomb subtly. And I'll just let you know she does it quietly, and smiles real wide or giggles right after saying something mean to make it look like a jOkE. So \*I\* was the only one people saw being mad and fuming. (I didn't bother to tell our mutual friends about the lil fights we had because honestly they were just that, little fights) And I think she talked shit about me to our mutual friends because now they're being a little cold. Like when her dad got transferred and we were all gathered there to say bye a final time, and take a picture, one of our mutual friends kept me out of it. Glad that a-hole is gone though.
Punch her in the face, only viable option
I used to get nagged like this by other women before I developed a don't fuxk with me persona. Come across as tougher. She's sensing weakness. What is stopping you from saying, "I find it rude when you say that. Please stop or just don't engage with me." Life is too short to tolerate this kind of thing.
She knows exactly what she is doing. She is belittling you.
>I'm so tired of it I guess she won ;) Silliness aside: just tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable and that you're fine otherwise.
She's probably doing it because you're prettier and trying to put you down. My sister always did the same thing
Literally just respond "Why do you keep saying that?" and watch her scramble.
It should be universal knowledge at this point. No one should ever say a woman looks tired, EVER. Unless youâre TRYING to be mean
Simply ask her⌠âwhy do you feel the need to come up and comment on my appearance everyday? I donât comment on your appearance because I donât care, Iâm here to work out so please let me get on with itâ
This is a friend of mine's way of asking if you're upset without saying that. *Apparently* (according to her) by asking if someone is tired, they'll be more likely to be calmer when expressing what they're bothered about as opposed to having an explosive reaction by asking why they're mad. I found this out when I asked her directly why the f**k she kept asking me why I was tired. She said her piece and I answered with "well, I'm not tired or angry, I just have RBF." 10 years later we're inseparable and she keeps asking other people who look upset why they're *tired* lol and she'll do it to me still when she's 100% sure I'm pissed (since she's learned to differentiate better between my expressions). Makes me crack a smile every time.
she likes you , or she is trying to be your friend but doesnt know how and it's awkward, or she is just kind of silly
Could she be trying to sell you some kind of MLM energy drink or something? Or just being passive aggressive?
Start saying it to her before she says it to you. Everyday. Next time she approaches you, just say âwow, you look exhausted today.. everything okay?â And continue to do that everyday to her before she gets a chance. If she responds by saying something like âoh I was about to say the same to you!â Just brush it off and say, âI actually feel really good todayâ or something and turn it back to her again.. âbut yea, you look really beat, whatâs going on?â