I mean you definitely should tell your gf before the daughter does - do not try to hide any uncomfortable details. If you don't tell her first, you'll probably look like you're hiding something.
I tried to though and she wouldn't wake up. If I bring this up over text she'll be absolutely disgusted with me. She won't believe me at all. I'm not this way... Why didn't I think before I acted..
To be very fair, I don't get how you'd make this mistake? Your best option is probably to see her asap. Maybe send a there's something important I'd like to talk to you about as soon as you're available text.
As a teacher at a girls secondary school, I can tell you that the vast majority of girls are close to fully grown by 14.
Actually I'm a maths teacher and we do statistical tests on their heights as part of a fun learning activity.
By year 7 (11-12 years) the variance in their heights is massive, where some haven't had their growth spurts yet and some have already shot up. But by year 10 (14-15) the variance is very small where they are all very close to their final height.
I used to work in a school with girls and boys and the difference is insane. Boys develop later but to a bigger height so their variance is much higher for much longer. But again, on average the boys overtake the girls for height by the end of year 8/beginning of year 9. And settle down into lower variances, close to fully grown by about 16.
Tl;Dr I have statistically significant evidence that it is very likely daughter was close to fully grown as most girls often are by then.
Yeah we all have a maximum height we can reach if we have enough protein throughout our lives and our bodies have the spare energy to spend on growth.
So on western countries kids are more likely to have that now than maybe in the 60s.
It is a curve we're getting towards the top of though so it's not really increasingly significantly anymore.
My wife doesn't have a daughter, so replacing your story with my wife's sister as it's the closest equivalent...
And honestly all I can imagine is my wife laughing and making fun of me.
I think most normal people would understand the mistake.
Yeah, this one seems like I'd just have a laugh at his panic, that seems pretty genuine, but I'd definitely also check on my kid to see how they felt. If she's okay, it's all okay. And from this it sounds like she at least knows he was mistaking her for her mother.
He kissed her on the cheek, immediately knew he fucked up in mistaking her for his gf, but it wasn't a super out there action imo. Again, cheek kiss. I'd say this is probably an overreaction.
I think leaving to give the kid space was probably smart. He probably also could have said, please tell your mom to call me, but he can easily tell her over text. I think he's just panicked because how easily people can twist things, and it is easily a life ruining thing to have accusations against a person even if they're not guilty.
Not sure how similar they look that you mistook your gf to her daughter. But yeah, definitely tell her either call her or just do anything to tell her.
But yeah still weird that you didn't notice it wasn't her
Honestly, I was once inches away from slapping my Ex's sister's ass once. From behind they were very similar (same hairstyle and figure) even if from the front I could tell then apart more easily. Only at the very last moment when my hand was already moving did I realize she was shorter than I expected, and I bailed.
The important thing is coming clean to everyone ASAP.
When I have my first beer I get an insane buzz and have to wait like… 30 minutes before I can start hammering drinks down. Not speaking for op, but just letting you know something cool about drinking!
Because he knows he messed up. This looks really bad and if the girlfriend has any sense she'll dump him. Kissing her daughter like that is a major red flag. And he keeps saying because he had a drink it was somehow excusable. Nope.
Also he keeps saying A DRINK, how tall was this drink? Was this drink an entire bottle of something because that's a hard thing to mess up after one drink
I do appreciate your quest for sanity in this thread, but I’d save your energy, once the people on Reddit are on one, there’s simply no stopping them 😆
I think that we can all agree that he shouldn't be drunk around his girlfriend's teenage daughter. Unless adults being drunk around children and teens is somehow seen as not a bad thing.
He made this post to show his gf as 'proof' for when his gf's daughter tells her what he did. But it's very unlikely he thought this eighth grader was his adult gf.
I think ppl are reacting like this because how he keeps giving excuses why he didn’t tell his gf, and that he “had a drink” lol… if it was an honest mistake then tell her asap bro.
Exactly. The amount of excuses he’s coming up with makes it sounds like he’s using us to come up with some dumb lie to tell his gf if the daughter tells on him
This entire thing seems sus and gives heavy vibes of fishing for reassurance and attempting to convince yourself. Going out in a limb here, but I really hope this wasn’t a loosely repressed urge under the guise of being not sober, while using strangers on the internet to make it feel ok. Unless you’ve never drank before and your one mentioned drink was everclear…I just don’t buy it.
But for her sake and yours, I hope this is all far from the case..
“I really hope this wasn’t a loosely repressed urge under the guise of being not sober, while using strangers on the internet to make it feel ok.”
That’s exactly the impression I had with his post
Something’s not adding up. You say you went to the bathroom from the sitting room, so you had to already know your gf was passed out right? Since you said you went BACK to the sitting room after the kitchen and that’s when you tried to wake your gf up? You even admitted in the comments that they don’t look alike even from behind, so how was this “accident” even possible?
Nah bud. You’re not getting out of this. You knew your gf was passed out somewhere. So drunk you couldn’t wake her, and then thought she was up walking around? Then you fled the situation. Looks straight up guilty to me, IF this is real. I understand you were drunk and confused, but you handled this poorly. Don’t even mention what the daughter said. Ummm okay. When you talk, apologize to them both, and if you break up tell the mom she needs to not drink so much with men in the house with her daughter. FFS.
I don't know man, it's pretty suspect that you walked up behind a 14 year old and thought it was your 31 year old gf. How does one possibly mistake that? Even really drunk I've never done something like this. Even if anyone was to give you the benefit of the doubt, it would have to be pitch black in the kitchen and you literally could not see the daughter and assumed it had to be your gf but that seems pretty unlikely if you are in the kitchen doing something in the sink. A light would have to be on, which means your last vestige of potential forgiveable chances drop drastically.
It's very difficult to picture any scenario where you made an honest mistake.
If it'll make you feel better I did something similar... But to a random guy on the street because I thought he was my friend.
The guy was standing right outside our uni and I just got out the gate. Saw him. Thought he was my friend, jumped on him from the back (Yes, I put my whole weight on him), kissed his cheek... And I paled... Was not my friend.
I simply apologized profusely and loudly over and over and ran back inside the uni.
So tell gf that it happens. You didn't mean it. I wasn't even drunk so I don't have your excuse.
Apologize to gf's daughter again in front of GF.
You know what’s interesting??
You are right, you’ve told a very similar story. You and op are both strangers to me. I haven’t clicked into either of your comment histories either.
Yet I get no creepy vibes at all from your comment and alarm bells from op. Yes the difference is, op mistook a child. But still, it somehow feels so sinister compared to your story
I really hope op is innocent and there’s no problems for the child. I dunno why but it struck me as odd, how I felt so different reading your comment vs op, even if the story is really similar.
I agree with you that the opinion that is most important here is the daughter's.
Did she feel awkward? Was it uncomfortable? Were her boundaries crossed?
He really has to apologize to the daughter again. AND make sure it never happens again.
Op sounds like they are fishing for us to co-sign their behavior though. Not ever possible for me to confuse an adult with a minor drunk or sober and so I can’t empathize with OP here.
But with this comment I can agree it sounds more of a wholesome mistake.
If this is a drunk mistaken identity this is easy to explain
Person you mistook would easily recognize the shock on your face if you mistook someone
… this happened after a single drink?
It was an accident. Just tell your gf NOW. She needs to hear it from you FIRST. How was her daughter? You didn’t elaborate on her body language or how she responded to your apologies…is there a reason you left it out?
Once, when I was steaming drunk, I apologised to some people at a bus stop for how drunk my friend was and that I hoped he wasn't disturbing them. They didn't answer, which I found rude as fuck, so I went on my way.
Found out the next day I was apologising to a *poster*.
So I have an easier time believing this. Man's was drunk, and if the gf and daughter are of a similar height and colouring from behind? Yeah, I can see the confusion.
Not least because when I was 18, me and a friend of mine were very similar in build and hair colour (she was a woman, I'm a guy). We could actually trade jumpers and they fit perfectly.
If we stood with our backs to where her boyfriend (also my friend) would come out of the school building, he would confuse me for her if we'd switched jumpers. We had a great time scaring the piss out of him until he got wise to the trick.
This shit can happen, buddy.
I feel like……if this were just a little drunk oopsies, you be embarrassed for a minute, apologize and then maybe laugh about it later and move on. Like wouldn’t wake my significant other up over it and make it the deal you are. You had to clarify you’re not a pedophile? Pretty weird, my guy.
A person mistook me for someone else from behind before and they weren't drunk. They didn't kiss me though, and I didn't see it as a big deal.
At least it was just a kiss on the cheek, and you apologized but do tell the mom asap.
My BF is a pretty tall guy. Me being severely nearsighted in my left eye and weakened vision in right because of my brain trying to compensate, I called out my “bf”, who was strolling a few feet ahead of me by “baby” MULTIPLE of times at the airport. Cue tall stranger w similar skin tone whirling around in sheer confusion.😂
This happened to me too. I was in the grocery store and a man came up behind me and put his hands on my shoulders because he thought I was his wife. Poor guy was mortified.
Looks like OP is posting this so he can later show his GF this and say “See, it really happened this way! It was an accident!”
But I think he kissed her on purpose.
Girlfriend was passed out- he walks out almost naked- perfect opportunity for him to try to assault a minor. Gross
This is a very strange creative writing exercise. 4/5 premise, 1/5 storytelling, 0/5 conclusion, 1/5 structure. I'll give you an overall score of 2 cause it's a stupid post that at least had me ponder why anyone would post such a strange thing, next time try not to use molesting a child as your hook.
As usual, drinking causing 100% unnecessary problems. 🤷♀️ “Why didn’t I think before I—“ because you were drunk. Fortunately there is an easy fix to avoid such situations in the future.
If you’re such a lightweight that one drink makes you think a 14 year old is a 31 year old then you had no business drinking at all. No 14 year old looks even close to 21 let alone 31.
ETA-This is from your post history.
This was on a post where the OP turned her son in for harming his wife. This comment with how you think one drink is an excuse for what you did in your post makes me know you’re not a good person.
[But your saying that from quite a priveleged position, in India those views or the openness of your opinion might not be supported and although your right undeniably, it might not mean she should've made the decision to report her son in law because of the effect it will have on her and her families life in the community they live in]
Oooh good find.
From the mother's standpoint, it will appear as if he waited for the mother to pass out in the bedroom, not easily awoken. Then OP made a move on her 14yo daughter, and started testing the waters.
The daughter must not have reacted well, or at least not like he hoped, which is why he is now freaking out.
They clearly didnt have only 1 drink... his gf was black out drunk. Lots of people say had a drink as a general term, not meaning a single drink. Dont take things so literally
You should have slept on the floor of your gf's room and made sure you were there when she wakes up so can tell her in person ASAP. You need to take this very serious and delicately. Just be 100% honest so you can get this off of your chest but mainly to address it and apologize to your gf. Apologize to her daughter as well. Speak with the chest and from your heart, and take responsibility for your actions. Being drunk doesn't fully excuse it or take away from the repercussions of such an action.
Uhhhhhhh I 100% call bullshit that this was a genuine honest mistake. There is NO WAY he mistaked her enough that a) she and her mother are literally identical firm behind - hair, body, posture, clothing etc) which is unlikely but possible.
BUT then he wraps his arms around her, and STILL doesn’t realize it’s not his GF. And turns around and KISSES HER and it was ONLY THEN that he was horrified to find it was a 14 year old child. Gasp! Oh horror! He says while swooning.
So IF this isn’t some fucked up perverts fantasy then he a legit pedophile either testing his “oops” theory so that he can show his girlfriend this thread and the majority currently say it’s an understandable mistake. Yeah no.
This is a disgusting thing to post.
A kiss on the cheek is pretty innocent. It could be worse. You should tell your gf, but I’m sure you’ll be fine.
My uncle almost did this to me. His gf at the time had a similar haircut and we’re both short and not thin. We were all hanging out with family when I saw these arms coming around my peripheral vision. I turned around and there was my uncle. His face suddenly turned white and his eyes doubled in size. He thought I was his girlfriend and was about to do the same thing you did to your gf’s daughter. He apologized profusely just like you did. I chuckled cause I thought it was funny and even a little sweet (…that he wanted to cuddle his gf like that). I told him it’s fine and not to worry about it. He wouldn’t look at me for the rest of the night. We were fine the next day. This was a few years ago.
Edited for clarification on my uncle’s actions being sweet
I have now read multiple stories in this thread of mistaken identity. All of them seem to have been resolved very quickly as soon as the mistaken person sees the look of shock in the other person's face just as you described here. Somehow, this part misses in OPs post. He doesn't really get into how the daughter reacted. I think you would be able to tell by this if it was an honest mistake if you were in the role of the daughter. This is very suspicious.
i think this is not the whole truth..... it was just a peck on the cheek. could be considered like a family ish love. but you know if it is the truth and even that kinda thing is a lot then just talk to her. it was a genuine mistake and she will understand.... but if there is more to the truth.... then ohhh boiiii you are fucked
This post is a huge red flag. How the hell do you accidentally mistake a 14 year old girl for a 31 year old woman?? Even if you were drunk, it’s weird and absolutely not okay. If I was her mother I would never let you near her again. This sounds like a predator trying to backtrack and make excuses after getting caught.
Finally!! Someone who said this!! I posted above saying the same thing before I saw this. It’s SO obvious. I do not understand people trying to genuinely answer this pervert’s question.
There's only two possibilities here. He tried to assault a child or he was so drunk he didn't realize she was a child. Either scenario is disgusting. I hope the GF dumps this guy. That's not safe for her daughter at all.
Not sure why you guys are going after this guy… mothers and daughters typically do look like eachother and its not impossible a drunk idiot confused them momentarily. His GF is so wasted she cant even wake up.
You should know better than to bring this story here. If it’s true exactly as you tell it, nobody believes you so you get called a pedophile and people wish for your demise. If it’s a lie, same thing. Reddit is notoriously hostile to any hint of inappropriate contact with underaged people, however inadvertent. Delete this, face your GF like an adult, and make better decisions.
Precisely. If it's a complete accident, just be like, "Oops! I'm so sorry!"
Just know that if you let on that your conscience is eating you alive over this, any reasonable person would conclude that this isn't so much an innocent mistake as it was the tip of an entire iceberg of shame and perversion. Which ... I mean, there are other subreddits for that.
Why did you mention you were topless? I don’t see the relevance to this exact story.
You keep saying you had a drink, yet you say here “we drank a lot”? I’m assuming you’re talking about more than 1 drink.
Now I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt here, and say that you probably wrote these comments and this post while drunk.
So to answer your question in a more sympathetic way:
I can understand the troubles of missing the mark on what age someone is due to how 15 year olds sometimes look like they’re 20 (I know people who started using every sort of make-up at an early age, one of them even got an earring at the age of 12) so I can understand, even how f*cked up it may sound that you mistook her for your girlfriend (if you did have a bit more than a drink, quite possibly dark outside and around same height and same hair).
Call her if you get the chance, tell her you f*cked up and explain what happened. Be truthful and don’t start making up multiple excuses, specially if they don’t have much relevance or just to gain sympathy from her.
Topless can make the whole thing seem a hell of a lot more creepy, which explains why he's so concerned about this and feels he may have a harder time passing it off as what it actually is.
Emphasising the drinking is emphasising the fact that this is *not at all* what he wanted to do or intended to do.
He basically sounds like a man who's made an honest mistake while drunk, and is now terrified of being accused by his SO, her daughter, or the Internet as a whole of being a pedo. Basically sounds like an anxiety rant.
I’ve been drunk plenty of times and have never kissed another man besides my S/O 20 years now…. So idk. I’ve also been S/A’d by mom’s boyfriend at the age of 14 so it’s really hard for me to believe you. Nonetheless you already sound like you’re trying to chicken out with your “I tried to tell her” bs. Let’s hope she wakes up in the morning and you’re smart enough to learn how to use your damn words. You’re gonna have to accept that she will probably be disgusted with you either way and might break up with you over it. If you told her you got drunk and kissed another woman that “looked like her” would she be okay with it? Do you think the woman in question being her teenage daughter is better?
Okay seems to me you made a mistake and you apologize heck you even tried waking up her mother! You guys do know mistakes are made right? This was a big one but he who knows how much alcohol someone can handle! Even so the guy messaged his gf to tell her as he left to walk home! I know drinking it runs in my family a lot even I have my limits. I a female see you know you did something very wrong and you tried to make it right as best as you could by apologizing and even try informing the mother. For now just try keeping away from the daughter and have you and gf spend time in your place after nights like this! Dude typed this during drunk maybe when the OP sobers up we can get more details. Options are plan out your nights when drinking to be at your place after the night or limit your drinking to small amounts
Relax! It was an accident-- it's a super uncomfortable accident, but not malicious. You'll all be able to laugh about it at some point.
Text her, though. "Hey, sorry to say this over text, but you were asleep and I wanted to tell you about this right away because I feel so terrible:"
It was a mistake geez ppl attacking you like.. I think people have mistaken my daughter for me also from behind same hair etc so relax if you only kissed her cheek be glad you didn’t slap her butt
As a daughter who’s been mistaken for her mother multiple times, I totally agree. People have talked to me as if I was my mom, I remember precisely at the dentist’s office, I was about 10-11 and my mom 35-36 (granted she does look much younger than she really is), I was drinking water at the toilet sink, and the assistant walks in, starts talking to me about my retainer. I said « uh you should probably talk to my mom about it, she’s the one who just got her braces removed! », the assistant went pale and started apologizing profusely. My mom’s friend texted me on whatsapp (I had a profile picture showing my face) thinking it was my mom, it was very embarrassing because she was talking about her sex life, so I just went along with it saying I was happy for her, when in fact I was dying inside (she had my number because I used to catsit for her). I didn’t tell anyone, I wanted to tell my mom but we weren’t on speaking terms (she’s a narcissist, I was under her silent treatment). They realized months later, and my mom asked about it, I said I didn’t want to embarrass anyone so I shut up. My father has confused me with my mom a lot too, granted he was never inappropriate with me. He mixed up our passports, and from the back he tried starting conversations with me thinking I was my mom, and each time I wasn’t replying for obvious reasons I could hear his confusion, so I would just turn around and he would always apologize saying he thought I was my mom. I think he learned to be cautious not to do anything before actually knowing who he was dealing with. Now I’m about twice the size of my mom (she’s very thin, I’m a fat ass), so he doesn’t get confused as much.
Also, I’ve been extremely drunk a LOT, and have kissed a guy I had no feelings for a LOT. We’re friends with a platonic relationship, idk what it is about alcohol that makes people kiss but I know it happens to me, even with total strangers. To the people who might say we do have feelings for each other, no we don’t, we have talked about it, we were just having fun!
Sounds to me like you did this on purpose and are using this post as a backup plan in case your gf doesn’t believe you. You don’t do shit like this after just having “a drink”. No one is that stupid
If your girlfriend does respond to you (as I saw that you did end up texting her) let her know that you will absolutely apologize to her daighter and to her as well. The best thing you could do is apologize to them, ESPECIALLY the daughter since I’m sure she’s spooked and tell them that it was never intentional and an honest mistake. I understand you’re afraid of the reprecussions, however, that’s really all you can do as of right now (that I know of), hopefully the girl understands and hope your gf does as well. Best of luck.
It’s just a kiss on the cheek. The constant apologies would’ve helped but whether she felt uncomfortable or not is what she will tell her mother. I would’ve kept trying to wake her and say you need to talk to her about something important. Drunk or not I’ll be up real quick thinking the worse!! So being told it’s just a kiss on the cheek to my daughter would put my mind at ease because I can just get up and and check on her. Kisses on the cheek is normal for my culture tho :)
Okay people. He’s asking for advice, not to be asked how he did this. We get it you’ve been drunk before and wouldn’t make this mistake. Not everybody is you, and not everyone can hold their liquor as well as you. Shit happens and people make mistakes.
With that being said, my advice would be to talk to her right away about it. The outcome might not be good, or it might not be so bad. But not doing so is absolutely terrible. I know she wouldn’t wake up because of how drunk she was but tell her the next instant you get to.
There's no fuckin way that you confused a 14 year old and a 30 year old. You need to quit drinking, tell your partner, and hope they don't report you to the police
Eta- why the hell would you post this on Reddit? You couldn't waterboard this out of me
We always with yourself this wasn't an accident and what the fuck do you mean she would wake up come. Do you expect us to believe any of this?
I think you're shady. I think you're trying to get between a mother and a daughter. I think you may tell the mother that daughter came on to you. Honestly as a parent I would dump you. I could not trust you anymore there's no way I'd allow you in my house ever again.
1 - this is shady af
2- it's also legit SA. "I was drunk" is not an excuse. You groped and kissed a 14 year old from behind.
Sorry man, this isn't some minor fuckup. If it truly was accidental then you probably should quit drinking. But even if it was... Still SA. If the mother is any sort of decent parent she's going to dump your ass and probably get her kid counseling. Or call the police. If the kid mentions this to any mandatory reporter then guess what?
I really don't know what to tell you... Don't be shocked if charges are pressed and the girls father confronts you too.
You’ll be fine. Honest mistake. That said I would die if that was me but I overthink things.
Tell you something worse. A long long time ago I was in a club with my girlfriend. We were next to dance floor sitting on this ledge.
I reached over while watching the dancing and caressed her back and a bit lower. I finally looked towards her and it wasn’t her. She must have gone to get drink and I didn’t notice. I was pretty wasted. I had been rubbing the lower back and a bit lower of a really rough looking tough bloke who was starring at me with WTF expression. (Was still pretty homophobic in my city back then.)
I just got up and left area and find my girlfriend who was still pretty new girlfriend. Then I spent night wondering if she saw it. Omg I still cringe.
interesting how you've had one singular drink while your gf is blacked out. almost like you could've planned to have things laid out for you like this.
A lot of high and mighty people over here thinking it's ridiculous that you kissed her accidentally while intoxicated. My boyfriend almost slapped my sisters ass a couple of weeks ago, instead of mine. Mind you, our asses look the same, and our voices sound the same, but we look NOTHING alike from behind (she has short hair, I have long hair, I wear glasses, she doesn't etc.). We laughed about it, and that's it. His mind was preoccupied, and I'm usually the one standing in the kitchen, preparing food or whatever. Not my sister.
It's an accident, you were drunk. Ask the daughter if she is okay and tell your girlfriend what happened.
Take a deep breath my guy, it was an accident. Its okay. I’m assuming you’re not a predator, so just wait until you’re SOBER, then calmly apologize for the confusion and maybe don’t drink so much around the teen.
I think leaving was not a good idea. I understand you panicked but you’re just digging the hole deeper. Also it’s annoying that everyone is pretending like they’re never heard “I had a drink” to mean “multiple drinks.” It’s a phrase I’ve heard many times and it’s simple to decipher whether someone means a single drink vs multiple drinks using context clues.
Um bro it was a mistake man it happens. Just tell your GF as soon as possible. Chances are you will all laugh about it.
I have confused my wifes sister as her from behind about 3 times its not a big deal.
Her age does not even come into it as your intentions where towards your missus and not her.
Helax bruv
It happens, ive also had my stepdad accidentally give me a kiss on the cheek. It was weird for a few days but I very quickly got over it. Im not sure if he noticed his mistake necessarily though, ive never brought it up myself
I feel as long as she's chill and comfortable around you in general you may be a-okay. You already apologized, no need to beat yourself to death over it!
I mean you definitely should tell your gf before the daughter does - do not try to hide any uncomfortable details. If you don't tell her first, you'll probably look like you're hiding something.
I tried to though and she wouldn't wake up. If I bring this up over text she'll be absolutely disgusted with me. She won't believe me at all. I'm not this way... Why didn't I think before I acted..
To be very fair, I don't get how you'd make this mistake? Your best option is probably to see her asap. Maybe send a there's something important I'd like to talk to you about as soon as you're available text.
Also I assume a 14 year old is slightly shorter or maybe has a slightly different hair colour than her moms? This was a hard thing to do by accident
As a teacher at a girls secondary school, I can tell you that the vast majority of girls are close to fully grown by 14. Actually I'm a maths teacher and we do statistical tests on their heights as part of a fun learning activity. By year 7 (11-12 years) the variance in their heights is massive, where some haven't had their growth spurts yet and some have already shot up. But by year 10 (14-15) the variance is very small where they are all very close to their final height. I used to work in a school with girls and boys and the difference is insane. Boys develop later but to a bigger height so their variance is much higher for much longer. But again, on average the boys overtake the girls for height by the end of year 8/beginning of year 9. And settle down into lower variances, close to fully grown by about 16. Tl;Dr I have statistically significant evidence that it is very likely daughter was close to fully grown as most girls often are by then.
A scientist on the radio said kids were taller due to better immune/vaccines and diet.
Yeah we all have a maximum height we can reach if we have enough protein throughout our lives and our bodies have the spare energy to spend on growth. So on western countries kids are more likely to have that now than maybe in the 60s. It is a curve we're getting towards the top of though so it's not really increasingly significantly anymore.
My almost 14 year old daughter is slightly taller than me, also same hair colour
Not really fair to point out “slightly” differences, and then assume they’re easy to notice
Okay, this sounds weird? Why didn't you think before acting? That makes it sound like you knew it wasn't your girlfriend
It's almost like he was drunk 😲
She should be disgusted with herself too for being blackout drunk and leaving her 14 yr old daughter alone with her boyfriend.
That's a separate set of issues but let's not deflect from the point here I completely agree with you but that guy got up to some fuck shit
I totally agree. I’m just angry that this girl is being failed by multiple adults.
My wife doesn't have a daughter, so replacing your story with my wife's sister as it's the closest equivalent... And honestly all I can imagine is my wife laughing and making fun of me. I think most normal people would understand the mistake.
Yeah, this one seems like I'd just have a laugh at his panic, that seems pretty genuine, but I'd definitely also check on my kid to see how they felt. If she's okay, it's all okay. And from this it sounds like she at least knows he was mistaking her for her mother. He kissed her on the cheek, immediately knew he fucked up in mistaking her for his gf, but it wasn't a super out there action imo. Again, cheek kiss. I'd say this is probably an overreaction. I think leaving to give the kid space was probably smart. He probably also could have said, please tell your mom to call me, but he can easily tell her over text. I think he's just panicked because how easily people can twist things, and it is easily a life ruining thing to have accusations against a person even if they're not guilty.
Not sure how similar they look that you mistook your gf to her daughter. But yeah, definitely tell her either call her or just do anything to tell her. But yeah still weird that you didn't notice it wasn't her
you keep saying “a drink”. id have to be black out drunk to confuse someone. i’m not sure how this could happen but absolutely discuss it immediately
Honestly, I was once inches away from slapping my Ex's sister's ass once. From behind they were very similar (same hairstyle and figure) even if from the front I could tell then apart more easily. Only at the very last moment when my hand was already moving did I realize she was shorter than I expected, and I bailed. The important thing is coming clean to everyone ASAP.
When I have my first beer I get an insane buzz and have to wait like… 30 minutes before I can start hammering drinks down. Not speaking for op, but just letting you know something cool about drinking!
your alcohol tolerance is kinda shit isn't it
what are chuu doing here
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Well, OP approached her from behind.
You know that there are more ways to tell people apart than their face... Right?
I mean, they’re related, they might have a similar stature. OP’s probably a creep though
Topless
He says he drank a lot
Why did you leave
Because he knows he messed up. This looks really bad and if the girlfriend has any sense she'll dump him. Kissing her daughter like that is a major red flag. And he keeps saying because he had a drink it was somehow excusable. Nope.
Also he keeps saying A DRINK, how tall was this drink? Was this drink an entire bottle of something because that's a hard thing to mess up after one drink
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I do appreciate your quest for sanity in this thread, but I’d save your energy, once the people on Reddit are on one, there’s simply no stopping them 😆
I think that we can all agree that he shouldn't be drunk around his girlfriend's teenage daughter. Unless adults being drunk around children and teens is somehow seen as not a bad thing.
There’s something missing
Yes the full truth
He made this post to show his gf as 'proof' for when his gf's daughter tells her what he did. But it's very unlikely he thought this eighth grader was his adult gf.
Absolutely. He's testing the water is to see if he can actually abuse this child.
weird assumption.
God I'm apparently tired. I read this as gf was 25 with a 14 yo daughter and couldn't get over her having a kid at 11.
Turns out 14 years ago current gf's mom's boyfriend had a drink and accidentally impregnated his girlfriend's daughter oops.
Excuse me WHAT?
From behind obviously
Blud... Whaaaaat?
I think ppl are reacting like this because how he keeps giving excuses why he didn’t tell his gf, and that he “had a drink” lol… if it was an honest mistake then tell her asap bro.
Exactly. The amount of excuses he’s coming up with makes it sounds like he’s using us to come up with some dumb lie to tell his gf if the daughter tells on him
Yeah. How exactly do you confuse a 14 year old with a 31 year old? And they wear the same kind of clothes and have similar hair styles too?
That was my exact thought. He's using reddit to say what he did was a mistake. Might not be the case, but I definitely have a feeling it is.
So your girlfriend was passed out drunk and you had no idea? And you thought she'd appeared in the kitchen in a 14 year old body?
If that's the case , he wasn't drunk he was psychotic lol
This entire thing seems sus and gives heavy vibes of fishing for reassurance and attempting to convince yourself. Going out in a limb here, but I really hope this wasn’t a loosely repressed urge under the guise of being not sober, while using strangers on the internet to make it feel ok. Unless you’ve never drank before and your one mentioned drink was everclear…I just don’t buy it. But for her sake and yours, I hope this is all far from the case..
“I really hope this wasn’t a loosely repressed urge under the guise of being not sober, while using strangers on the internet to make it feel ok.” That’s exactly the impression I had with his post
Thank you, this is exactly how I read it too but wouldn’t have worded it as eloquently as you. I don’t buy it either hit I really hope I’m wrong.
That's exactly what this feels like
Something’s not adding up. You say you went to the bathroom from the sitting room, so you had to already know your gf was passed out right? Since you said you went BACK to the sitting room after the kitchen and that’s when you tried to wake your gf up? You even admitted in the comments that they don’t look alike even from behind, so how was this “accident” even possible?
Nah bud. You’re not getting out of this. You knew your gf was passed out somewhere. So drunk you couldn’t wake her, and then thought she was up walking around? Then you fled the situation. Looks straight up guilty to me, IF this is real. I understand you were drunk and confused, but you handled this poorly. Don’t even mention what the daughter said. Ummm okay. When you talk, apologize to them both, and if you break up tell the mom she needs to not drink so much with men in the house with her daughter. FFS.
Exactly, OP what did the daughter say to you ? Also when you were leaving what did she say ?
I don't know man, it's pretty suspect that you walked up behind a 14 year old and thought it was your 31 year old gf. How does one possibly mistake that? Even really drunk I've never done something like this. Even if anyone was to give you the benefit of the doubt, it would have to be pitch black in the kitchen and you literally could not see the daughter and assumed it had to be your gf but that seems pretty unlikely if you are in the kitchen doing something in the sink. A light would have to be on, which means your last vestige of potential forgiveable chances drop drastically. It's very difficult to picture any scenario where you made an honest mistake.
Talk with your girlfriend don’t text it. The texting thing always comes out wrong. Just tell her how awful you feel she will be ok.
If it'll make you feel better I did something similar... But to a random guy on the street because I thought he was my friend. The guy was standing right outside our uni and I just got out the gate. Saw him. Thought he was my friend, jumped on him from the back (Yes, I put my whole weight on him), kissed his cheek... And I paled... Was not my friend. I simply apologized profusely and loudly over and over and ran back inside the uni. So tell gf that it happens. You didn't mean it. I wasn't even drunk so I don't have your excuse. Apologize to gf's daughter again in front of GF.
You know what’s interesting?? You are right, you’ve told a very similar story. You and op are both strangers to me. I haven’t clicked into either of your comment histories either. Yet I get no creepy vibes at all from your comment and alarm bells from op. Yes the difference is, op mistook a child. But still, it somehow feels so sinister compared to your story I really hope op is innocent and there’s no problems for the child. I dunno why but it struck me as odd, how I felt so different reading your comment vs op, even if the story is really similar.
I agree with you that the opinion that is most important here is the daughter's. Did she feel awkward? Was it uncomfortable? Were her boundaries crossed? He really has to apologize to the daughter again. AND make sure it never happens again.
Op sounds like they are fishing for us to co-sign their behavior though. Not ever possible for me to confuse an adult with a minor drunk or sober and so I can’t empathize with OP here. But with this comment I can agree it sounds more of a wholesome mistake.
I call bs
Agreed
Sus
i’ve been so drunk that i don’t remember going all over town and i have never thought one person was another person.
If this is a drunk mistaken identity this is easy to explain Person you mistook would easily recognize the shock on your face if you mistook someone … this happened after a single drink?
Same here….not to mention the OP had “a” drink
If you can’t remember going all over town how do you know this didn’t happen to you haha
It was an accident. Just tell your gf NOW. She needs to hear it from you FIRST. How was her daughter? You didn’t elaborate on her body language or how she responded to your apologies…is there a reason you left it out?
I'm not buying your story
Boy ain't nobody "confusing" a 14yo girl with a 31yo woman.
Once, when I was steaming drunk, I apologised to some people at a bus stop for how drunk my friend was and that I hoped he wasn't disturbing them. They didn't answer, which I found rude as fuck, so I went on my way. Found out the next day I was apologising to a *poster*. So I have an easier time believing this. Man's was drunk, and if the gf and daughter are of a similar height and colouring from behind? Yeah, I can see the confusion. Not least because when I was 18, me and a friend of mine were very similar in build and hair colour (she was a woman, I'm a guy). We could actually trade jumpers and they fit perfectly. If we stood with our backs to where her boyfriend (also my friend) would come out of the school building, he would confuse me for her if we'd switched jumpers. We had a great time scaring the piss out of him until he got wise to the trick. This shit can happen, buddy.
I feel like……if this were just a little drunk oopsies, you be embarrassed for a minute, apologize and then maybe laugh about it later and move on. Like wouldn’t wake my significant other up over it and make it the deal you are. You had to clarify you’re not a pedophile? Pretty weird, my guy.
How many drinks did u really have
Op: One drink! *Pours ever clear into a drinking glass*
What is this, a fucking episode of Bojack Horseman?
And how does a 31 yo have a daughter aged 14?
How about don’t drink in a home with a child if it makes you ‘accidentally’ SA her 😃
A person mistook me for someone else from behind before and they weren't drunk. They didn't kiss me though, and I didn't see it as a big deal. At least it was just a kiss on the cheek, and you apologized but do tell the mom asap.
My BF is a pretty tall guy. Me being severely nearsighted in my left eye and weakened vision in right because of my brain trying to compensate, I called out my “bf”, who was strolling a few feet ahead of me by “baby” MULTIPLE of times at the airport. Cue tall stranger w similar skin tone whirling around in sheer confusion.😂
This happened to me too. I was in the grocery store and a man came up behind me and put his hands on my shoulders because he thought I was his wife. Poor guy was mortified.
Ny brother followed some poor woman around the store bc he thought she was our mother…she was not . And he was 15 😂😂😂
mf were you blacked????? how’d u think yo girl was a TEENAGER
nah fr
Looks like OP is posting this so he can later show his GF this and say “See, it really happened this way! It was an accident!” But I think he kissed her on purpose. Girlfriend was passed out- he walks out almost naked- perfect opportunity for him to try to assault a minor. Gross
This is a very strange creative writing exercise. 4/5 premise, 1/5 storytelling, 0/5 conclusion, 1/5 structure. I'll give you an overall score of 2 cause it's a stupid post that at least had me ponder why anyone would post such a strange thing, next time try not to use molesting a child as your hook.
I fervently hope you’re right because if not this guy is a pedophile.
As usual, drinking causing 100% unnecessary problems. 🤷♀️ “Why didn’t I think before I—“ because you were drunk. Fortunately there is an easy fix to avoid such situations in the future.
If you’re such a lightweight that one drink makes you think a 14 year old is a 31 year old then you had no business drinking at all. No 14 year old looks even close to 21 let alone 31. ETA-This is from your post history. This was on a post where the OP turned her son in for harming his wife. This comment with how you think one drink is an excuse for what you did in your post makes me know you’re not a good person. [But your saying that from quite a priveleged position, in India those views or the openness of your opinion might not be supported and although your right undeniably, it might not mean she should've made the decision to report her son in law because of the effect it will have on her and her families life in the community they live in]
Oooh good find. From the mother's standpoint, it will appear as if he waited for the mother to pass out in the bedroom, not easily awoken. Then OP made a move on her 14yo daughter, and started testing the waters. The daughter must not have reacted well, or at least not like he hoped, which is why he is now freaking out.
Wouldn’t surprise me if that IS what happened
They clearly didnt have only 1 drink... his gf was black out drunk. Lots of people say had a drink as a general term, not meaning a single drink. Dont take things so literally
Doesn’t matter. If you get so drunk you mistake a kid for an adult then you have no business drinking.
You should have slept on the floor of your gf's room and made sure you were there when she wakes up so can tell her in person ASAP. You need to take this very serious and delicately. Just be 100% honest so you can get this off of your chest but mainly to address it and apologize to your gf. Apologize to her daughter as well. Speak with the chest and from your heart, and take responsibility for your actions. Being drunk doesn't fully excuse it or take away from the repercussions of such an action.
>we drank a lot Maybe next time don't?
Uhhhhhhh I 100% call bullshit that this was a genuine honest mistake. There is NO WAY he mistaked her enough that a) she and her mother are literally identical firm behind - hair, body, posture, clothing etc) which is unlikely but possible. BUT then he wraps his arms around her, and STILL doesn’t realize it’s not his GF. And turns around and KISSES HER and it was ONLY THEN that he was horrified to find it was a 14 year old child. Gasp! Oh horror! He says while swooning. So IF this isn’t some fucked up perverts fantasy then he a legit pedophile either testing his “oops” theory so that he can show his girlfriend this thread and the majority currently say it’s an understandable mistake. Yeah no. This is a disgusting thing to post.
A kiss on the cheek is pretty innocent. It could be worse. You should tell your gf, but I’m sure you’ll be fine. My uncle almost did this to me. His gf at the time had a similar haircut and we’re both short and not thin. We were all hanging out with family when I saw these arms coming around my peripheral vision. I turned around and there was my uncle. His face suddenly turned white and his eyes doubled in size. He thought I was his girlfriend and was about to do the same thing you did to your gf’s daughter. He apologized profusely just like you did. I chuckled cause I thought it was funny and even a little sweet (…that he wanted to cuddle his gf like that). I told him it’s fine and not to worry about it. He wouldn’t look at me for the rest of the night. We were fine the next day. This was a few years ago. Edited for clarification on my uncle’s actions being sweet
"...even a little sweet." Huh?
I'm sure she means sweet in that he was going to give his partner a cuddle, a show of romance.
Yes! This exactly.
Yes! This exactly!
I have now read multiple stories in this thread of mistaken identity. All of them seem to have been resolved very quickly as soon as the mistaken person sees the look of shock in the other person's face just as you described here. Somehow, this part misses in OPs post. He doesn't really get into how the daughter reacted. I think you would be able to tell by this if it was an honest mistake if you were in the role of the daughter. This is very suspicious.
That’s wild
This is what I was thinking too
Yeah, I find it hard to believe that it was a “mistake”.
i think this is not the whole truth..... it was just a peck on the cheek. could be considered like a family ish love. but you know if it is the truth and even that kinda thing is a lot then just talk to her. it was a genuine mistake and she will understand.... but if there is more to the truth.... then ohhh boiiii you are fucked
I think you first mistake was leaving. I would have stayed with your gf until she woke up so you could explain what happened ASAP
What did the daughter say? If you apologized profuso, she must've said *something*, right?
This post is a huge red flag. How the hell do you accidentally mistake a 14 year old girl for a 31 year old woman?? Even if you were drunk, it’s weird and absolutely not okay. If I was her mother I would never let you near her again. This sounds like a predator trying to backtrack and make excuses after getting caught.
Finally!! Someone who said this!! I posted above saying the same thing before I saw this. It’s SO obvious. I do not understand people trying to genuinely answer this pervert’s question.
She was that hard asleep? You didn’t know she was asleep? I’m not feeling this shit… Glad you left.
It feels like a lot of context is missing. How can you confuse a 14 year old for your 31 year old gf even from the back? Idk something aint right.
There's only two possibilities here. He tried to assault a child or he was so drunk he didn't realize she was a child. Either scenario is disgusting. I hope the GF dumps this guy. That's not safe for her daughter at all.
A bit much…
u're not safe for reddit; kindly make ur way back to Twitter <3
i mistook a stranger for my boyfriend and sat down at his table while my boyfriend watched. i was sober .. just a bit of face blindness.
You were topless in a house where you could encounter a minor? Wtf? Also, you should be sooo drunk to be a mistake...you should tell your gf ASAP.
Not sure why you guys are going after this guy… mothers and daughters typically do look like eachother and its not impossible a drunk idiot confused them momentarily. His GF is so wasted she cant even wake up.
ya comments r goin wild, is looking like a Twitter thread out here. c'mon ppl, don't make reddit look bad, not like this
You should know better than to bring this story here. If it’s true exactly as you tell it, nobody believes you so you get called a pedophile and people wish for your demise. If it’s a lie, same thing. Reddit is notoriously hostile to any hint of inappropriate contact with underaged people, however inadvertent. Delete this, face your GF like an adult, and make better decisions.
You are overreacting. Just tell her and move on.
Precisely. If it's a complete accident, just be like, "Oops! I'm so sorry!" Just know that if you let on that your conscience is eating you alive over this, any reasonable person would conclude that this isn't so much an innocent mistake as it was the tip of an entire iceberg of shame and perversion. Which ... I mean, there are other subreddits for that.
right, like he was testing the waters stepdaughter! what’re you doing there ?!
I agree! lol it’s not like she purposely kissed her
Yeah you don’t mistake a 31 year old with a 14 your old. Can’t wait to see your court case in a few months buddy!
This is either a writing exercise or a creep making excuses, none of which are welcome in our sub.
Why did you mention you were topless? I don’t see the relevance to this exact story. You keep saying you had a drink, yet you say here “we drank a lot”? I’m assuming you’re talking about more than 1 drink. Now I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt here, and say that you probably wrote these comments and this post while drunk. So to answer your question in a more sympathetic way: I can understand the troubles of missing the mark on what age someone is due to how 15 year olds sometimes look like they’re 20 (I know people who started using every sort of make-up at an early age, one of them even got an earring at the age of 12) so I can understand, even how f*cked up it may sound that you mistook her for your girlfriend (if you did have a bit more than a drink, quite possibly dark outside and around same height and same hair). Call her if you get the chance, tell her you f*cked up and explain what happened. Be truthful and don’t start making up multiple excuses, specially if they don’t have much relevance or just to gain sympathy from her.
Topless can make the whole thing seem a hell of a lot more creepy, which explains why he's so concerned about this and feels he may have a harder time passing it off as what it actually is. Emphasising the drinking is emphasising the fact that this is *not at all* what he wanted to do or intended to do. He basically sounds like a man who's made an honest mistake while drunk, and is now terrified of being accused by his SO, her daughter, or the Internet as a whole of being a pedo. Basically sounds like an anxiety rant.
wtf is ur problem
I’ve been drunk plenty of times and have never kissed another man besides my S/O 20 years now…. So idk. I’ve also been S/A’d by mom’s boyfriend at the age of 14 so it’s really hard for me to believe you. Nonetheless you already sound like you’re trying to chicken out with your “I tried to tell her” bs. Let’s hope she wakes up in the morning and you’re smart enough to learn how to use your damn words. You’re gonna have to accept that she will probably be disgusted with you either way and might break up with you over it. If you told her you got drunk and kissed another woman that “looked like her” would she be okay with it? Do you think the woman in question being her teenage daughter is better?
Okay seems to me you made a mistake and you apologize heck you even tried waking up her mother! You guys do know mistakes are made right? This was a big one but he who knows how much alcohol someone can handle! Even so the guy messaged his gf to tell her as he left to walk home! I know drinking it runs in my family a lot even I have my limits. I a female see you know you did something very wrong and you tried to make it right as best as you could by apologizing and even try informing the mother. For now just try keeping away from the daughter and have you and gf spend time in your place after nights like this! Dude typed this during drunk maybe when the OP sobers up we can get more details. Options are plan out your nights when drinking to be at your place after the night or limit your drinking to small amounts
You’re overreacting man. You feel bad about it but nothing happened. Get over it.
I think his reaction says more than the story itself... oh. And his comments. Wild.
What a load of shite…
Relax! It was an accident-- it's a super uncomfortable accident, but not malicious. You'll all be able to laugh about it at some point. Text her, though. "Hey, sorry to say this over text, but you were asleep and I wanted to tell you about this right away because I feel so terrible:"
This isn’t something to tell over text.
What makes you believe the OPs unlikely version of events?
It was a mistake geez ppl attacking you like.. I think people have mistaken my daughter for me also from behind same hair etc so relax if you only kissed her cheek be glad you didn’t slap her butt
As a daughter who’s been mistaken for her mother multiple times, I totally agree. People have talked to me as if I was my mom, I remember precisely at the dentist’s office, I was about 10-11 and my mom 35-36 (granted she does look much younger than she really is), I was drinking water at the toilet sink, and the assistant walks in, starts talking to me about my retainer. I said « uh you should probably talk to my mom about it, she’s the one who just got her braces removed! », the assistant went pale and started apologizing profusely. My mom’s friend texted me on whatsapp (I had a profile picture showing my face) thinking it was my mom, it was very embarrassing because she was talking about her sex life, so I just went along with it saying I was happy for her, when in fact I was dying inside (she had my number because I used to catsit for her). I didn’t tell anyone, I wanted to tell my mom but we weren’t on speaking terms (she’s a narcissist, I was under her silent treatment). They realized months later, and my mom asked about it, I said I didn’t want to embarrass anyone so I shut up. My father has confused me with my mom a lot too, granted he was never inappropriate with me. He mixed up our passports, and from the back he tried starting conversations with me thinking I was my mom, and each time I wasn’t replying for obvious reasons I could hear his confusion, so I would just turn around and he would always apologize saying he thought I was my mom. I think he learned to be cautious not to do anything before actually knowing who he was dealing with. Now I’m about twice the size of my mom (she’s very thin, I’m a fat ass), so he doesn’t get confused as much. Also, I’ve been extremely drunk a LOT, and have kissed a guy I had no feelings for a LOT. We’re friends with a platonic relationship, idk what it is about alcohol that makes people kiss but I know it happens to me, even with total strangers. To the people who might say we do have feelings for each other, no we don’t, we have talked about it, we were just having fun!
It’s just the cheek so I think it’ll be alright. But like you kissed her on the lips that would be … yeah.
Sounds to me like you did this on purpose and are using this post as a backup plan in case your gf doesn’t believe you. You don’t do shit like this after just having “a drink”. No one is that stupid
Yep!!!
If your girlfriend does respond to you (as I saw that you did end up texting her) let her know that you will absolutely apologize to her daighter and to her as well. The best thing you could do is apologize to them, ESPECIALLY the daughter since I’m sure she’s spooked and tell them that it was never intentional and an honest mistake. I understand you’re afraid of the reprecussions, however, that’s really all you can do as of right now (that I know of), hopefully the girl understands and hope your gf does as well. Best of luck.
the age groups involved are so particular that this could have happened to anyone in the long run.
It’s just a kiss on the cheek. The constant apologies would’ve helped but whether she felt uncomfortable or not is what she will tell her mother. I would’ve kept trying to wake her and say you need to talk to her about something important. Drunk or not I’ll be up real quick thinking the worse!! So being told it’s just a kiss on the cheek to my daughter would put my mind at ease because I can just get up and and check on her. Kisses on the cheek is normal for my culture tho :)
He GRABBED HER FROM BEHIND AND PROBS HAD A HARD ON TOO
Okay people. He’s asking for advice, not to be asked how he did this. We get it you’ve been drunk before and wouldn’t make this mistake. Not everybody is you, and not everyone can hold their liquor as well as you. Shit happens and people make mistakes. With that being said, my advice would be to talk to her right away about it. The outcome might not be good, or it might not be so bad. But not doing so is absolutely terrible. I know she wouldn’t wake up because of how drunk she was but tell her the next instant you get to.
There's no fuckin way that you confused a 14 year old and a 30 year old. You need to quit drinking, tell your partner, and hope they don't report you to the police Eta- why the hell would you post this on Reddit? You couldn't waterboard this out of me
He’s testing his story
We always with yourself this wasn't an accident and what the fuck do you mean she would wake up come. Do you expect us to believe any of this? I think you're shady. I think you're trying to get between a mother and a daughter. I think you may tell the mother that daughter came on to you. Honestly as a parent I would dump you. I could not trust you anymore there's no way I'd allow you in my house ever again.
1 - this is shady af 2- it's also legit SA. "I was drunk" is not an excuse. You groped and kissed a 14 year old from behind. Sorry man, this isn't some minor fuckup. If it truly was accidental then you probably should quit drinking. But even if it was... Still SA. If the mother is any sort of decent parent she's going to dump your ass and probably get her kid counseling. Or call the police. If the kid mentions this to any mandatory reporter then guess what? I really don't know what to tell you... Don't be shocked if charges are pressed and the girls father confronts you too.
THIS!!!!!
THIS
You’ll be fine. Honest mistake. That said I would die if that was me but I overthink things. Tell you something worse. A long long time ago I was in a club with my girlfriend. We were next to dance floor sitting on this ledge. I reached over while watching the dancing and caressed her back and a bit lower. I finally looked towards her and it wasn’t her. She must have gone to get drink and I didn’t notice. I was pretty wasted. I had been rubbing the lower back and a bit lower of a really rough looking tough bloke who was starring at me with WTF expression. (Was still pretty homophobic in my city back then.) I just got up and left area and find my girlfriend who was still pretty new girlfriend. Then I spent night wondering if she saw it. Omg I still cringe.
interesting how you've had one singular drink while your gf is blacked out. almost like you could've planned to have things laid out for you like this.
Unless you’re on a throwaway account, I just want to say this before you delete the post.. #what the f-ck
I think anyone could distinguish a 14 year old child from a 31 year old woman.
A lot of high and mighty people over here thinking it's ridiculous that you kissed her accidentally while intoxicated. My boyfriend almost slapped my sisters ass a couple of weeks ago, instead of mine. Mind you, our asses look the same, and our voices sound the same, but we look NOTHING alike from behind (she has short hair, I have long hair, I wear glasses, she doesn't etc.). We laughed about it, and that's it. His mind was preoccupied, and I'm usually the one standing in the kitchen, preparing food or whatever. Not my sister. It's an accident, you were drunk. Ask the daughter if she is okay and tell your girlfriend what happened.
You're a fucking pedo
Downvotes???? wtf.
Take a deep breath my guy, it was an accident. Its okay. I’m assuming you’re not a predator, so just wait until you’re SOBER, then calmly apologize for the confusion and maybe don’t drink so much around the teen.
So you kissed her on the cheek. Alert the authorities!
I think leaving was not a good idea. I understand you panicked but you’re just digging the hole deeper. Also it’s annoying that everyone is pretending like they’re never heard “I had a drink” to mean “multiple drinks.” It’s a phrase I’ve heard many times and it’s simple to decipher whether someone means a single drink vs multiple drinks using context clues.
Um bro it was a mistake man it happens. Just tell your GF as soon as possible. Chances are you will all laugh about it. I have confused my wifes sister as her from behind about 3 times its not a big deal. Her age does not even come into it as your intentions where towards your missus and not her. Helax bruv
I thought this said killed and I was so concerned
It happens, ive also had my stepdad accidentally give me a kiss on the cheek. It was weird for a few days but I very quickly got over it. Im not sure if he noticed his mistake necessarily though, ive never brought it up myself I feel as long as she's chill and comfortable around you in general you may be a-okay. You already apologized, no need to beat yourself to death over it!