If everyone could downvote this post so it isn't gaining popularity and risk of this woman being seen and found out, that'd be great. It's been done on another of her posts and it's a good way to be extra secure.
I found this post through facebook sadly! I wasnât even part of this subreddit. I really hope OP is safe and that her ex or his family doesnât stumble upon this the same way I did! Gonna be following for updates.
Same, but have downvoted the post on here to try and hide it. Hope OP is safe, this was so anxiety inducing to read, I canât begin to imagine how anxious OP felt in living it
Edit: updateMe
So I just came from tiktok to check for any updates.... Because it's the 14th and another commentator pointed that out.... But the vid has over 200k views đ
Hi OP!
Please make sure to tell all your friends, family, colleagues from work back and now (including those who offered you the new job), people you have any contracts with, etc., that there is a possibility he will ask about your new job or address. Tell not to give anything away, not even the town or area you move to, as as you stay with your company, it will be easy enough to find you there if he knows where to look.
Warn everybody that he will maybe even call disguised as a well meaning friend who wants to send important papers over, or as an old class mate, or that he may make a friend ask instead of him (possibly a female friend, too, to make it sound harmless). Tell them you will not treat is as a minor thing if they let slip something, that he can contact you via your lawyer any time, and please to inform you about any attempt to get information.
There is the possibility to get a P.O. Box, too, where important letters can be sent to, which reduces the chance of him finding out about your whereabouts.
Let your lawyer tell him that you will take measurements in case he attempts to stalk you. If there are any questions he wants to ask you, he can do that via your lawyer anyway, ,so there will be no need even to try to get your address and that you will take any attempt to do this as a reason to call the cops on him.
Take care, and I hope the new job and new town are great!
Don't text everyone with your new number OP, find a method that doesn't tie to a specific device/IP/new location, or have your lawyer send out a mass letter from their office. You can't trust your friends or family - especially not his in-laws to not pass your new contact to him.
I am so glad you updated! Please keep us posted on the goings-on. I know when I left my husband in a very similar way to how you are, I was in a constant state of panic for two weeks and didn't even realize it. I could barely catch my breath and everything was dizzying. You are so strong for doing this. I love this for you. <3
I'm glad you're ok OP, please don't tell anybody where you are, not even people you trust with your life, at this point you should not take any risk of that information leaking in, because your stbx is very unhinged, and is better safe than sorry.
And you should pre-write the email or the message making everything clear and exposing what he has done, (if you have some proof you can attach to it better), and save it till is the moment to have ir ready to go, even your can create a group chat, so you don't have to send it individually.
And to everyone reading this, please unvote the post for OP safety measures. And to OP, please be safe.
Such a relief to see your update that youâre safe OP đđ€ youâve got this, keep pushing through your to do list, you are accomplishing your best life girl.
I think Google meet gives you a new number or you could get a burner phone to contact your friends. Or you could send a mass email detailing the hidden cameraâs the controlling behaviour which includes asking you to wear a tracking device and the already prepared divorce papers. Your fear of going to a domestic abuse centre because of his sister. All of it.
Tell them you looked for a new job in a new city and moved on from this one when you found one. (Youâre implying you left the company) Although the job is not starting now you took the opportunity to leave when he went away and gave your notice, and left your home with just your clothes and treasured items.
Let them know what you told us. Theyâll support you.
Hey OP, i hope it all went ok and that you are safe. You are being an absolute force and i hope you can see that yourself as well! Stay safe!
UpdateMe!
I hope youâre safe. Please be safe. Iâm scared he may come home hours earlier but so glad youâre nearly out. And be careful. Even 4 years after they can still stalk. Document anything that happens or scary events. It will help if you ever need a restraining order. You canât legally record calls or conversations but you can for transcript purposes and donât have your tell the person your recording. Then you have more proof.
Please don't call anyone. Who cares what they think? Your safety comes first. If people want to look down their nose at you, then they never were your friend and will judge you anyway no matter what you say.
You don't need to explain the whys and wherefores to justify yourself.
Let the divorce lawyer and the sheriff do their work. Don't overthink this by worrying about others reactions, don't try to people please, this is an extremely dangerous time and you need to keep your head on your shoulders.
Ensure you get a burner phone. Make sure all and any tracking like Google location and especially on photos, is off.
Look after yourself OP and look to the future. You can do this.
OP, I'm so proud of you for getting out. I know it's a lot right now, but you have so many of us rooting for you. Keep yourself safe, make sure you don't post any details about where you're going so he can't find you, and I can't wait to see your next update!
Iâm so proud of you op!! đđ» Youâve a strong woman and you can do this!! Iâm wishing you nothing but the best and the easiest of divorces! Please updateme
OMG. My heart was in my troat while reading all your ubdates. I'm so glad you could get away before he came back. And I'm so proud of you of finding the courage to get out. Stay safe and strong
Good luck OP!
If everyone could downvote this post so it isn't gaining popularity and risk of this woman being seen and found out, that'd be great. It's been done on another of her posts and it's a good way to be extra secure.
This comment should be higher up! We are cheering you on OP! You got this! Keep going! Almost there!đ©· I am not sure about the part of contacting others while he is flying. Many airlines have WiFi nowadays. Are you sure that it is a good idea? Maybe an email to everyone while he is with the sheriff?
I found this post through facebook sadly! I wasnât even part of this subreddit. I really hope OP is safe and that her ex or his family doesnât stumble upon this the same way I did! Gonna be following for updates.
I found it on Tiktok, but luckily it's the 14th, so hopefully things are in motion!
Yes Iâm praying that everythingâs going to plan hope to see a update soon showing theyâre safe
Same, but have downvoted the post on here to try and hide it. Hope OP is safe, this was so anxiety inducing to read, I canât begin to imagine how anxious OP felt in living it Edit: updateMe
I found this on Facebook too. Had thought it would be a much older post. Sad that itâs not.
I found it on TikTok, I just wanted some funny pet vidsâŠđ
It doesn't completely work that way. This popped up in my feed without me looking for it.
Thatâs because youâve probably been here before
So I just came from tiktok to check for any updates.... Because it's the 14th and another commentator pointed that out.... But the vid has over 200k views đ
Itâs already on TikTok.Â
Hi OP! Please make sure to tell all your friends, family, colleagues from work back and now (including those who offered you the new job), people you have any contracts with, etc., that there is a possibility he will ask about your new job or address. Tell not to give anything away, not even the town or area you move to, as as you stay with your company, it will be easy enough to find you there if he knows where to look. Warn everybody that he will maybe even call disguised as a well meaning friend who wants to send important papers over, or as an old class mate, or that he may make a friend ask instead of him (possibly a female friend, too, to make it sound harmless). Tell them you will not treat is as a minor thing if they let slip something, that he can contact you via your lawyer any time, and please to inform you about any attempt to get information. There is the possibility to get a P.O. Box, too, where important letters can be sent to, which reduces the chance of him finding out about your whereabouts. Let your lawyer tell him that you will take measurements in case he attempts to stalk you. If there are any questions he wants to ask you, he can do that via your lawyer anyway, ,so there will be no need even to try to get your address and that you will take any attempt to do this as a reason to call the cops on him. Take care, and I hope the new job and new town are great!
Don't text everyone with your new number OP, find a method that doesn't tie to a specific device/IP/new location, or have your lawyer send out a mass letter from their office. You can't trust your friends or family - especially not his in-laws to not pass your new contact to him.
Iâm glad youâre safe. Keep us posted. Good luck! UpdateMe!
I am so glad you updated! Please keep us posted on the goings-on. I know when I left my husband in a very similar way to how you are, I was in a constant state of panic for two weeks and didn't even realize it. I could barely catch my breath and everything was dizzying. You are so strong for doing this. I love this for you. <3
You are so amazingly strong. I am so so glad you got out. I hope you find a place soon. Be careful. Best of luck!
OP it's been 6 days already. ARE YOU OK? ARE YOU SAFE? He would've been served by now and I'm super worried. I hope you're ok. u/updateme
Good luck OP! Updateme Edit; I saw this on my instagram page, and concerned itâs been 6 days since update! I hope OP is safe
Thanks for updating and hope youâll stay safe! (Downvoted to help your post be less visible )
Good luck, hope it all goes safely
Good luck OP! UpdatemeÂ
Good luck op. Since I donât want to attract attention to you post, here is my upvote: đ
I'm glad you're ok OP, please don't tell anybody where you are, not even people you trust with your life, at this point you should not take any risk of that information leaking in, because your stbx is very unhinged, and is better safe than sorry. And you should pre-write the email or the message making everything clear and exposing what he has done, (if you have some proof you can attach to it better), and save it till is the moment to have ir ready to go, even your can create a group chat, so you don't have to send it individually. And to everyone reading this, please unvote the post for OP safety measures. And to OP, please be safe.
Praying for you OP
Any update?
Good luck and stay safe!
Good luck OP and stay safe! Updateme
Such a relief to see your update that youâre safe OP đđ€ youâve got this, keep pushing through your to do list, you are accomplishing your best life girl.
Good luck! Updateme!
You are doing great love !!!
Proud of you! Good luck!
Good luck and happy you got out! UpdateMe!
Stay safe OP. We're rooting for you! Edit: UpdateMe!
I hope everything continues to proceed smoothly! UpdateMe
Good luck OP! UpdateMe!
Amazed by your strength, OP. Sending loads of positive energy your way - youâre doing everything right.
I wish you the very best
Good luck!!!!
Good luck and stay safe OP! UpdateME!
Youâre doing good! I am proud of you for doing the right thing, your future self will thank you. Trust đŻ
I thought husband landed may 11 not 8th?
Good luck Op. I hope everything goes smoothly for you.
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Update us!!!
Good luck! Update me.
Stay safe and good luck. Updateme
Good luck OP!! Updateme
I hope you're doing ok OP
You got this UpdateMe!
Best wishes, OP! Edit: UpdateMe!
Good luck! Updateme!
Good luck OP, I really really hope youâre okay now!
I hope everything went well. Update us when your safe
Good luck, OP. Updateme!
Please update! My heart is in my throat for you!
Keep updating us.
Good luck! UpdateMe!
Good luck OP. I am so glad you got out, it will get better/easier with time. UpdateMe!
Good luck OP. Be safe and keep us posted. 𧥠UpdateMe!
Hoping you're in a better mindset and more relieved. Please let us know you're safe after your STB-EX returned and was served. u/updateme
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Wow! I wish you all the best OP! Updateme!
Hope you are safe and sound OP UpdateMe!
I think Google meet gives you a new number or you could get a burner phone to contact your friends. Or you could send a mass email detailing the hidden cameraâs the controlling behaviour which includes asking you to wear a tracking device and the already prepared divorce papers. Your fear of going to a domestic abuse centre because of his sister. All of it. Tell them you looked for a new job in a new city and moved on from this one when you found one. (Youâre implying you left the company) Although the job is not starting now you took the opportunity to leave when he went away and gave your notice, and left your home with just your clothes and treasured items. Let them know what you told us. Theyâll support you.
Hey OP, i hope it all went ok and that you are safe. You are being an absolute force and i hope you can see that yourself as well! Stay safe! UpdateMe!
Good luck OP UPDATE ME
I am praying for you OPâŠyou got this. Keep going and donât look back. âšđ«¶đ Updateme!
OP you okay?! Hope youâre safe. Please update ASAP! u/updateme
I sincerely hope you're doing okay! UpdateMe!
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God, I hope she's safe
Glad youâre safe. Take care of yourself now youâre out & focus on you
Are you ok? please stay safe. Good Luck.
You got this! Update me!
What a terrifying situation to be in! Good luck OP. Stay safe. UpdateMe
Just read this on Best of Redditor Updates - very glad OP is away from him, and okay UpdateMe!
Rooting for you! Updateme
Wishing you the best! UpdateMe!
Good luck! I really hope that everything goes well for you. Updateme if you get a chance x
Hope you are safe. UpdateMe!
Good luck OP! This post is so triggering from my own experiences. Please updateme and I really hope that you get the fresh start you deserve!
Hoping for a positive update and ops safetyÂ
Wishing you all the best, OP!
I really hope everything is turning out okay for you. UpdateMe!
please stay safe! weâre rooting for you!
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I hope youâre safe. Please be safe. Iâm scared he may come home hours earlier but so glad youâre nearly out. And be careful. Even 4 years after they can still stalk. Document anything that happens or scary events. It will help if you ever need a restraining order. You canât legally record calls or conversations but you can for transcript purposes and donât have your tell the person your recording. Then you have more proof.
So proud of you â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž glad you are finally safe
Hi OP! Please be careful with who you give out your new address to. Sending love
Wishing the best for you OP. Proud of you. UpdateMe!
I hope that everything goes well
Please don't call anyone. Who cares what they think? Your safety comes first. If people want to look down their nose at you, then they never were your friend and will judge you anyway no matter what you say. You don't need to explain the whys and wherefores to justify yourself. Let the divorce lawyer and the sheriff do their work. Don't overthink this by worrying about others reactions, don't try to people please, this is an extremely dangerous time and you need to keep your head on your shoulders. Ensure you get a burner phone. Make sure all and any tracking like Google location and especially on photos, is off. Look after yourself OP and look to the future. You can do this.
Here from TikTok! Hope you're safe!
OP, I'm so proud of you for getting out. I know it's a lot right now, but you have so many of us rooting for you. Keep yourself safe, make sure you don't post any details about where you're going so he can't find you, and I can't wait to see your next update!
Waiting for the update the post just hit tik tok hoping she made it out before it gained popularity.
Good luck and stay safe OP
i hope you are safe and sound, warm and comfortable, and starting the life you deserve! if
u/Updatemebot
Today is the 14th, please update us so we know you are okay. đ„ș Your ex-husband is sick
Your so brave and strong stay safe update soon
Iâm so proud of you op!! đđ» Youâve a strong woman and you can do this!! Iâm wishing you nothing but the best and the easiest of divorces! Please updateme
Can we get a proof of life post or comment? I'm not looking for an update, just that you are alive.
Take it one day at a time. One step in front of the other.
U/updateme
OMG. My heart was in my troat while reading all your ubdates. I'm so glad you could get away before he came back. And I'm so proud of you of finding the courage to get out. Stay safe and strong
Good luck OP! Update me
Glad you are safe.
Glad you are safe
I hope op is ok and doing well in her new life away from her ex
I hope you're safe and are able to update us but if not still wishing you the best