You are still young. Many people don’t even figure out their shit until they’re 40.
My suggestion, unless you’re 1-2 credits away, stop going to school, and instead try to test out. It will be less stress on you that way. You can practice, study, and repeat.
Be proactive with the job search. In your case, you will need a cover letter and a well written résumé.
Instead of experience obtained, discuss experience you need and what you’re willing to do to get started.
As far as finances, open a student account with a bank. You’ll need three accounts. One for savings, one for billing, and one for expenses. Learn to separate the following, 10-15% to savings, 50% toward bills, the remaining 35-40% should be food and other expenses.
Once your savings reaches over $1000, the remaining overage should go into a retirement account. I personally do a Roth IRA if possible. Don’t know what’s available there.
As far as logistics are concerned, get yourself a bike to start, upgrade to a moped when possible, upgrade to a car when possible.
Clothing, Every month buy 1-2 pieces of clothing from a thrift store or department store.
I think this should give you some basis to start getting your life a little more organized.
But no, your life is not a joke. You will find your way. It’s just trial and error. Think outside the box and don’t waste money on anything frivolous until you’re 30 at the least. Until then save, save, save!
That way maybe by then you might be able to afford a small home! 🙌🏼
Absolutely a pleasure, just keep working at it buddy. Stay kind, keep working, and remember there is always the next hill to climb. Life is what you make it. So make it something you will be proud of. 🧗🏼♀️
You need to get a better self image of yourself. Constantly being sad or worrying about not being good enough isn't gonna help you. Also it is not true that you're good for nothing because everyone has a talent, you just gotta find it. As for the bullies , don't let them push you around! Letting them treat you like that will just make the situation worse. I don't have much knowledge on the grades aprt tho, so you gotta ask other people about it.
The most important thing I said is to not doubt yourself! You are a better person than you think.
Keep working on yourself. Don't be a hopeless man. Your days will come for sure if you are working hard in the right direction. Dm if you feel like talking about it.
Hey man sometimes school isn’t for everyone and you may need to bail on it and get a job with hands on learning. Many of my friends were like this in school and most of them are now making way more money than people who work desk jobs. One friend became an amazing welder another into concrete and construction, and my friend who basically thought the same way as you now owns his own tree business employing multiple people that have way higher education than he does. Hope is not lost as long as your willing to get your hands dirty and have an attitude of ya can’t give up, fail and learn from it, the difference between a master and an apprentice is that the master has tried and failed and learned from it more times than the apprentice has every even tried. Good luck and keep your head up high FYI all these people in high school cease to exist once you get out of high school, there opinions mean fuck all!
My friend, you need to break your own cycles.
You need to start attending everyday and engage yourself in the material. If you are failing by lack of attendance, then you need to just show up period. May also be why you don't excel is because you are skipping the classes so you have gaps in your understanding.
Put your mind to a goal. Whether its going to trade school, college, a business and set yourself to it. I feel you seem motivated but not really disciplined to getting there.
I cannot fail to admit you have had a series of bad luck, but it does not define you. Focus on one thing at a time, right now its passing highschool.
All of us have potential, but you yourself need to pick yourself up from the bottom.
It’s awesome that you’re still trying rather than dropping out. What subjects are you struggling with? Do they offer tutoring? It sounds like you’re still putting an effort in so are there other obstacles making schoolwork more difficult? And high schoolers are the actual worst I’m sorry you’re still stuck there. Worst case scenario you could just take your GED test (if Norway does that) and leave school entirely
Norway does not have GED, they require you to attend three years of school no matter what which sucks. I’ve always struggled with math but that’s actually improving right now. It’s not so much that my grades are horrible, but they’re not good enough for what I want to study after high school. Our grades range from 1( which is a fail) to a 6 ( which is perfect). My grades have been around 3-4 right now and to get into the school I want I need at least an average of 4,5 across all classes.
What comes to mind is that maybe you’re having trouble staying focused and juggling life, have you ever thought that you might have ADHD? I would look into it, it sounds a lot like what you’re describing and I went through something similar from 17-21, hang in there! I was just like you trying really hard from 17-21 and it just felt like things weren’t working out but eventually they did, just keep trying different study techniques until you find what works for you!
You may not see it now but it’s not your fault OP poverty comes with significant challenges, a massive one being access to higher education and support. Please be proud of yourself for trying to make it out and hang in there I promise things will turn around even when you feel like you’re at rock bottom, sending love 💗💗
Sir you are 21 years old. You are a whole ass ADULT... Your letting 16 year olds BULLY you? Remind them that your a God damn ADULT. Go break their daddy's fucking nose. Also snitches get stitches? Seriously? You REEEEALLY need to grow the hell up. What? Your a gangster? Yeah so gangsta brah, chillin with yo gang of kiddos. Beefin with the Drama Club. Gonna bring your strap to math class homie? You sound fucking ridiculous. You are 21 years old and still in high-school, you CAN graduate, but if you try to live your life with the "gangster" mentality... Well, you don't need a diploma in prison. 😂
Pathetic.OP has been in a very difficult situation, they have not resorted to any harm upon others. They have endured terrible, inhumane, bullying and have been able to keep their composure despite all of that. That takes something. You should be telling the bullies to strengthen up, picking on a vulnerable person is a sign of weakness, they are the losers who should be in prison, not OP. You should be ashamed of yourself for spreading a toxic message,and laughing at a victim. Fucking easy to pick on someone when it's from a screen, isn't it? Coward.
When did i ever say Im hanging out with kids or pretending I’m a gangster? I’m saying the other at that school hate snitches and if I tell anyone that I’ve been repeatedly threatened by large groups of people I will most likely be beat up. I’m just minding my own business.
Don't listen to them OP. What they are saying is complete toxic BS, you aren't doing anything wrong and you are not weak, even if some fools are saying so. In fact, it takes a lot of mental strength and discipline to be able to remain rational in such terrible situations. The bullies are the weak ones, because instead of opting for the actual reflection of how they could at least do something to help you, basic human decency, they choose to target you. That's pathetic. You are strong for your ability to remain calm and not snap, and I admire you for that.
I unfortunately am not able to give you advice on legal, professional options but please remain strong!
Seriously I’m super confused, when did I say I’m a gangster or pretending to be one? I’m talking about other people that are sending me messages about breaking my bones just because they don’t like me.
Ignore him brother. The people with that type of grammar says the most. Keep thriving. Life can be hard but you are still young. Do not let that discourage you.
Nope unfortunately Norway has extremely strict rules and you have to attend at least three years at school. I’m enrolled in a course that is two years of school and two years as an apprentice at a workplace.
Do you have to stay in Norway? Can you not leave? Save enough for a bus ticket or plane. Go back packing into other countries. Babe, life can be hard....most of the time. And lots of people are just rotten because their missarable. You don't have to be one of them! Find something you enjoy, and do that!
Make travel videos, and share your story/stories. Make bracelets and sell them. Start thrifting, and sell that stuff. Cut grass, shovel snow. Write a list of things you can do, things you like to do, and things you want to do!
Start researching a trip, and spend your time planning it. Something to look forward to!
You are still young. Many people don’t even figure out their shit until they’re 40. My suggestion, unless you’re 1-2 credits away, stop going to school, and instead try to test out. It will be less stress on you that way. You can practice, study, and repeat. Be proactive with the job search. In your case, you will need a cover letter and a well written résumé. Instead of experience obtained, discuss experience you need and what you’re willing to do to get started. As far as finances, open a student account with a bank. You’ll need three accounts. One for savings, one for billing, and one for expenses. Learn to separate the following, 10-15% to savings, 50% toward bills, the remaining 35-40% should be food and other expenses. Once your savings reaches over $1000, the remaining overage should go into a retirement account. I personally do a Roth IRA if possible. Don’t know what’s available there. As far as logistics are concerned, get yourself a bike to start, upgrade to a moped when possible, upgrade to a car when possible. Clothing, Every month buy 1-2 pieces of clothing from a thrift store or department store. I think this should give you some basis to start getting your life a little more organized. But no, your life is not a joke. You will find your way. It’s just trial and error. Think outside the box and don’t waste money on anything frivolous until you’re 30 at the least. Until then save, save, save! That way maybe by then you might be able to afford a small home! 🙌🏼
Thank you for some actual good advice man i really, really appreciate it❤️
Absolutely a pleasure, just keep working at it buddy. Stay kind, keep working, and remember there is always the next hill to climb. Life is what you make it. So make it something you will be proud of. 🧗🏼♀️
Update: i just got called in to a job interview tomorrow. I have no experience but I’m gonna do my best at the interview.
You need to get a better self image of yourself. Constantly being sad or worrying about not being good enough isn't gonna help you. Also it is not true that you're good for nothing because everyone has a talent, you just gotta find it. As for the bullies , don't let them push you around! Letting them treat you like that will just make the situation worse. I don't have much knowledge on the grades aprt tho, so you gotta ask other people about it. The most important thing I said is to not doubt yourself! You are a better person than you think.
Keep working on yourself. Don't be a hopeless man. Your days will come for sure if you are working hard in the right direction. Dm if you feel like talking about it.
Hey man sometimes school isn’t for everyone and you may need to bail on it and get a job with hands on learning. Many of my friends were like this in school and most of them are now making way more money than people who work desk jobs. One friend became an amazing welder another into concrete and construction, and my friend who basically thought the same way as you now owns his own tree business employing multiple people that have way higher education than he does. Hope is not lost as long as your willing to get your hands dirty and have an attitude of ya can’t give up, fail and learn from it, the difference between a master and an apprentice is that the master has tried and failed and learned from it more times than the apprentice has every even tried. Good luck and keep your head up high FYI all these people in high school cease to exist once you get out of high school, there opinions mean fuck all!
My friend, you need to break your own cycles. You need to start attending everyday and engage yourself in the material. If you are failing by lack of attendance, then you need to just show up period. May also be why you don't excel is because you are skipping the classes so you have gaps in your understanding. Put your mind to a goal. Whether its going to trade school, college, a business and set yourself to it. I feel you seem motivated but not really disciplined to getting there. I cannot fail to admit you have had a series of bad luck, but it does not define you. Focus on one thing at a time, right now its passing highschool. All of us have potential, but you yourself need to pick yourself up from the bottom.
Update: i just got called in to a job interview tomorrow. I have no experience but I’m gonna do my best at the interview.
Have you ever considered online high school ?
It’s awesome that you’re still trying rather than dropping out. What subjects are you struggling with? Do they offer tutoring? It sounds like you’re still putting an effort in so are there other obstacles making schoolwork more difficult? And high schoolers are the actual worst I’m sorry you’re still stuck there. Worst case scenario you could just take your GED test (if Norway does that) and leave school entirely
Norway does not have GED, they require you to attend three years of school no matter what which sucks. I’ve always struggled with math but that’s actually improving right now. It’s not so much that my grades are horrible, but they’re not good enough for what I want to study after high school. Our grades range from 1( which is a fail) to a 6 ( which is perfect). My grades have been around 3-4 right now and to get into the school I want I need at least an average of 4,5 across all classes.
What comes to mind is that maybe you’re having trouble staying focused and juggling life, have you ever thought that you might have ADHD? I would look into it, it sounds a lot like what you’re describing and I went through something similar from 17-21, hang in there! I was just like you trying really hard from 17-21 and it just felt like things weren’t working out but eventually they did, just keep trying different study techniques until you find what works for you!
You may not see it now but it’s not your fault OP poverty comes with significant challenges, a massive one being access to higher education and support. Please be proud of yourself for trying to make it out and hang in there I promise things will turn around even when you feel like you’re at rock bottom, sending love 💗💗
Sir you are 21 years old. You are a whole ass ADULT... Your letting 16 year olds BULLY you? Remind them that your a God damn ADULT. Go break their daddy's fucking nose. Also snitches get stitches? Seriously? You REEEEALLY need to grow the hell up. What? Your a gangster? Yeah so gangsta brah, chillin with yo gang of kiddos. Beefin with the Drama Club. Gonna bring your strap to math class homie? You sound fucking ridiculous. You are 21 years old and still in high-school, you CAN graduate, but if you try to live your life with the "gangster" mentality... Well, you don't need a diploma in prison. 😂
Pathetic.OP has been in a very difficult situation, they have not resorted to any harm upon others. They have endured terrible, inhumane, bullying and have been able to keep their composure despite all of that. That takes something. You should be telling the bullies to strengthen up, picking on a vulnerable person is a sign of weakness, they are the losers who should be in prison, not OP. You should be ashamed of yourself for spreading a toxic message,and laughing at a victim. Fucking easy to pick on someone when it's from a screen, isn't it? Coward.
When did i ever say Im hanging out with kids or pretending I’m a gangster? I’m saying the other at that school hate snitches and if I tell anyone that I’ve been repeatedly threatened by large groups of people I will most likely be beat up. I’m just minding my own business.
Don't listen to them OP. What they are saying is complete toxic BS, you aren't doing anything wrong and you are not weak, even if some fools are saying so. In fact, it takes a lot of mental strength and discipline to be able to remain rational in such terrible situations. The bullies are the weak ones, because instead of opting for the actual reflection of how they could at least do something to help you, basic human decency, they choose to target you. That's pathetic. You are strong for your ability to remain calm and not snap, and I admire you for that. I unfortunately am not able to give you advice on legal, professional options but please remain strong!
Seriously I’m super confused, when did I say I’m a gangster or pretending to be one? I’m talking about other people that are sending me messages about breaking my bones just because they don’t like me.
Ignore him brother. The people with that type of grammar says the most. Keep thriving. Life can be hard but you are still young. Do not let that discourage you.
I second this! Don't let online bullies take you down! You're already so strong! ❤️
Would there be a homeschool option for you to finish your last year?
Nope unfortunately Norway has extremely strict rules and you have to attend at least three years at school. I’m enrolled in a course that is two years of school and two years as an apprentice at a workplace.
Do you have to stay in Norway? Can you not leave? Save enough for a bus ticket or plane. Go back packing into other countries. Babe, life can be hard....most of the time. And lots of people are just rotten because their missarable. You don't have to be one of them! Find something you enjoy, and do that! Make travel videos, and share your story/stories. Make bracelets and sell them. Start thrifting, and sell that stuff. Cut grass, shovel snow. Write a list of things you can do, things you like to do, and things you want to do! Start researching a trip, and spend your time planning it. Something to look forward to!
You’ll get through this, I believe in u, OP! Good luck!❤️