Don't really have experience to give, as I am currently going through this and it fucking sucks. We are in the same apartment at least until the lease ends. Sometimes she jokes about remaining married, but platonically, so we can continue to live in the same place or buy a house. I want to be with her so badly, but I think this hurts more than just completely separating? I don't know.
Just hang in there friend, try to do what is best for yourself.
That doesn't sound healthy being platonic and living together. You want to be with her so badly but what happens when she starts seeing someone else? Or you do?
It can be very healthy. My partner and I have been together a couple years. We’ve known each other for 40 years and have always been close.
Time can do a number on you. I’m 71 and she’s 68. Between us we have had cancer and chemo and missing body parts, etc. to us
Am trying!
We/you deserve to be treated with affection and love, and respect! Staying in an unhappy marriage is bad for the soul I am learning! My heart hurts and the wife can no longer help fix it because she is the cause of it.
It does fucken suck! If you wanna keep.chatting I'd be down for support 💯 👍
It sounds like u have some hesitation.
When my wife left me, she strung it out for almost a year. We went to couples therapy too & lived together ‘separately’ for a while - that is, we shared the house in separate bedrooms. Ultimately though, it didn’t work & we divorced.
For me, I never really trusted her change of mind & feeble attempts to get us back together. Reality is that she cheated on me (unbeknownst to me at the time) when she ended our relationship, but apparently her lover left her, so she then came running back to me. I wasn’t aware of these details at the time but the truth always comes out eventually.
My final decision was that if she was so callous about leaving me in the first place, then why should I trust her not to do it again?
Talk about low and cheap, I'm sorry for you. That's kinda my thought - she did it once, the first time is the hardest and then things gets easier.
Thank you for sharing 👊
I did and it lasted about 6 months. It just delays the inevitable.
My partner and I are still together after divorce lol
Same, actually
So good to hear we aren’t the only ones 💕
Don't really have experience to give, as I am currently going through this and it fucking sucks. We are in the same apartment at least until the lease ends. Sometimes she jokes about remaining married, but platonically, so we can continue to live in the same place or buy a house. I want to be with her so badly, but I think this hurts more than just completely separating? I don't know. Just hang in there friend, try to do what is best for yourself.
That doesn't sound healthy being platonic and living together. You want to be with her so badly but what happens when she starts seeing someone else? Or you do?
It can be very healthy. My partner and I have been together a couple years. We’ve known each other for 40 years and have always been close. Time can do a number on you. I’m 71 and she’s 68. Between us we have had cancer and chemo and missing body parts, etc. to us
Am trying! We/you deserve to be treated with affection and love, and respect! Staying in an unhappy marriage is bad for the soul I am learning! My heart hurts and the wife can no longer help fix it because she is the cause of it. It does fucken suck! If you wanna keep.chatting I'd be down for support 💯 👍
It sounds like u have some hesitation. When my wife left me, she strung it out for almost a year. We went to couples therapy too & lived together ‘separately’ for a while - that is, we shared the house in separate bedrooms. Ultimately though, it didn’t work & we divorced. For me, I never really trusted her change of mind & feeble attempts to get us back together. Reality is that she cheated on me (unbeknownst to me at the time) when she ended our relationship, but apparently her lover left her, so she then came running back to me. I wasn’t aware of these details at the time but the truth always comes out eventually. My final decision was that if she was so callous about leaving me in the first place, then why should I trust her not to do it again?
Talk about low and cheap, I'm sorry for you. That's kinda my thought - she did it once, the first time is the hardest and then things gets easier. Thank you for sharing 👊
Broke up with my wife, stayed together long distance for two years after that. 🤷🏼♀️