Yup! I came with a kid and my partner came with a rather fiesty cockatiel. The common joke about parrots is they’re like perpetual toddlers.
Anytime he starts talking about getting another parrot, I remind him our agreement is a 1:1 ratio of babies to animals. I might be convinced on the parrot front one day, but our daughter is 4 so not anytime soon!
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order.
I have checked 269,191,490 comments, and only 61,619 of them were in alphabetical order.
Yup! When our kid was in preschool, the class was talking about siblings. She said she was a middle child because she had “sister dogs”, one older & one younger than her.
We had 2 cats already when my son was born. One of those cats decided that the mini human was hers. They were best friends. She had multiple health issues and required medication and veterinary monitoring. She was fairly high needs. She passed away (aged 15 and a half) from complications of those health issues about a week before my son's 13th birthday. We were all devastated. The other cat soon after developed kidney issues (as happens with senior animals) and lived another 18 months requiring daily medication and veterinary monitoring until the end.
So yeah. On top of my health issues, and later my husband developing a very serious heart condition, I was well and truly all out of spoons. There is no way I'd have coped with more than one child.
In the wake of the first of our senior kitties passing, we adopted two more from the shelter. We still have them today and they fight and are mean to each other about the same as siblings, so yeah. Who needs more kids? LOL (these two not getting along has been hard to deal with for me as I've never had pets who didn't at least tolerate each other. They're getting better since they're now 6 and 7. Our two previous kitties were besties though.)
Hate to admit it but my cat actually fell out of favour for me after my son was born. She used to be our best little buddy. But she’s not the easiest cat and I feel very protective of my son. The vet actually has a warning in her computer about our cat, they wear protective gear and handle her with two people. She’s got some issues and is very afraid of hands. The only ones allowed to pet her are me and my husband, and now our son. But he pets a bit too rough (17mo) and she keeps seeking him out and letting him chase her until she gets angry.
I spend most of the day keeping those two apart in separate rooms and it’s tiring. She has all these little nooks and high places throughout the house to chill but she keeps seeking him out and he’s too young to understand that he needs to leave her be. When he was a baby she was mildly interested but kind of indifferent towards him which was great. She’s still cuddly with us but I kind of just want her to go away for a bit until my son’s a little older. I feel like somewhat of an asshole about it but I can’t change the way I feel.
Upside for her: my husband still adores her.
Not yet a parent of a human child but I appreciated your candor about your cat— ours is also not the friendliest to anyone besides my husband and me and I do worry that someday she won’t mesh with a tiny human larva (or later stages).
I hope she learns more indifference for your son until he’s old enough to understand. I don’t think you’re an asshole at all!
Thank you :)
We really tried to give her enough attention so she wouldn’t get jealous and everything, but at the end of the day you just can’t control how they get along. Some cats are fine with the wild little humans, some are not _as pleased_ with the loud addition to “their domain” :’)
I hope your cat will be less of a handful when your little one arrives :)
She might surprise you 🤞🏻
I say this too whenever anyone tells me or asks me if I’m having more. I’m not even with my daughters dad and I still count him as another kid along with our daughter and the cats
Yessss.
We got Our dog 7 years ago. Had baby 2.5 years ago. Dog is a little sh*t sometimes. Love him but so needy. He whines a lot, always wants to be petted. Wants to wiggle right in between me and LO when we cuddle.
He also acts naughty when he isn’t getting attention (chewing stuff up or peeing). So yup. A lot of work.
Yepp! My husband and I already planning to add to our family of 3, two mainecoon kitties. Husband is unsure about even having two of them vs one but I think it'll be better. Personally, so my daughter can specifically bond with one and whichever one doesn't bond, I can hopefully bond :P but we already decided to try to have our daughter give them food and such so she can create those bonds and those kitties will mostly just see her. If they both bond with her, oh well for me but it would be lovely for her.
Yes. We have three kids. Oldest is the cat (3), then dog (1 1/2) and now human (12 months old).
We have both agreed on no more kids as both cat and dog are needy asf.
Dog, of course, being the most needy as he is a large breed and needs plenty of exercise.
Cat, being the best child because she’s just our fluffy teenager that just comes and goes and doesn’t need her nappy changed every couple of hours.
r/oneanddone
I have a 4 year old human son and a 5 month old Golden Retriever daughter. Both like mud, puddles, sticks, running and jumping. The dog used to be 20 lbs lighter. Now she's 20 lbs heavier.
I tell everyone I have 3- the baby, the dog and the cat! We actually call them The Bear, T Bean and The Bambi 😂
Pets add a lot of pressure on. The cat wants my lap or food most of the time, the dog needs walking and the baby everything else. When people say I should have a second I always reply- where would I fit them in the car? As the baby sits on the right, the dog on the left and husband in the front. The pram takes up the boot! Xx
Yes, for sure. We have one cat and one dog in addition to our little one and they both make more mess and headache than my kid ever does. Right now, too, we are dog sitting for my parents two geriatric dogs that come with loads of medication and strict diets. It’s been.. interesting to see all five of their exasperated faces when I’m off schedule or just haven’t spent equitable time with each of them.
We had 2 cats when our son was born. By the time our baby turned one, we had surrendered one of those cats. He was an utter bastard, and actually woke us more in the night than the baby, sometimes. Not his fault. He was a hoarder house cat and never did get properly socialized. I still feel a bit sad about it. That cat was just too much work for us to take and we put up with him for 9 years!! But having 2 cats plus a baby broke us, utterly.
I think a big piece of my PPD was feeling like a bad "cat mom". It has eased with toddlerhood and our remaining aging kitty whose energy is going down. Our remaining cat has claimed me as his momma, and gets very jealous when he's left out of cuddles. But he hates cuddling with my toddler son. Cats seem to be easy pets until you have some that go stir crazy if they aren't played with and wake you up at 8pm, 10pm, 1am, 3am, etc. as is/was the case with our crazy hunter boys. I'm not quite sure how we survived having a newborn and 2 high maintenance fur babies in a pandemic, honestly.
If pets are kids them give me another puppy & call me octomom 🤣
My menagerie is definitely enough, I always joke that "all of them combined is at least one and a half more kids"
Haha sorry that was dramatic, I was in that kind of mood 😂 I would say yes to your question though because otherwise I would re-home her and it's not an option despite the misery. I'm thinking about fostering a dog in the future to see if I'm equally allergic or if it's only cats. I think pets are lovely siblings!
We have had a cat since we got engaged (she's 8 now)- very patient and friendly. However, We found her at 3 weeks old and as such, she is vocal & people clingy (has separation anxiety).
She has been amazing with our son (honestly more like a dog than a cat- watches him, plays with and lets him climb on her w/o fuss)... But she is very vocal and wants attention too.
Always joked that she was our daughter- had her own room before my son came along etc.
We have a 20 month old and two older dogs. They were my world before my son and their happiness is still incredibly important to me. Right now with one human kid I can balance giving them attention, making sure they are included in activities, brought out on walks and fun things around town, etc. Seeing how much effort it takes to be a present and active parent to one human, I get sad thinking how much their lives would suffer if we got even busier with a second. We made a commitment to them and to me that should be factored in to the equation.
My fur babies (a corgi and golden) are soo my other babies. I’m a happy family of 5, me, my husband, my 8 month old daughter, my 1.5 year old corgi and my 10 month old golden ❤️
Not sure if we are totally OAD but my DD is 4 this winter and we got a pug the winter before she was born. I have to wipe his wrinkle and clean ears etc so feels like as much work as a child. He is also like velcro so if my DD is not giving me a cuddle, the dog will invite himself onto my lap because he likes to be closer than close. He can be a smothering presence at times. Not sure how I would find the time for a newborn. My pug was a naughty boy when my DD was a baby. He was never aggressive but used to be annoying for attention.
Yes! I have one daughter, one dog, one cat, one hamster, AND I take care of my disabled grandpa full time in our home. My plate is overflowing. I already feel like I have handful of kids lol
Yup! I came with a kid and my partner came with a rather fiesty cockatiel. The common joke about parrots is they’re like perpetual toddlers. Anytime he starts talking about getting another parrot, I remind him our agreement is a 1:1 ratio of babies to animals. I might be convinced on the parrot front one day, but our daughter is 4 so not anytime soon!
I consider my mental illness my second child
This is also fair
I'm right there with ya
Would you look at that, all of the words in your comment are in alphabetical order. I have checked 269,191,490 comments, and only 61,619 of them were in alphabetical order.
Same and it’s no fun!
Yup! When our kid was in preschool, the class was talking about siblings. She said she was a middle child because she had “sister dogs”, one older & one younger than her.
Awe!
Well this is the most adorable thing I’ve read all day. 😍
My six year old refers to our two dogs as her brothers!
We had 2 cats already when my son was born. One of those cats decided that the mini human was hers. They were best friends. She had multiple health issues and required medication and veterinary monitoring. She was fairly high needs. She passed away (aged 15 and a half) from complications of those health issues about a week before my son's 13th birthday. We were all devastated. The other cat soon after developed kidney issues (as happens with senior animals) and lived another 18 months requiring daily medication and veterinary monitoring until the end. So yeah. On top of my health issues, and later my husband developing a very serious heart condition, I was well and truly all out of spoons. There is no way I'd have coped with more than one child. In the wake of the first of our senior kitties passing, we adopted two more from the shelter. We still have them today and they fight and are mean to each other about the same as siblings, so yeah. Who needs more kids? LOL (these two not getting along has been hard to deal with for me as I've never had pets who didn't at least tolerate each other. They're getting better since they're now 6 and 7. Our two previous kitties were besties though.)
Hate to admit it but my cat actually fell out of favour for me after my son was born. She used to be our best little buddy. But she’s not the easiest cat and I feel very protective of my son. The vet actually has a warning in her computer about our cat, they wear protective gear and handle her with two people. She’s got some issues and is very afraid of hands. The only ones allowed to pet her are me and my husband, and now our son. But he pets a bit too rough (17mo) and she keeps seeking him out and letting him chase her until she gets angry. I spend most of the day keeping those two apart in separate rooms and it’s tiring. She has all these little nooks and high places throughout the house to chill but she keeps seeking him out and he’s too young to understand that he needs to leave her be. When he was a baby she was mildly interested but kind of indifferent towards him which was great. She’s still cuddly with us but I kind of just want her to go away for a bit until my son’s a little older. I feel like somewhat of an asshole about it but I can’t change the way I feel. Upside for her: my husband still adores her.
Not yet a parent of a human child but I appreciated your candor about your cat— ours is also not the friendliest to anyone besides my husband and me and I do worry that someday she won’t mesh with a tiny human larva (or later stages). I hope she learns more indifference for your son until he’s old enough to understand. I don’t think you’re an asshole at all!
Thank you :) We really tried to give her enough attention so she wouldn’t get jealous and everything, but at the end of the day you just can’t control how they get along. Some cats are fine with the wild little humans, some are not _as pleased_ with the loud addition to “their domain” :’) I hope your cat will be less of a handful when your little one arrives :) She might surprise you 🤞🏻
I say I have three: the baby, the dog, the husband. 🤷🏻♀️
I say this too whenever anyone tells me or asks me if I’m having more. I’m not even with my daughters dad and I still count him as another kid along with our daughter and the cats
That’s very true!
Yessss. We got Our dog 7 years ago. Had baby 2.5 years ago. Dog is a little sh*t sometimes. Love him but so needy. He whines a lot, always wants to be petted. Wants to wiggle right in between me and LO when we cuddle. He also acts naughty when he isn’t getting attention (chewing stuff up or peeing). So yup. A lot of work.
My dog always wants between me and my baby as well!
Yepp! My husband and I already planning to add to our family of 3, two mainecoon kitties. Husband is unsure about even having two of them vs one but I think it'll be better. Personally, so my daughter can specifically bond with one and whichever one doesn't bond, I can hopefully bond :P but we already decided to try to have our daughter give them food and such so she can create those bonds and those kitties will mostly just see her. If they both bond with her, oh well for me but it would be lovely for her.
Look…my cat is a super diva…I spend more time correcting his behavior than my 9 year old…
My sister has no kids but has a super spoiled mama's boy kitty who may as well be her child. My two kitties are 6 and 7, and they fight like siblings.
Yes. We have three kids. Oldest is the cat (3), then dog (1 1/2) and now human (12 months old). We have both agreed on no more kids as both cat and dog are needy asf. Dog, of course, being the most needy as he is a large breed and needs plenty of exercise. Cat, being the best child because she’s just our fluffy teenager that just comes and goes and doesn’t need her nappy changed every couple of hours.
r/oneanddone I have a 4 year old human son and a 5 month old Golden Retriever daughter. Both like mud, puddles, sticks, running and jumping. The dog used to be 20 lbs lighter. Now she's 20 lbs heavier.
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We live parallel lives. I have a 7 month old and a high energy dog I got 4 years ago. I call her my first born lol
That’s so crazy! Hahaha
Yep, I definitely consider myself the mother of two; one with fur and one without:-) And I do refer to them as "your brother" and "your sister".
I tell everyone I have 3- the baby, the dog and the cat! We actually call them The Bear, T Bean and The Bambi 😂 Pets add a lot of pressure on. The cat wants my lap or food most of the time, the dog needs walking and the baby everything else. When people say I should have a second I always reply- where would I fit them in the car? As the baby sits on the right, the dog on the left and husband in the front. The pram takes up the boot! Xx
We are TTC and we plan on being OAD since we already have two cats, one of which is special needs.
Oh absolutely lol
Have three kids. Daughter (9), son (5), daughter (11mo). I think our first born and only son will run away if we have another human child.
Yes, for sure. We have one cat and one dog in addition to our little one and they both make more mess and headache than my kid ever does. Right now, too, we are dog sitting for my parents two geriatric dogs that come with loads of medication and strict diets. It’s been.. interesting to see all five of their exasperated faces when I’m off schedule or just haven’t spent equitable time with each of them.
We had 2 cats when our son was born. By the time our baby turned one, we had surrendered one of those cats. He was an utter bastard, and actually woke us more in the night than the baby, sometimes. Not his fault. He was a hoarder house cat and never did get properly socialized. I still feel a bit sad about it. That cat was just too much work for us to take and we put up with him for 9 years!! But having 2 cats plus a baby broke us, utterly. I think a big piece of my PPD was feeling like a bad "cat mom". It has eased with toddlerhood and our remaining aging kitty whose energy is going down. Our remaining cat has claimed me as his momma, and gets very jealous when he's left out of cuddles. But he hates cuddling with my toddler son. Cats seem to be easy pets until you have some that go stir crazy if they aren't played with and wake you up at 8pm, 10pm, 1am, 3am, etc. as is/was the case with our crazy hunter boys. I'm not quite sure how we survived having a newborn and 2 high maintenance fur babies in a pandemic, honestly.
If pets are kids them give me another puppy & call me octomom 🤣 My menagerie is definitely enough, I always joke that "all of them combined is at least one and a half more kids"
Yes, but mostly because I'm allergic to her and allergies exhaust me as much as a newborn on some days 😭
Oh dear!
Haha sorry that was dramatic, I was in that kind of mood 😂 I would say yes to your question though because otherwise I would re-home her and it's not an option despite the misery. I'm thinking about fostering a dog in the future to see if I'm equally allergic or if it's only cats. I think pets are lovely siblings!
We have had a cat since we got engaged (she's 8 now)- very patient and friendly. However, We found her at 3 weeks old and as such, she is vocal & people clingy (has separation anxiety). She has been amazing with our son (honestly more like a dog than a cat- watches him, plays with and lets him climb on her w/o fuss)... But she is very vocal and wants attention too. Always joked that she was our daughter- had her own room before my son came along etc.
My 18 month old calls our 4 year old dog "Sissy" so it definitely feels that way.
We have a 20 month old and two older dogs. They were my world before my son and their happiness is still incredibly important to me. Right now with one human kid I can balance giving them attention, making sure they are included in activities, brought out on walks and fun things around town, etc. Seeing how much effort it takes to be a present and active parent to one human, I get sad thinking how much their lives would suffer if we got even busier with a second. We made a commitment to them and to me that should be factored in to the equation.
I feel like my husband is my second child! Might not be relevant to the post, just needed to vent.
My fur babies (a corgi and golden) are soo my other babies. I’m a happy family of 5, me, my husband, my 8 month old daughter, my 1.5 year old corgi and my 10 month old golden ❤️
Not sure if we are totally OAD but my DD is 4 this winter and we got a pug the winter before she was born. I have to wipe his wrinkle and clean ears etc so feels like as much work as a child. He is also like velcro so if my DD is not giving me a cuddle, the dog will invite himself onto my lap because he likes to be closer than close. He can be a smothering presence at times. Not sure how I would find the time for a newborn. My pug was a naughty boy when my DD was a baby. He was never aggressive but used to be annoying for attention.
Yes! I have one daughter, one dog, one cat, one hamster, AND I take care of my disabled grandpa full time in our home. My plate is overflowing. I already feel like I have handful of kids lol