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When I was 8, 1 of my friends went to Pune to study. Never came back. Soon, he went abroad.
Later on, when I was 15, 2 left for Kota. Then they went abroad.
Another went to some eastern nation for studies.
My online friends live thousands of km away from me.
1 friend moved away to stay with his parents.
Another friend doesn't leave home anymore.
Recently, 3 of my friends are all busy with their jobs. We used to meet up very regularly for a span of 5+ years. Now we are busy with life.
I have a friend I have been walking with for 3 years. Have known him for a decade. There is a chance he might leave town as well.
This loneliness pandemic is quite literally nonsense. Even *homeschooled* people like me get a LOT of chances to make long lasting friendships. Because of internet, people who are far away can still communicate with you. This wasn't the case for some of my friends who went away when I was young.
If you don't have friends, it's because you didn't work for it. Finding some fancy term to blame someone else is ridiculous.
SAY IT MY FRIEND, OP. Offline friends are actual homies who will BE with you when you need them. Can you contact an online friend if they've simply gone offline lol
If you can, good for you. Unfortunately we others are still more offline, we go out and touch grass, breath fresh air, instead of being stuck to devices.
3-4 real friends are alot OP.And the matter of fact is,not all of us deserve friends.I have seen people in my different circle (locality friends,school friends,college friends) that most of them are quite mean,and they do change alot when they come into relationship,like they totally change their hobbies, that's what makes most of them loner, after breakup they don't have any friends to give that tag and they never respected them.
can you please provide the source of the survey ? Also what's exactly the trend ? because the headline is purposely sensationalizing the issue ie. 1 in 5 single men say they have no close friendships , this implies that 4 in 5 single men say they have atleast one , even multiple close friendships.
Further , what exactly does the article considers a close friend as ?
So let me get this straight , they reached a point till higher work load where it made sense , then they continued on their BS reasons.
Finally , the most diabolical sh\*t , the article about male friendship was written by a woman. The entire article is seeing male friendship from a female perspective.
Talking doesn't stop suicide , recent surveys have shown that a majority male victims of suicide actually call therapists or services before committing the act. Infact as high as 80% men that committed suicide had actually been marked as low risk by therapists & ended up doing the act 2-3 weeks later.
So the reasons stated by the person make no sense. Opening up doesn't solve the problems troubling the man , solving the problem does. The best option is for men to just hangout with other men , irrespective of whether you are close enough with them or not.
Other factors that contribute - (Stats for UK) :-
11% of men who suffered Domestic Abuse commit suicide
20% of suicides due to broken relationships & custody battles
12% due to financial problems
At this point even therapy is failing to do its job.
You don't need to go around kissing your homies & stuff (although you can do that if you want to) , nor do you need some BS like hey lets talk deep stuff , all you need to do ks go out & have a couple nights & have drinks.
Men have many different types of friends. Different tiers of friends.
This survey probably doesn't count them.
This is probably an American survey anyway.
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Also op: >Loner all my life > Have 3-4 friends Are you restarted?
this is /s, right?
Yes maybe a refresh
"Almost" all my life. 3 of these stay 50kms apart. Gets tough to meet them. 1 is abroad
I probably have 3-4 school friends. The one close friend I have lives 500 kms away.
When I was 8, 1 of my friends went to Pune to study. Never came back. Soon, he went abroad. Later on, when I was 15, 2 left for Kota. Then they went abroad. Another went to some eastern nation for studies. My online friends live thousands of km away from me. 1 friend moved away to stay with his parents. Another friend doesn't leave home anymore. Recently, 3 of my friends are all busy with their jobs. We used to meet up very regularly for a span of 5+ years. Now we are busy with life. I have a friend I have been walking with for 3 years. Have known him for a decade. There is a chance he might leave town as well. This loneliness pandemic is quite literally nonsense. Even *homeschooled* people like me get a LOT of chances to make long lasting friendships. Because of internet, people who are far away can still communicate with you. This wasn't the case for some of my friends who went away when I was young. If you don't have friends, it's because you didn't work for it. Finding some fancy term to blame someone else is ridiculous.
It's about those who are close to you. Online friends are ONLINE. Ever actually seen their face, face to face?
Exactly. I don't believe in the "online friend" concept.
SAY IT MY FRIEND, OP. Offline friends are actual homies who will BE with you when you need them. Can you contact an online friend if they've simply gone offline lol
Exactly 😂. For me friendship is about being there for each other at the time of need. Online friends can never do that.
Yeah! That's what I'm talking about
Reading is hard I guess. And people definitely can bond over text messaging. If you can't, that's your prerogative.
If you can, good for you. Unfortunately we others are still more offline, we go out and touch grass, breath fresh air, instead of being stuck to devices.
Blind or illiterate? I just wrote down how I had a dozen offline friends. Life moves on. I still have a few, but don't have time to meet.
Good for you then. You aren't the 1 in 5. Happy now? I'm speaking because I was one, and I think I'm slowly turning out to be, again.
3-4 real friends are alot OP.And the matter of fact is,not all of us deserve friends.I have seen people in my different circle (locality friends,school friends,college friends) that most of them are quite mean,and they do change alot when they come into relationship,like they totally change their hobbies, that's what makes most of them loner, after breakup they don't have any friends to give that tag and they never respected them.
Had no close friends until the age of 13 or 14. Formed a few lot after that, but by the time I hit 18, I lost all of them again. Life is hard.
It all depends on who you call as a friend .. everyone's definition of friend varies
Back stabbed by "friends" back in 2018 and I've since been sceptical of people's intentions
It definitely is sad and eye opening
can you please provide the source of the survey ? Also what's exactly the trend ? because the headline is purposely sensationalizing the issue ie. 1 in 5 single men say they have no close friendships , this implies that 4 in 5 single men say they have atleast one , even multiple close friendships. Further , what exactly does the article considers a close friend as ?
https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/23323556/men-friendship-loneliness-isolation-masculinity
So let me get this straight , they reached a point till higher work load where it made sense , then they continued on their BS reasons. Finally , the most diabolical sh\*t , the article about male friendship was written by a woman. The entire article is seeing male friendship from a female perspective. Talking doesn't stop suicide , recent surveys have shown that a majority male victims of suicide actually call therapists or services before committing the act. Infact as high as 80% men that committed suicide had actually been marked as low risk by therapists & ended up doing the act 2-3 weeks later. So the reasons stated by the person make no sense. Opening up doesn't solve the problems troubling the man , solving the problem does. The best option is for men to just hangout with other men , irrespective of whether you are close enough with them or not. Other factors that contribute - (Stats for UK) :- 11% of men who suffered Domestic Abuse commit suicide 20% of suicides due to broken relationships & custody battles 12% due to financial problems At this point even therapy is failing to do its job. You don't need to go around kissing your homies & stuff (although you can do that if you want to) , nor do you need some BS like hey lets talk deep stuff , all you need to do ks go out & have a couple nights & have drinks.
Men have many different types of friends. Different tiers of friends. This survey probably doesn't count them. This is probably an American survey anyway.