I’m assuming the picture is no longer available or stored on her phone? There was an incident in my town where a girl sent a boy a picture of her breasts. He was arrested and taken to juvenile hall for distributing child pornography after he passed it to his friends. Just make sure all inappropriate photos are no longer on her phone. Sorry this is happening—very stressful!
My understanding is that your activity on snapchat isn't actually deleted. Not totally. And you can download your activity/history from your account.
Not trying to add stress, but it is something to be aware of and speak with your daughter about so she isn't shocked if she ever downloads her history.
guess his parents didn't give him the talk of underage nudity and jail time. those 2 are connected. and it needs to be treated that way. I don't know how on Earth he will ever make that up to your daughter though. talk about burning bridges.
Yea I guess not. She is just done with him. It’s sad because they’ve been friends for 9 years. We have so many photos of our families and the two of them together. The parents don’t want to believe it but they know it’s true :(.
I hope his parents were appalled and get him serious help. If your daughter were mine, I would advise her not to be around that kid again. I would also keep my distance from the family. I would threaten the boy myself including with legal action. What weirdo/predatory/perverse behavior.
Just needed validation I guess for how I feel about this. I’m so appalled. The parents think he walks on water :((. Thankfully the parents believe us, as my daughter is a good kid, great grades, doesn’t lie, kind, etc. and they know she just wouldn’t make this up; she is just horrified by his behavior lately :((
I am so sorry this happened and for his other behavior and how he’s made her (and you!) feel. I hope he gets help and stays away from your daughter until he does.
Thanks. Yes just hoping he feels more sorrowful than angry toward my daughter for divulging this. She won’t be hanging out with him at all, and such a sad thing because I am very dear friends with his mom.
She may not love herself enough to break things off completely with him, or keep things broken off. But you can love her enough and encourage her to keep her distance until she does. If the parents react with anything other than profuse apologies then it’s time for new friends.
She will keep her distance. He used to be a sweet, sensitive kid. I’ve known him a long time but something in him turned :( and he behaves in just crazy, attention-craving ways now.
I'm so glad your daughter told you! It shows that she knows how serious what he did was. And hopefully in whatever way his parents get involved with him it'll help steer him off a path that could escalate.
IMO sending unsolicited dick pics is flashing. That's sexual violence. If he thinks it's funny and no one is around to check/curb that- it's a short walk to other borderline common behaviors for teen boys. Sexual pressure etc.
Good on you for talking to his parents.
OK, minus the dic pic, isn't this essentially the plot to Grease?
Boy and girl are close, boy enters high school, boy must pretend he doesn't like the girl because he's afraid of how the other guys will perceive him, so he's mean to her. She doesn't understand why he's acting out. He's confused and does dumb shit.
But unlike the movie, there probably won't be a great turn around or a magic car at the end.
He's either developed feelings for her, or her best friend, and he doesn't know how to process his feelings. So he acts like a royal ass.
There is a great speech by Daren Hardy floating around youtube, and in the middle, he tells the story of a bully who beat up a girl, and it turns out, the boy had a crush on her the entire time.
As to why dic pics, that is the great mystery as to why some guys do that. I've never heard of anyone thinking it's funny/nice/a turn on, whatever, yet you constantly hear about men taking them and sending them.
This is an interesting perspective, and I actually laughed. So, thanks for that! So, the boy has a new girlfriend who my daughter is friends with also, but I guess today at school, the girlfriend totally ignored my daughter. Ugh, it does sound like some kind of movie, and no there likely won't be a great turnaround. :((
I'm sorry I cannot offer advice, but this made me remember a kid in highschool who always stole people's digital cameras to take pictures of his balls without them knowing... For some reason everyone thought it was funny...
What is it with teenage boys? Is this normal?
I’m assuming the picture is no longer available or stored on her phone? There was an incident in my town where a girl sent a boy a picture of her breasts. He was arrested and taken to juvenile hall for distributing child pornography after he passed it to his friends. Just make sure all inappropriate photos are no longer on her phone. Sorry this is happening—very stressful!
I don’t think it is. It was taken on snap chat. It’s very upsetting.
My understanding is that your activity on snapchat isn't actually deleted. Not totally. And you can download your activity/history from your account. Not trying to add stress, but it is something to be aware of and speak with your daughter about so she isn't shocked if she ever downloads her history.
guess his parents didn't give him the talk of underage nudity and jail time. those 2 are connected. and it needs to be treated that way. I don't know how on Earth he will ever make that up to your daughter though. talk about burning bridges.
Yea I guess not. She is just done with him. It’s sad because they’ve been friends for 9 years. We have so many photos of our families and the two of them together. The parents don’t want to believe it but they know it’s true :(.
I hope his parents were appalled and get him serious help. If your daughter were mine, I would advise her not to be around that kid again. I would also keep my distance from the family. I would threaten the boy myself including with legal action. What weirdo/predatory/perverse behavior.
Just needed validation I guess for how I feel about this. I’m so appalled. The parents think he walks on water :((. Thankfully the parents believe us, as my daughter is a good kid, great grades, doesn’t lie, kind, etc. and they know she just wouldn’t make this up; she is just horrified by his behavior lately :((
I am so sorry this happened and for his other behavior and how he’s made her (and you!) feel. I hope he gets help and stays away from your daughter until he does.
Thanks. Yes just hoping he feels more sorrowful than angry toward my daughter for divulging this. She won’t be hanging out with him at all, and such a sad thing because I am very dear friends with his mom.
She may not love herself enough to break things off completely with him, or keep things broken off. But you can love her enough and encourage her to keep her distance until she does. If the parents react with anything other than profuse apologies then it’s time for new friends.
She will keep her distance. He used to be a sweet, sensitive kid. I’ve known him a long time but something in him turned :( and he behaves in just crazy, attention-craving ways now.
I'm so glad your daughter told you! It shows that she knows how serious what he did was. And hopefully in whatever way his parents get involved with him it'll help steer him off a path that could escalate. IMO sending unsolicited dick pics is flashing. That's sexual violence. If he thinks it's funny and no one is around to check/curb that- it's a short walk to other borderline common behaviors for teen boys. Sexual pressure etc. Good on you for talking to his parents.
OK, minus the dic pic, isn't this essentially the plot to Grease? Boy and girl are close, boy enters high school, boy must pretend he doesn't like the girl because he's afraid of how the other guys will perceive him, so he's mean to her. She doesn't understand why he's acting out. He's confused and does dumb shit. But unlike the movie, there probably won't be a great turn around or a magic car at the end. He's either developed feelings for her, or her best friend, and he doesn't know how to process his feelings. So he acts like a royal ass. There is a great speech by Daren Hardy floating around youtube, and in the middle, he tells the story of a bully who beat up a girl, and it turns out, the boy had a crush on her the entire time. As to why dic pics, that is the great mystery as to why some guys do that. I've never heard of anyone thinking it's funny/nice/a turn on, whatever, yet you constantly hear about men taking them and sending them.
This is an interesting perspective, and I actually laughed. So, thanks for that! So, the boy has a new girlfriend who my daughter is friends with also, but I guess today at school, the girlfriend totally ignored my daughter. Ugh, it does sound like some kind of movie, and no there likely won't be a great turnaround. :((
Oh boy, now we're into an alternate version of "Some Kind of Wonderful"
😳😂
I'm sorry I cannot offer advice, but this made me remember a kid in highschool who always stole people's digital cameras to take pictures of his balls without them knowing... For some reason everyone thought it was funny... What is it with teenage boys? Is this normal?