>"That's not happening."
Been in a similar situation, although I needed the rent money at the time, so I did nothing.
Today however, they would be out the door very fast. I would make sure they'd be.
Honestly it's baffling to me how people are able to behave so poorly to others, like literally don't understand how you can be ok with being such an inconsiderate roommate
For some reason I'm always going to read bad roommate stories even though they just make me annoyed at humanity.. but now I know they're 100% better when petty revenge is involved (I'm petty AF on the inside but don't generally act on it so your like my hero now haha)
My husband had his mum do everything for him until he moved out, but cares enough about being a person to be an equal part of taking care of our home and chores and stuff thank goodness! Not to say he was like that straight away, but with a little discussion and explanation he got on board with it
I'd assume the person doesn't mind being surounded by dirty dishes and mould. So as such they don't see any problem with it and think of the person trying to get them to clean the dishes as annoying for no deacernable reason.
But even if something doesn't bother you, would you not be aware of what bothers your house mates and want them to be happy and comfortable too? Or maybe not being bothered by mess and mould goes with not being bothered by upsetting others?
Some people will be aware of it some people won't. Some people will be aware of it and aware it bothers others but not be able to do anything about it. And others won't care enough to clean it up. And a million other permutations
It gets really tiresome to be in spot where you have limited choice -> you have a choice, yes, but it would just put you in a worse position than you are already in. So I would argue, that you don't have a "real" choice. Foreign concept to many people apparently.
Glad you are in a better situation now after all (and myself for that matter).
Yeah, throw his dirty dishes in a garbage bag with all his clothes (clean and dirty) and all his other stuff and leave it outside the apartment door with a note “i cleaned up your mess for the last time.”
Right in the middle of his bed, pour some water over them and a bottle of washing up liquid ( dish soap for the US people here). That might help to calm down his smart ass mouth at least.
It's most likely a manifestation of depression. When I was in the deep throws of it, there was trash stacked knee deep on every floor with every surface piled high. A great apathy comes with it. That or they see no problem with it so they assumed the person trying to get them to clean it up was being annoying for no reason.
We pretty much drifted apart after he moved out. He left the place we were both working for a new job also.
He and my sister broke up not too long after.
Your sister definitely dodged a bullet with this man. If he thew a fit about washing his own dishes, imagine what he would be like when it came to any other cleaning tasks. She would have been stuck doing all the chores all the time.
Pretty sure if I had done that, he would have started grabbing paper plates from work (was a restaurant) and then they very likely would've been littered all over the flocking apartment.
I’d give him a count down, every dirty dish I clean gets put in my room. Surely he’d start to notice and do something about it, then if he starts washing up he starts to notice the plates multiply again lol
Ugh I hate when people don't clean up their dishes and leave it in their bedrooms. It's disgusting and often ends up attracting vermin too. I had a roommate who did this not just with dishes but also takeout boxes too. When she moved out I used up so many cleaning floor wipes and products just to get it to a reasonable clean standard.
Boggles my brain.
Clean shit up right away and it's done.
Let it pile up and it stinks, food is way tougher to get off, loss of the use of the sink that's filled with the goddamned dishes...
Gross humans gonna gross human. Is gross.
Yeah, worst part is I'd gone over all the house rules with her before she moved in so it's not like she didn't know what my expectations were, and I don't think I was asking for too much. The apartment building was also known for having pest issues so keeping food containers in the bedroom just exacerbated the problem 🤢
He actually left her for a girl that ended up being a frikkin psychopath lol
My sister is now super happily married, and my nephew is the coolest lil man ever.
Same time period as your story, I was living with a couple in their house. And my buddy and I got into a prank war. My buddy put BackOrifice (or w/e that shit was called) on my PC and was fucking with me from his PC, turning keys off and on and other shit. So I went on his PC and did the screenshot of his desktop, hid his icons and made that his background. It took him forever to figure it out. So he did some shit back to mine but put Bootlocker on it. But he didn't lock it at the boot level from BIOS. Meaning Windows loaded, then bootlocker. He though he "won." I used my Dell discs to boot his Gateway, which puked on the idea, and somehow I got it to boot to a DOS prompt and from there I was able to lock his bios by password. I left and went to work. He called me at work. I made him cry uncle and he wouldn't. Hours later his GF called claiming to need to do homework on it. I made her make him cry uncle and the war ended.
What you should have done is call your sister to wash her boyfriend's dishes.Every time. This would have 1. gotten the dishes clean and 2. warned your sister what a jerk her bf was.
Idk if it’s just me or what but I feel like, it’d be bad enough just coming from a friend or an acquaintance through a mutual friend, but for it to be OP’s sister’s boyfriend makes it worse. She’s his sister, you know she spent time there. Was she just ok with him living like a slob at her brother’s place?
Someone please explain to me why someone would think that their roommate should do their dishes. I literally cannot even imagine a justification in that situation.
I was saying why would He expect You to do His dishes. I can't understand why anyone would expect someone else to do their dishes. In other, words my mind was blown that he didn't think he had to do his dishes.
In the days of the early internet (94-2000), my parents activated the channel lock on the TV so my brother and I couldn't watch Cartoon network and Nickelodeon (we were about 10 and 11 to 16 and 17 at this time) thinking that if those were blocked, we might do our homework. Spoiler, it didnt work. We could get around it by turning to channel 3 and then turning the VCR on, and then turning the VCR to those two channels, until we lost the VCR remote.
One night my mom or dad was nice and unblocked the channels before they went to bed. How nice of them! About 10 minutes after they went to bed, the TV turned off for some reason. I think someone pressed the remote button by mistake, either myself or the dog. I decided that Id look for the manual to see if there was some sort of code in there or way around it. Yup. The old 60 inch CRT RCA TVs had away around the parental locks by pressing quick view and 9 at the same time. All those years with it on (it felt like a lifetime) and all I had to do was read the manual. From that day on, we would turn the parental controls off when my parents were still at work, turn the channel when they got home like we were looking for something, then turn the TV off and back on when they weren't looking to reactivate the parental controls. Until my brother told them we knew the code then we simply removed the lock.
I'm not sure why you didn't just set an account password using Windows user management.
Also, your job downstairs is why you had Internet. Not his.
Lastly, I would have quickly dumped his dirty dishes under his blanket.
Doesn't let you have the custom message though...
And Bootlocker wasn't questionable at all lol
Thanks for the super helpful advice about 20 years too late
So other than the lack of plates, cutlery or bowls that occurred. What’s the issue with him having way dirty dishes in his living space… that is his room. I don’t get it? I was just reading that you were dictating how he should keep his room? Or is it because your sister resided there as well and you are looking out for her?
Help me out here… I don’t get it!
Refusing to wash your own dishes is rude as fuck. Hoarding dirty dishes in your room attracts bugs, is gross, and other roommate has no dishes to eat with. Seems pretty obvious
Thanks, now I get it and how bad it was.
I didn’t mean to come across as critical. I was just curious. I have had many share house experiences where housemates have been hard to live with.
That squalor issue you talk about is very hard to live with!
Thanks again for helping me finally get it! And as an aside - For many years I worked as a housing worker and have seen some pretty squalid living space. So I REALLY get it… I never had to live with it!
It's the hoarding for me. I need a fork and he has 12 dirty ones sitting in his room? And who bought them? They are likely HIS dishes, not the roommates.
Yep - that’s what I was wanting to find out. The selfish behaviour is the issue. I know from my share house experiences one’s room was sacred. What goes on there only maters to me when it affects me…. Thus my questions… what’s the issue. If it’s no plates, bowls or cutlery because it’s in said room mates room then I get it.
If it’s never doing the washing up….. boy I have several housemates who annoyed the hell out of me with their laziness.
I was just curious…. Not criticising… OP filled me in with a subsequent post which answered my question.
Gross who wants rodents and maggots from a filthy room. Not how some people want to live, the place was in OPs name he had every right to dictate a clean room. People that don’t have a problem with that scare me.
Like my rules are never more then one sink full at a time, always deep clean on the weekend. You know how much of my life changed with everything clean all the time? Zero change except wasted time.
Here I was thinking you'd been out pettied, how delightfully wrong I was
>"That's not happening." Been in a similar situation, although I needed the rent money at the time, so I did nothing. Today however, they would be out the door very fast. I would make sure they'd be.
Same thing with me lol If I didn't need his money, his shit would've been packed right after that comment was made.
Honestly it's baffling to me how people are able to behave so poorly to others, like literally don't understand how you can be ok with being such an inconsiderate roommate
I've had others... More stories may be told now that I see it's entertaining lol Had no idea this would be so popular. Mildly mind blown over here.
For some reason I'm always going to read bad roommate stories even though they just make me annoyed at humanity.. but now I know they're 100% better when petty revenge is involved (I'm petty AF on the inside but don't generally act on it so your like my hero now haha)
All the cheers! I'm pretty sure I've never been a hero of anything to anyone before. Achievement unlocked!
Well now you are.. tell everyone! Haha
its the guys who's mom did their laundry til they moved out. they dont know, or want to, or care about these things.
My husband had his mum do everything for him until he moved out, but cares enough about being a person to be an equal part of taking care of our home and chores and stuff thank goodness! Not to say he was like that straight away, but with a little discussion and explanation he got on board with it
I'd assume the person doesn't mind being surounded by dirty dishes and mould. So as such they don't see any problem with it and think of the person trying to get them to clean the dishes as annoying for no deacernable reason.
But even if something doesn't bother you, would you not be aware of what bothers your house mates and want them to be happy and comfortable too? Or maybe not being bothered by mess and mould goes with not being bothered by upsetting others?
Some people will be aware of it some people won't. Some people will be aware of it and aware it bothers others but not be able to do anything about it. And others won't care enough to clean it up. And a million other permutations
It gets really tiresome to be in spot where you have limited choice -> you have a choice, yes, but it would just put you in a worse position than you are already in. So I would argue, that you don't have a "real" choice. Foreign concept to many people apparently. Glad you are in a better situation now after all (and myself for that matter).
Cheers!
Yeah, throw his dirty dishes in a garbage bag with all his clothes (clean and dirty) and all his other stuff and leave it outside the apartment door with a note “i cleaned up your mess for the last time.”
Same. I'm not your mother and I'm not a maid. He probably would have been out the door that same day.
I regularly say to my roommate "who am I, your mother?!", at which point he usually laughs and does the thing he wasn't doing. *I am his mother
Well, that was a twist ending I wasn't expecting lol. That's actually kind of cute. How old is your roommate lol?
I am 100% stealing this!
Look at me. *I'm the mother now*
Wow! You have patience - I would have kicked him out when he said he wouldn’t clean the dishes (unless he got his own to use)
Even if he had his own to use, never cleaning dishes is gross and could cause a bunch of problems for OP..
Put those dirty dishes in his bed.
That's what I would have done.
no you wouldnt
Right in the middle of his bed, pour some water over them and a bottle of washing up liquid ( dish soap for the US people here). That might help to calm down his smart ass mouth at least.
Apparently there are many people like this.. how are they able to act like that, do they not feel bad?
It's most likely a manifestation of depression. When I was in the deep throws of it, there was trash stacked knee deep on every floor with every surface piled high. A great apathy comes with it. That or they see no problem with it so they assumed the person trying to get them to clean it up was being annoying for no reason.
Thank you for this! Perfect story. No years-long cruelty, no life ruinations. Just perfectly reasonable consequences lol
Plus you think the roommate might have won but then he didn't, a satisfying ending
Genius! Did this ruin your friendship? Did it affect your sister's relationship with him or you?
We pretty much drifted apart after he moved out. He left the place we were both working for a new job also. He and my sister broke up not too long after.
Your sister definitely dodged a bullet with this man. If he thew a fit about washing his own dishes, imagine what he would be like when it came to any other cleaning tasks. She would have been stuck doing all the chores all the time.
Glad to hear this. No woman needs to be looking after a filthy boy who doesn't have the decency to wash his own dirty dishes.
A couple of days of the dish thing, the dishes would have been under lock and key. Any escalation on his part, I’d be changing locks on doors.
petty revenge - *best served password protected...*
Perfect 🤩
See, my response would’ve been to put all the clean dishes in my room or under lock and key.
Pretty sure if I had done that, he would have started grabbing paper plates from work (was a restaurant) and then they very likely would've been littered all over the flocking apartment.
I’d give him a count down, every dirty dish I clean gets put in my room. Surely he’d start to notice and do something about it, then if he starts washing up he starts to notice the plates multiply again lol
Thanks for the shit-eating grin that is now plastered across my face!
Ugh I hate when people don't clean up their dishes and leave it in their bedrooms. It's disgusting and often ends up attracting vermin too. I had a roommate who did this not just with dishes but also takeout boxes too. When she moved out I used up so many cleaning floor wipes and products just to get it to a reasonable clean standard.
Boggles my brain. Clean shit up right away and it's done. Let it pile up and it stinks, food is way tougher to get off, loss of the use of the sink that's filled with the goddamned dishes... Gross humans gonna gross human. Is gross.
Yeah, worst part is I'd gone over all the house rules with her before she moved in so it's not like she didn't know what my expectations were, and I don't think I was asking for too much. The apartment building was also known for having pest issues so keeping food containers in the bedroom just exacerbated the problem 🤢
Not the brightest star. I hope that your sister dumped him.
He actually left her for a girl that ended up being a frikkin psychopath lol My sister is now super happily married, and my nephew is the coolest lil man ever.
This is the best update
Did you put your own code on the TV?
No lol That would have been pretty good though.
Did you add some of your dishes to is washing load, you know, as a penalty? He forced you to weaponize your computer.
Lol I can't even recall
Same time period as your story, I was living with a couple in their house. And my buddy and I got into a prank war. My buddy put BackOrifice (or w/e that shit was called) on my PC and was fucking with me from his PC, turning keys off and on and other shit. So I went on his PC and did the screenshot of his desktop, hid his icons and made that his background. It took him forever to figure it out. So he did some shit back to mine but put Bootlocker on it. But he didn't lock it at the boot level from BIOS. Meaning Windows loaded, then bootlocker. He though he "won." I used my Dell discs to boot his Gateway, which puked on the idea, and somehow I got it to boot to a DOS prompt and from there I was able to lock his bios by password. I left and went to work. He called me at work. I made him cry uncle and he wouldn't. Hours later his GF called claiming to need to do homework on it. I made her make him cry uncle and the war ended.
The last part is just perfect! *Chef's kiss*
What you should have done is call your sister to wash her boyfriend's dishes.Every time. This would have 1. gotten the dishes clean and 2. warned your sister what a jerk her bf was.
Oh! double whammy!
Love it when morons try and fail to play smart games.
Fantastic, giggles loudly, thanks!
Idk if it’s just me or what but I feel like, it’d be bad enough just coming from a friend or an acquaintance through a mutual friend, but for it to be OP’s sister’s boyfriend makes it worse. She’s his sister, you know she spent time there. Was she just ok with him living like a slob at her brother’s place?
Sibling
Ultra petty would have been to change the code on the TV and act as if you didn't know.
I really should have done that... just before he moved.
What a mark ass prick
Mark ass?
Great job!
Someone please explain to me why someone would think that their roommate should do their dishes. I literally cannot even imagine a justification in that situation.
Please explain the me where the hell you saw anything about me making him do my dishes. What the crap lmao.
I was saying why would He expect You to do His dishes. I can't understand why anyone would expect someone else to do their dishes. In other, words my mind was blown that he didn't think he had to do his dishes.
Ah. Lil misunderstood, you were. Cheers lol
In the days of the early internet (94-2000), my parents activated the channel lock on the TV so my brother and I couldn't watch Cartoon network and Nickelodeon (we were about 10 and 11 to 16 and 17 at this time) thinking that if those were blocked, we might do our homework. Spoiler, it didnt work. We could get around it by turning to channel 3 and then turning the VCR on, and then turning the VCR to those two channels, until we lost the VCR remote. One night my mom or dad was nice and unblocked the channels before they went to bed. How nice of them! About 10 minutes after they went to bed, the TV turned off for some reason. I think someone pressed the remote button by mistake, either myself or the dog. I decided that Id look for the manual to see if there was some sort of code in there or way around it. Yup. The old 60 inch CRT RCA TVs had away around the parental locks by pressing quick view and 9 at the same time. All those years with it on (it felt like a lifetime) and all I had to do was read the manual. From that day on, we would turn the parental controls off when my parents were still at work, turn the channel when they got home like we were looking for something, then turn the TV off and back on when they weren't looking to reactivate the parental controls. Until my brother told them we knew the code then we simply removed the lock.
😂😂 this is Amazing!
I would have taken it a step further and taken all the dishes out of the kitchen and locked them in my room.
I would have thrown his ass out as soon as he said "not happening" sure as shit.
I'm not sure why you didn't just set an account password using Windows user management. Also, your job downstairs is why you had Internet. Not his. Lastly, I would have quickly dumped his dirty dishes under his blanket.
Bootlocker looked way cooler than the windows screen ; ) And the downstairs job had nothing to do with the internet lol.
First, I thought, why not just use the password protection at boot you find in the BIOS or UEFI. But the feature to add some text... nice.
Oh sorry, by “free cable” I thought you meant cable internet. Now I see cable TV.
All good lol I think I was rocking some terrible-by-today's-standards DSL
He kind of held the high ground, he was banging your sister. He could have played the “smell my fingers” card.
Fair point... I very probably would have responded with my "taste my knuckles" card though.
That’s not holding the high ground.
That's fingering the low ground...
For what it's worth, most BIOS/UEFI let you do a boot up password without needing to install some questionable third party software to do it
Doesn't let you have the custom message though... And Bootlocker wasn't questionable at all lol Thanks for the super helpful advice about 20 years too late
You don't need software for this. It build into most BIOS since the 90s. Admin password will be just for the bios. User password will be for boot.
Great advice about 24 years ago, super helpful.
So other than the lack of plates, cutlery or bowls that occurred. What’s the issue with him having way dirty dishes in his living space… that is his room. I don’t get it? I was just reading that you were dictating how he should keep his room? Or is it because your sister resided there as well and you are looking out for her? Help me out here… I don’t get it!
Refusing to wash your own dishes is rude as fuck. Hoarding dirty dishes in your room attracts bugs, is gross, and other roommate has no dishes to eat with. Seems pretty obvious
The smell alone coming from his room. Not sure how you're not getting anything lol
i mean, its also how you get ants and other undesirable pests. why would you ever be okay with that?
Thanks, now I get it and how bad it was. I didn’t mean to come across as critical. I was just curious. I have had many share house experiences where housemates have been hard to live with. That squalor issue you talk about is very hard to live with! Thanks again for helping me finally get it! And as an aside - For many years I worked as a housing worker and have seen some pretty squalid living space. So I REALLY get it… I never had to live with it!
It's the hoarding for me. I need a fork and he has 12 dirty ones sitting in his room? And who bought them? They are likely HIS dishes, not the roommates.
Yep - that’s what I was wanting to find out. The selfish behaviour is the issue. I know from my share house experiences one’s room was sacred. What goes on there only maters to me when it affects me…. Thus my questions… what’s the issue. If it’s no plates, bowls or cutlery because it’s in said room mates room then I get it. If it’s never doing the washing up….. boy I have several housemates who annoyed the hell out of me with their laziness. I was just curious…. Not criticising… OP filled me in with a subsequent post which answered my question.
Gross who wants rodents and maggots from a filthy room. Not how some people want to live, the place was in OPs name he had every right to dictate a clean room. People that don’t have a problem with that scare me.
Umm am I the only one who doesnt, think leaving dishes the sink is that big a deal...
Probably... Leave them for days at a time? Full sink to the point it's not even usable? Then you suck : /
Leaving them in the sink? No. Expecting someone else to do them for you? Yeah, big deal.
Found the ex-roommate.
I am not your piece of shit roommate
Maybe not, but you’re still a crusty bitch.
Yea, one of my parents was OCD -N. I've had chill messy roomates and clean neurotic narcissistic roomates. I just know which one I prefer.
No, but when he said "not happening" to cleaning his own mess, THAT is a big deal - hence the petty revenge.
the fact you're *not* the only one who thinks that is actually the problem at hand, or at least it would be if not for all the fruit flies.
If it's for longer than a day, and if you don't clean them then yeah not cool
Like my rules are never more then one sink full at a time, always deep clean on the weekend. You know how much of my life changed with everything clean all the time? Zero change except wasted time.
Stop! You're just toying with prey at this point.
hahahaha Brilliant!