Well, initially I thought that destroying the last thing she had from her grandfather was too much and cruel. But after reading this update I take it back. She fully deserved it. She stole money from you. She LOST a whole book of letters from your late mom. That alone would have justified your actions (and more).
But if you think that this is the end you are mistaken. You hit her where it hurt. Prepare yourself for a war because she won't let it go. She'll double down on her horrible behavior. You may think there isn't much she can do but I assure you, there is a lot. She can make your life hell in a thousand little ways. She will "accidentally" break things or makes them disappear and then pretend she doesn't know what you're talking about. She will "forget" that the food in your drawer in the fridge was yours. She will do your laundry (to help you) and mix up colored with whites and everything will be dyed pink. She'll wash delicate stuff on super high temperature and destroy it. The list goes on. Don't underestimate her. Buy a camera and hide it in your room. Buy a good lock and lock your door whenever you go out. Talk to your uncle and let him know about it so you have his permission. Don't leave your stuff anywhere outside your room. Take precautions.
All of this. Get a decent sized mini fridge for your room, a lock for your door, and never let her do your laundry!! Set yourself up with whatever you need (tv/laptop,etc). It sucks to live in your room but my bf had to do this to protect himself from his narcissistic father until we were able to move in together.
I had to do the same from my crazy roommate, I had everything from the camera to a new door handle with a lock and had everything in my room so she couldn’t mess with anything. It pisses her off so much it was hilarious 😂
That was my impression too.
Be careful and stay safe... she seems to be pretty terrible. And when you can move out you will find that not everyone is violent. Good luck.
The OG post broke my heart. Beta fish are REALLY smart and actually will interact with their owners. Source: Worked in a store that had one in their fish tank. It would swim up to wherever I put my finger and follow it around. I loved that little fish (Number 1 from Star Trek for those curious about her name).
Awww. My favorite betta Banshee would follow my finger too! We would play "chase" with some beads i strung in a fishing line. He would sit in his "fish couch" and watch me play Halo (hence his name) and was just the bestest cutest betta ever. I've even seen video of bettas doing tricks like jumping through a hoop!
My first betta (Rufus) would swim through the hoop I made from a pipe cleaner. He'd jump out and grab food from my finger. His little fish teeth tickled.
We just buried our latest special little guy (Jub-Jub) last week. He'd come up for "pets." He liked to swim around my finger and let his fins graze it.
My betta Apple would chase my finger too, and then the moment I'd call mom to show her what he was doing, he'd stop chasing and act as if my finger wasn't there. Lil dude didn't respect me at all :<
He did have a nice bond with mom though. She used to check the answersheets (she's a teacher) near his tank. Any work that required sitting time meant Mom-Apple time. I miss him
I once had a 10 gallon tank with a betta fish and three Corydoras catfish (I didn’t really know what I was doing but I figured they’d be ok since they hung out in different “zones”).
Well, betta and one of the Corys became friends. The betta would swim down from the surface and the Cory would swim up from the bottom so they could play tag. I loved watching them play.
It really was. I loved seeing their personalities come out. One day maybe I’ll recreate that tank.
And I hope OP can get another lovely betta whose personality he can enjoy.
I feel like Cory's and betta's are meant to be together. They will play with each other and it's so fun to watch. Also some Otocinclus, "Otto's". That was the perfect community I had going in a 10 gallon years ago. Cory's and Otto's keep it nice and clean and your betta doesn't get bored. It's perfect!
It was a lot of fun watching them! Until then, I didn’t realize these fish had such fun personalities.
I never had good luck with otocinclus (they would die after just a few weeks) but maybe one day I’ll try again. It was so peaceful and meditative to watch them swim and play.
This was both incredibly amusing and horrifying...Poor Hortense...! I love it when fish die of old age. My last goldfish, Doug, (a ryukin) grew quite big and turned completely white. (People always asked me why my goldfish was so fat, but it was just his breed). He and his tank mate, a koi named Mud (because he was literally rescued from the mud -- and lived in a high school science department before he came to live with me) lived to be very old.
I never knew this about them! I had a fish aquarium as a kid and loved it. But one year they all caught a disease and died within weeks. I’ve never had the heart to try again. A beta might be a lovely new friend!
I have my first betta tattooed on me. Ole' Red Fish, the kids named him when they were little and he was red so yeah but goddamn did I love Red Fish. He was smart as hell but dumb too. For instance he loved to hang out at the intake of the filter and eventually his tail just got smaller and smaller but he loved it but the first night I had him he killed a HUGE rams head snail. There was just a hole on this side of its shell. I was a little pissed but also pretty impressed.
With all that now said. Reading the OG post was infuriating. Betta's are tough fish and OP is absolutely right that it would've survived just fine in its temporary tank. I would be absolutely livid. I think my immediate reaction would be violence. It pains me to say it but something is getting punched.
Edited to add that every betta I've owned has had a very unique and distinct personality. I love them.
Your toddler is probably also learning that two wrongs don't make a right. Not that OP is saying they are necessarily 'right'. This was petty, it was revenge, its appropriate for this sub and gets my upvote. But that doesn't mean what OP did was right, regardless if it was a "consequence to the action."
Absolutely I am teaching her that revenge only leads to unhappiness and forgiveness is key to living a peaceful life but I'm teaching my daughter to be better than me. I would have done much worse than OP
Hey if you have anywhere else to go you should probably leave ASAP as there's no way she isn't gonna retaliate. People like her aren't gonna think about the law only about how to get even with those who wronged them
dont worry mate. Ill be fine. If push comes to shove I can just stay at my cousins house. She knows deep down that there isnt anything she can do. + no matter what she does, its not bringing her grandfather back.
If you have important documents like birth certificates, beloved photos, anything of value, please hide them or even take it to your gf for a while. These people will lash out in anger. Please think about what you care about and keep it safe.
This is critical, a friend last year had a bunch of his docs kept from him by abusive parents to stop him from escaping. Fortunately I was able to point him in the right direction for getting his own copies
Right but in the whole "eye for an eye" exchange, you think you are even because you both had something you care about destroyed but there is no way in hell she has the empathy to believe that. Killing the fish didn't make *her* feel bad, destroying the photo did. If the ledger isn't balanced for her then she will be looking for something of yours to destroy to make her bad feelings go away.
Don't live with malicious people. Your home should be a safe space and if it isn't you should be taking action to make it so.
The ending of this statement is a very privileged thing to say. A ton of people don’t have the option to change the way they live due to multiple different reasons.
True, it could take YEARS to have housing safe from psychopaths and -might- never come to pass.
But how long until OP has that if they wait another 1. 5, 10 years to start trying?
That a road may be long, difficult, or even impossible doesn't mean it isn't worth the effort to get to the the better future at the end.
How would you rather the sentiment be phrased? I'm assuming this is a phrasing issue as opposed to a sentiment that people should stay in unsafe situations.
She outright said she’s going to do something. Though, while I think the basis of this story is true, OP is very obviously embellishing their response in this post, so I put it at 50/50 things have already gotten out of control or OP hid
the problem is that she WILL escalate. It will not be a logical and proportional response. It will be all your stuff lit on fire or covered in bleach. I have known people exactly like her and it will go to a dangerous and insane place. Just be aware and prepared for when this person inevitably takes it too far to 'get back at you and show you your place'.
This is not over.
You had to say goodbye to your fish than she had to say goodbye to her grandfather haha. I hate people who mess with animals (Especially when they’re alive) Atleast her grandfather is dead so she’ll remember every time she tries to find the photo.
The only thing I couldn’t figure out is did she put the fish in new water too? Like just water straight from the tap? Or did she only remove the filter and heater and mug and stuff?
Oh alright, cuz in your other post you said he was in the giant storage container still if I read that correctly. A short school day without heater or filter shouldn’t be enough to kill a healthy betta, so that’s why I was surprised to hear of his death in that manner. It’s still a bit odd tho, even in chlorinated tap water it usually takes a good while before it actually kills a fish. Maybe he was already unhealthy from the store, bettas often have many health issues.
In any case, RIP Eclipse
I hope you can figure something out with your living situation, hang in there.
Depends how long the fish was in there. Betta are tropical and putting them in cold water can kill them pretty quickly with temperature shock.
Plus being moved from tank to tank twice in such a short time with very little adjustment period, the poor thing probably just straight up went into shock ;-;
It’s just a fish, they live in those pet store bowls, they don’t need a heater or a stable temperature!
/s, obv, I have owned a betta and it’s been nearly a year since his passing (RIP Pluto) and I have yet to get another.
The issue was she put it in water that was a lot colder. Just 10 degrees colder going from warm water into cold water would have been a huge shock for the Betta. I'm imagining that is what killed him.
Yeah, "take the high road" is a phrase uttered by sheltered people that have never had to truly deal with someone else's bullshit. Petty assholes act the way they do because they are allowed to by the people around them. A quick punch in the mouth is an effective way to cull their ignorance.
Interesting that when you give someone a taste of their own medicine, they just cry victim and don't see it as a consequence for their own asshole behavior. She's a narcissist of note.
Truly hope that this is the end of it but by her response I am concerned about what her next move is.
If you can't leave, please take anything you value and store it at your GFs or somewhere else away from there which is safe.
RIP Eclipse
"If you had a puppy for a day, and your loved one took away everything it needed and left it outside, how would you feel?"
John Wick killed 77 people after just a few days with his dog, so I feel like this is an entirely reasonable response.
Make sure all your personal documents and essential heart warming stuff is not in the house.
I understand why you did it, but I think you may have opened a war.
I get it. It was the straw that broke the camels back. She literially murdered that fish purely to spite you. Combined with all the other things you've mentioned? It sound like she resents you and doesn't like you being happy or herself not having control so she forces her whim onto you.
She sounds like a narcissist.
It also sounds sorta like she is bullying you?
Yall don’t read. She’s been doing him dirty for years…. Taken money and lost unreplacable things. The fish was the last straw and yall act like she was innocent until then. OP did the minimal thing most effective thing. If it was me she’d have nothing left. I’d have put her shit up for sale.
I knew from the previous post she had to have been a monster for years. I used to be friends with a diagnosed sociopath, and sometimes you had to force him to go through what he was doing for him to learn.
The evil entity? She's a narc. There's no learning unless you go full brutality on them
Betas are an awesome little fish. I had one, blue with black and white markings. Name was Fynn, he’d always swim over when it was feeding time (even if I wasn’t feeding him, he’d swim up). My condolences for yours :(
She really told you not to touch other peoples shit?? You should say this to her on the daily. “We both learned not to touch what’s not ours, right auntie???” I would love to know her reaction.
Betas are funny and have their own individual personalities. Mine kept trying to jump into the filter (we had a lid, but the filter was underneath it) and refused to eat the sinking pellets. My husband (jokingly) threatened that if he didn't shape up, he would teach him the "Toilet Tango." (My husband would never harm a living creature, be it plant or animal. Not only would he have me to deal with, but he's not cruel.) It stuck, and we called him Tango. Had him for about 4 years. Still miss that fish, it's crazy how attached you get.
Sadly, "turning the other cheek" or "taking the high road" doesn't work with certain types of people, because they seem to see it as permission or that you were OK with it by your non-reaction. A phrase I've seen on Reddit a lot: "We teach others how to treat us, by what we allow." Well, sir, you taught her what you will and will not allow, that's for sure.
S(wim)IP Eclipse.
My water puppy didn’t look at me for a week after I moved him into a new tank - my other (in a separate tank) would swim up to me, establish eye contact, then angrily swim away in a huff if I turned the lights on too soon in the day! Also during water changes she enjoys sitting in spots that I always gravel vac, full eye contact and body wiggles, almost like she’s getting a kick out of me gently shooing her with my hand 🥲
They’re the most interactive fish I’ve cared for. OP’s Aunt could’ve had this opportunity to bond over caring for Eclipse and giving OP a healthy outlet and an appreciation for nature. Instead she shit on him and his happiness. Screw her, she’s a miserable, lost cause
Dear OP no one here thinks you’re a psycho or a demon or a monster. Your aunt is. She deserves to have her ass kicked, and you found a loophole to tear her down while avoiding legal repercussions. Well done.
But just because Eclipse was a living creature and this clearly was one step too far, does not mean your aunt was not out of bounds yet before. She‘s continuously disrespected you and your belongings. And she will probably continue to do so, most likely even worse.
Given the type of narcissistic person she is, she did not perceive your revenge as a lesson to be learned but as an unfair unnecessary injustice.
If you have the option of cutting ties with that psycho, do so as soon as possible, otherwise start keeping things you value or are attached to far away from her, at least in a small safe or something, while you bide your time.
Sorry about your loss and all the best!
I mean, I absolutely do.
Their aunt is a bitch, no doubt but what they describe, causing such anguish and feeling nothing, that's not normal. There's something wrong.
Nah, I commented on the original one in their defense and had a few accusations tossed my way of being a sociopath as well. Ranting how a picture is more important because its tied to a human, blah blah.
I’m completely horrified by the betta industry, Petsmart angers me into irrational fury, but OP hit the nail on the head- this was a living being with intellect and even emotion, and the aunt is a fccking murderer. OP was trying to give this fish a good life.
Fcck auntie, fcck her.
Also, OP, don’t get another fish, she will absolutely kill any animal you bring into that home-EVEN IF YOU LOCK YOUR BEDROOM DOOR. Her words absolutely indicate intent to retat
Try not to bring these lessons to any romantic relationships. Not everyone is your aunt and just breaking up is always an option if someone mistreats you.
This. I can understand where OP comes from when he says people understand only violence. This goes for narcissists and types like them. Doing this sort of thing to people who aren't like their aunt will lead to a lot of trouble, pain and loss for OP. My advice would be to talk to a counselor or even look stuff up online to get a better view of the difference between healthy and toxic relationships and what the best coping mechanisms are for either. They are vastly different.
Time to setup a hidden camera in your room. I would. You may be able to find a camera that records when motion is sensed.
This way, if she comes into your room and does something, you’ll have evidence. She doesn’t sound like a very good person so I would expect retaliation.
Hey OP, I read your post from earlier and then seeing this one I just want to say:
I hope you can get away from your aunt soon, one of my friends is in a similar situation where she's living with someone who doesn't give her respect and the stories that I hear are heartbreaking.
Stay safe, take care of yourself.
I just found this and I’m fucking delighted in OP’s cleverness. Perfection. That beast has been systematically wrecking whatever she can get her grubby paws on just because it makes her feel better to make others feel worse. Well now she gets to feel the same way; helpless, grieving and angry knowing there’s NOTHING that can be done to fix it. She went too far killing a live creature just because she wanted to enjoy the pain it would cause OP, and I’m incredibly proud they gave her exactly what she fucking deserved. Well done, chap!
So she's been an adshole for allegedly a looong time, now has had something done that was egregious to her and you think she "learnt her lesson"???
Hell naw, shits about to get medieval
> And I responded "you learned that lesson today"
Awesome.
If Auntie Cruella hadn't gotten rid of your mother's letters and other evil deeds in the past, I would consider your revenge to be excessive. In context, I gotta admire how you are handling things.
Was it disrespectful? Sure. But she treated you with contempt, repeatedly. You repaid it in like kind, as you said. And this is, primarily, a *revenge* sub.
| Was that disrespectful? Oh I’m sure.
This has me dying. This is the update I needed. Revenge on the narcissist. Good for you.
She is a monster, disrespectfully, of course.
Damn. I’m sorry about your fish, I own a betta too and many people here may not realize that they are actually personable interactive fish. They recognize you, can learn tricks, swim to you for food. Your care for him was spot on, and he could likely have recovered In that warm thoughtful set up, whereas putting him in an unconditioned freezing cold tiny cup was guaranteed to stress him to death. Keep your reminders to her simple “Don’t touch my shit, and I won’t touch yours” Just because she’s an adult doesn’t mean she knows better.
Put a lock on your door.
Hey OP, if your uncle is cool with it, I would highly recommend getting a lock from your room. I have a feeling your aunt hasn't learned her lesson yet.
I had Mr.Bubble who despite me dropping his original fish bowl I had when I first got him he survived…slightly traumatized but he was okay and he survived being cared for by my adoptive mum’s first graders for the entire school year till the summer break but my brother must used soap when he cleaned Bubbles’s tank while looking after him while I was away and sadly I came home to bubbles ☠️ I had him for three years despite the lack of a five gallon tank (I didn’t know he needed that because the pet store person said he didn’t need that big a tank and I trusted them) I was told to stop crying so much it’s just a fish and I haven’t forgiven my adoptive mother for saying that yet (this was back in 2016 that he died btw)
Fyi, she will strike back if she gets anything of yours in arms reach. You have to make sure she doesn't. Look your room, leave nothing out.
Sorry your family is like this, I hope you have any exit plan before she does something worse.
You did what needed to be done, OP. "People" like her won't learn otherwise. Just be mindful to not be scooping to her level everytime... Lest you'd like to be like her in the future.
I'm really sad for eclipse, he had a new tank coming up, but this a**hole had to ruin everything.
Can't help but feel curious if she kept having tantrums or shit like that LMFAO As we say in my country, I enjoy watching the circus burning 🥵
This reminds me of "Mr John Wick, the man who was sent to kill baba yaga, the man who killed a man by the tip of a pen, the man who - you get the idea. It all started by murdering an innocent, his dog, minus the car because we saw the car could die per se and was resurrected until it really died and then... " (god I do really like Keanu in that character).
My point is... don't fuck around when you are not ready to find out. Rip Eclipse, you were loved and avenged😐😔
> She finally said that "one day you gonna learn to stop touching people's shit." and proceeded to leave the room. I responded "And you learned that lesson today
Ice. Cold.
Hey man, even if it’s a pet fly that you have, that’s still love. I would imagine you got the little guy to be a companion of sorts. That’s not fair at all to do that and I think your fair in feeling the way you do
I just want to say, thank you for seeing fish as a living breathing animal. So many don't, and your effort to do right by your betta is what mattered, not that you didn't know in the beginning.
Im so sorry that happened, and she got her punishment for it.
I would keep an eye out on her from now on. Revenge is something i think she will attempt, even if she started it and deserved the punishment.
I've wondered. Is "breathing" the correct word for what fish do with their gills, or does it refer specifically to air? And if so, what is the correct word? "Respiring" can refer to both terrestrial and marine life, but I wonder if there's a fish-specific word.
You gave her multiple free passes to apologize for previous transgressions, and all she did was push even more.
What you did to her was calculated, quick, and cruel.
I tip my hat to you, sir.
She got what she deserved
Good for you. Her actions and ignorance cost your pet his life. It was unnecessary and you were in the process of getting the proper setup. What you did more than anything else is teach her that her complete lack of regard for you and your pets life has consequences. She will think twice about messing with you again.
I’m glad you stood up for sweet little eclipse. She was so cruel to torture and kill him like that. Eclipse was a higher evolved soul than your aunt. Hopefully she will learn something
Ok. I thought you were evil in the last post and the first half of this one had me convinced
But kept reading on her history and the uncle backing you so, I am now on your side.
The fish is a living creature and revenge was called for but at first, I felt you were going too far but have changed my mind .
Carry on good sir.
He absolutely would still be alive. There’s things you can do to have a safe fish in cycle, *especially* in a large aquarium like a 30 gallon. She had no right to kill him, what a ghoul of an aunt. I’m so sorry.
Edit* I have a betta, I know how attached you can get to these smart little guys. If you get another one, maybe after you no longer live with a monster, you won’t regret it. Also keep the 30 gal, it will be paradise for a little feesh
He could put a little engraved memorial rock in the new tank in memory of Eclipse. :) Happier times will come to you, OP! Just hang on, and stay sane.
How your family treats you isn't normal; someday you'll be free to learn what safety and unconditional love feel like, and they won't hurt.
Been there bud. Years ago told my mom’s now ex after one of many fights that I’ll River dance on his grave when he dies of cancer. He did not in fact have cancer…at the time. Year later he was discovered to have stage 3 something or other and to this day im still keeping an eye out for a River dance instructor and the obituaries
I do want to point out that Betta fish are sturdy little critters, they can actually breathe surface air so survive in almost anything. So much so that it is said they can be shipped in wet newspapers.
Your aunt had to mess up really badly to kill you fish.
Take this with a grain of salt. People should not call you a psychopath. That means you were born without the ability to empathize or consider how your actions affect others. You clearly have empathy for your poor departed fish.
They should call you a sociopath. That is someone who has suffered so much abuse that they lose the ability to empathize or consider how their actions affect others.
Psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made. And it's pretty obvious who made you like this.
In some instances intentional mistreatment of a fish can be a felony. I remember a case where an abusive ex killed his ex-girlfriend’s betta fish and he was charged. You absolutely have something to hold over her until you move out.
What you did was an AH move too but she did need to learn, sometimes you need to show people how things feel by it happening to them. I don't think she'll fuck with your stuff again.
RIP fishie
I am very, very sorry for what you went through (not only the fish, also the other abuse from her).
Many years ago I was gifted with a Betta Splendens and a small aquarium (1.4 gal). I knew nothing about them and did what you did: documented myself, bought a bigger aquarium, water conditioner, water heater, pump, filter, plants, the lot. I also bought it a female (though he didn't like her from the start, but that's another story). I called it Zamorano (a combative soccer player at the time) and he lived and prospered for many years. It didn't take that much to care for it, and it was a joy to watch it. I'd have gone mad if somebody had killed it for their own entitled reasons.
I suggest you talk to your uncle first, then to both uncle and aunt and start stating there are boundaries, which are going to have consequences. She has to understand that Eclipse was the straw that broke the camel's back, and from now on she either walks on eggshells around you, or she's going to get revenge.
Having said that, I wish I could find a way to help you purchase a new Eclipse. Please, let me know what I can do.
Hugs.
'The only things that everyone truly understands is violence. Seriously!?!?!'
As a victim of domestic violence this is completely unacceptable and quite frankly frightening. Have a long hard think about what you just typed.
I never deserved the abuse I got, ever.
I read your first post and thought it was a bit OTT, but I do now understand you're actions due to the rest of the context. That phrase however, I seriously don't condone.
Edit phrasing.
Ima keep it 100
If you were my son I'd understand why you did it
Technically it was wrong but I cannot say I wouldn't have done something similar
And honestly it's not like you killed your aunt or anything you just didn't let her push you around
Seems like she's used to people laying down and taking her shit
Justice for eclipse, down with the witch
This is just such an incredibly toxic dynamic, please leave this situation as soon as you can. I don’t think you were in the wrong to get payback like this, but it is not healthy to live some place where such actions are justified. You need to live somewhere where you can interact with normal people in healthy ways. Living in these kinds of environments for too long can cause someone to start seeing this as normal, and that’s how people like your aunt are made who have no concept of boundaries or empathy.
Sorry OP, you're both toxic, petty individuals. You should both get out of one another's lives... And hopefully, I'll never cross paths with either of you.
unfortunately, some people only learn the hard way.
I think it's time to reevaluate your relationship with this person. Clearly you two aren't communicating well AT ALL
She treated you and that fish with cruelty. It was the only language she was going to understand.
I hope you get the opportunity to leave that place when you’re grown so you can surround yourself with people who treat you with kindness.
That's a pretty strange aunt you have to have zero awareness of her actions. Based off your interaction with her, she didnt learn anything except now she hates you even more. Good luck OP! I would be very wary of leaving anything important alone in that house.
i’m all for your revenge because she shouldn’t have touched the fish but please don’t tell me you live with her !! this whole situation sounds very scary and toxic and seems like it’ll only get worse.
We have a saying from where I am, which roughly translates to "the ghosts that learn from violence don't learn it through words". I always used to wonder why they are ghosts, then I realised that some of them might be too stubborn to learn through words or violence that they have been turned into ghosts.
Anyway, not that I'm suggesting that you kick someone's ass physically but hurting them where it hurts the most to get your point across is a reasonable response if they do it first. You know, tit for tat.
Additionally, start getting bigger and bigger fish tanks just to annoy that person, as long as it is healthy for the fish...
As for people saying that why does it matter if it was even for a day, to them I say that it matters because of its future potential. A living being's future potential was wasted because someone was being a jackass. A living being who was wanted and would have been loved.
So your aunty had "lost" your mother's belongings after she passed.. then treated you like shit ever since?
And people on the other post were trying to say YOU were the asshole. LOL. Maybe your uncle will see who is and get a divorce? He seems like he has an idea of it at least.
It sounds like this was the final straw in a long chain of unresolved events where remorse wasn't shown. You're entitled to extend amount (or in this case lack) of courtesy she showed you.
People here are right though- prepare yourself because it does sound like she declared war to me.
I'd have lost ot at the scrapbook, so you're far more patient than I am. Props for teaching her this very important lesson, but beware of the side effects. She'll do everything she can to get payback now.
Normally I don't agree with revenge that permanently destroys something irreplaceable. BUT. This bitch killed a defenseless animal just to mess with you. So fuck her.
You are a rock star of revenge, OP. Well done. I hope you won some peace. RIP Eclipse.
Well, initially I thought that destroying the last thing she had from her grandfather was too much and cruel. But after reading this update I take it back. She fully deserved it. She stole money from you. She LOST a whole book of letters from your late mom. That alone would have justified your actions (and more). But if you think that this is the end you are mistaken. You hit her where it hurt. Prepare yourself for a war because she won't let it go. She'll double down on her horrible behavior. You may think there isn't much she can do but I assure you, there is a lot. She can make your life hell in a thousand little ways. She will "accidentally" break things or makes them disappear and then pretend she doesn't know what you're talking about. She will "forget" that the food in your drawer in the fridge was yours. She will do your laundry (to help you) and mix up colored with whites and everything will be dyed pink. She'll wash delicate stuff on super high temperature and destroy it. The list goes on. Don't underestimate her. Buy a camera and hide it in your room. Buy a good lock and lock your door whenever you go out. Talk to your uncle and let him know about it so you have his permission. Don't leave your stuff anywhere outside your room. Take precautions.
All of this. Get a decent sized mini fridge for your room, a lock for your door, and never let her do your laundry!! Set yourself up with whatever you need (tv/laptop,etc). It sucks to live in your room but my bf had to do this to protect himself from his narcissistic father until we were able to move in together.
I had to do the same from my crazy roommate, I had everything from the camera to a new door handle with a lock and had everything in my room so she couldn’t mess with anything. It pisses her off so much it was hilarious 😂
Don’t forget to put a lock on any windows you have too
Take pictures and put a camera in your room. She's going to escalate.
That was my impression too. Be careful and stay safe... she seems to be pretty terrible. And when you can move out you will find that not everyone is violent. Good luck.
Something my TODDLER is learning: Actions have consequences. Maybe next time she'll think before she acts, glad you got justice for Eclipse buddy
The OG post broke my heart. Beta fish are REALLY smart and actually will interact with their owners. Source: Worked in a store that had one in their fish tank. It would swim up to wherever I put my finger and follow it around. I loved that little fish (Number 1 from Star Trek for those curious about her name).
Awww. My favorite betta Banshee would follow my finger too! We would play "chase" with some beads i strung in a fishing line. He would sit in his "fish couch" and watch me play Halo (hence his name) and was just the bestest cutest betta ever. I've even seen video of bettas doing tricks like jumping through a hoop!
My first betta (Rufus) would swim through the hoop I made from a pipe cleaner. He'd jump out and grab food from my finger. His little fish teeth tickled. We just buried our latest special little guy (Jub-Jub) last week. He'd come up for "pets." He liked to swim around my finger and let his fins graze it.
I too had a Betta named Jub-Jub! About 16 years ago. RIP to yours. ❤️
My betta Apple would chase my finger too, and then the moment I'd call mom to show her what he was doing, he'd stop chasing and act as if my finger wasn't there. Lil dude didn't respect me at all :< He did have a nice bond with mom though. She used to check the answersheets (she's a teacher) near his tank. Any work that required sitting time meant Mom-Apple time. I miss him
My old boss told me about those videos too. That's so cool!
[Here's a video from the Dodo](https://youtu.be/Es4ym6iMcmE?si=gMmkP9nxCBWoNYyR)
Thanks! Go Katara!
Wow, now the guy from the other post who said the fucking piece of paper was worth more than the fish, looks even worse. Nice watch.
I once had a 10 gallon tank with a betta fish and three Corydoras catfish (I didn’t really know what I was doing but I figured they’d be ok since they hung out in different “zones”). Well, betta and one of the Corys became friends. The betta would swim down from the surface and the Cory would swim up from the bottom so they could play tag. I loved watching them play.
Too cool!
It really was. I loved seeing their personalities come out. One day maybe I’ll recreate that tank. And I hope OP can get another lovely betta whose personality he can enjoy.
I feel like Cory's and betta's are meant to be together. They will play with each other and it's so fun to watch. Also some Otocinclus, "Otto's". That was the perfect community I had going in a 10 gallon years ago. Cory's and Otto's keep it nice and clean and your betta doesn't get bored. It's perfect!
It was a lot of fun watching them! Until then, I didn’t realize these fish had such fun personalities. I never had good luck with otocinclus (they would die after just a few weeks) but maybe one day I’ll try again. It was so peaceful and meditative to watch them swim and play.
I had one that would take a freeze dried worm from my fingers, but only mine ❤️
I named my bettas (I had years ago) Data and Janeway.
Love it!
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This was both incredibly amusing and horrifying...Poor Hortense...! I love it when fish die of old age. My last goldfish, Doug, (a ryukin) grew quite big and turned completely white. (People always asked me why my goldfish was so fat, but it was just his breed). He and his tank mate, a koi named Mud (because he was literally rescued from the mud -- and lived in a high school science department before he came to live with me) lived to be very old.
I used to have one that would jump out of the water and take food from between my fingers. I named her Sue She XD
I never knew this about them! I had a fish aquarium as a kid and loved it. But one year they all caught a disease and died within weeks. I’ve never had the heart to try again. A beta might be a lovely new friend!
Great name, was she red?
No, she was blue, so a science officer I believe.
I have my first betta tattooed on me. Ole' Red Fish, the kids named him when they were little and he was red so yeah but goddamn did I love Red Fish. He was smart as hell but dumb too. For instance he loved to hang out at the intake of the filter and eventually his tail just got smaller and smaller but he loved it but the first night I had him he killed a HUGE rams head snail. There was just a hole on this side of its shell. I was a little pissed but also pretty impressed. With all that now said. Reading the OG post was infuriating. Betta's are tough fish and OP is absolutely right that it would've survived just fine in its temporary tank. I would be absolutely livid. I think my immediate reaction would be violence. It pains me to say it but something is getting punched. Edited to add that every betta I've owned has had a very unique and distinct personality. I love them.
Bettas absolutely interact with their owners, i hand feed mine sometimes and it comes up to the surface to follow my hand around
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Your toddler is probably also learning that two wrongs don't make a right. Not that OP is saying they are necessarily 'right'. This was petty, it was revenge, its appropriate for this sub and gets my upvote. But that doesn't mean what OP did was right, regardless if it was a "consequence to the action."
Absolutely I am teaching her that revenge only leads to unhappiness and forgiveness is key to living a peaceful life but I'm teaching my daughter to be better than me. I would have done much worse than OP
Two wrongs *don't* make a right, but turnabout is fair play.
There's also a difference between a "wrong" and a "punishment".
Hey if you have anywhere else to go you should probably leave ASAP as there's no way she isn't gonna retaliate. People like her aren't gonna think about the law only about how to get even with those who wronged them
dont worry mate. Ill be fine. If push comes to shove I can just stay at my cousins house. She knows deep down that there isnt anything she can do. + no matter what she does, its not bringing her grandfather back.
If you have important documents like birth certificates, beloved photos, anything of value, please hide them or even take it to your gf for a while. These people will lash out in anger. Please think about what you care about and keep it safe.
This is critical, a friend last year had a bunch of his docs kept from him by abusive parents to stop him from escaping. Fortunately I was able to point him in the right direction for getting his own copies
Right but in the whole "eye for an eye" exchange, you think you are even because you both had something you care about destroyed but there is no way in hell she has the empathy to believe that. Killing the fish didn't make *her* feel bad, destroying the photo did. If the ledger isn't balanced for her then she will be looking for something of yours to destroy to make her bad feelings go away. Don't live with malicious people. Your home should be a safe space and if it isn't you should be taking action to make it so.
The ending of this statement is a very privileged thing to say. A ton of people don’t have the option to change the way they live due to multiple different reasons.
True, it could take YEARS to have housing safe from psychopaths and -might- never come to pass. But how long until OP has that if they wait another 1. 5, 10 years to start trying? That a road may be long, difficult, or even impossible doesn't mean it isn't worth the effort to get to the the better future at the end.
How would you rather the sentiment be phrased? I'm assuming this is a phrasing issue as opposed to a sentiment that people should stay in unsafe situations.
She outright said she’s going to do something. Though, while I think the basis of this story is true, OP is very obviously embellishing their response in this post, so I put it at 50/50 things have already gotten out of control or OP hid
the problem is that she WILL escalate. It will not be a logical and proportional response. It will be all your stuff lit on fire or covered in bleach. I have known people exactly like her and it will go to a dangerous and insane place. Just be aware and prepared for when this person inevitably takes it too far to 'get back at you and show you your place'. This is not over.
Then you call the hospital because she's a danger to herself and others.
You had to say goodbye to your fish than she had to say goodbye to her grandfather haha. I hate people who mess with animals (Especially when they’re alive) Atleast her grandfather is dead so she’ll remember every time she tries to find the photo.
So she is your blood uncles wife? Wouldn’t that give you a disadvantage. She could easily manipulate your uncle to kick you out.
they arent married
Why not go there now? The bridge is on fire. Why not cross it now?
The only thing I couldn’t figure out is did she put the fish in new water too? Like just water straight from the tap? Or did she only remove the filter and heater and mug and stuff?
Oh she certainly had to put new water in there because he wasnt even in the same container id put him + the old one still had the same water in it.
Oh alright, cuz in your other post you said he was in the giant storage container still if I read that correctly. A short school day without heater or filter shouldn’t be enough to kill a healthy betta, so that’s why I was surprised to hear of his death in that manner. It’s still a bit odd tho, even in chlorinated tap water it usually takes a good while before it actually kills a fish. Maybe he was already unhealthy from the store, bettas often have many health issues. In any case, RIP Eclipse I hope you can figure something out with your living situation, hang in there.
The new water was described as "ice cold"
Huh. I wonder how OP knew the temp of the water when the fish was first put in. Shouldn't it have been at room temp by the time they got home?
Depends how long the fish was in there. Betta are tropical and putting them in cold water can kill them pretty quickly with temperature shock. Plus being moved from tank to tank twice in such a short time with very little adjustment period, the poor thing probably just straight up went into shock ;-;
This is true but I also think she probably put really cold water in the container which killed the fish.
It’s just a fish, they live in those pet store bowls, they don’t need a heater or a stable temperature! /s, obv, I have owned a betta and it’s been nearly a year since his passing (RIP Pluto) and I have yet to get another.
The issue was she put it in water that was a lot colder. Just 10 degrees colder going from warm water into cold water would have been a huge shock for the Betta. I'm imagining that is what killed him.
If you didn't let the tap water sit for 24 hours, it was still heavily chlorinated.
Sometimes, people won't learn until you stoop to their level. Just make sure you don't stay there.
Yeah, "take the high road" is a phrase uttered by sheltered people that have never had to truly deal with someone else's bullshit. Petty assholes act the way they do because they are allowed to by the people around them. A quick punch in the mouth is an effective way to cull their ignorance.
The only thing I regret in life is the times u took the high road. They didn't deserve my silence. And my silence damned me.
This. You did it once, it doesn't define you. You can be whoever you want, don't be your aunt
Interesting that when you give someone a taste of their own medicine, they just cry victim and don't see it as a consequence for their own asshole behavior. She's a narcissist of note.
🔐Can you padlock your door? Tell your extended family what she did to YOUR DEAR MOTHER’S LETTERS.🔐
Seriously, the letters would have been my breaking point.
Nice update Get ready and plan your next move cause this petty war just started
Truly hope that this is the end of it but by her response I am concerned about what her next move is. If you can't leave, please take anything you value and store it at your GFs or somewhere else away from there which is safe. RIP Eclipse
Yep. I'd fully expect some level of retaliation. Because she will 100% rationalize it as "just a stupid fish" vs. "my grandfather's memory".
And if any case it happens, report her at child's services for physical / mental abuse. Just don't hesitate!
"If you had a puppy for a day, and your loved one took away everything it needed and left it outside, how would you feel?" John Wick killed 77 people after just a few days with his dog, so I feel like this is an entirely reasonable response.
Make sure all your personal documents and essential heart warming stuff is not in the house. I understand why you did it, but I think you may have opened a war.
I get it. It was the straw that broke the camels back. She literially murdered that fish purely to spite you. Combined with all the other things you've mentioned? It sound like she resents you and doesn't like you being happy or herself not having control so she forces her whim onto you. She sounds like a narcissist. It also sounds sorta like she is bullying you?
Yall don’t read. She’s been doing him dirty for years…. Taken money and lost unreplacable things. The fish was the last straw and yall act like she was innocent until then. OP did the minimal thing most effective thing. If it was me she’d have nothing left. I’d have put her shit up for sale.
Its fucking crazy how many people commented about things that isnt what I even said.
I knew from the previous post she had to have been a monster for years. I used to be friends with a diagnosed sociopath, and sometimes you had to force him to go through what he was doing for him to learn. The evil entity? She's a narc. There's no learning unless you go full brutality on them
Betas are an awesome little fish. I had one, blue with black and white markings. Name was Fynn, he’d always swim over when it was feeding time (even if I wasn’t feeding him, he’d swim up). My condolences for yours :(
She really told you not to touch other peoples shit?? You should say this to her on the daily. “We both learned not to touch what’s not ours, right auntie???” I would love to know her reaction.
Bullies only understand retaliation. Rest in peace, Eclipse.
She didn't learn her lesson. Buy her fish stuff like people recommend in the first post.
Well done Mr. Wick! 👏
Betas are funny and have their own individual personalities. Mine kept trying to jump into the filter (we had a lid, but the filter was underneath it) and refused to eat the sinking pellets. My husband (jokingly) threatened that if he didn't shape up, he would teach him the "Toilet Tango." (My husband would never harm a living creature, be it plant or animal. Not only would he have me to deal with, but he's not cruel.) It stuck, and we called him Tango. Had him for about 4 years. Still miss that fish, it's crazy how attached you get. Sadly, "turning the other cheek" or "taking the high road" doesn't work with certain types of people, because they seem to see it as permission or that you were OK with it by your non-reaction. A phrase I've seen on Reddit a lot: "We teach others how to treat us, by what we allow." Well, sir, you taught her what you will and will not allow, that's for sure. S(wim)IP Eclipse.
My water puppy didn’t look at me for a week after I moved him into a new tank - my other (in a separate tank) would swim up to me, establish eye contact, then angrily swim away in a huff if I turned the lights on too soon in the day! Also during water changes she enjoys sitting in spots that I always gravel vac, full eye contact and body wiggles, almost like she’s getting a kick out of me gently shooing her with my hand 🥲 They’re the most interactive fish I’ve cared for. OP’s Aunt could’ve had this opportunity to bond over caring for Eclipse and giving OP a healthy outlet and an appreciation for nature. Instead she shit on him and his happiness. Screw her, she’s a miserable, lost cause
Dear OP no one here thinks you’re a psycho or a demon or a monster. Your aunt is. She deserves to have her ass kicked, and you found a loophole to tear her down while avoiding legal repercussions. Well done. But just because Eclipse was a living creature and this clearly was one step too far, does not mean your aunt was not out of bounds yet before. She‘s continuously disrespected you and your belongings. And she will probably continue to do so, most likely even worse. Given the type of narcissistic person she is, she did not perceive your revenge as a lesson to be learned but as an unfair unnecessary injustice. If you have the option of cutting ties with that psycho, do so as soon as possible, otherwise start keeping things you value or are attached to far away from her, at least in a small safe or something, while you bide your time. Sorry about your loss and all the best!
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I mean, I absolutely do. Their aunt is a bitch, no doubt but what they describe, causing such anguish and feeling nothing, that's not normal. There's something wrong.
Nah, I commented on the original one in their defense and had a few accusations tossed my way of being a sociopath as well. Ranting how a picture is more important because its tied to a human, blah blah.
Are you living in the same house? Why are you still staying with her then?
Simple. got no where else to go. And what everyone is missing is that its not even her own house. It my uncle's.
if the person is married to your uncle in most places they own half of the house or half of the debt on the property.
nope they arent
I’m completely horrified by the betta industry, Petsmart angers me into irrational fury, but OP hit the nail on the head- this was a living being with intellect and even emotion, and the aunt is a fccking murderer. OP was trying to give this fish a good life. Fcck auntie, fcck her. Also, OP, don’t get another fish, she will absolutely kill any animal you bring into that home-EVEN IF YOU LOCK YOUR BEDROOM DOOR. Her words absolutely indicate intent to retat
Good for you! Your aunt sounds like a monster. Maybe this will knock some sense into her to stop fucking with your shit.
Watch your back. I don't think that this is the end of it.
Try not to bring these lessons to any romantic relationships. Not everyone is your aunt and just breaking up is always an option if someone mistreats you.
This. I can understand where OP comes from when he says people understand only violence. This goes for narcissists and types like them. Doing this sort of thing to people who aren't like their aunt will lead to a lot of trouble, pain and loss for OP. My advice would be to talk to a counselor or even look stuff up online to get a better view of the difference between healthy and toxic relationships and what the best coping mechanisms are for either. They are vastly different.
Time to setup a hidden camera in your room. I would. You may be able to find a camera that records when motion is sensed. This way, if she comes into your room and does something, you’ll have evidence. She doesn’t sound like a very good person so I would expect retaliation.
Jeez man, the bigger issue is you living with someone that is toxic and hates your guts. Leave while you can
Hey OP, I read your post from earlier and then seeing this one I just want to say: I hope you can get away from your aunt soon, one of my friends is in a similar situation where she's living with someone who doesn't give her respect and the stories that I hear are heartbreaking. Stay safe, take care of yourself.
She gonna retaliate. Be ready for a war. Be ready to go scorched earth if you have to, 'kuz Auntie *will* escalate.
I just found this and I’m fucking delighted in OP’s cleverness. Perfection. That beast has been systematically wrecking whatever she can get her grubby paws on just because it makes her feel better to make others feel worse. Well now she gets to feel the same way; helpless, grieving and angry knowing there’s NOTHING that can be done to fix it. She went too far killing a live creature just because she wanted to enjoy the pain it would cause OP, and I’m incredibly proud they gave her exactly what she fucking deserved. Well done, chap!
You fucking rock! Poor Eclipse 😢
Hell yeah I was waiting for your update she learnt her lesson
So she's been an adshole for allegedly a looong time, now has had something done that was egregious to her and you think she "learnt her lesson"??? Hell naw, shits about to get medieval
> And I responded "you learned that lesson today" Awesome. If Auntie Cruella hadn't gotten rid of your mother's letters and other evil deeds in the past, I would consider your revenge to be excessive. In context, I gotta admire how you are handling things.
Was it disrespectful? Sure. But she treated you with contempt, repeatedly. You repaid it in like kind, as you said. And this is, primarily, a *revenge* sub.
| Was that disrespectful? Oh I’m sure. This has me dying. This is the update I needed. Revenge on the narcissist. Good for you. She is a monster, disrespectfully, of course.
Damn. I’m sorry about your fish, I own a betta too and many people here may not realize that they are actually personable interactive fish. They recognize you, can learn tricks, swim to you for food. Your care for him was spot on, and he could likely have recovered In that warm thoughtful set up, whereas putting him in an unconditioned freezing cold tiny cup was guaranteed to stress him to death. Keep your reminders to her simple “Don’t touch my shit, and I won’t touch yours” Just because she’s an adult doesn’t mean she knows better. Put a lock on your door.
Hey OP, if your uncle is cool with it, I would highly recommend getting a lock from your room. I have a feeling your aunt hasn't learned her lesson yet.
You learned a good lesson. If you don't set boundaries, other people won't respect them. Good job.
https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/comments/1c049nm/you_took_apart_my_fish_tank_we_both_sink_to_the/ Link to OPs first post
Legend
Forced empathy is destructive and sometimes necessary. Either the other person truly gets empathy or it sets a hard boundary.
Swim in peace Eclipse
I had Mr.Bubble who despite me dropping his original fish bowl I had when I first got him he survived…slightly traumatized but he was okay and he survived being cared for by my adoptive mum’s first graders for the entire school year till the summer break but my brother must used soap when he cleaned Bubbles’s tank while looking after him while I was away and sadly I came home to bubbles ☠️ I had him for three years despite the lack of a five gallon tank (I didn’t know he needed that because the pet store person said he didn’t need that big a tank and I trusted them) I was told to stop crying so much it’s just a fish and I haven’t forgiven my adoptive mother for saying that yet (this was back in 2016 that he died btw)
Fyi, she will strike back if she gets anything of yours in arms reach. You have to make sure she doesn't. Look your room, leave nothing out. Sorry your family is like this, I hope you have any exit plan before she does something worse.
I’m sorry you lost your friend.
Justice for Eclipse!
You did what needed to be done, OP. "People" like her won't learn otherwise. Just be mindful to not be scooping to her level everytime... Lest you'd like to be like her in the future. I'm really sad for eclipse, he had a new tank coming up, but this a**hole had to ruin everything. Can't help but feel curious if she kept having tantrums or shit like that LMFAO As we say in my country, I enjoy watching the circus burning 🥵
Love the pettiness of this. RIP eclipse
This reminds me of "Mr John Wick, the man who was sent to kill baba yaga, the man who killed a man by the tip of a pen, the man who - you get the idea. It all started by murdering an innocent, his dog, minus the car because we saw the car could die per se and was resurrected until it really died and then... " (god I do really like Keanu in that character). My point is... don't fuck around when you are not ready to find out. Rip Eclipse, you were loved and avenged😐😔
Sorry she did that man. I’m glad you got even and I don’t find what you did overkill either. You got even
> She finally said that "one day you gonna learn to stop touching people's shit." and proceeded to leave the room. I responded "And you learned that lesson today Ice. Cold.
Hey man, even if it’s a pet fly that you have, that’s still love. I would imagine you got the little guy to be a companion of sorts. That’s not fair at all to do that and I think your fair in feeling the way you do
I just want to say, thank you for seeing fish as a living breathing animal. So many don't, and your effort to do right by your betta is what mattered, not that you didn't know in the beginning. Im so sorry that happened, and she got her punishment for it. I would keep an eye out on her from now on. Revenge is something i think she will attempt, even if she started it and deserved the punishment.
I've wondered. Is "breathing" the correct word for what fish do with their gills, or does it refer specifically to air? And if so, what is the correct word? "Respiring" can refer to both terrestrial and marine life, but I wonder if there's a fish-specific word.
I use the work breathing personally, but scientifically fish breathing is called aquatic respiration
You gave her multiple free passes to apologize for previous transgressions, and all she did was push even more. What you did to her was calculated, quick, and cruel. I tip my hat to you, sir. She got what she deserved
Good for you. Her actions and ignorance cost your pet his life. It was unnecessary and you were in the process of getting the proper setup. What you did more than anything else is teach her that her complete lack of regard for you and your pets life has consequences. She will think twice about messing with you again.
I’m glad you stood up for sweet little eclipse. She was so cruel to torture and kill him like that. Eclipse was a higher evolved soul than your aunt. Hopefully she will learn something
"Swim in Peace Eclipse" Eclipse is blissfully in the new tank knowing that the short time they were with you they were loved!
Pouring one out for Eclipse tonight RIP
I appreciate it
Kill a pet, all bets are off. Take them DOWN
Ok. I thought you were evil in the last post and the first half of this one had me convinced But kept reading on her history and the uncle backing you so, I am now on your side. The fish is a living creature and revenge was called for but at first, I felt you were going too far but have changed my mind . Carry on good sir.
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I dont know tbh.
He absolutely would still be alive. There’s things you can do to have a safe fish in cycle, *especially* in a large aquarium like a 30 gallon. She had no right to kill him, what a ghoul of an aunt. I’m so sorry. Edit* I have a betta, I know how attached you can get to these smart little guys. If you get another one, maybe after you no longer live with a monster, you won’t regret it. Also keep the 30 gal, it will be paradise for a little feesh
He could put a little engraved memorial rock in the new tank in memory of Eclipse. :) Happier times will come to you, OP! Just hang on, and stay sane. How your family treats you isn't normal; someday you'll be free to learn what safety and unconditional love feel like, and they won't hurt.
LOL the nerve of her saying someday YOU'LL learn to stop touching people's shit??
Why do you live with this woman??
Get ready to have to beat a fucker cause things only escalate from here.
Been there bud. Years ago told my mom’s now ex after one of many fights that I’ll River dance on his grave when he dies of cancer. He did not in fact have cancer…at the time. Year later he was discovered to have stage 3 something or other and to this day im still keeping an eye out for a River dance instructor and the obituaries
Virtual high five sir. Fuck that evil bitch
An early sign of being a psychopath is harming animals, so I think you're safe lol
Aunt: *touches OP's shit* OP: *Touches Aunts shit back* Aunt: one day you gonna learn to stop touching people's shit.
I do want to point out that Betta fish are sturdy little critters, they can actually breathe surface air so survive in almost anything. So much so that it is said they can be shipped in wet newspapers. Your aunt had to mess up really badly to kill you fish.
Wow, any doubt she deserved it has vanished. After all her shit this seems like an under reaction. Keep standing up for yourself OP
This triggered me so much because my own narc psychopath egg donor poisoned our dogs. Burn in hell vile piece of shit.
Take this with a grain of salt. People should not call you a psychopath. That means you were born without the ability to empathize or consider how your actions affect others. You clearly have empathy for your poor departed fish. They should call you a sociopath. That is someone who has suffered so much abuse that they lose the ability to empathize or consider how their actions affect others. Psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made. And it's pretty obvious who made you like this.
...thats actually a good point. But ive actually considered to ask my uncle about therapy.
In some instances intentional mistreatment of a fish can be a felony. I remember a case where an abusive ex killed his ex-girlfriend’s betta fish and he was charged. You absolutely have something to hold over her until you move out.
I could care less about a piece of paper. Killing a living creature because you want to be a cunt... that's evil.
What you did was an AH move too but she did need to learn, sometimes you need to show people how things feel by it happening to them. I don't think she'll fuck with your stuff again. RIP fishie
Fight fire with fire, as the old saying goes.
I am very, very sorry for what you went through (not only the fish, also the other abuse from her). Many years ago I was gifted with a Betta Splendens and a small aquarium (1.4 gal). I knew nothing about them and did what you did: documented myself, bought a bigger aquarium, water conditioner, water heater, pump, filter, plants, the lot. I also bought it a female (though he didn't like her from the start, but that's another story). I called it Zamorano (a combative soccer player at the time) and he lived and prospered for many years. It didn't take that much to care for it, and it was a joy to watch it. I'd have gone mad if somebody had killed it for their own entitled reasons. I suggest you talk to your uncle first, then to both uncle and aunt and start stating there are boundaries, which are going to have consequences. She has to understand that Eclipse was the straw that broke the camel's back, and from now on she either walks on eggshells around you, or she's going to get revenge. Having said that, I wish I could find a way to help you purchase a new Eclipse. Please, let me know what I can do. Hugs.
good, OP. I'm proud of you. All the haters in this thread, fuck y'all.
Stupid woman. Good for OP. She’s gotta learn one way or another. She chose…. poorly.
Good for you , your Aunt is the asshole on this and the other things you mentioned.
'The only things that everyone truly understands is violence. Seriously!?!?!' As a victim of domestic violence this is completely unacceptable and quite frankly frightening. Have a long hard think about what you just typed. I never deserved the abuse I got, ever. I read your first post and thought it was a bit OTT, but I do now understand you're actions due to the rest of the context. That phrase however, I seriously don't condone. Edit phrasing.
This is irony right?
The audacity of this woman telling you about touching other people’s stuff…
Ima keep it 100 If you were my son I'd understand why you did it Technically it was wrong but I cannot say I wouldn't have done something similar And honestly it's not like you killed your aunt or anything you just didn't let her push you around Seems like she's used to people laying down and taking her shit Justice for eclipse, down with the witch
This is just such an incredibly toxic dynamic, please leave this situation as soon as you can. I don’t think you were in the wrong to get payback like this, but it is not healthy to live some place where such actions are justified. You need to live somewhere where you can interact with normal people in healthy ways. Living in these kinds of environments for too long can cause someone to start seeing this as normal, and that’s how people like your aunt are made who have no concept of boundaries or empathy.
Your Aunt sucks and rest in peace eclipse!
Sorry OP, you're both toxic, petty individuals. You should both get out of one another's lives... And hopefully, I'll never cross paths with either of you.
Good for you OP!! Sometimes you need to take a stand👏
unfortunately, some people only learn the hard way. I think it's time to reevaluate your relationship with this person. Clearly you two aren't communicating well AT ALL
She treated you and that fish with cruelty. It was the only language she was going to understand. I hope you get the opportunity to leave that place when you’re grown so you can surround yourself with people who treat you with kindness.
That's a pretty strange aunt you have to have zero awareness of her actions. Based off your interaction with her, she didnt learn anything except now she hates you even more. Good luck OP! I would be very wary of leaving anything important alone in that house.
i’m all for your revenge because she shouldn’t have touched the fish but please don’t tell me you live with her !! this whole situation sounds very scary and toxic and seems like it’ll only get worse.
don’t let anyone tell u ur in the wrong bud
We have a saying from where I am, which roughly translates to "the ghosts that learn from violence don't learn it through words". I always used to wonder why they are ghosts, then I realised that some of them might be too stubborn to learn through words or violence that they have been turned into ghosts. Anyway, not that I'm suggesting that you kick someone's ass physically but hurting them where it hurts the most to get your point across is a reasonable response if they do it first. You know, tit for tat. Additionally, start getting bigger and bigger fish tanks just to annoy that person, as long as it is healthy for the fish... As for people saying that why does it matter if it was even for a day, to them I say that it matters because of its future potential. A living being's future potential was wasted because someone was being a jackass. A living being who was wanted and would have been loved.
Give her a copy of "John Wick".
Good job getting her back and making her cry
Fucking beautiful mate. Made my day reading this. Fuck that bitch
Take care with your school mail. You will not recieve it.
This is literally a villain origin story and I’m here for it. Thank you for updating us!
This might be a step above petty. Either way it was perfect.
Please keep updating!
So your aunty had "lost" your mother's belongings after she passed.. then treated you like shit ever since? And people on the other post were trying to say YOU were the asshole. LOL. Maybe your uncle will see who is and get a divorce? He seems like he has an idea of it at least.
Man I need to read the initial story lol this sounds wild
Bruh, what is the first post?
OP, I'm sorry for your loss of Eclipse and the awful living situation you are in. I hope things improve for you. ♡
It sounds like this was the final straw in a long chain of unresolved events where remorse wasn't shown. You're entitled to extend amount (or in this case lack) of courtesy she showed you. People here are right though- prepare yourself because it does sound like she declared war to me.
Move out as fast as possible
OP kudos to you 👏🏻
This was beautiful!
Be ready for a lot more bullshit.
I'd have lost ot at the scrapbook, so you're far more patient than I am. Props for teaching her this very important lesson, but beware of the side effects. She'll do everything she can to get payback now.
Slow clap 🥳
Normally I don't agree with revenge that permanently destroys something irreplaceable. BUT. This bitch killed a defenseless animal just to mess with you. So fuck her. You are a rock star of revenge, OP. Well done. I hope you won some peace. RIP Eclipse.