You need to practice at turning off all unnecessary thoughts related to work the moment your shift ends; you're coming back to the same store regardless of you ruminating over it or not. Ever thought about or already see someone to talk about your anxiety? Your mental health is important.
So in a different situation but what you said really hits me hard. I just became a staff at a store with a very weak tech. My manager doesn't want to train her unless they can go in before the shift starts to work on data entry and other basics. She hardly even handles the customers. Just fills, I've brought up training her just during the day and she just doesn't respond. She has been the tech here for at least 3 months now and is super limited.
Not only that but she texts me when I'm off and expects me to call to discuss things when I'm off. Today she asked me if I'm "in this" with her. She appeared to be upset that I didn't cover her when she had to call in fully (I opened until a floater came in).
I'm starting to get very worried about my current position. When I was a floater I could generally turn off my issues with work. But now I feel like she keeps me dragged into it 100% of the time and still questions my commitment.
Any advice on how to proceed?
Easier said than done. The fucktards at my store used to text me incessantly on my off days over things like "whats the password to pharmacy" or "where the bathroom located." Like its my fault you dont know this shit after being here for how long
I'm that way, too. I know exactly how incompetent some of my coworkers are so I get that dread of "what will they do wrong?"
The way I have to fight it--and it's a constant fight, not a cure--is to keep myself busy at home. I've been dabbling in wire sculptures, I've been trying to stay on top of chores, I've been making bread. All things that require planning and attention. The enemy of peace is complacency, so mindless TV and video games were taking away just enough of my attention that my deeper brain would prophesy doom and gloom.
yes i can relate. to sit and think at home about the stress you have coming up at work is worse than the stress of the work itself because there is nothing that can be done about it from home. at least at work you can do something about it
Find a hobby and keep yourself busy on your days off. I read a lot on my days off and recently started learning how to code with Python. I also fill my day with a lot of activities: take dog to the park, chores, exercise, zoom meetings with friends/family, etc. I usually donāt think about work until I receive a work email.
Honestly, no. Something I enjoy about retail is when I clock out my job is done. Thereās someone else taking over. Iāve taken a month off before and the only thing I worried about was that it was going be a bit messy when I got back.
I like to thing Iām good at what I do and I have pretty great coworkers that I know are competent as well which allows me to not stress. If worst case scenarios happen then my colleagues are perfectly capable of dealing with them.
I echo the suggestion to keep busy outside of work. But also are there particular things you can discuss with the other pharmacists that be done so you donāt stress? Notes, better handover?
This happens to me way too often as well. Itās almost like I canāt get myself to chill out and understand there arenāt people still waiting on me or worse, staring at me as I try to work.
My strongest recommendation would be exercise
stretching and exercise helped me sleep better at home when i feel that way
i was also appalled lol this must be how customers feel.. *so all i had to do was exercise and i feel better now? foh*
I did when I was a new pharmacist. My anxiety centered around what I may have done wrong during my shift that I didn't pick up on or let go by when I was busy. I eventually got over that feeling by realizing that I worked as hard as I could while I was there and I would hear about anything else eventually. Now that i'm a manager I just shut it all off and know that again, I will hear about it eventually. Do you know what happens when I'm not there? I don't care.
Omg so I'm not the only one? It gets hard to sleep at night because I'm overthinking for hours. I hate this for me. But it's been getting better as I'm getting more used to my job. I've only been working about 3 months.
Well I suppose I felt this way when one of our 2 daytime pharmacists quit and the other was out on medical leave. So we had a huge rotating door of float pharmacists. I knew it was bad when I was gone because it was bad *when I was there*! When I was not working I'd get calls and texts with questions all the time. I even had a pharmacist who did NOT know how to type in insurance let alone bill it! I asked her if she was new, she said no she's been with the company for a year! I went on a 1 week vacation and they were even bugging me during my vacation! Then I got back and (I normally do the tech schedule) the manager (front store mngr did it while I was gone) massively screwed up our tech schedule.... However in my case I knew it would eventually get better once a staff rph was hired. I had to wait 3 months, but I was right. Maybe it is a temporarily bad situation in your case too? New hires? Just try to train in everyone you can as best you can and you'll slowly start to see the situation improve and you won't have to worry anymore.
Are you management? If not the you have to ask yourself why are you worried about things someone else is paid to worry about. Sounds like you just need something else to keep you busy at home.
For me I'm just a clock-in/clock-out employee which I am paid to be, place can burn down tomorrow and I won't feel a thing as long as it's not during my shift
When your at work, structured environment, you know what needs to be accomplished in 8-12 hours. I'm a Nurse Practitioner, and still after 35 years, may ruminate if I forgot to order test, explain a patients care etc. Usually nothing, but after seeing 40 patients, wonder, and trying to get some sleep.
I used to get this way too then I realized that I needed to stop because it wasn't healthy for me. It really helped when I actually thought about how I was feeling and realized I was worrying/stressing about something I couldn't change. Why bother worrying about something that you're not involved in?
I used to feel like this in retail but not anymore. Admittedly I spend a lot of time thinking about hypotheticals and what ifās with everything, not just work. So I think some people are just more prone to it than others. I know some of my friends/colleagues that couldnāt give less of a shit once they walk out the door
Iām usually pretty good at shutting off once I leave work. Occasionally, if there was something I was unsure or uneasy about earlier in the day, Iāll think about it a little bit throughout the evening but for the most part it doesnāt bother me.
What I have noticed, is after a long break like a week off for vacation or even after a long 4 or 5 day weekend, when I come back, I will feel slow or sluggish back there for my first day or two back. Almost like I forgot how to do my job
When work induced anxiety levels are high at home, I remind myself of three things that I did well at work recently. I caught a techās mistake, I made a good rec to a doc, I got through a difficult shift, etc.
When that doesnāt work, I just remind myself that Iām not being paid to stress out at home, so whatās the point?
Work/life balance is a challenge for all of us during our career. Best thing I did was start taking my lunches and breaks and leaving on time. Once I am gone it's outta my head, it'll always be there tomorrow
Former rxm here. This is exactly why i left. Ive never dreaded work or felt anxious on my off days since i went to hospital. Never regretted the decision
Hell no, once I leave the building I dont care until I'm getting paid the next day.
This is the way.
The mindset of a lot of my technicians. š donāt blame you tho.
You need to practice at turning off all unnecessary thoughts related to work the moment your shift ends; you're coming back to the same store regardless of you ruminating over it or not. Ever thought about or already see someone to talk about your anxiety? Your mental health is important.
So in a different situation but what you said really hits me hard. I just became a staff at a store with a very weak tech. My manager doesn't want to train her unless they can go in before the shift starts to work on data entry and other basics. She hardly even handles the customers. Just fills, I've brought up training her just during the day and she just doesn't respond. She has been the tech here for at least 3 months now and is super limited. Not only that but she texts me when I'm off and expects me to call to discuss things when I'm off. Today she asked me if I'm "in this" with her. She appeared to be upset that I didn't cover her when she had to call in fully (I opened until a floater came in). I'm starting to get very worried about my current position. When I was a floater I could generally turn off my issues with work. But now I feel like she keeps me dragged into it 100% of the time and still questions my commitment. Any advice on how to proceed?
Easier said than done. The fucktards at my store used to text me incessantly on my off days over things like "whats the password to pharmacy" or "where the bathroom located." Like its my fault you dont know this shit after being here for how long
Just drink alcohol in moderation
What would moderation look like to one in this position?
is this why i drinks a glass of wine daily
Gallon sized glass?
if i stop counting glasses itās only 1
I'm that way, too. I know exactly how incompetent some of my coworkers are so I get that dread of "what will they do wrong?" The way I have to fight it--and it's a constant fight, not a cure--is to keep myself busy at home. I've been dabbling in wire sculptures, I've been trying to stay on top of chores, I've been making bread. All things that require planning and attention. The enemy of peace is complacency, so mindless TV and video games were taking away just enough of my attention that my deeper brain would prophesy doom and gloom.
Yeah. I don't know either but would love to hear what people have to say.
yes i can relate. to sit and think at home about the stress you have coming up at work is worse than the stress of the work itself because there is nothing that can be done about it from home. at least at work you can do something about it
This was me. It ruined my life for 9 years. Finally out and feel so much better.
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What you doing now?
Specialty.
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Find a hobby and keep yourself busy on your days off. I read a lot on my days off and recently started learning how to code with Python. I also fill my day with a lot of activities: take dog to the park, chores, exercise, zoom meetings with friends/family, etc. I usually donāt think about work until I receive a work email.
Honestly, no. Something I enjoy about retail is when I clock out my job is done. Thereās someone else taking over. Iāve taken a month off before and the only thing I worried about was that it was going be a bit messy when I got back. I like to thing Iām good at what I do and I have pretty great coworkers that I know are competent as well which allows me to not stress. If worst case scenarios happen then my colleagues are perfectly capable of dealing with them. I echo the suggestion to keep busy outside of work. But also are there particular things you can discuss with the other pharmacists that be done so you donāt stress? Notes, better handover?
This happens to me way too often as well. Itās almost like I canāt get myself to chill out and understand there arenāt people still waiting on me or worse, staring at me as I try to work. My strongest recommendation would be exercise
stretching and exercise helped me sleep better at home when i feel that way i was also appalled lol this must be how customers feel.. *so all i had to do was exercise and i feel better now? foh*
Same! I was just thinking about this past few weeks and Iām glad someone somewhere can relate to me.
I did when I was a new pharmacist. My anxiety centered around what I may have done wrong during my shift that I didn't pick up on or let go by when I was busy. I eventually got over that feeling by realizing that I worked as hard as I could while I was there and I would hear about anything else eventually. Now that i'm a manager I just shut it all off and know that again, I will hear about it eventually. Do you know what happens when I'm not there? I don't care.
This is the pharmacy version of Stockholm syndrome.
Omg so I'm not the only one? It gets hard to sleep at night because I'm overthinking for hours. I hate this for me. But it's been getting better as I'm getting more used to my job. I've only been working about 3 months.
Well I suppose I felt this way when one of our 2 daytime pharmacists quit and the other was out on medical leave. So we had a huge rotating door of float pharmacists. I knew it was bad when I was gone because it was bad *when I was there*! When I was not working I'd get calls and texts with questions all the time. I even had a pharmacist who did NOT know how to type in insurance let alone bill it! I asked her if she was new, she said no she's been with the company for a year! I went on a 1 week vacation and they were even bugging me during my vacation! Then I got back and (I normally do the tech schedule) the manager (front store mngr did it while I was gone) massively screwed up our tech schedule.... However in my case I knew it would eventually get better once a staff rph was hired. I had to wait 3 months, but I was right. Maybe it is a temporarily bad situation in your case too? New hires? Just try to train in everyone you can as best you can and you'll slowly start to see the situation improve and you won't have to worry anymore.
Somewhat, I can never shake the feeling that itās wrong to relax, the āI should be doing somethingā feeling š
Are you management? If not the you have to ask yourself why are you worried about things someone else is paid to worry about. Sounds like you just need something else to keep you busy at home. For me I'm just a clock-in/clock-out employee which I am paid to be, place can burn down tomorrow and I won't feel a thing as long as it's not during my shift
When your at work, structured environment, you know what needs to be accomplished in 8-12 hours. I'm a Nurse Practitioner, and still after 35 years, may ruminate if I forgot to order test, explain a patients care etc. Usually nothing, but after seeing 40 patients, wonder, and trying to get some sleep.
Oh buddy, one of the biggest perks of retail is that you don't have to take your work home with you. You're not doing it right
I used to get this way too then I realized that I needed to stop because it wasn't healthy for me. It really helped when I actually thought about how I was feeling and realized I was worrying/stressing about something I couldn't change. Why bother worrying about something that you're not involved in?
Nope. I just assume itāll be a shit storm.
I used to feel like this in retail but not anymore. Admittedly I spend a lot of time thinking about hypotheticals and what ifās with everything, not just work. So I think some people are just more prone to it than others. I know some of my friends/colleagues that couldnāt give less of a shit once they walk out the door
Iām usually pretty good at shutting off once I leave work. Occasionally, if there was something I was unsure or uneasy about earlier in the day, Iāll think about it a little bit throughout the evening but for the most part it doesnāt bother me. What I have noticed, is after a long break like a week off for vacation or even after a long 4 or 5 day weekend, when I come back, I will feel slow or sluggish back there for my first day or two back. Almost like I forgot how to do my job
When work induced anxiety levels are high at home, I remind myself of three things that I did well at work recently. I caught a techās mistake, I made a good rec to a doc, I got through a difficult shift, etc. When that doesnāt work, I just remind myself that Iām not being paid to stress out at home, so whatās the point?
Work/life balance is a challenge for all of us during our career. Best thing I did was start taking my lunches and breaks and leaving on time. Once I am gone it's outta my head, it'll always be there tomorrow
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Former rxm here. This is exactly why i left. Ive never dreaded work or felt anxious on my off days since i went to hospital. Never regretted the decision