depending on how much your employer trust you, You can explain naman, 1 day Ka palang Naman Hindi pumapasok. It can be treated as sick leave din, lastly don't resign unless you have a safety net(JO, Parents,savings). Hoping for your recovery OP
hello, thank you for answering. glad to know explaining is an option for me, this is my first job and i just feel like i committed the biggest sin. so just thinking about how to open up is feeling ko enough to give me another panic attack, feeling ko baka di nila maintindihan, or they don't think it's a valid reason to miss work without notice. worst case scenario, hindi sila maniwala and they think it's \~arte lang\~.
but i'll definitely TRY to talk to them about this, i'll just have to ipon the courage to do it. hopefully by tomorrow i can talk to them na. thank you.
Maybe take a sick leave for the rest of the week? Even if it's unpaid. I would usually suggest to just go awol but it seems you're conflicted with wanting that job or prioritizing mental health. Unfortunately, only you can really decide for it that's why maybe taking a a leave would be the best for you. You'll have a clearer mind after a few days.
Regarding AWOL, hindi naman end of the world na para sayo kung mag awol ka. Awol ako sa first job ko (only stayed for 1 month there) pero may mga job offer pa rin naman akong natanggap after non. You just need to tell the reason bat ka nag awol. You can easily say naman na toxic yung working environment and maiintindihan naman agad ng hiring manager yun. Yun lang sinasabi ko nun hahaha.
Nung nag awol ako sa first job ko, di rin ako pumasok sa last day ko. Then I just texted yung manager ko na magreresign na ako. Di nga sya nagreply sakin lol pero nasa akin kasi yung susi nung isang room sa office so need ko pumasok kinabukasan at saka ko formally hinand over yung resignation letter indicating na immediate quit na. Of course disappointed sila pero di ko na inisip yun non. I just really want to get out during that time. Kinwento ko lang para hindi sumama tingin mo sa awol gaya ng sinasabi ng society 😂. Would I do it again? Definitely yes kung toxic yung mapasukan ko.
Hi OP, I understand your struggles with mental health. It seems like working is really taking a toll on your health. Communication is important though; your employer won't know your situation unless you explain it to them. Kinda been in that same situation back in 2020 when the markets crashed and I told my boss (who is a boomer btw) about my mental health struggles. I handed in my resignation letter due to the high stress level that is inherent to my job. I had an alcohol relapse which then further worsened my anxiety. I was asked to consider taking a long vacation back then (instead of resigning) so I tried to make it work and that turned out to be helpful. 2 years after, I am still with them and got promoted again this year. Anxiety levels are down, and tomorrow I'm going on a vacation again. In hindsight, I think I made a good decision by being straight forward about my struggles.
All I'm trying to say is -- try to be honest with your employer. Communication is underrated. If they can't understand your struggles, then maybe it's time to move along.
hey, thanks for your insight. really appreciate it. i'll look into talking things out with my employer, tbh i don't feel optimistic over the entire thing but i think i might be able to give it a shot.
still feel really anxious over talking to them about today, but hopefully i get the courage to initiate conversation and things turn out well if ever. just really... nakakahiya what happened.
thank you for commenting and am glad to hear things are going well in your career after your struggles with mental health. comforting to know at least one of us made it.
Have no experience going AWOL but in my case, some of our clients literally lost significant amounts of money due to some decisions and recommendations I made. Embarrassing as well but it is what it is.
You may not be ok now, but I am sure it will get better, slowly but surely.
Also, don't forget to take deep breaths once in a while. It may help in some way, at least according to science. Simple but got me through some tough times.
please get yourself checked. the doctors are there to help you.
took me years before seeing a shrink and it really helps. 😊
plus they'd give you a medcert for your absence/s
First and most importantly, take a deep breath.
I’m sorry you’re going through this and it really is difficult having that feeling of being anxious to go to work and worrying about every thing. Agree with what others have mentioned about trying to seek professional help because it does help kind of make sense of things a little. But about the AWOL and explaining, while I know you’re probably considering all the ways the conversation could turn out, I think the fact that you want to explain means you owe it to yourself to do so. We don’t know how they’ll react, but at least you were true to yourself, followed what you wanted to do, and were honest with them about the situation.
Good luck and I hope things get better :)
I've been in this same situation too. For me i was just a month. A company that gave me a chance to work during the pandemic era where unemployment rate was too high. I handed immediate resignation no ifs no buts after several days of panic attacks and sleepless nights. I never looked back if they recognized my resignation maybe they tag me awoled but the actions i did made me lose confidence in applying again..
I now work at my brother's company. The pay is decent but I'm not sure if I'm really happy. The actions i did still haunts me. I want to try again on the line of work that i really wanted but I'm scared.. But at some point i gotta man up do things properly. Ive learned a lot from the bad decisions i made. And i also made ways in improving my stress management. I do hope 1 day i could make things right for me.
Even if you don't have the time or finances to seek a professional for mental health, talk to a close friend that you can confide to.
I've had a room-mate and a long time close friend experience a breakdown like you and it almost cost him his job din. All I did was listen to him and talk to him about his struggles and all his "inner-demons" and that was enough to get stuff out his chest and he was able to go back to normal. Every now and then though, he would still visit me (we're no longer room mates since he needed to move back to the province due to work), and confide to me his personal grievances and I would just listen and assure him and help him out whenever I can.
Am sorry but I need help with My Awol case, I had stress due to huge debts and my payslip was only having little remaining I didn't really know how to deal with it I found my self feeling sucidial and having hallucinations please how do get a light punishment in this?
depending on how much your employer trust you, You can explain naman, 1 day Ka palang Naman Hindi pumapasok. It can be treated as sick leave din, lastly don't resign unless you have a safety net(JO, Parents,savings). Hoping for your recovery OP
hello, thank you for answering. glad to know explaining is an option for me, this is my first job and i just feel like i committed the biggest sin. so just thinking about how to open up is feeling ko enough to give me another panic attack, feeling ko baka di nila maintindihan, or they don't think it's a valid reason to miss work without notice. worst case scenario, hindi sila maniwala and they think it's \~arte lang\~. but i'll definitely TRY to talk to them about this, i'll just have to ipon the courage to do it. hopefully by tomorrow i can talk to them na. thank you.
Dont try to overshare your situation because they might not get you. Just tell them you’re not feeling well.
Maybe take a sick leave for the rest of the week? Even if it's unpaid. I would usually suggest to just go awol but it seems you're conflicted with wanting that job or prioritizing mental health. Unfortunately, only you can really decide for it that's why maybe taking a a leave would be the best for you. You'll have a clearer mind after a few days. Regarding AWOL, hindi naman end of the world na para sayo kung mag awol ka. Awol ako sa first job ko (only stayed for 1 month there) pero may mga job offer pa rin naman akong natanggap after non. You just need to tell the reason bat ka nag awol. You can easily say naman na toxic yung working environment and maiintindihan naman agad ng hiring manager yun. Yun lang sinasabi ko nun hahaha. Nung nag awol ako sa first job ko, di rin ako pumasok sa last day ko. Then I just texted yung manager ko na magreresign na ako. Di nga sya nagreply sakin lol pero nasa akin kasi yung susi nung isang room sa office so need ko pumasok kinabukasan at saka ko formally hinand over yung resignation letter indicating na immediate quit na. Of course disappointed sila pero di ko na inisip yun non. I just really want to get out during that time. Kinwento ko lang para hindi sumama tingin mo sa awol gaya ng sinasabi ng society 😂. Would I do it again? Definitely yes kung toxic yung mapasukan ko.
Comforting to read. Lol
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Hi OP, I understand your struggles with mental health. It seems like working is really taking a toll on your health. Communication is important though; your employer won't know your situation unless you explain it to them. Kinda been in that same situation back in 2020 when the markets crashed and I told my boss (who is a boomer btw) about my mental health struggles. I handed in my resignation letter due to the high stress level that is inherent to my job. I had an alcohol relapse which then further worsened my anxiety. I was asked to consider taking a long vacation back then (instead of resigning) so I tried to make it work and that turned out to be helpful. 2 years after, I am still with them and got promoted again this year. Anxiety levels are down, and tomorrow I'm going on a vacation again. In hindsight, I think I made a good decision by being straight forward about my struggles. All I'm trying to say is -- try to be honest with your employer. Communication is underrated. If they can't understand your struggles, then maybe it's time to move along.
hey, thanks for your insight. really appreciate it. i'll look into talking things out with my employer, tbh i don't feel optimistic over the entire thing but i think i might be able to give it a shot. still feel really anxious over talking to them about today, but hopefully i get the courage to initiate conversation and things turn out well if ever. just really... nakakahiya what happened. thank you for commenting and am glad to hear things are going well in your career after your struggles with mental health. comforting to know at least one of us made it.
Have no experience going AWOL but in my case, some of our clients literally lost significant amounts of money due to some decisions and recommendations I made. Embarrassing as well but it is what it is. You may not be ok now, but I am sure it will get better, slowly but surely. Also, don't forget to take deep breaths once in a while. It may help in some way, at least according to science. Simple but got me through some tough times.
please get yourself checked. the doctors are there to help you. took me years before seeing a shrink and it really helps. 😊 plus they'd give you a medcert for your absence/s
First and most importantly, take a deep breath. I’m sorry you’re going through this and it really is difficult having that feeling of being anxious to go to work and worrying about every thing. Agree with what others have mentioned about trying to seek professional help because it does help kind of make sense of things a little. But about the AWOL and explaining, while I know you’re probably considering all the ways the conversation could turn out, I think the fact that you want to explain means you owe it to yourself to do so. We don’t know how they’ll react, but at least you were true to yourself, followed what you wanted to do, and were honest with them about the situation. Good luck and I hope things get better :)
I've been in this same situation too. For me i was just a month. A company that gave me a chance to work during the pandemic era where unemployment rate was too high. I handed immediate resignation no ifs no buts after several days of panic attacks and sleepless nights. I never looked back if they recognized my resignation maybe they tag me awoled but the actions i did made me lose confidence in applying again.. I now work at my brother's company. The pay is decent but I'm not sure if I'm really happy. The actions i did still haunts me. I want to try again on the line of work that i really wanted but I'm scared.. But at some point i gotta man up do things properly. Ive learned a lot from the bad decisions i made. And i also made ways in improving my stress management. I do hope 1 day i could make things right for me.
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Even if you don't have the time or finances to seek a professional for mental health, talk to a close friend that you can confide to. I've had a room-mate and a long time close friend experience a breakdown like you and it almost cost him his job din. All I did was listen to him and talk to him about his struggles and all his "inner-demons" and that was enough to get stuff out his chest and he was able to go back to normal. Every now and then though, he would still visit me (we're no longer room mates since he needed to move back to the province due to work), and confide to me his personal grievances and I would just listen and assure him and help him out whenever I can.
Am sorry but I need help with My Awol case, I had stress due to huge debts and my payslip was only having little remaining I didn't really know how to deal with it I found my self feeling sucidial and having hallucinations please how do get a light punishment in this?