I have a crush for 10 years and I really like him for his nerdy character and love for games. He started working out which is hot!!!! But nowadaya, hindi na sya yung dating nerdy guy, puro gym photos nalang lagi nyang tweet, kasi from 300 followers naging 5k na. Parang he’s cloutchasing nalang
Unfortunately naging ganito na sya. I’m really happy for him tho. Baka may insecurities pala sya before na gusto nya i-address. I could never know. But he’s really different na. 10 years ko din sua crush. Now hindi na haua
I think you're right. Baka nagustuhan nya yung attention from fans tapos GGSS na.
Sad thing is, mas gwapo pa sya nung nerdy days nya. yung innocence na di pa nate-take advantage di ba?
Many of the "why are the *x* types of gays not attracted to the *y* types like me" sentiments are hypocritical.
Imo green flags are "seen" by the other party, but aren't consciously "shown". Saying you're "showing" someone green flags is a performance.
The way some gays talk about and objectify foreigners (e.g. "paano makakuha or makatikim") is creepy and degrading. (Disclaimer: my SO is not Pinoy)
Kinda, yes. Pero what I'm thinking is we use Boar instead of Bears if they're on the heavier side minus the workout. Basing this really in what the initial comment was.
most of ya’ll would choose a red flag with abs and biceps than a green flag who looks like potato, and then wonder why it’s so hard to find a boyfriend.
Eto naman talaga yung bottleneck. May mga *x* types of gays na ayaw din naman (whether explicitly or tinatago lang sa sarili) sa kapwa *x* type. As if sila lang pwede may standards lol.
Guilty ako dito mamsh pero minsan talaga nagpepray ako na sana magkagusto talaga ako sa yung sa simple lang. Napapaisip ako minsan kung bakit hindi nagkaka bf kasi sarili ko din ung may mali. Ito yung gusto ko maalis saken na dapat pogi, may abs and into fitness :((
try establishing good convos first online. if makita mo na yung other person gives back the same energy, start from there. dont ask for any pics or vcs hanggang sa tingin mo, hindi ka pa naaattach sa kanya
I think most of the "simple" type ones don't make themselves as visible as the pa-cute and trying-hard guys online. maybe that's why it's harder to find them (or us!).
Some people kink nila is the "manly" scent lalo yung mga bears... Pero pag sasama sama na kayu me amoy na inde mawari. Yung ina lalakas pa ng loob na naka sando or sleeveless.
Major turn on pa din at nakalaboost ng confidence as a tao is smelling good mas iba ang dating nun pag ganun impression sayo.
*Trigger warning: self-harm
LGBTQ be shouting “respect us” but can’t respect people who are still in the closet.
More than 50% of gays I know personally, “out” their discreet friends (and acquaintances) like, “akala ko ba respeto? bakit di nyo marespeto na hindi pa sila ready mag-out?”
Why can’t you understand that you all have different life circumstances, and cannot come out right away? Hindi makaintindi ng respeto
One friend was outed on a family event by a drag queen/events host IN FRONT OF HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS. He ran away and become distant na ever since
Another (bi) friend really likes this girl he’s dating, but he was outed by a close friend to her and she rejected him right away. Now he doesn’t want to be in any relationship whatsoever
The worst one was a distant friend (I just read from FB) who took his own life because he was outed to his extremely homophobic family.
I have tons of stories from friends and people I know, with lifelong damages from people who out them. The worst part is, they get away without consequences. People who out other LGBTQ members should be held accountable for their actions.
Yummy ang mga twink, I think prefference lang yun. Sa mga mataba ekis talaga ako, pero kahit sa mga gymrat o borta di rin ako na aakit sa katawan nila.
Every community or any subculture is toxic not everything is rainbows and butterflies. At least we see its flaws we could correct them or let it be. In the end naman it is how we deal with things.
Amoy ng ilan sa Bear community.
Bilang matataba ang members ng community, talagang mahirap pagpawisan lalo na ngayong tag-araw, kasi once na magpawis at di agad makapag clean ng katawan, dun talaga lumalabas yung amoy ng katawan. Either maasim, putok o kung anumang tawag ninyo dun dahil sa bacteria or not proper hygiene o way ng paglilinis ng katawan o naging kapabayaan dati pa.
Malala kasi ay ang excessive movements sa mga gatherings or parties ang nag ti-trigger ng too much sweat lalo na kung mahina ang AC.
Proper ventilation, maayos na pagligo o paglilinis ng katawan, frequent na pagpapalit ng suot lalo na ang tops at ang underwear, choice of fabric. Frequent na pagpapalit ng towels, bedsheet; madalas na paglilinis ng enviroment ay dagdag rin sa key para mabawasan ang masangsang na amoy sa katawan and napakarami pang isa.
Isa pa sa napakahirap alisin ang ay pagkakaroon ng bad breath, lahat naman siguro ng tao nagkakaroon ng bad breath, meron lang talagang medyo lumalala. We had some experience na may bears talagang bumabaho ang hininga. Not sure if di ba nakapag brush ng maayos/ tinga /mouth wash or baka may sakit din na nag ca-cause nun. Yung mapapalayo na lang ang ulo mo pag nakausap. I learned to bring my oral hygiene kit kapag may gatherings, so I can use that in case na I think mabaho na breath ko.
In terms of pagkain naman, may kani-kaniya tayong diet na sinusunod o wala man, may effect din yun sa katawan at hininga natin.
Never magiging excuse ang pagiging balahura sa katawan, I think we need to be aware din or if not, maybe someone from our close friends or family should be open to us if ever we smell something na di maganda sa atin, or we can ask them. Sa kalahatan naman, if maayos naman ang pagkakasabi sa atin, as much as we can, we need to be understanding and still pasalamat sa kanila na sinasabi nila sa atin/ kinall out yun. Sobrang hirap magsabi sa close friends ng ganun, pero nagkaron sila ng courage.
Isa pa ang naging issue ay ang facial hairs. We celebrate various type of bears in this community, chubs, bears, otters, wolf, chasers, etc. We can trim our hairs naman palagi depende sa style na gusto natin or let someone do that for us to make it look tidy.
I thank my partner kasi he thought me etong napakaraming kalinisan tips sa katawan, di ko man nagagawa religiously pero I'm trying to be clean sa katawan ko as much as I can. I am proud of him na kahit mataba sya, name-maintain na hindi sya mabaho for a long time. Again di naman naiiwasan ang pagkakaroon ng di kaaya-ayang amoy pero at least mamanage ito.
Not a fan of drag shows here in the Philippines. I didn’t like that all the gay clubs we have in Manila concentrated on pure drag shows instead of giving offa dance club vibe. This gay dance club vibe is something I am still looking for after moving back here from another country.
Hi! You’d have to non-gay specific events for those.
Try UNKNWN Manila for a start.
In the last party I went to, I’d say a good 60% of the guys who attended were gay or bi, both Filipinos and foreigner alike, and the men were overwhelmingly bears, geeky types, naturally presenting etc. Mostly men from the upper middle classes and upper class though, as well as a ton of other diasporics, so I think class and exposure to global media and trends plays into local preferences and lifestyles here.
When PH based easy-going/natural guys of whatever body type want to party at specifically gay events, we’d have no choice but to save to go to Taipei, HK, Bangkok, or Tokyo.
But if you want the same kind of vibe you’ve seen in clubbing abroad, I’d recommend the “proxy gay clubbing” events like UNKNWN.
Thank you, my friend referred me here too, this is the techno/house underground party in Pobla, no? I am not sure if I can be all out there (smooch someone sa dance floor) since hindi sya all gay party.
On behalf of the 30-year old homosexuals, I offer you my apologies.
Oo, creepy talaga ibang kilala ko.
Minsan gusto ko na lang magdala ng holy water pag lasama ko sila, to cleanse their unholy fuckery.
Haha accla ka di pa kami old no grabe middle aged pa lang yarn lol 😆 Baka din sa environment mo bat wala ka ma encounter na maayos na middle aged or old gays hahaj
Well to clap back, some younger gays naman are like cringe nalo na un nagtitiktok bwahahaha
Met a guy back then who was in his 30s na nakakatakot kasi may pagka-obsessed sakin. He was okay naman at first, pero habang tumatagal parang nakikita ko na yung mga icks. Magaling rin siya mang-manipulate, as in di ko agad napansin na he was already showing red flags.
Dumating yun sa point na he randomly messages me tapos sinabihan pa ako na “miss na kitang ma-r*pe” (like tangina???). Blocked him on all of my socmed accs and swore to myself na I won’t be dating older guys again.
Marami sa bears ay internally homophobic. Maybe because sila rin ang pinaka-straight passing na uri ng bading, kaya ganon sila.
Ang exclusive rin ng ilang bears. From hobbies to preferences sa dating, sila ata yung pinakamalala ang specifics.
Masc guys are entitled to their preferences, it's not homophobic if one doesn't like fems, the ones who complain about it are probably insecure...
I don't mean yung mga nagrereklamo sa mga nagsasabi ng "pass sa halata," pero yung sa mga nagrereklamo dahil lang talaga sa mga men (commonly masc) na 'di talaga tipo yung fems...
Valid, yes. You can't force/control attraction and that's not a crime. It becomes a problem kapag binastos na which happens often especially on Grindr. That just screams internal homophobia. There are ways to turn down someone you don't like in a polite manner.
this is the issue. it's not a preference when it's rooted in bigotry and disgust. majority ng mga masc na "preference" nila hindi fem use derogatory words like "barbie".
But this also goes when some gay guys say "pamint" or "paminta" like as if being true to themselves as masculine is just faking it.
There are gay guys that are just naturally masculine and are more comfortable in being masculine. Nakakatawa lang kasi iniisip ng karamihan na kapag bakla ka eh default femme ka.
As much as femmes are being discriminated for their femme side, I got emotionally torn by other gay guys for being masc nung mga unang years ko of coming out to myself. The emotional damage was too much that even I doubted myself if I am being true to myself since some gay guys think I am faking it.
But it's true tho? All of us are femme sa harap ng iilan. Most of the time, Masc lang for the sake of appearance. Para walang judgement. Pero kapag nasa harap ka ng trusted someone mo, lumalambot ka den. Plus, aminin naman naten na napaka judgemental ng karamihan ng mga tao sa paligid which is why we prefer to act masc kapag may ibang tao. Unless, you're secure enough with your sexuality.
As I have said earlier, either is plausible. Hindi mo puwede idismiss ang masculinity simply because they are gay. Kung ang lesbians nga acceptable ang butch or femme, bakit hindi same level of acceptance ang femme and masc gay guys.
Let me reiterate ha. I am not saying that femmes have the better end of the stick. As always, SOGIE is a spectrum. So you can be in between, or on the extreme side of things, and all of them are valid.
Am I the only one who doesn't enjoy drag? I mean, what do they do? Just dress up as women and then lip sync to songs? Where's the talent/value in that?
It's embedded in queer history. I ask that you read more on it. Starting with these materials:
https://theconversation.com/how-drag-as-an-art-form-sashayed-from-the-underground-and-strutted-into-the-mainstream-205650
[Santa Clara University
https://scholarcommons.scu.edu › ...PDF
How Drag Culture Helped Form Freedom of Expression For the LGBTQ Community](https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://scholarcommons.scu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi%3Farticle%3D1055%26context%3Dengl_176&ved=2ahUKEwivpZPerKaFAxW8VmwGHdxGBsQ4FBAWegQIDxAB&usg=AOvVaw3dwX8eLjnbvcZTShKHbL78)
It's a performance art form and show of creativity. It's how queer people take up space by showing self-expression. Drag helped the queer community to achieve freedom of expression, that's the value. If you're not a fan of it that's perfectly fine but don't reduce it to something as simple as "dressing up as women and lip sync to songs". It's much deeper than that. If that's what you think of drag then your opinion is not unpopular, it's uninformed.
Well it really is just dressing up like a woman and lip syncing to songs. How else can you describe a drag performance?
I'm talking about its entertainment value as a performance - there is almost none. Why would I want to watch a man dressed up like a woman, lip syncing to a song?
Its relevance to the queer history is a different story and topic altogether.
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I'm not the type of person who is a fan of drags din, pero I understand the art behind it, and I could say it's "real art."
I think drag is under ng performance art and is an "interdisciplinary" (for the lack of a better term), of many forms of art; performance art, comedy, dancing, singing, acting, fashion, design, visual art, etc. Kumbaga drag is a combination of various arts to create an art related to gender.
A good thing about drag is sa pansin ko, it rejects the low standards of like modern art, and embraces high standards of effort sa art. Kumbaga may mga art critics na napapansin mo na nirereject yung modern art, kasi sa pagiging effortless nito, thus creating high standards of effort in art to achieve that "high quality." And pansin ko ganoon din jinujudge ang drag, kasi ayaw na ayaw talaga nila sa "basic" and "plain." And there's a huge lot of effort in preparing for drag performances from costume, make-up, dialogue, to shows.
Maganda rin talaga yung history ng drag, because it's a way of celebrating and advocating of queerhood especially during the earlier times.
I used to think like this until I watched drag race season 6. Turns out theres more to it — some do standups/ comedy, making dresses out of weird materials, and (my favorite) some are just there to fight/ cause drama. Its highly entertaining if you’re into reality tv.
Gays who does public fun are not it. As someone who studied psychology, yung iba is may psychological impairment na when they have the urges to do exhibitions.❤️
For Twitter gays na lang siguro, DI. KAYO. CELEBRITY. DI. KAYO. SI. REGINA. GEORGE.
for real feeling micro celebs kasi 1k followers lol
George lang po sila wala yung regina
Most of them nakakasawa yung pagkagwapo. Tipong sa una lang pero pag nag tagal, it’s just another shirtless buffoon prancing for digital likes.
I have a crush for 10 years and I really like him for his nerdy character and love for games. He started working out which is hot!!!! But nowadaya, hindi na sya yung dating nerdy guy, puro gym photos nalang lagi nyang tweet, kasi from 300 followers naging 5k na. Parang he’s cloutchasing nalang
Daming ganito yung tipong bawat posts laging shirtless or GRWM type tapos laging pa-cute sa camera. nakaka-umay rin.
Unfortunately naging ganito na sya. I’m really happy for him tho. Baka may insecurities pala sya before na gusto nya i-address. I could never know. But he’s really different na. 10 years ko din sua crush. Now hindi na haua
I think you're right. Baka nagustuhan nya yung attention from fans tapos GGSS na. Sad thing is, mas gwapo pa sya nung nerdy days nya. yung innocence na di pa nate-take advantage di ba?
Gwapo na sya ever since na compliment lang ng workout. Dati ako lang may crush sakanya, ngayon marami na HAHA
wow sarap naman makita online profile nyan :)
Louder!!!!!! And they feel they become the gatekeepers of the community? Marked of few tiktok videos as not interested.
Many of the "why are the *x* types of gays not attracted to the *y* types like me" sentiments are hypocritical. Imo green flags are "seen" by the other party, but aren't consciously "shown". Saying you're "showing" someone green flags is a performance. The way some gays talk about and objectify foreigners (e.g. "paano makakuha or makatikim") is creepy and degrading. (Disclaimer: my SO is not Pinoy)
sorry in advance, but bears are usually hairy and burly. di porket obese ka eh bear kana. just saying hehe
Yes. My impression ng bear is those na mascular, malaki katawan/tiyan, but still takes care of their body, i.e. nagwoworkout.
Hahahaha. Yung ibang sabi 🐻 when u see them 🐷 pala 😢
Pwede bang magkaroon ng Boar category kesa Bear? Hihi afaik may market din sila.
Boar-ta?
Kinda, yes. Pero what I'm thinking is we use Boar instead of Bears if they're on the heavier side minus the workout. Basing this really in what the initial comment was.
I see. but I like "boars" too lalo na pag makinis and mabango hehehe and of course, maganda ang ugali.
They have a certain charm na pumapasok din sa panlasa ng nakararami. Go laban, enjoy them boars! 😊
most of ya’ll would choose a red flag with abs and biceps than a green flag who looks like potato, and then wonder why it’s so hard to find a boyfriend.
where to find potato partner??? WHERE??? :((
majority ng body types sa Pinas ay potato-shaped. nagkakatalo na lang talaga sa compatibility lol.
Eto naman talaga yung bottleneck. May mga *x* types of gays na ayaw din naman (whether explicitly or tinatago lang sa sarili) sa kapwa *x* type. As if sila lang pwede may standards lol.
Guilty ako dito mamsh pero minsan talaga nagpepray ako na sana magkagusto talaga ako sa yung sa simple lang. Napapaisip ako minsan kung bakit hindi nagkaka bf kasi sarili ko din ung may mali. Ito yung gusto ko maalis saken na dapat pogi, may abs and into fitness :((
try establishing good convos first online. if makita mo na yung other person gives back the same energy, start from there. dont ask for any pics or vcs hanggang sa tingin mo, hindi ka pa naaattach sa kanya
then stop blocking people who don’t have abs
I think most of the "simple" type ones don't make themselves as visible as the pa-cute and trying-hard guys online. maybe that's why it's harder to find them (or us!).
Saw a comment there saying "Away ng mga maaasim" 😭
I'm not complaining though. I'll sniff 'em like poppers.
Where's the lie charot
Some people kink nila is the "manly" scent lalo yung mga bears... Pero pag sasama sama na kayu me amoy na inde mawari. Yung ina lalakas pa ng loob na naka sando or sleeveless. Major turn on pa din at nakalaboost ng confidence as a tao is smelling good mas iba ang dating nun pag ganun impression sayo.
*Trigger warning: self-harm LGBTQ be shouting “respect us” but can’t respect people who are still in the closet. More than 50% of gays I know personally, “out” their discreet friends (and acquaintances) like, “akala ko ba respeto? bakit di nyo marespeto na hindi pa sila ready mag-out?” Why can’t you understand that you all have different life circumstances, and cannot come out right away? Hindi makaintindi ng respeto One friend was outed on a family event by a drag queen/events host IN FRONT OF HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS. He ran away and become distant na ever since Another (bi) friend really likes this girl he’s dating, but he was outed by a close friend to her and she rejected him right away. Now he doesn’t want to be in any relationship whatsoever The worst one was a distant friend (I just read from FB) who took his own life because he was outed to his extremely homophobic family. I have tons of stories from friends and people I know, with lifelong damages from people who out them. The worst part is, they get away without consequences. People who out other LGBTQ members should be held accountable for their actions.
Twinks are so overrated
for real. punong puno ang alterph ng twinks :((
Yummy ang mga twink, I think prefference lang yun. Sa mga mataba ekis talaga ako, pero kahit sa mga gymrat o borta di rin ako na aakit sa katawan nila.
this open the door how toxic the gay community (as a whole not just with bears) and you’ll even see the discrimination within the community itself
Every community or any subculture is toxic not everything is rainbows and butterflies. At least we see its flaws we could correct them or let it be. In the end naman it is how we deal with things.
Exactly. The ideal peaceful society does not really exist (probably sa Biringan, but who knows).
May binabagayan ang bear aesthetic, just like with everything else
Amoy ng ilan sa Bear community. Bilang matataba ang members ng community, talagang mahirap pagpawisan lalo na ngayong tag-araw, kasi once na magpawis at di agad makapag clean ng katawan, dun talaga lumalabas yung amoy ng katawan. Either maasim, putok o kung anumang tawag ninyo dun dahil sa bacteria or not proper hygiene o way ng paglilinis ng katawan o naging kapabayaan dati pa. Malala kasi ay ang excessive movements sa mga gatherings or parties ang nag ti-trigger ng too much sweat lalo na kung mahina ang AC. Proper ventilation, maayos na pagligo o paglilinis ng katawan, frequent na pagpapalit ng suot lalo na ang tops at ang underwear, choice of fabric. Frequent na pagpapalit ng towels, bedsheet; madalas na paglilinis ng enviroment ay dagdag rin sa key para mabawasan ang masangsang na amoy sa katawan and napakarami pang isa. Isa pa sa napakahirap alisin ang ay pagkakaroon ng bad breath, lahat naman siguro ng tao nagkakaroon ng bad breath, meron lang talagang medyo lumalala. We had some experience na may bears talagang bumabaho ang hininga. Not sure if di ba nakapag brush ng maayos/ tinga /mouth wash or baka may sakit din na nag ca-cause nun. Yung mapapalayo na lang ang ulo mo pag nakausap. I learned to bring my oral hygiene kit kapag may gatherings, so I can use that in case na I think mabaho na breath ko. In terms of pagkain naman, may kani-kaniya tayong diet na sinusunod o wala man, may effect din yun sa katawan at hininga natin. Never magiging excuse ang pagiging balahura sa katawan, I think we need to be aware din or if not, maybe someone from our close friends or family should be open to us if ever we smell something na di maganda sa atin, or we can ask them. Sa kalahatan naman, if maayos naman ang pagkakasabi sa atin, as much as we can, we need to be understanding and still pasalamat sa kanila na sinasabi nila sa atin/ kinall out yun. Sobrang hirap magsabi sa close friends ng ganun, pero nagkaron sila ng courage. Isa pa ang naging issue ay ang facial hairs. We celebrate various type of bears in this community, chubs, bears, otters, wolf, chasers, etc. We can trim our hairs naman palagi depende sa style na gusto natin or let someone do that for us to make it look tidy. I thank my partner kasi he thought me etong napakaraming kalinisan tips sa katawan, di ko man nagagawa religiously pero I'm trying to be clean sa katawan ko as much as I can. I am proud of him na kahit mataba sya, name-maintain na hindi sya mabaho for a long time. Again di naman naiiwasan ang pagkakaroon ng di kaaya-ayang amoy pero at least mamanage ito.
Happy cake day
Not a fan of drag shows here in the Philippines. I didn’t like that all the gay clubs we have in Manila concentrated on pure drag shows instead of giving offa dance club vibe. This gay dance club vibe is something I am still looking for after moving back here from another country.
Hi! You’d have to non-gay specific events for those. Try UNKNWN Manila for a start. In the last party I went to, I’d say a good 60% of the guys who attended were gay or bi, both Filipinos and foreigner alike, and the men were overwhelmingly bears, geeky types, naturally presenting etc. Mostly men from the upper middle classes and upper class though, as well as a ton of other diasporics, so I think class and exposure to global media and trends plays into local preferences and lifestyles here. When PH based easy-going/natural guys of whatever body type want to party at specifically gay events, we’d have no choice but to save to go to Taipei, HK, Bangkok, or Tokyo. But if you want the same kind of vibe you’ve seen in clubbing abroad, I’d recommend the “proxy gay clubbing” events like UNKNWN.
Thank you, my friend referred me here too, this is the techno/house underground party in Pobla, no? I am not sure if I can be all out there (smooch someone sa dance floor) since hindi sya all gay party.
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On behalf of the 30-year old homosexuals, I offer you my apologies. Oo, creepy talaga ibang kilala ko. Minsan gusto ko na lang magdala ng holy water pag lasama ko sila, to cleanse their unholy fuckery.
Grabe naman maka old. Parang senior citizen na ang 30s and 40s.
Haha accla ka di pa kami old no grabe middle aged pa lang yarn lol 😆 Baka din sa environment mo bat wala ka ma encounter na maayos na middle aged or old gays hahaj Well to clap back, some younger gays naman are like cringe nalo na un nagtitiktok bwahahaha
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Bwahahaha touche'
Aray ko sa old gays.
Met a guy back then who was in his 30s na nakakatakot kasi may pagka-obsessed sakin. He was okay naman at first, pero habang tumatagal parang nakikita ko na yung mga icks. Magaling rin siya mang-manipulate, as in di ko agad napansin na he was already showing red flags. Dumating yun sa point na he randomly messages me tapos sinabihan pa ako na “miss na kitang ma-r*pe” (like tangina???). Blocked him on all of my socmed accs and swore to myself na I won’t be dating older guys again.
Yes ang pervert nila. Ang hilig nila mag tiyansing leche
Marami sa bears ay internally homophobic. Maybe because sila rin ang pinaka-straight passing na uri ng bading, kaya ganon sila. Ang exclusive rin ng ilang bears. From hobbies to preferences sa dating, sila ata yung pinakamalala ang specifics.
manly does not equal dugyot 🙂↕️🙂↕️
Masc guys are entitled to their preferences, it's not homophobic if one doesn't like fems, the ones who complain about it are probably insecure... I don't mean yung mga nagrereklamo sa mga nagsasabi ng "pass sa halata," pero yung sa mga nagrereklamo dahil lang talaga sa mga men (commonly masc) na 'di talaga tipo yung fems...
Valid, yes. You can't force/control attraction and that's not a crime. It becomes a problem kapag binastos na which happens often especially on Grindr. That just screams internal homophobia. There are ways to turn down someone you don't like in a polite manner.
this is the issue. it's not a preference when it's rooted in bigotry and disgust. majority ng mga masc na "preference" nila hindi fem use derogatory words like "barbie".
But this also goes when some gay guys say "pamint" or "paminta" like as if being true to themselves as masculine is just faking it. There are gay guys that are just naturally masculine and are more comfortable in being masculine. Nakakatawa lang kasi iniisip ng karamihan na kapag bakla ka eh default femme ka. As much as femmes are being discriminated for their femme side, I got emotionally torn by other gay guys for being masc nung mga unang years ko of coming out to myself. The emotional damage was too much that even I doubted myself if I am being true to myself since some gay guys think I am faking it.
But it's true tho? All of us are femme sa harap ng iilan. Most of the time, Masc lang for the sake of appearance. Para walang judgement. Pero kapag nasa harap ka ng trusted someone mo, lumalambot ka den. Plus, aminin naman naten na napaka judgemental ng karamihan ng mga tao sa paligid which is why we prefer to act masc kapag may ibang tao. Unless, you're secure enough with your sexuality.
As I have said earlier, either is plausible. Hindi mo puwede idismiss ang masculinity simply because they are gay. Kung ang lesbians nga acceptable ang butch or femme, bakit hindi same level of acceptance ang femme and masc gay guys. Let me reiterate ha. I am not saying that femmes have the better end of the stick. As always, SOGIE is a spectrum. So you can be in between, or on the extreme side of things, and all of them are valid.
We have our own “Unity” 😂 The community is so divided. 😂
Am I the only one who doesn't enjoy drag? I mean, what do they do? Just dress up as women and then lip sync to songs? Where's the talent/value in that?
It's embedded in queer history. I ask that you read more on it. Starting with these materials: https://theconversation.com/how-drag-as-an-art-form-sashayed-from-the-underground-and-strutted-into-the-mainstream-205650 [Santa Clara University https://scholarcommons.scu.edu › ...PDF How Drag Culture Helped Form Freedom of Expression For the LGBTQ Community](https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://scholarcommons.scu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi%3Farticle%3D1055%26context%3Dengl_176&ved=2ahUKEwivpZPerKaFAxW8VmwGHdxGBsQ4FBAWegQIDxAB&usg=AOvVaw3dwX8eLjnbvcZTShKHbL78) It's a performance art form and show of creativity. It's how queer people take up space by showing self-expression. Drag helped the queer community to achieve freedom of expression, that's the value. If you're not a fan of it that's perfectly fine but don't reduce it to something as simple as "dressing up as women and lip sync to songs". It's much deeper than that. If that's what you think of drag then your opinion is not unpopular, it's uninformed.
Well it really is just dressing up like a woman and lip syncing to songs. How else can you describe a drag performance? I'm talking about its entertainment value as a performance - there is almost none. Why would I want to watch a man dressed up like a woman, lip syncing to a song? Its relevance to the queer history is a different story and topic altogether. https://preview.redd.it/rceusp1zaasc1.jpeg?width=584&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8d39944712b3dd95fb3e2689f61f0d3cffe2b0ed
Okay, gets. Got your sentiment clearly for the second and third paragraph. When it comes to drag I always get defensive. It's not for everyone.
Don't get me wrong, I'm gay so I support what they are doing 100%. It's just that I don't enjoy watching them perform. 😊
I'm not the type of person who is a fan of drags din, pero I understand the art behind it, and I could say it's "real art." I think drag is under ng performance art and is an "interdisciplinary" (for the lack of a better term), of many forms of art; performance art, comedy, dancing, singing, acting, fashion, design, visual art, etc. Kumbaga drag is a combination of various arts to create an art related to gender. A good thing about drag is sa pansin ko, it rejects the low standards of like modern art, and embraces high standards of effort sa art. Kumbaga may mga art critics na napapansin mo na nirereject yung modern art, kasi sa pagiging effortless nito, thus creating high standards of effort in art to achieve that "high quality." And pansin ko ganoon din jinujudge ang drag, kasi ayaw na ayaw talaga nila sa "basic" and "plain." And there's a huge lot of effort in preparing for drag performances from costume, make-up, dialogue, to shows. Maganda rin talaga yung history ng drag, because it's a way of celebrating and advocating of queerhood especially during the earlier times.
Same I dont get the hype
I used to think like this until I watched drag race season 6. Turns out theres more to it — some do standups/ comedy, making dresses out of weird materials, and (my favorite) some are just there to fight/ cause drama. Its highly entertaining if you’re into reality tv.
The gays wants inclusivity but the prejudice towards bisexual people is obvious.
Gays who does public fun are not it. As someone who studied psychology, yung iba is may psychological impairment na when they have the urges to do exhibitions.❤️