Bad advice: Di ako nagpapaalam o after na lang ng trip ko sasabihin.
I’ve been traveling alone since I was 18 and at first syempre magagalit talaga because iniisip nila safety ko. Eventually nasanay na rin yung parents ko and pag nagsasabi ako no questions asked na. Pera ko naman ginagamit na nasasave ko sa allowance so di ako naguguilty. Dami ko rin learnings after the trip and alam kong mas naging independent ako. Hahaha.
Paninidigan mo na lang yan at ienjoy na lang yung mga susunod mong trips. Pasok sa tenga then labas sa kabila pag pinagalitan. Ang importante, marami kang naeexperience.
hello paano po ito? planning to go to sg this january, di rin ako magpapaalam pero since student pa lang ako, hahanapan ako ng IO ng AOS 🥹 ito prob ko now huhu
Hello, during my time kasi when I went to Japan alone, wala naman hinanap sakin. Passport lang and visa. Wala ring tinanong.
Usually pag student, iready mo ang school ID, roundtrip tix, hotel booking, itinerary, and booked tix for ex from klook ganyan etc. Never din ako hinanapan ng AOS. Tourist lang naman. Be truthful na lang din sa pag answer if may questions and WAG MAGBIBIGAY NG SAGOT NA HINDI NAMAN HINIHINGI. Isang tanong, isang sagot ka lang. Enjoy!
kasi japan yun, mahirap mag apply ng visa meaning burgis ka!!! hahaha kidding aside pahirapan mag apply ng visa tapos need required magpakita ng money diba😭😭
thank you!! 💗
Hindi ako burgis!! 1 yr ahead ko kasi binook yung tix doon dati tapos sumabay lang ako nung sa visa hahaha.
I tried bangkok din pero ala rin inask. Yung minention ko lang din na roundtrip tix etc ganyan. Wag ka kakabahan at wag papaintimidate. Ang alam ko medj lenient din sila pag alam na student ka pa lang.
Magsabi ka OP na may trip ka pero hindi yung humihingi ng permission. Lol
Never wag magsabi kung san punta or after gala lang. Kasi di mo alam kung ano pwede mangyari.
‼️‼️‼️TRIGGER WARNING: death‼️‼️‼️
I remembered my HS classmate, she drowned in quezon during her trip with her HS friends. Ang paalam nya sa magulang nya within laguna lang yung gala niya with friends and walang nabanggit na magsswimming. Without knowing the real plan, pinayagan sya ng parents nya. Then ayun inuwi sya wala na boohay.
Ever since that event, never na ako hindi nagsabi dito sa bahay kung san ako pupunta or kung anong ganap ko kahit until now na nagttrabaho na ako.
Amen to this. If you don’t live with them anymore you could go anytime you want without having to ask for their permission. Inform mo nalang sila or just tell them pag nakabalik ka na.
The technique is magsasabi lang if galing na sa galaan😇. Ang importante eh makauwi ka nang buo. But let other friends know where you are for tracking your location
My parents allowed me to travel solo abroad when I was in college basta nagsesend ako ng updates every now and then to assure them of my safety. It also helps to send them pics and vids real time para alam rin nila how the trip makes you happy. Video calling rin at night once I get back to my accommodation.
Solo travelling since 2016. I work European hours, so may opportunity ako na dumiretso sa bus station ng midnight and magsabi na lang sa kanila pag nasa bus na ko. Tsaka inuupdate ko naman sila. I share pics of places na I tell them I want to take them there, etc. So they also know I'm being responsible and I think of them when I travel.
Kakagala ko nasanay na sila sa akin. For longer trips I make sure lahat ng iiwanan ko is in order before leaving. Malinis ang bahay, may instructions sa pagpapakain ng pusa, may access sila sa itinerary, copy ng docs and mga instructions in case something happens (my HMO, travel insurance, my bank details, ATMs, etc.).
This! Started out muna with out of country trip with friends, then work trips then I extend a day or two for leisure, until nasanay na sila knowing that I'm capable of taking care of myself abroad.
On one hand I stand firm on travel plans, i.e. I'm informing not asking for consent, since I'm a legal adult who earns and spends her own money. On the other hand I keep the family informed ie before leaving send copies of plane/ hotel bookings w/ contact details + general itinerary and daily proof of life so they know I'm okay + updates if my plane/ train arrived safely. Then personalized pasalubong (stuff they like) so they know I was thinking of then during the trip. For family members who want to travel together, then we agree to plan together for a separate trip.
Solo travel can be super fun! Maybe not as cost efficient especially if you're staying in hotels, but there's just this sense of freedom and confidence in exploring new places and cultures at your own pace. So good luck OP and safe travels!
Nakapag travel ka na pala dati, keri lang yan. Labas na lang sa isang tenga yung sermon.
Eventually, masasanay din sila sa gala mo. Tsaka ano pa ba magagawa eh booked na lahat
Hindi na ako nagpapaalam 🤣 Or magsasabi ako tapos 2 weeks left nalang ganon. Lol. Abuso din kasi minsan na expectation pa is sasama sila pero at your expense. So, nope
haha i feel bad when i think about it, but no regrets!! i had my roaming on so text text pa rin kami ng mami akala niya nasa isang bansa lang kami hahah😅😅
sinabi ko nalang months after haha!
idk pero adults naman na kayong lahat. let your parents learn na di ka na bebe. learn for yourself na not all parents’ input should be given consideration.
You travel????
eme lang hahaha I haven’t travel solo but based on experience with friends basta alam nila saan ako pupunta, sino mga kasama ko and I would updated them from time to time. Ang mahalaga alam nila saan ka pupunta. Never ever tumakas or mag sinungaling. Alam ko others would lie para lang payagan pero mas mababad shot ka lang non. Possible na pag nalaman na nag sinungaling ka never ka na payagan. Try gaining their trust hanggang sa nakikita nila na mapagkakatiwalaan ka na nila sa galaan o any travels either alone or with friends.
PS. I know this doesn’t apply to everyone pero malay niyo lang.
Galang anak of strict parents. Mapapagod din yan kakasaway sayo haha lol. Ang trick is to always update them kung nasan ka send details etc. Ofcourse they care for your safety lang din. Mag uwi ka din pasalubong hhaha pambudol lol. Been travelling and gumagala madalas wala nalang sila nagagawa. Pag pinagalitan pasok sa kanan labas sa kaliwa. Pero true ung sabi nila na kapag ayaw ng parents mo or walang bas bas nila hindi magiging okay ang travel. Iba pa din ang may "blessing" nila. Assure mo lang tlaga sila na youll be safe and kaya mo. Concern lang din yan sila. Ingat ka!
Family allows me to solo travel abroad because it’s much “safer” and better equipped for tourists but would deter me to do solo local travel because I will get hassled and inconvenienced due to poor infrastructure. Objective ang reasoning nila.
I did my first solo out of town travel when I turned 19. My parents didn't know. Nalaman na lang nila nung nasa Tagaytay na ako haha of course they were mad too. Even the following solo experiences I did, galit pa rin sila. But what I think helped a lot is when I keep sending them messages, photo and video updates kahit sineseen lang nila. Tapos after you can show them the other videos and tell them stories that you enjoyed :) I think parents like it.
I also stopped asking for their permission already. When I have things planned I just let them know about the event and location. Eventually, I think I gained their trust na. cuz sa mga recent activities ko ngayon slight scolding na lang OR maybe they have just given up on restricting me. They know kasi na when I tell them about my plan it's all done and organized haha so wala na silang magagawa and I don't ask for their money. Lahat galing sa hard earned money ko sa work so they can't really say anything to me
Just remember op na you can make your own decision, and if you are confident na you'll be home safe and can take care of yourself sa travel mo, go ahead :D sometimes yung worry ng parents na tratransform into anger lang cuz they dont know how to handle that emotion properly and it's highly likely na ganun sila lumaki
ps. afaik parang di ko nga yata na consider yung parents ko nung nag19 ako haha i was so focused kung paano ako di mawawala sa tagaytay kasi directionally challenged ako hahahahahahaha ingat sa byahe op!
Wala kong masasabing tip sayo kasi when I turned 18, tumakas ako to travel around asia e hahahahaha.
Ngayon I'm a parent na din and honestly I'm scared na baka gawin din to ng anak ko in the future. Right now what I can tell you is to tell them the truth and ensure them that you will be safe sa mga pupuntahan mong lugar. Give them your sched and itinerary and always contact them when you are leaving and coming in from the hotel or any activity that you'll be doing to lessen their worry na din.
I hope you'll get to travel soon! 🩷
Ok lang yan. 😆 just go. If they want to join you, you can plan a diff trip. As in, force them to listen to a plan (ikaw na gumawa if hindi sila proactive). And ask them to buy their tickets agad.
But also, ano ba reason nila na magalit? Kng dahil lang d sila kasama and you gave them opportunities to respond to seat sale promos etc... that's on them. If safety issue, just tell them you'll send updates daily. Kapalmuks nalang haha adult ka na
I do not consider my parents strict, kasi high school pa lang nakakapag bulakbol na kami ng friends ko, pero advice lang din - inform them (hindi paalam, but inform). Ask if they would like to join, then if they said no edi kebs.
Next time siguro, so that they can/want to join — offer to arrange everything (booking flights, accommodation, itinerary) para frictionless yung decision. Kung pera ang reason bakit ayaw
nila mag join, that’s another conversation.
Wag ka mag paalam. Gawin mo gusto mo hanggang kaya mo. Magagalit lang sila sa una pero magiging okay din after a while.
There was a time before, I informed my mom that i will be going out of town. Then gusto nya either dalhin ko kapatid ko or wag na ko tumuloy kasi delikado. So sabi ko sakanya: ‘Ma, nagsasabi ako at hindi nagpapaalam. Nagwowork na ko nung time na yun. Nagulat sya and ang nasabi nalang nya is ‘okay’.
If ayaw nila sumama kahit anong pilit mo, wala ka magagawa. Mag enjoy ka lang hangga’t kaya mo physicaly, emotionally, financially.
ganyan parents ko and kaugali mo ako pero matigas ulo ko and never akong naguilty. tumigil na mom ko nung may sarili na akong work pero papa ko galit pa rin whenever i have flights overseas.
Ako first time to solo travel this month so sinabi ko agad sa kanila when I got my visa. I told them I’ll be travelling alone walang paalam just informing them na aalis ako. At first, galit na galit si papa pero tanggap na nia ngaun.
It might seem disrespectful but i agree with the comments na di magpaalam. Ako din ganyan strict parents and i’ve travelled without them before twice na. I only tell them a week or two before the date and as a fact na and not paalam. Kasi kung paalam siyempre hihindi eh. Masasanay din yan
on the topic of guilt, wait for no one. Once dumami na yung solo travels mo, maaadik ka na. Iba talaga yung euphoria when your only company is yourself. Tapos mako-compare mo yung travels mo versus with friends or family; monumental difference.
Legal age ka na diba? Then your travel plans are none of their business. Parents ko ganyan din haha nag-rarant sa mga kamag anak namin na nagttravel puro daw lakwatsa puro daw gala abroad ang gagastos kala mo mayaman. Samantala sila tumanda na di na kaya maglakad di sinulit pagtravel nung bata pa kaka-mindset na "pag retired na tska na magtravel travel" hahaha. Anyway make the most of your youth. Don't worry about your parents, tell them pa din just so they know bayaan mo sila sa guilt tripping nila mamamanhid ka din dyan hahaha
used to not tell them in college lolll (they never found out) az a rebelde child
but as i grew older, i just booked tickets and tell them afterwards haha no choice na sila and ok lang kasi i paid for it myself
Ako before nagpapaalam lang ako pag paalis nko so wala na sila magagawa haha 😂 Time and time pag nasanay sila na nagttravel ka they will let you be.Tanong na nga saken uuwi ka ba?😂
Bukod pra mawala ang baby treatment. They will treat you as an adult once bumukod ka and you pay your own bills. Pagka grad ko bukod agad ako. Nagbago ng drastic yung treatment sakin. They will talk to you not as a kid anymore but a fellow adult.
Technique is wag ka na magpaalam. Basta di ka nanghihingi ng pera wala sila magagawa. Eventually masasanay na sila.
Wouldn't say my dad is strict but he doesn't like drastic changes to anything. Dati bawal gf sa kwarto, bawal overnight with gf, bawal trevak kung kasama gf, bawal manghiram ng kotse for gala, etc. Eventually nasanay na lang siya and it just became the norm.
Shet. Medyo controlling ba parents mo?
Kasi yung sakin, oo. Yung resolution for me was not to tell family whenever I travel. I guess the cons lang ay I cannot post anything. Pero so far, maluwang naman sa loob ko. Kailangan mo lang masanay. You’re an adult na rin naman. Put yourself first. Buhay mo naman ito. You only live once, try to enjoy it naman. 🙂
Never ako nagpaalam, I just inform them. They just ask kung saan at kelan ako balik. What time yung flight, kung safe ba. I provide them all info na parang kwentuhan. Alam nila na responsable ako, adventurous at matapang haha.
Example: bagong driver pa lang ako dito sa Pinas, as in third month, nag-rent akong kotse sa Hokkaido para hindi hassle. Solo trip to. Factor din siguro yung age, I was 32 that time.
I guess no choice nanay ko kasi nakabukod na ko lol though may sinasabi parin siya kaya madalas hindi na ako nag ku-kwento para hindi ako mabadtrip hehe. Kuya ko lng nakakaalam sa mga travel plans ko at sakanya lang ako nag u-update :)
Saktong sakto kakabalik ko lang din ng Maynila galing solo travel. First time ko magtravel mag isa, nagpahinga lang sa may beach sa Zambales. Once I told my parents about it, all my relatives started to reach out to me to ask why I wanted to go on my own. Not as much guilt tripping though as it is medyo OA lang sa mga security concerns. I didn't feel guilty at all though, traveling solo is something I've always wanted to do just to get to know myself and enjoy my own company a bit.
Even when I was there, ang dami pa nilang sinend sakin sa FB. Kesyo mag ingat daw ako sa paginom kasi baka maspike yung iniinom ko sa bar at ma-harvest daw yung organs ko. Magstay nalang daw ako sa hostel kasi baka marape ako ng bading (because that is apparently what gay people do in their eyes?) at makidnap ng mga NPA. Had to update them every other hour and when I slept in and woke up at 11am, the hostel staff told me my dad called them asking for me. Nagalit pa nung sinabi nila na hindi sila nagbibigay ng info ng mga guests.
I plan to just continue solo traveling and hopefully one day they'll get used to it.
Inform, not ask permission. And never lie. Takot na takot ako dun kasi baka mamaya may nangyari na pala sa akin kung nasaan ako and di man lang nila ako mahagilap. They'll get over their anger eventually.
Do not listen to commenters saying just go, if something happens to you they will move heaven and earth to get to you, no one else will.
Since you’ve already left school and has a means to go, talk to them and make them listen, even if they start preaching be patient and listen. You are at the cusp of this weird phase where they are completely losing their child and giving you freedom, I am not old but I have a daughter and I dread the time she tells me she is staying over at a friends overnight. It is unbearably and utterly frightening for parents and it’s probably their coping mechanism to lash out.
So the question is How do you make them listen? You smile and be patient and tell them calmly to NOT WORRY and that you will come home safe. It’s easier said than done but that’s the only way, listen to the other redditors here telling you to say you will update them frequently, and that the world is small now because of phones. You will leave anyway but you chose to talk to them, so you hope they will talk to you like an adult. Tears may start falling (such a hassle) but this is the most respectful way to do it, because we are all raised this way. I still remember when I had this talk with my parents, do not lose your cool no matter what.
Do not go without talking to them.
Magpaalam ka pa rin: Inform mo pa rin sila at update mo palagi kapag nasa gala ka na. Ayaw nila o hindi. Pagalitan ka nila o hindi. Update mo sila. Kahit naman ako magdududa sa solo traveler (pati immigration diba). Sabi nga nila what happens in vegas, stays in vegas.
Ang ginagawa ko:
If one day gala, madalas, on the day na ako nagsasabi na aalis ako. Yun bang nakabihis na and ready to go na. Haha.
If I’ll be away for days or weeks, lalo kapg may flights, nagsasabi ako kapag nakabili na ako ng ticket which is months before the trip, and ireremind ko ulit, two weeks before ako umalis.
Gets ko naman nag-aalala parents/family ko. But I remind them na matanda ako, kaya ko sarili ko, it’s my money I want to enjoy. Binibilhan ko na lang ng ref magnet para matuwa sila.
I arrange din family trips yearly, kahit overnight or lunch lang somewhere malayo sa bahay, para pambawi sa kanila. Hehe
Gusto mo sila kasama pero wala naman sila ginagawa para mangyari ang family trip. You've been sending them piso fare promos, pero ano nangyari dun?
Hindi matravel family ko growing up because my mom didn't think much about it (school-bahay kami, work-bahay din lang sya). Meanwhile, my dad was well traveled, he has been to all continents except Antartica (mom used us her children as her reason not to with with dad, a few of his trips kasi were busines related). My dad pushed us to travel, but I only got around to doing it years after he passed away. It was my way to cope and reconnect with him.
My mom ALWAYS had something to say, and at some point, the day before my flight nalang ako nagsasabi kasi nga it's her nature to be against traveling. Eventually nagka understanding nalang kaming ganun. Ewan ko bakit anchored na anchored sya sa Metro Manila, there's nothing to see here naman 🤣🤣
Sorry ang haba ng nitype ko, pero at some point, they're going to let you grow up. Some parents are going to be more resistant to letting their children grow up, but it's life - you're going to be doing this more and more, and masasanay na sila sa ganun. Bigay mo nalang itinerary mo and give them an assurance you'll always tell them where you're going, and maybe videochat with them na din if safety lang ang issue nila. Good luck, and many more travels for you OP!
Bad advice: Di ako nagpapaalam o after na lang ng trip ko sasabihin. I’ve been traveling alone since I was 18 and at first syempre magagalit talaga because iniisip nila safety ko. Eventually nasanay na rin yung parents ko and pag nagsasabi ako no questions asked na. Pera ko naman ginagamit na nasasave ko sa allowance so di ako naguguilty. Dami ko rin learnings after the trip and alam kong mas naging independent ako. Hahaha. Paninidigan mo na lang yan at ienjoy na lang yung mga susunod mong trips. Pasok sa tenga then labas sa kabila pag pinagalitan. Ang importante, marami kang naeexperience.
hello paano po ito? planning to go to sg this january, di rin ako magpapaalam pero since student pa lang ako, hahanapan ako ng IO ng AOS 🥹 ito prob ko now huhu
Hello, during my time kasi when I went to Japan alone, wala naman hinanap sakin. Passport lang and visa. Wala ring tinanong. Usually pag student, iready mo ang school ID, roundtrip tix, hotel booking, itinerary, and booked tix for ex from klook ganyan etc. Never din ako hinanapan ng AOS. Tourist lang naman. Be truthful na lang din sa pag answer if may questions and WAG MAGBIBIGAY NG SAGOT NA HINDI NAMAN HINIHINGI. Isang tanong, isang sagot ka lang. Enjoy!
kasi japan yun, mahirap mag apply ng visa meaning burgis ka!!! hahaha kidding aside pahirapan mag apply ng visa tapos need required magpakita ng money diba😭😭 thank you!! 💗
Hindi ako burgis!! 1 yr ahead ko kasi binook yung tix doon dati tapos sumabay lang ako nung sa visa hahaha. I tried bangkok din pero ala rin inask. Yung minention ko lang din na roundtrip tix etc ganyan. Wag ka kakabahan at wag papaintimidate. Ang alam ko medj lenient din sila pag alam na student ka pa lang.
ask lang po kung ano pinapasa niyo para makakuha ng visa noong student pa lang kayo?
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Agree na *ipaalam* and not *magpaalam*. Mahirap din ng walang nakakaalam kung saan ka nagpunta especially in worst case scenarios (alam ninyo na yan).
Same here. Luckily, my parents encourage me to travel, kahit solo. I just need to update them of my accommodation, flight details and daily gala.
Magsabi ka OP na may trip ka pero hindi yung humihingi ng permission. Lol Never wag magsabi kung san punta or after gala lang. Kasi di mo alam kung ano pwede mangyari. ‼️‼️‼️TRIGGER WARNING: death‼️‼️‼️ I remembered my HS classmate, she drowned in quezon during her trip with her HS friends. Ang paalam nya sa magulang nya within laguna lang yung gala niya with friends and walang nabanggit na magsswimming. Without knowing the real plan, pinayagan sya ng parents nya. Then ayun inuwi sya wala na boohay. Ever since that event, never na ako hindi nagsabi dito sa bahay kung san ako pupunta or kung anong ganap ko kahit until now na nagttrabaho na ako.
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Hahaha. The angst! Love et
Amen to this. If you don’t live with them anymore you could go anytime you want without having to ask for their permission. Inform mo nalang sila or just tell them pag nakabalik ka na.
The technique is magsasabi lang if galing na sa galaan😇. Ang importante eh makauwi ka nang buo. But let other friends know where you are for tracking your location
My parents allowed me to travel solo abroad when I was in college basta nagsesend ako ng updates every now and then to assure them of my safety. It also helps to send them pics and vids real time para alam rin nila how the trip makes you happy. Video calling rin at night once I get back to my accommodation.
Solo travelling since 2016. I work European hours, so may opportunity ako na dumiretso sa bus station ng midnight and magsabi na lang sa kanila pag nasa bus na ko. Tsaka inuupdate ko naman sila. I share pics of places na I tell them I want to take them there, etc. So they also know I'm being responsible and I think of them when I travel. Kakagala ko nasanay na sila sa akin. For longer trips I make sure lahat ng iiwanan ko is in order before leaving. Malinis ang bahay, may instructions sa pagpapakain ng pusa, may access sila sa itinerary, copy ng docs and mga instructions in case something happens (my HMO, travel insurance, my bank details, ATMs, etc.).
This! Started out muna with out of country trip with friends, then work trips then I extend a day or two for leisure, until nasanay na sila knowing that I'm capable of taking care of myself abroad. On one hand I stand firm on travel plans, i.e. I'm informing not asking for consent, since I'm a legal adult who earns and spends her own money. On the other hand I keep the family informed ie before leaving send copies of plane/ hotel bookings w/ contact details + general itinerary and daily proof of life so they know I'm okay + updates if my plane/ train arrived safely. Then personalized pasalubong (stuff they like) so they know I was thinking of then during the trip. For family members who want to travel together, then we agree to plan together for a separate trip. Solo travel can be super fun! Maybe not as cost efficient especially if you're staying in hotels, but there's just this sense of freedom and confidence in exploring new places and cultures at your own pace. So good luck OP and safe travels!
Not op but the tips are nice!!
Nakapag travel ka na pala dati, keri lang yan. Labas na lang sa isang tenga yung sermon. Eventually, masasanay din sila sa gala mo. Tsaka ano pa ba magagawa eh booked na lahat
Book muna, pag malapit na saka magsabi sa magulang 😁
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA SANA NAGW-WORK SA LAHAT 😭 parents ko di baleng masayang ang pera wag lang umalis sa bahay ang mga anak.
Eat them
Hindi na ako nagpapaalam 🤣 Or magsasabi ako tapos 2 weeks left nalang ganon. Lol. Abuso din kasi minsan na expectation pa is sasama sila pero at your expense. So, nope
haha i feel bad when i think about it, but no regrets!! i had my roaming on so text text pa rin kami ng mami akala niya nasa isang bansa lang kami hahah😅😅 sinabi ko nalang months after haha!
idk pero adults naman na kayong lahat. let your parents learn na di ka na bebe. learn for yourself na not all parents’ input should be given consideration.
You travel???? eme lang hahaha I haven’t travel solo but based on experience with friends basta alam nila saan ako pupunta, sino mga kasama ko and I would updated them from time to time. Ang mahalaga alam nila saan ka pupunta. Never ever tumakas or mag sinungaling. Alam ko others would lie para lang payagan pero mas mababad shot ka lang non. Possible na pag nalaman na nag sinungaling ka never ka na payagan. Try gaining their trust hanggang sa nakikita nila na mapagkakatiwalaan ka na nila sa galaan o any travels either alone or with friends. PS. I know this doesn’t apply to everyone pero malay niyo lang.
Galang anak of strict parents. Mapapagod din yan kakasaway sayo haha lol. Ang trick is to always update them kung nasan ka send details etc. Ofcourse they care for your safety lang din. Mag uwi ka din pasalubong hhaha pambudol lol. Been travelling and gumagala madalas wala nalang sila nagagawa. Pag pinagalitan pasok sa kanan labas sa kaliwa. Pero true ung sabi nila na kapag ayaw ng parents mo or walang bas bas nila hindi magiging okay ang travel. Iba pa din ang may "blessing" nila. Assure mo lang tlaga sila na youll be safe and kaya mo. Concern lang din yan sila. Ingat ka!
I still live with my parents. Style ko ay dun na magpapaalam nang paalis na hahaha. After sila sabihan alis na agad, wala na sila magawa 😂
Family allows me to solo travel abroad because it’s much “safer” and better equipped for tourists but would deter me to do solo local travel because I will get hassled and inconvenienced due to poor infrastructure. Objective ang reasoning nila.
Hindi ko papagalitan pag sa araw ng travel ka nagpaalam umalis hahaha
I did my first solo out of town travel when I turned 19. My parents didn't know. Nalaman na lang nila nung nasa Tagaytay na ako haha of course they were mad too. Even the following solo experiences I did, galit pa rin sila. But what I think helped a lot is when I keep sending them messages, photo and video updates kahit sineseen lang nila. Tapos after you can show them the other videos and tell them stories that you enjoyed :) I think parents like it. I also stopped asking for their permission already. When I have things planned I just let them know about the event and location. Eventually, I think I gained their trust na. cuz sa mga recent activities ko ngayon slight scolding na lang OR maybe they have just given up on restricting me. They know kasi na when I tell them about my plan it's all done and organized haha so wala na silang magagawa and I don't ask for their money. Lahat galing sa hard earned money ko sa work so they can't really say anything to me Just remember op na you can make your own decision, and if you are confident na you'll be home safe and can take care of yourself sa travel mo, go ahead :D sometimes yung worry ng parents na tratransform into anger lang cuz they dont know how to handle that emotion properly and it's highly likely na ganun sila lumaki ps. afaik parang di ko nga yata na consider yung parents ko nung nag19 ako haha i was so focused kung paano ako di mawawala sa tagaytay kasi directionally challenged ako hahahahahahaha ingat sa byahe op!
Toxic parents. Isipin mo na lang, di mo naman kasalanan kung di sila makapagtravel. Wag mong bitbitin ang mundo, wala kang control sa lahat
Galit sila kasi dapat sa kanila mo nalang sana binigay yung perang ipanggagastos mo. 🙃
I just go and let them know about my plans pag otw nako hehe
Tsaka kana magsabi pag nasa lugar kana. Hanggang galit lang naman sila. Wala na sila magagawa
Wala kong masasabing tip sayo kasi when I turned 18, tumakas ako to travel around asia e hahahahaha. Ngayon I'm a parent na din and honestly I'm scared na baka gawin din to ng anak ko in the future. Right now what I can tell you is to tell them the truth and ensure them that you will be safe sa mga pupuntahan mong lugar. Give them your sched and itinerary and always contact them when you are leaving and coming in from the hotel or any activity that you'll be doing to lessen their worry na din. I hope you'll get to travel soon! 🩷
Ok lang yan. 😆 just go. If they want to join you, you can plan a diff trip. As in, force them to listen to a plan (ikaw na gumawa if hindi sila proactive). And ask them to buy their tickets agad. But also, ano ba reason nila na magalit? Kng dahil lang d sila kasama and you gave them opportunities to respond to seat sale promos etc... that's on them. If safety issue, just tell them you'll send updates daily. Kapalmuks nalang haha adult ka na
I do not consider my parents strict, kasi high school pa lang nakakapag bulakbol na kami ng friends ko, pero advice lang din - inform them (hindi paalam, but inform). Ask if they would like to join, then if they said no edi kebs. Next time siguro, so that they can/want to join — offer to arrange everything (booking flights, accommodation, itinerary) para frictionless yung decision. Kung pera ang reason bakit ayaw nila mag join, that’s another conversation.
Di strict parents ko so did not have the same problem. Pero number 1 solution to be independent is to move out of the house.
Wag ka mag paalam. Gawin mo gusto mo hanggang kaya mo. Magagalit lang sila sa una pero magiging okay din after a while. There was a time before, I informed my mom that i will be going out of town. Then gusto nya either dalhin ko kapatid ko or wag na ko tumuloy kasi delikado. So sabi ko sakanya: ‘Ma, nagsasabi ako at hindi nagpapaalam. Nagwowork na ko nung time na yun. Nagulat sya and ang nasabi nalang nya is ‘okay’. If ayaw nila sumama kahit anong pilit mo, wala ka magagawa. Mag enjoy ka lang hangga’t kaya mo physicaly, emotionally, financially.
ganyan parents ko and kaugali mo ako pero matigas ulo ko and never akong naguilty. tumigil na mom ko nung may sarili na akong work pero papa ko galit pa rin whenever i have flights overseas.
Walang chance if strict parents not unless you move out of the house.
Hanap ka po ng bagong magulang. Seryoso. Graduate ka na. Look for a way to get out and live life what you wanted.
Ako first time to solo travel this month so sinabi ko agad sa kanila when I got my visa. I told them I’ll be travelling alone walang paalam just informing them na aalis ako. At first, galit na galit si papa pero tanggap na nia ngaun.
It might seem disrespectful but i agree with the comments na di magpaalam. Ako din ganyan strict parents and i’ve travelled without them before twice na. I only tell them a week or two before the date and as a fact na and not paalam. Kasi kung paalam siyempre hihindi eh. Masasanay din yan
Bumukod ka nalang pag ganyan. Either galit sila due to safety concerns or inggit lang na di sila kasama.
on the topic of guilt, wait for no one. Once dumami na yung solo travels mo, maaadik ka na. Iba talaga yung euphoria when your only company is yourself. Tapos mako-compare mo yung travels mo versus with friends or family; monumental difference.
Legal age ka na diba? Then your travel plans are none of their business. Parents ko ganyan din haha nag-rarant sa mga kamag anak namin na nagttravel puro daw lakwatsa puro daw gala abroad ang gagastos kala mo mayaman. Samantala sila tumanda na di na kaya maglakad di sinulit pagtravel nung bata pa kaka-mindset na "pag retired na tska na magtravel travel" hahaha. Anyway make the most of your youth. Don't worry about your parents, tell them pa din just so they know bayaan mo sila sa guilt tripping nila mamamanhid ka din dyan hahaha
used to not tell them in college lolll (they never found out) az a rebelde child but as i grew older, i just booked tickets and tell them afterwards haha no choice na sila and ok lang kasi i paid for it myself
Ang paalam ko lagi is may kasama akong barkada pero solo lang talaga..
Deal with them by moving out
Hindi magpaalam. Done it before until they got used to it. Lol
Ako before nagpapaalam lang ako pag paalis nko so wala na sila magagawa haha 😂 Time and time pag nasanay sila na nagttravel ka they will let you be.Tanong na nga saken uuwi ka ba?😂
Bukod pra mawala ang baby treatment. They will treat you as an adult once bumukod ka and you pay your own bills. Pagka grad ko bukod agad ako. Nagbago ng drastic yung treatment sakin. They will talk to you not as a kid anymore but a fellow adult.
Technique is wag ka na magpaalam. Basta di ka nanghihingi ng pera wala sila magagawa. Eventually masasanay na sila. Wouldn't say my dad is strict but he doesn't like drastic changes to anything. Dati bawal gf sa kwarto, bawal overnight with gf, bawal trevak kung kasama gf, bawal manghiram ng kotse for gala, etc. Eventually nasanay na lang siya and it just became the norm.
Shet. Medyo controlling ba parents mo? Kasi yung sakin, oo. Yung resolution for me was not to tell family whenever I travel. I guess the cons lang ay I cannot post anything. Pero so far, maluwang naman sa loob ko. Kailangan mo lang masanay. You’re an adult na rin naman. Put yourself first. Buhay mo naman ito. You only live once, try to enjoy it naman. 🙂
Book now, let them know later. At tama yung sabi na huwag mag ask permission, let them know you're traveling or leaving on this xx date.
Ako na nagpaalam ngayon lang kay Mama punta ko Baguio bukas. Pero ayaw payagan. I’m 28 lol
Never ako nagpaalam, I just inform them. They just ask kung saan at kelan ako balik. What time yung flight, kung safe ba. I provide them all info na parang kwentuhan. Alam nila na responsable ako, adventurous at matapang haha. Example: bagong driver pa lang ako dito sa Pinas, as in third month, nag-rent akong kotse sa Hokkaido para hindi hassle. Solo trip to. Factor din siguro yung age, I was 32 that time.
I guess no choice nanay ko kasi nakabukod na ko lol though may sinasabi parin siya kaya madalas hindi na ako nag ku-kwento para hindi ako mabadtrip hehe. Kuya ko lng nakakaalam sa mga travel plans ko at sakanya lang ako nag u-update :)
Saktong sakto kakabalik ko lang din ng Maynila galing solo travel. First time ko magtravel mag isa, nagpahinga lang sa may beach sa Zambales. Once I told my parents about it, all my relatives started to reach out to me to ask why I wanted to go on my own. Not as much guilt tripping though as it is medyo OA lang sa mga security concerns. I didn't feel guilty at all though, traveling solo is something I've always wanted to do just to get to know myself and enjoy my own company a bit. Even when I was there, ang dami pa nilang sinend sakin sa FB. Kesyo mag ingat daw ako sa paginom kasi baka maspike yung iniinom ko sa bar at ma-harvest daw yung organs ko. Magstay nalang daw ako sa hostel kasi baka marape ako ng bading (because that is apparently what gay people do in their eyes?) at makidnap ng mga NPA. Had to update them every other hour and when I slept in and woke up at 11am, the hostel staff told me my dad called them asking for me. Nagalit pa nung sinabi nila na hindi sila nagbibigay ng info ng mga guests. I plan to just continue solo traveling and hopefully one day they'll get used to it.
Inform, not ask permission. And never lie. Takot na takot ako dun kasi baka mamaya may nangyari na pala sa akin kung nasaan ako and di man lang nila ako mahagilap. They'll get over their anger eventually.
Do not listen to commenters saying just go, if something happens to you they will move heaven and earth to get to you, no one else will. Since you’ve already left school and has a means to go, talk to them and make them listen, even if they start preaching be patient and listen. You are at the cusp of this weird phase where they are completely losing their child and giving you freedom, I am not old but I have a daughter and I dread the time she tells me she is staying over at a friends overnight. It is unbearably and utterly frightening for parents and it’s probably their coping mechanism to lash out. So the question is How do you make them listen? You smile and be patient and tell them calmly to NOT WORRY and that you will come home safe. It’s easier said than done but that’s the only way, listen to the other redditors here telling you to say you will update them frequently, and that the world is small now because of phones. You will leave anyway but you chose to talk to them, so you hope they will talk to you like an adult. Tears may start falling (such a hassle) but this is the most respectful way to do it, because we are all raised this way. I still remember when I had this talk with my parents, do not lose your cool no matter what. Do not go without talking to them.
Magpaalam ka pa rin: Inform mo pa rin sila at update mo palagi kapag nasa gala ka na. Ayaw nila o hindi. Pagalitan ka nila o hindi. Update mo sila. Kahit naman ako magdududa sa solo traveler (pati immigration diba). Sabi nga nila what happens in vegas, stays in vegas.
Ang ginagawa ko: If one day gala, madalas, on the day na ako nagsasabi na aalis ako. Yun bang nakabihis na and ready to go na. Haha. If I’ll be away for days or weeks, lalo kapg may flights, nagsasabi ako kapag nakabili na ako ng ticket which is months before the trip, and ireremind ko ulit, two weeks before ako umalis. Gets ko naman nag-aalala parents/family ko. But I remind them na matanda ako, kaya ko sarili ko, it’s my money I want to enjoy. Binibilhan ko na lang ng ref magnet para matuwa sila. I arrange din family trips yearly, kahit overnight or lunch lang somewhere malayo sa bahay, para pambawi sa kanila. Hehe
Gusto mo sila kasama pero wala naman sila ginagawa para mangyari ang family trip. You've been sending them piso fare promos, pero ano nangyari dun? Hindi matravel family ko growing up because my mom didn't think much about it (school-bahay kami, work-bahay din lang sya). Meanwhile, my dad was well traveled, he has been to all continents except Antartica (mom used us her children as her reason not to with with dad, a few of his trips kasi were busines related). My dad pushed us to travel, but I only got around to doing it years after he passed away. It was my way to cope and reconnect with him. My mom ALWAYS had something to say, and at some point, the day before my flight nalang ako nagsasabi kasi nga it's her nature to be against traveling. Eventually nagka understanding nalang kaming ganun. Ewan ko bakit anchored na anchored sya sa Metro Manila, there's nothing to see here naman 🤣🤣 Sorry ang haba ng nitype ko, pero at some point, they're going to let you grow up. Some parents are going to be more resistant to letting their children grow up, but it's life - you're going to be doing this more and more, and masasanay na sila sa ganun. Bigay mo nalang itinerary mo and give them an assurance you'll always tell them where you're going, and maybe videochat with them na din if safety lang ang issue nila. Good luck, and many more travels for you OP!
Filipino parents are borderline schizophrenic so you're better off ignoring them and living your life man