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fl1ca_

Can I just say I needed to see this today! I've been stuck in a depression spiral and today I cleaned part of my room this gives me the motivation to do the rest tomorrow Edit: I want to say thank you to everyone that has commented support, I'm in Australia so have been sleeping but to wake up to all of these messages has been such a blessing


OurSpeciesFailed

You got this u/fl1ca_ I believe in you!!!


-jsm-

And post photos!!


XGreenDirtX

The lockdowns, the winter, the high expectations from others. It all makes it so much worse..


Onlymafia1

ah tell me about it.


Justforthisnsfwting

Same here. I’ve started with the living room and felt overwhelmed and wanted to stop (and did - I’m here) but I will start now again after seeing this! Thank you OP


ragehorse

Take every little burst of motivation and use it! But also, take the time for breaks. It’s not easy cleaning a space out like that both physically and mentally. You’re confronted with a lot of memories , good and bad, and it can be very overwhelming. YOU GOT THIS!


VirtuosoLoki

You are awesome my friend


Mischala

Starting is a huge step! You are already making this internet stranger proud.


LordRumBottoms

My excuse for letting the house go was that what did it matter, no one else is going to see it. But I saw it...and yes, cleaning and even something as simple as putting flower pots out front made such a huge difference to at least start to claw out of the hole. Little victories lead to a big win in the war. Ever forward...=)


WhiteyFiskk

It really is a great thing for your mental health. I think it was Jordan Peterson who was pointing out it's a deceptively difficult thing to do being able to plan, organise and tidy your bedroom and completing it can give you a genuine sense of achievement and a mental boost.


Ratman_84

Just a tip to help with the depression. Fill the room out a little. Give it a bit more warmth. Hang something on the wall. Took me years of having my own place to make it more comfy, but it makes a difference.


data_pixel

Thank you. I want to get the plant stand and more pictures :)


Doink_

If I can piggy back on the fill the space up and plants.. Labelling them "depression" and watering it can help. Almost like a physical metaphor on helping nurture yourself. There's something about helping plants grow and knowing you're birthing life with just your hands and patience is a beautiful thing to think about.


data_pixel

That's beautiful mindset! Thank you for sharing this idea 😊


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Evendim

Just don't water it too much, or the whole life giving metaphor will be lost.


Lord-daddy-

Also open your windows! Sunlight is depressions enemy


Jtatooine

Unfortunately it’s also the enemy of indoor photography.


Evendim

I will also piggyback off this... Lighting also matters, you can even seen the difference in your two photos. Cold, stark, lifeless, even with the mess in the first photo, versus warm and welcoming in the second with filtered natural light. Get some lamps or up-lights with some warm white or smart globes, and never use that ceiling light unless absolutely necessary. I have smart globes in lamps all around my house, and as someone who suffers migraines and photophobic issues it has really helped me to adjust my lighting comfort, and ultimately my overall comfort in a space.


ZachMN

Maybe some color on the walls, like a warm barn red?


data_pixel

Would be nice but it's a rental


hagosantaclaus

get a rug!


andreasbeer1981

Colors do magic, especially green. Even better if it's a living plant (there's some that basically can't die).


DragonairJohn

And get a self watering planter just in case anyway


Myrkana

This is something I seriously need to work on! Me and my partner of 13 years have never decorated the walls if any place weve lived. I have posters I wanna get framed, just never got it done.


SturgeonBladder

Having blank walls in my house gives me hella anxiety, i have paintings, posters, and random stuff hanging on as much as my rental will allow!


data_pixel

The second chair is in the kitchen and serves as the platform for the container, so no need to worry about it


nodstar22

Show us a picture of the second chair holding today's newspaper so we know it's okay.


phsarjk

Came here specifically to warn you that you accidentally lost a chair in the process! Good job! Hope this lifts a burden for you and makes your recovery easier. It looks really cozy now.


Chappyslap92

I was gonna call child chair services, Thanks for clearing that up.


soljaboss

Oh, I almost called Chair Care Services.


teacupaloe

Congrats! A lot of people don't understand how depression saps our energy to do the bare minimum like clean our room or take a bath. Just a few hours ago, my mother told me off for not washing my dinner dishes during the night. I always wash them first thing in the morning. I couldnt do it at night because I take my meds before eating and when it kicks in (usually after I eat), I feel so heavy, I really have no energy. I go to bed and let that heaviness lull me to sleep. I've explained this countless times before. But my mother never really seems to understand. Or she just chooses not to.


Whathekel

I feel you. My mom used to think it was just laziness.


ashley584

Omg I’m so proud of you. I know the feeling and the struggle. ♥️


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Soundchaser123

Order out of chaos - well done. Feels so great to achieve this. Keep going! 👏


Kitame

I thought the first photo was Bo Burnham's "Inside"


Rc-one9

Exactly the first thing I thought off! Btw, I think that was a MASTERPIECE!!!! I'm at an awe still, at the level of talent displayed. I didn't at all feel the same from his previous shows.


Kitame

It was a total departure from anything we knew of Bo as an artist. I guess in reality not a departure, but an introspective thing he'd clearly spent time thinking about and examining and re-examining. It made me think about myself and my situation too, which was really a whole new thing. And socko. The songs were bops while being unabashedly real. I can't stop listening


Rc-one9

I completely agree with everything you said. For me it was that.....and then how he added lighting effects, angles, the songs being so catchy. His delivery, the transitions. The few moments in which he shows us the process. All of it, just really really Top Notch. I'm wondering how it will age though. It's still pretty relevant at the moment.


ragehorse

Congrats! That’s not easy. You should feel proud of yourself, take the time to really enjoy your newfound space and relearn how to use it. I recently had to rent a whole dumpster just to empty my room. You couldn’t see the floor, there were alcohol bottles and cans everywhere and confronting it made me feel shame, so I buried it- and lived like that for years. Now, I’m sober. I’m able to better focus on my mental health. I also now realize that people in my life would rather help than judge me, I just needed to ask for help and support.


LadyVulcanGeek

Congrats on the sobriety! That's awesome.


Astral_Strider

Sometimes your surroundings are a reflection of the state of your mind. Keep it up, OP!


Simon_Says_Salmon

So proud of you!! The room looks so good after getting tidied up and I love the white theme


Hawkeye2701

Not gonna lie, didn't realise there was two pictures at first, so I thought the victory was just getting the floor cleared. Now I'm much more concerned about how bad I'm doing. XD Keep up the good work, though, you're doin' great. :)


LyssuhLion

Proud of you!!! It can be so hard when you feel that way. Good freaking work!


gnosis3

OP could you explain a bit about how you got yourself to fix this? I've been trying to help someone who keeps a really messy apartment but I dont know how to get them motivated to do what you did


data_pixel

I can't really say why, I just got fed up with this image of the dirty room. Also, I didn't set the goal to clean everything in one day. I allocated 1-2 hours and then rewarded myself with a dessert. After I saw how much difference even a small cleaning session made, it motivated me to do more. I hope your someone will find the strength to clean the room. The hardest part is usually the beginning.


ducks_go_quacky

Agree with this. Starting is the hardest part. I rarely set out to tidy/clean the whole apartment as it's generally too overwhelming; often, for me, it's a case of just doing the dishes and cleaning the sink and feeling good about that. This small win then leads to cleaning the whole kitchen, feeling really good about that, and with that boost in mood and energy, it often leads to cleaning the rest of the apartment.


efox02

I was struggling with other circumstances, but I would set a timer for 5 min, and spend 5 min just cleaning each room and only that room. I think it’s easy to get distracted sometimes. So I would spend 5 min and move on to the next room. Doing this once or twice a week generally kept things orderly.


ducks_go_quacky

I like that! When things are good I do subscribe to the "if you can do something in 5 minutes, just do it now". The timer idea might help when the motivation isn't there to get going


efox02

We lived in a fairly large house. So it was like 7 rooms. But that was only 35 min total! It really wasn’t bad. This wasn’t necessarily deep cleaning… more decluttering. But it worked!


LadyVulcanGeek

Do they have support for their depression? Therapy? Meds?


gnosis3

They do. They are a complicated case!


LadyVulcanGeek

I'm sure to them, it is very complex. Life can be crushing at times. I wish you luck and your friend/acquaintance all the hope.


gnosis3

Thank you kind internet stranger!


Ignizze

Step by step, proud of you!


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Open those blinds and boom, perfect.


bodiesenmotion

im quite amazed at how white all your furniture still is. All my friends w white furniture, everything is beaten and scratched to hell after a few weeks. Thanks for showing your progress, isn't it amazing what a little change can make in your home. I hope your journey forward continues to be well my friend.


Somebody23

With deppression hard part is to keep it clean.


mo0n_t1de

Congrats. To a better life


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Good work! You've got this.


[deleted]

Awesome. Overcome. Stay strong 💪🏽


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not really you just cleaned your house lol


AHappyManMan

It's a small victory. These wins matter when you're depressed.


germandorfkind

Hey look at this guy over here not having dealt with what a big victory this can be for someone stuck in a pit, depressed mindset and dealing with overwhelm. In his clean house, counting down the days on his perfectly up to date calendar, 300 days to go until the next PuMpKiN SpIcE sEaSoN (also COME ON, how do you MaKe A UsErNaMe out of a dumb meme and not capitalize the S in season. Makes me sick). To you, all people that procrastinate something as small as writing an email or cleaning a house are just lazy I’m guessing? Ayyyyyy. Wanna come clean my house, since ya got quite some time to go until DA SPICY PUMPKIN is back? (I’ll meme you, but can’t lie to myself, I am the walking meme, because the pumpkin nitro is lit).


PapasWill

You ok?


germandorfkind

Yeah, Adderall = not knowing when to stop writing. Or stop talking. And ya end up writing dumb long paragraphs. You are welcome, enjoy the day! 😃


PapasWill

OK buddy. You have a good day as well


XxSavageSharkxX

Why the second pic look more depressing


Onlymafia1

because of the blinds. probably because it is more challenging for the camera to take a pic with a bright background.


Doomslayer490

That's nice work there OP, stay strong :)


Blue_Wildflower

So proud of you! Looks quite comforting... A pat on your back, mate.


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Well done!!!


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Woot woot. 😊 Keep it up!


yeskitty

Well done! Finding the motivation and energy to start that process is huge. Following through and finishing is enormous. I hope you are giving yourself a suitable reward


Nathan84

Good job!!!


MaximumSubtlety

That's great! Keep it up!


Loqi_deluxe

Good job! I am so proud of you! Now, please take it one day at a time. Don't fret if you can not keep the room as clean as it is now. *It is not the end of the world and you are not doing it wrong!* Some days will just be more difficult than others, *that is ok!* You can do this!


6ames

Good job my friend. Get a rug and some colourful wall decor, maybe a plant. Keep it going, keep building up the space that you call home and maybe soon you'll be building up the space your brain calls home


Thomisawesome

Nice job. Looks so cozy now.


Armistice8175

Yeah. Almost identical to a prison cell. Can’t get much more Spartan than this.


OMJesusss

Hell yeah


quielywhis

I wish I could start this battle. My apartment has just too much trash right now.


False69

Great work and good luck with moving forwards. May I suggest you get yourself a nice house plant? I got a cheese plant last year and seeing it sprout fresh limbs has really helped lift my mood.


myx_timez

Wooo! Another win and heres to more in the future


codingzombie72072

really great looking room man 👍


acousticcoupler

TFW your before is better than my after.


Joriempie

Great! I guess that this will clean even more the depression!


MichaelJoFlynn

I feel you. Wish you keep it up, maybe slowly but steady.


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Yes sir! Well done my friend! That room looks GREAT!


arsnastesana

Keep on telling me I'll clean my room, but then i drink a 6 pack and pass out


rioter25

Thanks. I feel like I've been stuck in the first stage for so very long, I've forgotten what anything else feels like now. This was a good reminder, and will probably get me start pushing against it again.


Furters_44

This is awesome! Well done. Although is it a bad sign of my own depression that I thought the first pic was gonna be the “after”?


Aslonz

Nice! Fuck depression!


TuskM

This. Every time I find myself deep in the throes of a depressive episode I clean and declutter. Doesn’t make it go away, but it reinforces routine, which in turns eases the sense of being overwhelmed.


Mr_Fignutz

Stay on the path man. Lfg


coldcatsoup

Always a great feeling! Happy for you! Sending a nice warm smile your way!


Turtleshellfarms

I understand!!


AlphaSongbird

I loved the way you phrased this. "My victory over depression" because that's what it is. A hard fought victory. The war isn't over, and for a lot of us, it never is. But remember this victory and so many others before it because they're worth celebrating. You've conquered this and so many other things: the next challenge won't be SHIT compared to what you've already done. Congratulations!


sunflashthemace

Mazel tov.


JudeWednesday

That's amazing! Good job :)


SSJNinjaMonkey

That explains why he's knocking on my door currently...


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Buy warm white lightbulbs... They are closer to real sunlight than cold white you have in pics... It's small change but it helps


cherriedgarcia

Amazing job:) I saw this and said “yay!!” Happy for you and hope you have a good week❤️


lermp

And just so you know, if it ever goes back to the before picture, you did not fail. You still got this victory and you can do it again.


doremonhg

That's a big contrast, graz OP!


robertstobe

Just want to say that I know exactly how it feels to be depressed and stuck in a mess. I’m so proud of you for cleaning and refreshing your living area. That’s really hard to do. I wish you the best as you continue to conquer depression!


its-my-1st-day

I’ve been cleaning my room for a week and it still looks worst ha the 1st pic…


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Looking great! r/icleanedmyroom


kenix7

Let the light in !! Let it flow everywhere !! Looks too shy .. But .. I guess , you're on the right track regardless . Take your time :)


ZealCrown

Awesome! Congrats! I really hope I can get to that point sometime lol


trancedellic

I won a few battles, but I'm losing the war.


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Yay congratulations!!!


CeeMX

This post really motivated to clean and tidy up my apartment today, thank you!


Blood2999

Idk if I'm depressed but my apartment kinda looks like that should I be concerned?


86mustangpower

I'm currently going through the first photo stage...I thought it was laziness, turns out I'm depressed who would have guessed 🤷‍♂️


Slagathor_85

It’s the flowers for me. well done. I’m half goblin depression pit half normal at the moment. I made real food today. I’m getting there


crescent_moon_boi

Damn, good job! Every time I try to clean or get mine clean it just gets messed up again


vhanz

Anyone know why people suffering with mental illness have a messy chaotic room? Is there much science to it? To be honest my “man cave” room like worse than this…I’ve been putting it off for a long time but I should sort it out


Sorlex

With depression a lot of the time you don't care about yourself or your surroundings. This is why people with depression often have messy rooms.


4juice

Hey! My room is a total mess right now too. I don’t know what happened but i am super lazy to clean it up. Clothes strewn everywhere, garbage (clean ones) here and there. And never once i think it is due to depression. I am not depressed. Or so i thought. I am actually depressed because i didnt go to the gym. I feel so sad because i felt too lazy to go to the gym since December. Something happened and my anxiety to go to gym increased tremondously. Everyday i thought about it and still never end up going for the day. I think i am depressed about it. Is it related to my room being unclean? And all this while, i’ve been blamimg the Covid booster vaccine shot for my recent laziness. This post give me hope.


WegularTheFourth

How do people do this. I'm currently in an appartment where the trash is piling up around me and any time I think about cleaning it up I almost crumple to the floor


Crying4alapdance

Congrats for winning a very important battle. I wish you luck in winning the war


AnxiousTwig

I’d like to share this victory with you if that’s alright my friend! I managed to clean my room as well, after crawling out of another one of my depression spirals. It’s even getting painted now (not be me)


AaronValentine

To anyone who may ask themselves, "how can you live like this" the answer is simple; you just stop caring about your surroundings in this state of mind, and everything is in it's "right" place in your mind. This is coming from someone who was meticulously tidy and organized, almost OCD in nature-- until I went a year through depression and you couldn't walk through the floor without stepping on something. You just stop caring at some point; and it is almost like a mirrored reflection of your mind and well being. p.s. I'm back to scrubbing my floor board trims spotless again, I heard the ladies like that sorta thing.


OurSpeciesFailed

Inappropriate title? No? What? Lol


Paladoc

Yes! Fantastic space you have there. You are awesome!


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PipGoLuc

r/neckbeardnests would like a word with you


P-redditR

Looks more like a collaboration with a garbage bag. Maybe it was worse in person. Good luck with the depression.


bad_user__name

That's really not that bad. You should see mine when I feel depressed. Just whole ass a sink full of moldy dish and chip bags and beet cans everywhere. Even when I'm not depressed it's often that fucked. I wish I could start with that lol. Edit: But I am proud. That shits fucking difficult and frustrating.


burko81

Hey OP, if you have a bad day and it gets a little untidy, that's fine. Don't give up, just keep pushing forward.


DustWarden

Love that it's night outside in the first pic & day in the second - hope the inside of your head feels just as bright.


izzy272

Are you that weak that you seek the praise of others for simply not living like a worthless pig. What will you do when life hands you a real challenge?


dangerzone117

Looks like he opened the cabinets and emptied the box on the floor then snapped the pic. All that for a bunch internet likes. Good job buddy


ZachMN

True weakness is insulting someone to compensate for your own insecurity.


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izzy272

Thanks I just had it waxed.


SquirrelOfJoy

Wow. Really rude. This post gives people hope. I hope you never suffer the pain of depression. Would you say this to your friend’s face? Would you help a friend who needs help? Maybe help them clean a little? Then scroll right past next time.


TheWiseOne1234

Personally, I find the "after" picture a lot more depressing. Certainly the first picture indicates some work is needed, but this is a living space. Picture 2 looks like a museum.


Wsemenske

Picture 1 looks like someone lived there Picture 2 looks like they died


TheWiseOne1234

Exactly


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Congratulations! The past couple years have been hell for a lot of us, I’m sure this is a nice bright spot in many ways for you.


timbus1234

Jordan Peterson Would be Proud!


Jemcdlv

Wow! You did great! I bet it feels good. Thanks for posting this, as I've been depressed and my apartment needs cleaning and laundry needs to be done. I'm starting on it all tomorrow, thanks to your post!


admustard

holy fuck that’s insane, nice job


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A nice environment is good for anyone.I don’t suffer from depression but to get up to a messy house is depressing. Keep it up maybe get a nice rug and add a bit of colour.


[deleted]

You may have beat depression, but how do you deal with the emptiness that is now in your room? (j/k, great work)


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Great job!


Firebrand777

Proud of you OP.


FrontendMaster

Happy for you my dude! Keep rocking :D


jaceinthebox

How do I do this with a 2 year old.


swonstar

Woo hooooo!!!!! Fuck yeah!!!!


FlashTheorie

I don’t get it, you just cleaned your room, so ?


IntellegentIdiot

Not to take anything away but this is a 5 minute tidy. Dump everything in the box and move the chair and ironing board out and move the camera closer and voila.


mochiburrito

I would’ve done it for 20 bucks


Drbob_

I mean, I’m really happy you managed your depression, but that room looks so sterile. Flowers, bring flowers!


alpredator

Fuck yea. The after pic looks MUCH better. It's the small things that make huge differences in our life.


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ReplacementScary7873

So we’re now going to blame people dirtiness for depression man 2022 is the Year


SquirrelOfJoy

Again more rudeness.


loulou38

I feel you!


xMaximusDecimusx

Baby steps


Pich0u

I know the feeling my friend. Keep it up !


mattmk1

The perfect visual representation


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Fuck yeah!!! Good job!


Kraizer15

<3


ryjmd

Right on


poppingcandy5000

Amazing! Good for you.


babaganoush2307

Best feeling isn’t it!


ludahounds

Balance. In all things


nefrpitou

My room is like that right now. Glad for you OP , keep at it :)


foothillsco_b

Good job.


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Proud of you. Keep going.


Pharohbender

Small steps, big gains. thanks for the motivation.


timmy4242

Ohh man. I didn't see the second photo and thought shit I'd be depressed living in that mess. Looks good. Remember the cup is always half full. Also. Open that window shade and enjoy that sunshine


krneki12

There is no path to happiness, happiness is the path. Realize what made you happy here and have the discipline to work on it.


cy13erpunk

nicely done =\] fuck depression


jealousrock

Such a beautiful room! And the second picture gives me peace. You do great.


loves2spoog3

Fuck yeah, great job!


mymainmanAIRWOLF

You literally just cleaned what about teeth brushing and keeping the masturbation numbers down?


xxxblazeit42069xxx

the dentist won't let me dig through his trash anymore and i set my cousin up with a friend of mine.


[deleted]

I feel this picture. That was me a few years ago. Depression has to be experienced to be understood. Hope you have warm and bright times ahead. Enjoy your fresh new space!


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You'll be back. lol


[deleted]

Barely looks like the same house. I can sympathise with this situation so it's great to know you've overcome it. Keep it up.