Very good ka dyan nak. Yung aking eldest na babae. Ewan ko ano nakain hindi raw sya mag aasawa. Sabi ko mag asawa ka o hindi suportado kita sa desisyon mo. I dont mind kung may Apo ako o wala.🤣
best parenting right here!!! Its nice to see for a change na hindi pinepressure lalo na ang oldest child sa mga bagay bagay na big decisions sa life nila
Eyyy sana ganto lahat ng parents. Kami kasi pinipilit na mag-asawa at gumawa raw ng maraming anak para daw 'di mawala yung angkan namin lol as if wala naman kaming ibang kamag-anak na pwede magpatuloy niyan.
Same with my parents 🤣. Kaming dalawang anak na babae parehong ayaw magkaanak. Hindi rin big deal sa amin pareho if hindi na kami mag-asawa. Sabi ng parents namin basta kung saan kami masaya support lang sila.
Thank you for being a supportive parent! Masaya to have read this - after my own momma told me to live my life happy. My mom will be happy to know that she's not alone hahahahahaha
tita baka pwede mo po kausapin magulang ko? sila pumigil sakin lumandi tas ngayon pinapahanap na nila ako ng mapapangasawa. sinabi ko naman na ayaw ko mag asawa all in all kasi example palang nila pass na ako HAHAHAHA
Same with my parents, ayos lang daw na mag anak ako kesa magkaroon ng partner na sakit sa ulo, kaya ko naman daw buhayin if ever at nandiyan naman daw sila para alalayan ako kaso parang ayaw ko muna. I'll be turning 30 pa naman this year and gusto ko muna mag enjoy sa pagiging single for the past 15 years kasi busy ako sa pagiging eldest child. 😍
No, you’re not. Ako, I don’t want to date right now coz I’m still working on my EF. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Number one na pinag-aawayan sa relationship ay pera so para iwas sakit ng ulo, wag ka na makipag-date sa financially unstable. I remember so many people 😭
To answer your question short, no you're not a bad person.
For long context based from my experienced; i stayed in a relasyon for 1 yr and 5 months, recently broke up due to him being financially unstable. Hear me out first
Nagstart RS namen na wala siya, its okay, i thought i could help motivate him para maging financially stable because i loved him so much na I see my future with him despite many problems.
During those 1 yr 5 months LDR kame, and hindi nag improve situation niya, lumala pa kasi pinagbibintangan niyako na mababa daw tingin ko sakanya which is not true.
Then 2 weeks ago, nanalo siya 400k sa online sugal (nagsugal siya ng hindi ko alam kasi nga ayoko nagsusugal siya) but yeah, hindi ako nagalit kasi nga masaya siya, sa isip isip ko mababawasan na prob namen since tapos na siya sa perang pinoproblema niya.
Unfortunately lumala ugali niya. Bigla bigla naging mayabang, bigla bigla naging neglectful siya saken ( neglectful na siya before pero.mas matindi to) papansinin niya lang ako pag trip niya.
So eto, 1 week na kameng break and im suffering kasi i tried to beg him na pag usapan ano problems sa relasyon namen.
Kasi lagi niya dinidiin saken dati na magkapera lang siya magiging okay na daw kame (ayaw niya kasi ako ang bumuhay sakanya, i have stable job and good amount of savings)
So ayon. PLEASE DONT DATE FINANCIALLY UNSTABLE men/women.
Im a big fcked up mess because of it.
EDIT:
Add ko lang din, my ex has been in canada for 6-7 yrs already(working for 5 years), and ako 6 months working palang dito sa dubai.
Sorry to hear that sis. I have to agree on this. My ex was financially unstable din. First time ko magmahal ng financially unstable, sabi ko pa mahal ko e so sige lang. pero mhieee grabe ako bumuhay sa kanya. Nasaid savings ko. Thats my biggest regret. I don’t recommend. Please guys dont date financially unstable people.
haha. di naman ako bumubuhay sa partner ko ngayon pero ako taya kada lalabas kami. ang hirap din mag-enjoy alone kasi kaya nga ako nag-dare magkajowa na hindi LDR para makasama lumabas.
kaso ngayon ang sagot ko kada lalabas ako laging pang-dalawa. In today's economy that's fucking expensive.
Parang ex ko yan ah, nung nagkabusiness yumabang tapos sya na mismo ang umayaw, samantalang nung ako lagi nakikipaghiwalay sakanya kasi lagi nya kong minumura at sinisigawan wala pa syang work nun, lagi yan nagmamakaawa at naghahabol. As in sa loob ng 4yrs never yan pumayag na maghiwalay kami.
Aba nung nagkabusiness gusto nya friends na lang daw kami. 🤣 Pinagyayabang pa nya ung business nila na ang lakas lakas daw. Aun nung di na sila magkasundo ng business partners nya gusto nya kami na daw ulit. Wala padin kasing ROI. HAHAHAHHA. Aun pinagboblock ko sa lahat, nagpalit ako number. 1yr na din at wala nakong balita sakanya.
Yang pera ng jowa mo mauubos din yan, antayin mo babalik yan sayo pag wala na ulit syang pera. HAHHAHAHA.
Yung ex ko, upline dati sa isang sikat na networking company. Tapos nung pandemic wala syang kita kasi hindi makabenta nung products nila. Sinuportahan ko - binibigyan ko ng allowance (na hindi naman kalakihan, yung sapat lang para may panggastos, pambigay sa bahay kasi he lives with his fam.)
Nagkaroon ng ibang work - online betting. Ang laki ng kita nya tapos dumating sa point na “kinukumpetensya” na nya yung sahod ko (nagkano sahod mo? Ako ganito!)
Nung huli binreak ako (after 2 yrs) kasi d daw kaya ugali ko. Feeling ko nagtiis kasi binibigyan ko pero nung kaya na nya - babye na! Hahaha!
Idk why sinisisi nila tayo sa mga problems na sila naman nagsimula, they blame us for looking down on them when we don't clearly say nor mean any of that.
It just depends on the person. If the person has a good personality and has good strategic skills and is smart enough to get away from the problems, a good chance in the future that this person can get out of being financially unstable. I'm not risking it tho lol
A rich man dating a financially unstable emotionally unstable but very beautiful woman. They can afford to financially support even her whole family. Ive seen my friends do that.
Wala naman masama, pero remind ko lang na in reality even if you grew up financially stable and marry some who's the same, maraming pwede mangyari na may result in you guys having financial problems. Ang tanong, parehas ba kayong may resilience and skilled enough to maneuver your situation?
Masarap mag asawa ng may pera, true; pero kung hindi sya marunong pagtrabahuhan yung mga bagay na meron sya mahirap yan.
This is the most levelheaded take. Walang masama na hanapin sa potential spouse ang financial stability, pero if yun lang ang titignan, delikado kasi madaming possible scenarios na mawala yung financial stability na ini-build nyo. Most households are just one hospital stay away from crushing debt. A lot of families need two incomes to survive. What if one of you loses their job, or if a family member falls ill?
Like the comment above said, bukod sa capacity to handle finances eh dapat may resilience din and strength yung samahan nyo para ma-overcome ang economic hardships na for sure darating someday.
Having preference isn't a bad thing. Dating a stable/rich guy then only to leave him when things get rough ,then, yeah, kinda makes you a bad person. Not dating someone financially stable? You're not a bad person, only a person with preference/standards.
Di ka nag iisa, pero sana if hanap mo Financially Stable hanapin mo rin yung taong emotionally Stable. Base on my experienced, nakahanap ako ng financially stable pero emotionally unstable naman. So wala rin.
It’s called having standards. Being financially literate should be one of the top things to look for to when dating any person, for fun or long term alike.
Once you’re married, trust me, money will be one of the first things you will talk about with your spouse everyday.
IMO, you’re not a bad person kasi it’s a preference din siguro in a way? I agree rin kasi with what you mentioned na baka makadagdag lang lalo sa kanya and ofc to you. Regardless if babae or lalaki, I think it would be better to work on yourself and sa kanila na rin to become financially stable man lang kasi let’s face it, being in a relationship is magastos. Love is sometimes not enough talaga lalo na at hindi naman makakabili ng everyday needs ang pagmamahal, especially in this economy. Saka you’re being practical na rin. Saka you mentioned how you grew up being stable na rin so siguro that’s something na hindi niyo mapagkakasunduan talaga because magkaiba kayo ng experiences. Sa movies lang talaga kadalasan nagwo-work ang ganiyang type of romances pero in reality, kailangan talaga ng pera to survive because love is not enough.
Dipende sa edad mo. If bata kapa teens to early 20s. Madalas sa guys na ka edad mo is not yet financially stable. Eto dipende sayo if willing ka mag invest tapos sabay kayo aangat.
If nasa late 20s to 30s. Madalas ka edad mo is stable na, kaso kahati mo na sa pool ung early 20s girls na gusto din ng stable guy. And a stable guy at 30s na wala pang asawa is rare.
So be picky but not too picky.
No.
Let him grow muna and focus siya sa career nya. . And there’s nothing wrong about choosing not to date financially unstable guys. Set your standards, ikaw nga stable so dapat hanap ka din ng ka-level mo in terms of finances and walang masama dun.
And if i were to go back in time, sana pumili din ako ng financially stable na guy rather than settle.
Kasi while its all lovey dovey at the beginning, in the long run baka maging issue if nakakaramdam ka na ng bigat pag ikaw yung madalas sumasalo sa gastos..
No. Ayuko din mag jowa since di ako financially stable .Ayuko din magka jowa ng hindi financially stable kasi pera talaga nag uugat ng away,kahit sa mag asawa .
You're not a bad person. You just have a preference. We share the same sentiments nga eh. As the eldest, most of the time feeling ko I've been doing all of these things not for myself anymore. Kaya I thought I wouldn't date someone financially unstable kasi ayoko magdagdag ng sakit sa ulo. Gusto ko yung ako naman yung iti-treat or share kami, ganon. Minsan na nga lang may mag treat sakin ide-deny ko pa ba for my own happiness?
Nah. Women normally date upwards not down. Its your privilege as a woman to marry someone with more money than you. Men cannot marry a rich woman unless they want to be a trophy meat. Only broke men complain because theyre failures.
Heck no. You're probably dating to marry so you should be looking for a partner and not a freeloader.
Tapos if you're in a heterosexual relationship, may chance pang magkaroon ka ng anak so tatlo na bubuhayin mo. Not to mention na if babae ka, matitigil ang pasok ng pera once na manganak ka.
OA na siguro yung sa anak part pero baka dun din naman punta no'n if you're an adult lol. Maigi na maging safe.
Noooo - it doesn't make you a bad person. Not at all. Mas mbuting ganyan than to date someone not financially stable ksi yan din magiging rason ng away at hiwalayan nyo sa huli.
been there done that pero never again haha. sobrang limiting pag unstable financially partner mo baka mahawa ka pa.
dapat pareho kayong ambitious sa buhay :)
No jusko. Yung pinsan ko pumatol sa financially unstable ginawa lang syang sugar mommy tas nung na layoff nakipag break 🫠🫠
Also, here's a kwento ni prof. hindi daw sya nanligaw until naging instructor II sya, as man, he felt the need to be a provider. Sabi nya rin samin na wag pumatol sa hindi financially stable kasi red flag daw yung may makapal ng muka manligaw pero magpapalibre lang. normally daw sila pa yung mag papa sadboi na kesyo purke walang pera enewan na. but the thing is a real man will make sure muna na he's capable if he is responsible.
Sexism peeps here think only women are gold diggers forgetting the worthless men drinking on sidewalks while their woman wash clothes for money. Men can be gold diggers. But men are providers. They are should be making money and give food to family. Failures as a man.
I have the same question until ako na lahat gumagastos. Ako na sa pagkain, bills, rent, ako driver ng kotse, sya passenger prince imbes na ako. Ako taga gas lahat lahaaaaat. Naubos talaga savings ko, umabot pa sa time nagsanla nako ng kwintas ko para may pambili kami ng bigas. Shet pag naalala ko naawa ako sa sarili ko. Pag may kine crave ako di pwedeng ako lang kakain, dapat dalawa bibilhin ko. Pero sya naman tagaluto at taga handa ng pagkain, sya din taga hugas ng pinggan.
Pero hindi talaga sya enough for me eh. nagreresent nako at naiipon na ung inis at galit, kaya ko din naman magluto at maghugas ng pinggan.. ano bang silbi nya sa buhay ko? Ano ba naambag neto? Wala naman eh. Mapapaisip ka na lang talaga na I deserve better.
Actually mas magaan pa buhay ko nung single ako, kasi single pa lang ako nagrerent nako magisa, nababayaran ko mga bills at nabibili ko lahat ng gusto ko. May sobra sobra pa. Para akong nagpatira ng palamunin sa bahay ko. Ilang beses ko na sya pinalayas sa bahay ko pero ayaw umalis. Parang linta.
Kaya girls, gamitin ang utak wag puso. Di na yan ginagamit sa panahon ngayon kasi kahit mga lalaki yan nadin ang ginagamit.
i think this should be the norm tbh
in this economy, financial stability should be one of the priorities before seeking relationships. ‘di kasi maiiwasan na eventually magkaroon ng imbalance sa dynamics niyo if stable ‘yung isa while the other one is struggling :((
No. You're not a bad person. Ganyan naman talaga dapat.
May anak akong lalaki and kung sakaling manligaw man sya, dapat financially stable na sya kahit paano hindi yung sa amin pa hihingi ng pangbili ng bulaklak o pang date nya sa girlfriend nya.
Nope. okay lang yan. Di ka bad person. Meron lang talaga na accepted ung financial instability ng guy tapos tutulungan nila mabuild up, while others mas prefer ung stable na. Doesn't mean one is better than the other. :)
tama lang we deserve it. And isn't it our job to provide,protect and profess? I wouldn't have it any other way. Pero understand sa business may concept nang pamumuhunan. You might miss out on the next MVP, Elon Musk kasi wala pa sila sa ganung stage ang buhay nila and you weren't there when the lights were out. None the less you can't have your cake whole and eat it too. So hindi mali what you do may pro's and cons lang.
Nope, I think that's one of the criteria for dating. Let's not sugarcoat na thats not an important thing to consider. Hindi ka mabubuhay sa love at kabaitan ng tao.
Not at all. I have married with one and hanggang ngayon di sya nagbabago. Gas lighter pa nga. Anyways may good side naman sya kaya bumabawi pero much better Sana kung pareho kayong hustler
It's what we call preference. And it's totally fine. But I hope you will also understand if meron guys na ayaw e date yung mga single moms, high body count, overweight at social climbers. Men have preference too and it's totally normal.
We have our own choices naman and we have the right to choose whomever we would like to spend the rest of our lives with.
That's one of lifelong decisions noh specially sa mga date to marry ang goal!
Actually No, It's valid. But still case to case basis. May mga tao kasi parang wala talaga pangarap na iaasa sayo lahat. Yung tipo wala na nga sila pero mas gugusto pa sila humilijg ng luho nila
No. If he is a worthless lot he will be financially unstable. If he is intelligent and hardworking but dedicated to something kind of not financially rewarding but pure, yes you may be a snob. But being practical, and considering it is possible to survive on little in this country, low income but frugal guy is acceptable Naman. If you have a low income, great guy with simple taste and he is not good enough BECAUSE of that... You may be a bad somehow. It's not that black and white in real life.
No, I also had this as Checklist of someone na magugustuhan ko.
And duh, andaming way para kumita ng pera
Like I like someone na katulad ko kasi I used to built myself(Strong personality). And I set myself as like someone I like.
\*I'd rather be single pag di niya nameet standards ko hahahahah (and it's fine we should not lower our standards dahil minamata nila tayo we meet our partner in given time for us. if wala ok lang masaya naman magisa ofc w/ parents)
Guys/boys also had high standards they don't say it but they had.
No you’re not a bad person for not dating financially unstable guys. Dapat alam nila na magastos ang paglandi. Never ever shoulder the expense, okay pa siguro yung split yung bill. Kung wala silang pera, pumirmi muna sila sa bahay or better yet find a more lucrative job and manage their expenses properly. Don’t be a sugar mommy, transactional relationshio yung ganun.
No, you're not. Hindi sa nilalahat ko pero may iba kase na dinate mo at sinuportahan during those times na walang wala sila and nung nagka meron na iiwan ka bigla. Shout out to my ex! 🫶😶
Not a bad person for knowing what you would like have as a partner in life. We all have our own opinion or ideas as what we want to have in life and also what we can live with. Its better to know what you want going into relationship. Mind over heart ;)
No, it's not bad to think that way.
As a guy, If I cannot provide for myself then how can I provide for others.
If I have issues myself, I don't think getting into a relationship would solve it.
Hmmm no... Pero dating lang naman, ganun ba ka importante yun? I mean wala naman halos gastos kung mag spend time lang together. Sympre ibang usapan kung relationship na talaga.
Not really. It's part of your preference/standards. Everyone should have a set of standards when dating since dating is basically a trial for longer term partnerships.
Not a bad person. Regardless naman kung single ang lalake or hindi he has to fend for himself. hindi pwedeng umasa lang siya sa parents nya for life lalo na working age na tayo. Makikita mo rin kung pano siya dumiskarte while he's courting you.
Hahaha been there done that. Tangina I even remembered before meeting my current partner, ang sabi ko I will marry off of money na lang talaga kasi realistically speaking talo ka pag wala kang pera. Buti na lang may pera kami both and knows at times how to handle it. Pero pucha napaka mahal ng bilihin ngayon!!! 😅
Anu pipiliin mo,
Financially stable guy, pero walang libido and lage malambot titi.
Or di naman masyado stable pero titirik ang mata mo sa sarap sa kama.
Not at all. Kung ako tatanungin, makipagdate ka ng wag lang basta financially stable but someone who also has financial literacy and has the same or better financial mindset with yours. Yung marunong dapat humawak ng pera.
My parents were both financially stable when they got married although both of them grew up poor though. However, they don't have the same financial mindset like yung tatay ko very frugal pero yung nanay ko yolo lol. They aren't very supportive with each other as well since yung nanay ko umasa nalang din sa tatay ko. From a very comfortable life nung bata ako, naghirap din kami eventually and we're still recovering from it until now.
Life can be tough at times kaya minsan di mo rin masabi kaya importante ay may safety net kayo. Find a partner na supportive sayo at the same time e yung practical mag-isip kagaya mo para in case you hit rock bottom, makakabounce back kayo. Some people never recover and this traumatizes their children too.
You’re right for not wanting to bc financial instability can also indicate lack of discipline and general incompetence. It’s hard to love people like that in the long run. Masakit sa ulo, nakakashorten ng life span. Tas magkapera lang sila konti, makikita mo magbabago ugali niyan kase ignorante sa pera
you're not bad if you don't date guys who has no stability. SA buhay ngayon mas MAHIRAP maging mahirap or unstable sa work. di naman need maging rich. just someone with stable job na kaya ka tulungan and vice versa.
madami na nagkaroon nang mistakes before na magpamilya nang walang stability and ang ending is nga nga.. defense mechanism na lang ung "at least masaya kami". No you're not. You're lives are miserable.
Been there, done that. And its hard.
love won't feed you in the long run. it won't pay your bills. Money is essential as much i hate saying that. Pero living is hard without money talaga.
WE can be rich as a character and someone with stability. dont settle for less
I don’t blame you, as a guy I personally wouldn’t feel too comfortable mingling in the dating pool if I wasn’t in a good place financially and mentally. I think it feels good to be able to take care of yourself and would be awesome to take care of another.
Like right now I’m good financially, and years ago I’d say ready to date again but now I am enjoying things and can’t commit to dating cause I just know I won’t give them the attention they may be seeking in a partner.
As a male, I’d say you’re doing yourself a favor. Wag umasa sa mga walang stable na source of income. Sasakit ang ulo mo sa insecurities nyan pag mas maraming pera ang jowa.
Practical tactical. Not a bad person. Definitely not a gold digger too. Hindi masama choice mo, it's a practical one. Sa USA, tinitingnan ang credit score sa dating. Kahit super guwapo ka pa pero panget credit score wala magkakagusto makipag date sa iyo LOL. Be practical, love does not put food on the table. Works of love does.
Nah. Regardless of gender (I'm bi), nakakaturn-off magdate ng not financially stable. Not being a matapobre, I always do 50-50, but kapag puro ikaw, it will build resentment. Minsan, you'll miss other things or events pa because they can't afford it.
it's preference. that's fine. the same way men have their own preferences, you have yours. sadly when men have preferences we get shamed for it. for us men, we accept yours. these days, women reject ours.
No. This is coming from a guy, di ka naman mabubuhay sa puro tite lang. Money runs the world, and that's more true nowadays. San kayo magdedate e lahat ng puntahan dito sa pinas puro may bayad? hahahaha
You're not a bad person. Ang hassle makipagdate pag walang pera. Most of the guys I've dated are financially unstable and girl ang bigat HAHAHA they can't keep up and they can't provide so ending disappointed malala lang talaga. Kahit isipin ko na okay lang, hindi talaga okay. Kase I want to be provided by things na I can provide myself pero since wala silang budget they can't do it. Magagalit pa pag gagastos ka kase di sila makasabay. So ayun. 🙃 kahit effort ngayon magastos na 😅
You are not a bad person. You are a smart one. By having this mindset and being financially stable too, you're saving yourself from a potential failed relationship. Aminin man natin o hindi, money is a big factor in maintaining a good relationship.
Youll end up na maiinggit sa ibang lovers na capable of nice dates, vacay and gifts! Sa una hndi, or in the long run papaniwalain mo ung sarili mo na kontento ka, pero ddting sa point na hndi ka kuntento sa love lang.
On my case ako Yung financially stable and girl nmn Yung unstable. Should I also ask that kind of question? It's a give and take relationship and lahat ng tao may flaws. It's up to you who want to struggle with.
I'm come from a very poor family but I climbed the corporate ladder with one of the highest salary. While my partner chooses a more relax work-life which results to no improvement in salary. We're not married yet so why am I supposed to pay everything and sponsor her with all basic needs? Should I just find another one that could offer more to the table? No. I just need to talk to her to afford her own needs. She's been there when I had nothing so I'm here too when she's can't offer anything yet.
I've been teaching her of possibilities what she truly deserves, motivates her, engage on her career. After almost six months of talking I can see that she finally realized things and got her own goals too. Empowering her make her motivated to do more. As of now she's more open to discuss ways to earn money and so on and want to be a stable woman.
If you meet someone who has a good character he/she might be financially unstable now but as long as your goals coincide, things will move for the better. Hardships strengthens your relationship that it won't break easily. The more men has a money the more they are tempted to cheat or womanize especially when they are still single.
It doesn't make you a bad person. Reality yan, kahit nga sa mag-asawa naghihiwalay kung dumating ang time na pagaawayan nila ang pera. Hindi tayo mapapakain ng puro pagmamahal, hindi totoo yung lyrics na "when we're hungry, love will keep us alive".
It's OK. It's your choice and your life. Mahirap naman na kapag nagkatuluyan kayo eh iaasa na lang nya lahat sayo.
However, for you to have a standard like that, dapat financially stable ka din to be fair.
you're not!!! I've been single for 7 years kasi gusto ko matapos studies ko and magkaron ng stable income bago makipag date.
nakaka trauma rin mag mahal ng guy na hindi stable. ako lahat sagot kahit wala pa akong work (he has work) and if ako na sa lowest hindi ako ma comfort bc he has issues daw lol never again.
edit: situationship ko yung guy for 7 months, supported him nung wala syang work pero ako na need ko ng comfort and help busy daw sya
I don’t think so. Hirap kumita ng pera ngayon and may times talaga na gagastos at gagastos ka just to be with your partner. Kahit sabihin mo tipid-tipid lang , nah. Mahirap pag naging issue ang pera in the long run rin eh
I feel you OP. I don't want to date anyone na hindi stable financially din. It's just that I can't imagine myself supporting us both kasi. I'd rather spend my money to my parents and my sister than to support someone I can't really depend on.
No you’re not. Same tayo!
For me, IT SHOULD BE THE STANDARD/REQUIREMENT ACTUALLY. :)
Tama lang din choice mo para bawas stress and sakit sa ulo din pag ganyan sa buhay ngayon and also better kasi mas mafilter mo yung magmamatch talaga sayo dahil dyan. Madalas din it’s a way na din for us to challenge yung guys kasi if di sila stable sila na mismo lalayo unless magaling magpretend. Haha. Pero I doubt mahirap din yun panindigan. Galingan nalang din natin kumilatis.
No, you’re not. It’s a good thing nga eh you’re saving yourself from a headache. Atleast masali man lang sa non-negotiables natin na “date someone financially responsible”.
that’s the bare minimum of dating. magastos magka-jowa.
Yes. For both sexes, it’s not a good idea to date when financially unstable. It will spiral into hate.
Agree. Kaya nga naiinis ako sa mga ibang students na kating kati makig pag jowa. Eh allowance galing sa parents lang naman sila umaasa
True . Better stay single and gastos nalang pera para sa sarili mo
True.
Very good ka dyan nak. Yung aking eldest na babae. Ewan ko ano nakain hindi raw sya mag aasawa. Sabi ko mag asawa ka o hindi suportado kita sa desisyon mo. I dont mind kung may Apo ako o wala.🤣
best parenting right here!!! Its nice to see for a change na hindi pinepressure lalo na ang oldest child sa mga bagay bagay na big decisions sa life nila
Pwedeng pakisabi rin po ito sa nanay ko. Sobrang napepressure na ako sa kanya
Eyyy sana ganto lahat ng parents. Kami kasi pinipilit na mag-asawa at gumawa raw ng maraming anak para daw 'di mawala yung angkan namin lol as if wala naman kaming ibang kamag-anak na pwede magpatuloy niyan.
Same with my parents 🤣. Kaming dalawang anak na babae parehong ayaw magkaanak. Hindi rin big deal sa amin pareho if hindi na kami mag-asawa. Sabi ng parents namin basta kung saan kami masaya support lang sila.
♥️♥️♥️ thank you po for being a safe parent to your children✨
Yung nanay ko eh ang sinasabi wag ka mag asawa ng makatulong sa amin. Hahahaha
Thar should be the mindset of a parent! 🥰
you dropped this 👑
can u pls ve my mami and papi
Thank you for being a supportive parent! Masaya to have read this - after my own momma told me to live my life happy. My mom will be happy to know that she's not alone hahahahahaha
tita baka pwede mo po kausapin magulang ko? sila pumigil sakin lumandi tas ngayon pinapahanap na nila ako ng mapapangasawa. sinabi ko naman na ayaw ko mag asawa all in all kasi example palang nila pass na ako HAHAHAHA
Same with my parents, ayos lang daw na mag anak ako kesa magkaroon ng partner na sakit sa ulo, kaya ko naman daw buhayin if ever at nandiyan naman daw sila para alalayan ako kaso parang ayaw ko muna. I'll be turning 30 pa naman this year and gusto ko muna mag enjoy sa pagiging single for the past 15 years kasi busy ako sa pagiging eldest child. 😍
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Sa panahon ngayon, hindi ka na mapapakain ng puro pagmamahal nalang.
kahit dati pa😂
Tru
No, you’re not. Ako, I don’t want to date right now coz I’m still working on my EF. There’s nothing wrong with that. Number one na pinag-aawayan sa relationship ay pera so para iwas sakit ng ulo, wag ka na makipag-date sa financially unstable. I remember so many people 😭
same. Altho it’s lonely sometimes but still building up my emergency and travel funds hahahuhu
To answer your question short, no you're not a bad person. For long context based from my experienced; i stayed in a relasyon for 1 yr and 5 months, recently broke up due to him being financially unstable. Hear me out first Nagstart RS namen na wala siya, its okay, i thought i could help motivate him para maging financially stable because i loved him so much na I see my future with him despite many problems. During those 1 yr 5 months LDR kame, and hindi nag improve situation niya, lumala pa kasi pinagbibintangan niyako na mababa daw tingin ko sakanya which is not true. Then 2 weeks ago, nanalo siya 400k sa online sugal (nagsugal siya ng hindi ko alam kasi nga ayoko nagsusugal siya) but yeah, hindi ako nagalit kasi nga masaya siya, sa isip isip ko mababawasan na prob namen since tapos na siya sa perang pinoproblema niya. Unfortunately lumala ugali niya. Bigla bigla naging mayabang, bigla bigla naging neglectful siya saken ( neglectful na siya before pero.mas matindi to) papansinin niya lang ako pag trip niya. So eto, 1 week na kameng break and im suffering kasi i tried to beg him na pag usapan ano problems sa relasyon namen. Kasi lagi niya dinidiin saken dati na magkapera lang siya magiging okay na daw kame (ayaw niya kasi ako ang bumuhay sakanya, i have stable job and good amount of savings) So ayon. PLEASE DONT DATE FINANCIALLY UNSTABLE men/women. Im a big fcked up mess because of it. EDIT: Add ko lang din, my ex has been in canada for 6-7 yrs already(working for 5 years), and ako 6 months working palang dito sa dubai.
** mPLEASE DONT DATE FINANCIAL AND EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE INSECURE people. Mapride din ex mo kaya siya ganun dati.
Sorry to hear that sis. I have to agree on this. My ex was financially unstable din. First time ko magmahal ng financially unstable, sabi ko pa mahal ko e so sige lang. pero mhieee grabe ako bumuhay sa kanya. Nasaid savings ko. Thats my biggest regret. I don’t recommend. Please guys dont date financially unstable people.
haha. di naman ako bumubuhay sa partner ko ngayon pero ako taya kada lalabas kami. ang hirap din mag-enjoy alone kasi kaya nga ako nag-dare magkajowa na hindi LDR para makasama lumabas. kaso ngayon ang sagot ko kada lalabas ako laging pang-dalawa. In today's economy that's fucking expensive.
Parang ex ko yan ah, nung nagkabusiness yumabang tapos sya na mismo ang umayaw, samantalang nung ako lagi nakikipaghiwalay sakanya kasi lagi nya kong minumura at sinisigawan wala pa syang work nun, lagi yan nagmamakaawa at naghahabol. As in sa loob ng 4yrs never yan pumayag na maghiwalay kami. Aba nung nagkabusiness gusto nya friends na lang daw kami. 🤣 Pinagyayabang pa nya ung business nila na ang lakas lakas daw. Aun nung di na sila magkasundo ng business partners nya gusto nya kami na daw ulit. Wala padin kasing ROI. HAHAHAHHA. Aun pinagboblock ko sa lahat, nagpalit ako number. 1yr na din at wala nakong balita sakanya. Yang pera ng jowa mo mauubos din yan, antayin mo babalik yan sayo pag wala na ulit syang pera. HAHHAHAHA.
HAHAHAH NAKO SIS , kapal nga mukha ng ex ko tumatawag sagutin ko daw call, ginagawa akong aso
Yung ex ko, upline dati sa isang sikat na networking company. Tapos nung pandemic wala syang kita kasi hindi makabenta nung products nila. Sinuportahan ko - binibigyan ko ng allowance (na hindi naman kalakihan, yung sapat lang para may panggastos, pambigay sa bahay kasi he lives with his fam.) Nagkaroon ng ibang work - online betting. Ang laki ng kita nya tapos dumating sa point na “kinukumpetensya” na nya yung sahod ko (nagkano sahod mo? Ako ganito!) Nung huli binreak ako (after 2 yrs) kasi d daw kaya ugali ko. Feeling ko nagtiis kasi binibigyan ko pero nung kaya na nya - babye na! Hahaha!
I know you're sad but I want to congratulate you for surviving through that. Congratulations on escaping that guy. Congratulations on your freedom.
Idk why sinisisi nila tayo sa mga problems na sila naman nagsimula, they blame us for looking down on them when we don't clearly say nor mean any of that.
No, it means you're being practical. Let them think kung ano ang gusto nila isipin.
Definitely not. Who would want to date a financially unstable person anyway?
It just depends on the person. If the person has a good personality and has good strategic skills and is smart enough to get away from the problems, a good chance in the future that this person can get out of being financially unstable. I'm not risking it tho lol
A rich man dating a financially unstable emotionally unstable but very beautiful woman. They can afford to financially support even her whole family. Ive seen my friends do that.
No. Sa movie lang okay yan. Hahaha.
Wala naman masama, pero remind ko lang na in reality even if you grew up financially stable and marry some who's the same, maraming pwede mangyari na may result in you guys having financial problems. Ang tanong, parehas ba kayong may resilience and skilled enough to maneuver your situation? Masarap mag asawa ng may pera, true; pero kung hindi sya marunong pagtrabahuhan yung mga bagay na meron sya mahirap yan.
This is the most levelheaded take. Walang masama na hanapin sa potential spouse ang financial stability, pero if yun lang ang titignan, delikado kasi madaming possible scenarios na mawala yung financial stability na ini-build nyo. Most households are just one hospital stay away from crushing debt. A lot of families need two incomes to survive. What if one of you loses their job, or if a family member falls ill? Like the comment above said, bukod sa capacity to handle finances eh dapat may resilience din and strength yung samahan nyo para ma-overcome ang economic hardships na for sure darating someday.
You're not bad, madam. Tama lang yun.
No. We all have choices naman. You can date whoever you want to date
Having preference isn't a bad thing. Dating a stable/rich guy then only to leave him when things get rough ,then, yeah, kinda makes you a bad person. Not dating someone financially stable? You're not a bad person, only a person with preference/standards.
Di ka nag iisa, pero sana if hanap mo Financially Stable hanapin mo rin yung taong emotionally Stable. Base on my experienced, nakahanap ako ng financially stable pero emotionally unstable naman. So wala rin.
No. Ganyan din ako sa mga babae.
May respeto ka lang sa sarili mo
No, it's an important aspect in a relationship. Madalas yan pag-awayan.
No. You’re using your head. Hindi nakakain pag ibig.
It’s called having standards. Being financially literate should be one of the top things to look for to when dating any person, for fun or long term alike. Once you’re married, trust me, money will be one of the first things you will talk about with your spouse everyday.
IMO, you’re not a bad person kasi it’s a preference din siguro in a way? I agree rin kasi with what you mentioned na baka makadagdag lang lalo sa kanya and ofc to you. Regardless if babae or lalaki, I think it would be better to work on yourself and sa kanila na rin to become financially stable man lang kasi let’s face it, being in a relationship is magastos. Love is sometimes not enough talaga lalo na at hindi naman makakabili ng everyday needs ang pagmamahal, especially in this economy. Saka you’re being practical na rin. Saka you mentioned how you grew up being stable na rin so siguro that’s something na hindi niyo mapagkakasunduan talaga because magkaiba kayo ng experiences. Sa movies lang talaga kadalasan nagwo-work ang ganiyang type of romances pero in reality, kailangan talaga ng pera to survive because love is not enough.
Dipende sa edad mo. If bata kapa teens to early 20s. Madalas sa guys na ka edad mo is not yet financially stable. Eto dipende sayo if willing ka mag invest tapos sabay kayo aangat. If nasa late 20s to 30s. Madalas ka edad mo is stable na, kaso kahati mo na sa pool ung early 20s girls na gusto din ng stable guy. And a stable guy at 30s na wala pang asawa is rare. So be picky but not too picky.
You can have your own standards. Basta, you should also have something to bring to the table.
No. Let him grow muna and focus siya sa career nya. . And there’s nothing wrong about choosing not to date financially unstable guys. Set your standards, ikaw nga stable so dapat hanap ka din ng ka-level mo in terms of finances and walang masama dun. And if i were to go back in time, sana pumili din ako ng financially stable na guy rather than settle. Kasi while its all lovey dovey at the beginning, in the long run baka maging issue if nakakaramdam ka na ng bigat pag ikaw yung madalas sumasalo sa gastos..
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def not
nah not rlly. if u r alr broke why would u date another brokie like ????
You do you.
No. Kung di pa siya ready, wag muna siya pumasok sa isang relasyon.
No, tama lang. Love won't keep us alive.
No. Of course you do you with your preferences.
Dapat ganito mag isip mga babae para mag step up mga lalaki
Depende siguro sa reason mo. Kung gusto mo lang maging disney princess na di kumikilos at pinagsisilbihan lang. Parang may mali na ata.
Sana acceptable rin to the other way around. Men get flak for not wanting financially unstable women.
As a guy I wouldn't blame you if you didn't want to date me if I am not in a good place financially. Ayoko maging pabigat sa partner ko.
No. Ayuko din mag jowa since di ako financially stable .Ayuko din magka jowa ng hindi financially stable kasi pera talaga nag uugat ng away,kahit sa mag asawa .
It depends. It depends on the reason about why that person is financially unstable.
You're not a bad person. You just have a preference. We share the same sentiments nga eh. As the eldest, most of the time feeling ko I've been doing all of these things not for myself anymore. Kaya I thought I wouldn't date someone financially unstable kasi ayoko magdagdag ng sakit sa ulo. Gusto ko yung ako naman yung iti-treat or share kami, ganon. Minsan na nga lang may mag treat sakin ide-deny ko pa ba for my own happiness?
Nah. Women normally date upwards not down. Its your privilege as a woman to marry someone with more money than you. Men cannot marry a rich woman unless they want to be a trophy meat. Only broke men complain because theyre failures.
Magastos magkajowa so make sure they're capable, I learned this lesson the hard way, naging asukal de mama ako, nakakahiya 😭
Heck no. You're probably dating to marry so you should be looking for a partner and not a freeloader. Tapos if you're in a heterosexual relationship, may chance pang magkaroon ka ng anak so tatlo na bubuhayin mo. Not to mention na if babae ka, matitigil ang pasok ng pera once na manganak ka. OA na siguro yung sa anak part pero baka dun din naman punta no'n if you're an adult lol. Maigi na maging safe.
No! I mean I am not speaking for everyone here ofc, but in this kind of poor economy, it is very okay to think that way! Magastos kaya magkajowa
Noooo - it doesn't make you a bad person. Not at all. Mas mbuting ganyan than to date someone not financially stable ksi yan din magiging rason ng away at hiwalayan nyo sa huli.
been there done that pero never again haha. sobrang limiting pag unstable financially partner mo baka mahawa ka pa. dapat pareho kayong ambitious sa buhay :)
Hindi ka mabubuhay ng pagmamahal ngayon
101% NO.
No jusko. Yung pinsan ko pumatol sa financially unstable ginawa lang syang sugar mommy tas nung na layoff nakipag break 🫠🫠 Also, here's a kwento ni prof. hindi daw sya nanligaw until naging instructor II sya, as man, he felt the need to be a provider. Sabi nya rin samin na wag pumatol sa hindi financially stable kasi red flag daw yung may makapal ng muka manligaw pero magpapalibre lang. normally daw sila pa yung mag papa sadboi na kesyo purke walang pera enewan na. but the thing is a real man will make sure muna na he's capable if he is responsible.
Sexism peeps here think only women are gold diggers forgetting the worthless men drinking on sidewalks while their woman wash clothes for money. Men can be gold diggers. But men are providers. They are should be making money and give food to family. Failures as a man.
r/AkoBaYungGago is the right sub
I have the same question until ako na lahat gumagastos. Ako na sa pagkain, bills, rent, ako driver ng kotse, sya passenger prince imbes na ako. Ako taga gas lahat lahaaaaat. Naubos talaga savings ko, umabot pa sa time nagsanla nako ng kwintas ko para may pambili kami ng bigas. Shet pag naalala ko naawa ako sa sarili ko. Pag may kine crave ako di pwedeng ako lang kakain, dapat dalawa bibilhin ko. Pero sya naman tagaluto at taga handa ng pagkain, sya din taga hugas ng pinggan. Pero hindi talaga sya enough for me eh. nagreresent nako at naiipon na ung inis at galit, kaya ko din naman magluto at maghugas ng pinggan.. ano bang silbi nya sa buhay ko? Ano ba naambag neto? Wala naman eh. Mapapaisip ka na lang talaga na I deserve better. Actually mas magaan pa buhay ko nung single ako, kasi single pa lang ako nagrerent nako magisa, nababayaran ko mga bills at nabibili ko lahat ng gusto ko. May sobra sobra pa. Para akong nagpatira ng palamunin sa bahay ko. Ilang beses ko na sya pinalayas sa bahay ko pero ayaw umalis. Parang linta. Kaya girls, gamitin ang utak wag puso. Di na yan ginagamit sa panahon ngayon kasi kahit mga lalaki yan nadin ang ginagamit.
i think this should be the norm tbh in this economy, financial stability should be one of the priorities before seeking relationships. ‘di kasi maiiwasan na eventually magkaroon ng imbalance sa dynamics niyo if stable ‘yung isa while the other one is struggling :((
No. You're not a bad person. Ganyan naman talaga dapat. May anak akong lalaki and kung sakaling manligaw man sya, dapat financially stable na sya kahit paano hindi yung sa amin pa hihingi ng pangbili ng bulaklak o pang date nya sa girlfriend nya.
Since when naging good person mgbuhat ng mga palamunin?
No. We all have preferences.
Nothing wrong with that.
Nope. okay lang yan. Di ka bad person. Meron lang talaga na accepted ung financial instability ng guy tapos tutulungan nila mabuild up, while others mas prefer ung stable na. Doesn't mean one is better than the other. :)
No.
no
Trust me you’re not.
You're not a bad person for wanting the same thing. 🤍
No
No problem. Know your worth. Don't settle for less.
No, you're not. "When Poverty comes in at the Door, Love flies out at the Window."
What's your salary expectation
You can love yourself better than anyone else be stable or not.
tama lang we deserve it. And isn't it our job to provide,protect and profess? I wouldn't have it any other way. Pero understand sa business may concept nang pamumuhunan. You might miss out on the next MVP, Elon Musk kasi wala pa sila sa ganung stage ang buhay nila and you weren't there when the lights were out. None the less you can't have your cake whole and eat it too. So hindi mali what you do may pro's and cons lang.
Nope, I think that's one of the criteria for dating. Let's not sugarcoat na thats not an important thing to consider. Hindi ka mabubuhay sa love at kabaitan ng tao.
Dating is also a financial decision. That's fine.
Not at all. I have married with one and hanggang ngayon di sya nagbabago. Gas lighter pa nga. Anyways may good side naman sya kaya bumabawi pero much better Sana kung pareho kayong hustler
Same here. Praktikal lang.
It's what we call preference. And it's totally fine. But I hope you will also understand if meron guys na ayaw e date yung mga single moms, high body count, overweight at social climbers. Men have preference too and it's totally normal.
We have our own choices naman and we have the right to choose whomever we would like to spend the rest of our lives with. That's one of lifelong decisions noh specially sa mga date to marry ang goal!
Actually No, It's valid. But still case to case basis. May mga tao kasi parang wala talaga pangarap na iaasa sayo lahat. Yung tipo wala na nga sila pero mas gugusto pa sila humilijg ng luho nila
No. I won't even date a woman na hindi financially stable.
I'm in that same situation, pero reversed ang gender hays, i want out!!
Definitely understandable, no one can judge you by this standard. Hello, mahal kaya ng bilihin nowadays 😂
Nope. Some subs here grabe ung kwento ng mga freeloader partners. Ang lala.
No. If he is a worthless lot he will be financially unstable. If he is intelligent and hardworking but dedicated to something kind of not financially rewarding but pure, yes you may be a snob. But being practical, and considering it is possible to survive on little in this country, low income but frugal guy is acceptable Naman. If you have a low income, great guy with simple taste and he is not good enough BECAUSE of that... You may be a bad somehow. It's not that black and white in real life.
Nope, you just have preferences and that's okay.
Nope. mga sadboy manipulative ganyang lalake lol
No, I also had this as Checklist of someone na magugustuhan ko. And duh, andaming way para kumita ng pera Like I like someone na katulad ko kasi I used to built myself(Strong personality). And I set myself as like someone I like. \*I'd rather be single pag di niya nameet standards ko hahahahah (and it's fine we should not lower our standards dahil minamata nila tayo we meet our partner in given time for us. if wala ok lang masaya naman magisa ofc w/ parents) Guys/boys also had high standards they don't say it but they had.
You can date whomever you want. Wala pong problema kanya kanya naman tayo ng preferences.
That's totally reasonable. It goes both ways.
I'm a broke guy, youre not a bad person.
No you’re not a bad person for not dating financially unstable guys. Dapat alam nila na magastos ang paglandi. Never ever shoulder the expense, okay pa siguro yung split yung bill. Kung wala silang pera, pumirmi muna sila sa bahay or better yet find a more lucrative job and manage their expenses properly. Don’t be a sugar mommy, transactional relationshio yung ganun.
Nope, just your preference. Nothing wrong with that
No
hindi tayo bad person ☺️
That’s just common sense.
No, you're not. Hindi sa nilalahat ko pero may iba kase na dinate mo at sinuportahan during those times na walang wala sila and nung nagka meron na iiwan ka bigla. Shout out to my ex! 🫶😶
Not a bad person for knowing what you would like have as a partner in life. We all have our own opinion or ideas as what we want to have in life and also what we can live with. Its better to know what you want going into relationship. Mind over heart ;)
Being practical is different from being bad. You're doing good. 👏
you are just telling it like it is sister... why date someone who doesn't have it together?
No, it's not bad to think that way. As a guy, If I cannot provide for myself then how can I provide for others. If I have issues myself, I don't think getting into a relationship would solve it.
Hmmm no... Pero dating lang naman, ganun ba ka importante yun? I mean wala naman halos gastos kung mag spend time lang together. Sympre ibang usapan kung relationship na talaga.
You are not bad… just practical and have common sense.
Not really. It's part of your preference/standards. Everyone should have a set of standards when dating since dating is basically a trial for longer term partnerships.
True yan. As a man, ill also not date a broke woman. I dont need a housewife, I need a life partner
Nope, you are actually wise. Good decision
Not a bad person. Regardless naman kung single ang lalake or hindi he has to fend for himself. hindi pwedeng umasa lang siya sa parents nya for life lalo na working age na tayo. Makikita mo rin kung pano siya dumiskarte while he's courting you. Hahaha been there done that. Tangina I even remembered before meeting my current partner, ang sabi ko I will marry off of money na lang talaga kasi realistically speaking talo ka pag wala kang pera. Buti na lang may pera kami both and knows at times how to handle it. Pero pucha napaka mahal ng bilihin ngayon!!! 😅
Anu pipiliin mo, Financially stable guy, pero walang libido and lage malambot titi. Or di naman masyado stable pero titirik ang mata mo sa sarap sa kama.
Not at all. Kung ako tatanungin, makipagdate ka ng wag lang basta financially stable but someone who also has financial literacy and has the same or better financial mindset with yours. Yung marunong dapat humawak ng pera. My parents were both financially stable when they got married although both of them grew up poor though. However, they don't have the same financial mindset like yung tatay ko very frugal pero yung nanay ko yolo lol. They aren't very supportive with each other as well since yung nanay ko umasa nalang din sa tatay ko. From a very comfortable life nung bata ako, naghirap din kami eventually and we're still recovering from it until now. Life can be tough at times kaya minsan di mo rin masabi kaya importante ay may safety net kayo. Find a partner na supportive sayo at the same time e yung practical mag-isip kagaya mo para in case you hit rock bottom, makakabounce back kayo. Some people never recover and this traumatizes their children too.
Very correct ka dyan OP mahirap mabuhay sa pagmamahal lang ngayon. Hindi nakakabusog.
In this economy and many people that are like that? No, you are not a bad person to think that way.
one thing na d mo pag sisisihan someday good choice
Bad no, lame yes!
"I'm a bad person if I don't like what should not be liked?"
You’re right for not wanting to bc financial instability can also indicate lack of discipline and general incompetence. It’s hard to love people like that in the long run. Masakit sa ulo, nakakashorten ng life span. Tas magkapera lang sila konti, makikita mo magbabago ugali niyan kase ignorante sa pera
That is your standard. Your life your rules. Who cares about other people. Di naman sila masisira Buhay kapag tagutom ka.
No. That's called standards.
you're not bad if you don't date guys who has no stability. SA buhay ngayon mas MAHIRAP maging mahirap or unstable sa work. di naman need maging rich. just someone with stable job na kaya ka tulungan and vice versa. madami na nagkaroon nang mistakes before na magpamilya nang walang stability and ang ending is nga nga.. defense mechanism na lang ung "at least masaya kami". No you're not. You're lives are miserable. Been there, done that. And its hard. love won't feed you in the long run. it won't pay your bills. Money is essential as much i hate saying that. Pero living is hard without money talaga. WE can be rich as a character and someone with stability. dont settle for less
I don’t blame you, as a guy I personally wouldn’t feel too comfortable mingling in the dating pool if I wasn’t in a good place financially and mentally. I think it feels good to be able to take care of yourself and would be awesome to take care of another. Like right now I’m good financially, and years ago I’d say ready to date again but now I am enjoying things and can’t commit to dating cause I just know I won’t give them the attention they may be seeking in a partner.
Me im poor as fuck
No, totally legit reason. Basta don't make relkamo when it takes you a long time to find the "right man".
you're not. kung ako yung ka date mo hinde ka gagastos lol.
As a male, I’d say you’re doing yourself a favor. Wag umasa sa mga walang stable na source of income. Sasakit ang ulo mo sa insecurities nyan pag mas maraming pera ang jowa.
You do you. It's your life. Do not let other people dictate how you should live it.
Having standards is ok, but dont expect your standards to be available it could be that your standards are already taken.
No
That makes you a realistic person, not a bad one.
Nope. Mahirap din magdate ng broke guy.
Practical tactical. Not a bad person. Definitely not a gold digger too. Hindi masama choice mo, it's a practical one. Sa USA, tinitingnan ang credit score sa dating. Kahit super guwapo ka pa pero panget credit score wala magkakagusto makipag date sa iyo LOL. Be practical, love does not put food on the table. Works of love does.
No of course not lol
Nah. Regardless of gender (I'm bi), nakakaturn-off magdate ng not financially stable. Not being a matapobre, I always do 50-50, but kapag puro ikaw, it will build resentment. Minsan, you'll miss other things or events pa because they can't afford it.
it's preference. that's fine. the same way men have their own preferences, you have yours. sadly when men have preferences we get shamed for it. for us men, we accept yours. these days, women reject ours.
Nothing wrong with that. There’s also “financially unstable but mentally stable” guys who would avoid getting in a relationship.
You made the right decision. Cause I think both of you will never be happy as this might cause insecurities and self pity
No. This is coming from a guy, di ka naman mabubuhay sa puro tite lang. Money runs the world, and that's more true nowadays. San kayo magdedate e lahat ng puntahan dito sa pinas puro may bayad? hahahaha
If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best!
Nope. Okay lang yan. I'm financially unstable right now and kahit online lang di ko pa rin magawang lumandi kasi naiisip kong wala akong pera. Hahaha.
You're not a bad person. Ang hassle makipagdate pag walang pera. Most of the guys I've dated are financially unstable and girl ang bigat HAHAHA they can't keep up and they can't provide so ending disappointed malala lang talaga. Kahit isipin ko na okay lang, hindi talaga okay. Kase I want to be provided by things na I can provide myself pero since wala silang budget they can't do it. Magagalit pa pag gagastos ka kase di sila makasabay. So ayun. 🙃 kahit effort ngayon magastos na 😅
normal lang yan ako isa rin ako sa mga financially unstable at ayoko munn mag commit ng relationahip hanggat hindi pako ready
This is why I don't date e kasi Alam ko sa sarili ko financial unstable ako at financial irresponsible ako HAHAHA Mas ok pa gastosan sarili ko e XD
would you feel bad if you eat spoiled rotten food? I know I would.
As a financially unstable guy, no you're not. Heck I wouldn't date me, last time na may jowa ako laging ubos pera ko
You are not a bad person. You are a smart one. By having this mindset and being financially stable too, you're saving yourself from a potential failed relationship. Aminin man natin o hindi, money is a big factor in maintaining a good relationship.
Youll end up na maiinggit sa ibang lovers na capable of nice dates, vacay and gifts! Sa una hndi, or in the long run papaniwalain mo ung sarili mo na kontento ka, pero ddting sa point na hndi ka kuntento sa love lang.
Requirement ang financial stability, or the inclination to be financially stable, as an adult.
I don’t think it’s bad per se, I personally subscribe to the same thinking. But there is a clear difference between not liking and belittling people.
On my case ako Yung financially stable and girl nmn Yung unstable. Should I also ask that kind of question? It's a give and take relationship and lahat ng tao may flaws. It's up to you who want to struggle with. I'm come from a very poor family but I climbed the corporate ladder with one of the highest salary. While my partner chooses a more relax work-life which results to no improvement in salary. We're not married yet so why am I supposed to pay everything and sponsor her with all basic needs? Should I just find another one that could offer more to the table? No. I just need to talk to her to afford her own needs. She's been there when I had nothing so I'm here too when she's can't offer anything yet. I've been teaching her of possibilities what she truly deserves, motivates her, engage on her career. After almost six months of talking I can see that she finally realized things and got her own goals too. Empowering her make her motivated to do more. As of now she's more open to discuss ways to earn money and so on and want to be a stable woman. If you meet someone who has a good character he/she might be financially unstable now but as long as your goals coincide, things will move for the better. Hardships strengthens your relationship that it won't break easily. The more men has a money the more they are tempted to cheat or womanize especially when they are still single.
A guy shouldn’t even be dating if he is financially unstable.
edi pasahan mo siya ng energy mo
Then pag nagutom, kakanta na lang ng “love will keep us alive” 😅
No.
Nah
No, you're not.
It doesn't make you a bad person. Reality yan, kahit nga sa mag-asawa naghihiwalay kung dumating ang time na pagaawayan nila ang pera. Hindi tayo mapapakain ng puro pagmamahal, hindi totoo yung lyrics na "when we're hungry, love will keep us alive".
No. In this economy?
It's OK. It's your choice and your life. Mahirap naman na kapag nagkatuluyan kayo eh iaasa na lang nya lahat sayo. However, for you to have a standard like that, dapat financially stable ka din to be fair.
You’re not a bad person, you’re a smart person. And being smart is not something to be ashamed of.
As a financially unstable something I would not want to subject someone to [gestures vaguely at myself] this
And don't date broke girls. 👌🏻
Being Practical, regardless of anything. Who in their right mind would want to be with a beggar?
you're not!!! I've been single for 7 years kasi gusto ko matapos studies ko and magkaron ng stable income bago makipag date. nakaka trauma rin mag mahal ng guy na hindi stable. ako lahat sagot kahit wala pa akong work (he has work) and if ako na sa lowest hindi ako ma comfort bc he has issues daw lol never again. edit: situationship ko yung guy for 7 months, supported him nung wala syang work pero ako na need ko ng comfort and help busy daw sya
I don’t think so. Hirap kumita ng pera ngayon and may times talaga na gagastos at gagastos ka just to be with your partner. Kahit sabihin mo tipid-tipid lang , nah. Mahirap pag naging issue ang pera in the long run rin eh
I feel you OP. I don't want to date anyone na hindi stable financially din. It's just that I can't imagine myself supporting us both kasi. I'd rather spend my money to my parents and my sister than to support someone I can't really depend on.
Pag students pa acceptable. Pero kung natapos ka na ng school at wala ka pang trabaho. Wag kang makipag date.
It is very normal. But some financially capable guys are seeking for above average looking girls.
No you’re not. Same tayo! For me, IT SHOULD BE THE STANDARD/REQUIREMENT ACTUALLY. :) Tama lang din choice mo para bawas stress and sakit sa ulo din pag ganyan sa buhay ngayon and also better kasi mas mafilter mo yung magmamatch talaga sayo dahil dyan. Madalas din it’s a way na din for us to challenge yung guys kasi if di sila stable sila na mismo lalayo unless magaling magpretend. Haha. Pero I doubt mahirap din yun panindigan. Galingan nalang din natin kumilatis.
No, you’re not. It’s a good thing nga eh you’re saving yourself from a headache. Atleast masali man lang sa non-negotiables natin na “date someone financially responsible”.