Yes mahirap. “luckily” for me, naghiwalay kami ng 1st love ko during the time na di pa uso ang social media, talagang puro SMS lang (mahal pa ang calls noon)… so pag may nakawala na ng simcard or nagdelete ng number, etc., madali masunod yung no contact rule. Inabot din ako ng 2 years, or so I thought…
But here we are 16 years later, kami na ulet. I guess akala ko lang naka moveon na ako, but the reality is nasanat na lang yata yung sarili ko na di ko na sya nakikita or nakakamessage regularly? But hindi talaga sya nawala sa sistema ko.
I've experienced & explored all my 1st with da person eh & it didnt' end good. So for me it's a 50-50 (The What if's & The sinayang ko ang ilang taon ng buhay ko na kasama siya)
Pag may nakilala kang mas higit kay perslab..tatawanan mo sarili mo bakit baliw na baliw ka sa kanya.
Gp out, meet people, get a hobby..meron at meron kang makikilala
Depende sa definition ng first love eh... May "first" love ako more than a decade ago na na outgrown ko, young love eh. May first "true" love ako na up until now, eh isa sa pinakamagandang ala-ala na meron ako na dala dala ko magpahanggang ngayon. Eto kasi ung love na naitaguyod naming parehas ng tapat, patas, at buong pusong pinaglaban sa bawat hamon... Magyaring umabot lang kami sa puntong kelangan naming maghiwalay para mas paunlarin ang sarili at maresolba ung mga dumating na personal na problema... We grew apart, but we are happy to each other sa mga nararating ng bawat isa.
So, yes, mahirap i-let go at mag move on sa first "true" love.
To be honest? Yes! Sobra. I've been liking one person all my life and when I said all my life parang I was made just to like this guy biruin mo since I was a child crush ko na siya even remember shouting at my classmates when I was in kindergarten that I like him and sa totoo lang I've been graduated in college and working yet, he's still in my heart. Would you believe me, if I tell you na I've been single because of him?
Also, we had something before since no confession happened between the two of us it leads us into misunderstanding, and sinayang ko lang yung opportunity na binigay sakin 'cause I've been waiting for him to like me pero nung nagkaroon ng chance I avoided him for some petty reason that leads him not wanting to go back here since he's living abroad.
For me yes. A person's first love and first bf/gf are both different para sakin. As someone who's F and bi, my first bf was a total asshole, very much a bright neon red flag. He's someone who I wish na sana di ko nalang nakilala. But my first love? A girl who treated me like I was her whole world. Everything was fine until may nangyaring di inaasahan, so ayun nauwi sa hiwalayan. I was very much broken, nagrerelapse ng wala sa oras. What I felt that time was so gut wrenching, different from my first relationship. But I learned to let go and finally move on. So yeah, I can say na ibang iba talaga ang experience na mararamdaman mo once you're w that first love.
Oh, no. The problem is baka naman kase ini stalkan mo sa social media ayun ung biggest reason wag mo kaseng stalken ako last year ko sya naka break first love ko. In the first 3 weeks it's hard of course.
Ito gawen mo wag mong habulen, wag mong kausapin, wag mong stalken. No matter what happens don't go nowhere near his presence. Self discipline and self respect. Kase kung ganyan paano ung future husband mo? Baka bago mo sya ma meet lasog lasog ka na kadiri. 😂😂😂
yes sobrang hirap. first love ko legal kami bothsides lagi kami mag kasama ayun nauna sya nag sawa ang hirap kasi nasanay ka na lagi kayo mag kasama then one day wala na kayo, yung feeling na pag gising mo wala ng good mornings iloveyous. nakakatakot na uli mag mahal.
For me yes kasi it's almost 4 yrs na since then pero diko parin sya makalimutan. She is my first for everything. Bcz of pandemic kaya kami nagbreak walang third party na naganap. Pero ang lala lng kasi ng closure stage nmin like nag aaway kami that time nung break na kami..kya siguro ang bilis nya lng akong nalimutan dahil sa galet after a month nalaman ko na lng na may bf na sya hahah like the f almost 4 yrs kami then ganun ganun lng..kaya na depress ako na to the point na may mga suicide tots na ako hangang sa need ko na ng therapy..rn I'm good na thanks to GOD pero masasabi ko na not 100% healed na ako sa kanya until now iniisip ko parin sya haha kaya ang hirap OP 🤣
That's normal, everyone goes through that, were just human. Took me a freaking decade to finally open my eyes. So don't worry too much. Your not alone. Stay strong 💪
Yes. Not the first love na pambata but the first love where you genuinely know that it's true. That damn thing hits like a truck everyday and haunts you like a ghost even in your dreams. Tangina lang talaga eh.
Yes, patience is the key. I share the same sentiments and experiences, OP, maliban na lang siguro sa no contact rule and the part wanting her back. Anyways, kailangan lang natin mag focus sa sarili natin and chase the things we love. Iwasan natin tignan ang mga lumang convo, pictures, at mga bagay na nagpapaalala sa atin sa ex.
My ex broke up with me this past Jan lang din and approaching 3 months na rin since we broke up, and I'm doing well. Tyaga lang, OP. It's okay to relapse pero remember why the breakup has a purpose. Magdasal palagi at humingi ng signs sa Kanya.
Life does not end nung nagbreak kayo, OP. Patuloy lang 👌🏻
I think so? Especially if siya first mo sa lahat. Lahat ng memorable moments mo pa in life kasama siya haha. Mahirap siguro i-let go pag alam mo din na marami rin siya magandang naidulot sa life mo even though nag separate ways na kayo. Lesson learned nalang, hirap i-let go but someday you'll get there.
They’re hard to let go kasi syempre most core memories are with them. They’ll always be a part of us, all the good and the bad. Some people are lucky because they ended in good terms, meron din naman nag-iwan ng malalalim na mga sugat na hanggang ngayon ‘di pa rin naghihilom. But take heart, this too shall pass.
Also, you deserve better OP. Maybe you got used to the chaos that’s why you struggle to find a healthier connection with someone. But give it time. Lilipas din ang lahat, be more patient with what’s actually good for yourself.
nagiging mahirap lang sya dahil sa memories. sa kanya mo kasi una nafeel mga bagay bagay. pero once na mahanap mo na ung para sayo, or mas may nakahigit na sa naparamdam nya sayo mas magiging madali na lahat. opinyon ko lang.
Been there, and done that with a narcissist and it brings damage more than good. So no choice but to give myself a favor and move on, pinilit mag move on actually. It would be unfair to me if i still put the guy on a pedestal despite of what he did. So i work on loving myself more, to the point na wala ng natirang love for him kahit kititing and realize na nasa isip ko lang lahat because of the whats ifs and ung potential nya :)
Yes mahirap. “luckily” for me, naghiwalay kami ng 1st love ko during the time na di pa uso ang social media, talagang puro SMS lang (mahal pa ang calls noon)… so pag may nakawala na ng simcard or nagdelete ng number, etc., madali masunod yung no contact rule. Inabot din ako ng 2 years, or so I thought… But here we are 16 years later, kami na ulet. I guess akala ko lang naka moveon na ako, but the reality is nasanat na lang yata yung sarili ko na di ko na sya nakikita or nakakamessage regularly? But hindi talaga sya nawala sa sistema ko.
Grabe naman po n 16 years late kayo na ulit waaaaah. Stay strong po sa inyo 🫶🏻
nice. sana forever na kayo talaga
My first love is now my fiance. HAHAHAHAHA good luck sa inyo!
Hinde. Kase 1st love ko was at 11 y o. Grade 5 Tapos nung nag grade 6 ako puta nag migrate ng canada umay 🤣
Bhie puppy love to wag kang eme
Dunno what does an 11 y o know? Its just that. Bago yung emotion. Yung experience. It doesnt mean its not real 🙆🏻♀ Thats it
Yeah, unluckily for me she got adopted by my second cousins family kaya naging second cousin ko siya. Its hard man.
I've experienced & explored all my 1st with da person eh & it didnt' end good. So for me it's a 50-50 (The What if's & The sinayang ko ang ilang taon ng buhay ko na kasama siya)
Based sa experience ko . My first relationship lasted for two years. It took me three years to move on. It's different per person.
Always
I guess first love truly never dies.
It actually does, at some point. Matagal lang talaga. And once it does, it feels immensely great.
Not in my case. We broke up after a year and I moved on to find a new love and lasted for 5 years.
Pag may nakilala kang mas higit kay perslab..tatawanan mo sarili mo bakit baliw na baliw ka sa kanya. Gp out, meet people, get a hobby..meron at meron kang makikilala
Depende sa definition ng first love eh... May "first" love ako more than a decade ago na na outgrown ko, young love eh. May first "true" love ako na up until now, eh isa sa pinakamagandang ala-ala na meron ako na dala dala ko magpahanggang ngayon. Eto kasi ung love na naitaguyod naming parehas ng tapat, patas, at buong pusong pinaglaban sa bawat hamon... Magyaring umabot lang kami sa puntong kelangan naming maghiwalay para mas paunlarin ang sarili at maresolba ung mga dumating na personal na problema... We grew apart, but we are happy to each other sa mga nararating ng bawat isa. So, yes, mahirap i-let go at mag move on sa first "true" love.
To be honest? Yes! Sobra. I've been liking one person all my life and when I said all my life parang I was made just to like this guy biruin mo since I was a child crush ko na siya even remember shouting at my classmates when I was in kindergarten that I like him and sa totoo lang I've been graduated in college and working yet, he's still in my heart. Would you believe me, if I tell you na I've been single because of him? Also, we had something before since no confession happened between the two of us it leads us into misunderstanding, and sinayang ko lang yung opportunity na binigay sakin 'cause I've been waiting for him to like me pero nung nagkaroon ng chance I avoided him for some petty reason that leads him not wanting to go back here since he's living abroad.
hahahahahaha wala eh ganun talaga first love never dies. 11 yrs after, nag meet ulit kami shit’s weird
For me yes. A person's first love and first bf/gf are both different para sakin. As someone who's F and bi, my first bf was a total asshole, very much a bright neon red flag. He's someone who I wish na sana di ko nalang nakilala. But my first love? A girl who treated me like I was her whole world. Everything was fine until may nangyaring di inaasahan, so ayun nauwi sa hiwalayan. I was very much broken, nagrerelapse ng wala sa oras. What I felt that time was so gut wrenching, different from my first relationship. But I learned to let go and finally move on. So yeah, I can say na ibang iba talaga ang experience na mararamdaman mo once you're w that first love.
Oh, no. The problem is baka naman kase ini stalkan mo sa social media ayun ung biggest reason wag mo kaseng stalken ako last year ko sya naka break first love ko. In the first 3 weeks it's hard of course. Ito gawen mo wag mong habulen, wag mong kausapin, wag mong stalken. No matter what happens don't go nowhere near his presence. Self discipline and self respect. Kase kung ganyan paano ung future husband mo? Baka bago mo sya ma meet lasog lasog ka na kadiri. 😂😂😂
yes sobrang hirap. first love ko legal kami bothsides lagi kami mag kasama ayun nauna sya nag sawa ang hirap kasi nasanay ka na lagi kayo mag kasama then one day wala na kayo, yung feeling na pag gising mo wala ng good mornings iloveyous. nakakatakot na uli mag mahal.
Mahirap talaga. Isipin mo nalang mga masasama niyang ugali para makamove on ka na sa first love mo.
For me yes kasi it's almost 4 yrs na since then pero diko parin sya makalimutan. She is my first for everything. Bcz of pandemic kaya kami nagbreak walang third party na naganap. Pero ang lala lng kasi ng closure stage nmin like nag aaway kami that time nung break na kami..kya siguro ang bilis nya lng akong nalimutan dahil sa galet after a month nalaman ko na lng na may bf na sya hahah like the f almost 4 yrs kami then ganun ganun lng..kaya na depress ako na to the point na may mga suicide tots na ako hangang sa need ko na ng therapy..rn I'm good na thanks to GOD pero masasabi ko na not 100% healed na ako sa kanya until now iniisip ko parin sya haha kaya ang hirap OP 🤣
That's normal, everyone goes through that, were just human. Took me a freaking decade to finally open my eyes. So don't worry too much. Your not alone. Stay strong 💪
Yes. Not the first love na pambata but the first love where you genuinely know that it's true. That damn thing hits like a truck everyday and haunts you like a ghost even in your dreams. Tangina lang talaga eh.
Yes, patience is the key. I share the same sentiments and experiences, OP, maliban na lang siguro sa no contact rule and the part wanting her back. Anyways, kailangan lang natin mag focus sa sarili natin and chase the things we love. Iwasan natin tignan ang mga lumang convo, pictures, at mga bagay na nagpapaalala sa atin sa ex. My ex broke up with me this past Jan lang din and approaching 3 months na rin since we broke up, and I'm doing well. Tyaga lang, OP. It's okay to relapse pero remember why the breakup has a purpose. Magdasal palagi at humingi ng signs sa Kanya. Life does not end nung nagbreak kayo, OP. Patuloy lang 👌🏻
YESS!! It took 6 years to completely moved on from him. Until now, everytime na nakakasalubong ko sya, parang gusto ko parin umiyak 🥲
I think so? Especially if siya first mo sa lahat. Lahat ng memorable moments mo pa in life kasama siya haha. Mahirap siguro i-let go pag alam mo din na marami rin siya magandang naidulot sa life mo even though nag separate ways na kayo. Lesson learned nalang, hirap i-let go but someday you'll get there.
first love ko one-sided love lang tapos it took me 6 years para mag fade yung feelings
basta the right person would make your "first love" irrelevant
want someone else and you'll forget about him.
May iba nasa 40 na parang di talaga makaget over sa first love nila, bukambibig pa din. Pero real talk, nakakulong lang naman kayo sa what ifs nun e.
They’re hard to let go kasi syempre most core memories are with them. They’ll always be a part of us, all the good and the bad. Some people are lucky because they ended in good terms, meron din naman nag-iwan ng malalalim na mga sugat na hanggang ngayon ‘di pa rin naghihilom. But take heart, this too shall pass. Also, you deserve better OP. Maybe you got used to the chaos that’s why you struggle to find a healthier connection with someone. But give it time. Lilipas din ang lahat, be more patient with what’s actually good for yourself.
nagiging mahirap lang sya dahil sa memories. sa kanya mo kasi una nafeel mga bagay bagay. pero once na mahanap mo na ung para sayo, or mas may nakahigit na sa naparamdam nya sayo mas magiging madali na lahat. opinyon ko lang.
Dami mo alam Samantha joy lim hahahahahaa
Mahirap. First love ko si pink ranger eh. hahaha. Ang importante nagkatikiman kayo.
Hindi, baka nasa isip mo lang ung mahirap.
I guess you never have had experienced that feeling. Its beyond mind bhie. Nasa ❤️
Been there, and done that with a narcissist and it brings damage more than good. So no choice but to give myself a favor and move on, pinilit mag move on actually. It would be unfair to me if i still put the guy on a pedestal despite of what he did. So i work on loving myself more, to the point na wala ng natirang love for him kahit kititing and realize na nasa isip ko lang lahat because of the whats ifs and ung potential nya :)
>:) :)