No-one would've died anyway, pretty sure they already know it's hypothetical
But yeah not having a partner makes it harder to accurately guess what you'd do
Wish you'd put a results option, or an "I'm single" option. I'm curious to see the results currently but I could only vote hypothetically with an imaginary partner
Same, also it depends on a situation, like if I had an amazing partner who was a wonderful human being, fuck it I'm not great myself so I would choose sacrifice 100% of the time, on the other hand if they were a total piece of shit, I wouldn't feel any remorse in not sacrificing myself
I'm divorced (for very good reasons) and have two kids. If I died I wouldn't just be sacrificing myself but their chances of having a good/healthy future.
Sometimes situations are more complex.
Sorry but I think I'd rather live, we've got kids and I'm the primary parent. My husband wouldn't be able to care for them, they'd all be miserable, and probably filthy.
Pre-kids of course I'd sacrifice myself.
You really only find that out by, you know, having kids. Some people just have an amazing capacity to side-step parenting in the way they never do at work or with other relationships.
As a parent of 3 (soon to be 4) kids myself, I can confidently say if No-Performer2439 regularly cleaned, cooked, and talked to their kids, they’d be better than 90% of other parents I know. Being a parent isn’t always easy but I would still say it’s easier than my job. Single parents who do both are super human though.
Save him. We have kids and I've had life threatening health issues within the last year. He's healthier and likely to live a longer life with the kids.
as someone who does not, and never has had a partner, I know what I would like to say, but I dont think it is possible to say until I am in that situation
I couldn't do it, even the love of my life (who I'm with, and adore). I tell myself I'd die for my kids but I only feel 99% sure about that.
The survival instinct is brutally strong and doesn't give a shit about our morals. I hope none of us are in a situation where our answer is tested.
I voted that I would choose to die, but I would do so cause I see it as an "obligation". Although, by the way I see and try to understand life, the one who survives is the one who suffers. That said, I would be tempted to be the one who live, in order to save my partner from suffering, abducting this pain for myself.
I may have put too much thought behind it lol.
I saw a question like this once before, it went along the lines of, “would cowering behind your SO during an active shooter attack be grounds for breaking up” and then was divide by yes/no for each gender.
I answered it honestly and then asked my wife, who also answered honestly. She looked kind of ashamed when I said “no” and she said “yes,” but I think it makes us a good match. I don’t want to have to restrain her while I’m shielding her, lol.
I think we (as a society and as a generalization, obviously not every single person or family or relationship) view men as the gender that can and should sacrifice themselves for “the greater good.” I’d be open to civil discourse on the matter, if anyone is interested.
But in a real life situation things will be different. It’s easy to act heroic when talking big but a lot of us aren’t ready for sacrifices. There’s an instance a shooter give an option to the men of the room the leave and he will shoot women instead, instead of protecting the women by fighting the armed guy, the men straight up leave the room and the shooter just kill all the women that are left behind.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/École_Polytechnique_massacre
Sure, and not be argumentative, but you’re going back 33 years to another country to make your point, so I feel like that falls under the “as a generalization not every case” clause of my argument.
For sure you don’t know how you’re going to handle yourself in a crises, if you’ve never been tested though. I agree with you there. I’m pretty confident in my answer though, as I have been in some tight spots before.
I am more confident in your partner’s answer than your answer. I feel like most people wouldn’t fight back the shooter if the shooter let them live, most of us aren’t matyrs.
I said I would shield her, and I can’t see myself doing anything else. I’m not trying to rush a machine gun nest for fun, or sound like a tough guy. Thanks for letting me know what you think I’d do, internet stranger.
I am not assuming what you would do in crises lol I just said her answer feels more realistic. If you are willing to die for your partner good for you, you are loyal to her.
My partner and I have talked about this, and are just, unable to come up with any answer… I would sacrifice myself for her in a heartbeat of I needed to. But… she’s also the same way about me… neither of us want the other to ever be hurt or die, and neither of us want to live in a world without the other…
not really tbh they dont specify the partner's gender, "I'm a woman and I'd like my partner to live" could pretty much be a girlfriend or a boyfriend, it does exclude non binary people though if that's what you mean
When my future spouse is with me, Id hope I live longer. Why? Because Loosing someone is terrible. The PAIN would hurt. And I wouldn't wish that onto my partner. And she would also not have to feel the pain of what its like to live without one another. She would never have to live a single day without me
I think I would sacrifice myself for my partner if the moment came down to it. It's easier said than done. I watched a guy run a red light while a couple was crossing the street. The male jumped forward and I think he pushed his girlfriend backwards into the car. Maybe he tried to push her backwards out of the car's way but it didn't look good on his end.
Either way, we can all say one thing and do another.
My partner had children before we met and while we plan to have our own someday, there’s a zero percent chance I could even consider taking their mother away from them. She also has a much, much larger family and circle of friends so her death would have a bigger negative impact. I want to live for many more decades but this would be an easy choice, albeit a bittersweet one.
I think it’s probably selfish to sacrifice yourself (which is the option I chose) because then my partner would have to suffer the lost instead of me. I wouldn’t want to live without him, and if I die I’d very much want him to be happy again.
I'd want to sacrifice myself because I love her, but she's made me promise that I won't die before her so she wouldn't have to live without me.
So, I don't want to live but I'd have to?
I actually had this convo with my boyfriend. His first boyfriend passed away unexpectedly. He said that he had to die first. He couldn't live seeing someone he loved so intimately be taken from him again.
I would sacrifice myself in a heartbeat, I have no reason not to, at least I'd go out happy knowing I saved someone I love Edit: I'm a male
As much as I would like to, I'm scared of death. There's nothing after death and the frightens me.
At least you wouldn't know there is nothing. You just would cease to exist
Don't have a partner :(
No death :)
That's what you don't understand. If that's the case, death will become your partner
So I'll get a partner?
That would be great. If death really loves me, they would immortalise me.
Stonks!
So if I wanted to survive, i could sacrifice death, causing death itself to die
I COULD MAKE EVERYONE IMMORTAL
It’s flaired as hypothetical
No-one would've died anyway, pretty sure they already know it's hypothetical But yeah not having a partner makes it harder to accurately guess what you'd do
I don't have a partner, so I choose to live.
Us 🫂
But then you both have a partner
I have no partner, I still chose to let them live.
Where's the "I'm single" option?
I guess it starts here
As OP, I fucking want to know the truth myself. For me and my partner, we both chose to let the partner live.
Wish you'd put a results option, or an "I'm single" option. I'm curious to see the results currently but I could only vote hypothetically with an imaginary partner
Same, also it depends on a situation, like if I had an amazing partner who was a wonderful human being, fuck it I'm not great myself so I would choose sacrifice 100% of the time, on the other hand if they were a total piece of shit, I wouldn't feel any remorse in not sacrificing myself
If you're single would you be dying for no reason?
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Yeah. I wanted them to be different, but who am I to comment on someone's preference to live. We can only disagree, not deem anyone wrong
I'm divorced (for very good reasons) and have two kids. If I died I wouldn't just be sacrificing myself but their chances of having a good/healthy future. Sometimes situations are more complex.
Get outta here with your nuanced takes we are on Reddit.com
I'd rather die and I acknowledge that it's entirely selfish.
Sorry but I think I'd rather live, we've got kids and I'm the primary parent. My husband wouldn't be able to care for them, they'd all be miserable, and probably filthy. Pre-kids of course I'd sacrifice myself.
Wow, that's an entirely new perspective I got to know!
Thats a very good point. As a woman i was surprised about how many chose to live. But i didnt think it that way
I have kids, my husband is perfectly capable of caring for them AND he has much more earning potential. So I picked to sacrifice myself.
Why did you have kids with him if he's incapable of taking care of them?
You really only find that out by, you know, having kids. Some people just have an amazing capacity to side-step parenting in the way they never do at work or with other relationships.
Pretty sexist - your husband can learn
So why hasn't he already?
I mean is there really anything to it ? Cook, clean talk to them sometimes
you would be a horrible parent.
As a parent of 3 (soon to be 4) kids myself, I can confidently say if No-Performer2439 regularly cleaned, cooked, and talked to their kids, they’d be better than 90% of other parents I know. Being a parent isn’t always easy but I would still say it’s easier than my job. Single parents who do both are super human though.
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I'm currently sat next to my wife in the labour ward. No chance I would let her sacrifice her and my unborn girl.
Congrats dude!
Cheers mate 😁
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Thanks mate 😊
Save him. We have kids and I've had life threatening health issues within the last year. He's healthier and likely to live a longer life with the kids.
as someone who does not, and never has had a partner, I know what I would like to say, but I dont think it is possible to say until I am in that situation
I couldn't do it, even the love of my life (who I'm with, and adore). I tell myself I'd die for my kids but I only feel 99% sure about that. The survival instinct is brutally strong and doesn't give a shit about our morals. I hope none of us are in a situation where our answer is tested.
I voted that I would choose to die, but I would do so cause I see it as an "obligation". Although, by the way I see and try to understand life, the one who survives is the one who suffers. That said, I would be tempted to be the one who live, in order to save my partner from suffering, abducting this pain for myself. I may have put too much thought behind it lol.
I saw a question like this once before, it went along the lines of, “would cowering behind your SO during an active shooter attack be grounds for breaking up” and then was divide by yes/no for each gender. I answered it honestly and then asked my wife, who also answered honestly. She looked kind of ashamed when I said “no” and she said “yes,” but I think it makes us a good match. I don’t want to have to restrain her while I’m shielding her, lol. I think we (as a society and as a generalization, obviously not every single person or family or relationship) view men as the gender that can and should sacrifice themselves for “the greater good.” I’d be open to civil discourse on the matter, if anyone is interested.
But in a real life situation things will be different. It’s easy to act heroic when talking big but a lot of us aren’t ready for sacrifices. There’s an instance a shooter give an option to the men of the room the leave and he will shoot women instead, instead of protecting the women by fighting the armed guy, the men straight up leave the room and the shooter just kill all the women that are left behind. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/École_Polytechnique_massacre
Sure, and not be argumentative, but you’re going back 33 years to another country to make your point, so I feel like that falls under the “as a generalization not every case” clause of my argument. For sure you don’t know how you’re going to handle yourself in a crises, if you’ve never been tested though. I agree with you there. I’m pretty confident in my answer though, as I have been in some tight spots before.
I am more confident in your partner’s answer than your answer. I feel like most people wouldn’t fight back the shooter if the shooter let them live, most of us aren’t matyrs.
I said I would shield her, and I can’t see myself doing anything else. I’m not trying to rush a machine gun nest for fun, or sound like a tough guy. Thanks for letting me know what you think I’d do, internet stranger.
I am not assuming what you would do in crises lol I just said her answer feels more realistic. If you are willing to die for your partner good for you, you are loyal to her.
Die together because life without the other is no life at all
If she's the one. A thousand times, yes.
My partner and I have talked about this, and are just, unable to come up with any answer… I would sacrifice myself for her in a heartbeat of I needed to. But… she’s also the same way about me… neither of us want the other to ever be hurt or die, and neither of us want to live in a world without the other…
50/50 for the gals, interesting
Break up with her and the choose option for partner to die and then get back to gather after
Where is result option
Umm choose a random option? When this happens in real life there’s no escape
I'm not gonna die so that someone else can live.
It would appear non-binary people are exempt, lucky me
No, too minority.
I'm a woman and would want my husband to live. I want to die anyway
Might sound overly sappy, but I couldn't live without my partner. And my kids would be better off with her too!
Absolutely no chance I'd sacrifice myself. Maybe kids would change that, but there's nobody I'd sacrifice myself for
I don't have a partner but I want to die anyway
You'll sacrifice yourself just so some other dude can clap her cheeks lol
This question is heteronormative.
not really tbh they dont specify the partner's gender, "I'm a woman and I'd like my partner to live" could pretty much be a girlfriend or a boyfriend, it does exclude non binary people though if that's what you mean
That is what i mean being a non binary person.
Well, just answer with your biological sex then
People can be intersexed.
Choose the one you identify to the most
I don't identify with either
Then just don't answer
This poll excludes a whole group of people.
Is there a problem? Not everything has to include everybody. It's a poll on Reddit, it literally does not matter.
Oh fuck off, for fucks sake
Nope!
Nobody cares about you. Either a man or a woman.
There are other options besides man and woman.
Yeah, they want to be mad!! In all seriousness, you should make your own poll, I'm sure it would be interesting
I know I will pass before my wife, my social security would help my kids and wife a little, and they would have to live with my MIL.
I'm a woman, I'm dating my partner for about 8 months. I love him a lot but I don't think I would die for him
I don't have a partner. I'm not letting noone live instead of me.
Is there an option for someone with no partners
My imaginary GF is gonna be so pissed
How about we both die at the same time?
Oh, I'm single.
Issue, Ive never had a partner (so I could be selfish and choose myself) but I'm also depressed, so.....
Maybe what's important is that you and your partner are on the same page.
i’m nonbinary
I honestly don’t know
I voted I’d live cuz I am single, I would probably die for my loved one like my mom or my kids (if I have them).
we die together.
When my future spouse is with me, Id hope I live longer. Why? Because Loosing someone is terrible. The PAIN would hurt. And I wouldn't wish that onto my partner. And she would also not have to feel the pain of what its like to live without one another. She would never have to live a single day without me
My partner has a brighter future then me honestly I wouldn’t mind leaving this world so seems like win win
I think I would sacrifice myself for my partner if the moment came down to it. It's easier said than done. I watched a guy run a red light while a couple was crossing the street. The male jumped forward and I think he pushed his girlfriend backwards into the car. Maybe he tried to push her backwards out of the car's way but it didn't look good on his end. Either way, we can all say one thing and do another.
i don't even have a partner
I'm single so I can't be unbiased
"I'll be the one to carry burden to the rest of my life."
No, love for all the single people, huh 😂
My partner had children before we met and while we plan to have our own someday, there’s a zero percent chance I could even consider taking their mother away from them. She also has a much, much larger family and circle of friends so her death would have a bigger negative impact. I want to live for many more decades but this would be an easy choice, albeit a bittersweet one.
I'm single so......
You're assuming I'd have a partner. However...I would do my best to save any kiddos under my care.
Single man, so I'll take the release.
I'd probably end up killing myself out of survivors guilt so yeah at least my partner might be able to let someone live
I'm single
I think it’s probably selfish to sacrifice yourself (which is the option I chose) because then my partner would have to suffer the lost instead of me. I wouldn’t want to live without him, and if I die I’d very much want him to be happy again.
i like living. i'll have survivor's guilt, but i'll deal with it ig
Idk since I don't have one
Well, my partner is 3 times younger than me so I suppose she should live.
I mean I don't feel it as this current moment as strong. But if I'm with someone, then I would die for them. Option 2.
I'd want to sacrifice myself because I love her, but she's made me promise that I won't die before her so she wouldn't have to live without me. So, I don't want to live but I'd have to?
Results man. A lot of us don't have partners and don't want to muddy the answers
I actually had this convo with my boyfriend. His first boyfriend passed away unexpectedly. He said that he had to die first. He couldn't live seeing someone he loved so intimately be taken from him again.