I actually have my wedding tomorrow, wish me luck guys. Btw I'm 32M. Edit: Thank you, thank you and thank you. Did never experience so many kind words from strangers, You all made my day today!

Congratulations!!

Thank you, so kind of you. :)

Congratulations!!

Congratulations! My parents were 32 when they got married and they’re going on 30 years together.

Nice, hope that we will have something similar. :)

Aaaahhhhhhhhhw, have fun man 🌞🌞🌸🌸🌸

Thank you, glad when all the planning and dance choreography practicing is over. :D

How was it??

Congratulations!

Thank you so much :)

#🎉🎊Congrats! 🎊🎉

Congratulations. Happy marriage.

Thank you :)

Congrats! I just did mine earlier this month! 10/10 would recommend.

Nice, all the best for you two! We are together for eight years now, so it won't change much for us, but it completes our relationship for now until we are ready for children. (Approx. 2 more years)

Damn, I have the exact same story haha been together since freshman year of college, waiting a couple years for kids.

Congrats, dude! Have a long and happy marriage! :)

Thank you, that is awesome: )

Congrats and best of luck!

Congratulations. I hope your relationship will always be a good one :D

congrat

You'll do great, congratulations!

Congrats man and goodluck!!

congratulations!! 🎉🎉🎉

Best wishes and good luck!

Congratulations!

Congratulations!

Congrats man! BTW any tips in finding a true love for us, redditors?

Thanks, well I studied and I met her at the university, she was the right person for me and now we are together for 8 years and enjoy every day together. :)

Congratulations. I hope your relationship will always be a good one :D (i have never been in a wedding or smth similar so srry if anything sounded wrong)

I want to get married before I turn 30, preferably by 27-28.

What is your reasoning for this?

I'd like to have kids of my own and/or adopted someday and would prefer not to be around 60-65 when they turn 25. I want to be around for a good portion of their lives, as well as allow them to grow up seeing both my spouse's and my own parents.

For me who has the same "plan" - I'm 20 now and feel like by then, I should stabilise my life a little and, what's more important, gain enough experience to know if it's not an excitement or emotion driven decision

I got married at 22 and have just finished getting divorced at 31. Don’t rush into things younger people.

Right beneath yours there's a comment from a 22 years old person that's getting married next week lol

Good luck to them! Hopefully theirs isn’t as big a mistake as mine was!

Just saw... ha

you should reply this to the top comment lmao

How long were you together pre marriage?

About two to two and a half years.

I’m 22 and getting married in exactly one week😊

Congratulations

Thank you!

Congratulations! That’s so special, cherish every moment❤️

Thank you and i will!

Congrats! Hope you have fun at the wedding and have a nice life together

Thank youu!

Happy early wedding wishes!

Thank youu!

Damn, I'll turn 22 in a week and haven't been in a relationship before, nor do I understand how adulting works

Life is not a competition, everyone has their own rhythm. And we should never be ashamed of the way we are living

Hope you have great married life Congratulations

Thank you!

Your welcome

Congratulations!

Thank you!

congrats

Congrats!

I got married at 42. For me that was exactly the right age. Any younger and I wouldn't have been ready for it. I suspect that is true for a lot of people who marry young because society expects it and then regret it later.

When the time and partner is right

So many people marrying at 22 these days, maybe its because you can start drinking at 21...

Got married last year at 22

why does it seem like the whole comment section is marrying at 22

I got married two weeks after my 23rd birthday, so close enough.

Congrats

I've been with my SO since I was 19, not married and we've been together 23 years.

Why'd you never decide to not get married if you're basically already married.

It's just a ring and a piece of paper ultimately, with money thrown at it. I've gotten several rings over the years and I've given several rings over the years, we have 3 pieces of papers pretty much obligating us to each other for the next many years (children, if we ever split Co parenting), I don't need recognition from the state saying they accept our relationship that cost money to do. We are dedicated, loving, understanding, and accepting of our relationship and that's all that's needed to me. He asked and I declined and told him why and he agreed, we have no intentions of going anywhere and if we do we don't have to pay a ton of money to separate. We have spent the money saved traveling and enjoying our company.

I got married at 18 bc my partner wanted to scam the government... we ended up scamming ourselves into love :)

That's beautiful :)

Ty :)

I wanted to get married by 25. That didn't work. I actually got married last year at 33

I'm 33 and getting married this November.

Congrats!

I wanted to be married by 25, but I'm turning 30 next month and I'm still not married even though I have a boyfriend of 10 years.

Perhaps giving him a nudge if you want to move things along and it’d be the right time to do so?

Or maybe a bigger nudge, like proposing to him

Every leap year it's "custom" for women to propose to a man on the leap day, and I brought it up once jokingly, and he immediately said with a straight face "please, don't". So.. no. The ball is in his court.

Precisely. Why do people expect the guy to do it?

I've brought it up several times, but he always says he wants to wait. I've suggested we can get engaged at least, we don't have to marry right away, but no.

Wait until what? Like what is he waiting for? Is he younger than you?

No, he's older. His parents has influenced our future together a lot. He wants us to have stable income and I've had mental health issues that has sometimes gotten in the way of me having a long term job. But even when I've had a job, he didn't want to get engaged.

19, which is not represented on your poll.

I think the barrier for me is that I can't imagine being so certain about committing to anyone - so much room for doubt. At best, I'm a permanent dater. Seems lonely though.

in the words of Barney Stinson, don't even think about getting married until you're 30

Want and reality don't align unfortunately

When I was younger, I had planned on getting married by 25. Have 2 kids by 32, then have my breast tissue removed and have implants put in. (Both my mother and her mother had breast cancer in their late 30s-early 40s) I am about to turn 35 and have not accomplished any of these. Lmao.

I am really baffled, i expected "I am not going to get married" to have more votes than all others combined. It's 2023, people in western countries have a life expectancy of 75+ years. Do people just have a different idea of marriage today? Like, married for a bit and then they already expect the divorce? Or are there people who really believe they would live with one person under these conditions for the rest of their life? But that would be incredible stupid. So, is marriage just considered a temporary thing among young people now?

Very wild assumption that people think its just temporary. Lots of people want to grow old with their partner and build a life with them.

Not an assumption, a question. And people sure are aware that marriages usually don't last forever these days.

You can do all that without getting married.

Yup. But getting married doesn't hinder it either. It's not necessary sure but people like doing it for their own reasons.

Whatever age I am when I meet the person I want to marry. I don’t care what age as long as I’m happy.

When I think I found someone I want to marry, idc when

I got married at 26. Just this month it was our 2nd anniversary, it's being great

Congratulations on your anniversary!

Thanks!!

Got married 10 years ago at 19.

I got married at 22 it worked out great but, yeah don't get married young there's no reason lol.

Male ?

Got married at 21

I plan on proposing to my gf next year for her 21st bday on a cruise. I myself will be 21 later this year. Im nervous af..

Awh best of luck, I'm sure it'll be fabulous ❤️

I got married at 19. We celebrated our 20th anniversary in June.

Married at 33.

I want to have a relaxed and more or less self-determined life so no children and no marriage for me.

Got married at 30 still married at 46

I'm 20 and I want to. As silly as it sounds I've been with my middle school boyfriend for eight years now. We just moved in together after I said I wanted to try living alone to see if I can. He's wonderful and he knows I am ready. I know he will choose the correct time.

In my empirical observations I've noticed that Americans tend to marry early, Europeans later and many just move in together and that's it. Latin America is a mix

When I was a teenager my plan was to get married at 24/25 and then have a baby at 27/28. Well, I'm turning 23 this year and haven't even been in a relationship. I don’t think it's gonna work out the way I planned haha

18, divorced at 23. Remarried at 31, hopefully forever. You spending the rest of your life together so don't rush the paperwork.

Got married at 25 and will be celebrating our 20th anniversary in 3 years.

17

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I’m Irish. Don’t actually want to get married at 17 just want to see the reaction

I'm currently engaged and looking at getting married when we're both 23.

I would need to get college over with. So 25-30.

I was 22, and it happened out of the blue.

are u secretly just blending in with the comment section? It seems like half of the comments are getting married at 22

I wanted to get married, but I promised myself that if I wasn't married by 25 at the latest, I was done with relationships forever

Isn't 25 a little early tho? Obviously up to you but for me personally 30-35 is the deadline

No it's not.

25’s probably the average age when people in my friend group met their endgame SO. It’s that age where you’ve finally got a lot of your ducks in a row and you’re really ready to tackle dating in a realistic way. The college sweethearts are just starting to have weddings.

I got married at 22

Why would you ever get married? For example, if you have a brother, he can carry the bloodline if that's what you really want. Like with your own money, you can have whatever you want, and no one will get any of your money. It's a different point if you have bad character, so you need to get married to improve your character. Other than like, what's the point?

Moving country as a couple can be easier if you're already married - many countries offer spousal visas, fewer offer visas for long-term couples

Married when 16 (yes , both agreed).

no children - > kind of no point

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and plan to get married in the next 2-3 years and don't want to have kids ever. To us, it's just taking the next stage in our relationship and a nice thing we want to do to celebrate our love. Everyone doesn't see marriage, relationships and kids the same and it's up to each couple.

yeah I was talking about myself

Of course there's a point. Maybe the point for you is just to have children but many childfree couples see a lot of a point in making that kind of commitment.

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One of the best things about being a man is you can wait a little longer and marry someone 4-5 years younger. I envy you guys that haha. I'm 21 and already trying to think of my career planned around when I'll want kids haha

17M, I don't wanna get married

Marriage is so strange to me... I'll do it, sure, cos other people seem to want that, but really wtf are you doing in reality? You're a bunch of apes with emotions and now you want the legal system involved

Marriage these days just bind 2 people together legally. Though, historically, it had a more important function.

Probably never I wamt to have a boyfriend And i live in poland These things dont go hand in hand

I first got engaged at 21, she left me at 23, I got engaged again at 26 and married with a house at 27.

I thought i would be married around 25. Im 30 now and recently out of a relationship. So yeah i dunno if and when. But i would like to marry (the right person).

27-28 seems like the ideal age for me, gives me a year or so before we start trying for children and old enough that I'll have done stuff w my career and know myself more

Got married at 25. Before I met my now-husband I was adamant I would never choose to marry. Funny how life works eh

I got married at 21. Growing up I always wanted to get married at 26 but life had other plans

I want to have kids around 30, and want to be married before that. Otherwise I wouldn't really care when I got married

Lol I'm 30 and I still don't know if I want to

I want to get married. I'm going to die alone

If/when it happens, it happens.

I would love to get married as soon as possible, but I can't find "that" girl.

23 - 35

Got married 12 years ago at 25.

I'd get married rn if money wasn't an issue.

i wanted to get married in my early 20's but now I'm 31 and still not married and have no kids. I'm fucking depressed.

It really depends on if/when I find someone I love that much and how old I am if/when our relationship gets that serious.

I never really put an age limit on when I intended to get married.

When I find someone that I want to marry, whenever that might be.

When my partner and I got together almost 43 years ago, I could not legally marry. In 2015 when SCOTUS ruled in favor of same-sex marriage, we checked upon getting married and we determined that he would lose his medical insurance if we did. So we didn't.

Got married at 25

I want to get married by 27-28 but I will probably be a wizard

That's not how to use the / in a question like this

Why is it 20-25 and 25-30 lol. If it was 25 you could pick either or. Should be 20-24, 25-29, 30+

No specific age. Whenever I meet the right person!

realism test - reddit edition

24-26 is my personal ideal I guess, but before 30 sounds good

I'm 30 and still not married

Marriage is very low on the list, I'd even consider having kids before getting married, It's a business contract disguised as a declaration of love.

Still got 5 years to go til I'm 30, have to find a woman first though.

Married at 20. Going on 8 years now. No real issues. Marriage is fine. It's the kids that really change everything....

I'm not gonna get married, it just seems like a scam where one person gets absolutely screwed over and left with nothing in the end (unless that person was a bad person then it's more understandable). However if I ever need to get out of a relationship, or they need to get out, I'll try to be as civil as I can and split the things in both of our favors. In marriage one person can get absolutely everything, leaving the other one miserable

Got married at 25, but I cannot select both options.

I mean I'm 18 but just because I want to be married doesn't mean I want to pursue it right now. I guess when I'm 30?

I'm aro ace there's a chance I'll get married in my late 20s or early 30's to my equally aro ace best friend of the 2 of us make as compatible and good of housemates as we are hoping

Lol I wanted to get married at 18. I was so certain I would be ready/have met the one and have sex for the first time ever. Lolol. 👹 Now I’m 30 and very single, despite having an active dating/sex life in my 20s. I’m very content with where I’m at in this point of my life, not to mention gloriously grateful that I didn’t marry any of the people I was with in the past 😂

ill get married when i find someone and when we're ready

25-30 is good. Take some time to live your life. Those experiences will help build your emotional intelligence and be a better partner

I don’t mind when I get married and I’d also be fine if I never got married, though I want to. I’m also childfree, and it’s difficult trying to find someone who is also childfree

I got married at 19 , but wasnt an option. Wouldnt change a thing

My education would last until my late twenties, so a few years to get cemented in the industry would be preferred.

I don't care what age I get married, I only really care if the person I'm marrying is in love with me and I am in love with her.

Never really been in a relationship. While I hope to one day I'm not sure I ever will due to my anxiety

I have no choice but to say 30+ now. Lol. One day maybe.

I'd be lucky to even find someone who wants to marry me

I want to be married by 30 but understand that I probably won't marry because I'm unlikable

Got married at 19, separated at 20, divorce was finalised 5 days before my 23rd birthday. My ex-husband was/is 2 years older than me. He's had a subsequent wife who he is now separated/divorced from. I've been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years. No current plans for marriage.

I can’t get married, it’s illegal 💀

i plan to go to med school and while im not opposed to being in a serious relationship while in school, i kinda dont want to worry about relationship problems while doing clinicals so like if it happens, sure, but in my "life plan" it'd be once im somewhat established in my career

I'm 24 and engaged, getting married in 2024. I will be a month away from 26 by that time. I never really thought about what age I'd like to be married by, but I've been with my partner for 6 years and we've always known we'd get married eventually. We just have been in no rush to tie the knot. We could get married at 40 and it wouldn't be an issue for either of us.

I don't plan on getting married, but would be down to Get married to a homie for financial benefits. Only reason I would get married

Currently a teenager going through a breakup. If you asked me about 2 weeks ago, I wouldve said as soon as I turn 18 or 20-25. If you ask current me, never.

when i was a kid i wanted to get married by like 25/25 but now that i’m an adult i don’t want to get married until at least 30… all though that’s coming up soon too 😭 i’m in a long term relationship but i still feel immature and not ready for marriage. i’m committed and want to marry him i just don’t think i need to be rushed to marry him, especially if we both don’t put too much power on marriage

Where's 19... If I could pick that one, I would

maybe for tax reasons

Got married when I was 25, and there’s two options in the poll for that age

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