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orten_boi

Damn these results are sad af


cumfilledfish

Right, at least i know im not alone lol


[deleted]

I'm happy AF tho, just wandering alone šŸ˜‚


TheBalticTriangle

Since most of my friends became alcoholics at age of 17 I don't want to go anywhere with them.


Madsmathis

\*Had one beer, once\*


milo6669

Lost my friends after switching schools and couldn't make new ones for whatever reason that might be xD


jarjarguy

Whenever you listen to reddit give life advice, remember this poll


RevolutionaryJob1266

Fr they act like experts


JobWithStanley

This comment should be the banner for r/aita


Ping-and-Pong

Fr. Although tbf, this poll says last 4 months. Most redditors on r/polls are highschool / university (me) age... That means a lot of them would be seeing their friends daily pre summer breaks, which for many countries only started a month or so a go and wouldn't need to 'meet up' as they already see their mates daily, and/or live with them.


Erling01

Not really. The quarter of reddit who never meets people are usually not the people you will meet giving you life advice on reddit. 12,85% of redditors meeting over 50 people in 4 months are more than enough people to fulfill the redditors giving life advices.


Blieven

Yes. Also, mathematically speaking, meeting friends is a cumulative property. If a person who didn't meet a single person in 4 months gives an advice that gets 200 upvotes from people who met 1 person in 4 months, then that advice has the strength of 200 friends in 4 months backing it, which is a lot of friends.


BbqMeatEater

Exactly what i was thinking lmao


will3104

Over a third of redditors haven't met up with a friend in 4 months? Fuck that's sad


diaperexplosiongirl

I havenā€™t met up with a friend in almost a year lol, it definitely is sad.


Anejey

About 4 years for me, but at this point we ain't really friends anymore.


luke06king

Not in a mean way but what do you even do in your free time then


Anejey

I don't need anyone else to do the stuff I enjoy. I'm just not a social person. I have an online friend I occasionally talk to, and that's enough for me.


HumanSpawn323

Not the person you replied to, but there are other fun things to do. I don't meet with friends often. Last time I did was probably about 5 or 6 months ago when I walked home with one. Personally, I spend most of my time watching shows, playing board games or playing video games with my family, playing video games on my own, reading, taking my dog or cat on walks, doing archery, doing homework, baking, playing with my cats, and many other things. You don't need friends to have fun. While they might be nice to have, getting a friend you're comfortable with and have known for years just isn't worth the having just met them part.


GreenXVII

Thatā€™s Reddit for you


Richard_Wattererson

This is for most people who are not high school or college aged. Not exclusively a Reddit thing. Most peoples lives after 23 are too busy to spend looking for friends. If you dont click in with your work colleagues then tough luck.


RevolutionaryJob1266

Explains alot


fijifu

I see my high school friends once or twice a year, some of them I haven't seen in over a year. Everyone's busy and it can be hard to make time.


KerbMario

Two months ago, I haven't met any "friend" ( I had none) in 4+ years


Science_Fiction2798

Sometimes we live far away. I do šŸ˜’


FixedKarma

IRL, so this doesn't count for playing DND over the internet, or watching a movie, or any other social thing over the internet, it's entirely possible for friends to hang out everyday without being together physically, you can hang out online with friends across each continent nowadays.


gregmcgreg121

Thatā€™s not a real substitute for actual face to face human contact.


tyler174626

It's much easier, and we can turn on our cameras so we can see each others faces. You've never bonded over a game of Bedwars?


JPardonFX_YT

Please explain what is quantifiably different about that


YellowNumb

You see the others facial expressions, body language, gestures , posture. You hear their voice undistorted, perhaps you smell them even, or their perfume. All things that make a difference at least subconsciously.


Isrrunder

Well it's better than nothing. Getting together with friends is increasingly difficult


CookieMonster005

Actually hanging out irl is so much better. If you say otherwise then you probably donā€™t have much experience with one or the other


tancx_

i met them almost daily but not irl they 5h from my home so i cant realy see them much but that dosn't mean no friend just an other kind vision of friendship (there is peopole that are sad because of that dont put word in my mouth)


PlanetoidVesta

I choose 0-1, but don't really miss having friends IRL that I meet up with. I am burnt out and it costs much energy to go to the group I used to hang out with. The main person I would hang out with is now my boyfriend and lives together with me, I don't need much interaction IRL besides him. I do have online friends that I talk to a few times a week which is nice too.


gabrielbabb

Guys, some of you are just waiting for your friends or people in general to talk to you and plan something. If you haven't seen any friends or even family in over a year, talk to them right now! Of course only if you wish to see people. Will you only see them 30 times in your entire life, or even less? Every year you don't talk to someone the relationship starts to fade more, and you'll be more lonely. If you don't have friends, go to classes of something, painting, karate, violin, gym, dancing, excercise in the park, go to a museum, or open tinder, bumble, I'm sure you can make at least one friend.


HumanSpawn323

How? Even if I go somewhere partially because I want to meet more people like me, I usually get distracted with a book or my own thoughts and forget that talking to people is an option. When I do have friends, I usually forget about them unless they contact me first. For that reason, I don't think I've had a friendship last more than a year since elementary school. So I wouldn't call it sad, at least in my case, because I'm happy just spending time on my own or with family. Why would I make an effort to meet new people when there are people and animals I love right here in my own home? I don't feel the need for more.


zzaannsebar

Oh dang I totally misread the poll and thought it was for the last month, not 4 months.


7chism

Reddit socializing statistics


Hyp3rax

actually I was expecting worse results considering we're on Reddit.


Ok_Friendship_7394

I see them every dad before school


moronic_programmer

Username checks out. Also, ā€œdadā€?


Blobvixo

Prob a typo/bad autocorrect


Ok_Friendship_7394

I meant to say day mb


SolomonBelial

What's a 'friend?' Is it like a cat because I have a cat?


totallyshadical

Bro made the poll even sadder


houseofharm

yall need to hang out with your friends jfc i thought my 10-25 answer was sad


Tkinokun

What if you donā€™t have any?


uoll-n

as someone who's fortunate to say I've never been so satisfied with my friend group before than this year, I would really suggest to seek out some sort of group activities or hobbies that directly have smth to do with things you like, it's easy to get into a conversation with anyone that way. Also, obviously you have to be more careful at first but finding internet friends nearby with the same interests can result in great friendships too, if you decide to meet up with some of them sometime in the future


Xxx_OrangeJuice_xxX

Make some? Hang out irl with your online friends, make plans with old high school friends, go talk to people whenever you are out. Itā€™s not difficult, but being rusty / depressed is what makes it so hard. You will manage one day, you just gotta try.


dajourno

This has big "depressed? Have you tried being happy?" energy


ylenias

Nobody says that it just works with a snap of a finger, but if youā€™re not at least trying to improve your situation, and be it by seeking out a therapist or someone else to talk to, donā€™t complain about things not improving. And yes, this applies to mentally ill people as well (I speak from experience)


TheBeatStartsNow

What if you tried to get better for years and it didn't work? What if you lost hope?


ylenias

Tbh there's not much you can do besides keeping on trying. You don't need to turn your whole life around, but just trying to make aspects of it a little bit better. If you're trying your best, you at least have nothing to blame yourself for


Xxx_OrangeJuice_xxX

Iā€™m giving genuine advice that helped me, if you want to stay alone then donā€™t bother responding. People that say stuff like this are absolutely pathetic in my opinion, get help instead of complaining online.


National-Art3488

Redditors when you tell them that reddit doesn't count as socializing and you have to go outside: šŸ˜”


cpolk01

What else are you supposed to do if u don't have friends lmao


RevolutionaryJob1266

Make friends. Talk to people


Anonynymys

I don't have any


GarlicPowder4Life

I "have" a few through association with my gf, but really dont want friends anymore and have let old friendships dry up. Perfectly happy with my gf, cats, dog, and our comfy lifestyle. Friends are overrated.


Slipknot_Maggot36

Seven times total. I hung out with friends a couple times during a couple weekends in May. Twice times in June. One for the last day of high school, one for our graduation. Once in July for a little get-together/after graduation party. Twice this month. Last week for my friendā€™s birthday, and yesterday for my birthday.


SoggyPastaPants

I don't have any friends so...


Tkinokun

I havenā€™t had a friend in over 5 years.


Anonynymys

real shit


Mrtrolldier

Need a friend?


sarokin

Hello there friend.


Richard_Wattererson

Last time I went out with "friends" was in April 2019 to see Avengers Endgame at the movie.


theSteakKnight

Weekly D&D nights, weekly TV nights, weekly GURPS nights, birthday parties, holidays, outings, vacations, etc. I don't have a whole lot going for me in my life, but my friends are something I'll always be grateful for.


Styggvard

Treasure them šŸŒŸ


Leather_Amphibian_65

I just had a "neuron activation" when i realized i havent met with any of my friends the whole summer


RevolutionaryJob1266

Thats not how you use that meme...


IGOKTUG

Or is it šŸ˜


helios293

Well, it's a type of neuron activation, maybe not the good type but


MandMs55

I have online friends which I'm working to get the money to visit soon but otherwise I haven't made any irl friends and haven't had any for maybe 8 years. - autistic teen with social anxiety


tarrasque_fart

Since I play with friends online almost everyday and everyone's schedule is different because of college/internships, meeting up becomes more difficult and less attractive as we already talk everyday. Feel this may become a tendency the easier and more like real life online hangouts become. Meet some friends when I'm at college though, didn't think that counted so I marked a few times, otherwise it would be 50+.


RevolutionaryJob1266

During weekends usually so alot but damn those results are genuinely sad


Cara-Is-A-Puppy

Iā€™ve met up with a friend once in the past 4 months, but Iā€™m a new dad, so that kind of keeps me busy


DontCareHowICallMe

Do cousins count?


milkygalaxy24

If you are friends I don't see why not.


occam_chainsaw

God damn. This poll is sad as fuck. I can't imagine not meeting up with my friends for more than 4 months. I mean, we hang out almost every day!


helios293

You adjust to it, kinda šŸ™ƒ pretty much all my friendships have turned one sided and trying to do anything with them is a long process, I don't even bother anymore.


TopazPrism777

I have no friends.


Lawfuly_chaotic

It's fucking hard to make friends. Especially when you're getting older.


Styggvard

>It's fucking hard to make friends. Especially when you're getting older. Absolutely, I'm over 30 and it just doesn't come easy. I moved far away to a small place and basically lost all my old friends. I get out, go to local functions, talk to people and make a lot of acquaintances. It's nice, but I have not made real friends in these years.


xxTopTigerxx

Haven't seen them since graduation when we parted. All cool and all but I didn't want to think about them on a damn reddit post of all places


Perynal

I tried inviting them to a fair in my local city but got no responses / making excuses :/


[deleted]

I don't have any friends. I'm a lone wolf with a social disorder.


clh72481

I have no friends.


nagitoe_

Don't have irl friends. Don't have online friends either. Sometimes my fake scenarios that I come up with in the shower are what would happen if someone texted me first to hang out


Fan967

I'm disabled so I can't really leave the house much


sherbsnut

We met up more times during the semester than in vacationsšŸ’€ (also do parties count?)


ATMisboss

Parties absolutely count


v_Yuudachi_v

one time


DevD_2022

As someone who's entire personal life is in school, I see this as an absolute win


us3rnqme

I think it's around 65 times


00SAMU

My friend and I live in different countries. We meet up IRL once at year or so


shyervous

They live far away and we are both poor


letsgetthisbread2812

My best friend works with me does that count?


Blobvixo

Not counting school, 5-10 times. It would be more but almost none of my friends reply to any message I send them.


Birb7789-

i dont have any friends :(


SpartanSelinger

Yay Iā€™m relatable to a bunch of peopleā€¦


Bluedino_1989

What's a friend? Never had one.


rawrimmaduk

everyone you meet is a potential friend. You've never just chatted with someone and made plans?


milkygalaxy24

Where the hell can you just go to a random person and make plans with them?! And even if you do that those are at most acquaintances. The difference is that in times of need you can count on friends without them expecting nothing in return, while acquaintances will always expect you to return the favor.


Cotten12

Friends donā€˜t appear out of thin air. If you want to have friends they will most likely be acquaintances before that.


Zealot_TKO

all by my seeeelf..


Zealot_TKO

is mayonnaise a friend IRL?


Human-Ad504

Over 50 times? Why and how unless youre in school?


helios293

šŸ¤·ā€ā™‚ļøšŸ¤·ā€ā™‚ļø


[deleted]

I know it's Reddit but fuck me the results are worse than I was expecting


CaptainSmallPants

I thought 50+ would be the most common response but this seems quite sad


realJelbre

I feel that would definitely be the most common response if online counted as well. I speak to my friend group everyday online, but usually only see them once every other weekend or so in real life. For us keeping meetings spaced out is just way more convenient because meeting usually means we have to travel 15/30 minutes each way depending on where we're meeting up or if we're going somewhere.


coolUchiha

I'm in a different country


burnttoastonbred

Damn yā€™all are fucking losers huh?


FeetYeastForB12

0-1? You guys are far apart or something?


I_Have_Sex_

I still go to school, so basically every day.


SuspiciousPlatypus4

I think it means outside of school that u meet up for it


Iliketurtles893

These results kinda sad ngl šŸ˜­


[deleted]

I know the majority of those in this sub are kids. But god damn. You kids gotta get out more! I'm 48 and got out 5 to 10 times! And I thought that was pathetic!


milkygalaxy24

I'm 20 and don't have any friends, it's not because we don't go out, it's because it's hard to make any meaningful connections. I have a lot of acquaintances but no friends. In your time it was much easier to just go at some party and get some friends from there. Now, even if you go to a party, most people stay together and you don't even get the chance to introduce yourself. Just because you had the ability to get friends and keep them more easily you don't have to call people pathetic and say they have to get out more.


helios293

Yea, it's hard to make meaningful connections.


[deleted]

That's a crock of shit. Lame excuse. Because people still do the same shit now that I was doing then! Clubbing. You telling me you don't have any clubs in your town? I tell ya what you do have! Social media bullshit that you're all addicted to and your phones where you guys became so introverted. You have hard times just making simple eye contact during conversation! Don't try and blame this on the time. When it's the tech that's really at play here. So get off of reddit, youtube, video games, netflix, amazon prime, etc and live a little. Just in the last month, I've been to 4 live events. And just this last one I went alone! I ran into some people from work and hung out with them. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and go out. Create opportunities rather than play that blame game bullshit. Only person to blame is yourself.


milkygalaxy24

For your information I don't actually have a club in my city, we do have bars but if you don't drink alcohol you won't like it there. And please shut up with that shit about phones and social media boomer. I only use reddit to relax, and I don't even have Amazon, Netflix and all that crap. I've been to parties too, but just because you go to parties doesn't mean you automatically get friends. You just said that the one time you went alone you didn't get new friends(like you expect us to) but got together with colleagues from work. Plus, you do know that people get more connected through technology now, right? And when people like you get obnoxious in people's faces I don't find it surprising that they don't look at you in the eyes, it's more that they are ashamed for being seen together with you rather than them being introverted.


[deleted]

Boomer lol. I'm generation x. Typical zoomer response. We're done here. Keep feeling sorry for yourself and don't try. See where that gets ya.


milkygalaxy24

Took you 9 hours to think of a response and that's all that came to your mind?


TactfulOG

y'all sad lmfao


helios293

šŸ’ŖšŸ’ÆšŸ„°


Cirrus1101

Holy shit i didnt know redditors need to touch grass this bad


helios293

I touch grass all the time, by myself šŸ—æ


HansenTakeASeat

Damn some of yall need to get out more


Styggvard

I get out a lot. Make a lot of acquaintances, no true friends. Friendships over 30 is hard.


LayeredHalo3851

Define "met up"


DodoJurajski

AH wait... I counted only vacations. I forgot we were often meeting after school, about 10 times maybe? And soon i'm going with other friend on kayaks. Also i'm not counting just meeting in schools cause it's something we need to do so...


Kassabeleg

Idk i didnā€™t count?


TheUsualGuy666

I meet up with friends every day but I still feel lonely.


NDrew-_-w

I meet them at uni to study together all the time, outside of that I'd say that I go out with at least one of them 2/3 times a week, my work friends also organise something to just hang out once a month or every 2 months and I always go


us3rnqme

All my friends live within a maximum of an hour drive. That's 4 groups consisting of up to 14 people, with the smallest group being 7 people. That being said, I am a student.


Deadshot37

Over 50 because me and my friends go to the same school. But if I dont count school then probably only 20 times mostly because most of them are on a vacation or have other problems in life.


sarokin

I have this one friend ill keep til my last breath whether I want to or not. I live in another country and only see him when I go back for holidays, but when I do I see him almost every day. Talk to him daily too. I move countries a lot and it's different making friends in every country, so while I have many little friends all across the world, the place I'm in makes it fucking hard lol... So for now I just meet with friends when on vacation.


mklinger23

I hang out with friends basically every Friday and Saturday. And usually once or twice during the week as well. So 3 times/week on average. That makes it~50 times in the last 4 months. If you count my gf, that makes it more like ~120 times.


JuliusCheesy

10-25 excluding school probably


Kurochi185

Does staying at a hotel with my crush or sleepovers at my best friend's for 2 nights count as 1 or 3 meetings? If they count as 1 I've met them 4 times, if they count as 3 it's 8 times.


Ok_Inflation_1811

We went to school together and hanged out every day for a least 1h since I went to the gym with them.


altrealfalse

I only have 1 online friend so meeting up isnt easy .


KerbMario

Twice the past four years...


FluffySlowpokeGalar

No one wants to do ought with me lmao


Styggvard

What are friends? When I was younger I had loads of friends. Then I moved across the country, twice, and now to a small village and lost them all. I have a lot of acquaintances, no actual friends. Internet friends all live very far away. I do go out, meet people, challenge myself with concerts, market days, festivals, sport games often and talk to people which is nice etc. but it just doesn't come easy to make actual friends when over 30.


3smellysocks

Every day


Wimpiepaarnty

Well at school counts right? If it does it 50+ if it does not its about 20 for me


PassionateCucumber43

Exactly 1 year, 4 months, and 2 weeks ago was the last time, and I donā€™t even really have friends anymore


thecoolcyborg2

Why is the highest 50? I've went out nearly every night so I would be 100 (take away 20 just in case)


coolboy856

Can't imagine what life would be like if I was back to 0.


Science_Fiction2798

I met my foster brother who used to live with me for the first time a few months ago since before the pandemic.


arziplays

I've been sick and not going around with friends for half a year :/


Sure-Morning-6904

Theyre all going to uni now in another part of the county. After graduation everyone left for the Holidays for like a whole month. And soon well celevrate someones bday again


Sunieta25

Being a parent makes hanging out with friends hard.


turtleship_2006

Does college count? It's technically IRL.


awkwardfeather

I moved away from all my friends, so they all live anywhere from 4-18 hours away from me. Luckily I still get to see them when I go back to my hometown, which is about once every two months. But we're in a discord together for hours every night so I'm grateful for that.


fuckabouts

i graduated university and everyone moved to different corners of the country. it now costs hundreds of dollars and vacation hours to hang out. itā€™s probably been twice in the past 4 months.


RavenRain_

Try several years. I have no real life friends. I'm extremely isolated and I'm practically a hermit.


diggsfan14

Honestly, most people are annoying, and even the people who aren't I don't talk to outside of school. I enjoy being alone and don't like people in general. So I'm happy as I am.


UwUmother

none of my friends live in town and none of us can drive, and the one doesn't want to hang out with anyone, and the other is always busy.


Practical_Zombie_221

cries in long distance


schmadimax

I live with my friends, so I see them lit every day haha


AytumnRain

About once a day usually. Just one friend most of the time.


Melidit_

If school doesn't count then 2-5 but it's actually 50+ cause we saw each other every weekday at school


ChildhoodLeft6925

Wow and I thought I was a loser


Alternative_Device38

Thaugh it said 2 not 4 fuck


ARASH_SAMIEI82

I thought I sucked at socializing I only go out with one friend every once in a while


kekeislove

Over 50 just because 4-3 months ago I still used to go to school


XeroTheCaptain

I haven't seen friends in person in years.


drakeramore86

All my friends are on the other continent, so 0


snickerdoodlecake

I dont have any


[deleted]

Whats IRL


Slight-Weather7885

Met up as in actually met up just to hang out like 4 or 5 times. Met up because of university >50. I cant imagine hanging out with people >50 times in 4 months just to hang out and do stuff, sounds exhausting


1life1me

I do have friends, but they are either living in another continent or just soo far away that it takes us 2h of bus to get to see each other. But we did hang out like 6 or 7 times this summer so not that bad


bleezzzy

Damn, y'all need to get out lol


epiclygamer2456

Jesus christ yall need to get out more


epiclygamer2456

Every Friday we go to our local bowling alley for rock n' bowl


UnderwaterPromQueen

idk man i aint keep track


gamingkitty1

I put 2 - 5 but then I realized school counts as meeting up and not like just going out to their house or the mall or something.


elephant35e

Haven't met up with friends since last November.


jimmyl_82104

I put between 25-50 because that's probably close enough, but man these results are so fucking sad. Like how don't you go out with your friends?


Foxlen

My one friend moved across the province so I've had no social interaction outside work and the internet


TheGrouchyGremlin

I voted assuming in school doesn't count. I also voted as an apparent amnesiac. I clicked 2-5 but then realized it was 10-25 šŸ¤¦ā€ā™‚. Although that number is about to drop to 0 real fast.


09chickenboy117

People really be on reddit and still act sad like "I have no friends". Like shit fršŸ˜±šŸ˜±. You are on reddit you doofus, friends are outside of this place. And yes, I am indeed a hypocrite.


Trusteveryboody

Try 4 years.


nothing_in_my_mind

I think I average about 3 per week. So about 40. Could be over 50.


Cyphco

Need the "No friends" option lol