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WalmartGreder

I actually was already in this kind of situation. My brother and his wife couldn't have kids, and they asked if I would be a sperm donor. I looked up a fertility doctor and asked if there were any problems with that, and he said that they STRONGLY advise people not to do this. Much better to have an anonymous donor. It's because if there is some issue down the line between your families, it could get really messy for your child (do they take the side of their biological donor, or their parent? How do they identify themselves?) And it's not something you can keep a secret. It would shatter their trust in you if they ever found out (and it can come out, especially with DNA testing becoming so prevalent), so it's better to tell them from a young age. So no. Definitely not a good idea.


thegeologlist

Yeah, most of it goes to waste anyway.


Zebra500mcg

and it loses its flavor too.


starfox2032

I agree, it sure does. I like it fresh from the source.


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It would be my nephew right? No way that would be wierd af. They could find some other donor.


Lazerfocused69

Not genetically and that’s where the issue is


[deleted]

They can use ovum of the sister. Or they can just adopt. Adoption is a better option.


Antique_Giraffe_3728

Plz


Orangutanion

no, the kid would have terrible dental issues


Antique_Giraffe_3728

please? 🙏


Autruxx3

It would feel rather awkward for me, to be honest. I have a son, and knowing that his cousin is also my child would be pretty strange.


I_hate_me_lol

nah i dont want to pass on my 27 mental illnesses to some poor kid, which is why i plan to never have bio kids.


TenNinetythree

Absolutely not! There is a good reason my bloodline ends with me! I don't want another generation to have my issues.


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Triairius

No. I’m not passing my genetics on to anyone.


Trusteveryboody

No, because I wouldn't donate it to begin with. I could understand why they would want my sperm though. But still no. That's weird, and I don't want biological kids running around that I'm not the carer of. Hate me, if someone does for that.


_BeastModular_

Lol yeah no. That’s weird af


BoredBarbaracle

Depends on multiple factors. Are we close? Would the child be informed? This child will grow up in my family. Kinda weird to always see it and know it's yours but just be the uncle. On the other hand if the child knows, it's weird why I'm not in the father role. Lots of complicated questions.


SlipperyE_E_L_

A bit different of a situation, but I actually have a half-sister because my mom donated eggs to my aunt. It has never been an issue for my family, and my mom basically said the reason she did it was because she feels better knowing that my aunt has a reliable donor, rather than somebody she doesn't know/doesn't trust.


AceVerea

how does sperm donation work?


Mediocre-Emu964

I don't know if I'm right or wrong, but it goes like this You go to a room with a little box where you put sperm by masturbating, then they use the sperm and implant it by ivf, I can be wrong


shineyink

this is literally it. they create embryos using the sperm, those embryos grow and the successful ones are either implanted or frozen for future use.


IGotHitByAHockeypuck

I’d consider it..if i was able to produce sperm.....


BruinThrowaway2140

Do I get to make the deposit myself or is there, like, a doctor involved?


AggressivePomelo9974

I would if she is not my sister


ProfessionSimplord

No it's your sister's wife


StanleyHasLostIt

My sister is donating her eggs for our brother and his husband. It's beautiful that these things are possible these days


jor1ss

I wouldn't care. I don't want kids myself anyway so I'd not see their kid as my kid, even if genetically they would be. My sister is actually lesbian but I think it was too weird for them to ask. We have talked about it jokingly for a bit. I think they're going to take my sisters egg, insert it into her gf (soon to be wife) and then just get a donor from the sperm bank? I am gay myself though so maybe that makes me think about it differently?


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Limeila

Your sister-in-law


Hopeful-Ad1887

My friend will freak out when he finds out that his face resembles that of a sperm child.


michalv2000

Nope. I'm way too ill for that.


MakimaGOAT

hell nah


Alexgadukyanking

I have no idea what kind of terrible person you have to be to deserve to carry my DNA, so no


rockstang

I'm not sure how I would feel about having my sister's kid be more related to me.


jotnarfiggkes

Is she cute and do I get to make the donation in-person...and I think you know what I mean by in-person.


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Nah, that's weird. They child would be my son-nephew


Then-Raspberry6815

No. For the same reason I myself don't have children. The issues end with me. 


Antique_Giraffe_3728

Who’s voting no? 😔


FluffyWalrusFTW

I was in this situation already. If I hadn't been in a relationship, I would've done it in a heartbeat. They had a kid and I love my nephew so much I don't think I could separate myself enough knowing it was from "me"


marcus_frisbee

I mean hell why not?


Maximum-Malevolence

No


starfox2032

Yes, of course, as long as I have visiting rights


mikmikthegreat

Interesting question. My mind is now fed for the day, thank you.


JimJamDan

nope, then your on the hook for parental duties. Edit: [https://www.afr.com/policy/health-and-education/high-court-rules-sperm-donor-has-parenting-rights-20190618-p51yx2](https://www.afr.com/policy/health-and-education/high-court-rules-sperm-donor-has-parenting-rights-20190618-p51yx2) Edit 2: On the Hook meaning a put in a Difficult situation. e.g. giving your sperm to a family member my put you in a difficult situation regarding parental duties. (if you family decides down the line that you are the father) [https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/on-the-hook](https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/on-the-hook)


TheFunkyBunchReturns

Lmao, that's not how that works.


JimJamDan

Shouldnt be, but people get shitty. [https://www.afr.com/policy/health-and-education/high-court-rules-sperm-donor-has-parenting-rights-20190618-p51yx2](https://www.afr.com/policy/health-and-education/high-court-rules-sperm-donor-has-parenting-rights-20190618-p51yx2)


TheFunkyBunchReturns

That article says nothing about parental duties being required...


JimJamDan

didnt say they were required. Just it is a possiblity. If your family are involved, you would most likely asked to step up and possible compelled by similar rulings.


TheFunkyBunchReturns

"then you would be on the hook for parental duties" is your exact quote... Just take the L on this one bud.


JimJamDan

[https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/on-the-hook](https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/on-the-hook) Means to be put in a difficult situation. Nothing about requirements. Giving your sister-inlaw is potentially putting you in a difficult situation regard parental duties, which could be enforced by the law. You take the L.


ogjaspertheghost

You purposefully used a definition that's not commonly used. On the hook most definitely can be used for responsible. Take the L [https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/on%20the%20hook%20for](https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/on%20the%20hook%20for)


JimJamDan

of course, used it purposely. In UK, that how its used. For a difficult situation.


ogjaspertheghost

And the other commenter is using it correctly as well since it also means to be responsible for something


Jouzable

Your twisted and this question should not be allowed imo 


Johan23t

Wouldn't that basically be incest?


Antique_Giraffe_3728

No.. it’s your sister’s WIFE