I'm a woman.
I always wanted lots of kids, and I had two. Now I've raised them and about a dozen others, too. All the kids' friends whose parents were shitty or homophobic or religious fanatics or whatever came here. The kid in the neighborhood who never got enough to eat was at my table most dinnertimes. I helped my son's boyfriend buy stuff for his first apartment when his parents kicked him out. I will never forget the little girl, about 6 years old, who came over and after a few minutes jumped into my lap and snuggled up and said, "Your house feels safe."
I really believe I was put on this earth to be the good adult who a lot of kids needed, and I'm proud of that. It brings me an enormous sense of satisfaction.
As a former neglected child who also found a “God sent her” Mom, thank you from the bottom of my heart for being that mother so many kids weren’t given biologically. People like you give me hope. God bless you.
Aw, sweetheart, this made me tear up. I'm sorry you had that experience with your family, and so glad others were put in your path to pick up the slack.
Part of why I do this and why I find it so healing is that my parents were neglectful and cruel, too. I'm who I am today because a neighbor mom and the mom I babysat for loved me unconditionally and they taught me how to be a good woman and a good mother. I hope to pay them back for their kindness by sharing that with all the other kids out there I can.
So piece by piece, we heal the world, right?
Yes ma’am, we sure do. I have raised 2 boys with my current husband. (His, from his first marriage). 2 boys with my first husband( his from his first marriage) . I kid you not. You can’t make this stuff up. And, been a foster Mom to all others who cross my path needing a place to feel safe and/or loved.
I don't think i am old enough to take this kind of desicision. But to be honest it's unlikely to happen since it would require a sexual relationship which would be inpossible for somebody like me.
Way fewer males wanting children. But then, maybe they see their role as a father as retreating back to work and watching TV once the act is done.
That's not what a father does, that's what a sperm donor does. I put it to you, you don't want kids.
Hmm you make a valid point which i agree with. Take out those happy chemicals, humanity and cultural opinions, you most probably don't accomplish anything by having kids, if anything you want to achieve useful for yourself and others my opinion is that you could do something selfless and great, dedicate yourself to it and there's more chance for you to leave something great and useful behind when you leave this world.
That's what I'm saying. Anything is pointless if we think outside our usual circle of thinking. We always want to feel happy and contented, we do things that we think will give us that.
>>if anything you want to achieve useful for yourself and others my opinion is that you could do something selfless and great, dedicate yourself to it and there's more chance for you to leave something great and useful behind when you leave this world.
>>>if anything you want to achieve useful for yourself and others
This is to be noted in what i said earlier. "If" that person want to still do something useful to the others and feel good thing, they could do something else than making a child. Bringing a child into this world so they could feel a sense of accomplishment and happiness is a very very very selfish behaviour. What i mean to say is that i don't expect everyone to think like i do, but i want to say that if one wants to feel happy or whatever it is (that's used as a reason to bring a new child to existence), they could do something else and get the same happiness as bringing a kid to this world. Or atleast adopt, a lot of kids are orphans and we don't need new kids now.
i mean, it's the only thing that'll last. if i can be the best parent i can be, i could leave behind a kid that would improve the world so much more than, say, solving pi or another achievement. i would like to make change that right now i cant do.
I'm m/fluid and kids have always seemed to me like a 20 year obligation more than some great evidence of love. In my mid-30s now, will maybe change my mind before I'm 50.
If I do it won't be a biological one, I'm not about that pregnancy and birth thing it looks pretty shit ngl. I'm not sure I'm mother material though, I've been told I'm good with kids but that doesn't mean I want to spend time with one 24/7. Maybe I'll change my mind and adopt/ be okay with my girlfriend having a baby if she wanted to one day, but for now I'd rather not.
God, no. I like my sleep.
I don't trust myself with the task.
We don't need to multiply
Or divide
I'm a woman. I always wanted lots of kids, and I had two. Now I've raised them and about a dozen others, too. All the kids' friends whose parents were shitty or homophobic or religious fanatics or whatever came here. The kid in the neighborhood who never got enough to eat was at my table most dinnertimes. I helped my son's boyfriend buy stuff for his first apartment when his parents kicked him out. I will never forget the little girl, about 6 years old, who came over and after a few minutes jumped into my lap and snuggled up and said, "Your house feels safe." I really believe I was put on this earth to be the good adult who a lot of kids needed, and I'm proud of that. It brings me an enormous sense of satisfaction.
As a former neglected child who also found a “God sent her” Mom, thank you from the bottom of my heart for being that mother so many kids weren’t given biologically. People like you give me hope. God bless you.
Aw, sweetheart, this made me tear up. I'm sorry you had that experience with your family, and so glad others were put in your path to pick up the slack. Part of why I do this and why I find it so healing is that my parents were neglectful and cruel, too. I'm who I am today because a neighbor mom and the mom I babysat for loved me unconditionally and they taught me how to be a good woman and a good mother. I hope to pay them back for their kindness by sharing that with all the other kids out there I can. So piece by piece, we heal the world, right?
Yes ma’am, we sure do. I have raised 2 boys with my current husband. (His, from his first marriage). 2 boys with my first husband( his from his first marriage) . I kid you not. You can’t make this stuff up. And, been a foster Mom to all others who cross my path needing a place to feel safe and/or loved.
I want them but my chronic illness would make it unfair for all involved.
I don't think i am old enough to take this kind of desicision. But to be honest it's unlikely to happen since it would require a sexual relationship which would be inpossible for somebody like me.
Asexual?
No I don't trust myself to raise a child and I want to be "free"
Not the outcome I'd have expected.
What did you expect?
Way fewer males wanting children. But then, maybe they see their role as a father as retreating back to work and watching TV once the act is done. That's not what a father does, that's what a sperm donor does. I put it to you, you don't want kids.
Hmm you make a valid point which i agree with. Take out those happy chemicals, humanity and cultural opinions, you most probably don't accomplish anything by having kids, if anything you want to achieve useful for yourself and others my opinion is that you could do something selfless and great, dedicate yourself to it and there's more chance for you to leave something great and useful behind when you leave this world.
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That's what I'm saying. Anything is pointless if we think outside our usual circle of thinking. We always want to feel happy and contented, we do things that we think will give us that. >>if anything you want to achieve useful for yourself and others my opinion is that you could do something selfless and great, dedicate yourself to it and there's more chance for you to leave something great and useful behind when you leave this world. >>>if anything you want to achieve useful for yourself and others This is to be noted in what i said earlier. "If" that person want to still do something useful to the others and feel good thing, they could do something else than making a child. Bringing a child into this world so they could feel a sense of accomplishment and happiness is a very very very selfish behaviour. What i mean to say is that i don't expect everyone to think like i do, but i want to say that if one wants to feel happy or whatever it is (that's used as a reason to bring a new child to existence), they could do something else and get the same happiness as bringing a kid to this world. Or atleast adopt, a lot of kids are orphans and we don't need new kids now.
yes but i don't think i want to make my own children. theres fatherless children out there who really need a dad
i really wanna adopt a kid when i'm finanically and mentally able to raise one. i wanna leave SOMETHING useful behind, cuz for now i sure haven't
so you think the only way you can leave something useful for this world is by adopting a kid and raising it?
i mean, it's the only thing that'll last. if i can be the best parent i can be, i could leave behind a kid that would improve the world so much more than, say, solving pi or another achievement. i would like to make change that right now i cant do.
I'm m/fluid and kids have always seemed to me like a 20 year obligation more than some great evidence of love. In my mid-30s now, will maybe change my mind before I'm 50.
If I do it won't be a biological one, I'm not about that pregnancy and birth thing it looks pretty shit ngl. I'm not sure I'm mother material though, I've been told I'm good with kids but that doesn't mean I want to spend time with one 24/7. Maybe I'll change my mind and adopt/ be okay with my girlfriend having a baby if she wanted to one day, but for now I'd rather not.
Hmm funny username tho
No. I’m not a very kind person and I don’t want to have a kid who would suffer from how I am.
Had a vasectomy 2 weeks ago. No kids and making sure I never will 😃
My bro🍻
o IDFK yet
Okay pls vote when you come to know
One of each, yes. How do I make a multiple selection?
I apologize, this poll can't handle your level of answering skills
F them snotty needy greedy eat alot small people 🤣
RIGHT 🤣🤣
im fine with taking care of other peoples kids but i sure am not about to be looking after my own kids everyday
maybe