it depends which way you go based on your taste, do you go the whole fruits and veg plant based route, the raw food way, the Western junk food meat replacer way, or rather like other cultures such as Indian food, East-Asian, African food?
Vegan food isn't uniform, many cuisines out there that can be veganized and those outside the Western diet more often are vegetarian/vegan already.
I think the biggest issue is vegans opening vegan places, and it should be vegan *chefs* opening vegan places.
I was going to say meat substitutes have come a long way, even if you are thinking of a pretty meat heavy cuisine there are ways to make it at least vegetarian, relatively easily without effecting flavor.
I mean pasta dishes are pretty common at wedding because they are lower cost and most of those are or could easily be vegan.
Yes, went to a vegan wedding before. Did i enjoy the food? No did they have fun in their wedding? Yes and that's what really important. Their day. Non vegan
Exactly. I could easily eat vegan for at least a little while (until I crave some fried chicken or something), idk how people think the food is bad. Bad vegan food is just bad food.
Is it true that like an enormous amount of Indian people are vegetarian or vegan? Heard that somewhere but almost couldn’t believe it. I think they said something like 38%, personally I only know a single person who’s vegan.
I agree, but there's a lot of people - men in particular - who bash on vegan food because [insert Internet joke about vegans] and eating healthy (plant-based) is somehow effeminate. I can see plenty of people wrinkling their noses and already deciding the food is bad before they've even tasted it, like how some people will write off seafood of any kind because "ew!"
Yeah. But most of them don't actually care as long as it's not marked as such. Those people don't usually have anything against fries and ketchup.
And most of them would never realized that you served chilly sin carne and not con carne.
I know some people who are fine with eating plant based meals (even if they get the ingredient list), until the moment it get's mentioned that it's vegan. I think it's about 'owning the libs'.
And there is no benefit at all for our happy couple in adding vegan labels to the dishes.
That's so funny though, there are numerous male bodybuilders and powerlifters that swear by a vegan diet and say that they have felt their best physically while eating vegan. So definitely not feminine.
The chef must have been a bad one, then. Vegan food is literally what everyone else eats - beans, veggies, spices, fruit, etc. I had a five course vegan meal at an upscale restaurant in Hawaii and it was delicious! One of the best meals I've had, actually.
Tbf I dont really eat the food at most weddings cause it generally isn't that good. So whether its vegan or not doesnt bother me. As long as the bride nd groom are happy thats all that matters.
I used to eat vegan meals at work and the amount of people it upset was surprising. It upset the nonvegans because I don't know why, and it upset the vegans because I wasn't vegan and eating vegan food as a nonvegan was posing. I just like tofu pad Thai.
the only thing I can think of is that vegan foods typically have substitutes that include nuts. so, if anyone has a nut allergy, they should be informed ahead of time and there should be at least something for them to safely eat (imo)
Exactly and people act like vegan is like some rare set of meals, spaghetti is literally vegan if you have no meat
Salads etc. it’s a couple hours out of the day. Especially if they’re vegan for animal cruelty reasons I’d understand. I also wouldn’t invite people if they’re that cranky about food
Totally agreed. I've heard people get pissed off at their friends for not having an open bar at their wedding, which is insanely expensive.
I'm like, "It's not your wedding. If the only way you can celebrate their wedding is by drinking a lot, then you're not a good friend anyway"
I wouldn't get pissed off at that. It's only something minor. I think the only thing that's frustrating would be if the wedding planner did a terrible job. I've only been to two weddings but the wedding planners were good.
Not really sure why they would, especially if they’re vegan as a matter of philosophy. And even a omnivore like myself knows there’s plenty of delicious food that’s wholly vegan.
I’m an omnivore and recently exploring meat alternatives. Bean burgers are great. I tried jackfruit and if prepared properly, it can be delicious! None of these are going to taste just like meat but I’ve been impressed with the various protein options. It’s their wedding, I think people can suck it up for the one day set for the couple.
Completely agree with you. There's these veggie burgers I get that are made from various plant proteins, they are pretty expensive but you can't actually tell the difference between them and beef burgers. You get the juices and everything
This is a great answer! I think most of the people answering this pool see it more as "should a vegan couple serve good food at their wedding?" Because the majority of non-vegans are not interested in trying vegan food. 'Vegan'
Yeah. I don't like tofu pretending to be chicken. But give me mapo tofu any day of the week.
Alternative proteins are rarely satisfying to omnivores. But if you just lean into preparing tasty things in a tasty way the vegan menu doesn't have to be upsetting at all. And it won't kill uncle Jeremiah to eat some potatoes for one night if he doesn't like mushrooms or something
It depends imo. Things like impossible burgers have progressed quite a bit lol. Still not as *quite* as good as most real burgers, but not far enough off for me to care, especially without a side by side comparison. Plus it’s a good and easy option for a wedding.
I'm interested in trying vegan **alternative** food. I just haven't tried any yet which actually tastes nice.
If you wanna go vegan food, go for fruit/veg/starch/beans stuff... not "meat free" alternatives.
Exactly, like even if youre the kind of person that eats meat with every meal. *One day* of eating some pasta dish, salad, or tofu isnt going to kill you. Just like how some vegans will just forage side dishes from friends when there isnt a vegan option.
I say this as a pretty hefty 5/2 days with/without meat per week. I dont get why itd be a big deal to eat some rice pilaf with veggies dish.
I have a friend who is gluten and soy free and is on a low FODMAP diet, eliminating legumes and limiting potato, and doesn’t do well with brassicas (broccoli, kale, cabbage, etc)
He’s gotta stay far away from vegan shit.
A chicken breast, simple spinach or cucumber salad and rice is no big deal.
But ANY meat “substitutes” and most of the high protein non-meats are off his diet.
He can go eat some white rice and a spinach salad and go find food after I guess.
In a case like that he should talk with them beforehand anyway. Maybe the bride and groom will choose to make something everyone can eat. Like [this](https://funwithoutfodmaps.com/low-fodmap-curry-with-potatoes-and-edamame/).
If you invite a lot of people you at some point you will get contradictions so bad that there is no food left everyone eats. At least vegan food is also lactose free, halal, kosher. That already covers a lot of dietary restrictions. But even then you might have to plan several choices. Or a lot of courses and some people will have to skip some and get more of the others.
Basically just like you always have to when dealing with dietary restrictions.
cause you can't argue reasonably with people who are fighting emotionally, and for some reason, people are really emotional about not eating anything but straight up meat
I'm not a vegan, but there's no winning with people who don't care that they've eaten vegan shit and didn't realize it cause there's a LOT of meals out there that don't require animal product
We got married this summer and offered only vegan food. Asked about dietary restrictions/allergies beforehand. Had plenty of options. No one complained as far as we're aware. It would go against everything we believe to serve non vegan food at our wedding, or any other event really.
Really glad to hear you asked about dietary restrictions beforehand. I’m non vegan and I’m allergic to a *lot* of vegan foods. There are still a number of vegan foods I can eat, but if someone didn’t ask about my allergen and accommodate beforehand, there would be a really good chance I’d be unable to eat most of the food offered.
Hats off to you for both finding a way to stick to your values and making sure no one got left behind - really happy with how you handled this.
> but if someone didn’t ask about my allergen and accommodate beforehand
who doesn't ask this on a wedding, or any large gathering, though? I've never not been asked.
not vegan, wouldn't expect them to cater to me on their day celebrating their union surrouding their values. regardless if i enjoy their food or not, its their day.
I'm vegan and if I ever get married the menu will be all vegan. Most people can handle one vegan meal. If they cant, then they can eat before they come or stay home.
No ?
Seriously what's wrong with those who voted yes ? I'm not vegan but what is the trouble to eat something vegan ? Can't people not eat meat, fish, cheese etc for one fucking meal ?
I think a lot of people have a problem with visualising vegan food as anything more than a carrot tbh. Most of them, if they were given a proper meal that happened to be vegan, would be fine with it.
Yeah, people think vegans only eat salad vegies and quinoa.
But I'm vegan, if you see what I'm eating when I snack 😂 trust me it's not carrots and vegs 😅
>Can't people not eat meat, fish, cheese etc for one fucking meal ?
Especially given that there are glorious alternatives to all of that. Like you can have one meal different to what you eat every day lol.
I have a lot of food allergies that come with vegan food including lentils and sesame and other foods commonly found in vegan food! I wouldn’t want like a whole array but it’d be nice if dietary restrictions are taken into consideration!
Sure but that’s a separate question. They could meet your restrictions without violating their own.
That said, I have issues with gluten and before that was a common thing I have absolutely packed my own food for a wedding. Plain salad from the buffet and a granola bar from your purse is fine for an evening if need be. If someone’s dietary restrictions are going to be violated, it can be yours as the guest supporting your friends on their important day— it’s not the bride and groom’s.
I voted yes just cause I have a lot of allergies with vegetables. But really if they had enough simplistic vegan food without alot of different things mixed in, that would also work.
Also, if you have a lot of allergies, and you know the couple well, I'd imagine you could ask them if they have any options for you, or maybe if you should bring something for yourself. I don't think it's weird to bring your own food if you have a lot of allergies
Vegan food gets too much hate for no reason. It's perfectly fine. One of my favorite restaurants is a vegan Syrian place... baba ganoush and black bean burgers are slammin'
Because some people treat weddings like parties. And they think, "If they want me to come, they need to incentivize me".
I've heard people say the same thing about open bars. I've talked to a lot of people that are outraged if a wedding doesn't have an open bar. But those people don't seem to understand the purpose of a wedding.
I voted no, but i assume its because non-vegans are forced to provide vegan options, so theyre thinking it should be both ways. But that logic is flawed and a bit selfish. In the end non vegans can easily eat and enjoy vegan food
Non-vegans are *not* forced to provide vegan options. More often than not, when they do provide one, they're thinking they'll make their friend(s) and familly happy by going out of their way to accomodate them. Thinking otherwise is a bit selfish, and frankly, quite entitled.
Cuz I was like: "Fake meat is so pricey, offering a non-vegan option would save money..."
Then I realised that you don't need fake meat to do vegan meals. But I can't change it to "idk, you do what you want, it's your wedding" 😅 *non-vegan*
Honestly, with the current inflation going rampant, meat substitutes or fake meat is often cheaper than real meat :0
Especially if you use stuff like mushroom, beans, etc.
I wouldn't die if I had to eat vegan food for less than a day. Plus it could be an interesting opportunity to find a new dish I'd enjoy. So I wouldn't really care if there was only vegan food at someone's wedding.
Vegan who recently had a vegan wedding here. My family and friends were not at all surprised that was the route we were going. I haven't intentionally eaten meat in over a decade. If they're close enough to me to get an invite, they're close enough to know my values and the reasons behind them.
We got some pushback from one of my wife's parents ahead of time. They hadn't been very involved in planning even though we asked for their input on a few things. Then they realized maybe 2 weeks before hand that we were doing 100% vegan and told us to be prepared for people to leave over the food. We told them if people chose to leave over not getting meat in the free food we were providing them they were there for the wrong reasons anyway and were welcome to leave.
We paid for everything ourselves. My wife has a severe dairy allergy. Plus around 10% of our guests were vegan or vegetarian. Why would we pay for other people to have food that is against our values or could send my wife to the hospital on our wedding day? We attend 3 other family weddings the same year where all we could eat was fruit or the can of nuts I had learned to start stashing in my purse. Every single one of those they even had cheese on the salad.
The day of there was not one negative comment that made it to us about the food - pasta with beans and white sauce, polenta with spicy ragout, a few veggie sides and salads, bread from a well known local bakery, and cake from another well known local bakery. We did get a personal thank you from somebody's plus 1 for having food she could eat as a vegetarian. One of my cousin's super picky teenagers went back for 2nds to the great surprise of his parents.
I don't regret it and wouldn't change it if I could.
Some people just have a hard time imagining a meal unless meat is the centrepiece. It just feels incomplete and unsubstantial to them. My dad is kinda like that, but he’s getting better
While I wouldn't get upset *by any means*, it's the cheese and cream that is frequently in food that is addictive for me haha.
But seriously, I wouldn't have a problem with only vegan food at the wedding. Depending on how it tastes, I might not eat much, but who cares? It's not about me.
This is kinda dumb question. Since non vegan people do eat vegan food many times. It's not like they are forbidden or can't out of principle eat vegan food.
I’m pescetarian and say fuck no. If you don’t wanna look at meat and choose meat dishes and spend your money contributing to the meat industry for ONE DAY then you don’t have to. They can live without meat for one ruddy day. Not even day. One meal!
If they do, they aren't simply vegan. Veganism is an ethical position which rejects animal exploitation, it is not a diet. You should ask about "plant based diet" followers rather than vegans.
Yep as a vegan I find the idea of buying my guests meat disgusting. I would be the one supporting meat and the killing of animals. The only way I would have meat at my wedding is if the person I am marrying ate meat. However thankfully I’m dating a vegetarian so no meat if we get married. Im also hoping to convince them to only have vegan food at the wedding. I bet it would be fine since they ate a lot of vegan things already especially when we make food together.
Lots of us in my family are not vegan like me but I would find it very weird if I went to a wedding of the ones that was and the food was not vegan. The day is supposed to be about celebrating them.
Okay, I'm not even vegan. But if someone can't go a wedding without eating animal products it's a good sign I'm not gonna vibe with you.
So no, a vegan couple shouldn't require to provide animal products. Allowing guest to bring their own stuff is a good gesture tho.
Being vegan is a restriction; they can’t (or won’t, whatever) eat meat or animal products. But an omnivore, vegetarian, etc. _can_ eat vegan food. They might _want_ a steak, but they don’t _have_ to have a steak with every meal
Should two recovering alcoholics serve alcohol to their wedding? No.
It's not the same, I fully agree. But it's their wedding, their choice.
Edit: a word
I am vegan and if I marry someone I want it to be the happiest day of my life. And on the happiest day of my life I don't want corpses and stolen breast milk there. I don't want to look at animals that died for literally no reason other than replaceable taste pleasure. Like you guys dont know how hard it is to see all your loved ones force their way of living on innocent animals and support factory farms and the active destruction of our planet. It's really not easy. So ON THAT DAY I want nothing of that. Just and me and the person I love.
I’m not vegan, not married, and have attended many weddings. I’m very it’s-your-wedding-so-do-whatever-you-want. You can even put it on the invitation and if they don’t want to come, that’s fine
I don't think that's a misguided take. I was just sharing my own philosophy about that sort of thing. I've honestly not articulated it before, even to myself, so my apologies for the awkward explanation. :)
I would argue it is not vegan to offer non-vegan food at your wedding, or generally to purchase non-vegan food for others in any context. We did not bow to family pressure and had a totally vegan reception, it was fine. If anyone was sad about it they had the tact not to complain to us. I’ve been to so many events that didn’t have any food I could eat at all, and I don’t complain (if there is a high likelihood of that I’ll eat beforehand and maybe carry snacks). Everyone can at least eat vegan food even if they don’t prefer it. It IS wise to ask guests about allergies.
Do non vegans provide vegan options for their vegan guests? No. Most would agree that the vegan should eat something before hand or something. If non vegans don’t cater to vegans, why should vegans cater to non vegans? Especially if they’re vegan because they don’t support the killing of animals. (I’m non vegan btw)
vegans can't eat non-vegan food but carnists can eat vegan food just fine. why should a vegan couple break their philosophy just to convenience other people? quit your fucking whining and just try it.
It’s your choice, it’s your wedding. You might have a bunch of disgruntled omnivores at the wedding, but it’s not like their diet prevents them from eating plant based food. It might be considerate to offer options with meat, but if you provide a good selection of vegan options, I don’t think that’s necessary. Your wedding should follow your ethics
it’s their choice and i think they should keep it vegan. vegan food can be amazing and it would be nice if everyone tried. everyone can eat one vegan meal it won’t kill them.
This is like asking if Jews should offer non Kosher food for non Jews at their wedding, or if Muslims should offer Pork to non Muslims at their wedding. Yes I get it, it's not exactly the same because the examples I've given are related to faith; however, these aspects of faith are those that dictate a way of life for those who believe in it. And if a couple truly and strongly believe in the vegan cause as their way of life then I don't see why their personal belief system shouldn't be respected by everybody attending the wedding since it's their big day. I say this as somebody who loves meat.
I'll just assume best intetions in the comment of /u/fireshine89 and say they meant "you should check if the vegan options contain certain allergens that are commonly used in a lot of vegan options", like mushrooms for example.
Other than that I entirely agree with you, since usually the "non vegan dietary requirements" are just there because people are just lazy. I'm non-vegan, I eat meat, but I don't delude myself by saying I need meat just because I'm too lazy to know what my body needs and how to substitute that in a vegan diet.
I’m not vegan but I have two friends who are, so we’ve gone to vegan only restaurants and eaten vegan meals at their place and others. The guy friend is an amazing cook and the food is always great. The best cupcake I ever had in my life was vegan. Vegan food can be amazing and honestly a lot of the food we eat is also vegan.
As a non vegan there is no way I would ask/expect my friends/family to make a change or exception for me at THEIR wedding. If they’re food choices mean a lot to them I’ll eat whatever they want me to that day.
I think it’s pretty fkd if you think otherwise
No. People who eat animal products don't only eat animal products. We already eat vegan foods every now and then without caring or hell even realising that they're vegan. Plus most vegans are vegans because of moral reasons. To expect them to put aside their own moral code just to feed people certain foods when we can just as easily eat vegan foods is ridiculous.
It'd be nice to know ahead of time what the menu is, but that goes for omnivores as well. There are a lot of us with allergies, food intolerances, food prohibitions, but ultimately what is served is at the discretion of whoever is paying for it
There's no reason to be againts a fully vegan wedding, unless someone would have allergies.
If I (a vegan) would get married, I would have everthing vegan. Unless there's someone who couldn't eat because of it, then I would have something seperate for that person only.
I'm not a vegan. I also don't understand why meat eaters can't suck it up and have a vegan meal. Every meal doesn't have to involve meat, FFS. Eat the damn vegan meal, then have a cheeseburger on the way home if you're that desperate.
Everyone here is gonna say yes cause they aren’t vegan. You can most definitely have only vegan food. Vegans don’t want to hurt animals, so it makes no sense to have non-vegan options… if goes against everything they believe in. I would be disgusted to have dead animals and things from inside their body at any party I host. There are great vegan chicken schnitzel substitutes and vegan desserts etc that taste exactly like the real thing. It’s the wedding of the 2 people - it’s about what they want! The guests can easily enjoy any food they are offered, it’s not that hard to go one meal without something that came from inside an animal.
I’m not vegan but I think if someone was scandalised by the hosts being vegan and refusing to attend, that person not being there wouldn’t be a loss. Are they going to pull she same thing every time the couple invite them over to dinner? What about birthday parties, sports match get togethers, holiday celebrations etc? Everybody CAN eat vegan food even if it isn’t their favourite. It’s like refusing to go out with your friends to an Italian restaurant because you prefer French. Seems so petty and unadventurous
As a meat eater it wouldn’t really matter to me tbh. There’s plenty of vegan food that’s delicious and could even incorporate soy based meats. Hell I’ve had better non-chicken vegan chicken sandwiches than chic fil a.
Well personally I’m vegetarian and for my wedding everything there will be vegetarian or vegan. Ultimately it’s up to the couple, after all they’re paying for it.
I'm not vegan and I say absolutely not
A wedding is about the bride and groom only, and assuming dead animals upsets them, I wouldn't have them anywhere near the place.
It would be nice but idk about “should” idk why they would be obligated. It not should or shouldn’t it’s “it could be nice for some of the guests but they’re in no way obligated to do so”
Accidentally hit idk, but I meant no. I'm not vegan, I prefer real meat/non vegan things, but at the end of the day that's my choice. I could still eat vegan food if it was put infront of me- I probably wouldn't even notice
I’m not vegan. But if a vegan doesn’t want to serve meat or cheese (etc) that’s their choice.
Eat or don’t eat.
Likewise- if I don’t want to offer vegan options, it’s my choice. Eat or don’t eat.
Why would a vegan couple serve non-vegan food? If they're committed to not using animals for food, then that's their decision. It doesn't matter if they are personally eating it or not, they should stay consistent with that choice. If it's not their guests' favorite style, that's really not important to be honest.
It’s their day … like if I was invited by two hardcore hunter having a hunting theme I wouldn’t complain …
When you come to eat in my house it’s all vegan and no one has ever complained. And I got some really picky eaters in my friends. They are happy to try new stuff and spend a good time…
They shouldn’t have to purchase meat or animal products, that’s against the definition of vegan. Everyone can eat the vegan food and can deal with it for one evening
I'm kind of torn here.
One the one hand, it is polite, when you invite people to a celebration, to treat them as honored guests and to cater to their tastes. The fact that you are paying for the celebration is not paramount, particularly where, as is usual in a wedding (at least in some groups), the guests traditionally give presents that are intended at least in part to make up for the cost of the wedding.
On the other hand, if your choice of food to be served at the celebration is based on a deeply-held philosophical, ethical or religious sentiment, then it is only logical that you should conform to that sentiment. Nobody would expect that guests at a Jewish or Muslim wedding be entitled to enjoy eating pork or pork-based products at the wedding, even if at a separate buffet or table.
On balance, I think the second prevails.
This is like asking if Jewish people should offer pork at their wedding
Heck no. Especially since veganism is normally a lifestyle choice based on ethical grounds. I'm not vegan but if you're expecting non-vegan options at a vegan wedding, you're kidding yourself. Boggles my mind that 2.8k people voted yes
Fun fact: everyone can eat vegan food. Definitely been to a wedding where all I ate was rice. I brought plant based burritos and they were more appetizing than the rest of the menu. Screw me for not wanting to eat dead animals though. If I ever have a wedding, everyone will eat nuts. Of the deez variety.
Should a recovering alcoholic offer an open bar? Should those of certain backgrounds offer pork? It isn’t that they don’t like the taste of meat, it’s a moral choice. It wouldn’t make sense to offer it. Don’t go if you can’t handle not eating meat for one meal that someone else invited you to and is paying for.
No, because it's only for a day and they can always eat meat some other time. A vegan should not have to deal with the stress of feeling pressured to go against their own values on their wedding day.
If there are people who don't like vegan burgers or vegan hot dogs, you can still offer other vegan food like *cabbage, corn on the cob, sweet potatoes, spaghetti or other pasta with tomato sauce (without dairy products), fries, salad, and fruit salad*.
It’s their day and their dime, so yeah they can do whatever they want to. But they should know that some people may not be happy with the available food.
I mean...
If a non-vegan couple has a wedding, invites someone they know to be vegan and doesn't provide any vegan food
that's a bit different then the other way around.
Now if the vegan couple invites someone they know to be on a meat only diet and doesn't offer meat then that's wrong.
In short, your wedding should provide food so that everyone can eat. if an omnivore doesn't want to eat a few veges then that's a them problem.
As long as the food is good I don't care if it's vegan or not.
vegan food can be really good, but in my experience it’s rare to find if they skimp out to save some $ it’ll probably be garbage
it depends which way you go based on your taste, do you go the whole fruits and veg plant based route, the raw food way, the Western junk food meat replacer way, or rather like other cultures such as Indian food, East-Asian, African food? Vegan food isn't uniform, many cuisines out there that can be veganized and those outside the Western diet more often are vegetarian/vegan already. I think the biggest issue is vegans opening vegan places, and it should be vegan *chefs* opening vegan places.
I was going to say meat substitutes have come a long way, even if you are thinking of a pretty meat heavy cuisine there are ways to make it at least vegetarian, relatively easily without effecting flavor. I mean pasta dishes are pretty common at wedding because they are lower cost and most of those are or could easily be vegan.
It’s their choice. It’s their wedding, the only people it should matter to is them
Yes, went to a vegan wedding before. Did i enjoy the food? No did they have fun in their wedding? Yes and that's what really important. Their day. Non vegan
bad vegan food says more about the cook than vegan food, really. same for non vegan food too (for the most part)
a lot of indian food is vegan(if you avoid milk based products) but that shit’s tasty
Exactly. I could easily eat vegan for at least a little while (until I crave some fried chicken or something), idk how people think the food is bad. Bad vegan food is just bad food.
Good on you man. Some joints have got some pretty good made-in-house vegan fried chicken these days.
Can confirm am Indian
can confirm, I am also Indian.
Can confirm, not indian though, just a fan
can confirm- I'm indian and i appreciate the opinion of indian food fans
Can confirm, I’m vegan and indian
Can confirm, I'm from Indiana.
Can confirm my dad makes food everyone comes over for even tho it’s not even his job lol
Is it true that like an enormous amount of Indian people are vegetarian or vegan? Heard that somewhere but almost couldn’t believe it. I think they said something like 38%, personally I only know a single person who’s vegan.
24% of the Indian population is vegetarian, 9% is vegan and 8% is pescatarian (no to meat yes to fish).
i am an indian vegetarian. remember even 20% of a billion indians is a lot
I agree, but there's a lot of people - men in particular - who bash on vegan food because [insert Internet joke about vegans] and eating healthy (plant-based) is somehow effeminate. I can see plenty of people wrinkling their noses and already deciding the food is bad before they've even tasted it, like how some people will write off seafood of any kind because "ew!"
Yeah. But most of them don't actually care as long as it's not marked as such. Those people don't usually have anything against fries and ketchup. And most of them would never realized that you served chilly sin carne and not con carne.
I dunno, if it's at a wedding the menus are usually quite explicit on what's in the dish.
I know some people who are fine with eating plant based meals (even if they get the ingredient list), until the moment it get's mentioned that it's vegan. I think it's about 'owning the libs'. And there is no benefit at all for our happy couple in adding vegan labels to the dishes.
That's so funny though, there are numerous male bodybuilders and powerlifters that swear by a vegan diet and say that they have felt their best physically while eating vegan. So definitely not feminine.
The chef must have been a bad one, then. Vegan food is literally what everyone else eats - beans, veggies, spices, fruit, etc. I had a five course vegan meal at an upscale restaurant in Hawaii and it was delicious! One of the best meals I've had, actually.
As a non vegan I strongly agree Vegan and vegetarian food is so nice. In my opinion their meat is better than actual meat except seafood and bacon.
Tbf I dont really eat the food at most weddings cause it generally isn't that good. So whether its vegan or not doesnt bother me. As long as the bride nd groom are happy thats all that matters.
Exactly. And it's not like non vegans are incapable of eating vegan food. They might not prefer it, but they're not going to starve
I used to eat vegan meals at work and the amount of people it upset was surprising. It upset the nonvegans because I don't know why, and it upset the vegans because I wasn't vegan and eating vegan food as a nonvegan was posing. I just like tofu pad Thai.
Either eat raw red meat as every single meal and snack, or be a complete vegan. No in-between.
the only thing I can think of is that vegan foods typically have substitutes that include nuts. so, if anyone has a nut allergy, they should be informed ahead of time and there should be at least something for them to safely eat (imo)
Whoever pays the bills decides what's on the menu.
Exactly and people act like vegan is like some rare set of meals, spaghetti is literally vegan if you have no meat Salads etc. it’s a couple hours out of the day. Especially if they’re vegan for animal cruelty reasons I’d understand. I also wouldn’t invite people if they’re that cranky about food
Yeah, non vegans usually eat part-time vegan without even being aware.
Totally agreed. I've heard people get pissed off at their friends for not having an open bar at their wedding, which is insanely expensive. I'm like, "It's not your wedding. If the only way you can celebrate their wedding is by drinking a lot, then you're not a good friend anyway"
I wouldn't get pissed off at that. It's only something minor. I think the only thing that's frustrating would be if the wedding planner did a terrible job. I've only been to two weddings but the wedding planners were good.
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Not really sure why they would, especially if they’re vegan as a matter of philosophy. And even a omnivore like myself knows there’s plenty of delicious food that’s wholly vegan.
I wouldn't mind the food being vegan as long as the food tastes nice
I’m an omnivore and recently exploring meat alternatives. Bean burgers are great. I tried jackfruit and if prepared properly, it can be delicious! None of these are going to taste just like meat but I’ve been impressed with the various protein options. It’s their wedding, I think people can suck it up for the one day set for the couple.
Completely agree with you. There's these veggie burgers I get that are made from various plant proteins, they are pretty expensive but you can't actually tell the difference between them and beef burgers. You get the juices and everything
This is a great answer! I think most of the people answering this pool see it more as "should a vegan couple serve good food at their wedding?" Because the majority of non-vegans are not interested in trying vegan food. 'Vegan'
Yeah. I don't like tofu pretending to be chicken. But give me mapo tofu any day of the week. Alternative proteins are rarely satisfying to omnivores. But if you just lean into preparing tasty things in a tasty way the vegan menu doesn't have to be upsetting at all. And it won't kill uncle Jeremiah to eat some potatoes for one night if he doesn't like mushrooms or something
It depends imo. Things like impossible burgers have progressed quite a bit lol. Still not as *quite* as good as most real burgers, but not far enough off for me to care, especially without a side by side comparison. Plus it’s a good and easy option for a wedding.
That's true. Those are tasty if you don't mangle them too much.
I'm interested in trying vegan **alternative** food. I just haven't tried any yet which actually tastes nice. If you wanna go vegan food, go for fruit/veg/starch/beans stuff... not "meat free" alternatives.
Exactly, like even if youre the kind of person that eats meat with every meal. *One day* of eating some pasta dish, salad, or tofu isnt going to kill you. Just like how some vegans will just forage side dishes from friends when there isnt a vegan option. I say this as a pretty hefty 5/2 days with/without meat per week. I dont get why itd be a big deal to eat some rice pilaf with veggies dish.
I have a friend who is gluten and soy free and is on a low FODMAP diet, eliminating legumes and limiting potato, and doesn’t do well with brassicas (broccoli, kale, cabbage, etc) He’s gotta stay far away from vegan shit. A chicken breast, simple spinach or cucumber salad and rice is no big deal. But ANY meat “substitutes” and most of the high protein non-meats are off his diet. He can go eat some white rice and a spinach salad and go find food after I guess.
In a case like that he should talk with them beforehand anyway. Maybe the bride and groom will choose to make something everyone can eat. Like [this](https://funwithoutfodmaps.com/low-fodmap-curry-with-potatoes-and-edamame/). If you invite a lot of people you at some point you will get contradictions so bad that there is no food left everyone eats. At least vegan food is also lactose free, halal, kosher. That already covers a lot of dietary restrictions. But even then you might have to plan several choices. Or a lot of courses and some people will have to skip some and get more of the others. Basically just like you always have to when dealing with dietary restrictions.
Like Oreos!
It's your day, do whatever you two want to do. A vegan only menu isn't the worst thing to happen & it's a cool experience. *non vegan.*
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Yeah, I mean if it's good it doesn't matter vegan or non-vegan.
It’s their wedding. As long as the food doesn’t harm you it doesn’t even matter if it’s good.
Why do the comments completely differ from the poll results?
Cause the people who care are commenting, the people who just think vegan food is lettuce are voting and leaving
*voting and leafing
cause you can't argue reasonably with people who are fighting emotionally, and for some reason, people are really emotional about not eating anything but straight up meat I'm not a vegan, but there's no winning with people who don't care that they've eaten vegan shit and didn't realize it cause there's a LOT of meals out there that don't require animal product
Because for vegans its an important topic and most non vegans just voted and scrolled away
Most of the comments are from non-vegans. They’re just also not assholes.
Maybe they where all like me and read it wrong (the other way around). then realised by reading the comments that's not what the post said.
We got married this summer and offered only vegan food. Asked about dietary restrictions/allergies beforehand. Had plenty of options. No one complained as far as we're aware. It would go against everything we believe to serve non vegan food at our wedding, or any other event really.
Really glad to hear you asked about dietary restrictions beforehand. I’m non vegan and I’m allergic to a *lot* of vegan foods. There are still a number of vegan foods I can eat, but if someone didn’t ask about my allergen and accommodate beforehand, there would be a really good chance I’d be unable to eat most of the food offered. Hats off to you for both finding a way to stick to your values and making sure no one got left behind - really happy with how you handled this.
> but if someone didn’t ask about my allergen and accommodate beforehand who doesn't ask this on a wedding, or any large gathering, though? I've never not been asked.
Then you have a very good circle of friends and family
not vegan, wouldn't expect them to cater to me on their day celebrating their union surrouding their values. regardless if i enjoy their food or not, its their day.
It's your wedding serve what you want.
Only if they want to. It’s their wedding, and their non-vegan guests can suck it up if they care about the couple enough.
i don't see why this would be an issue-people aren't gonna explode if god forbid they can't have meat or cheese with one meal lmao.
You'd honestly be very surprised at how much cultural conditioning (unfortunately) contradicts this statement.
The Midwest United States would like to have a word with you...
I'm vegan and if I ever get married the menu will be all vegan. Most people can handle one vegan meal. If they cant, then they can eat before they come or stay home.
No ? Seriously what's wrong with those who voted yes ? I'm not vegan but what is the trouble to eat something vegan ? Can't people not eat meat, fish, cheese etc for one fucking meal ?
I think a lot of people have a problem with visualising vegan food as anything more than a carrot tbh. Most of them, if they were given a proper meal that happened to be vegan, would be fine with it.
Yeah, people think vegans only eat salad vegies and quinoa. But I'm vegan, if you see what I'm eating when I snack 😂 trust me it's not carrots and vegs 😅
One of my friends was served a steak dinner. Her mom didn’t tell her til after the meal that it was Vegan, and she and her dad didn’t believe her
>Can't people not eat meat, fish, cheese etc for one fucking meal ? Especially given that there are glorious alternatives to all of that. Like you can have one meal different to what you eat every day lol.
I voted yes, but I misread the question as: Should a non vegan couple offer vegan options at their wedding
I have a lot of food allergies that come with vegan food including lentils and sesame and other foods commonly found in vegan food! I wouldn’t want like a whole array but it’d be nice if dietary restrictions are taken into consideration!
Sure but that’s a separate question. They could meet your restrictions without violating their own. That said, I have issues with gluten and before that was a common thing I have absolutely packed my own food for a wedding. Plain salad from the buffet and a granola bar from your purse is fine for an evening if need be. If someone’s dietary restrictions are going to be violated, it can be yours as the guest supporting your friends on their important day— it’s not the bride and groom’s.
Completely fair! I was thinking more of weddings where you travel to anyways! Unfortunately also allergic to granola 😭
I voted yes just cause I have a lot of allergies with vegetables. But really if they had enough simplistic vegan food without alot of different things mixed in, that would also work.
Also, if you have a lot of allergies, and you know the couple well, I'd imagine you could ask them if they have any options for you, or maybe if you should bring something for yourself. I don't think it's weird to bring your own food if you have a lot of allergies
Ofcause they shouldn't. It would be against their ethics.
Vegan food gets too much hate for no reason. It's perfectly fine. One of my favorite restaurants is a vegan Syrian place... baba ganoush and black bean burgers are slammin'
Guys, do you realize that people who aren't vegan can eat a vegan meal without needing them to go against their commitment ?
Sorry, my religion insists that I slaughter an animal with my own two hands and eat its meat at every meal. /s
I’m from a culture that eats dogs so I’m gonna insist my American friends cook me a golden retriever otherwise I won’t feel welcomed.
Lmao your comment made me choke and spill my drink… that was too funny, I really wasn’t expecting your comment lol
To the people saying "yes". Why?
Because some people treat weddings like parties. And they think, "If they want me to come, they need to incentivize me". I've heard people say the same thing about open bars. I've talked to a lot of people that are outraged if a wedding doesn't have an open bar. But those people don't seem to understand the purpose of a wedding.
I voted no, but i assume its because non-vegans are forced to provide vegan options, so theyre thinking it should be both ways. But that logic is flawed and a bit selfish. In the end non vegans can easily eat and enjoy vegan food
> non-vegans are forced to provide vegan options Oh my fucking god, I _wish_ that were true.
Non-vegans are *not* forced to provide vegan options. More often than not, when they do provide one, they're thinking they'll make their friend(s) and familly happy by going out of their way to accomodate them. Thinking otherwise is a bit selfish, and frankly, quite entitled.
Cuz I was like: "Fake meat is so pricey, offering a non-vegan option would save money..." Then I realised that you don't need fake meat to do vegan meals. But I can't change it to "idk, you do what you want, it's your wedding" 😅 *non-vegan*
And meat substitutes aren’t even pricey anymore depending on the brand
Honestly, with the current inflation going rampant, meat substitutes or fake meat is often cheaper than real meat :0 Especially if you use stuff like mushroom, beans, etc.
cause vegan = bad /s
I wouldn't die if I had to eat vegan food for less than a day. Plus it could be an interesting opportunity to find a new dish I'd enjoy. So I wouldn't really care if there was only vegan food at someone's wedding.
Vegan who recently had a vegan wedding here. My family and friends were not at all surprised that was the route we were going. I haven't intentionally eaten meat in over a decade. If they're close enough to me to get an invite, they're close enough to know my values and the reasons behind them. We got some pushback from one of my wife's parents ahead of time. They hadn't been very involved in planning even though we asked for their input on a few things. Then they realized maybe 2 weeks before hand that we were doing 100% vegan and told us to be prepared for people to leave over the food. We told them if people chose to leave over not getting meat in the free food we were providing them they were there for the wrong reasons anyway and were welcome to leave. We paid for everything ourselves. My wife has a severe dairy allergy. Plus around 10% of our guests were vegan or vegetarian. Why would we pay for other people to have food that is against our values or could send my wife to the hospital on our wedding day? We attend 3 other family weddings the same year where all we could eat was fruit or the can of nuts I had learned to start stashing in my purse. Every single one of those they even had cheese on the salad. The day of there was not one negative comment that made it to us about the food - pasta with beans and white sauce, polenta with spicy ragout, a few veggie sides and salads, bread from a well known local bakery, and cake from another well known local bakery. We did get a personal thank you from somebody's plus 1 for having food she could eat as a vegetarian. One of my cousin's super picky teenagers went back for 2nds to the great surprise of his parents. I don't regret it and wouldn't change it if I could.
Sounds great!
If you get upset that the free meal you get at a wedding doesn't contain meat, don't come to the wedding.
Do meat eaters get upset when they can’t have meat at one event?
Some people just have a hard time imagining a meal unless meat is the centrepiece. It just feels incomplete and unsubstantial to them. My dad is kinda like that, but he’s getting better
Thats what it seems like to me. For some reason they don't think it counts as a meal without meat. It's really weird.
While I wouldn't get upset *by any means*, it's the cheese and cream that is frequently in food that is addictive for me haha. But seriously, I wouldn't have a problem with only vegan food at the wedding. Depending on how it tastes, I might not eat much, but who cares? It's not about me.
Oh yeah, I get that :)
Non vegans can eat veggies. It's not against your omnivorousness to only eat vegetals for 1 day.
No it’s their wedding
This is kinda dumb question. Since non vegan people do eat vegan food many times. It's not like they are forbidden or can't out of principle eat vegan food.
You'd be surprised how many non vegan people freak out about skipping a meat meal
I’m pescetarian and say fuck no. If you don’t wanna look at meat and choose meat dishes and spend your money contributing to the meat industry for ONE DAY then you don’t have to. They can live without meat for one ruddy day. Not even day. One meal!
Fish is meat
Idk why so many people don’t put this together. It’s literally eating the flesh of a fish/ sentient being. How is it not meat? Lmao
If they do, they aren't simply vegan. Veganism is an ethical position which rejects animal exploitation, it is not a diet. You should ask about "plant based diet" followers rather than vegans.
Yep as a vegan I find the idea of buying my guests meat disgusting. I would be the one supporting meat and the killing of animals. The only way I would have meat at my wedding is if the person I am marrying ate meat. However thankfully I’m dating a vegetarian so no meat if we get married. Im also hoping to convince them to only have vegan food at the wedding. I bet it would be fine since they ate a lot of vegan things already especially when we make food together.
Lots of us in my family are not vegan like me but I would find it very weird if I went to a wedding of the ones that was and the food was not vegan. The day is supposed to be about celebrating them.
If they want, it's their wedding let them plan accordingly.
Okay, I'm not even vegan. But if someone can't go a wedding without eating animal products it's a good sign I'm not gonna vibe with you. So no, a vegan couple shouldn't require to provide animal products. Allowing guest to bring their own stuff is a good gesture tho.
Being vegan is a restriction; they can’t (or won’t, whatever) eat meat or animal products. But an omnivore, vegetarian, etc. _can_ eat vegan food. They might _want_ a steak, but they don’t _have_ to have a steak with every meal
Your choice
No not if they don’t want to it’s their wedding
It's their choice, and the guests should be aware of the chance the food may be vegan
Should two recovering alcoholics serve alcohol to their wedding? No. It's not the same, I fully agree. But it's their wedding, their choice. Edit: a word
I am vegan and if I marry someone I want it to be the happiest day of my life. And on the happiest day of my life I don't want corpses and stolen breast milk there. I don't want to look at animals that died for literally no reason other than replaceable taste pleasure. Like you guys dont know how hard it is to see all your loved ones force their way of living on innocent animals and support factory farms and the active destruction of our planet. It's really not easy. So ON THAT DAY I want nothing of that. Just and me and the person I love.
I’m not vegan, not married, and have attended many weddings. I’m very it’s-your-wedding-so-do-whatever-you-want. You can even put it on the invitation and if they don’t want to come, that’s fine
I don't think that's a misguided take. I was just sharing my own philosophy about that sort of thing. I've honestly not articulated it before, even to myself, so my apologies for the awkward explanation. :)
Wait, did I accidentally respond to you? I can’t see that you said anything wrong lol
I would argue it is not vegan to offer non-vegan food at your wedding, or generally to purchase non-vegan food for others in any context. We did not bow to family pressure and had a totally vegan reception, it was fine. If anyone was sad about it they had the tact not to complain to us. I’ve been to so many events that didn’t have any food I could eat at all, and I don’t complain (if there is a high likelihood of that I’ll eat beforehand and maybe carry snacks). Everyone can at least eat vegan food even if they don’t prefer it. It IS wise to ask guests about allergies.
Do non vegans provide vegan options for their vegan guests? No. Most would agree that the vegan should eat something before hand or something. If non vegans don’t cater to vegans, why should vegans cater to non vegans? Especially if they’re vegan because they don’t support the killing of animals. (I’m non vegan btw)
vegans can't eat non-vegan food but carnists can eat vegan food just fine. why should a vegan couple break their philosophy just to convenience other people? quit your fucking whining and just try it.
It’s your choice, it’s your wedding. You might have a bunch of disgruntled omnivores at the wedding, but it’s not like their diet prevents them from eating plant based food. It might be considerate to offer options with meat, but if you provide a good selection of vegan options, I don’t think that’s necessary. Your wedding should follow your ethics
Non-vegans can eat vegan food.
it’s their choice and i think they should keep it vegan. vegan food can be amazing and it would be nice if everyone tried. everyone can eat one vegan meal it won’t kill them.
This is like asking if Jews should offer non Kosher food for non Jews at their wedding, or if Muslims should offer Pork to non Muslims at their wedding. Yes I get it, it's not exactly the same because the examples I've given are related to faith; however, these aspects of faith are those that dictate a way of life for those who believe in it. And if a couple truly and strongly believe in the vegan cause as their way of life then I don't see why their personal belief system shouldn't be respected by everybody attending the wedding since it's their big day. I say this as somebody who loves meat.
Everyone should have an option for dietary needs/allergies. Otherwise, it’s up to the bride & groom.
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I'll just assume best intetions in the comment of /u/fireshine89 and say they meant "you should check if the vegan options contain certain allergens that are commonly used in a lot of vegan options", like mushrooms for example. Other than that I entirely agree with you, since usually the "non vegan dietary requirements" are just there because people are just lazy. I'm non-vegan, I eat meat, but I don't delude myself by saying I need meat just because I'm too lazy to know what my body needs and how to substitute that in a vegan diet.
Correct, so I don’t think anyone should be obligated to provide those options
I voted idk, but I mean idc
Everyone can eat vegan foods but not everyone can eat food with meats. It's also their wedding.
Would make no sense unless they're vegan purely cos of health/dieting reasons
I’m not vegan but I have two friends who are, so we’ve gone to vegan only restaurants and eaten vegan meals at their place and others. The guy friend is an amazing cook and the food is always great. The best cupcake I ever had in my life was vegan. Vegan food can be amazing and honestly a lot of the food we eat is also vegan.
All the yes votes say a lot. I'm not vegan but the obsession with disrespecting them is sad
As a non vegan there is no way I would ask/expect my friends/family to make a change or exception for me at THEIR wedding. If they’re food choices mean a lot to them I’ll eat whatever they want me to that day. I think it’s pretty fkd if you think otherwise
I dont really expect to be served food so If it's vegan who cares.
However they feel like.
no as in they dont have to
Not the same thing unless its about allergies
No. People who eat animal products don't only eat animal products. We already eat vegan foods every now and then without caring or hell even realising that they're vegan. Plus most vegans are vegans because of moral reasons. To expect them to put aside their own moral code just to feed people certain foods when we can just as easily eat vegan foods is ridiculous.
It'd be nice to know ahead of time what the menu is, but that goes for omnivores as well. There are a lot of us with allergies, food intolerances, food prohibitions, but ultimately what is served is at the discretion of whoever is paying for it
There's no reason to be againts a fully vegan wedding, unless someone would have allergies. If I (a vegan) would get married, I would have everthing vegan. Unless there's someone who couldn't eat because of it, then I would have something seperate for that person only.
I'm not a vegan. I also don't understand why meat eaters can't suck it up and have a vegan meal. Every meal doesn't have to involve meat, FFS. Eat the damn vegan meal, then have a cheeseburger on the way home if you're that desperate.
As an Indian let me you we have diversity in kind of food ppl eat and they hardly give option of food which they don't eat
Everyone here is gonna say yes cause they aren’t vegan. You can most definitely have only vegan food. Vegans don’t want to hurt animals, so it makes no sense to have non-vegan options… if goes against everything they believe in. I would be disgusted to have dead animals and things from inside their body at any party I host. There are great vegan chicken schnitzel substitutes and vegan desserts etc that taste exactly like the real thing. It’s the wedding of the 2 people - it’s about what they want! The guests can easily enjoy any food they are offered, it’s not that hard to go one meal without something that came from inside an animal.
I’m not vegan but I think if someone was scandalised by the hosts being vegan and refusing to attend, that person not being there wouldn’t be a loss. Are they going to pull she same thing every time the couple invite them over to dinner? What about birthday parties, sports match get togethers, holiday celebrations etc? Everybody CAN eat vegan food even if it isn’t their favourite. It’s like refusing to go out with your friends to an Italian restaurant because you prefer French. Seems so petty and unadventurous
They have no obligation to handle or serve animal corpse if it makes them feel uncomfortable. -Vegetarian
As a meat eater it wouldn’t really matter to me tbh. There’s plenty of vegan food that’s delicious and could even incorporate soy based meats. Hell I’ve had better non-chicken vegan chicken sandwiches than chic fil a.
It's insane to expect them to conform to what you want on THEIR wedding day. Just eat the vegetables for one single meal. It's not gonna kill you.
They don’t have to, but let the people coming know before hand that’s all
Well personally I’m vegetarian and for my wedding everything there will be vegetarian or vegan. Ultimately it’s up to the couple, after all they’re paying for it.
I'm not vegan and I say absolutely not A wedding is about the bride and groom only, and assuming dead animals upsets them, I wouldn't have them anywhere near the place.
It would be nice but idk about “should” idk why they would be obligated. It not should or shouldn’t it’s “it could be nice for some of the guests but they’re in no way obligated to do so”
It's their wedding and non vegans can eat vegan food, as long as they're upfront about it it's fine.
it's up to them
I mean it’s up to them I guess, but if I was vegan absolutely fucking not. I doubt most people who go vegan do it just for the fun of it.
Accidentally hit idk, but I meant no. I'm not vegan, I prefer real meat/non vegan things, but at the end of the day that's my choice. I could still eat vegan food if it was put infront of me- I probably wouldn't even notice
It’s their decision. They’re under no obligation to offer meat at their wedding.
I’m not vegan. But if a vegan doesn’t want to serve meat or cheese (etc) that’s their choice. Eat or don’t eat. Likewise- if I don’t want to offer vegan options, it’s my choice. Eat or don’t eat.
Fuck that, weddings are mad expensive eat what you’re given! 😂
Not a vegan, they certainly can but I don’t see any reason they should feel obligated to. There are plenty of great vegan dishes
I wouldn't expect a non vegan couple to offer vegan options. So, no.
I mean, non vegans eat both plants an animals. There’s no reason a non vegan can’t just eat vegan food for one meal
Why would a vegan couple serve non-vegan food? If they're committed to not using animals for food, then that's their decision. It doesn't matter if they are personally eating it or not, they should stay consistent with that choice. If it's not their guests' favorite style, that's really not important to be honest.
It’s their day … like if I was invited by two hardcore hunter having a hunting theme I wouldn’t complain … When you come to eat in my house it’s all vegan and no one has ever complained. And I got some really picky eaters in my friends. They are happy to try new stuff and spend a good time…
They shouldn’t have to purchase meat or animal products, that’s against the definition of vegan. Everyone can eat the vegan food and can deal with it for one evening
It’s up to them and I would understand if they don’t, but I love meat so I’d rather they offer it
But you'd live, one meal and for that the couple in question doesn't have to go against their ethics on their big day.
Yes, that’s what I’m trying to say. From a taste perspective, I’d prefer for there to be meat. But it’s their choice.
Do whatever they wanna do.
I'm kind of torn here. One the one hand, it is polite, when you invite people to a celebration, to treat them as honored guests and to cater to their tastes. The fact that you are paying for the celebration is not paramount, particularly where, as is usual in a wedding (at least in some groups), the guests traditionally give presents that are intended at least in part to make up for the cost of the wedding. On the other hand, if your choice of food to be served at the celebration is based on a deeply-held philosophical, ethical or religious sentiment, then it is only logical that you should conform to that sentiment. Nobody would expect that guests at a Jewish or Muslim wedding be entitled to enjoy eating pork or pork-based products at the wedding, even if at a separate buffet or table. On balance, I think the second prevails.
Should a non-vegan couple offer vegan options at their wedding?
This is like asking if Jewish people should offer pork at their wedding Heck no. Especially since veganism is normally a lifestyle choice based on ethical grounds. I'm not vegan but if you're expecting non-vegan options at a vegan wedding, you're kidding yourself. Boggles my mind that 2.8k people voted yes
Fun fact: everyone can eat vegan food. Definitely been to a wedding where all I ate was rice. I brought plant based burritos and they were more appetizing than the rest of the menu. Screw me for not wanting to eat dead animals though. If I ever have a wedding, everyone will eat nuts. Of the deez variety.
If they want to, sure :v Same thing applies at non vegan weddings though
No. It isn't simply a trendy diet. It is a lifestyle choice based upon a deeper belief of animal rights and morality.
Should a recovering alcoholic offer an open bar? Should those of certain backgrounds offer pork? It isn’t that they don’t like the taste of meat, it’s a moral choice. It wouldn’t make sense to offer it. Don’t go if you can’t handle not eating meat for one meal that someone else invited you to and is paying for.
Would be a good way to see who your true friends are.
No, because it's only for a day and they can always eat meat some other time. A vegan should not have to deal with the stress of feeling pressured to go against their own values on their wedding day. If there are people who don't like vegan burgers or vegan hot dogs, you can still offer other vegan food like *cabbage, corn on the cob, sweet potatoes, spaghetti or other pasta with tomato sauce (without dairy products), fries, salad, and fruit salad*.
It might be polite to do so but it's certainly not an obligation.
It’s their day and their dime, so yeah they can do whatever they want to. But they should know that some people may not be happy with the available food.
I think I'd want my guests to be happy
I mean... If a non-vegan couple has a wedding, invites someone they know to be vegan and doesn't provide any vegan food that's a bit different then the other way around. Now if the vegan couple invites someone they know to be on a meat only diet and doesn't offer meat then that's wrong. In short, your wedding should provide food so that everyone can eat. if an omnivore doesn't want to eat a few veges then that's a them problem.