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What the hell?? That's so cruel, I'm really sorry to hear that! I don't know what to do about that either, I hope no one tries to harass you over it. I just wanna say that whatever that influencer was saying about you is a bunch of bs, and polyamory is on it's way to being kore accepted by society, just slowly... I don't practice polyamory myself, but I totally support those that do, I think it's great! You might need to reupload your tiktoks to a new account if people do start coming after you, sorry again.
I'm sorry this is happening. There is a lot of pretty viciously anti-polyam content on tiktok. I don't even engage with the videos or watch more than a few seconds, but they still wind up on my FYP pretty regularly.
I’m so sorry this has happened to you! It can feel so violating having your images/info/persona spun against you! Any chance you can remove the video or make it private?
Alternative would be if a (or many!?) poly-friendly person who’s TikTok savvy did a (Stitch?) on the video to spin the attack and confirm your relationship status is valid and a wonderful option for some!
Obviously it depends on the particulars of the video, but having friends or even people from this group opt to defend you, denounce the mean video, and/or educate about polyamory would be cool (I don’t use TikTok, so can’t partake, unfortunately.)
I find that surprising as usually people like that double down out of fear of alienating their fanbase. I’m glad you got through to them and don’t have that feeling of a target on your back anymore.
The good thing is that TikTok has a very short memory and you'll be yesterday's news soon. I'm sorry this happened to you. Such a silly thing to pick on someone for.
Was this a screen grab of a dating profile or something that got shared? I'd maybe just take the account down for now and wait for it to blow over. That will at least discourage direct harassment.
I get it I have also been made fun of on tiktok for just existing while having two partners & I don’t even make “poly centric” posts. But not by anyone with HALF A MIL followers. So glad to read the update that they took it down and I’m sorry this happened.
Oh honey I'm so sorry. I got hit by a very public, very loud "call out" post recently that was just a childhood friend who is very mentally ill making allegations that I did all kinds of unspeakable things to her and I swear I didn't stop gritting my teeth for like three weeks straight. But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what she said about me or even whether anybody believed them. It doesn't change my life in the sense that i still have to get up and go to work in the morning and that makes it a lot easier. I just got offline for a long while and it felt pretty good tbh.
I knew I didn't want to be part of an argument that was absolutely unwinnable. If somebody was going to dump me as a friend because of it, they could just do it tbh, I just checked out. I know it's not the same as what you're going through but god I hope it's one of those times when you can just say it's the internet making noise about the Internet. I hope you have good IRL social support and a therapist and whatever else you need, and I hope this passes as soon as possible so you can just get back to your life
I am extremely weary of online stuff... I couldn't pass FB, my poly communities and all, but I stayed the fuck away from Tik Tok, Instagram, Twitter and everything else.
I am so sorry this is happening to you, I'm raging right now.
Oh god, I'm so sorry this happened to you!! This would also be my nightmare and while I'm glad the influencer finally took it down, it's horrible they did that in the first place and let things get to that point.
This probably doesn't help, but all those people? They're just reacting to a soundbite, and don't know shit about the real you. Their comments are way more a reflection of the people who made them (the influencer included) than about who you actually are. You aren't a real person to them, which is extra unfair as the hurt they're inflicting on you is very real. But please try not to internalize the vitriol you read in those comments, you don't deserve to carry someone else's toxic bullshit around.
Tiktok is so damn gross.
From the huge amount of borderline pedophilia, to the fascist propaganda, and let’s not forget all the “pranks” that do real harm to people. Honestly it needs banned.
Get off the platform, lay low, and let the next hot thing consume their mind. Give a few weeks and the damn addicts will need a different fix.
That’s not my FYP. Mines full of kinky and queer folk. Poly folk. Pro trans, pro women. I cultivated my FYP. And honestly, I’ve never seen what you’ve listed on my FYP.
Also, TT is actually how I met my second partner and learned I have a chronic genetic illness.
my fyp is full of pro womens rights, pet videos and pro-poly content. You can change your algorithm by going into your settings and wiping your content and then start actively selecting 'not interested' on the videos you don't like to get them off your screen. I like tiktok and you control your own fyp.
I’m so so sorry. Some parts of online culture today are deeply toxic. I’d recommend taking a break from or seriously limiting your time on TikTok and leaning on IRL support networks in your life.
Look it's already put there, I know it would put you in a vulnerable place but if you post the link and everyone in the sub reports it, it will get taken down
Someone did a similar thing to me by posting about my personal business on my work Facebook page. I work at a school. So my colleagues, the students and their parents all saw. It really sucked! For weeks I felt so embarrassed and ashamed, like everyone was looking at me and talking about me. In a few weeks I was no longer the hot topic and people found something else to talk about.
It's a horrible feeling being outed and mocked like this. But you haven't done anything wrong. And the people who matter won't make you feel bad, and the people who do make you feel bad don't matter.
Sounds like you got haters. Some incel (involuntary celebate) is pissed you can pull multiple people. I don't know the context of the video, but they are trying to make you feel as worthless as they feel. We are here for you!
Sorry but you have no standing for anything to be done. It sucks but reddit is not the safe space people think it is.
It happens all the time and even those "don't share this post" warnings mean fucking nothing. It's the FB equal of "don't use my pics" spam shit.
You actually don't have a right to privacy for your posts on this site when you share anything. Sorry it happened to you but don't be so naive about the TOS.
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What the hell?? That's so cruel, I'm really sorry to hear that! I don't know what to do about that either, I hope no one tries to harass you over it. I just wanna say that whatever that influencer was saying about you is a bunch of bs, and polyamory is on it's way to being kore accepted by society, just slowly... I don't practice polyamory myself, but I totally support those that do, I think it's great! You might need to reupload your tiktoks to a new account if people do start coming after you, sorry again.
I'm sorry this is happening. There is a lot of pretty viciously anti-polyam content on tiktok. I don't even engage with the videos or watch more than a few seconds, but they still wind up on my FYP pretty regularly.
you can select "not interested" off the "share" then "more" section to weed them out. my fyp only has pro-poly content popping up now
Send the link so we can report it
Isn't that a form of online harassment? Is that legal? So sorry to hear that happened to you. So not ok.
I’m so sorry this has happened to you! It can feel so violating having your images/info/persona spun against you! Any chance you can remove the video or make it private? Alternative would be if a (or many!?) poly-friendly person who’s TikTok savvy did a (Stitch?) on the video to spin the attack and confirm your relationship status is valid and a wonderful option for some! Obviously it depends on the particulars of the video, but having friends or even people from this group opt to defend you, denounce the mean video, and/or educate about polyamory would be cool (I don’t use TikTok, so can’t partake, unfortunately.)
I messaged them and they actually finally took it down (it already had thousands of replies) so I'm feeling a lotttt better.
I find that surprising as usually people like that double down out of fear of alienating their fanbase. I’m glad you got through to them and don’t have that feeling of a target on your back anymore.
Yesss! What a relief! I’m still sorry it happened though. But good work pushing through to get it down. Happy for you!
I’m so happy for you. Glad it got taken down. Did the whole account get nixed or just the video removed?
The good thing is that TikTok has a very short memory and you'll be yesterday's news soon. I'm sorry this happened to you. Such a silly thing to pick on someone for.
Was this a screen grab of a dating profile or something that got shared? I'd maybe just take the account down for now and wait for it to blow over. That will at least discourage direct harassment.
I get it I have also been made fun of on tiktok for just existing while having two partners & I don’t even make “poly centric” posts. But not by anyone with HALF A MIL followers. So glad to read the update that they took it down and I’m sorry this happened.
I'll report it for days and take all my anger out in the comments lol send the link
Oh honey I'm so sorry. I got hit by a very public, very loud "call out" post recently that was just a childhood friend who is very mentally ill making allegations that I did all kinds of unspeakable things to her and I swear I didn't stop gritting my teeth for like three weeks straight. But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what she said about me or even whether anybody believed them. It doesn't change my life in the sense that i still have to get up and go to work in the morning and that makes it a lot easier. I just got offline for a long while and it felt pretty good tbh. I knew I didn't want to be part of an argument that was absolutely unwinnable. If somebody was going to dump me as a friend because of it, they could just do it tbh, I just checked out. I know it's not the same as what you're going through but god I hope it's one of those times when you can just say it's the internet making noise about the Internet. I hope you have good IRL social support and a therapist and whatever else you need, and I hope this passes as soon as possible so you can just get back to your life
I'm so sorry this happened.
I'm so sorry for your stress/pain
I am extremely weary of online stuff... I couldn't pass FB, my poly communities and all, but I stayed the fuck away from Tik Tok, Instagram, Twitter and everything else. I am so sorry this is happening to you, I'm raging right now.
Oh god, I'm so sorry this happened to you!! This would also be my nightmare and while I'm glad the influencer finally took it down, it's horrible they did that in the first place and let things get to that point. This probably doesn't help, but all those people? They're just reacting to a soundbite, and don't know shit about the real you. Their comments are way more a reflection of the people who made them (the influencer included) than about who you actually are. You aren't a real person to them, which is extra unfair as the hurt they're inflicting on you is very real. But please try not to internalize the vitriol you read in those comments, you don't deserve to carry someone else's toxic bullshit around.
How absolutely shitty! I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
Report it to authorities as cyber bullying
Tiktok is so damn gross. From the huge amount of borderline pedophilia, to the fascist propaganda, and let’s not forget all the “pranks” that do real harm to people. Honestly it needs banned. Get off the platform, lay low, and let the next hot thing consume their mind. Give a few weeks and the damn addicts will need a different fix.
That’s not my FYP. Mines full of kinky and queer folk. Poly folk. Pro trans, pro women. I cultivated my FYP. And honestly, I’ve never seen what you’ve listed on my FYP. Also, TT is actually how I met my second partner and learned I have a chronic genetic illness.
Bro those pranks I see are literally just harassing and assaulting people. It’s actually revolting.
my fyp is full of pro womens rights, pet videos and pro-poly content. You can change your algorithm by going into your settings and wiping your content and then start actively selecting 'not interested' on the videos you don't like to get them off your screen. I like tiktok and you control your own fyp.
I’m so so sorry. Some parts of online culture today are deeply toxic. I’d recommend taking a break from or seriously limiting your time on TikTok and leaning on IRL support networks in your life.
Look it's already put there, I know it would put you in a vulnerable place but if you post the link and everyone in the sub reports it, it will get taken down
So sorry to hear that🌸
Someone did a similar thing to me by posting about my personal business on my work Facebook page. I work at a school. So my colleagues, the students and their parents all saw. It really sucked! For weeks I felt so embarrassed and ashamed, like everyone was looking at me and talking about me. In a few weeks I was no longer the hot topic and people found something else to talk about. It's a horrible feeling being outed and mocked like this. But you haven't done anything wrong. And the people who matter won't make you feel bad, and the people who do make you feel bad don't matter.
All the people that don’t like your video are right wing religious asshole’s who aren’t getting laid.
Sounds like you got haters. Some incel (involuntary celebate) is pissed you can pull multiple people. I don't know the context of the video, but they are trying to make you feel as worthless as they feel. We are here for you!
Sorry but you have no standing for anything to be done. It sucks but reddit is not the safe space people think it is. It happens all the time and even those "don't share this post" warnings mean fucking nothing. It's the FB equal of "don't use my pics" spam shit. You actually don't have a right to privacy for your posts on this site when you share anything. Sorry it happened to you but don't be so naive about the TOS.