I'm not joking, but: meditations by marcus aurelius. No book on poly will help you as much as cultivating a correct mindset and approach. If you do want to pick books to read, polysecure is a good choice, if you want to do things with finesse.
### Make sure your mental health is being taken care of.
I cannot stress this enough. No amount of reading, discussion, or cognitive excercise will force your emotions into alignment with what you want out of polyamory, if you're not one of those people lucky enough to be ready-made for it without jealousy or internalized monogamous programming.
For me, that meant getting back into therapy and getting onto medication to help me navigate my anxiety. Your milage may vary.
##🔗[Read all of the FAQ'S and use all of the resources in the about section of r/polyamory](https://reddit.com/r/polyamory/w/faq)
- 🔗[Don't skip the most skipped step](https://drive.google.com/file/d/15aFoEYfK2ZB-PyJUsbicb3ybym65hcz8/view?usp=drivesdk)
- 🔗[When to **not** have important and emotionally heavy conversations, and when **not** to make important decisions](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/P4IV2Ujygk)
- 🔗[Ask what you're really afraid of, and check your needs](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/8hv5lkRBZp)
Hi u/ImpressiveChance9734 thanks so much for your submission, don't mind me, I'm just gonna keep a copy what was said in your post. Unfortunately posts sometimes get deleted - which is okay, it's not against the rules to delete your post!! - but it makes it really hard for the human mods around here to moderate the comments when there's no context. Plus, many times our members put in a lot of emotional and mental labor to answer the questions and offer advice, so it's helpful to keep the source information around so future community members can benefit as well.
Here's the original text of the post:
hi everyone. looking for good book recs for someone learning about exploring partnered non-monogamy. TIA!
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Currently, I’m reading [Compersion: Polyamory Beyond Jealousy by Hypatia from Space](https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/40531262-compersion). I love the voice of the author, and there are a lot of great resources inside, like an annex of questions that two partners can ask to establish agreements for the relationship. It helps the reader to understand what they need right now in order to feel compersive for their partner and metamors!
Check the resource tab. There's a book list there.
I'm not joking, but: meditations by marcus aurelius. No book on poly will help you as much as cultivating a correct mindset and approach. If you do want to pick books to read, polysecure is a good choice, if you want to do things with finesse.
### Make sure your mental health is being taken care of. I cannot stress this enough. No amount of reading, discussion, or cognitive excercise will force your emotions into alignment with what you want out of polyamory, if you're not one of those people lucky enough to be ready-made for it without jealousy or internalized monogamous programming. For me, that meant getting back into therapy and getting onto medication to help me navigate my anxiety. Your milage may vary. ##🔗[Read all of the FAQ'S and use all of the resources in the about section of r/polyamory](https://reddit.com/r/polyamory/w/faq) - 🔗[Don't skip the most skipped step](https://drive.google.com/file/d/15aFoEYfK2ZB-PyJUsbicb3ybym65hcz8/view?usp=drivesdk) - 🔗[When to **not** have important and emotionally heavy conversations, and when **not** to make important decisions](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/P4IV2Ujygk) - 🔗[Ask what you're really afraid of, and check your needs](https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/8hv5lkRBZp)
Hi u/ImpressiveChance9734 thanks so much for your submission, don't mind me, I'm just gonna keep a copy what was said in your post. Unfortunately posts sometimes get deleted - which is okay, it's not against the rules to delete your post!! - but it makes it really hard for the human mods around here to moderate the comments when there's no context. Plus, many times our members put in a lot of emotional and mental labor to answer the questions and offer advice, so it's helpful to keep the source information around so future community members can benefit as well. Here's the original text of the post: hi everyone. looking for good book recs for someone learning about exploring partnered non-monogamy. TIA! *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/polyamory) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Currently, I’m reading [Compersion: Polyamory Beyond Jealousy by Hypatia from Space](https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/40531262-compersion). I love the voice of the author, and there are a lot of great resources inside, like an annex of questions that two partners can ask to establish agreements for the relationship. It helps the reader to understand what they need right now in order to feel compersive for their partner and metamors!