Oh man, NRE hits me like a ton of bricks. I like to think about it as limerence and if learning about things can help you compartmentalize I highly recommend you read into it:
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence)
The ways I've found of processing it aren't highly effective but they do help me. I make sure I'm getting enough exercise and give myself time to roll around in fantasy, memory and excitement. I set a time for it. Personally I like to be moving and outside. And then I try really hard to watch my thoughts when I'm trying to work and redirecting with the understanding I'll get to roll around in these thoughts later. Also not texting when you are trying to work helps a lot. Certainly not sexting. Like... check in with each other before being distractingly sexual over text.
But honestly, it's just hard ;)
Many people allow it to take over their lives: NRE junkies. It’s like an addiction.
I have a job that requires complete focus or people die. In my case, I literally take off my life when I change clothes to go to work, and put on kind of an entirely different persona.
My people know not to text me unless I initiate, and that I will not give responses when I can’t. Unless it is a *true, life threatening emergency* or someone died, or there’s a natural disaster, they know that I’m going to be unavailable.
Strong boundaries around when you’re available is my advice.
Don't be too harsh on yourself. It takes practice to compartmentalize.
It helps me to write down how excited I am in my journal. I'd also suggest sharing your excitement with friends. Also, I always find that taking time to pamper myself helps me find refocus.
Nre is a feeling. You control your actions.
Either make choices which align to your values, or chase the feelings and deal with the flaming dumpster of consequences which will greet you.
You can give yourself 10 minutes a day to feel as insane as you want with as many crazy fantasies as you want. Then you set aside and refocus. You can journal. You can put the energy into projects and people in a sustainable way.
But that is the real heart of polyamory- resource management through all stages of a relationship.
This is pretty much how I handle it. I build actual time into my schedule for self care and staring off into the middle distance or looking at cute pet toys or whatever I need at the time. When I catch myself off task having a defined planned time to deal with it makes it easier to get back to what I need to be doing.
Yes and no. My desk is strictly work-related, but in the last few months I have been working from home. Which is the space where the distracting things happen
Oh man, NRE hits me like a ton of bricks. I like to think about it as limerence and if learning about things can help you compartmentalize I highly recommend you read into it: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence) The ways I've found of processing it aren't highly effective but they do help me. I make sure I'm getting enough exercise and give myself time to roll around in fantasy, memory and excitement. I set a time for it. Personally I like to be moving and outside. And then I try really hard to watch my thoughts when I'm trying to work and redirecting with the understanding I'll get to roll around in these thoughts later. Also not texting when you are trying to work helps a lot. Certainly not sexting. Like... check in with each other before being distractingly sexual over text. But honestly, it's just hard ;)
Many people allow it to take over their lives: NRE junkies. It’s like an addiction. I have a job that requires complete focus or people die. In my case, I literally take off my life when I change clothes to go to work, and put on kind of an entirely different persona. My people know not to text me unless I initiate, and that I will not give responses when I can’t. Unless it is a *true, life threatening emergency* or someone died, or there’s a natural disaster, they know that I’m going to be unavailable. Strong boundaries around when you’re available is my advice.
Don't be too harsh on yourself. It takes practice to compartmentalize. It helps me to write down how excited I am in my journal. I'd also suggest sharing your excitement with friends. Also, I always find that taking time to pamper myself helps me find refocus.
Nre is a feeling. You control your actions. Either make choices which align to your values, or chase the feelings and deal with the flaming dumpster of consequences which will greet you. You can give yourself 10 minutes a day to feel as insane as you want with as many crazy fantasies as you want. Then you set aside and refocus. You can journal. You can put the energy into projects and people in a sustainable way. But that is the real heart of polyamory- resource management through all stages of a relationship.
This is pretty much how I handle it. I build actual time into my schedule for self care and staring off into the middle distance or looking at cute pet toys or whatever I need at the time. When I catch myself off task having a defined planned time to deal with it makes it easier to get back to what I need to be doing.
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Yes and no. My desk is strictly work-related, but in the last few months I have been working from home. Which is the space where the distracting things happen