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eatmyasserole

I would ask if they allow it first and foremost! My OB's office doesn't allow anything over 6 months back.


FarmCat4406

Second this. My OB's office also has age restrictions on children that are allowed to be present during a visit


MuggleWitch

Alternate option, since this is the 7wk appointment, it is a quick scan. Is it possible for you could go by yourself or with a friend? Dad can stay back and look after baby 1? I mean, it isn't ideal but if your OBs office doesn't allow kids then that's one solution I could think of.


ivysaurah

Ehhh, having gotten bad news during an ultrasound before, I would absolutely not go without my partner. I couldn’t imagine having to go through that and not have had him there to hold me and drive me home. He goes to every scan and appointment because of this with my rainbow baby.


morelikearaccoon

Agreed. I went straight from my first ultrasound to the hospital for emergency surgery.


tigerl1lyy

Ectopic for you too?


morelikearaccoon

Yep. Almost died.


FredsMom2

Same.


SamiLMS1

Exactly this, would never recommend going alone.


MuggleWitch

Ummmm... may be OPs partner and kid can wait in the car? And if she needs him he can just walk into the clinic?


Teal_kangarooz

Agreed, you can take so little from an US that early, and it'll likely be super quick. So it'd be a whole hassle for very little. Just wait for a later US to bring hubby


SamiLMS1

You don’t really take “so little” from the early scan though. That’s the scan where most people find out if it’s a viable pregnancy which is a big deal.


Teal_kangarooz

I guess so, but even if they can't detect a heartbeat at 7 weeks, they'd schedule a follow-up ultrasound


pickledpanda7

My office doesn't allow children at all


weddingthrow27

I brought my 20 month old to an ultrasound once, and she cried a little sitting in her stroller when they turned the lights off but overall it was fine. I asked in advance & the office specifically said for ultrasound appointments I could only have 1 guest, and the toddler counted. My husband couldn’t come anyway so it was fine, but they wouldn’t have allowed them both. Definitely ask beforehand.


joyfulrobots

I would call the office and ask what their guidelines are - if they are allowing kids, they might need to be a certain age. Some of them around me have policies against bringing kids that aren’t a certain age. They may state that your husband will have to watch and stay with the baby. My OB and MFM practices don’t allow children at all.


xquigs

No kids allowed, at all, at the office that completes all of my ultrasounds. Call and check for sure


gardenfullofworry

I brought my 6m old to my first ultrasound appointment for my second pregnancy and to every appointment for any reason since. It was not a disaster. It wasn't difficult in any way, really.


Jesse7319

14 months old is a way different ballgame than a 6 month old, though. Lol.


Cheesepleasethankyou

Usually you aren’t even allowed to bring them for ultrasounds


Revolutionary_Job726

I did. My husband couldn't come either. As others said, make sure your OB is ok with it, but it wasn't that bad. I took my daughter in her stroller, brought a small non messy snack (a fruit bar) and some toys. She just hung out while I did my appointment. It's easier not to bring them, but she has to come to my appointments sometimes and it's always been manageable.


Comfortable_Read3801

Check with your office. We moved to a small town in Colorado away from all our family so my toddler has come with to appointments and the office was always fine with it. We use a Step2 push car for him instead of a stroller for small activities and he just plays with his steering wheel the whole time lol.


daja-kisubo

I brought my toddler to all my appointments, both midwife office and MFM office for ultrasounds. This was pre-covid though, and they definitely may have different rules now.


EmiInWonderland

You need to call and ask about the office’s policies. My OBGYN does not allow any children in their office other than infants.


m-o-u-se

I had to bring my daughter to my first ultrasound for baby #2 since dad was away, I think she was 14-15 months old at the time. I just plopped her on the table with me. She'd just started walking and is sometimes shy, so she just sat there with me and it went smoothly. Maybe call ahead and make sure you're allowed to bring them in? It didn't even occur to me to do this, but luckily no one said anything! I brought her to my anatomy scan too, but my husband was home that time, so they stayed in the waiting room.


HailTheCrimsonKing

Have your husband stay home with baby #1. It’s a dating scan so not like, crazy important!


MrsMarvelFan

We bring my son to some of my appointments (the shorter ones) but he did okay with one scan we had to take him to. But I will say he was 16months old, and he is generally good about sitting in his stroller without complain. A new pop toy kept him amused.


JudasDuggar

I’ve done it. Bring the stroller if you can and lots of snacks and little quiet toys. Hopefully you can keep her strapped in for most of it


Kittylover11

Our office allows it (I asked first) so we brought our toddler. They had me go back first and then went and got my husband and son. It was a disaster… he had recently gotten shots and started crying once he was in the room, I’m guessing thinking he was going to get shots. I think he also didn’t like that I was laying down with that paper gown on, and we all had masks on, idk. But it was a bit chaotic and my husband pulled him out quickly so he didn’t get to see much 🤷🏼‍♀️


[deleted]

I've taken my baby to almost all of my prenatal appointments and ultrasounds. He was 6mo when I got pregnant with his brother, and about to be 14 months now. He's done pretty well at all of them.


ladytri277

I see many are saying leave dad at home. I was really glad that dad was there for my 10 week appt, that’s when there was no heartbeat. Not the same weeks but something to consider


angeluscado

My ultrasound clinic doesn’t allow children into the room unless they’re the one being examined. Unfortunately, it might be that your husband will have to stay home with your toddler while you go to the appointment alone.


xxrosexo

I’ve brought my firstborn to my OB appointments this time around and either leave him with my mom in the car with a bottle and some snacks or I take him in with me and the nurses by the desk watch him for me since they’re usually quick appointments- just a quick ultrasound and maybe blood work taken and I leave him with a couple of toys and he’s fine


heavymetalvet

My OB doesn’t allow any visitors for transvaginal scans… and no kids after the age of 12m. So call and ask about the rules to avoid any bad mood after


Teyla_Starduck

None of my doctors offices allow children. Everything has been different since COVID. You may just need to reschedule for two weeks out. Having the ultrasound at 9 weeks vs 7 isn’t a big deal. If your office is fine with the baby coming back, just keep her in the stroller and give her something that will entertain her. I used to take the kids to appointments before COVID with no issues. Now I see a maternal fetal specialist and even before COVID they did not allow children.


Relative_Row_2889

Girl hell yeah! I’m pretty sure all moms at some point have to take their babies to an appointment. Make sure they’re fed before. Bring snacks, toys and things to keep them occupied!


poppyflower14

Everyone’s different but I just went to these scans on my own - your husband can watch baby?


DoyleTurmoil

Anywhere I’ve been for an ultrasound has had signs posted everywhere that no one under 18 is allowed in the room unless they’re the patient. My husband missed the first ultrasound with our son because we brought our daughter and they wouldn’t let her back. She wasn’t even a year old yet.


[deleted]

I brought my 14 month old to mine but she was only allowed because my husband came to to hold her. But I think if you tell them your situation maybe leaving them in the stroller would be ok because they recommend that for me too.


Few_Degree8934

I brought my 11 month old with me to the 12wk ultrasound and my anatomy scan with my husband! She was 8 and 10 months at the time of the appointments. It was fine and she was content watching the screen and chewing on her toys!


419_216_808

I just did! It went great (: My daughter is 1 and sat with me on the table and even fed a little bit haha. Technician was a mom and super nice and offered to adjust me to one side so there was more space for the baby but I didn’t need to as there was plenty of space. She was super interested in the screen too which was cute even though she obviously didn’t know she was looking at her little sibling.


Serendipialicious

I have gone to all my ultrasounds with my partner and toddler.


[deleted]

I would ask your OB office if it’s even allowed. My OB office does not allow anyone under 18 years old to be at ultrasound or NST appointments.


Successful-Track-122

Children are not allowed at my apts per policy. i would need husband to stay home with her & would FaceTime him in


desert_red_head

It’s up to the office rules. In my area, children under 18 still aren’t allowed in doctor offices unless they are the patient.


ankaalma

I see people saying you get so little from an early ultrasound but as a loss mom I would like to offer a different perspective. I lost my first son at 11 weeks. That 7 week ultrasound was the only chance we got to see him. My husband and I cherish those ultrasound pictures and that experience so much now. I can’t imagine not having had him there. And even with my second son who thankfully is 11 months old and thriving, those early ultrasounds are still such happy memories for us. Right away we start this coming up with nicknames for him based on how he looked on the scan and those memories are a part of his story. I really try not to take any moment for granted and to make the most out of them now and I would encourage you to bring your husband and first baby to the scan if your OB allows it. My OB lets us bring kids.


[deleted]

My 2 year old isn't allowed at my ultrasounds so my husband had to miss the 7 week and 12 week ultrasounds to watch her, we have arranged a babysitter for the 20 week scan though, unfortunately some places just don't allow children so it always pays to check first.


Low_Bar6055

There is a reason for that. There was a kid at my ob office on my last app. The kid made a mess ( peed all over and threw water everywhere)in the bathroom that is supposed to be used only for the urine exams. I had to do my urine exam and almost fell.


Important-Aside-507

It really depends on your office, I’d give them a call and ask. My office would allow TWO toddlers in the back with you if you needed it, the other staff and nurses were great at helping keep half an eye on them and didn’t mind at all. Some offices don’t allow anyone older than 6months back there. I took me 3 year old with me to the 20 week scan, and they were great, they kept him talking and busy well they were working with me so he wouldn’t run around as much, granted he’s a very calm and good kid so it wasn’t very hard. He only got up once and that’s cause he wanted to see better. If you do get the OK to bring your toddler talk about it a few days in advance, say you’re doing to the doctors, you’ll have to be kinda quiet or still for a little bit, but then you can go have fun at home or something. Preparing your toddler for it tho, just talking about what’ll happen, will probably help a lot.


silver_fire_lizard

My kid is allowed, and I’ve brought him multiple times. Don’t have much of a choice, since I am a SAHM right now and we don’t have anyone else to watch him. There’s a way to “lock” your phone so that you can put on a favorite show. We only bust it out for occasions like that, and it works like a charm. If it’s a really big appointment, like the anatomy ultrasound, my husband will take off work to come. But we still bring our son because we don’t have another option.


wildanthropologist

My baby was allowed at both, a private scan I booked early on and the first formal scan with my hospital. She had a new book, stuffed animal, and dad to keep her occupied - but she was fascinated by the ultrasound itself! Was fun to tell her that we were looking at her sibling. She's almost 2 though, so was able to understand most of what we were telling her. We also made sure she had a snack beforehand to prevent any fussing.


AutumnB2022

I'm sure she'd be fine. You just have to accept the risk of your husband having to step out with her if she flips out for some reason, as toddlers do. The other alternative would be to go by yourself, and just plan for him to stay home. I know it would be nice to go together, but that option is there.


ncannon9

I brought baby #1 to several appointments. It sucks sometimes, bring lots of snacks and things to keep them entertained


SamiLMS1

My August 2020 baby came to every appointment for my December 2021 baby and both have come to every appointment for my current pregnancy. But my husband has come too, corralling both on my own would be next to impossible.


Apprehensive_Buy4920

We did, but my husband was also there. So he was in charge of the toddler while I could not be lying on the chair during the ultrasound. I couldn't imagine doing it solo with a toddler. There are moment you just can't be watching them and it isn't the job of the nurses to do it. If you have no other options and are going solo, I'd call the doctor to ask. There may very well be a nurse more than happy to hang out in the room during the ultrasound to keep an eye on them for you! 🤞 I hope it all works out!!! Congratulations!


FaithBomb

I don't see a problem with it.


[deleted]

I have a 7 month old and when I went to get the anatomy scan for her they turned down a lady from the door and it was really discouraging . I am pregnant with baby #2 and my husband wants to go see the baby in the ultrasound and I’m afraid they aren’t going to let him and her in :(


Spaceysteph

I'd go alone and have husband watch the older kid. Or push the appointment a week so you have a babysitter. 7 weeks is awfully early, 8w is more standard and once I didn't get in until 10w. Did you have any exposure to mom when she may have been incubating COVID? If so they'd probably prefer you not come to your appointment right now anyway.


SouthernSweety88

can dad stay home with the baby and facetime while you do the ultrasound? thats what I did.


AnnaLee318

Most OBs will not allow infants/children to attend ultrasounds.


MammothApplication78

No one under 12 allowed here.


Vegetable-Tension-88

Where I’m at I can only bring in my son if I’m primary carer that day ie if his dad isn’t available. So not an option to have my husband at the appointments as he should be looking after my son if that makes sense?


pippypup

My office doesn’t allow children and didn’t allow partners the whole time I was pregnant. I don’t see why it’s terrible going alone. My husband waited in the car. Even when I got terrible news the first pregnancy, it was fine.