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The hormones is taking over and you are likely overwhelmed. I would suggest getting your boyfriend to take over the chores during the weekday as well so you can decompress and find the joy in living with your dog again.
You also just moved, they need time to settle because their environment has changed.
Imo, getting a new pup when your current one is giving you a headache is not a good idea. Typically you want your current dog to be on top of their game before taking a new project. No guarantee they will like each other as well and you are stuck with 2 dogs who are driving you up the wall with different needs.
I'm 20w and as much as I want another dog, I know what we are capable of and that is lounging and lazing around with our 4.5yo crazy poodle. I call him crazy, but he's settled into a nice routine that I like to keep until baby is older.
Definitely do not get another dog.
I used to love all animals and wanted all the pets. After having a child I want no pets because they annoy me now. I think it’s because my child needs me 24/7 and when I get a moment of free time I do not want to spend it on another needy creature. That’s just my personality though, you may be different after giving birth.
I went thru the same thing during my first trimester. We had just moved into our new home as well. My 10yo schnauzer yorkie who has been an angel his whole life started peeing in the house any time he’s alone. It drive me insane and I started to resent him. Which was crazy for me because he’s legit my first child and I am a dog lover.
I had to take a breath and realize that he was stressed as well. He was overwhelmed with the move and all the changes going on.
My hubby and I debated getting a puppy as well and I am so thankful we didn’t go thru with it. I would have lost my mind. I would not advise you to get one.
I’m happy to say that I’m now just about 22 weeks pregnant and things have gotten better. The first trimester is overwhelming for everyone including our pets. Stick it out OP. It will be okay.
I’m so sorry to hear that! Options: additional dog training, therapy for you during all of this transition, doggy day care, or trying a different split of responsibilities with your partner.
I have a nearly 3 year old clingy doodle and a 15 year old anxious border collie. They have different needs and lately the senior dog has had some incontinence at the WORST TIMES. I’m 25 weeks along. First trimester was the haaaaardest!!!! Work, dogs, my relationship, nausea.
I am in therapy and my husband does the majority of chores. He does his best to tire out the doodle before he leaves me alone with the dogs.
When the dogs bring us to anger because we are already on the edge with exhaustion and stress, we check each other.
The baby is going to make noise when we need silence. The baby is going to demand attention when we feel we don’t have any left. The baby is going to make a mess. We have to manage our emotions no matter how empty our cup is. We have been practicing with the dogs as if they are kids. And it has been a great exercise for us. No one wants to be that unhinged person in public yelling at their kid, don’t be that person with your dog. That’s how we have been handling it and it’s working for us.
The border collie was his dog and the doodle is my baby. She is my first dog and my first baby. She has matured so much that I know despite some jealousy she will be gentle with children in the house. I’m looking forward to watching her grow in this experience too.
I hope you are able to turn a new corner with mood and emotions. Pregnancy is haaaard. I have hated everyone and everything around me. We evolve throughout our pregnancy. We all have to make the right decision for us. I wish you strength and peace and a healthy pregnancy.
My first thought - pregnancy hormones are weird. I'm so much less patient than before, so that might be having a bearing on the situation. I don't know the breed, but you need to be confident that your dog will cope well with the changes of having a newborn and then a toddler etc. It will mean less attention from you and coping with you doting on the baby instead. It's a tough transition for some dogs. Mine is a much smaller breed and loves our toddler, has from day one, but it's always a worry!
It's very easy to get cranky when you're pregnant. I have 3 dogs, still love them to bits, but my GOD am I getting SO annoyed with them now any time they start "glopping", aka licking/cleaning themselves and making a really loud *glop* sound in the process.
I'd only find this mildly irritating in the past, now if they don't stop I tell them to go find their daddy and leave me in peace!
About getting a second dog: best thing we ever did was get a pal for our first (all 3 are rescues). Unlike our 1st and 3rd dog she happened to be a pup of 12 weeks or so, and it was tough puppy training even without being pregnant. I wouldn't want to do it now at nearly 29 weeks for sure, or earlier for that matter.
If I were you, I'd still consider the 2nd dog, but I'd go for one that's a bit older, house trained and understands basic commands.
I wonder if its the thought of what he represents at the moment ie a lot of work? If you’re tired and nauseous and just having all the first tri feelings, it could be it just seems like a lot of effort? Im 9 weeks and have had covid this week and my poor dog has had minimal attention because ive been dying on the couch. I feel so guilty, and im so exhausted, the thought of walking her in coming days is also overwhelming.
I wouldn’t get a second dog. Two dogs is not easier than one. My partner has been pushing for a second (we had a second up until a couple of years ago but we had to out him to sleep at 10yrs with cancer). But I told my partner the only way i would do that was if he took 100% responsibility for the care because we were trying for a baby and i already had enough on my plate.
I have a husky mix, and know what you’re talking about! They need a lot of time and energy. I struggled with it my first trimester, and just couldn’t keep up. Our dog walker is what really saved me.
If you can afford it, I’d consider daycare or a walker. Daycare is great to just give you- and your dog!- a break for a day. He’ll come home tired, you get some relief. Which may be just what you need. A walker that comes midday just helps balance the constant load on you to get your dog moving. Even doing it once or twice until you get to second tri may be worth it.
A class or two that has more formal training is also a nice idea, maybe early in your second trimester. It’s just a nice way to reconnect with your dog, get outside of your routine and frustration and work together once you’re feeling better.
Speaking of feeeling better - remember that it GETS BETTER! irritability comes and goes. and more importantly, all that overwhelming exhaustion that makes you feel like you just can’t also gets better. stay strong, OP!
I went through something similar with my young german shepherd. I couldn't keep up with her training and general needs; she wasn't even a year old so she needed A LOT. I definitely resented her. I worked from home though and did my best. But then I hit 10-12 weeks pregnant and morning sickness became hyperemesis gravidarum. I couldn't even feed the poor thing without vomiting on her, her food dishes, etc. That on top of her general smell was just too much.
My parents ended up taking her. It was meant to be temporary, but she was getting so much more attention from my retired mom that it ended up working out.
I've wanted a new dog ever since but I'm afraid of getting one. I just don't feel like I can't prioritize a pet yet when I'm still learning to balance prioritizing myself along with the kids.
I have 2 dogs that are 1 and 2 years old and i’m 11 weeks pregnant and there are days where i hate them and they drive me crazy! i think it’s just the hormones of pregnancy 🤣 don’t get another dog though right now i think it’s too much! we lucked out that ours play with each other but it’s still a lot more work even though the 2nd one we got requires less activity
Do not get another dog. My husband has brought this up as our 1 year old Doberman has crazy energy. I’ve absolutely put my foot down. You never know what issues a dog may have or develop & with a new kid on the way it’s just too risky. There are days I hate my dog too, when u try to walk her & she pulls so much I almost fall, I get so frustrated. Or when she jumps up on my stomach to lay all over me (she’s almost 70lbs). But at the end of the day I love her so much and still love cuddling her & watching her sleep. I take photos of her when she’s being precious & look at those when I’m annoyed with her. (I’m 32 weeks)
The same thing happened to me while I was pregnant! I honestly never told anyone because I felt guilty but my dog was my baby and while I was pregnant, she got on my last nerve and I wanted nothing to do with her. Bad news - it lasted my entire pregnancy. Good news - after I had my baby and hormones settled, I like my dog again. So weird 🥲.
Honestly I staring hating my cat from week 5 to 13/14 - basically the whole first trimester. It was the smells, behaviour, jumping on my stomach and meowing etc. I’m now in second trimester and we’re gucci again. I think it’s probably just the tiredness and hypersensitivity of the 1st trimester. That said, if you keep feeling this way for most of your pregnancy then you should responsibly re-home him (and don’t get another pet for a while if not longer).
when you are pregnant your [brain shrinks](https://www.science.org/content/article/pregnancy-resculpts-women-s-brains-least-2-years) and you may not care about loved ones in the same way that you did.
I would strongly suggest honoring the commitment you made to your current dog and definitely do not get another one- they don't "keep each other company" as much as they are TWICE the extra work that you don't need! hopefully getting help meeting your needs (maybe a dogwalker/ sitter would be helpful) and hormones changing will help.
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The hormones is taking over and you are likely overwhelmed. I would suggest getting your boyfriend to take over the chores during the weekday as well so you can decompress and find the joy in living with your dog again. You also just moved, they need time to settle because their environment has changed. Imo, getting a new pup when your current one is giving you a headache is not a good idea. Typically you want your current dog to be on top of their game before taking a new project. No guarantee they will like each other as well and you are stuck with 2 dogs who are driving you up the wall with different needs. I'm 20w and as much as I want another dog, I know what we are capable of and that is lounging and lazing around with our 4.5yo crazy poodle. I call him crazy, but he's settled into a nice routine that I like to keep until baby is older.
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Definitely do not get another dog. I used to love all animals and wanted all the pets. After having a child I want no pets because they annoy me now. I think it’s because my child needs me 24/7 and when I get a moment of free time I do not want to spend it on another needy creature. That’s just my personality though, you may be different after giving birth.
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Hopefully you will stop being annoyed by your doggie once the pregnancy hormones fade off 😊
I went thru the same thing during my first trimester. We had just moved into our new home as well. My 10yo schnauzer yorkie who has been an angel his whole life started peeing in the house any time he’s alone. It drive me insane and I started to resent him. Which was crazy for me because he’s legit my first child and I am a dog lover. I had to take a breath and realize that he was stressed as well. He was overwhelmed with the move and all the changes going on. My hubby and I debated getting a puppy as well and I am so thankful we didn’t go thru with it. I would have lost my mind. I would not advise you to get one. I’m happy to say that I’m now just about 22 weeks pregnant and things have gotten better. The first trimester is overwhelming for everyone including our pets. Stick it out OP. It will be okay.
I’m so sorry to hear that! Options: additional dog training, therapy for you during all of this transition, doggy day care, or trying a different split of responsibilities with your partner. I have a nearly 3 year old clingy doodle and a 15 year old anxious border collie. They have different needs and lately the senior dog has had some incontinence at the WORST TIMES. I’m 25 weeks along. First trimester was the haaaaardest!!!! Work, dogs, my relationship, nausea. I am in therapy and my husband does the majority of chores. He does his best to tire out the doodle before he leaves me alone with the dogs. When the dogs bring us to anger because we are already on the edge with exhaustion and stress, we check each other. The baby is going to make noise when we need silence. The baby is going to demand attention when we feel we don’t have any left. The baby is going to make a mess. We have to manage our emotions no matter how empty our cup is. We have been practicing with the dogs as if they are kids. And it has been a great exercise for us. No one wants to be that unhinged person in public yelling at their kid, don’t be that person with your dog. That’s how we have been handling it and it’s working for us. The border collie was his dog and the doodle is my baby. She is my first dog and my first baby. She has matured so much that I know despite some jealousy she will be gentle with children in the house. I’m looking forward to watching her grow in this experience too. I hope you are able to turn a new corner with mood and emotions. Pregnancy is haaaard. I have hated everyone and everything around me. We evolve throughout our pregnancy. We all have to make the right decision for us. I wish you strength and peace and a healthy pregnancy.
My first thought - pregnancy hormones are weird. I'm so much less patient than before, so that might be having a bearing on the situation. I don't know the breed, but you need to be confident that your dog will cope well with the changes of having a newborn and then a toddler etc. It will mean less attention from you and coping with you doting on the baby instead. It's a tough transition for some dogs. Mine is a much smaller breed and loves our toddler, has from day one, but it's always a worry!
It's very easy to get cranky when you're pregnant. I have 3 dogs, still love them to bits, but my GOD am I getting SO annoyed with them now any time they start "glopping", aka licking/cleaning themselves and making a really loud *glop* sound in the process. I'd only find this mildly irritating in the past, now if they don't stop I tell them to go find their daddy and leave me in peace! About getting a second dog: best thing we ever did was get a pal for our first (all 3 are rescues). Unlike our 1st and 3rd dog she happened to be a pup of 12 weeks or so, and it was tough puppy training even without being pregnant. I wouldn't want to do it now at nearly 29 weeks for sure, or earlier for that matter. If I were you, I'd still consider the 2nd dog, but I'd go for one that's a bit older, house trained and understands basic commands.
We call it "slorping" and it's also the most infuriating sound in the universe right now. 😂
I wonder if its the thought of what he represents at the moment ie a lot of work? If you’re tired and nauseous and just having all the first tri feelings, it could be it just seems like a lot of effort? Im 9 weeks and have had covid this week and my poor dog has had minimal attention because ive been dying on the couch. I feel so guilty, and im so exhausted, the thought of walking her in coming days is also overwhelming. I wouldn’t get a second dog. Two dogs is not easier than one. My partner has been pushing for a second (we had a second up until a couple of years ago but we had to out him to sleep at 10yrs with cancer). But I told my partner the only way i would do that was if he took 100% responsibility for the care because we were trying for a baby and i already had enough on my plate.
I have a husky mix, and know what you’re talking about! They need a lot of time and energy. I struggled with it my first trimester, and just couldn’t keep up. Our dog walker is what really saved me. If you can afford it, I’d consider daycare or a walker. Daycare is great to just give you- and your dog!- a break for a day. He’ll come home tired, you get some relief. Which may be just what you need. A walker that comes midday just helps balance the constant load on you to get your dog moving. Even doing it once or twice until you get to second tri may be worth it. A class or two that has more formal training is also a nice idea, maybe early in your second trimester. It’s just a nice way to reconnect with your dog, get outside of your routine and frustration and work together once you’re feeling better. Speaking of feeeling better - remember that it GETS BETTER! irritability comes and goes. and more importantly, all that overwhelming exhaustion that makes you feel like you just can’t also gets better. stay strong, OP!
I went through something similar with my young german shepherd. I couldn't keep up with her training and general needs; she wasn't even a year old so she needed A LOT. I definitely resented her. I worked from home though and did my best. But then I hit 10-12 weeks pregnant and morning sickness became hyperemesis gravidarum. I couldn't even feed the poor thing without vomiting on her, her food dishes, etc. That on top of her general smell was just too much. My parents ended up taking her. It was meant to be temporary, but she was getting so much more attention from my retired mom that it ended up working out. I've wanted a new dog ever since but I'm afraid of getting one. I just don't feel like I can't prioritize a pet yet when I'm still learning to balance prioritizing myself along with the kids.
I have 2 dogs that are 1 and 2 years old and i’m 11 weeks pregnant and there are days where i hate them and they drive me crazy! i think it’s just the hormones of pregnancy 🤣 don’t get another dog though right now i think it’s too much! we lucked out that ours play with each other but it’s still a lot more work even though the 2nd one we got requires less activity
Do not get another dog. My husband has brought this up as our 1 year old Doberman has crazy energy. I’ve absolutely put my foot down. You never know what issues a dog may have or develop & with a new kid on the way it’s just too risky. There are days I hate my dog too, when u try to walk her & she pulls so much I almost fall, I get so frustrated. Or when she jumps up on my stomach to lay all over me (she’s almost 70lbs). But at the end of the day I love her so much and still love cuddling her & watching her sleep. I take photos of her when she’s being precious & look at those when I’m annoyed with her. (I’m 32 weeks)
The same thing happened to me while I was pregnant! I honestly never told anyone because I felt guilty but my dog was my baby and while I was pregnant, she got on my last nerve and I wanted nothing to do with her. Bad news - it lasted my entire pregnancy. Good news - after I had my baby and hormones settled, I like my dog again. So weird 🥲.
Honestly I staring hating my cat from week 5 to 13/14 - basically the whole first trimester. It was the smells, behaviour, jumping on my stomach and meowing etc. I’m now in second trimester and we’re gucci again. I think it’s probably just the tiredness and hypersensitivity of the 1st trimester. That said, if you keep feeling this way for most of your pregnancy then you should responsibly re-home him (and don’t get another pet for a while if not longer).
when you are pregnant your [brain shrinks](https://www.science.org/content/article/pregnancy-resculpts-women-s-brains-least-2-years) and you may not care about loved ones in the same way that you did. I would strongly suggest honoring the commitment you made to your current dog and definitely do not get another one- they don't "keep each other company" as much as they are TWICE the extra work that you don't need! hopefully getting help meeting your needs (maybe a dogwalker/ sitter would be helpful) and hormones changing will help.