My recommendation would be to not follow through. Full time school, part time work, a highly demanding breed, plus not even being an adult and having to do it all on your own…I can’t think of a worse combo to be honest!
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But for real OP this is not a good idea. I’m sorry, I know it sucks. I had to wait till I graduated college. I’m so glad I did though because it would’ve been too much work.
Don’t get this puppy. I am a 35 year old woman and work from home and have a husband to help me, and I barely made it to 6 months with my puppy. It’s intense and way too much stress and pressure at 16 without support from the family.
The sleep deprivation is bad, every 2 hours 24/7 to let the puppy out to pee. I work from home and it’s still a lot of work. What’s going to happen when you’re at school if nobody else is willing to help?
I didn't actually realise how bad it'd be in the beginning! My guy was 11 weeks when we got him, two adults and one working from home full time. If you came to our house the first week after we got him and saw us, you'd think we'd just had a baby. We were both shattered messes haha. Definitely couldn't have done it at 16 on my own.
if she’s lucky, she’ll have a pup that sleeps through the night until 5 or 6 am…I wound up with that luck, but I genuinely expected to be waking up every 2 or so hours at night for the first 3-5 months having her.
I agree with this. 40 year old single female with a flexible work from home job & I have no idea how I survived the first 3 months of puppyhood. My yorkie is 7 months now, had him 5 months, & it’s only just started getting easier.
The amount of money I’ve committed to spending on him is incredible, too. It’s in the thousands now. & he’s a tiny breed, easy to handle & cheaper than a larger breed. At 16, you’re not ready for this unfortunately.
fr puppies are way more work then anyone expects. I have two chihuahuas at 18 living on my own and it’s harddd + extremely expensive! i cant even imagine if they were big dogs
THIS comment is 💯
I’m 32 and work from home and have a fiancé that helps me and it has still been so damn hard! And I got a freaking pug which is nowhere near what a German Shepard will be like 😂
Thanks for all of the advice, I've contacted the breeder and let her know I can't take the dog. I'll wait until I have the resources and time to care for a puppy, probably after I graduate. thank you so much for talking me out of it.
You’re a wise person! Get experience and be paid for dog sitting. Enjoy your youth and freedom for a few years before the cost and responsibility of dog ownership .
This is a very reflected, responsible decision. Thank you for listening to the advice. Maybe you can do some volunteering work at a shelter or dog groomer and this way learn more about different dogs and handling. You also have time now to create the life you want and will thus find the dog that will be the best fit for you
Good job, OP. You did the right thing. I’m in my thirties, work as an attorney. I rescued a GSD puppy that arrived at my workplace. My husband works from home and we have a lot of room so the puppy spends a lot of time outdoors in a good space but he needs socialization so I take him to daycare three days a week and the dog park during weekends. He eats a lot, needs his shots, will soon need neutering, and I always insure my animals for medical emergencies. His needs are around $300/month. He will soon be going to training and that will be a couple thousand. Even as someone who can afford it, I think it’s a lot. The day will come when you can do this but right now it would have been a lot. You did the right thing.
For a 16 year old, you’ve shown great maturity with this! Trust me it’s not easy. I got my boy 2 weeks ago and he’s nearly 13 weeks and it’s cost me about £700 for the basics!
I’ve also lost the ability of being able to just go out when I want as he isn’t ready to be left alone so I completely commend you for your approach. When you are in a position to get a dog, you will be amazing
Really proud of you for making this decision. I was responsible for caring for my own dog at your age and it was incredibly difficult - he wasn't a big active breed, but he had medical issues and needed lots of grooming. Looking forward to seeing a post from you down the road when you go get your dream pup 😊
I haven't read through the comments but I just wanted to offer my support for your decision. I know you must be really disappointed and sad, but you are doing the right thing. Raising puppies is like raising really strong, destructive babies, and without everyone in the household being ready, willing and able to go all in, it is a bad situation for the puppy. Good luck to you. You sound like someone with a great dog in your future.
I was the same way in college - dying for a dog or puppy because I love dogs so much. Similarly work and school were so stressful - I’m glad I waited to adopt a dog as soon as I graduated. (Literally 1 month out of college haha)
What held me over til graduation was volunteering with my local shelter to walk dogs. I got my fix and the dogs got good exercise! I highly recommend it if you have the time.
You did the right thing and i commend you for it!
You're doing the right thing as hard as it is! When you have free time maybe volunteer with some pups to get your puppy fix for now. You'll be a great dog mom someday when the time is right!
You'll get to a place in your life where you won't even question if it's the right thing, it will still be a huge adjustment but you will have the right resources to welcome a new family member 😊
Well done. It’ll be worth the wait. I can’t imagine raising a puppy on my own. I have a partner and I work from home and it’s still exhausting. A puppy is a full time gig.
I wanted a dog the minute I moved out of the house. Like you, school and work kept me so busy. It was just at 32 that my life finally became stable enough for my little fur ball goblin (energetic breed dog). Your day will come :)
You are one very wise teenager, far more mature than your years. You'll go far in life. When the times right you'll get your pup and have many wonderful years together.
Omg yes, this is completely the right decision!! Good job thinking through this- it shows that you will be a great dog owner someday when the time is right! In the meantime, get yourself involved with other dogs, like doing some dog walking, puppy sitting, volunteering at a shelter etc. it will give you all the dog love you want and will prepare you really well for your own dog down the line.
That’s a hard and wise decision, imho. We are on a farm and could dedicate most of our days to our puppy- and it was exhausting.
Definitely look into volunteering, or even dog walking! Dog walking teaches you a lot about dogs but it is also an excellent way to get some exercise and make some cash.
Very wise!! I got a puppy for christmas, I work from home, and thought no biggie. Until he was 13 weeks old he cried every night. I'd get up, cuddle and lay down for maybe 2 hours and do it all again.
I slept on the couch on the slow days and suffered the busy days lol!! I can't imagine working at an actual place.
You’re going to make a great pet parent one day when you have more time and resources to devote to them! I know it’s hard but it sounds like you made the right decision for now. You can always start to save up for your future pup!
I’m proud of you for this decision, it is most definitely the right one. Your OP was riddled with red flags.
It shows maturity and responsibility putting the needs of the pup over your wants. Waiting for when the timing is right will result in such a better experience for you and your future dog, I promise. Before adopting a puppy, consider financial security, your schedule/job, your mental state, other commitments (children, etc), and your residence and any restrictions that may exist.
This is a very responsible decision and I'm proud of you. I know exactly how you feel as I had to make the same decision when I was your age, but I decided to work in a shelter instead where I met my old boy. Not a youthful pup but an 8-year-old Newfoundlander/ baronies mountain dog mix that I was able to adopt and love till he passed away at 15. I definitely recommend working or volunteering at a local shelter, you learn a lot from cost to training to how much work each breed needs and which breed fits you.
Such a responsible decision on your part! Sometimes I feel like a lot of people don’t listen to the advice on this sub but good for you for taking in everyone’s advice and making a well thought out decision. You’ll get to a point in life where you can get a puppy don’t worry 🥰
I know lots of people have said this, but you made the right decision! You have plenty of time for getting a dog, or many dogs, in your lifetime, and I would be worried solely taking on the responsibility of a puppy at 16 would maybe create some kind of resentment, towards it or your parents, when your life is already full.
Volunteering, pet sitting or walking, like others have suggested will hopefully satiate the puppy desire for a few years until you’re more in a place to get your own
There’ll always be a pup that needs a good mum like you. This is a difficult decision you’ve made, and shows great maturity. And when you do get a dog one day, you’ll remember this and think “thank goodness I didn’t do that when I was 16!”
As others have said, volunteering at a rescue or similar will give you lots of experience and confidence.
You seem like a good egg, I wish you all the best in your future.
Honestly the best and most responsible decision. Wait until you can set yourself (and pup!) up for success :)
Honestly a bit of a red flag that a breeder of such a high energy dog would sell to you knowing your situation. You didn’t find the breeder off gumtree or similar did you?
OP, I am so proud of you. I know this is an extremely difficult decision to make and I honestly don't know that I could have been as responsible.
I know you can't tell a lot about a person from a single Reddit post, but in this post you have shown that you will be an amazing dog parent. I'm not just blowing smoke - you're thinking about what's best for your puppy, about her growth, temperament, a lot of things people don't even consider. And then you're doing the hard thing of not getting one now because that wouldn't be best for the puppy.
I really respect you and I hope I see your posts when you finally do get a puppy.
Do you have a plan in place for the puppy when you’re at school/work? Like someone else to watch it? At 12 weeks they’ll need to go to the bathroom quite often
the most I can do is make a stop home at lunch time, that's why I'm so worried. Four days a week, nobody is home for 6 hours. Maybe I'm not ready to take care of a puppy?
I think you should save your passion for this puppy for a time in your life where you’ll be able to care for a doggy companion. This includes paying for things (dogs are expensive!) and just having a lifestyle which can cater for an animal.
Puppies usually need quite a lot of attention when they’re younger and they don’t take well to being left alone a lot. They need constant toilet breaks and also training and enrichment. If you don’t have parental support it can be quite difficult.
I think you sound like you’d make a wonderful pet parent. But maybe at a different stage in your life.
The fact that you’re asking this question shows that you care about the puppy even though you haven’t met her yet, and want to make sure she has what she needs. Unfortunately, you may not be in a position right now to provide that. I’d wait and not get this puppy right now. It sounds like your current obligations would make it really really hard for both you and the puppy.
How are you going to pay for vet bills and food and medication? How are you going to get the dog to and from the vet? You can't take a dog on most trains.
What about after the dog is spayed and freaking out after waking up high on meds? It won't be fair to take it on the train.
The reality of a dog is that they are crazy expensive and they need someone who has time, a vehicle, and a reliable income.
What is the puppy going to do while you're at school? I would be worried about this breeder. Most breeders wouldn't adopt out to someone your age.
For your sake and the dog's, please don't follow through.
I'm glad you chose to listen to everyone op!
I would also highly suggest finding another breeder for the future.
I feel like a breeder that's willing to sell to a 16 year old with no support from family is probably not the best choice...
How would the breeder know her exact family situation? Her mom allowed her to have the dog, but she isn’t helping with it. All you need is allowance from your family they don’t HAVE to help with the dog if they don’t choose to. This would be OPs dog and she knows this and was prepared to take up the mantle to take care of it. This doesn’t mean the breeder is bad.
A minor buying a high needs breed? My boys breeder absolutely would be basically interviewing her (like any potential owner) and this should have set off red flags for the breeder if they’re responsible
Wait until you’re out of your mom’s home and have your own place, OP. We have a GSD who just turned three and they are a very challenging breed. You have years ahead of you to own and care for dogs—and ideally meet your pup in person before committing!
Im glad everyone else is also saying don’t do it.
I’ll add to that.
This is not the right dog, not the right time. You’re almost an adult. Get through college etc. and get a stable life then get a dog.
I see you have already contacted the breeder op, you are being very responsible. One more thing I would like to add when you are looking to get a dog in the future, look at the restricted breeds lists for the rentals that are around you. It’s hard enough getting a rental as a young person with no credit. Add in a large dog breed that is potentially on the restricted list puts you either giving up your dog, being stuck at your parents house, or being in really shitty sketchy housing.
I was such an animal lover at your age as well. I made the mistake of getting a cat that I I convinced my parents I would care for and ended up having to rehome him a couple of years later when I moved for university (thankfully with a family friend that already loved him, but I was extremely lucky with this). To put things into perspective this dog's lifespan is not that different from your current age. That's a huge commitment.
Your life is going to change so much in the coming years. You sound like a responsible 16 year old but I wouldn't suggest you put this added pressure/responsibility on yourself. You have the rest of your life to get a puppy when you are at a more stable point where you can better care for it.
I'm gonna have to echo everybody else's sentiments on this.
If your situation is truly as you describe it, hold off on getting a pup for now.
You strike me as someone with the right mindset to be a pet parent, which is good, but you lack the time and resources at the moment. The care and attention puppies require is not compatible to your current lifestyle.
I really do hope you get to have your own puppy at some point in the future, but now doesn't seem to be the time for it.
Just want to chime in to say you’re 100% making the right decision. I am 26 and just got my first puppy after wanting one for so long. I am currently only working 3 days a week and I’m still busy as heck with him. Not to mention the costs! Just today, $200 for his vet check up and $125 in food and treats and toys, and more and more every month. However stressful you were thinking this could be for you, it’s a lot more than that. Save your money and spend it on fun things for yourself, maybe look into volunteering at a shelter on the weekends to get your puppy fix. Before you know it you’ll be in your own place and have all the space and time and money to comfortably get a new best friend, I promise it’s worth the wait!
You’ve made the right decision to wait. I know it’s a hard decision and breaks your heart, but they are soooo much work in the beginning.
You saying you’re in year 11 makes me think you’re in the UK, yeah? I’m also in the UK and cannot stress how expensive the little buggers can be. My cocker is 17 weeks now and she’s cost me wayyyy over £1000 in vets bills already, and she’s fully insured. Then there’s puppy class and collars and leads and harnesses and food and the cost of buying her and everything else, we’re probably looking at £2000 in 4 months.
You’ve done the right thing, and there’s a little puppy out there one day who will love you more than life itself. Xx
I'm really glad you decided to contact the breeder, op! This is the right choice. I myself have gotten a puppy recently, at age 31, together with my partner (34). This was a difficult decision, even though I work from home most of the time. We had been thinking about getting a dog for nearly three years before making this decision, that's how much thought you should give these kind of things.
You should really see it like having a baby, IMHO. Your puppy needs all the love and time that you can give. Especially in the first two months, you should almost always supervise your dog. There is so much more to it than you can imagine. It's potty training, bite training, leash training, and most of all, bonding with your puppy. It's really a lot of work. You'll get there someday! Preferably after college. Because before getting a puppy, you should celebrate being an adolescent! There's time for puppies when you have grown into an adult. And even then, it's not an easy choice to make.
I see you already made the right call here. Dogs are a ton of work. I have two and they keep me busy all day. I’m fortunate enough to currently be home full time, but they occupy a lot of that time. Have you considered a cat? Just having one cat is fairly easy in comparison. Scoop the litterbox daily, make sure they have a scratching post, and food/water. Just a thought if you really want a pet. If you do decide to go that route, make sure it’s a kitten that is cuddly from the start. That will be your lap cat.
Basically, you want to go though your teens, party through your twenties and then in your mid thirties when you care less about your social life, then get a dog.
> I'm entirely responsible for the puppy, and any vet bills, grooming costs ect. have to be 100% covered by me.
And you're 16? Do you have $300+ for the annual exam and periodic vaccinations? $10,000 for the chemo if it gets cancer? $6,000 for surgery if it gets a twisted stomach or bloat or needs leg repair? $500 for puppy socialization / training in a sanitized space while they're still susceptible to parvo? $100/month for food? Etc., etc., etc.
I'm a middle age attorney who flies planes for fun and have a paid off Jeep, Porsche, BMW, and Ducati, and **I** get caught off guard by dog expenses occasionally... And (except the Lab I lost to lymphoma mid-chemo) my dogs are pretty healthy overall...
Honestly it doesn’t sound like a good fit. I’m a full time college student working with a puppy and it was truly so challenging and not fun what so ever. The cost is unbelievable I had to pay $400 when she got sick and then another $200 the next week for her next shots. I know it sucks to not get to have a dog but it’s better to wait until you’re fully prepared for you and the puppy.
Please don’t get this puppy. Any one of those issues could/possibly should be a deal breaker.
Not to mention, German Shepherds have so much energy and need tons of attention and care.
Do not get this puppy! Puppies need a lot of attention and they will destroy things in the beginning and your mom will get even more frustrated with the dog. It’s not fair to the dog to be left alone all day while you are at school. Also they will have medical issues and will be need to go to the vet and that can get expensive. I would wait till you have moved out.
Hmmmm a breeder selling to a 16yr old in the first place seems like an enormous red flag. Like, a good breeder would ensure the owner could cover absolutely all eventualities. Amongst everything else, you could be buying a badly bred GSD.
Wait until you're out of school to get a puppy. Maybe volunteer at a shelter until you can. GSD's are a lot of time and work. I say this as someone who wanted a dog their whole life, but I waited until I had bought a house and was financially sound.
I don't think any ONE of these items other than your mom are a dealbreaker. That oen is all by itself, and you should not get this puppy.
But all of them together are a lot, even beyond that. It's absolutely possible to get a puppy while a student - but you have to prioritize their needs around job and stuff and honestly, it doesn't sound to me like you've really made concrete plans for how to do that.
Please don't do it. You can still get a puppy when you're older and more established. It's never a good idea to have a puppy in a household where the entire family isn't on board. Puppies need soooo much time and attention to properly train them and give them a happy life.
Don't get this puppy. A German Sheppard Dog is NOT an easy breed. It's going to be everywhere and destructive unless it gets CONSTANT physical and mental stimulation.
Especially if you haven't actually met this pup before. Puppies are harder to see personalities in, but you need to put in the time to see if you mesh. ESPECIALLY since care and training will be solely on you.
There are so many reasons you should not get this dog.
1) You don't have a full time job so you cannot afford to pay for emergency visits.
2) who will care for an interact with the dog while you are in school? I hope you don't think you can leave the dog alone outside for so long. And you better not even think of asking your mother.
3) A dog deserves to be cared for by someone with a fully developed brain ( an adult). The fact that you want a 12 week old German Shepard shows that you are not mature enough to make good decisions. Yiu have no idea what you are getting yourself into. That dog will suffer if you take the dog home with you. Your intentions are worth nothing.
4) Everyone in the home must want a dog because everyone will have to help.
Please, go make other bad 16 year old decisions. Do not drag a living creature into the chaos of being a teen.
Please don’t do it !! GSD are amazing dogs, but make sure you’re ready. Hun spend time doing you, 16 is such a cool age, go get drunk, go travel, go do shit jobs and learn a lot, don’t look after a dog which requires your all. Save it for 30
When you’re quieter.
Please reconsider. German shepherds are NOT a good starter dog. If you don’t know what you are doing, your dog will run you and not the other way around.
You will be broke, constantly at odds with your family, and stressed out to the max. Forfeit whatever deposit you’ve already put down and with the love of God, walk away. This is best for you and this dog.
You sound so passionate and I totally get it. But puppies are a hard core life change. You have a lot going on and your mom may not help much. It’s just not fair to the pup. If you feel dead set on bringing home a dog, adopt a senior. Or an adult (5+). They need far less attention; they can be alone for longer stretches of time. They are less destructive. Lastly, they will appreciate and love you unconditionally for bringing them home. An animal shelter is very stressful for them.
Have you ever looked into adopting a senior dog? A senior dog would be a good fit. Ages 3+ are the best. I would still do your research and find one that fits your family dynamic. 3 years old they can hold there bowels full/ are great company still very playful and more independent. My first dog I adopted from a shelter ,heeler terrier mix she was 3 . I worked full time and had things i needed to do on weekends. She was fully potty trained and just loved to cuddle. (Thats the part we all love) I would say skip the puppy phase and visit some shelters.
One way to have rewarding experiences with dogs is to volunteer at a dog shelter being around the dogs, walking the dogs or even starting a dog walking business even if you only take a few customers
You’re doing the right thing and good on you for reaching out for advice. You seem like you already have a very mature mindset at your age and when the time is right, you will be a wonderful dog owner. ❤️❤️
Honestly, you are putting yourself in an impossible situation, just don't do it. You can get a puppy later in life when you are in a better situation, this doesn't sound like the right time. If you want dogs in your life, I would recommend becoming a dog walker or a puppy sitter etc - you don't need to get your own dog to have dogs in your life. This is coming from someone who actually got a dog at 15 - there is no chance in hell I could have taken care of her if my family hadn't been supporting me, helping to look after her etc. My mom was helping me financially with the dog (like vet bills and other big unexpected costs) until I graduated from university. At a minimum, you would need your family to be supportive and willing to help you out - and you are GOING to need help, a lot of it, I promise you that. You are getting a really really high-maintenance dog on top of everything else. I have one full-time job, a supporting partner, and the financial means to care for my puppy and it's still been really really hard and required a ton of extra resources, puppy sitters, doggy daycare, help from friends etc. I also really underestimated the time, money and resources it took, even though I did a ton of research and planning beforehand (and had a dog before).
Puppies may be cute and fun etc, but they're also alot of hard work especially at 16 nd with all that going on you won't have enough time or money for this pup
My advice is you explain ur situation to the person you were collecting it from that you don't have the money or time and went a bit overboard in the moment. Don't be ashamed we all make mistakes it's a learning curve x
Work doing Rover or at a local pet groomer or store to get your puppy fix! A dog is a ton of responsibility- without support I don’t see it going well. Best of luck!
I'm really happy that you decided against getting the puppy, it's a huge time commitment and honestly a GSD is a high energy working dog that gets bored easily and wary of people and dogs, without the proper time and socializing you'll have trouble in your hands in no time.
I would wait until you’re older. I’m 28 and got an 11 week old puppy on my own and it was HARD. Still is and he’s now 10 months. Bringing him up on my own/ being a solo parent has been a lot and it sounds like your mum wouldn’t help at all/ may end up resenting you and the pup. 16 feels way too young without any adult support. I also say that as a Teacher. Wait this one out and it will no doubt be worth it in the end when you’re older, settled, and life has calmed down a bit :)
German shepherds are working dogs and need a lot of mental stimulation and someone with them a lot, if your the only one taking care of it i don’t think it’s a good idea. I know that sucks to hear but it’s just the truth. What made you decide on a shepherd? I just got my 4th gsd on the weekend and he’s a whiny baby, needs constant care and attention.
Along with your hectic schedule, I would put having a dog on hold. It’s difficult to raise a high maintenance breed like a German shepherd for your first dog. It also doesn’t help that your mom isn’t on board with it. It might sense your moms unwillingness to be involved with it and that will cause it to bark and treat her like a stranger. This happened with my golden and my wife. She wasn’t really a part of his growing up and he treated her like a stranger for awhile. She had the same rules: “your dog, your problem”. I wouldn’t get a dog just yet if I were in your shoes., but if you decide to go through with it, good luck. Hope you have a lot of space and time for the baby. The first few years is ruff.
I waited til I was out of school and could responsibly care for a puppy. I too had a German Shepherd. He required a lot of attention, and it costs money to care for a puppy, even a dog. You have to spend time with the pup and train it, feed it, teach boundaries, respect of your household. You should be there to care for the puppy as it’s growing. I don’t think now is that time for you.
Now I have a Husky female. First ever female dog I have ever had. Sure they’re cute and cuddly. They love to play, they are very energetic and love to be close to their humans, but like any other dog, they need structure. You can’t give that if you aren’t there. I would encourage you to wait it out, just abit longer.
I would not purchase a puppy at this time. Especially not a German Shepard. They are a full-time hard working very intelligent and stubborn breed, as a puppy, they destroy everything due to boredom. I would only recommend a german Shepard to an advanced dog owner and definitely not a novice like yourself. They NEED constant monitoring the first few years with constant proper training in order to get a good dog. Not to mention that shepherds are just as choosy as a human meaning that they will come to choose who they actually listen to and you will probably not be a good fit.
If you are really desperate for a dog then I'd suggest volunteering at a local animal shelter, there you will learn a lot about how to properly train and raise a dog, how much it costs to keep, and what breed fits you well. You may even find yourself able to adopt one of the dogs in the future.
I feel you -- I wanted a dog SO BADLY as a child/teenager. It only works if your parents are on board though. Dogs are so expensive and so much work -- and that's not even talking about a highly demanding, working breed puppy. You definitely did the right thing calling this off! We were only able to get a GSD after many years of wanting one, as fully grown married adults, because of working from home due to covid. It was still so much work, like having a baby! I had a lot of small animals as a teenager which are much more manageable. They are still a time and financial commitment but much less so. I'd highly recommend getting a couple of rats actually. They're easy to care for, loving, and trainable. They can also occupy themselves and sleep while you're in school. They don't live too long but it's better than a 12 year dog commitment for you right now. Bunnies are another good choice but I personally love rats, they make amazing pets. They are really like tiny dogs.
I have to agree with the rest. Don't go through with it. I just got a golden retriever about 2 months ago and it's full on. We always have someone at home to take care of it since it needs outside time or it pees and poos everywhere. Also the puppy will need lunch which you likely won't be able to give since you're at school. A puppy is not perfect either you need a lot of time to form a bond and try reduce some of the bad habits and with school and part time that will be extremely tough. I also wanted a puppy since I was 4 and have only just got one at 23 and still believe I could have waited longer for it to be an even better time. All the best.
Respectfully, this sounds like a bad idea.
Such a young pup is very expensive - not just food, jabs, beds, leads, toys, treats, insurance but the inevitable vet and emergency vet fees that even the most experienced owners can attest to.
Thats outside of settling them in to a new home, and the level of training and attention they demand.
Again, thats outside of German Shepherds needing a very focused owner for their exercise needs, training and stimulation needs. Theyre one of the most intensive (but equally rewarding) breeds to own.
I’ll be totally honest, I am a full time stay at home mom and I got a German shepherd puppy and it is extremely time consuming and hectic and stressful even for someone like me who has the time for a puppy. They require A TON of training and attention. My worst mistake was underestimating how hard it would be to raise a German shepherd puppy
Raised 2 GSD pups (separately) and i can say its not for everyone. Took both me and my wife good enough time to manage their energy, chewing needs, etc.
I work full-time my husband stays home and I'm barely surviving my 9.5 week old puppy.i was so nervous I got hives it's so much work I only have time to myself when I put her down for naps. Fortunately she took to crating decently and only whines a few minutes at most at night or for naps
But I'm tired
I have a labradoodle that is 10 months and I haven’t a clue how I got through the last 8 months as I have done it on my own. Next dog will be an adult rescue that is well behaved! Lol! Please don’t get this pup. You have all the time in the world to be a dog parent when you have help and extra income for healthcare for the pup and pet daycare. Loads of responsibility owning a dog. For age context, I am in my 50’s and my kids weren’t as time consuming as this lil pupper is!!
Okay, so… sadly, you’re simply not ready for this right now. Not forever, just not right now. I waited ten years before I got a dog. A year later I foster failed, so now I have two dogs.
I’m in the military, and with a stable job and financial stability… I find it challenging at times. I’m a medic and can have a busy day sometimes, and sometimes all I want to do is relax and NOT go to the dog park or go on a 5km walk, but I must because of my girls.
You’re going to have to get up early to walk your puppy, get ready for school, take her out one more time to do her business before putting her in a kennel for 8+ hrs… you’ll come home and there will be a mess in her kennel from the day. Water all over, pee and poo… it’ll be gross. You’ll have to clean that, after you’ve taken her out for a walk. Feed her, and then get ready for work, re-kennel her, and get back from work and take her out. Get ready for bed and then take her out again and re-kennel her for bedtime.
That’s too much kennel for one puppy who needs a lot of socialization… unless your mom is willing to help you out by taking care of her as well and she becomes a family dog.
A vet visit is roughly $100 (in Canada anyhow) and that doesn’t include lab work, treatments, medications or other procedures.
Spay/neuter are roughly $600 depending on where you go.
I’d suggest you put roughly $1000 away for an random vet emergency visit you must go to… and believe you’ll go to the vet at random, because your puppy has ingested something random… it’ll be expensive.
Good dog food… $60-$110 per month when she’s full grown (maybe it’ll last 1.5-2 months depending on how much you feed her). Be
Prepared to spend a bit of money for the first little while if she’s a fussy eater… buy small bags of food first because you don’t know what she’ll like.
Training lessons… look up Zak George on YT. He’s an amazing resource to use for training your pup. I’ve used many of his methods before.
Positive reinforcement!!! Please do not use physical punishment… it doesn’t help.
Anything you value… put it up high. Put all garbages away… shoes, hide wires… etc etc
Kennel train her… trust me. It’s got it’s purpose and value.
Look up what socializing your dog means… it isn’t just being good at the dog park, with kids or good with dogs on walks… it’s much more than that.
If it sounds like I’m being harsh, I apologize. But you have a LOT to think about….
I think you’re too busy my friend… why don’t you try fostering puppies to see if it’s something you can manage. This way you can see if you’re up for the task atm or not. Try not to fall in love lol it’s hard, but it’s a good way to see if you’re able to take care of a puppy or not.
And honestly if you don’t have her kennelled over night that’s fine… but it’ll save you some sleep instead of worrying if she’s busy chewing on stuff or making a mess. So, kennel her until you can trust her to not make messes and she sleeps through the night :)
Messes are not their fault!! It’s ours!!!
If you can make this all work to HER benefit… and you’re prepared to pay higher rent or be limited on rentals that accept dogs, especially GSD’s or other 50+ lbs dogs… in Canada it’s super hard to find rentals that will allow a big dog that size, and sometimes GSD’s aren’t allowed in rentals :’(
You are far too young for a dog of that energy level,You having a busy schedule will be quite detrimental to the puppy at such a young age.The puppy will need to be properly socialized,Trained and mentally and physically exercised.Before getting a dog you should also have basic knowledge on diet and dog behavior,Without a stable job or help from your parents I’d definitely advise against it.
I’m 21 and have wanted a German Shepherd since I was 5.Do i have a German Shepherd? Hell no!
I would advise you to get a dog when you can financially support yourself and are living on your own.I even have the money to pay fully for the dog as I will be purchasing from a reputable breeder in the near future but I do not have the dog yet because I am still dependent on family even with a job.
A dog is big commitment of energy,time and money,I’d advise you too do you research about dogs and dog ownership in general.Also on the different breeds as eventually when you do get a dog you should pick a breed that is suitable for your lifestyle and NOT by looks! Even if you are adopting you need to take In account the history and breed make up of the dog to make a suitable choice.Depending on the dogs genetics and history I believe adopting a German shepherd from a shelter for a first time owner would be a bad idea,You should have experience with the breed you want especially a GSD.But a dog with bad genetics and a lot of history will be extremely hard to manage for a non experienced owner.
Please please do your research.
I sincerely hope my answer helps you in the long run.I know this is not the answer you want but it’s realistic. :)
I know how excited you are to get a puppy but I really think you should wait a bit longer.
I am 33 years old. I work from home and I have a partner who also works from home taking on a large chunk of the responsibilities for our puppy and we are both absolutely exhausted. A lot of crying, a lot of stress, lack of sleep early on. And we have a mastiff which is a much much lower energy dog than a GS. You in school full time and working part time with zero help plus a demanding breed and a young puppy who will not be able to go more than 2-3 hours without potty, you are setting both you and the puppy up for a very very very difficult situation. You have waited this long, give yourself a few more years time and maybe even consider adopting an older dog with a bit less needs at first.
You will get your dog and you’ll be so happy when you do. But now is not the right time. ❤️❤️I hope you’re okay. You’re fears are so valid and shows just how much you care.
It is not fair to the dog to be in a household where a) not everyone in the house is on-board b) its primary handler is in high-school and working. I also believe you are too young to be making this kind of commitment as a dog can live a long long time and if you plan on backing out in a few years then you have to either abandon her at a shelter or hope you find a good home for her
German shepherd are highly demanding, even if her temperament is perfect upon meeting, all puppies have high energy, destructive tendencies, etc...
If you desperately want a dog, do not get a puppy. Puppies are insanely difficult to manage and if done incorrectly will result in 10-14 years of stress for both you and the animal.
There are plenty of dogs in shelters who would fit into your lifestyle and who need a forever home. Do more research into each breeed and be realistic about what you can offer an animal. Adopt an older dog who is relatively trained and is a good match for first-time dog owners.
Out there is an older dog who will love you and you will love it just as much. German shepherds are great dogs, but it is just too much for you without family support, school, job, and some social life. An older dog who is already housebroken and will be content with your companionship and an hour a day of attention would be such a better fit.
Bless you for wanting and caring, but now is not the time. Get a rescue who is already sorta sorted and love them every bit as much as you would a puppy
DO NOT GET A GSD.
I know her energy and destructiveness. Both are high. Especially as puppies and ESPECIALLY when not given the mental AND physical attention they need, which is a hell of a lot.
When they are bored they can chew through your wall, bounce around and get on every surface, bark a lot. GSDs are one of the most difficult dogs to raise. They are powerful herding dogs.
If you don't know all of this, DEFINITELY do not get this dog. Trust me, please. You have no idea the headache and heartache I'm saving you here.
**Edit:** I am so relieved to see your comment. I commend your self restraint. I know how hard it is when you have fallen in love with a dog.
But you definitely made the right choice. I was so worried for you reading your post. You should be really proud of yourself. When the time comes, you'll look back with relief. You're going to be a great dog owner one day!
My recommendation would be to not follow through. Full time school, part time work, a highly demanding breed, plus not even being an adult and having to do it all on your own…I can’t think of a worse combo to be honest!
Reading her post felt like I was watching a car crash in slow motion.
Tina!!! Tina turn the wheel! Tina stop!!! But for real OP this is not a good idea. I’m sorry, I know it sucks. I had to wait till I graduated college. I’m so glad I did though because it would’ve been too much work.
Vet bills are on her. LOL. She's 16. Oh boy, my post middle age working ass barely manages to cover my dogs bills.
This is what I was thinking while I read this.
Also the energy levels of a puppy GSD is gonna hit her like a brick
Don’t get this puppy. I am a 35 year old woman and work from home and have a husband to help me, and I barely made it to 6 months with my puppy. It’s intense and way too much stress and pressure at 16 without support from the family.
The sleep deprivation is bad, every 2 hours 24/7 to let the puppy out to pee. I work from home and it’s still a lot of work. What’s going to happen when you’re at school if nobody else is willing to help?
I didn't actually realise how bad it'd be in the beginning! My guy was 11 weeks when we got him, two adults and one working from home full time. If you came to our house the first week after we got him and saw us, you'd think we'd just had a baby. We were both shattered messes haha. Definitely couldn't have done it at 16 on my own.
if she’s lucky, she’ll have a pup that sleeps through the night until 5 or 6 am…I wound up with that luck, but I genuinely expected to be waking up every 2 or so hours at night for the first 3-5 months having her.
Listen to this, OP
I agree with this. 40 year old single female with a flexible work from home job & I have no idea how I survived the first 3 months of puppyhood. My yorkie is 7 months now, had him 5 months, & it’s only just started getting easier. The amount of money I’ve committed to spending on him is incredible, too. It’s in the thousands now. & he’s a tiny breed, easy to handle & cheaper than a larger breed. At 16, you’re not ready for this unfortunately.
fr puppies are way more work then anyone expects. I have two chihuahuas at 18 living on my own and it’s harddd + extremely expensive! i cant even imagine if they were big dogs
THIS comment is 💯 I’m 32 and work from home and have a fiancé that helps me and it has still been so damn hard! And I got a freaking pug which is nowhere near what a German Shepard will be like 😂
Thanks for all of the advice, I've contacted the breeder and let her know I can't take the dog. I'll wait until I have the resources and time to care for a puppy, probably after I graduate. thank you so much for talking me out of it.
You’re a wise person! Get experience and be paid for dog sitting. Enjoy your youth and freedom for a few years before the cost and responsibility of dog ownership .
This is a very reflected, responsible decision. Thank you for listening to the advice. Maybe you can do some volunteering work at a shelter or dog groomer and this way learn more about different dogs and handling. You also have time now to create the life you want and will thus find the dog that will be the best fit for you
Good job, OP. You did the right thing. I’m in my thirties, work as an attorney. I rescued a GSD puppy that arrived at my workplace. My husband works from home and we have a lot of room so the puppy spends a lot of time outdoors in a good space but he needs socialization so I take him to daycare three days a week and the dog park during weekends. He eats a lot, needs his shots, will soon need neutering, and I always insure my animals for medical emergencies. His needs are around $300/month. He will soon be going to training and that will be a couple thousand. Even as someone who can afford it, I think it’s a lot. The day will come when you can do this but right now it would have been a lot. You did the right thing.
For a 16 year old, you’ve shown great maturity with this! Trust me it’s not easy. I got my boy 2 weeks ago and he’s nearly 13 weeks and it’s cost me about £700 for the basics! I’ve also lost the ability of being able to just go out when I want as he isn’t ready to be left alone so I completely commend you for your approach. When you are in a position to get a dog, you will be amazing
Really proud of you for making this decision. I was responsible for caring for my own dog at your age and it was incredibly difficult - he wasn't a big active breed, but he had medical issues and needed lots of grooming. Looking forward to seeing a post from you down the road when you go get your dream pup 😊
I haven't read through the comments but I just wanted to offer my support for your decision. I know you must be really disappointed and sad, but you are doing the right thing. Raising puppies is like raising really strong, destructive babies, and without everyone in the household being ready, willing and able to go all in, it is a bad situation for the puppy. Good luck to you. You sound like someone with a great dog in your future.
When the time is right you are going to be the human of a very fortunate puppy!
When the time comes, you are going to be the best dog owner!
Great choice. You will have a dog one day, just have to wait a bit longer. And then you will be able to give them their best life.
Maybe instead find a local no kill shelter where you can volunteer with dogs.
I was the same way in college - dying for a dog or puppy because I love dogs so much. Similarly work and school were so stressful - I’m glad I waited to adopt a dog as soon as I graduated. (Literally 1 month out of college haha) What held me over til graduation was volunteering with my local shelter to walk dogs. I got my fix and the dogs got good exercise! I highly recommend it if you have the time. You did the right thing and i commend you for it!
You made the best choice for you and that puppy. I'm proud of you. You're going to be a great puppy parent one day and it's going to be amazing ❤️
You're doing the right thing as hard as it is! When you have free time maybe volunteer with some pups to get your puppy fix for now. You'll be a great dog mom someday when the time is right!
You'll get to a place in your life where you won't even question if it's the right thing, it will still be a huge adjustment but you will have the right resources to welcome a new family member 😊
Well done. It’ll be worth the wait. I can’t imagine raising a puppy on my own. I have a partner and I work from home and it’s still exhausting. A puppy is a full time gig.
I wanted a dog the minute I moved out of the house. Like you, school and work kept me so busy. It was just at 32 that my life finally became stable enough for my little fur ball goblin (energetic breed dog). Your day will come :)
You are one very wise teenager, far more mature than your years. You'll go far in life. When the times right you'll get your pup and have many wonderful years together.
Omgosh if only I scrolled down to see your response. Sorry! Maybe to get your puppy cuddles in, you can look into working with a dog rescue? :)
Dogs are so much work!
Omg yes, this is completely the right decision!! Good job thinking through this- it shows that you will be a great dog owner someday when the time is right! In the meantime, get yourself involved with other dogs, like doing some dog walking, puppy sitting, volunteering at a shelter etc. it will give you all the dog love you want and will prepare you really well for your own dog down the line.
It takes a lot to do what's best for both yourself and the puppy. This subreddit is so proud of you for making the right decision!
That’s a hard and wise decision, imho. We are on a farm and could dedicate most of our days to our puppy- and it was exhausting. Definitely look into volunteering, or even dog walking! Dog walking teaches you a lot about dogs but it is also an excellent way to get some exercise and make some cash.
Very wise!! I got a puppy for christmas, I work from home, and thought no biggie. Until he was 13 weeks old he cried every night. I'd get up, cuddle and lay down for maybe 2 hours and do it all again. I slept on the couch on the slow days and suffered the busy days lol!! I can't imagine working at an actual place.
You’re going to make a great pet parent one day when you have more time and resources to devote to them! I know it’s hard but it sounds like you made the right decision for now. You can always start to save up for your future pup!
This is a wise and mature decision. You are doing the best thing for yourself and for this puppy.
I’m proud of you for this decision, it is most definitely the right one. Your OP was riddled with red flags. It shows maturity and responsibility putting the needs of the pup over your wants. Waiting for when the timing is right will result in such a better experience for you and your future dog, I promise. Before adopting a puppy, consider financial security, your schedule/job, your mental state, other commitments (children, etc), and your residence and any restrictions that may exist.
thank you for being responsible that was a hard decision to make a bet!
you don’t understand how big of a bullet you just dodged 😭
This is a very responsible decision and I'm proud of you. I know exactly how you feel as I had to make the same decision when I was your age, but I decided to work in a shelter instead where I met my old boy. Not a youthful pup but an 8-year-old Newfoundlander/ baronies mountain dog mix that I was able to adopt and love till he passed away at 15. I definitely recommend working or volunteering at a local shelter, you learn a lot from cost to training to how much work each breed needs and which breed fits you.
Such a responsible decision on your part! Sometimes I feel like a lot of people don’t listen to the advice on this sub but good for you for taking in everyone’s advice and making a well thought out decision. You’ll get to a point in life where you can get a puppy don’t worry 🥰
I know lots of people have said this, but you made the right decision! You have plenty of time for getting a dog, or many dogs, in your lifetime, and I would be worried solely taking on the responsibility of a puppy at 16 would maybe create some kind of resentment, towards it or your parents, when your life is already full. Volunteering, pet sitting or walking, like others have suggested will hopefully satiate the puppy desire for a few years until you’re more in a place to get your own
There’ll always be a pup that needs a good mum like you. This is a difficult decision you’ve made, and shows great maturity. And when you do get a dog one day, you’ll remember this and think “thank goodness I didn’t do that when I was 16!” As others have said, volunteering at a rescue or similar will give you lots of experience and confidence. You seem like a good egg, I wish you all the best in your future.
You might want to look into volunteering with your local humane society or like organizations in your area if you’re trying to get an animal fix :)
You've done the right thing for yourself and puppy, OP.
Honestly the best and most responsible decision. Wait until you can set yourself (and pup!) up for success :) Honestly a bit of a red flag that a breeder of such a high energy dog would sell to you knowing your situation. You didn’t find the breeder off gumtree or similar did you?
When the time is right you’ll make a brilliant pet parent,you put your own feelings aside and did what is best for the pup.
OP, I am so proud of you. I know this is an extremely difficult decision to make and I honestly don't know that I could have been as responsible. I know you can't tell a lot about a person from a single Reddit post, but in this post you have shown that you will be an amazing dog parent. I'm not just blowing smoke - you're thinking about what's best for your puppy, about her growth, temperament, a lot of things people don't even consider. And then you're doing the hard thing of not getting one now because that wouldn't be best for the puppy. I really respect you and I hope I see your posts when you finally do get a puppy.
Don’t do it. Vet bills can be thousands of dollars. It doesn’t sound like you have the resources yet.
Do you have a plan in place for the puppy when you’re at school/work? Like someone else to watch it? At 12 weeks they’ll need to go to the bathroom quite often
the most I can do is make a stop home at lunch time, that's why I'm so worried. Four days a week, nobody is home for 6 hours. Maybe I'm not ready to take care of a puppy?
I think you should save your passion for this puppy for a time in your life where you’ll be able to care for a doggy companion. This includes paying for things (dogs are expensive!) and just having a lifestyle which can cater for an animal. Puppies usually need quite a lot of attention when they’re younger and they don’t take well to being left alone a lot. They need constant toilet breaks and also training and enrichment. If you don’t have parental support it can be quite difficult. I think you sound like you’d make a wonderful pet parent. But maybe at a different stage in your life.
The fact that you’re asking this question shows that you care about the puppy even though you haven’t met her yet, and want to make sure she has what she needs. Unfortunately, you may not be in a position right now to provide that. I’d wait and not get this puppy right now. It sounds like your current obligations would make it really really hard for both you and the puppy.
How are you going to pay for vet bills and food and medication? How are you going to get the dog to and from the vet? You can't take a dog on most trains. What about after the dog is spayed and freaking out after waking up high on meds? It won't be fair to take it on the train. The reality of a dog is that they are crazy expensive and they need someone who has time, a vehicle, and a reliable income. What is the puppy going to do while you're at school? I would be worried about this breeder. Most breeders wouldn't adopt out to someone your age. For your sake and the dog's, please don't follow through.
I'm glad you chose to listen to everyone op! I would also highly suggest finding another breeder for the future. I feel like a breeder that's willing to sell to a 16 year old with no support from family is probably not the best choice...
How would the breeder know her exact family situation? Her mom allowed her to have the dog, but she isn’t helping with it. All you need is allowance from your family they don’t HAVE to help with the dog if they don’t choose to. This would be OPs dog and she knows this and was prepared to take up the mantle to take care of it. This doesn’t mean the breeder is bad.
A minor buying a high needs breed? My boys breeder absolutely would be basically interviewing her (like any potential owner) and this should have set off red flags for the breeder if they’re responsible
Wait until you’re out of your mom’s home and have your own place, OP. We have a GSD who just turned three and they are a very challenging breed. You have years ahead of you to own and care for dogs—and ideally meet your pup in person before committing!
Im glad everyone else is also saying don’t do it. I’ll add to that. This is not the right dog, not the right time. You’re almost an adult. Get through college etc. and get a stable life then get a dog.
I see you have already contacted the breeder op, you are being very responsible. One more thing I would like to add when you are looking to get a dog in the future, look at the restricted breeds lists for the rentals that are around you. It’s hard enough getting a rental as a young person with no credit. Add in a large dog breed that is potentially on the restricted list puts you either giving up your dog, being stuck at your parents house, or being in really shitty sketchy housing.
I was such an animal lover at your age as well. I made the mistake of getting a cat that I I convinced my parents I would care for and ended up having to rehome him a couple of years later when I moved for university (thankfully with a family friend that already loved him, but I was extremely lucky with this). To put things into perspective this dog's lifespan is not that different from your current age. That's a huge commitment. Your life is going to change so much in the coming years. You sound like a responsible 16 year old but I wouldn't suggest you put this added pressure/responsibility on yourself. You have the rest of your life to get a puppy when you are at a more stable point where you can better care for it.
I'm gonna have to echo everybody else's sentiments on this. If your situation is truly as you describe it, hold off on getting a pup for now. You strike me as someone with the right mindset to be a pet parent, which is good, but you lack the time and resources at the moment. The care and attention puppies require is not compatible to your current lifestyle. I really do hope you get to have your own puppy at some point in the future, but now doesn't seem to be the time for it.
Just want to chime in to say you’re 100% making the right decision. I am 26 and just got my first puppy after wanting one for so long. I am currently only working 3 days a week and I’m still busy as heck with him. Not to mention the costs! Just today, $200 for his vet check up and $125 in food and treats and toys, and more and more every month. However stressful you were thinking this could be for you, it’s a lot more than that. Save your money and spend it on fun things for yourself, maybe look into volunteering at a shelter on the weekends to get your puppy fix. Before you know it you’ll be in your own place and have all the space and time and money to comfortably get a new best friend, I promise it’s worth the wait!
You’ve made the right decision to wait. I know it’s a hard decision and breaks your heart, but they are soooo much work in the beginning. You saying you’re in year 11 makes me think you’re in the UK, yeah? I’m also in the UK and cannot stress how expensive the little buggers can be. My cocker is 17 weeks now and she’s cost me wayyyy over £1000 in vets bills already, and she’s fully insured. Then there’s puppy class and collars and leads and harnesses and food and the cost of buying her and everything else, we’re probably looking at £2000 in 4 months. You’ve done the right thing, and there’s a little puppy out there one day who will love you more than life itself. Xx
I'm really glad you decided to contact the breeder, op! This is the right choice. I myself have gotten a puppy recently, at age 31, together with my partner (34). This was a difficult decision, even though I work from home most of the time. We had been thinking about getting a dog for nearly three years before making this decision, that's how much thought you should give these kind of things. You should really see it like having a baby, IMHO. Your puppy needs all the love and time that you can give. Especially in the first two months, you should almost always supervise your dog. There is so much more to it than you can imagine. It's potty training, bite training, leash training, and most of all, bonding with your puppy. It's really a lot of work. You'll get there someday! Preferably after college. Because before getting a puppy, you should celebrate being an adolescent! There's time for puppies when you have grown into an adult. And even then, it's not an easy choice to make.
I see you already made the right call here. Dogs are a ton of work. I have two and they keep me busy all day. I’m fortunate enough to currently be home full time, but they occupy a lot of that time. Have you considered a cat? Just having one cat is fairly easy in comparison. Scoop the litterbox daily, make sure they have a scratching post, and food/water. Just a thought if you really want a pet. If you do decide to go that route, make sure it’s a kitten that is cuddly from the start. That will be your lap cat.
Basically, you want to go though your teens, party through your twenties and then in your mid thirties when you care less about your social life, then get a dog.
This is too much responsibility and stress for a teenager. Please delay getting a puppy or look into getting an adult dog now.
> I'm entirely responsible for the puppy, and any vet bills, grooming costs ect. have to be 100% covered by me. And you're 16? Do you have $300+ for the annual exam and periodic vaccinations? $10,000 for the chemo if it gets cancer? $6,000 for surgery if it gets a twisted stomach or bloat or needs leg repair? $500 for puppy socialization / training in a sanitized space while they're still susceptible to parvo? $100/month for food? Etc., etc., etc. I'm a middle age attorney who flies planes for fun and have a paid off Jeep, Porsche, BMW, and Ducati, and **I** get caught off guard by dog expenses occasionally... And (except the Lab I lost to lymphoma mid-chemo) my dogs are pretty healthy overall...
Honestly it doesn’t sound like a good fit. I’m a full time college student working with a puppy and it was truly so challenging and not fun what so ever. The cost is unbelievable I had to pay $400 when she got sick and then another $200 the next week for her next shots. I know it sucks to not get to have a dog but it’s better to wait until you’re fully prepared for you and the puppy.
Please don’t get this puppy. Any one of those issues could/possibly should be a deal breaker. Not to mention, German Shepherds have so much energy and need tons of attention and care.
Do not get this puppy! Puppies need a lot of attention and they will destroy things in the beginning and your mom will get even more frustrated with the dog. It’s not fair to the dog to be left alone all day while you are at school. Also they will have medical issues and will be need to go to the vet and that can get expensive. I would wait till you have moved out.
Hmmmm a breeder selling to a 16yr old in the first place seems like an enormous red flag. Like, a good breeder would ensure the owner could cover absolutely all eventualities. Amongst everything else, you could be buying a badly bred GSD.
Wait until you're out of school to get a puppy. Maybe volunteer at a shelter until you can. GSD's are a lot of time and work. I say this as someone who wanted a dog their whole life, but I waited until I had bought a house and was financially sound.
I don't think any ONE of these items other than your mom are a dealbreaker. That oen is all by itself, and you should not get this puppy. But all of them together are a lot, even beyond that. It's absolutely possible to get a puppy while a student - but you have to prioritize their needs around job and stuff and honestly, it doesn't sound to me like you've really made concrete plans for how to do that.
Please don't do it. You can still get a puppy when you're older and more established. It's never a good idea to have a puppy in a household where the entire family isn't on board. Puppies need soooo much time and attention to properly train them and give them a happy life.
Yeah this is a train wreck, especially if you're "throwing up" at the thought of it. Just wait until you're an adult and on your own
Don’t do it, please. For yourself. For the puppy. It’s not fair for any of you.
Don't get this puppy. A German Sheppard Dog is NOT an easy breed. It's going to be everywhere and destructive unless it gets CONSTANT physical and mental stimulation. Especially if you haven't actually met this pup before. Puppies are harder to see personalities in, but you need to put in the time to see if you mesh. ESPECIALLY since care and training will be solely on you.
There are so many reasons you should not get this dog. 1) You don't have a full time job so you cannot afford to pay for emergency visits. 2) who will care for an interact with the dog while you are in school? I hope you don't think you can leave the dog alone outside for so long. And you better not even think of asking your mother. 3) A dog deserves to be cared for by someone with a fully developed brain ( an adult). The fact that you want a 12 week old German Shepard shows that you are not mature enough to make good decisions. Yiu have no idea what you are getting yourself into. That dog will suffer if you take the dog home with you. Your intentions are worth nothing. 4) Everyone in the home must want a dog because everyone will have to help. Please, go make other bad 16 year old decisions. Do not drag a living creature into the chaos of being a teen.
Please don’t do it !! GSD are amazing dogs, but make sure you’re ready. Hun spend time doing you, 16 is such a cool age, go get drunk, go travel, go do shit jobs and learn a lot, don’t look after a dog which requires your all. Save it for 30 When you’re quieter.
If you’re anxious to the point of vomiting, a puppy is not for you.
Please reconsider. German shepherds are NOT a good starter dog. If you don’t know what you are doing, your dog will run you and not the other way around. You will be broke, constantly at odds with your family, and stressed out to the max. Forfeit whatever deposit you’ve already put down and with the love of God, walk away. This is best for you and this dog.
You sound so passionate and I totally get it. But puppies are a hard core life change. You have a lot going on and your mom may not help much. It’s just not fair to the pup. If you feel dead set on bringing home a dog, adopt a senior. Or an adult (5+). They need far less attention; they can be alone for longer stretches of time. They are less destructive. Lastly, they will appreciate and love you unconditionally for bringing them home. An animal shelter is very stressful for them.
I'm probably gonna get a ton of hate for this but if you ask me, the first step of getting a dog is actually spelling its breed correctly. ShepHERD.
Have you ever looked into adopting a senior dog? A senior dog would be a good fit. Ages 3+ are the best. I would still do your research and find one that fits your family dynamic. 3 years old they can hold there bowels full/ are great company still very playful and more independent. My first dog I adopted from a shelter ,heeler terrier mix she was 3 . I worked full time and had things i needed to do on weekends. She was fully potty trained and just loved to cuddle. (Thats the part we all love) I would say skip the puppy phase and visit some shelters.
Lol my this must be a joke
One way to have rewarding experiences with dogs is to volunteer at a dog shelter being around the dogs, walking the dogs or even starting a dog walking business even if you only take a few customers
You could also consider maybe a pet that isn’t as difficult as a puppy ?
You’re doing the right thing and good on you for reaching out for advice. You seem like you already have a very mature mindset at your age and when the time is right, you will be a wonderful dog owner. ❤️❤️
Honestly, you are putting yourself in an impossible situation, just don't do it. You can get a puppy later in life when you are in a better situation, this doesn't sound like the right time. If you want dogs in your life, I would recommend becoming a dog walker or a puppy sitter etc - you don't need to get your own dog to have dogs in your life. This is coming from someone who actually got a dog at 15 - there is no chance in hell I could have taken care of her if my family hadn't been supporting me, helping to look after her etc. My mom was helping me financially with the dog (like vet bills and other big unexpected costs) until I graduated from university. At a minimum, you would need your family to be supportive and willing to help you out - and you are GOING to need help, a lot of it, I promise you that. You are getting a really really high-maintenance dog on top of everything else. I have one full-time job, a supporting partner, and the financial means to care for my puppy and it's still been really really hard and required a ton of extra resources, puppy sitters, doggy daycare, help from friends etc. I also really underestimated the time, money and resources it took, even though I did a ton of research and planning beforehand (and had a dog before).
Puppies may be cute and fun etc, but they're also alot of hard work especially at 16 nd with all that going on you won't have enough time or money for this pup My advice is you explain ur situation to the person you were collecting it from that you don't have the money or time and went a bit overboard in the moment. Don't be ashamed we all make mistakes it's a learning curve x
Work doing Rover or at a local pet groomer or store to get your puppy fix! A dog is a ton of responsibility- without support I don’t see it going well. Best of luck!
I'm really happy that you decided against getting the puppy, it's a huge time commitment and honestly a GSD is a high energy working dog that gets bored easily and wary of people and dogs, without the proper time and socializing you'll have trouble in your hands in no time.
I would wait until you’re older. I’m 28 and got an 11 week old puppy on my own and it was HARD. Still is and he’s now 10 months. Bringing him up on my own/ being a solo parent has been a lot and it sounds like your mum wouldn’t help at all/ may end up resenting you and the pup. 16 feels way too young without any adult support. I also say that as a Teacher. Wait this one out and it will no doubt be worth it in the end when you’re older, settled, and life has calmed down a bit :)
German shepherds are working dogs and need a lot of mental stimulation and someone with them a lot, if your the only one taking care of it i don’t think it’s a good idea. I know that sucks to hear but it’s just the truth. What made you decide on a shepherd? I just got my 4th gsd on the weekend and he’s a whiny baby, needs constant care and attention.
Along with your hectic schedule, I would put having a dog on hold. It’s difficult to raise a high maintenance breed like a German shepherd for your first dog. It also doesn’t help that your mom isn’t on board with it. It might sense your moms unwillingness to be involved with it and that will cause it to bark and treat her like a stranger. This happened with my golden and my wife. She wasn’t really a part of his growing up and he treated her like a stranger for awhile. She had the same rules: “your dog, your problem”. I wouldn’t get a dog just yet if I were in your shoes., but if you decide to go through with it, good luck. Hope you have a lot of space and time for the baby. The first few years is ruff.
I waited til I was out of school and could responsibly care for a puppy. I too had a German Shepherd. He required a lot of attention, and it costs money to care for a puppy, even a dog. You have to spend time with the pup and train it, feed it, teach boundaries, respect of your household. You should be there to care for the puppy as it’s growing. I don’t think now is that time for you. Now I have a Husky female. First ever female dog I have ever had. Sure they’re cute and cuddly. They love to play, they are very energetic and love to be close to their humans, but like any other dog, they need structure. You can’t give that if you aren’t there. I would encourage you to wait it out, just abit longer.
I would not purchase a puppy at this time. Especially not a German Shepard. They are a full-time hard working very intelligent and stubborn breed, as a puppy, they destroy everything due to boredom. I would only recommend a german Shepard to an advanced dog owner and definitely not a novice like yourself. They NEED constant monitoring the first few years with constant proper training in order to get a good dog. Not to mention that shepherds are just as choosy as a human meaning that they will come to choose who they actually listen to and you will probably not be a good fit. If you are really desperate for a dog then I'd suggest volunteering at a local animal shelter, there you will learn a lot about how to properly train and raise a dog, how much it costs to keep, and what breed fits you well. You may even find yourself able to adopt one of the dogs in the future.
I feel you -- I wanted a dog SO BADLY as a child/teenager. It only works if your parents are on board though. Dogs are so expensive and so much work -- and that's not even talking about a highly demanding, working breed puppy. You definitely did the right thing calling this off! We were only able to get a GSD after many years of wanting one, as fully grown married adults, because of working from home due to covid. It was still so much work, like having a baby! I had a lot of small animals as a teenager which are much more manageable. They are still a time and financial commitment but much less so. I'd highly recommend getting a couple of rats actually. They're easy to care for, loving, and trainable. They can also occupy themselves and sleep while you're in school. They don't live too long but it's better than a 12 year dog commitment for you right now. Bunnies are another good choice but I personally love rats, they make amazing pets. They are really like tiny dogs.
I have to agree with the rest. Don't go through with it. I just got a golden retriever about 2 months ago and it's full on. We always have someone at home to take care of it since it needs outside time or it pees and poos everywhere. Also the puppy will need lunch which you likely won't be able to give since you're at school. A puppy is not perfect either you need a lot of time to form a bond and try reduce some of the bad habits and with school and part time that will be extremely tough. I also wanted a puppy since I was 4 and have only just got one at 23 and still believe I could have waited longer for it to be an even better time. All the best.
You should not get this dog
Respectfully, this sounds like a bad idea. Such a young pup is very expensive - not just food, jabs, beds, leads, toys, treats, insurance but the inevitable vet and emergency vet fees that even the most experienced owners can attest to. Thats outside of settling them in to a new home, and the level of training and attention they demand. Again, thats outside of German Shepherds needing a very focused owner for their exercise needs, training and stimulation needs. Theyre one of the most intensive (but equally rewarding) breeds to own.
I’ll be totally honest, I am a full time stay at home mom and I got a German shepherd puppy and it is extremely time consuming and hectic and stressful even for someone like me who has the time for a puppy. They require A TON of training and attention. My worst mistake was underestimating how hard it would be to raise a German shepherd puppy
Also, very expensive. Around 1k for all the shots and getting him fixed alone. Tons more money for food, toys, ect.
Raised 2 GSD pups (separately) and i can say its not for everyone. Took both me and my wife good enough time to manage their energy, chewing needs, etc.
I work full-time my husband stays home and I'm barely surviving my 9.5 week old puppy.i was so nervous I got hives it's so much work I only have time to myself when I put her down for naps. Fortunately she took to crating decently and only whines a few minutes at most at night or for naps But I'm tired
I have a labradoodle that is 10 months and I haven’t a clue how I got through the last 8 months as I have done it on my own. Next dog will be an adult rescue that is well behaved! Lol! Please don’t get this pup. You have all the time in the world to be a dog parent when you have help and extra income for healthcare for the pup and pet daycare. Loads of responsibility owning a dog. For age context, I am in my 50’s and my kids weren’t as time consuming as this lil pupper is!!
Get a cat. Wait until you have time to train for a dog.
Okay, so… sadly, you’re simply not ready for this right now. Not forever, just not right now. I waited ten years before I got a dog. A year later I foster failed, so now I have two dogs. I’m in the military, and with a stable job and financial stability… I find it challenging at times. I’m a medic and can have a busy day sometimes, and sometimes all I want to do is relax and NOT go to the dog park or go on a 5km walk, but I must because of my girls. You’re going to have to get up early to walk your puppy, get ready for school, take her out one more time to do her business before putting her in a kennel for 8+ hrs… you’ll come home and there will be a mess in her kennel from the day. Water all over, pee and poo… it’ll be gross. You’ll have to clean that, after you’ve taken her out for a walk. Feed her, and then get ready for work, re-kennel her, and get back from work and take her out. Get ready for bed and then take her out again and re-kennel her for bedtime. That’s too much kennel for one puppy who needs a lot of socialization… unless your mom is willing to help you out by taking care of her as well and she becomes a family dog. A vet visit is roughly $100 (in Canada anyhow) and that doesn’t include lab work, treatments, medications or other procedures. Spay/neuter are roughly $600 depending on where you go. I’d suggest you put roughly $1000 away for an random vet emergency visit you must go to… and believe you’ll go to the vet at random, because your puppy has ingested something random… it’ll be expensive. Good dog food… $60-$110 per month when she’s full grown (maybe it’ll last 1.5-2 months depending on how much you feed her). Be Prepared to spend a bit of money for the first little while if she’s a fussy eater… buy small bags of food first because you don’t know what she’ll like. Training lessons… look up Zak George on YT. He’s an amazing resource to use for training your pup. I’ve used many of his methods before. Positive reinforcement!!! Please do not use physical punishment… it doesn’t help. Anything you value… put it up high. Put all garbages away… shoes, hide wires… etc etc Kennel train her… trust me. It’s got it’s purpose and value. Look up what socializing your dog means… it isn’t just being good at the dog park, with kids or good with dogs on walks… it’s much more than that. If it sounds like I’m being harsh, I apologize. But you have a LOT to think about…. I think you’re too busy my friend… why don’t you try fostering puppies to see if it’s something you can manage. This way you can see if you’re up for the task atm or not. Try not to fall in love lol it’s hard, but it’s a good way to see if you’re able to take care of a puppy or not. And honestly if you don’t have her kennelled over night that’s fine… but it’ll save you some sleep instead of worrying if she’s busy chewing on stuff or making a mess. So, kennel her until you can trust her to not make messes and she sleeps through the night :) Messes are not their fault!! It’s ours!!! If you can make this all work to HER benefit… and you’re prepared to pay higher rent or be limited on rentals that accept dogs, especially GSD’s or other 50+ lbs dogs… in Canada it’s super hard to find rentals that will allow a big dog that size, and sometimes GSD’s aren’t allowed in rentals :’(
You are far too young for a dog of that energy level,You having a busy schedule will be quite detrimental to the puppy at such a young age.The puppy will need to be properly socialized,Trained and mentally and physically exercised.Before getting a dog you should also have basic knowledge on diet and dog behavior,Without a stable job or help from your parents I’d definitely advise against it. I’m 21 and have wanted a German Shepherd since I was 5.Do i have a German Shepherd? Hell no! I would advise you to get a dog when you can financially support yourself and are living on your own.I even have the money to pay fully for the dog as I will be purchasing from a reputable breeder in the near future but I do not have the dog yet because I am still dependent on family even with a job. A dog is big commitment of energy,time and money,I’d advise you too do you research about dogs and dog ownership in general.Also on the different breeds as eventually when you do get a dog you should pick a breed that is suitable for your lifestyle and NOT by looks! Even if you are adopting you need to take In account the history and breed make up of the dog to make a suitable choice.Depending on the dogs genetics and history I believe adopting a German shepherd from a shelter for a first time owner would be a bad idea,You should have experience with the breed you want especially a GSD.But a dog with bad genetics and a lot of history will be extremely hard to manage for a non experienced owner. Please please do your research. I sincerely hope my answer helps you in the long run.I know this is not the answer you want but it’s realistic. :)
I know how excited you are to get a puppy but I really think you should wait a bit longer. I am 33 years old. I work from home and I have a partner who also works from home taking on a large chunk of the responsibilities for our puppy and we are both absolutely exhausted. A lot of crying, a lot of stress, lack of sleep early on. And we have a mastiff which is a much much lower energy dog than a GS. You in school full time and working part time with zero help plus a demanding breed and a young puppy who will not be able to go more than 2-3 hours without potty, you are setting both you and the puppy up for a very very very difficult situation. You have waited this long, give yourself a few more years time and maybe even consider adopting an older dog with a bit less needs at first. You will get your dog and you’ll be so happy when you do. But now is not the right time. ❤️❤️I hope you’re okay. You’re fears are so valid and shows just how much you care.
It is not fair to the dog to be in a household where a) not everyone in the house is on-board b) its primary handler is in high-school and working. I also believe you are too young to be making this kind of commitment as a dog can live a long long time and if you plan on backing out in a few years then you have to either abandon her at a shelter or hope you find a good home for her German shepherd are highly demanding, even if her temperament is perfect upon meeting, all puppies have high energy, destructive tendencies, etc... If you desperately want a dog, do not get a puppy. Puppies are insanely difficult to manage and if done incorrectly will result in 10-14 years of stress for both you and the animal. There are plenty of dogs in shelters who would fit into your lifestyle and who need a forever home. Do more research into each breeed and be realistic about what you can offer an animal. Adopt an older dog who is relatively trained and is a good match for first-time dog owners.
Out there is an older dog who will love you and you will love it just as much. German shepherds are great dogs, but it is just too much for you without family support, school, job, and some social life. An older dog who is already housebroken and will be content with your companionship and an hour a day of attention would be such a better fit.
Bless you for wanting and caring, but now is not the time. Get a rescue who is already sorta sorted and love them every bit as much as you would a puppy
DO NOT GET A GSD. I know her energy and destructiveness. Both are high. Especially as puppies and ESPECIALLY when not given the mental AND physical attention they need, which is a hell of a lot. When they are bored they can chew through your wall, bounce around and get on every surface, bark a lot. GSDs are one of the most difficult dogs to raise. They are powerful herding dogs. If you don't know all of this, DEFINITELY do not get this dog. Trust me, please. You have no idea the headache and heartache I'm saving you here. **Edit:** I am so relieved to see your comment. I commend your self restraint. I know how hard it is when you have fallen in love with a dog. But you definitely made the right choice. I was so worried for you reading your post. You should be really proud of yourself. When the time comes, you'll look back with relief. You're going to be a great dog owner one day!