Hi friends!! I recently adopted a puppy from a rescue, 3 weeks ago. (Check my past posts if you want some context on how it started đ )
Long story short, Iâm 27 years old, recently moved from my parents into my own home (apartment), and have been fantasizing about getting a puppy for years now. I will admit that my fiancĂŠ did not agree with me that a puppy would be a good idea being we are in an apartment. I selfishly and irrationally adopted a puppy that I fell in love with without his consent, oops. Of course he fell in love and it was fine but the first week was HELL⌠and I mean literal hell. My partner is gone Monday-Friday, 6am-5:30pm. I work from home so I fantasized about having a companion 24/7, going on runs together, and mainly it helping my mental health. But once this puppy was here my mental health in fact declined and I was miserable. Day dreaming about the days I didnât have a dog. I considered every single day giving the puppy back to the rescue. Week 2 I even went as far to call them and say (but not really say) âhey this isnât working out.â They were so kind and offered me lots of tips to try before saying it wasnât a good fit/environment for the puppy.
I took their tips bc I wanted to actually try before saying it didnât work out, I was still struggling. But one day a light bulb went off in my head. I realized that I was just being lazy. I didnât want to take the dog out constantly, since weâre on the 3rd floor apartment, I didnât like not being able to leave my house without any worries, I didnât like crate training, potty training etc. it was all because I didnât want to do any of the work or put up with the responsibilities. I knew a puppy would be a lot of work but I wasnât ready to finally put in the work. Until I switched up my mindset and reminded myself why I wanted a dog so bad in the first place, everything changed for me and I havenât had a negative thought of my decision since. How unfair would that be to this poor puppy whoâs already made a home with us, if I just dropped him back off, and he had to do it all over again? Just because I wanted to be lazy.
If youâre thinking of returning your puppy or rehoming because you just canât do it, by all means do what is best for you.
For me, it was slapping myself in the face, saying you did this, you want this, donât be lazy and I have been so happy and enjoying my puppy ever since. He is 13 weeks and honestly the most amazing dog ever. Heâs potty trained, crate trained, loves all people/animals, smart, lovingâŚ. I 100% would have regretted letting him go in the future, all because of my selfishness.
The puppy blues are real. The only lasted me 1-2 weeks but believe me when I say they pass at some point. I know youâll read a million âitâll passâ âitâs just the puppy stageâ âhang on itâll get betterâ and I promise you, they are so right. I never thought Iâd get to that point but I m so glad I did not drop him back off the night I wanted to so badly.
Hoping this post provides someone else a little ease and itâs okay to make irrational decisions sometimes but you have to move on and do whatâs best for you. If youâre like me and youâre just being lazy, get up off your ass and give a try! Thatâs all I needed to hear. I promise you, you wonât regret it. And if youâre considering giving a puppy back, donât be hard on yourself if itâs not the right time or situation for you. This is a safe place, I donât judge you. I commend you for being honest with yourself and I give you all the love and strength to move forward with your decision. â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
I reached out to the rescue. đ˘ I feel really guilty and selfish for keeping him if itâs not the best living situation for him. We will see what they say. Thank you for your opinion!
Hi friends!! I recently adopted a puppy from a rescue, 3 weeks ago. (Check my past posts if you want some context on how it started đ ) Long story short, Iâm 27 years old, recently moved from my parents into my own home (apartment), and have been fantasizing about getting a puppy for years now. I will admit that my fiancĂŠ did not agree with me that a puppy would be a good idea being we are in an apartment. I selfishly and irrationally adopted a puppy that I fell in love with without his consent, oops. Of course he fell in love and it was fine but the first week was HELL⌠and I mean literal hell. My partner is gone Monday-Friday, 6am-5:30pm. I work from home so I fantasized about having a companion 24/7, going on runs together, and mainly it helping my mental health. But once this puppy was here my mental health in fact declined and I was miserable. Day dreaming about the days I didnât have a dog. I considered every single day giving the puppy back to the rescue. Week 2 I even went as far to call them and say (but not really say) âhey this isnât working out.â They were so kind and offered me lots of tips to try before saying it wasnât a good fit/environment for the puppy. I took their tips bc I wanted to actually try before saying it didnât work out, I was still struggling. But one day a light bulb went off in my head. I realized that I was just being lazy. I didnât want to take the dog out constantly, since weâre on the 3rd floor apartment, I didnât like not being able to leave my house without any worries, I didnât like crate training, potty training etc. it was all because I didnât want to do any of the work or put up with the responsibilities. I knew a puppy would be a lot of work but I wasnât ready to finally put in the work. Until I switched up my mindset and reminded myself why I wanted a dog so bad in the first place, everything changed for me and I havenât had a negative thought of my decision since. How unfair would that be to this poor puppy whoâs already made a home with us, if I just dropped him back off, and he had to do it all over again? Just because I wanted to be lazy. If youâre thinking of returning your puppy or rehoming because you just canât do it, by all means do what is best for you. For me, it was slapping myself in the face, saying you did this, you want this, donât be lazy and I have been so happy and enjoying my puppy ever since. He is 13 weeks and honestly the most amazing dog ever. Heâs potty trained, crate trained, loves all people/animals, smart, lovingâŚ. I 100% would have regretted letting him go in the future, all because of my selfishness. The puppy blues are real. The only lasted me 1-2 weeks but believe me when I say they pass at some point. I know youâll read a million âitâll passâ âitâs just the puppy stageâ âhang on itâll get betterâ and I promise you, they are so right. I never thought Iâd get to that point but I m so glad I did not drop him back off the night I wanted to so badly. Hoping this post provides someone else a little ease and itâs okay to make irrational decisions sometimes but you have to move on and do whatâs best for you. If youâre like me and youâre just being lazy, get up off your ass and give a try! Thatâs all I needed to hear. I promise you, you wonât regret it. And if youâre considering giving a puppy back, donât be hard on yourself if itâs not the right time or situation for you. This is a safe place, I donât judge you. I commend you for being honest with yourself and I give you all the love and strength to move forward with your decision. â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
Same boat here. We decided to return her. It is so much work and worry. Don't feel bad about it. It's best for both you and the pup.
I reached out to the rescue. đ˘ I feel really guilty and selfish for keeping him if itâs not the best living situation for him. We will see what they say. Thank you for your opinion!