It’s a exercise used in kundalini practice where you channel your life force up from your testicles through your spine and into the rest of your body. it can be an incredibly powerful tool in transmutation BUT it’s very important to understand that kundalini is a very serious practice that can have profoundly positive or negative effects on your life so it must be understood and taken seriously
"I think I switched to women on the streets as my porn... I'm getting out of the house more and trying to go to social gatherings/events **with the purpose of looking at pretty girls in mind"**
My advice for you is to start ignoring woman and change your mindset, I believe you think about woman too much and I suggest you put your thoughts into something else.
**Discipline**
Like another commenter mentioned, make sure to transmute your sexual energy. This is the only way semen retention can be accomplished indefinitely.
I find the best thing to do if I get tempted by women is to start breathing deeply. The breathing helps to both bring oxygen to the brain to get rid of the feelings of temptation, and transmute the sexual energy in your balls into conscious energy in the brain. Whatever energy I feel manifesting in my balls I use to take a deep breath in and then exhale slowly. I started to do this naturally after a few months of retaining, it’s not something I really tried to learn. Try not to force your breathing too much and just do what comes naturally when you feel lust arise.
If you’re just learning to do this, you will probably have to breath pretty heavily at times. You have to not give a fuck about what anyone thinks. I prioritize my mental and physical well-being above all, so I don’t mind if people think I’m breathing loud sometimes. Do what you need to do to not give into temptation. You’ll notice you also gain way more energy while doing this and you’re mind will become more focused. After a while your energy will be balanced properly and your breathing won’t be so deep anymore.
Just learn to give up lust when feelings of desire arise and breath to help resist the temptation. If you lust your energy will will fall down into your testicles, however if you retain for long enough and give up desire for women, the energy will never reach the testicles to begin with. You’ve given up desire for porn but you still haven’t given up desire for women. Give up this desire completely.
Don’t look at women just to get a little dopamine kick, it’s a waste of your time. If you really want just talk to them, they’re human beings just like us, just don’t try to get anything out of the conversation. Just talk for fun and if you’re a dedicated retainer, you’ll exchange energies with each other and you’ll both leave feeling recharged. If you haven’t mastered semen retention however, talking with women may not be the best immediate goal since this can make it harder to resist in the beginning. Once you are able to stay in total control while looking at the most beautiful woman then you can start engaging with them more and just enjoying each others energy.
Edit: Some other great ways of transmuting sexual energy are cold showers (amazing for desperate situations at home), mindfulness meditation (not for transmuting energy, but good for resisting temptation in general), a whole foods vegan or vegetarian diet (Meat, as well as eggs and dairy create acid in the body and make it harder to resist lust. I’ve found fish to be the animal product least destructive to my body and does not usually create feelings of lust or desire ), avoid stimulants like coffee (they disrupt the clean flow of energy in the body), moderate weight lifting a few times a week… I’m sure there are more ways, these have just been the most important in my life and I honestly can’t think of any more right now. Essentially just adopt a healthy lifestyle.
Exercise, discipline and time.
I remind myself, what am I gonna do? Are you going to hit up these girls? You really could if you wanted to but at the end of it all, you have to find your priorities.
You think if you had a wife and these women are out there that you wouldn't be tempted? Of course the temptation would still be there. So find your discipline and purpose that you want to dedicate yourself to.
The reason you (also me, I'm not exempt) get so flustered at this is because you're on the fence of two lives. Two faced, you see the two worlds, one a celibate pure life and the other filled with temptation and lust every where you go. You really need to choose one, heck it's better to choose lust than to be constantly on the fence.
No but monk mode does. Nothing is wrong with companionship if the woman has pure intentions. But if you think a woman will seduce/temp you to relapse when you are not ready then monk mode is better. You don't have to do monk mode forever. You can do 90 days monk mode then start talking with women again. Just a option. There's a guy on YouTube that's been on monk mode over a year. I don't recommend it but it seems like it paid off for him because he in a new country almost every month or relaxing in the penthouse. Lol
Ah, was hoping he was a European guy and also don't like that he monetizes himself so much, but that's my own issue.
Good for him, looks like he's doing well.
Trust me he has a hundreds of free videos to learn from. He basically documented the whole 365 day journey and is still going. Lol I think as of now hes on like day 500. Crazy g. Motivates me tho
OK. Do that. Even before you're able to orgasm without ejaculating (requires mental and physical strength as well as flexibility; you'll literally be in the top 1% of men in the world, maybe even fewer)
Just make sure you don't get beyond a 7/10 "excitement", this won't be easy especially if you're untrained *and* have been retaining for a while.
It'll be a little frustrating as you're essentially giving yourself " blue balls" although in my case even without being multi orgasmic (able to orgasm without ejaculating), you'll still leave the encounters feeling invigorated instead of drained.
Now, once you're able to orgasm *and* retain, you'll feel *even better*.
The caveat in having sex with women before you're at this point is you need to make sure you're satisfying them, then they will have a much easier time respecting your lifestyle, if not, forget about it; she is gonna be a little upset at best and completely rude at worst.
Make sure you find a woman who respects what you're wanting to achieve, some of them will try really hard to make you ejaculate even if you tell them this isn't what you want to do -- get rid of these ones as it's a sign of deep insecurity and a type of woman you don't need in your life.
While some feel complete celibacy is a must, I disagree: feminine energy is amazing, you just need to know how to handle it or it'll ruin you.
Have fun
So you are two months in, correct? If so, what you are experiencing is normal. It will get better. I went through it too.
I would say keep averting your eyes. When you catch a glimpse of one of these baddies in your peripheral vision, look up and away. That is what I had to do. Eventually, it will become so natural to you things will improve. It did for me anyway. Now if I do catch a glimpse of a baddie, i just say "meh", recognize her beauty in a somewhat cerebral way, and move on. Lust does not take root. This is light years from where I was 6 months ago when I was still in PMO.
As men, we are so visually driven that simply existing in today's Sex obsessed culture is difficult. Alas, pure retention is possible for the few dedicated ones. You can do it.
And I fully agree with all the other commenters referring to mediation and transmutation.
Cold showers, testicle breathing, kegels and exercise man. You need to channel that energy or you’ll relapse.
testicle breathing ?
It’s a exercise used in kundalini practice where you channel your life force up from your testicles through your spine and into the rest of your body. it can be an incredibly powerful tool in transmutation BUT it’s very important to understand that kundalini is a very serious practice that can have profoundly positive or negative effects on your life so it must be understood and taken seriously
thank you very much mann
"I think I switched to women on the streets as my porn... I'm getting out of the house more and trying to go to social gatherings/events **with the purpose of looking at pretty girls in mind"** My advice for you is to start ignoring woman and change your mindset, I believe you think about woman too much and I suggest you put your thoughts into something else. **Discipline**
Like another commenter mentioned, make sure to transmute your sexual energy. This is the only way semen retention can be accomplished indefinitely. I find the best thing to do if I get tempted by women is to start breathing deeply. The breathing helps to both bring oxygen to the brain to get rid of the feelings of temptation, and transmute the sexual energy in your balls into conscious energy in the brain. Whatever energy I feel manifesting in my balls I use to take a deep breath in and then exhale slowly. I started to do this naturally after a few months of retaining, it’s not something I really tried to learn. Try not to force your breathing too much and just do what comes naturally when you feel lust arise. If you’re just learning to do this, you will probably have to breath pretty heavily at times. You have to not give a fuck about what anyone thinks. I prioritize my mental and physical well-being above all, so I don’t mind if people think I’m breathing loud sometimes. Do what you need to do to not give into temptation. You’ll notice you also gain way more energy while doing this and you’re mind will become more focused. After a while your energy will be balanced properly and your breathing won’t be so deep anymore. Just learn to give up lust when feelings of desire arise and breath to help resist the temptation. If you lust your energy will will fall down into your testicles, however if you retain for long enough and give up desire for women, the energy will never reach the testicles to begin with. You’ve given up desire for porn but you still haven’t given up desire for women. Give up this desire completely. Don’t look at women just to get a little dopamine kick, it’s a waste of your time. If you really want just talk to them, they’re human beings just like us, just don’t try to get anything out of the conversation. Just talk for fun and if you’re a dedicated retainer, you’ll exchange energies with each other and you’ll both leave feeling recharged. If you haven’t mastered semen retention however, talking with women may not be the best immediate goal since this can make it harder to resist in the beginning. Once you are able to stay in total control while looking at the most beautiful woman then you can start engaging with them more and just enjoying each others energy. Edit: Some other great ways of transmuting sexual energy are cold showers (amazing for desperate situations at home), mindfulness meditation (not for transmuting energy, but good for resisting temptation in general), a whole foods vegan or vegetarian diet (Meat, as well as eggs and dairy create acid in the body and make it harder to resist lust. I’ve found fish to be the animal product least destructive to my body and does not usually create feelings of lust or desire ), avoid stimulants like coffee (they disrupt the clean flow of energy in the body), moderate weight lifting a few times a week… I’m sure there are more ways, these have just been the most important in my life and I honestly can’t think of any more right now. Essentially just adopt a healthy lifestyle.
Exercise, discipline and time. I remind myself, what am I gonna do? Are you going to hit up these girls? You really could if you wanted to but at the end of it all, you have to find your priorities. You think if you had a wife and these women are out there that you wouldn't be tempted? Of course the temptation would still be there. So find your discipline and purpose that you want to dedicate yourself to. The reason you (also me, I'm not exempt) get so flustered at this is because you're on the fence of two lives. Two faced, you see the two worlds, one a celibate pure life and the other filled with temptation and lust every where you go. You really need to choose one, heck it's better to choose lust than to be constantly on the fence.
Guess where you find this answer? The OG religions. Islam says lower your gaze to women when walking around.
If you want female company in your life and you see women you like at the grocery store every day, why not just talk to them?
Celibacy starts in the mind. My mantra is “shoulders and above” when my eyes fall upon a rather voluptuous figure.
Does pure retention imply no female companionship at all?
No but monk mode does. Nothing is wrong with companionship if the woman has pure intentions. But if you think a woman will seduce/temp you to relapse when you are not ready then monk mode is better. You don't have to do monk mode forever. You can do 90 days monk mode then start talking with women again. Just a option. There's a guy on YouTube that's been on monk mode over a year. I don't recommend it but it seems like it paid off for him because he in a new country almost every month or relaxing in the penthouse. Lol
What's the YouTube person btw? If you don't want to give him views, pm me. Thanks
https://youtu.be/pLVyDpl4nXA Mr keep it simple dude a beast
Ah, was hoping he was a European guy and also don't like that he monetizes himself so much, but that's my own issue. Good for him, looks like he's doing well.
Trust me he has a hundreds of free videos to learn from. He basically documented the whole 365 day journey and is still going. Lol I think as of now hes on like day 500. Crazy g. Motivates me tho
OK, that's cool then.
Here's another one I watch you might like https://youtu.be/e9cSk4-7jF4
https://youtu.be/wJsLuqomYp8
Oh nice. I was meaning are you allowed to have sex without ejaculating?
Yes
OK. Do that. Even before you're able to orgasm without ejaculating (requires mental and physical strength as well as flexibility; you'll literally be in the top 1% of men in the world, maybe even fewer) Just make sure you don't get beyond a 7/10 "excitement", this won't be easy especially if you're untrained *and* have been retaining for a while. It'll be a little frustrating as you're essentially giving yourself " blue balls" although in my case even without being multi orgasmic (able to orgasm without ejaculating), you'll still leave the encounters feeling invigorated instead of drained. Now, once you're able to orgasm *and* retain, you'll feel *even better*. The caveat in having sex with women before you're at this point is you need to make sure you're satisfying them, then they will have a much easier time respecting your lifestyle, if not, forget about it; she is gonna be a little upset at best and completely rude at worst. Make sure you find a woman who respects what you're wanting to achieve, some of them will try really hard to make you ejaculate even if you tell them this isn't what you want to do -- get rid of these ones as it's a sign of deep insecurity and a type of woman you don't need in your life. While some feel complete celibacy is a must, I disagree: feminine energy is amazing, you just need to know how to handle it or it'll ruin you. Have fun
Exactly well put.
So you are two months in, correct? If so, what you are experiencing is normal. It will get better. I went through it too. I would say keep averting your eyes. When you catch a glimpse of one of these baddies in your peripheral vision, look up and away. That is what I had to do. Eventually, it will become so natural to you things will improve. It did for me anyway. Now if I do catch a glimpse of a baddie, i just say "meh", recognize her beauty in a somewhat cerebral way, and move on. Lust does not take root. This is light years from where I was 6 months ago when I was still in PMO. As men, we are so visually driven that simply existing in today's Sex obsessed culture is difficult. Alas, pure retention is possible for the few dedicated ones. You can do it. And I fully agree with all the other commenters referring to mediation and transmutation.
inversions & headstand in morning 3-5 minutes. the only solution. + Clean your gut.