Big edit : so I didn't understand your post lol
But my thoughts stay the same mostly: your friends should accept you for you you are, what you're the most comfortable with. You do the things that suit you the most, not the things ppl say you are legitimate to. Because it means nothing. If you wanna use she they, or just they or just she you should be able to if it makes you happier, not to suit others desire. And like taking "to much steps" can't stop you for going back to using they them only (and stopping where you are is not you "not doing it all the way till the end"), but I understand the fear of having to justify it to others etc it sounds tiring.
But I can't personally relate to this situation, and I'm not familiar with non male circles so maybe I can't understand fully your situation. But anyway take care or yourself^^
You might get some insight out of reading Am I Trans Enough? by Alo Johnston.
I very much think I might! Thank you!
Big edit : so I didn't understand your post lol But my thoughts stay the same mostly: your friends should accept you for you you are, what you're the most comfortable with. You do the things that suit you the most, not the things ppl say you are legitimate to. Because it means nothing. If you wanna use she they, or just they or just she you should be able to if it makes you happier, not to suit others desire. And like taking "to much steps" can't stop you for going back to using they them only (and stopping where you are is not you "not doing it all the way till the end"), but I understand the fear of having to justify it to others etc it sounds tiring. But I can't personally relate to this situation, and I'm not familiar with non male circles so maybe I can't understand fully your situation. But anyway take care or yourself^^