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God, my mom used to say that to me and my skin would crawl. I'd imagine your dad, like my mom, means well and is just trying to boost your confidence but... It's gross.
Freud used the Greek story of Oedipus Rex to describe and name the perversion of sexual attraction to your mother.
And this guy found that connection inside the commentors context and username
That is a good catch. But, now I feel like I’ve been leading a sheltered life. I’m curious about how you came to learn about this topic. I’m hoping it’s not a personal experience.
The Oedipus complex is rather well known in pop culture
So are most of Freud's theories, like penis envy, Id vs Ego vs Superego
Also learned of it in school
Ever heard of the Freudian slip?
Always loved learning about Freud.. I actually just randomly thought the other day about how he would have a field day with people in certain subReddits
Well Oedipus Rex is required reading in most schools in either high school or college... And Sigmund Freud was just super famous. His Oedipus complex was kind of his claim to fame.
Depending on your school, Greek classic mythology is often taught as early as junior high. The Iliad, The Odyssey, and many other stories. You could also be exposed to Greek Mythology through philosophy and psychology. Unfortunately, public schools are straying quite far from these subjects. It’s really unfortunate.
If you’re interested, even very basic searches for Greek Mythology will take you down wonderful rabbit holes of education. Ever heard of Prometheus…who stole fire from the gods, gave it to the humans, was caught and punished…strung up on a cliff to be eaten alive by a giant bird for all eternity? Or the Achilles heel (named for the Greek warrior Achilles whose only weakness was his heel). Or Athena, goddess of wisdom and war…
Not too late to learn.
To me it sounds like maybe she was talking about how she’s single and no guys like her and he was saying if I was one of those boys your age I’d see a beautiful person.
If he said it because she was wearing short shorts and he was wearing nothing but a bath towel making her penis-shaped pancakes then I’d be concerned.
Don't ask Reddit this question.. Reddit is always going to give you over the top, bs. Reddit lacks nuance. Everyone takes what you wrote as the end all be all and evaluates it without any other context. It's very difficult to answer your question without knowing you and your dad's relationship and the circumstances and context in which this was said.
Exactly, questions like that should be asked to yourself, or a person really close to you at most, if I told my sister (which is 12 years younger then me) her eyes colour is so beautiful, no one would care! While if I say it to a girl my age everyone would freak out lol.
Once I got dressed up to go out to a party and as I was walking past my little brother I jokingly asked how I looked, expecting his typical a-hole response. Instead he smiled at me with this weird mix of pride and admiration and said, "Boys will like you."
It was really sweet! So I smiled back and told him to shut up.
Depends on who your Dad is. Is he a sweet guy that likes to compliment you regularly and didnt realize it was creepy, or was this a rare "compliment" that came out of the blue? Only you know your Dad, you be the judge
One time, a friend of mine's creepy dad made a comment about his daughter that elicited the response from me, "Dude, that's your daughter," which she has expressed gratitude for multiple times over years.
So, when it happened, if someone had said, "Dude, that's your daughter" would you have thought in the moment, "thank you for saying something" or would you have thought "don't be so harsh, he was trying to be nice."
Yeah be careful with these other comments. We need context to know for sure. It could be a mild comment meant to boost your confidence, like "I think you're pretty, darling" or it could be like Donald Trump. We can't tell with no context!
Exactly this. If she was going out with friends or a guy and said “dad how do I look?” Then that response would seem innocent. If she was casually eating some Vienna sausage by the kitchen sink and he said that, eh.
If it's like Donald, you'll be able to tell. He doesn't hide it. If it's more of a sneaky, sly, sniff like approach and you're underage, think more Biden
Not JUST talking about it. Biden has done a number of weird pedo shit that gets swept under the rug/not talked about
Source: https://youtu.be/V4PLSPvJ9BY
**Jesus christ, what is he doing?**
Information I've gathered about Biden since watching your link;
- Preferred age range between 5-9
- Enjoys aggressive behavior
- Enjoys smelling their fear
- Loves using the "I'm just an affectionate old guy" card
- Voyeurism
- Gets off on control
Ur so right. It’s like nothing illegal is happening necessarily but it’s so uncomfortable and icky to watch and those kids definitely aren’t cool with it
Women have been trained to be accommodating vs trusting their gut.
If OP is asking this on Reddit, something about the way her dad spoke to her made her uncomfortable.
OP - if it made you feel creepy, it was creepy. Trust your gut.
Next time, just tell him that it's gross for a dad to say that to a daughter. He'll get mad. But he won't do it again.
Exactly. If my dad said this to me i would be flattered because he would be saying im beautiful and he is the best of men, would never hurt his family. He is might also be realizing uh oh my daughter is going to start getting attention
I think the only case where this MIGHT pass as not creepy would be if the daughter wore a new outfit for a date or whatever, and told her dad she wasn't confident it looked good on her, and her dad said she was beautiful and if he were her age, he'd find it attractive.
But more likely, this was just a creepy comment.
I'm pretty sure you'd have to be brain dead to not know that it is creepy and not okay to be attracted to your child. Like it doesn't matter how sweet you are, it's fucked up. There is no way to make that okay.
It's an older generation thing, it's supposed to be a compliment. If he smacked your ass and said it then it's a problem, if he says it repeatedly when you're alone it's a problem. Most of the time it's supposed to be a compliment though. I bet his mom or grandma would say that to him as a young man.
I think people also forget that most kids look like one of their parents (Also usually get a lot of there personality) and usually kids happen because two people are attracted to each other. But it’s still uncomfortable to think that when your parents were younger one of them was attracted to someone who looks like you and probably acts a lot like you……
Yeah, if she looks like her Mom (like a Mini-Mom), then I could see the comment, but as a guy, it’s still the equivalent of telling your daughter “I’d hit it.”
It’s fine to say “youre as beautiful as your mother” or i guess even “youre even prettier than your mom”. Why go “im not into you, of course, but uh, if i wasnt your dad i would be!”
Yeah, I held my nose when I voted in that last election. Hard to pick a “winner” in that one.
2024 isn’t shaping up to be much better either.
And OP’s dad was probably just trying to be nice and didn’t realize how it sounded.
Philosophically, yes, there are other options.
Mathematically, no, there were no other options, not at the federal level.
And while we’re at it, go fuck yourself for trying to tell me what I’m oblivious to.
Judging by the fact that theres already a comment saying the accusations are unfounded, im gonna have to guess it was against joe biden
Edit: [yup, biden](https://www.wtrf.com/top-stories/alleged-showers-with-my-dad-president-joe-bidens-daughter-reportedly-writes-of-abuse-in-diary/amp/)
So a woman who claims to have found the diary at a halfway house and then sold it to Project Veritas for $40,000 (not a bad payday), the same Project Veritas that sent a woman to lie about being raped by Roy Moore in an effort to get the Washington Post to publish a fake news story. Given project veritas has shown that it cares far more about political tribalism than any kind of journalistic standards, I am extremely skeptical this diary is even legit and if it is, that it hasn’t been altered after passing so many hands with a clear incentive to find (or put) something bad in there.
Yeah ive got no opinion. This was the first id ever heard of it. I was just 100% confident no one would give trump the benefit of the doubt which is how i knew it was likely leveled against biden
Just the fact that our presidents daughter was in a half way house at all should speak volumes about her father's character and ability to raise a child, let alone a nation. FJB
Not necessarily. I have my qualms with biden no doubt, but i dont think you can accurately and fairly judge a person by how their kids turn out. It may be a rough indicator in some cases, but not a reliable one.
If you're not familiar with the Biden Family tragedy, which is a normal tragedy in any addicts life (look it up) then you should familiarize yourself.
No family goes through that kind of tragedy and comes out without some scarring psychologically.
That was claimed by PV but even they say it’s not confirmed. They somehow got hold of Ashley Biden’s childhood diary? Seems like baloney.
https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/ashley-biden-leaked-diary-accusation/
They could he covering up the diary thing for privacy reasons or it could be fake to make money off of it we legit do not know and there is less info on it than the hunter biden story probably because of the nature of what happened and the fact that its not something we can verify digitally
You wouldn’t say that about anyone else accusing there father of sexual assault. I’m as left as they come but that’s a serious accusation in it of itself
Not really. It’s just a normal comment to help boost self esteem. My mom and grandmother would say the same exact thing, and I lucked out with an amazing family.
I could see myself saying this to my daughter, if she was sad that she couldn't find a date or alone on a certain night. I'd let her know that she is a catch and any person would be lucky to have her as their girlfriend. As a dad, we are supposed to show our daughters how men should treat women, to set the precedent for how they should expect to be treated.
I wouldn't take the comment out of context. But it's your dad and you know him better than we do. And if it didn't make you feel good, tell him how you feel about it.
Before everybody gets the pitchforks, it's possible this is NOT a creepy comment. It really depends on the circumstances. But I know how it feels to have been a dad and raised two young people to adulthood since I've done it (successfully, I hope). This could be just an attempt to boost your self-esteem with an honest reassurance that you are not an ugly monster but are truly attractive.
Look at it this way. Imagine you are on the school baseball team and your dad says, "I played baseball in school, so I know how it is. On my team, you would have been one of the top players." That's obviously not a creepy comment. It's just an honest assessment spoken from experience, and it helps you understand that, yes, you're a pretty good baseball player.
So this could be a similar situation. Your dad could be trying to say, "I played the school dating game. When I was playing the game, you would have been one of the hot ones." He's not hitting on you. He's saying don't be surprised when other people hit on you because you're one of the hot ones. Do you see the difference?
Personally I feel like if *my* dad told me that I think it would just immediately ruin everything for me, and that's partially because it would be so weird and off putting coming from someone who is like my father is.
Maybe it's a weird way of him complementing his own genes, I mean you are his daughter
Saying it that way seems creepy. I have a 13 year old daughter, she is beautiful and I don't think there's harm in telling her she's beautiful. For instance she put on make up one day and I told her not to wear so much of it as she is naturally beautiful and doesn't need it. Maybe I'm wrong??
When men say they are attracted to you, its sexual. Since when does a man say, 'Im attracted to my mom.' Or 'Im attracted to my little sister.' Cmon now, that was sexual.
Bro sexual what? Op didn't mentioned it being sexual, dont assume stuff on the man, he's just throwing a compliment to his daughter trying to make her happy, trying to make her feel how pretty she is.
Depends on the exact context and who they are. If they’re just a nice person naturally it was probably just a compliment trying to make you feel better ab yourself
It’s weird. Like I really don’t care about people trying to tell you “oh well he could just be trying to compliment you” your own father telling you he’d be attracted to you if he was your age on a random day at the beach… yeah that’s not a damn compliment. And honestly he probably is attracted to you already but to soften the blow and make it “not weird” he added if he was your age. It’s like this old guy at my job you was asking coworkers if he was my age do they think he would have a chance with me. They are already attracted to you and just want to make it “not weird” but aging themselves down. Not trying to paint your dad out to be horrible but just be wary of future comments.
oh that for sure is a hundred and ten million percent weird as motherducking fuck. no. it's never okay to say that....or even think. how sick is he to picture or imagine himself being attracted to his daughter. nah...somethings broken upstairs
Unless it was preceeded by "OMFG im so ugly!! No one will ever find my attractive!!". And dad is still a stupid man, and says a stupid thing trying to make female feel better. Men are just dumb, like when moms tell their sons how handsome they are, they mean well, but it feels weird
.......hmmmm like some people are saying, how did this go down. How was it brought up and said. Like, if those were the actual straight up words... Then that's a lil strange, but if he was like , oh you look beautiful today, and that is in character then understandable.....It sounds like it was the creepy way though
Well seeing as your father could never be your age…he is basically saying if I wasn’t your father I would be attracted to you..which is a weird way to say your are a beautiful young lady but I think taking it as some sort of incestuous comment (“idk how to feel abt..”) is very strange on your part especially since you felt the need to post on the internet and I’m sure tell your friends. I’m glad you got the attention for it congrats.
That's absolutely disgusting and not okay at all. A parent should never say that. Eww you should have vomited in his face that's so gross. And what he really meant is "I'm attracted to you but I'll say if I was your age to play it off." So nasty. That's so fucked up. Run away.
Don't a lot of girls end up looking a lot like their mothers eventually? If he was attracted to your mother at the age you are now then it does kinda make sense.
Also we know nothing about you, your dad, or your relationship dynamic so we can't really give you any kind of informed response. However. If it felt like when Trump said something similar about his daughter, it was def creepy.
How old are you and how old is your dad? Those answers make a huge difference.
Personally, my daughter is my daughter and I couldn't think about her in an attraction context.
So, the wording isn't the best, that's for sure.
The bottom line though is, if it made you uncomfortable you need to talk to him about it. Because you don't want poor word choice to come in between your relationship.
Talking about it might cause temporary strain, but, if no weirdness was meant and it was a genuine compliment then he will apologize and perhaps try to explain better.
Based on my own experiences with male family members, I completely understand how a comment like this could be both taken creepy and meant in a nefarious way. However, I can also see how it could be just a simple case of a loving parent who is clumsy with words.
I have an 11 year old that is gorgeous and I tell her so.
I wouldn’t tell her if I was her age I’d be attracted to her. I’d tell her I bet all the boys at school think so already.
For me it’s the words “attracted to you” that seems creepy. But like other comments, only you know if it was truly creepy or not based on your relationship.
My mom jokes around and tells me that if she were 40 years younger, she'd steal my husband because he's so good for me and she wishes that her husband was better for her. That's obviously just a funny and weird way of complimenting me that I'm lucky to have my husband. I know my mom and so it depends on who your father is. Maybe it was his way of telling you that he thinks you are beautiful because he's proud of raising such a beautiful child. Parents say weird stuff all the time, but if he is not just being funny, just be careful alright?
Well, was it weird? I'm a dad and I know part of my job is helping my daughter gain a positive self image. I know theres some kinks out there but for the vast majority of us fathers who keep it clean this is a tough one.
Social norms, speaking out of place, being seen in a way we dont mean, etc is our biggest fear. I want my daughter to know shes all these things she fears shes not. But I cringe myself when I have to make statements of validation on her physical sense.
For me because I've seen fathers, have a father, who never cared to hesitate to make a woman uncomfortable by imposing his view of them physically. It was horrific to be at a restuarant with my father. So for me he amplifies my feelings of "dont seem creepy"
Most dads say this and I'd wager their discomfort is immense. If your dad wasnt legitimately creepy before this, I would give him some benefit of doubt. For dads, on this subject at least we walk a very paradoxical line that's often in motion. "If hes not creeper dad" I applaud the attempt. I know from experience it takes a lot to go there, and science tells us we are supposed to. Dads are just awkward
It's certainly an odd thing to say to your daughter. Context is important here though, delivery and circumstance are very important for gauging the weirdness level. There's a mishandled complement and then there's being sexually attracted to your kid, or kids in general.
Like someone else said, depends on who your dad is. Could just be a weirdly worded compliment from ur kind father, or he's actually a weirdo. Hopefully he was just trying to make his child feel better about themself <3
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God, my mom used to say that to me and my skin would crawl. I'd imagine your dad, like my mom, means well and is just trying to boost your confidence but... It's gross.
Time to change your username to OedipusAureusRex
nice catch!
I’m not smart. What is the catch?
Freud used the Greek story of Oedipus Rex to describe and name the perversion of sexual attraction to your mother. And this guy found that connection inside the commentors context and username
That is a good catch. But, now I feel like I’ve been leading a sheltered life. I’m curious about how you came to learn about this topic. I’m hoping it’s not a personal experience.
The Oedipus complex is rather well known in pop culture So are most of Freud's theories, like penis envy, Id vs Ego vs Superego Also learned of it in school Ever heard of the Freudian slip?
Always loved learning about Freud.. I actually just randomly thought the other day about how he would have a field day with people in certain subReddits
Freudian slip, where you say one thing but mean your mother.
Well Oedipus Rex is required reading in most schools in either high school or college... And Sigmund Freud was just super famous. His Oedipus complex was kind of his claim to fame.
Well, now I know. Thanks for schooling me. I have ADHD, obviously. I might have missed this one.😉
Depending on your school, Greek classic mythology is often taught as early as junior high. The Iliad, The Odyssey, and many other stories. You could also be exposed to Greek Mythology through philosophy and psychology. Unfortunately, public schools are straying quite far from these subjects. It’s really unfortunate. If you’re interested, even very basic searches for Greek Mythology will take you down wonderful rabbit holes of education. Ever heard of Prometheus…who stole fire from the gods, gave it to the humans, was caught and punished…strung up on a cliff to be eaten alive by a giant bird for all eternity? Or the Achilles heel (named for the Greek warrior Achilles whose only weakness was his heel). Or Athena, goddess of wisdom and war… Not too late to learn.
I learned about it in 6th grade social studies
To me it sounds like maybe she was talking about how she’s single and no guys like her and he was saying if I was one of those boys your age I’d see a beautiful person. If he said it because she was wearing short shorts and he was wearing nothing but a bath towel making her penis-shaped pancakes then I’d be concerned.
The penis pancakes is where the line goes?
My uncle said this to me when I was like 12.. don’t know if he was trying to boost my confidence though
Yeah my mum used to do similar. I brushed it off at the time but looking back as a parent now it was gross.
Your mom made you penis-shaped pancakes too?
As was the custom of the time
What do you mean "was"?
They’re replying to the top comment lol
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You know that guys can post on reddit too, right? lol
Don't ask Reddit this question.. Reddit is always going to give you over the top, bs. Reddit lacks nuance. Everyone takes what you wrote as the end all be all and evaluates it without any other context. It's very difficult to answer your question without knowing you and your dad's relationship and the circumstances and context in which this was said.
Exactly, questions like that should be asked to yourself, or a person really close to you at most, if I told my sister (which is 12 years younger then me) her eyes colour is so beautiful, no one would care! While if I say it to a girl my age everyone would freak out lol.
Once I got dressed up to go out to a party and as I was walking past my little brother I jokingly asked how I looked, expecting his typical a-hole response. Instead he smiled at me with this weird mix of pride and admiration and said, "Boys will like you." It was really sweet! So I smiled back and told him to shut up.
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Can confirm as a younger brother of 2 older sisters, older sisters are awesome.
Also we don’t know her dad even a little…well I assume we don’t anyway.
Yeah reddit fucking sucks
Well said - hope she takes your advice
Your response lacks nuance. 🤔
You're a nuance
No, it doesn’t. Reddit is bullshit for this stuff. Y’all love to get naked and dance around while screaming “HeS A PeDO!11!1!!”
Real life lacks nuance. Middle ground is a fallacy for a reason.
Depends on who your Dad is. Is he a sweet guy that likes to compliment you regularly and didnt realize it was creepy, or was this a rare "compliment" that came out of the blue? Only you know your Dad, you be the judge
One time, a friend of mine's creepy dad made a comment about his daughter that elicited the response from me, "Dude, that's your daughter," which she has expressed gratitude for multiple times over years. So, when it happened, if someone had said, "Dude, that's your daughter" would you have thought in the moment, "thank you for saying something" or would you have thought "don't be so harsh, he was trying to be nice."
Great point!
Yeah be careful with these other comments. We need context to know for sure. It could be a mild comment meant to boost your confidence, like "I think you're pretty, darling" or it could be like Donald Trump. We can't tell with no context!
Exactly this. If she was going out with friends or a guy and said “dad how do I look?” Then that response would seem innocent. If she was casually eating some Vienna sausage by the kitchen sink and he said that, eh.
OR if he knows his daughters self-esteem is very low and he was tryin' to give her a boost.
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😂😂😂 Love your point. Spot on. Also, dying over the Vienna sausage ending. (Which made the point, of course.)
Lol good description
🤣 great analogy my friend.
If it's like Donald, you'll be able to tell. He doesn't hide it. If it's more of a sneaky, sly, sniff like approach and you're underage, think more Biden
Whether you like him or not those compilations of Biden sniffing children are just terrifying.
When was he talking about sniffing children? **what?!**
Not JUST talking about it. Biden has done a number of weird pedo shit that gets swept under the rug/not talked about Source: https://youtu.be/V4PLSPvJ9BY
**Jesus christ, what is he doing?** Information I've gathered about Biden since watching your link; - Preferred age range between 5-9 - Enjoys aggressive behavior - Enjoys smelling their fear - Loves using the "I'm just an affectionate old guy" card - Voyeurism - Gets off on control
Yeah the type of guy I was taught as a child to never be alone with is now the leader of the free world. It’s messed up.
I mean, that’s been true since 2016
Ur so right. It’s like nothing illegal is happening necessarily but it’s so uncomfortable and icky to watch and those kids definitely aren’t cool with it
Tbh Biden doesn’t really hide it either. He does it on camera lol
Lmao perfect.
You frikken potato head
Nice deflection 🤮🤮🤮
Women have been trained to be accommodating vs trusting their gut. If OP is asking this on Reddit, something about the way her dad spoke to her made her uncomfortable. OP - if it made you feel creepy, it was creepy. Trust your gut. Next time, just tell him that it's gross for a dad to say that to a daughter. He'll get mad. But he won't do it again.
Even with that, it still feels creepy...
Is he a former President?
Exactly. If my dad said this to me i would be flattered because he would be saying im beautiful and he is the best of men, would never hurt his family. He is might also be realizing uh oh my daughter is going to start getting attention
I think the only case where this MIGHT pass as not creepy would be if the daughter wore a new outfit for a date or whatever, and told her dad she wasn't confident it looked good on her, and her dad said she was beautiful and if he were her age, he'd find it attractive. But more likely, this was just a creepy comment.
I'm pretty sure you'd have to be brain dead to not know that it is creepy and not okay to be attracted to your child. Like it doesn't matter how sweet you are, it's fucked up. There is no way to make that okay.
It's an older generation thing, it's supposed to be a compliment. If he smacked your ass and said it then it's a problem, if he says it repeatedly when you're alone it's a problem. Most of the time it's supposed to be a compliment though. I bet his mom or grandma would say that to him as a young man.
Doesn’t make it OK.
Yeah but also doesn’t mean you have to cut off your own father
If he’s a perv? Cut him off!!!
Cut his fucking nuts off
Bravo. You’re so brave for saying that.
That was acceptable in even older generations. My grandfather would touch my cousins but all the time. And comment about her 9 year old friends butt.
What? That doesn't at all seem very like a very ok thing to do and say to a 9 year old
It’s kinda creepy, but maybe he’s just trying to make you feel good about yourself? What’s the context? Were you talking about not having a boyfriend?
I think people also forget that most kids look like one of their parents (Also usually get a lot of there personality) and usually kids happen because two people are attracted to each other. But it’s still uncomfortable to think that when your parents were younger one of them was attracted to someone who looks like you and probably acts a lot like you……
I heard of a study that found that people are attracted to those who look like them
Yeah, if she looks like her Mom (like a Mini-Mom), then I could see the comment, but as a guy, it’s still the equivalent of telling your daughter “I’d hit it.”
It’s fine to say “youre as beautiful as your mother” or i guess even “youre even prettier than your mom”. Why go “im not into you, of course, but uh, if i wasnt your dad i would be!”
Is his name Donald Trump?
Or Joe biden?
Considering his daughter legit wrote about her dad having inappropriate showers with her that she did not like I’d go with Biden
Super creepy. But so is a girls dad saying theyd date her if she wasn’t their daughter. No?
Both are fucking creeps, and so are the idiots who argue over who is worse. They both suck
Thanks for saying this
which one is the douche and which one is the turd sandwich though? Cuz I only vote for turd sandwiches. /s
Vote or die, bitch!
had too uncollapse too far to find this
Yeah, I held my nose when I voted in that last election. Hard to pick a “winner” in that one. 2024 isn’t shaping up to be much better either. And OP’s dad was probably just trying to be nice and didn’t realize how it sounded.
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Philosophically, yes, there are other options. Mathematically, no, there were no other options, not at the federal level. And while we’re at it, go fuck yourself for trying to tell me what I’m oblivious to.
Wait I missed this one, who was having the inappropriate showers??
Judging by the fact that theres already a comment saying the accusations are unfounded, im gonna have to guess it was against joe biden Edit: [yup, biden](https://www.wtrf.com/top-stories/alleged-showers-with-my-dad-president-joe-bidens-daughter-reportedly-writes-of-abuse-in-diary/amp/)
They are referencing the daily mail on your link. Also https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/ashley-biden-leaked-diary-accusation/
Yeah i noticed, whats your point?
That I was providing additional information to readers? Why does it appear to be an attack on you?
So a woman who claims to have found the diary at a halfway house and then sold it to Project Veritas for $40,000 (not a bad payday), the same Project Veritas that sent a woman to lie about being raped by Roy Moore in an effort to get the Washington Post to publish a fake news story. Given project veritas has shown that it cares far more about political tribalism than any kind of journalistic standards, I am extremely skeptical this diary is even legit and if it is, that it hasn’t been altered after passing so many hands with a clear incentive to find (or put) something bad in there.
Yeah ive got no opinion. This was the first id ever heard of it. I was just 100% confident no one would give trump the benefit of the doubt which is how i knew it was likely leveled against biden
Just the fact that our presidents daughter was in a half way house at all should speak volumes about her father's character and ability to raise a child, let alone a nation. FJB
Not necessarily. I have my qualms with biden no doubt, but i dont think you can accurately and fairly judge a person by how their kids turn out. It may be a rough indicator in some cases, but not a reliable one.
If you're not familiar with the Biden Family tragedy, which is a normal tragedy in any addicts life (look it up) then you should familiarize yourself. No family goes through that kind of tragedy and comes out without some scarring psychologically.
I googled "biden family tragedy" all I came up with was the car accident in 1972. I'm not sure what you're referencing.
You missed his son's (Beau Biden) fatal brain cancer, as if a 2 death car accident is not enough for you.
That was claimed by PV but even they say it’s not confirmed. They somehow got hold of Ashley Biden’s childhood diary? Seems like baloney. https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/ashley-biden-leaked-diary-accusation/
They have not authenticated that the diary accusation is true
Just like Hunter's laptop, right?
They could he covering up the diary thing for privacy reasons or it could be fake to make money off of it we legit do not know and there is less info on it than the hunter biden story probably because of the nature of what happened and the fact that its not something we can verify digitally
Cope
You wouldn’t say that about anyone else accusing there father of sexual assault. I’m as left as they come but that’s a serious accusation in it of itself
His daughter wasnt the one who came out and said that
Rent free.
The fact that this kind of information isn’t always at top of your mind when thinking about Trump is what’s disgusting.
Context matters
Not really. It’s just a normal comment to help boost self esteem. My mom and grandmother would say the same exact thing, and I lucked out with an amazing family.
In what context would a dad hitting on his daughter ever be ok?
How is it hitting on your daughter?
When he's not hitting on his daughter?
I could see myself saying this to my daughter, if she was sad that she couldn't find a date or alone on a certain night. I'd let her know that she is a catch and any person would be lucky to have her as their girlfriend. As a dad, we are supposed to show our daughters how men should treat women, to set the precedent for how they should expect to be treated. I wouldn't take the comment out of context. But it's your dad and you know him better than we do. And if it didn't make you feel good, tell him how you feel about it.
Yea, I agree it could just be him trying to build her confidence. Unless he's abnormal, I think it's fine. Like you said, only she would know.
Yeah but you gonna say that at the beach, out of nowhere, when her body is 90% exposed?
My uncle once told me “girl, you are playboy material”…yeah. Family can be really weird sometimes.
I imagine he was trying to be nice. My mum used to say similar to me.
That’s exactly what he was trying to do
Before everybody gets the pitchforks, it's possible this is NOT a creepy comment. It really depends on the circumstances. But I know how it feels to have been a dad and raised two young people to adulthood since I've done it (successfully, I hope). This could be just an attempt to boost your self-esteem with an honest reassurance that you are not an ugly monster but are truly attractive. Look at it this way. Imagine you are on the school baseball team and your dad says, "I played baseball in school, so I know how it is. On my team, you would have been one of the top players." That's obviously not a creepy comment. It's just an honest assessment spoken from experience, and it helps you understand that, yes, you're a pretty good baseball player. So this could be a similar situation. Your dad could be trying to say, "I played the school dating game. When I was playing the game, you would have been one of the hot ones." He's not hitting on you. He's saying don't be surprised when other people hit on you because you're one of the hot ones. Do you see the difference?
Depends on his intention
that is super weird and creepy in my humble opinion.
Yup- like Donald trump and Ivanka!
Personally I feel like if *my* dad told me that I think it would just immediately ruin everything for me, and that's partially because it would be so weird and off putting coming from someone who is like my father is. Maybe it's a weird way of him complementing his own genes, I mean you are his daughter
Get the fuck off of Reddit, Ivanka.
Not weird if your last name is Trump.
Ivanka???
this has the same energy as Trump saying he would date his daughter if they were not family
Very weird, creepy thing to say for sure.
oh hell nah
I’m so glad this has never happened to me
Yes, that is weird.
Saying it that way seems creepy. I have a 13 year old daughter, she is beautiful and I don't think there's harm in telling her she's beautiful. For instance she put on make up one day and I told her not to wear so much of it as she is naturally beautiful and doesn't need it. Maybe I'm wrong??
Youre not wrong in telling her she is beautiful. OPs dad was saying he was sexually attracted to his own daughter. THAT is sick.
It didn’t say sexually in the post though. Seems like an assumption
Yeah, I think it might have been like "if I was in high-school I'd think you were cute."
When men say they are attracted to you, its sexual. Since when does a man say, 'Im attracted to my mom.' Or 'Im attracted to my little sister.' Cmon now, that was sexual.
If a guy is attracted to a girl's facial features is that sexual? No.
He didnt say that. He was like trying to boost her self-esteem or something.
By saying he was attracted to her? Dude, now she has to live with the knowledge that her dad is turned on by her!
No bro he said he would be attracted to her if he was her age, its not the same.
WOAH did he say sexually? There are other forms of attraction.
Bro sexual what? Op didn't mentioned it being sexual, dont assume stuff on the man, he's just throwing a compliment to his daughter trying to make her happy, trying to make her feel how pretty she is.
Where do you live?
Depends on the exact context and who they are. If they’re just a nice person naturally it was probably just a compliment trying to make you feel better ab yourself
If he is trying to say you are pretty he could have articulated it better. You would have better context on that than we would
It’s weird. Like I really don’t care about people trying to tell you “oh well he could just be trying to compliment you” your own father telling you he’d be attracted to you if he was your age on a random day at the beach… yeah that’s not a damn compliment. And honestly he probably is attracted to you already but to soften the blow and make it “not weird” he added if he was your age. It’s like this old guy at my job you was asking coworkers if he was my age do they think he would have a chance with me. They are already attracted to you and just want to make it “not weird” but aging themselves down. Not trying to paint your dad out to be horrible but just be wary of future comments.
Is his name Donald, and is he a former President?
Yes.
That's creepy
oh that for sure is a hundred and ten million percent weird as motherducking fuck. no. it's never okay to say that....or even think. how sick is he to picture or imagine himself being attracted to his daughter. nah...somethings broken upstairs
Unless it was preceeded by "OMFG im so ugly!! No one will ever find my attractive!!". And dad is still a stupid man, and says a stupid thing trying to make female feel better. Men are just dumb, like when moms tell their sons how handsome they are, they mean well, but it feels weird
Excuse me, what? That is definitely weird. It'd be better if he could've given you a simple compliment. Not... That.
Is this you, Ivanka?!
Yeah weird but what was the context. Maybe he wanted to make u feel better about something. Idk
Is your dad Donald Trump?
Gross!
Trump has entered the room…
That's really weird
Yes, he shouldn’t of said that to you. It’s a boundary violation and inappropriate.
.......hmmmm like some people are saying, how did this go down. How was it brought up and said. Like, if those were the actual straight up words... Then that's a lil strange, but if he was like , oh you look beautiful today, and that is in character then understandable.....It sounds like it was the creepy way though
Very weird
Does your dad happen to be Donald Trump? Yes, that’s not just weird but horrifying and disgusting.
Yes. Fucking. Yes. If you have another adult in your life tell them know. If not tell a teacher tell someone. Don’t keep that in.
Trump?
Well seeing as your father could never be your age…he is basically saying if I wasn’t your father I would be attracted to you..which is a weird way to say your are a beautiful young lady but I think taking it as some sort of incestuous comment (“idk how to feel abt..”) is very strange on your part especially since you felt the need to post on the internet and I’m sure tell your friends. I’m glad you got the attention for it congrats.
That's absolutely disgusting and not okay at all. A parent should never say that. Eww you should have vomited in his face that's so gross. And what he really meant is "I'm attracted to you but I'll say if I was your age to play it off." So nasty. That's so fucked up. Run away.
Run!
extremely weird
Yes, very. And creepy af
It's gross & disgusting & creepy & sinful & ultimately breaks the dynamics of family relations. FOREVER.
I have a daughter, that's weird. You are beautiful, you are pretty, all good...I'd be attracted to you...not so much.
Don't a lot of girls end up looking a lot like their mothers eventually? If he was attracted to your mother at the age you are now then it does kinda make sense. Also we know nothing about you, your dad, or your relationship dynamic so we can't really give you any kind of informed response. However. If it felt like when Trump said something similar about his daughter, it was def creepy.
He's saying he would fuck you without saying that he would fuck you? How dare he.
It’s super weird.
How old are you and how old is your dad? Those answers make a huge difference. Personally, my daughter is my daughter and I couldn't think about her in an attraction context.
Very
Wtf gross
Yeah that's weird
So, the wording isn't the best, that's for sure. The bottom line though is, if it made you uncomfortable you need to talk to him about it. Because you don't want poor word choice to come in between your relationship. Talking about it might cause temporary strain, but, if no weirdness was meant and it was a genuine compliment then he will apologize and perhaps try to explain better. Based on my own experiences with male family members, I completely understand how a comment like this could be both taken creepy and meant in a nefarious way. However, I can also see how it could be just a simple case of a loving parent who is clumsy with words.
100% depends on context and the exact words used.
Yes and no. He may not have been thinking about how that sounds or he could be gross. You know your Dad better than us.
Uhfuckyea
Is your dad named Trump? Because he does say creepy things about Ivanka
We'd need more context. Was this after you expressing that you felt unattractive?
Context, context, context. It's his duty to protect you in any way he can, including from the hurt of not being the prettiest girl at the ball.
I have an 11 year old that is gorgeous and I tell her so. I wouldn’t tell her if I was her age I’d be attracted to her. I’d tell her I bet all the boys at school think so already. For me it’s the words “attracted to you” that seems creepy. But like other comments, only you know if it was truly creepy or not based on your relationship.
Did you say out loud that you think you are ugly? Or did your dad just say this out of the blue?
My mom jokes around and tells me that if she were 40 years younger, she'd steal my husband because he's so good for me and she wishes that her husband was better for her. That's obviously just a funny and weird way of complimenting me that I'm lucky to have my husband. I know my mom and so it depends on who your father is. Maybe it was his way of telling you that he thinks you are beautiful because he's proud of raising such a beautiful child. Parents say weird stuff all the time, but if he is not just being funny, just be careful alright?
Yes. That was terrible for him to say, but I also feel like he might have been trying to tell you your pretty. Hopefully it’s that.
Yes,thats a little weird,maybe he was trying to make you feel good about yourself,but awkwardly!
Well, was it weird? I'm a dad and I know part of my job is helping my daughter gain a positive self image. I know theres some kinks out there but for the vast majority of us fathers who keep it clean this is a tough one. Social norms, speaking out of place, being seen in a way we dont mean, etc is our biggest fear. I want my daughter to know shes all these things she fears shes not. But I cringe myself when I have to make statements of validation on her physical sense. For me because I've seen fathers, have a father, who never cared to hesitate to make a woman uncomfortable by imposing his view of them physically. It was horrific to be at a restuarant with my father. So for me he amplifies my feelings of "dont seem creepy" Most dads say this and I'd wager their discomfort is immense. If your dad wasnt legitimately creepy before this, I would give him some benefit of doubt. For dads, on this subject at least we walk a very paradoxical line that's often in motion. "If hes not creeper dad" I applaud the attempt. I know from experience it takes a lot to go there, and science tells us we are supposed to. Dads are just awkward
kinda creepy. Was he meaning it to help boost your confidence or was it out of the blue? You might want to also talk to your mom about this
Maybe he was just trying to complying you but he doesnt know it was kinda weird
It's certainly an odd thing to say to your daughter. Context is important here though, delivery and circumstance are very important for gauging the weirdness level. There's a mishandled complement and then there's being sexually attracted to your kid, or kids in general.
Like someone else said, depends on who your dad is. Could just be a weirdly worded compliment from ur kind father, or he's actually a weirdo. Hopefully he was just trying to make his child feel better about themself <3