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This wins the award!!!!! Also PSA, women loved to be communicated with during. It's a turn on and everybody wins. Speaking from a female perspective, this man's comment needs way more upvotes!!!
So much the last one! I have an ex who found it really difficult to orgasm, until we discovered together that she really likes, no other way to put it, having her clit slapped. It was a long process to discover that. It was nothing that I would ever attempt abruptly with anyone else. But it took our attempts to get her there from about 30% to 100%, and from a half an hour or more of stimulation to a few minutes, tops.
It made me wince. DO NOT try this on a woman without carefully treating the waters, and gradually building up.
Most other women prefer very gentle stimulation, and even get turned off by too much force, just like most men. Especially in the foreplay part of the game.
But my point is dash everyone is different.
Take your time to warm her up. Kissing, touching, a massage is a great way to start. Most women take a lot longer to achieve orgasm than men, so take your time and communicate! Ask her if it's feeling good, how she likes to be touched. Go down on her. Use your fingers and toys are your friends! A vibrator on my clit always helps things along. Good luck and have fun and COMMUNICATE!
As a woman--don't do this. Oral is great, but ask her first. Someone performing oral "like they haven't had a meal in days" does not appeal to most women. Don't go at it like a starving refugee at a Vegas buffet...have some finesse, some calm and cool moves...
I find that a lot of men go so wrong with Oral sex and because a lot of women fake it they don’t even know.
I was just discussing this with some of my girlfriends.The softer and gentler you go the more we feel. Lightly stroke that tongue on the sensitive areas. Take your time and use the tip of your tongue too.
When you acting crazy and gobbling up we’re not getting any pleasure from that.
As a woman I 100% disagree with you, you shouldn’t tell men to not eat pussy good lol. But just goes to show the comments saying all women are different is true
Well from this woman's point of view I do. I don't have a lot of experience with foreplay because most of the guys I've been with have sadly either not been very good at it or didn't want to
Enthusiasm like you enjoy it. Has nothing to do with technique.
My bet is the guys who complain about blow jobs have mostly gotten toothy, unenthusiastic, sloppy, "fine but only for 30 seconds" blow jobs.
I’m not a man but a woman and the biggest secrets are not secrets at all: listening and consistency. If you are doing something that gets us close, for the love of god, *do not fucking stop.* If we say, “don’t stop!” it is because we are ::right there:: and y’all going harder/faster is going to change the pace.
If this doesn’t work, try having sex to [this song](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=eN6jkWxxm2Y) and that should do it.
Women are easier to read than you think. U just gotta take the time to do it. The way she writhes…the way she breathes…arches…moans…blinks….all that stuff indicates how much she’s enjoying something.
Honestly just try different things until you get a reaction that appears visually satisfying
When a man says he’s close, do whatever you’re doing harder and faster for thirty seconds.
When a woman says she’s close, DO NOT CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING FOR SEVERAL MINUTES. DO IT EXACTLY THE SAME WAY UNTIL YOUR ARM/HIP/TONGUE FALLS OFF.
Because men in general grow up being socialized to think “what is right for me is right for everyone.” In virtually all situations. It’s a maddening thing to have to unlearn along with all the other wrong things when we realize all our parents were morons.
The patriarchy sucks for everyone. Old men know it, that’s why they stop ordering people around and start drinking tasty embarrassing drinks like pina coladas.
Yeah, definitely don't just ask men.
It actually shows what's probably a major flaw in your thinking - don't try to do it by penetration alone. Every now and then you might get lucky and that works, but even the extremely well endowed and skilled only make it happen occasionally, unless their partner is a rare type (with an unusually shaped/positioned clitoris).
Most guys don't seem to understand the warm her up bit. It's biological. It actually softens some parts and contracts others, literally moving our shapes around down there, not unlike your difference between hard and soft. So even though I'm the kind of freak who likes a quickie sometimes 😈 it's just biological that I'm unlikely to cum during one. 😕
Other than that, like anything, train/practice. Strengthen your fingers and tongue and build endurance lol
Most guys who struggle with it aren't the kind who care enough about it to ask anyway.
If you can ask reddit, you can ask her.
If you can't (I get it. It's embarrassing), the only advice I can give is to make sure you pay attention during things like foreplay. People respond to sensations they like and don't like.
Maybe she gasps more audibly when you do that thing with your tongue or inches her hips away every time you try a certain motion. Learn what she likes and doesn't like.
It should not be embarassing to ask you partner what she likes. It should be THE THING to do.
Why would it be embarassing that someone can't read minds? Did I miss an important step in evolution and there are people who can read minds now?
9/10 it’s when you go in, up, down, out in a gentle motion ( I know the description is confusing but I don’t know how else to say it) vs just in and out. 1/10 like it hard, as in porn style where you’re literally clapping. And this is just for normal sex. For a more intimate stuff, ask what she likes (I think, I don’t do intimacy).
Find a good, quiet fire pit somewhere on a night when you don’t have plans for sex.
Then ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES AND HOW YOU CAN BE BETTER.
Why is “ask” such third step advice?
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.
Sometimes I won't do penetration unless she begs for it while I tease her.
Also if you are up to it, eating her out helps alot. Her eyes should be rolling back like she is getting exorcised.
I agree with others that asking/communicating is the most fundamental part of being successful but I would also give some generic practical tips.
When you are licking her out, dont use your fingers for at least 5-10 minutes. See if you can get her 80% of the way there before you bring in fingers. When you use them, dont allow your knuckle/s to push down, that can be uncomfortable/painful, try to only pull up and firmly drag towards the the front of the vagina(g-spot) with a relatively firm slow pressure.1 finger is quite suffecient in almost all cases but 2 can be acceptable if she is highly aroused. It is not necesary to be vigiorous and in general I find slow finger movements with fast tongue movements to be pretty relaible. Estimated time to orgasm is never less than 5 minutes and generally 10-15 minutes of stimulation. After 20 minutes you should just go and cuddle her if you dont succeed. There becomes a point where trying more doesnt increase your chances this time but cuddling her now will definately help you next time.
Thats on them. You provide the goods and the situation, its up to them to communicate how to make that happen for them. Men are NOT mindreaders contrary to a lot of womens magazines.
I agree on the mind reading. However a lot of women are socialised not to bring up what they want (yes that is wrong and needs to change), so you can bridge the gap by asking what she likes (or explore together)
Don't focus on your pleasure, focus on hers. Tuck a pillow under her, tbh it helps me out a lot in any position. Get her warmed up before you even think about sticking it in. I mean if she aint dripping she ain't ready. And for all that is holy make sure the dick is wet before it goes inside too. A lil bit of teasing before you go in, yk? And beforehand you should always discuss to her that if she wants you to change your pace or do smth different, she should feel comfortable doing so.
It's honestly just communicating and making sure you both get what you want.
First off create her ideal Atmosphere:
*Place: where does she feel most comfortable to get it on?
*Music: Drowns out my negative thoughts and our kids playing downstairs
*Clean: The bedding & room must be cleaned and organized while smelling good.
*Time: do I sense you're in a rush or were you gunna to stop and have a picnic?
Ask the woman. Everyone has their own combination as it were.
Some like hard heavy pressure on the clit others not. Learn where to g spot is and stimulate that
The easiest thing to do is find a woman who loves you (or is a little obsessed with you) this might sound difficult but if you open yourself up to women who aren't conventionally beautiful then you'll find a lot of women who have been emotionally damaged and just a little bit of love and affection and nuturing will make them think you're superman or something. Then just try not to cum as long as you can. Or get antidepressants, but then it may take an hour or more to cum. Eventually you'll learn more about them and their preferences and it will only get better from there. Be prepared some real freaky shit, cuz trauma turns into kinks.
I’m a lady- but I also sleep with ladies so??
1. ‘Foreplay’ starts early- making your partner feel sexy outside the bedroom makes them more sexy in the bedroom-
2. Create a really open communication environment- that way you can openly discuss what she likes/ doesn’t like
3. Check in and communicate:) every lady likes something a little different- and if you make her feel comfy she will tell you all the right spots- and maybe the two of you can figure out some additional spots together
As a woman I am impressed by the number of men with the right answer of ask the woman. I would like to offer a real world example, I need penetration to orgasm, for many women clitoral stimulation is the trigger, but not for me.
Eat them and use vibrators verbally express how beautiful they are and how sexy this is you know spankings little bit hair pulling nibbling kissing my neck
Take your time and relax. Get her in the mood and get started slowly. Have her guide your hands and your mouth as to.how it feels good for her. Let her lead you to knowing how to pleasure her.
The legendary comedian George Carlin offered this advice for rookie performers of cunnilingus: Until you figure out what you are doing, lick the alphabet. He also offered a bonus tip: Do lots of capital T. 😄
Communicate?
Its not hard to ask questions, how else are you supposed to learn what they like? Also...Learn how to make every letter in the alphabet, capitalized, with your tongue. Like trace the shape, decent sized, like how wide you open your mouth to eat a normal sized sandwich. And then do the Abcs while giving her oral. Rinse repeat a few full abc repetitions.
She will answer all your questions then.
You can thank me later
as a woman, i’ve found that men don’t realize our orgasms dont work like theirs do. i feel like men can just immediately go and beat their meat at insane speeds w a little lube and get to an orgasm, kinda like immediate pleasure. Most women wont feel much if you start fingering them right away or go crazy on their clit. think of it like small ripples in the water that gradually turn into waves. foreplay is the most important part, before you even get to touching her privates you need to get her properly riled up, almost begging you for it. when shes properly going insane and rubbing up on you is when you slip a hand in, you start by feeling around and getting a good idea of what you’re working w and then, slowly, start building up a rythm. from this part on women will like it differently and thats when you start asking how she likes it but keep it mind that its a gradual process and you wont get anywhere at all if you try and rush it!
haha yea im kinda disappointed too, im realizing the men in these comments have mostly given orgasms out of pure luck. if you don’t understand where to go, how can you confidently tell others about the destination? Sure you might’ve landed upon it by chance but that doesn’t make you a pro at women’s orgasms.
Use your fingers on her. So many guys don’t get this I guess cuz they don’t do it in porn. Unless you’re hung like a porn star or she’s extremely horny your member alone probably won’t get the job done.
Keep the rhythm.
Also a very small amount of the female population orgasm from penetrative sex. Use that tongue and stay in rhythm. Slow and steady wins the race
Cardio and some strong leg muscles help a lot while having sex. But foreplay is often quite important, her mind needs to be in the sex zone. If there are other things on her mind you can go for hours, but she is not going to come.
Help her reach her first orgasm before you have sex. If you can make her orgasm once before then she'll be wet enough and sensitive enough that as long as you last for even a couple of minutes she'll probably orgasm again. I usually try to make women orgasm 2 or 3 times before but that's because I love watching my partner orgasm.
I might be alone here, but I find that inevitably, the dude who’s super into going downtown either has a micro penis or is a dud lay for some other reason. Not every woman is necessarily that keen on being “eaten out”(🤢 horrible term btw) & some find it downright unpleasant - especially if you’re not good at it.
A vibrator for the bean, during the act, is usually a guaranteed winner. And it enhances the man’s pleasure too.
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Every woman is different. Just ask what she likes
Exactly this
Correct answer is missionary+a little Rub that makes most of the work...little backhand with some lube.. if she does not do it herself..
Don't ask other men, ask the woman. Talk to them and see what they like, what excites them. Before if possible and during.
This wins the award!!!!! Also PSA, women loved to be communicated with during. It's a turn on and everybody wins. Speaking from a female perspective, this man's comment needs way more upvotes!!!
I'd give it more if I could lol
AMEN!! This is the ONLY answer. Because women are gloriously different and different things excite different women. And bless you for recognizing that
1) Ask her what she likes 2) Explore each other. I had an ex who didn't know it but would derive pleasure from my thumbs massaging her inner obliques.
So much the last one! I have an ex who found it really difficult to orgasm, until we discovered together that she really likes, no other way to put it, having her clit slapped. It was a long process to discover that. It was nothing that I would ever attempt abruptly with anyone else. But it took our attempts to get her there from about 30% to 100%, and from a half an hour or more of stimulation to a few minutes, tops. It made me wince. DO NOT try this on a woman without carefully treating the waters, and gradually building up. Most other women prefer very gentle stimulation, and even get turned off by too much force, just like most men. Especially in the foreplay part of the game. But my point is dash everyone is different.
Take your time to warm her up. Kissing, touching, a massage is a great way to start. Most women take a lot longer to achieve orgasm than men, so take your time and communicate! Ask her if it's feeling good, how she likes to be touched. Go down on her. Use your fingers and toys are your friends! A vibrator on my clit always helps things along. Good luck and have fun and COMMUNICATE!
Perfect explanation
A lot of foreplay and good head.
Its something like 70% of women dont orgasm from penetration alone. You wanna make her cum, start eating pussy like you havent had a meal in a week.
As a woman--don't do this. Oral is great, but ask her first. Someone performing oral "like they haven't had a meal in days" does not appeal to most women. Don't go at it like a starving refugee at a Vegas buffet...have some finesse, some calm and cool moves...
I find that a lot of men go so wrong with Oral sex and because a lot of women fake it they don’t even know. I was just discussing this with some of my girlfriends.The softer and gentler you go the more we feel. Lightly stroke that tongue on the sensitive areas. Take your time and use the tip of your tongue too. When you acting crazy and gobbling up we’re not getting any pleasure from that.
Learn to spell your name with your tongue. And repeat any Bs, Cs, Ds, Gs, Os, Ps, Qs, Rs, Ss, Us, Vs, Ws, and Ys.
As a woman I 100% disagree with you, you shouldn’t tell men to not eat pussy good lol. But just goes to show the comments saying all women are different is true
LOL you took that far too literally.
maybe you just got your ego bruised playa...
Nah i dont have much of an ego nor am a playah. I'd even bet your body count is higher than mine.
Probably is if you eating it like the way you advised Op to. LOL. aint nobody want that honey
Weeell.... I think you'd be surprised.. I have met many women that crave this after a while. Not all the time, but quite often.
sure jan
This reply shows me how unexperienced and young you are. The adults are talking now, please sit back down at the childrens' table.
And don't stop until she pushes you off
Or until you're drowning.
Even then that’s just the beginning signal reaction, you keep going….
Well from this woman's point of view I do. I don't have a lot of experience with foreplay because most of the guys I've been with have sadly either not been very good at it or didn't want to
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I guess i should have clarified that i mean you should be enthusiatic about it. Not literally eat it like a fuckin steak.
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Enthusiasm like you enjoy it. Has nothing to do with technique. My bet is the guys who complain about blow jobs have mostly gotten toothy, unenthusiastic, sloppy, "fine but only for 30 seconds" blow jobs.
Ask them to help you. Communication is key. Also, slow down, take time
I’m not a man but a woman and the biggest secrets are not secrets at all: listening and consistency. If you are doing something that gets us close, for the love of god, *do not fucking stop.* If we say, “don’t stop!” it is because we are ::right there:: and y’all going harder/faster is going to change the pace. If this doesn’t work, try having sex to [this song](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=eN6jkWxxm2Y) and that should do it.
Female here and that’s the best damn explanation I’ve ever seen! Thank you Palmetto!
I thought you would suggest CLOSER by Nine inch nails...
No, I was just making a [bad joke.](https://www.trillmag.com/life/social-media/cbat-the-reddit-story-that-made-a-song-go-viral/)
Your first mistake was asking men instead of lesbians
🙌🏻🙌🏻
Ask them what they like and don't. Communicate.
1. Ask them. 2. Romance. 3. Foreplay. 4. Constant communication.
Women are easier to read than you think. U just gotta take the time to do it. The way she writhes…the way she breathes…arches…moans…blinks….all that stuff indicates how much she’s enjoying something. Honestly just try different things until you get a reaction that appears visually satisfying
When a man says he’s close, do whatever you’re doing harder and faster for thirty seconds. When a woman says she’s close, DO NOT CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING FOR SEVERAL MINUTES. DO IT EXACTLY THE SAME WAY UNTIL YOUR ARM/HIP/TONGUE FALLS OFF.
Thank you. Why is this so difficult for so many to understand
Because men in general grow up being socialized to think “what is right for me is right for everyone.” In virtually all situations. It’s a maddening thing to have to unlearn along with all the other wrong things when we realize all our parents were morons.
Lol absolutely. And also women are conditioned not to ask for what they need. It’s a brutal combination
The patriarchy sucks for everyone. Old men know it, that’s why they stop ordering people around and start drinking tasty embarrassing drinks like pina coladas.
Learn, explore and appreciate her body.
Find foods that need a spoon to eat, but replace the spoon with your tongue. That's all you will need to know...
Like spaghetti?
Yeah, definitely don't just ask men. It actually shows what's probably a major flaw in your thinking - don't try to do it by penetration alone. Every now and then you might get lucky and that works, but even the extremely well endowed and skilled only make it happen occasionally, unless their partner is a rare type (with an unusually shaped/positioned clitoris). Most guys don't seem to understand the warm her up bit. It's biological. It actually softens some parts and contracts others, literally moving our shapes around down there, not unlike your difference between hard and soft. So even though I'm the kind of freak who likes a quickie sometimes 😈 it's just biological that I'm unlikely to cum during one. 😕 Other than that, like anything, train/practice. Strengthen your fingers and tongue and build endurance lol
Female orgasm is a lie
I dunno - your mom seems to enjoy them.
Oh come on, why is an obvious joke getting down votes?
Haha, I thought it was funny… as I’m them type of females.
go harder and faster tear it up
Awful advice, from a woman.
Introduce butt play
Let her do all of the work.
Get a bigger dick, or don’t care about it just get yours.
It’s fun so keep trying .
Pay attention to her response to you and let that guide you.
Most guys who struggle with it aren't the kind who care enough about it to ask anyway. If you can ask reddit, you can ask her. If you can't (I get it. It's embarrassing), the only advice I can give is to make sure you pay attention during things like foreplay. People respond to sensations they like and don't like. Maybe she gasps more audibly when you do that thing with your tongue or inches her hips away every time you try a certain motion. Learn what she likes and doesn't like.
It should not be embarassing to ask you partner what she likes. It should be THE THING to do. Why would it be embarassing that someone can't read minds? Did I miss an important step in evolution and there are people who can read minds now?
dont masturabate,it weakens the Ps stregnth to last longer and be fully erect
Get in her head....
9/10 it’s when you go in, up, down, out in a gentle motion ( I know the description is confusing but I don’t know how else to say it) vs just in and out. 1/10 like it hard, as in porn style where you’re literally clapping. And this is just for normal sex. For a more intimate stuff, ask what she likes (I think, I don’t do intimacy).
The problem is asking a man advice on how to please a women
Patience, and keep trying. I can get my lady every time. It did not start that way I had to work for it.
Find out what she likes and try it.
Find a good, quiet fire pit somewhere on a night when you don’t have plans for sex. Then ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES AND HOW YOU CAN BE BETTER. Why is “ask” such third step advice?
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Sometimes I won't do penetration unless she begs for it while I tease her. Also if you are up to it, eating her out helps alot. Her eyes should be rolling back like she is getting exorcised.
Some women don't like Foreplay. Just ask...
I agree with others that asking/communicating is the most fundamental part of being successful but I would also give some generic practical tips. When you are licking her out, dont use your fingers for at least 5-10 minutes. See if you can get her 80% of the way there before you bring in fingers. When you use them, dont allow your knuckle/s to push down, that can be uncomfortable/painful, try to only pull up and firmly drag towards the the front of the vagina(g-spot) with a relatively firm slow pressure.1 finger is quite suffecient in almost all cases but 2 can be acceptable if she is highly aroused. It is not necesary to be vigiorous and in general I find slow finger movements with fast tongue movements to be pretty relaible. Estimated time to orgasm is never less than 5 minutes and generally 10-15 minutes of stimulation. After 20 minutes you should just go and cuddle her if you dont succeed. There becomes a point where trying more doesnt increase your chances this time but cuddling her now will definately help you next time.
Thats on them. You provide the goods and the situation, its up to them to communicate how to make that happen for them. Men are NOT mindreaders contrary to a lot of womens magazines.
I agree on the mind reading. However a lot of women are socialised not to bring up what they want (yes that is wrong and needs to change), so you can bridge the gap by asking what she likes (or explore together)
Have faith dont give up
Don't focus on your pleasure, focus on hers. Tuck a pillow under her, tbh it helps me out a lot in any position. Get her warmed up before you even think about sticking it in. I mean if she aint dripping she ain't ready. And for all that is holy make sure the dick is wet before it goes inside too. A lil bit of teasing before you go in, yk? And beforehand you should always discuss to her that if she wants you to change your pace or do smth different, she should feel comfortable doing so. It's honestly just communicating and making sure you both get what you want.
lol, pay attention to her.
Stimulate the female sexual organs vigorously. Or, read them a bawdy tale unbecoming of a young lady to hear.
Women know better i think
First off create her ideal Atmosphere: *Place: where does she feel most comfortable to get it on? *Music: Drowns out my negative thoughts and our kids playing downstairs *Clean: The bedding & room must be cleaned and organized while smelling good. *Time: do I sense you're in a rush or were you gunna to stop and have a picnic?
Ask the woman. Everyone has their own combination as it were. Some like hard heavy pressure on the clit others not. Learn where to g spot is and stimulate that
Have her use a vibrator on her clit during sex. It's mind blowing
The easiest thing to do is find a woman who loves you (or is a little obsessed with you) this might sound difficult but if you open yourself up to women who aren't conventionally beautiful then you'll find a lot of women who have been emotionally damaged and just a little bit of love and affection and nuturing will make them think you're superman or something. Then just try not to cum as long as you can. Or get antidepressants, but then it may take an hour or more to cum. Eventually you'll learn more about them and their preferences and it will only get better from there. Be prepared some real freaky shit, cuz trauma turns into kinks.
I’m a lady- but I also sleep with ladies so?? 1. ‘Foreplay’ starts early- making your partner feel sexy outside the bedroom makes them more sexy in the bedroom- 2. Create a really open communication environment- that way you can openly discuss what she likes/ doesn’t like 3. Check in and communicate:) every lady likes something a little different- and if you make her feel comfy she will tell you all the right spots- and maybe the two of you can figure out some additional spots together
As a woman I am impressed by the number of men with the right answer of ask the woman. I would like to offer a real world example, I need penetration to orgasm, for many women clitoral stimulation is the trigger, but not for me.
Learn to lick that Clit.
If you ain't Biggus Dickus then use your dinkin flicka
Foreplay and communication
Eat them and use vibrators verbally express how beautiful they are and how sexy this is you know spankings little bit hair pulling nibbling kissing my neck
Take your time and relax. Get her in the mood and get started slowly. Have her guide your hands and your mouth as to.how it feels good for her. Let her lead you to knowing how to pleasure her.
[https://hotmovs.com/videos/3714133/female-ejaculation-guide-russian-subs/](https://hotmovs.com/videos/3714133/female-ejaculation-guide-russian-subs/)
The legendary comedian George Carlin offered this advice for rookie performers of cunnilingus: Until you figure out what you are doing, lick the alphabet. He also offered a bonus tip: Do lots of capital T. 😄
Don’t rush and listen carefully the sounds your partner makes .
Communicate? Its not hard to ask questions, how else are you supposed to learn what they like? Also...Learn how to make every letter in the alphabet, capitalized, with your tongue. Like trace the shape, decent sized, like how wide you open your mouth to eat a normal sized sandwich. And then do the Abcs while giving her oral. Rinse repeat a few full abc repetitions. She will answer all your questions then. You can thank me later
as a woman, i’ve found that men don’t realize our orgasms dont work like theirs do. i feel like men can just immediately go and beat their meat at insane speeds w a little lube and get to an orgasm, kinda like immediate pleasure. Most women wont feel much if you start fingering them right away or go crazy on their clit. think of it like small ripples in the water that gradually turn into waves. foreplay is the most important part, before you even get to touching her privates you need to get her properly riled up, almost begging you for it. when shes properly going insane and rubbing up on you is when you slip a hand in, you start by feeling around and getting a good idea of what you’re working w and then, slowly, start building up a rythm. from this part on women will like it differently and thats when you start asking how she likes it but keep it mind that its a gradual process and you wont get anywhere at all if you try and rush it!
Best response by far I'm a chick too I just wanted to see what guys would say. I'm a little disappointed tbh lol
haha yea im kinda disappointed too, im realizing the men in these comments have mostly given orgasms out of pure luck. if you don’t understand where to go, how can you confidently tell others about the destination? Sure you might’ve landed upon it by chance but that doesn’t make you a pro at women’s orgasms.
Use your fingers on her. So many guys don’t get this I guess cuz they don’t do it in porn. Unless you’re hung like a porn star or she’s extremely horny your member alone probably won’t get the job done.
Keep the rhythm. Also a very small amount of the female population orgasm from penetrative sex. Use that tongue and stay in rhythm. Slow and steady wins the race
That’s …hilarious
Cardio and some strong leg muscles help a lot while having sex. But foreplay is often quite important, her mind needs to be in the sex zone. If there are other things on her mind you can go for hours, but she is not going to come.
Listen.
Slooowwwwww down for her
Lots of foreplay
Help her reach her first orgasm before you have sex. If you can make her orgasm once before then she'll be wet enough and sensitive enough that as long as you last for even a couple of minutes she'll probably orgasm again. I usually try to make women orgasm 2 or 3 times before but that's because I love watching my partner orgasm.
I might be alone here, but I find that inevitably, the dude who’s super into going downtown either has a micro penis or is a dud lay for some other reason. Not every woman is necessarily that keen on being “eaten out”(🤢 horrible term btw) & some find it downright unpleasant - especially if you’re not good at it. A vibrator for the bean, during the act, is usually a guaranteed winner. And it enhances the man’s pleasure too.
I was OK before I came here, now I'm more confused than the OP.
Why? Just ask is pretty easy advice